A man's love is what it is. Video What is male love? Strengthening male love

12.10.2019

Until now, we have talked about your feelings and how you need to communicate with a man. Today I propose to look at what is happening between a man and a woman from the perspective of the other side - after all, it is no secret that the same things are perceived and evaluated differently by a man and a woman.

So how does he feel? What's going on in his soul? How does he react to what you do? Admit it, it interests you a lot. Today we will try to look into the male soul and learn the first lessons. We will use my experience in advising men, the opinions expressed by them, observing their reactions in different situations and formulate conclusions that will help both of you to harmonize your relationship.

First lesson. He prefers to live for today.

That is why often in the process of establishing mutual understanding, developing relationships, the initiative comes mainly from the woman. Men are dismissive of these “laces”: “They always complicate everything. I feel good with her, and she is trying to make a husband out of me. Why rush things so fast? Why doesn't she like the way things are going now? "

Men, as a rule, are in no hurry to analyze their feelings, just as they are not always interested in evaluating your feelings for themselves. Very often they are guided by the principle “Everything is good, and thank God”, that is, developing feelings, building relationships are clearly not among their main concerns.

At the same time, a man may strive to see you quite often, communicate with you, feel your closeness, and have sex. However, instead of asking “Is this true love? Is there something on which to build a long-term relationship? Am I wasting my time? " a man says to himself: "We are good together, but whether it is love or not is the tenth thing." In other words, a man much more often lives in the present day and wants to have fun, and not bother with any useless "philosophy".

Output. This peculiarity of the perception of life is really worth learning from a man! And what a sin to conceal, we often try to solve the problem of our whole life at once. And then at the reception I hear such questions: "We have been meeting for three weeks, but I do not understand what is between us!" What difference does it make if everything is fine today? And tomorrow will be tomorrow.

Lesson two. He has no burning need to see you every day.

And even when he is really in love with you - he just is so arranged.

And yet, in two cases, a man wants you to be always there and every day. First, when he is afraid of losing you. And then it does not matter whether he is offended at you, whether he is angry, whether he thinks you are guilty around, he still thinks: “I don’t want to lose her. She may not be right, but I will do as she wants. I'll meet her again. "

The second option is when you “do not give” yourself to him. You don't fly to him at the first call, sometimes you leave him earlier than he would like. You are busy and for this reason refuse to accept his invitation ... In this sense, the words of my client are indicative: “Probably, I love Galya. Before, I didn’t know how to send the girls out on Sunday evening, and when Galya leaves me on Sunday morning, I so want her to stay, I’m trying my best to keep her. ”

Output. Help him want to see you more often. Do not rush to him at night on demand. Agree, on an empty stomach, everything is much tastier than when you overeat.

Lesson three. And what is love for him?

This is not about what a man thinks when he says "I love you." It is possible that he uses these words for manipulation in order to achieve no matter what: desired sex, forgiveness for some mistake, or maybe so that you just don't leave him now ...

We are interested in what constitutes the true, sincere love of a man. As a rule, it is based on three senses.

The first is the fear of losing you. But here you need to understand that in itself, apart from other feelings, it is not love. For some, it may be caused by fear of loneliness associated with self-doubt, or by materialistic considerations. To become love, it needs the support of the following two senses.

The second component of love is pity and a desire to take care of you.
A man will never tell himself that he loves you if he does not feel sorry for you. For a man, love is closely related to the desire to protect his beloved, to worry about her, to try in every possible way to make her life easier, to take care of her. If a man is just glad that he did something good to a woman, and he does not really need her thanks and praise, then he most likely loves her.

Here are the words of a man in love heard at the reception: “I am pleased to do a lot for her that I would never have done for anyone. I am so sad when she feels bad, and very good at heart when she is happy. " When a man perceives the situation in this way, he is really ready to admit to himself that he loves you.

And finally, the third feeling underlying male love is admiration for you. It, however, is most clearly manifested at the initial stage of falling in love or in a situation of unrequited love. Sometimes a lack of admiration is not an indicator that love has passed: it can be associated with bad mood, trouble, depression. But in such cases, the man does not admire other women either. That is, either you (your devotion, your understanding, beauty, charm, etc.), or no one.

