Signs of attention from a woman. Secret signs of attention and flirting in men. What is male attention for?

Many guys make the mistake of giving a girl an expensive gift as a sign of attention. Or take her to a restaurant. Or something else.

All these mistakes put them in the shoes of a potential sponsor. In addition, in the absence of interest from the girl, the guys get negative reaction for rapprochement. Contradiction enters into force “He wants to buy me, so I won't give myself to him,” or, even worse, the desire to take advantage of his “gifts” and hide out of sight.

Therefore, any sign of your attention towards the girl should not require large investments. There should be a minimum or none at all.

In addition, there is a difference between the attention mark that makes the girl sexyand the one who makes you just a friend to her.

Rosette from napkin

Second or third date, you sit next to each other. You are sure that she likes you. Make a rose out of a napkin and give it to her.

This is perhaps one of the simplest and easiest that you can do. Flowers like girls. And let your rose be made of paper, she will definitely appreciate it.

Although here positive result you can only wait if she liked you a little up to now. Or, at least, she was not disgusted with her.

What exactly to write depends on the "depth" of your relationship. However, even a simple classmate or colleague can do what she expects from you. This will allow you to show her your intention, and you will see how she really treats you.

Flirting and "casual" touches

Most strong sign attention to the girl that you can do is flirting. The fact is that girls “on the machine” are used to sorting guys into 2 categories: lovers and friends.

Guys, who often become friends for girls, do not know how to show their intention. Or they do it so insecurely that the girl begins to doubt his intentions and refuses (although she may not mind an intimate continuation, her social restrictions will not allow her to get close to a guy of whose intentions she is not completely sure).

Therefore, it is imperative to be able to show intent.

And the easiest way to do this is through flirting and casual touches.

Translated from French flirting - love gamewhich is a mixture of jokes, meaningful glances and light teasing.

Touching is also part of flirting. By touching it "accidentally" or on purpose, you show your intention. You may be surprised, but if you start touching a girl, she will look at you in a completely different way. Her thoughts will always work in the right mood.

Competent compliments

Down with trivialities! No compliments for beautiful eyes, hair, etc. Only what she put her strength into. After all, if you praise what she tried for, then you will immediately become the most observant man on earth.

Postcard

Yes, you heard right - I mean the most banal postcard. When was the last time you saw a guy give a girl a postcard? And I'm talking about the same thing.

Moreover, there is no need to wait for her birthday or other holiday - the postcard will be produced when you present it for no reason.

Of course, you must write your words there and do it in an unusual and most importantly emotional format. Example: " A girl whose jokes have been pleasing me for 2 whole months».

And most importantly - try to give it to her exactly when no one is around. If the sign of attention you show puts her in an awkward position in front of mutual acquaintances, you will never achieve anything.

Remember the privacy rule and you will succeed!

As you can see, there is nothing difficult in showing the girl signs of attention. Remember the main thing: any attention you pay to a girl should be as confident as possible. She will be very careful about your behavior when you speak to her. Seeing a slight shade of uncertainty in your actions, she can easily kick you off. But if you act very confidently, you can seduce her in just a couple of days.

Psychologists say that during the manifestation of sympathy, men use certain signs, by which one can assume the sincerity of their intentions.

What signs can a man's sympathy be expressed

Verbal:

• Show curiosity about a woman's personality;
• A man's stories about his personality: tastes, interests, hobbies, etc .;
• Meeting friends and relatives;
• Praise and compliments;
• Providing services or assistance;
• Surprises, gifts;
• Verbal recognition of sympathy.

Not verbal signs:

Facial expressions

The facial expressions of a sympathetic man are more "lively" and expressive than usual. This is due to the desire to stand out and attract attention. Such a man listens to every word and displays on his face the emotions that accompany him during the story (this is how he shows his respect, understanding and attention).

Gestures and postures

A sympathetic man uses certain gestures and postures in order to demonstrate his masculinity, courtesy, care and attention. Thus, he shows an effort to please the object of adoration and win the reciprocity of feelings.