It must be admitted that it is difficult to maintain a sense of admiration when you know each other “as flaky”, with all the merits and demerits. But at this stage, it is replaced by tenderness and affection, and thus male love is still based on the "three whales."

Output. Don't let the man feel like he has conquered you once and for all. Even if you are very strong and independent, sometimes pretend to be weak and helpless. Or don't be afraid to show yourself like that - let him feel strong, realize his “defender complex”. Try to remain admirable, even if you've been together for a long time. Moreover, in this case, you should know better than others what exactly is capable of delighting your man.

Someone said that a man and a woman are beings from different planets. They coexist together on Earth, create families, but they are not able to fully understand each other. For many generations of women, they have been trying to find the key to male psychology, but to no avail.

Male thinking is a real mystery to the female sex

The most important thing for ladies, no doubt, is to comprehend the psychology of men in love and relationships. Thousands of broken women's hearts around the world, broken families, a persistent tendency towards an increase in the number of divorces simply oblige the fairer sex to study the psychology of men.

Women try to comprehend the way of thinking of men and build a system of harmonious relationships. From time immemorial, the keepers of the hearth have been trying to tame and domesticate these restless hunters.

The psychology of love

Specialists in behavioral motives have recently found an answer to the question of what is the psychology of men in love. They identified four main functional motives:

leadership in everything and in relationships, first of all;
the primordial need to conquer prey, and in this case a woman;
the need, after an exhausting hunt, to find relaxation at the hearth;
desire to constantly attract female attention.

Let us now consider how these motives look in practice.

It is no secret that the psychology of a man in love is based on the conquest of a lady of the heart. And the more inaccessible the beautiful prey, the more the hunter gets excited. This instinct is inherent in every man and is defining in the psychology of love. The male, overwhelmed by attraction, is ready for any feats and recklessness in the name of his beloved. The main goal is a woman's heart.

However, the girl should not get carried away with the role of unapproachable prey for too long. The ardor and excitement can fade away, and the man will lose interest. Women's trick lies in the ability to catch the moment when feelings are heated to the limit, and you can already go into the category of a well-deserved trophy.

A girl should not naively believe that gifts, exploits, increased attention and passionate confessions will last forever. This is the prerogative of the candy-flower period. There is no need to be too offended by a man for his absence, when the relationship is already quite long.

An important psychological aspect of typical male behavior is his desire for leadership. A man wants to be the head of the family, leading in the relationship. He demands respect for himself and does not tolerate attempts to lead himself.

This behavior is largely predetermined by the peculiarities of traditional upbringing. From childhood, a little girl is prepared to be a wife and a mother, offering her dolls and dishes as toys. The boy, on the other hand, is taught to be strong and courageous. The psychology of family life is laid almost from the cradle.

A man should feel like a leader

The psychology of men in love is contradictory. On the one hand, he wants independence, and on the other, he wants home comfort and attention. Men love to be praised, admire their merits. A woman should do this as often as possible. Attention to a man will turn into concern for the woman herself.

The most difficult aspect of a man's psychology is his polygamy. He will always pay attention to other women. The woman's task is to make comparisons in her favor.

If a woman is wise and builds relationships correctly, then her chosen one will not seek comfort on the side.

Knowing the psychological instinct of a man is the best way to build a harmonious relationship.

Psychology of marriage

The psychology of men in marriage is even more complex. New pitfalls await a woman on this path:

fear of marriage, which is presented as a complete restriction of freedom;
the desire to be a leader manifests itself even more, and it does not depend on who financially supports the family;
the man believes that the household is a purely female sphere.

A man does not tolerate any encroachment on freedom. Marriage seems to him a burden, so the thought of a stamp in his passport can lead him to a state of panic.

The spouses must have personal space. Mutual friends and spending time together are just as important to a happy family life as being able to spend an evening without a significant other. This applies to both men and women.

The wisdom of a woman lies in the skillful manipulation of the basic instincts of a man for the benefit of a common family hearth. He should feel like the head of the family, even if in fact he is not.

Psychology of Sexual Relations

A happy relationship is impossible without harmony in intimate life. Sex takes an important part in the study of male psychology:

a man must be sure that his partner is always happy with him;
the man wants to remain a leader in his sex life, but sometimes gives his partner the opportunity to dominate in order to bring a little variety;
if a man is not satisfied with sex with a partner, then, alas, he will begin to seek pleasure on the side.

A woman should always remember that a man's sexual psychology is based on his desire to be the best for his partner. She must constantly praise him and be extremely careful in case of mishaps in bed.

When the first passion subsides, harmony in sex will be ensured by love, mutual understanding and knowledge of the subtle nuances of the partner's preferences.

It is important for a man that a woman is satisfied. This gives him self-confidence.

One of the common mistakes of female behavior that can destroy the union is jealousy and suspicion. Knowing about the natural polygamy of male psychology, some women cannot overcome their mistrust. Constant control, reproaches and scandals will only alienate a man who will perceive them as an encroachment on his freedom.

During lovemaking, a man should be sure that his partner is in seventh heaven with pleasure. In no case should a woman restrain herself and be ashamed to show emotions. In some cases, it will not be superfluous to even play along.

Every woman can learn to tie a man to herself. To do this, you just need to study the psychology of the stronger sex and be able to correctly apply this knowledge. Strong harmonious relationships are by no means a myth, but the result of painstaking work in which both should participate.

Love and understanding will become companions of the couple, where both partners have studied the psychological signs of satisfaction and dissatisfaction with the current relationship. Male psychology is a task that is quite within the teeth of a wise and patient woman.

When a woman loves, it is impossible not to notice. It seems that for the sake of her beloved, she is ready to move mountains. But how does the love of men change? And is it always possible to say for sure whether he loves or not.

He prefers to live for today.

That is why often in the process of establishing mutual understanding, developing relationships, the initiative comes mainly from the woman. Men treat these laces with disdain: they always complicate everything. I feel good with her, and she is trying to make a husband out of me. Why rush things so fast? Why doesn't she like the way things are going now?

Men, as a rule, are in no hurry to analyze their feelings, just as they are not always interested in evaluating your feelings for themselves. Very often they are guided by the principle that everything is good, that's great, that is, the development of feelings, building relationships are clearly not among their main concerns.

At the same time, a man may strive to see you quite often, communicate with you, feel your closeness, and have sex. However, instead of asking questions, is this true love? Is there something on which to build a long-term relationship? Am I wasting my time? A man says to himself: we are good together, and whether it is love or not is the tenth thing. In other words, a man much more often lives in the present day and wants to have fun, and not bother with any useless philosophy.

He has no burning need to see you every day.

And even when he is really in love with you - he just is so arranged. And yet, in two cases, a man wants you to be always there and every day. First, when he is afraid of losing you.

The second option is when you do not give yourself to him. You don't fly to him at the first call, sometimes you leave him earlier than he would like. You get busy and refuse to accept his invitation for this reason.

Help him, let him want to see you more often. Do not rush to him at night on demand. Agree, on an empty stomach, everything is much tastier than when you overeat.

And what is love for him?

This is not about what a man thinks when he says I love you. It is possible that he uses these words for manipulation in order to achieve no matter what: desired sex, forgiveness for some mistake, or maybe so that you just don't leave him now….

How is the true, sincere love of a man manifested?

As a rule, it is based on three senses.

The second component of love is pity and a desire to take care of you.

A man will never tell himself that he loves you if he does not feel sorry for you. For a man, love is closely related to the desire to protect his beloved, to worry about her, to try in every possible way to make her life easier, to take care of her. Only if a man is simply glad that he did something good to a woman, and he does not really need her thanks and praise, then he most likely loves her.

Don't let the man feel like he has conquered you once and for all. And on the contrary, even if you are very strong and independent, sometimes pretend to be weak and helpless or don't be afraid to show yourself like that - let him feel strong, realize his defender complex. Try to remain admirable, even if you've been together for a long time. Moreover, in this case, you should know better than others what exactly is capable of delighting your man.