A man, being in the company of a woman he likes, uses the following gestures and postures:

• Tugs at the collar, straightens clothes, sometimes shakes them off - wants to please, attract attention, is embarrassed;
• The toes of the feet are directed towards her - a manifestation of interest
  
• Straightened shoulders, hands on hips and support on both legs demonstrate self-confidence;
• Touching the hair - trying to attract her attention;
• Mortgaging thumbs for the belt - the desire to show self-confidence;
• Tilting towards a woman when communicating, intruding into a personal comfort zone or closing a distance - an interest in communication and a desire to be closer to her;
• Raises the chin, tilting the head slightly - instills a sense of authority;
• Unconscious copying of gestures and postures is a manifestation of empathy;
• Open posture: arms and legs are not crossed - an expression of acceptance and trust;
• The legs are slightly wider than usual - a subconscious demonstration of manhood.

Behavior

Being in the presence of a woman he likes, a man tries to attract her attention and get reciprocity:

Sight

By the look, you can determine the attitude and interest of a man:

Smile

A man who takes pleasure in seeing a woman he likes often smiles.

To understand the sincerity of his smile, you need to pay attention to facial expressions:

• Wrinkles around the eyes;
• Crow's feet on the sides of the eyes;
• Raised cheekbones and corners of the lips.

An important fact is that true facial expressions are read in the first fractions of a second. If during a smile mimic signs near the eyes do not appear, then, most likely, it is used as a mask.

This does not mean that the man wants to cheat, but indicates the manifestation of pleasure due to the presence of the object of adoration. Lifting one corner of the lips is considered sarcasm., and this fact is worth paying attention to.

Deeds

Conversations

A sign of male sympathy is frequent talk about a woman - a man wants to know everything about her personality. He talks about what puts him in the best lighttrying to evoke reciprocal frankness or other desired feelings.

And also asks personal questions:

Appearance

The man begins to scrupulously monitor his appearance:

All this helps to raise self-esteem, and as a result:

Communication Initiative

A man's sympathy can be determined by the manifestation of communication initiative.

He is interested:

• First of all, is the woman free;
• Everything about her personality;
• Her habits;
• Flavors;
• Preferences.

A man shows such behavior to determine points of contact, compare views and habits, as well as for the right choice gifts and surprises.

An abundance of jokes

Signs of a man's sympathy also lie in frequent jokes. This helps him to attract attention and gain mutual sympathy.

In jokes, you can show eloquence and erudition, get a reputation positive person, with which it becomes a desirable and pleasant pastime. Funny and witty jokes help to remember the past meeting with pleasure and smile and wait for the next date, because it is pleasant and fun to be with him.

FROM psychological point view, a joke can successfully fill awkward pause, and laughter relieves tension.

Caring and attentiveness

Men know that being considerate and caring are the qualities that women value first. By these signs, a woman will judge him as a future husband and father.

He sincerely worries about the health and well-being of a woman, therefore he seeks:

One of the signs of a man's sympathy is the importance of the opinion of the chosen one. Asking for advice from a woman, a man emphasizes her importance. At the same time, a woman feels like a useful and intelligent person.

She is pleased to experience such feelings, which increases the chances of mutual sympathy. Perhaps, in fact, the man does not think about this fact, but on subconscious level it works just like that, and he understands causation.

Often makes gifts and surprises

Giving a gift or a surprise to a woman you like is even more enjoyable than receiving a gift yourself. This is not necessarily something expensive, the main thing is to make it pleasant.

Psychologists say that when a person is happy, it is pleasant to be next to him, he, like a magnet, attracts people to him. Will a man present gifts to a woman to whom he is indifferent? Perhaps, but it will mean that he expects something in return. IN this case it is necessary to pay attention to the nature of the gift.