We women have always been interested in understanding men. Probably, sometimes they want the same. But today is not about that. The other day I met a funny classification. According to the author, there are six main types of male love. They were called quite funny: agape, ludus, eros, mania, pragma and storge. Regardless, the descriptions themselves are very believable. I even thought: a great game for a bachelorette party is to identify the types of all the men I know. Naturally, we are talking about the types of love, but behind each one reads the image of a man. And she herself immediately rushed to compare her acquaintances with the proposed descriptions. Well, for example, ludus. Such a man does not think of a relationship without a play of feelings, for him it is feelings that underlie sexual relations. If he wants you and how he intends to fulfill his desires depends on the feelings that he would like to experience at a particular moment. We can say that he expresses his feelings exclusively in the form of sex. Therefore, do not be surprised if, from an excess of feelings, he has a desire to have several lovers. Another sensual type is eros. He is like a god - sensual and ardent, he will be there to admire you. And only female callousness can kill his inexhaustible faith in you - the best of the best. Many of us who yearn for a strong male shoulder will call agape love almost ideal. Such men consider it their duty to satisfy a woman in everything, not only in sex. They are capable of beautiful male deeds and romantic confessions. They are literally ready for anything for the sake of their beloved woman. High relationship! True, in order for him to be happy with you, he will have to correspond. The exact opposite of the first two is pragma.

Such men will philosophize for a long time and tediously about the need to love, they will decompose on the shelves what his love should be and how he plans to show it ... In a word, he will never reach feelings and relationships in real life. Everything will be calculated and calculated. From a female point of view, a vile type. An absolutely unpromising option. And the only reason to put up with this near you is only the occasional arrow of Cupid in your heart, and a couple of types of male love that are far from romanticism - storge and mania. The first is storge. It's simple: he will treat you like a friend. And even if you allow yourself intimate relationships, you will remain just friends. Do not expect romantic sunrises, flowers on your pillow in the early morning, feats with your name on your lips. You are "your boyfriend", so from the point of view of such a man, all this romantic nonsense is useless. Everything is smooth, reliable and, in principle, stable. Apparently, the main plus of such love is precisely constancy. And the last type of love is male love: mania. Girls, run! This is an option for masochists. Such a man stubbornly believes in his love for you, he will constantly tell how much he thinks about this love, how much he does to preserve it. And only you do not understand this ... And if, God forbid, you succumb to persuasion, he will demand your complete submission to his will. Everything will be decided by him. In general, it is somewhat reminiscent of an obsessed maniac who psychologically crushes and crushes, and crushes ... In general, I do not know if it is possible to withstand such a long time. Although he is unlikely to let go of his victim. Scary?) But let's not dramatize the situation. Because for every male type we have something to answer - some exclusive female type. Although, in my opinion, happiness is not in struggle, but in harmony.

We are always waiting for love. And so she comes to us, and our gray life is colored with bright colors. Love changes our thoughts, feelings capture us, the world is perceived differently. The channel of communication between feelings and reason ceases to exist, because of this there is a danger of confusing flirting or passion and true love. After all, we will experience heartfelt anguish and a serious feeling in the same way. And our sick mind is not able to distinguish one from the other.

Love at first sight or sudden falling in love turns us almost into madmen and slaves. But somewhere in the backyard of our consciousness the instinct of self-preservation is glimmering. It is he who creates in us the desire to understand the feelings of the beloved man. I want to be sure that you are not only in love, but also loved. How to understand that you are loved by the one to whom you completely give your heart? Are there even these signs of a man's love for a woman?

Immediately, the following points should be stipulated that relate to love. Why? The life of love obeys its own laws, which we do not want to reckon with.

It burns with a bright flame, alas, not for long. A year at most, or two at best. Further, a natural metamorphosis occurs with love: the feeling fades away or falls asleep. Therefore, the signs of a man's love for a woman at different stages of the relationship will be different. We are interested in the initial stage of a love relationship.

The psychology of male love is mysterious and interesting. In this regard, men are fundamentally different from women, who are more emotional in nature and are prone to a vivid manifestation of feelings. But at the same time, men want love as much as women.

A man in love wants to see and feel his chosen one next to him. He is even ready for reckless acts, just to please his woman. But this is only one side of the coin.

On the other hand, the representatives of the stronger sex do not need constant romance, like women. When the candy-bouquet period comes to an end, most men calm down, believing that they have already achieved a woman and can now rest. Therefore, a kind of cooling, which manifests itself in the absence of bright dates and interesting surprises, should not be regarded as a lack of love on the part of a man.

For women, love is inextricably linked with romance. A man wants love no less, but he does not need romance, especially at the end of the working day, when he comes home from work tired.

A woman should in no way be offended that her partner did not notice the new outfit or did not appreciate the romantic dinner. The fact is that a tired man sees only the directly prepared dishes and the woman herself, and all other details are inaccessible to him due to daily fatigue and workload.

If the partner has not noticed something, this does not mean that he no longer loves his chosen one. He wants love and relationships in the same way as before, just in a tired state, most men show one peculiarity: they are only interested in food that satisfies hunger, and the woman herself, and there is no time for all the other minor trifles.

Love is a universal feeling, but men and women perceive it differently. This is explained by the peculiarities of the psychology of both sexes, and this difference often leads to quarrels and misunderstandings.

But it is enough to understand what love means for a man, to take into account the logic of the chosen one, and peace and harmony will reign in the couple.

Male love

Any woman feels loved if there are external manifestations: courtship, signs of attention, gifts, hugs. For a man to feel loved, it is enough for a woman to be near.

This does not mean that the fair sex is selfish, it is just that men accept love by default, without requiring proof. Three simple words "I love you" are enough for them to believe: his feelings are mutual, which means that you can not "play chamomile".

Women tend to constantly doubt, and therefore seek confirmation of the feelings of their man. The phrase "You definitely do not love me!" in the mouth of a woman can mean anything. "I miss your attention", "I'm tired and bored", "I want a new dress."

But the problem is that the sons of Adam perceive only what they hear, and not everyone can guess the context. This is both the dignity and the lack of representatives of the strong half of humanity: their love is simple and understandable, which means it is strong.

How to understand that a man loves you

Every girl for sure at least once, but wondered if a man really loves her. Even if they live together, even if this man is her dear and beloved husband. Is there any way to check this?

Just ask: "Honey, do you really love me? And why?" That's all - this is how you can find out about the attitude of your man. And with a probability of 100% he will answer "Of course I do."
He fulfills requests and orders. Of course, an unfinished shelf can gather dust on the floor for months, but he will wake up at half past four in the morning to take you to the station, rush to a store on the other side of the city for your favorite buns and in other ways will try to please you. Sometimes even without a reminder. And sometimes grumbling and indignant.
He remembers your preferences. If you hate cheese, a loving man will not lose sight of this when ordering in a restaurant or ordering pizza for the evening.
He respects your opinion. A couple, a family is a union of two. Therefore, decisions must be made together, especially if they concern both. For men, love and respect are equivalent concepts.
He doesn't put his friends above you. Evening gatherings with friends over a beer is the right of every man who wants to escape from work worries and fatigue. But not in the case when you do not like it or you are sick and unable to receive guests.

This is the natural behavior of a loving person: take into account the opinion of your soul mate and try to make him feel comfortable and good.

There must certainly be a mystery in a woman. But one that a beloved man can easily unravel and understand the feelings of his chosen one. Therefore, consider a few important points that will make your relationship more trusting and stronger.

Talk about your feelings. It is better to say right away that you are offended by something than to terrorize a man with reproaches, accusations and demonstrative tears. Men cannot read minds and want to hear a direct answer to the direct question "What happened?" If he loves you, he will try to correct his mistakes. Even if he was right.

If you want something - ask directly. It is impossible to say for sure whether men really do not understand hints or simply skillfully pretend, but the fact is a fact: if you want something from your chosen one, say it directly. Otherwise, instead of a coveted dress, you can get a microwave, and he will come to the theater in his favorite tattered jeans, not understanding your hint of a cultural program.

And most importantly: only a loving man will endure tears, tantrums, reproaches from his woman, but stay close, take care and continue to love her.

Accept as it is.

If a woman tries to remake a man, change the qualities of his character, lifestyle, style of clothing or his interests, even for his good, for a man this is a signal “here they do not accept me as I am. They don't love me here ”... If a woman accepted a man as a whole, with all his interests, qualities and lifestyle, accepted not at the level of intellect, but at the level of the heart, then for a man this will be the best confirmation of her love.

Believe in him.

Believe in his wisdom, in his genius. Believe in him more than he himself believes. To believe that he will achieve great success, that he will be able to provide for his family. Believe that he himself knows how best to act in a given situation. Believing in your man means not giving unsolicited advice, not being clever, not taking on the role of a leader and male obligations.