When a man sincerely tries to guess the woman's desire in his gift, to add something personal to it, then this fact indicates sympathy. If this is a cup, but there is an inscription on it concerning the personality of a woman, then this is no longer a trivial gift bought at hastily, but an individual token of attention. Choosing him, the man put his feelings in and thought about her.

Initiates acquaintance with friends and family

Acquaintance of a woman with close people and relatives speaks of the seriousness of intentions, and light flirting always more superficial. At the beginning of a relationship, a man looks closely, looks for points of contact, studies the personality of the chosen one, her interests, tastes and preferences.

And only at the next stage, when a man is confident in his feelings, he introduces her into the circle of his family and friends. If a young man for a long time does not seek to introduce his chosen one into the circle of people who are meaningful to him, then we are talking about unpreparedness for a long-term relationship.

Expression of sexual interest

Expression of love

To express his love for a woman, a man does what she likes, namely:

With such actions, a man tries to win a reciprocal feeling, not to lose a relationship.

Than more man falls in love, the more he expresses his feelings. At the same time, without devoting everything to her free time, and meeting sometimes, a man is unlikely to experience true love, although he bears material costs.

And vice versa, devoting all his free time to her, he does not spend money on her - most likely this is not falling in love, but satisfying his own whims.

If a guy is young, shy and inexperienced or disappointed in a relationship in the past, then he can hide his feelings, be a timid and indecisive person. Such men furtively look at a woman, and, once noticed, they look away.

Experts say that during the period of falling in love, only good qualities... The minimum pluses are exaggerated and exalted, and the minuses are either not noticed, or analyzed and interpreted in favor of the object of adoration.

Sympathy from a colleague

A colleague is a person whom a woman sees almost daily. Knows his manners, habits, style, and so on.

For this reason, you should notice a change in the little things:

Sympathy from a family friend

A family friend can hardly be called a stranger. He knows personal characteristics, tastes, preferences, he can freely go home and call at any time.

He is not alien to the worries and problems of a woman - a friend. He already has many privileges that a stranger has to conquer. And yet there are signs by which one can determine that this man is trying to move from the category of "friend" to a closer relationship.

A family friend shows sympathy in the following ways:

• Increased spending time together;
• Increased eye contact, efforts to keep her constantly in sight;
• An interested look with delays on the chest, hips;
• Attempts to touch and interest in reactions to them;
• Search for privacy opportunities.

The sympathy of a married man

The difference between showing sympathy married man consists in the need to hide your feelings from prying eyes.

It is possible that he does not plan to move to a more personal relationship due to his decency.

However, there are signs that are difficult or impossible to hide:

• First of all, a man is always looking for a woman he likes with his eyes and looks at her with an appraising look;
• Signs of attention;
• Unobtrusive periodic intrusion into the zone of personal comfort;
• Show interest in a conversation, touching on topics related to a person;
• She does not accept criticism against her, she intercedes and justifies this woman.

The sympathy of an aged man

A distinctive feature of a man of respectful age is the difference in priorities. He, like a young man, will show signs of attention, admire a woman's appearance, but take more care of her physical and emotional health.
He will also try to give what he lacks himself, hoping for mutual return.

Such a man shows sympathy in the following way:

Sympathy for the signs of the zodiac

findings

Relying on verbal signs of male sympathy, it is difficult to assert with certainty about the seriousness of intentions. Eloquent phrases and beautiful courtship can easily mislead a woman.

Particular attention should be paid to non-verbal manifestations and a sincere willingness to provide help and support in a difficult situation. It is also necessary to take into account the importance of the importance of one's own behavior, take responsibility for the mistakes made and learn from the situations that have arisen.

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5 main signs that you really like:

How a man in love behaves:

Incipient sympathy is not always noticeable. Sometimes a woman may not even be aware of a man's feelings. However, if you closely observe the man, you can notice secret signs of flirting, which are of a subconscious nature, and the woman most often simply does not notice them.

Eye contact.