Just believe in him as God, and never back down from your faith. Even if now he has nothing, even if he has not yet found himself and his path, the faith of a loving woman will inspire him to create the impossible. It is their believing wives that successful men adore all their lives, because thanks to their faith they discovered talents in themselves, were not afraid to take risks, fall, rise and go again, thanks to their faith they reached great heights.

Maintain him in strength.

A man feels that a woman loves him when she gives him support. If a woman does not support her husband in choosing clothes when they go to visit, if she does not take his side in a controversial issue, if she protects a man from some of his decisions, for him it means one thing - “they don’t like me here”. Of course, this is a blow to the vulnerable male ego. If the wife does not support her husband, he loses confidence in her, which creates a big crack in the relationship.

A wise wife should meet any man's decision with the questions “Have you thought? You are sure? Then go for it! " A man will never leave a woman who fully supports him. Even if he has an angry disposition, his anger will never touch his wife. On the contrary, he will always consult with her, trusting her female wisdom, because he sees his reliable rear in her, he sees that she loves him, which means that her love will bring him good ...

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Male love. Men quotes about love

After unhappy love, a man remains a bachelor, a woman gets married.
Men declare their love before they feel it, women - after having experienced it.
A woman's heart is a temple for love ... Only you will never understand That in a temple a Man is God ... That a temple is nothing without God!
For a woman, love is everything. For a man, love is everything. A.V. Ivanov
A man is ready to do anything for the sake of making love, even to love.
Men have one honor, there are so many lovers! Love is easy to forget, but honor is impossible. Pierre Corneille
Love is a story in a woman's life and an episode in a man's life. J.P. Richter
Why when a man is used in a family it is called love, and when a woman is called "Men are extinct."
This divine substance is love! It arises between a man and a woman, accumulates and reaches the critical mass from which children are born ... Or just everything explodes to hell
Love is a battle of two sexes. A woman needs to defend herself first, a man after, and woe to the vanquished. Alexander Dumas-son
A man believes in what he says and doubts what he hears. Because love blooms where he stubbornly repeats his "love you" and hears in response: "But I don't!"
Love is when a woman's dreams become the desires of a man.
Some women have men, others their love. Olga Muravyova
And male love is plutonic. A.V. Ivanov
Women are capable of anything, men are capable of only love!
Only the last love of a woman can compare with the first love of a man. O. Balzac.
In life, love can push a man to any deeds, but they become meaningless if the woman's door is locked. Dmitry Nagiyev
Love is a competition between a man and a woman to bring each other as much happiness as possible Henri-Marie Beyle (Stendhal)

Most women really don't know how to tell if they are loved. Even the wise Mademoiselles are barely familiar with the main qualities of male love. But what about young naive girls? After all, they do not understand at all how to distinguish a woman's true love for a man from sweet pleasures. Let's try to figure it out.

Unfortunately, women and men see love differently. At times, this becomes a serious cause for disagreement. However, do not forget that the feeling of falling in love is one for two. It's just that a man and a woman are two different galaxies. Nature conceived us as mutually attractive plus and minus. One thing remains unchanged - we, undoubtedly, always need one another! Unfortunately, in love, we express our emotions in completely different languages. That is why it is so difficult at times to reach mutual understanding.

Diametrical opposites

A woman needs constant communication with a man. It is extremely important for her to evoke emotions in him, which is direct evidence of falling in love. No wonder they say: "If a woman stopped dripping on her brains, you have already lost her." A man, on the other hand, keeps everything inside himself, trying to seem indifferent! He decisively does not perceive constant conversations, declarations of love. In the formed couple, one always loves, and the other allows to love. It is not surprising that it is mainly a woman who shows feelings. Since ancient times, nature has insidiously laid this need in it. A couple who knows and accepts this fact can avoid unnecessary quarrels and resentments in the future.

Recognition of your feelings causes a genuine fear of responsibility in the stronger sex. For most, responding to this phrase is tantamount to an oath. A truly loving man will sincerely rejoice at the achievements of his beloved, appreciate aspirations, and take the solution of any problems upon himself. A man's love for a woman can be expressed in the time devoted. As a rule, ladies rarely see this as a demonstration of feelings.

Expectations from developing relationships are also different. For example, women want to feel attention, care, tenderness and respect from their man. And a strong half of humanity wants to be perceived only as they are. Therefore, lovers try to provide each other with what they themselves desire. Unfortunately, this is a false path to the heart of the opponent. Do not forget that even being together, we are still completely different.