Being in big company the man will try to establish eye contact with a woman he likes much more often than with other people. At what he will try to look exactly in the eyes. Most often, after establishing contact, a man does not look away, as women do.

To attract attention.

If a man already knows a woman, then when he meets her, he may look a little different. For example, if they are colleagues, then a man can come to work in a smart shirt. Can change perfume. Most often, in order to draw attention to himself, and unconsciously, a man offers treats, strikes up a conversation on an abstract topic, offers his help.

Language of the body.

Unwittingly, but by nature it went that a man always tries to prove to a woman he likes that he real male... It manifests itself precisely physically. He protrudes his chest, straightens his shoulders, unbuttons his shirt lower than usual, rolls up his sleeves to the elbow, puts his hands in his trouser pockets (especially with close contact in private) to draw the woman's attention to manhood.

Accidental touches.

This happens mainly when a man and a woman already know each other. Passing by, he will choose the narrowest path in order to lightly touch her shoulders, as if bypassing her. Passing objects, he tries to touch his fingers, shaking his shoulder slightly, shaking hands.

Vote.

With a woman he likes, a man begins to speak in a lower than usual voice. Pronounces words more slowly and clearly.

Head tilts.

This trait is inherent in both men and women. If during a conversation a person gently tilts his head, then this is a sign of interest.

Unconscious jealousy.

It is also inherent in both sides, but in men it is more pronounced. He becomes stern and irritable when another man is interested in his object of attention. Demonstratively keeps aloof and avoids glances.

More often than not, body and facial expressions can say much more than speech apparatus... Therefore, it is important to look closely at people as well as to listen.

If a man wants to attract the attention of a woman he likes, he must do it right, so as not to alienate her with his obsession or stupidity, but you never know what else. But it is also important how to correctly recognize male sympathywithout confusing it with the manifestation of friendship, banal benevolence and politeness.

There are very tactful men who will never say something unpleasant to a girl, will not refuse help, etc. But it also happens that a woman, due to her impressionability, decides that this is a manifestation of sympathy.

What are the signs of a man's attention to a woman?

So, in order to understand the signs of a man's attention to a woman, first you need to classify them:

• Non-verbal:

1. This is the very first thing to pay attention to, because it happens unconsciously. When a man wants to be liked, he instinctively tries to show himself in a more favorable light - gait, posture, his whole appearance suggests that he is trying to look as attractive as possible. Pay attention to his postures, gestures, facial expressions. Interested man the whole body will turn towards you, and the toes of his feet will be directed in your direction.
2. "Mirroring" your gestures and facial expressions, adjusting to your speech - all this speaks in favor of the fact that you are attractive to this man.
3. Sight. This is very important point. Interested guy will not avoid your gaze, on the contrary, he tries to look as closely as possible and look into the eyes for longer. The pupils are dilated, and you can see from his eyes, either he just looks kindly, or with interest or even lust.
4. Attracting your attention with his persona, which consists in plentiful jokes, a man becomes talkative, which is unusual for a male, some even begin to boast, trying to show themselves in the most favorable light. Well, compliments addressed to you are a completely direct sign indicating his sympathy, especially if the praise is about appearance.
5. Interest in your hobbies, inquiries about personal life and so on from the man's side - sure sign his sympathy. When he shares something personal with you, tells something only to you, this can also be considered a sign of attention.
6. Trying to enter your " intimate area”, When talking, moves up, leans closer.
7. He often shows open palms, puts his hands on his hips, touches his own thighs - sexual desire rages in him.

• Skin-to-skin contact: you are definitely attracted to the one young manwho is trying to take you by the arm, when talking, touches, as if by accident, your hand, straightens your clothes on you, removes a speck of dust, constantly touches you when passing by, even hugs you when you meet, takes your hand - all these are male tricks.
• Hints. They can be either very vague or completely unambiguous. In the first case, you need to look for confirmation of your guesses in his other actions, and in the second it is better, after all, to make sure that you interpreted these hints correctly.
• He remembers well what you were talking about, praises your taste, he can say something that says that he is not indifferent to you, for example, to thank for something, adding at the same time that he counted on your help. Always responds at the first call, ready to help, never refuses. At the same time, you know that he does not behave this way with everyone.