Keeping a relationship safe is hard work!

Naturally, disagreements also occur in daily relationships. For example, women, in the eyes of men, need attention over trifles. Due to the firmness of their character, they are absolutely immune to such trifles. However, understanding this fact sometimes requires serious consideration. A woman suffering from a lack of attention, over time, becomes irritable, nervous. As a result, any communication with a man will suffer, or it will result in a search for attention on the side.

And yet, how is the love of a woman and a man expressed? A further difference is a consequence of the phrase "A man loves with his eyes, a woman with his ears." It is for this reason that it is easy to captivate a lady with sweet words, and a gentleman cannot fail to notice the harmony of long legs. Accordingly, in order for him to stop looking around, there must be a sexy, exciting woman with him. Relationship psychologists have long confirmed that there are completely different parts of the brain that correspond to male sexual attraction and the feeling of being in love. Based on this, polygamy is inherent in a man. He believes that his masculinity is expressed in the number of women.

Due to the work of different parts of the brain, attitudes towards physical intimacy in women and men are also different. For the weaker sex, sex is a kind of process that requires a serious approach to the choice of a partner. In the mind of a man, love and sex are not equal! At times, even the most faithful man is looking for intimate sensations on the side. Unfortunately, physiology is to blame for everything. Mutual understanding is out of the question here!

Everyone knows that one hundred percent male compatibility is a guarantee of a strong relationship. Moreover, the main role here is played not only by sexual, but also natural, as well as psychological compatibility. Over the years, sexual attraction actually does not play a special role. Unfortunately, love does not at all provide mutual understanding and support in everyday life. Misunderstandings can destroy any idyll in a relationship, fueling conflict. To get even a little closer to mutual understanding, you need to put in a lot of effort.

Character

To determine compatibility, describe the different personality traits in two columns. In the first, indicate all the positive qualities of the partner, in the second, record what is annoying. Think about where you are ready to give in, and what does not suit your partner at all. However, there is one condition. Evaluation should be impartial and not based on emotions alone. Psychologists advise doing such a test together with a partner. Perhaps, after comparing the overall results, you will be able to come to a mutual decision.

Psychology

It can be identified as follows. List your values on a piece of paper in descending order. In other words, the most significant indicators are: family, friends, work, funds. Further, each of the partners separately lists all responsibilities with their own understanding of the situation. The test is formed in the similarity of its results, and not in the coincidence of all points. It is good if a man supported women's views on love, relationships. A woman is then ready to create a real happy relationship. If one of the partners put family first, and the other - career, then this is a serious reason for conflicts, contradictions.

Partnership

Affiliate compatibility is a key indicator of overall budgeting ability. Financial inadequacy of partners will lead to significant contradictions. Agree, if the budget of the chosen one consists exclusively of spending on himself, you are unlikely to like this situation. In this case, psychologists also advise each of the partners to plan a budget on a piece of paper. Then compare the results of your lists, focusing on similarities rather than contradictions. However, one should not forget that full compatibility cannot be achieved without the unity of interests.

Temperament

Undoubtedly, romantic walks with your beloved, his ability to provide you is wonderful. However, this is not enough! The guarantee of a happy, lasting relationship lies in the compatibility of sexual temperaments. In addition to the pleasant sensations and health benefits, sex can resolve almost any conflict. Also, a curious theory that depends on the zodiacal horoscope enjoys a positive reputation. Perhaps you should pay attention to the date of birth of your partner?

Basic principles of temperaments

Temperaments should at least be adjacent. For example, if a man is high and a woman is low, the relationship is on the brink of failure. The same situation arises when a man and a woman switch roles. Partners will constantly feel uncomfortable. They will feel that something is wrong with them.

People with a high temperament score have a constant desire. Usually their experimental sex life begins at an early age, and the number of partners grows throughout life. Statistically, the height of a temperamental man is usually no more than average. It looks quite proportional. As for women, those with wide hips or curvaceous forms are also often very temperamental women. Ladies of short stature and short legs are also not bad in bed.

Researchers argue that similar temperaments are characteristic of people with similar heights. So petite girls shouldn't look for a partner among tall men. These couples often face a variety of sexual difficulties.