But all this is psychology. In fact, this may not be the case at all. If you notice that the guy keeps his hands in his pockets all the time, looks around, nervously fiddles with something, moves away from you - he is not interested in you, and he wants to stop communicating as soon as possible.

Every woman in communication with the opposite sex should, of course, rely on her intuition, because sometimes men simply do not know how or are embarrassed to show a girl that he likes her, more often it happens with young guys who have not yet had such a great experience of communicating with the opposite sex.

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The most dangerous moment in this regard is when you just started dating. You can be so overwhelmed by the thrill of nascent love that you feel an irresistible desire to throw out some romantic nonsense (for example, give him a mug with the words "Greatest Lover on the Planet"). During the first weeks of a relationship, it is important to remember that romantic gestures from a woman fall into two categories: (1) "She definitely likes me!" and (2) "God, she's after me."

In truth, the guy at this stage does not expect and does not want much. He, of course, dreams of sex (at this stage, this is the most romantic gesture possible). But just didn't go to him yet love letters and cute postcards and don't make huge surprises! The key is not to overdo it. You don't want him to feel like you put more effort into preparing this gift than he did for all your relationships.

• if the situation in which it is customary to make gifts arises at the very beginning of your meetings, remember: less is better than more. A good choice Is something edible. If he likes a certain type of beer, buy him a package. If he loves cheese, give a cheese head. Avoid donating trinkets. Maybe you would like to hand him a stuffed dog that resembles the dog he had as a child? Do not do this.

2. You recently started calling each other "my girlfriend" and "my boyfriend"

You spend a lot of time in each other's company, but have not exchanged keys to apartments yet. Romantic gestures at this stage are good when they emphasize that the two of you are a couple. It can be in the form of a joke that only you two can understand. If an owl scares you in the park, give him notebook with an owl. You can present something erotic. If you travel without him, you can send a postcard as a sign that you think about him.

What shouldn't you do? All that looks like your introduction into a territory to which you have not yet been invited. For example, don't call his mom asking for a recipe for his favorite foods, even if you really want to cook him a holiday dinner (you're not yet at the stage of your relationship to be friends with his mom). If you notice that he has a whole collection of items with frogs (fridge magnets, frog-shaped potholders, bed linen with frogs), you don't need to buy frogs for him. It could be his "in-between" joke with a friend, and it will look like you are trying to get into someone else's game. All this looks like such trifles, but for a guy they look like a requirement to switch to new level mutual obligations, and it can stress him a little.

• Birthday / Holiday Ideas:this is tricky. You need to give something good, but not too good. For example, a nice and handy organizer. Why not. iPad? Not. A certificate for an adventure for two, if he wanted to fly in a wind tunnel for a long time, but all his hands did not reach? Yes. Holidays in Bali, planned for six months? Too cool and pretend to be long term plan... A love-erotic message in which you describe in detail how amazing he is (in and out of bed)? Yes. The same letter embroidered in gold on sofa cushion? No. (In general, avoid anything that involves interfering with the interior of his apartment).

  Key point: give something that you can use right now and that does not have a clear aim for the future.

3. You are an established couple, but not yet a spouse

The last of the giver trap stages. You have been together for a long time. If you haven't moved in yet, then surely keep toothbrushes in each other's bathrooms. On this stage he is pleased to know that you still consider him the most important man own life. It's worth showing creativity... You can send him passionate sex ems to lure him home at lunchtime for a quick love session. Or tell him that for this night you are his gold fish and ready to perform three sexual desires... Do what reminds him of the previous stages of your relationship. You can recreate your first date: food, clothes, all the details. Make a selection of songs for him that you two associate with something good. Print photos and make a photo album or photo book to remind you of the happy episodes in your life.