For those with a low type of temperament, intimate life always takes an insignificant place. The process of puberty in such people is usually delayed. They easily tolerate significant pauses in sex. And if once they have chosen a partner, then this is for life.

According to statistics, about 80% of humanity belongs only to the middle group. For example, high growth clearly indicates an insufficiently bright temperament.

What is absolute love?

The feeling of love is not limited exclusively to the relationship between a man and a woman. It can be much broader. This is how the love of a woman and a man is presented by esotericism. Most of the world's religions are built on absolute love. Take, for example, Christianity in the image of Jesus Christ, where one of the three virtues, along with Faith and Hope, is Love. It can be called Agape, which in translation from the ancient Greek language means "gratuitous, selfless love." It does not manifest itself as a physical passion, but is based on a spiritual connection that lasts for years, or even to the very bed of death.

The mistakes of our time

There is too much masculine energy in women today. They have forgotten how to love! Due to the weakened energy necessary for procreation, the fair sex began not to inspire, but to give. They forgot, women and men! If a man wants to win the love of a woman, he must win the battle in her eyes. And a woman, in order to take possession of a man's heart, needs to lose this battle.

For example, a woman's destructive love for a man can manifest itself in over-caring for her son. In this case, the mother interferes with the correct development of the masculine principle. Either the wife, confusing the relationship with her husband, turns into a parting "mommy". Such a manifestation of energy is a masculine version of creation. A woman should be a faithful wife and helper for her husband. Undoubtedly, the distortion of energies entails a violation of the correct interchange. Actually, this is why there are so many disagreements between a woman and a man.

Energy interchange

If a woman accepts her lover without unnecessary reasoning, she awakens in him a desire to give the strength of her feelings. A woman's love for a man is based on 4 energies: respect, patience, humility, tenderness. When a woman radiates the appropriate energies, she inspires her man to be generous. In addition, an invisible energy-protective field is literally formed around him, feeding the forces. Such a field is able to protect the success of a man, his emotional balance.

Men to women are manifested in bestowal. He is obliged to give his beloved his care, funds and shelter. However, when a man does not receive returns, he stops giving, starting to accumulate. A strong half of humanity desperately needs a woman not to educate, but to love and accept the chosen one as they are.

A man and a woman are a reflection of each other. Such a crooked mirror reflects everything that no one wants to know about themselves.

Natural needs

A woman expects to see in a man a breadwinner, protector, support. He, in turn, expects tenderness and care from her. In order to complement each other, everyone is looking for those qualities in a partner that he himself does not have. As the representatives of the gentle sex do not recognize weak men, also the powerful do not perceive this. So in what, in fact, is the true love of a woman and a man expressed? She needs protection, and he needs faith in him, only in this case we can feel loved.

The idea of nature is such that a man and a woman understand love in different ways, striving for a common goal. That is why it is extremely important to take into account our dissimilarity. Unfortunately, we rarely have the prudence to understand that we are two diametrical opposites. Therefore, we do not stop waiting for one another from a mirror analogy in opinions, assessments and explanations of everything that happens. So what do you do? How to understand what is the true love of a woman for a man? You just need to notice exceptionally good qualities in the chosen one, paying less attention to the shortcomings. Be patient, do not break, but accept in your partner the essence that is inherent in nature. Love and be happy!

The feeling of love (in a high sense) is experienced by representatives of both sexes of the human race. This happens in different ways, which is normal and wonderful, since men and women, although they have common genus-specific tasks, have different socio-biological roles.

As a rule, in the bouquet-marmalade period, when men show their feelings in different ways, trying to win the attention of the object of adoration, women, with all their romantic manifestations (somewhere at the subconscious level or even quite consciously), think about how and with whom, what is called "building a nest." Based on these criteria, the choice is made. The woman wants to see typical and special traits that she will retain and pass on to possible common offspring. The man's task is to convey these signs and provide conditions for the survival of the offspring. This is, so to speak, the biological side of the issue.

It should be noted that the modern social-role structure of society in developed cultural countries looks and functions somewhat differently, which accordingly affects the behavior of people, which can be guided not only and not so much by traditional values.

Understanding how a man feels and understands will be useful for women (to learn to understand men) and for men (to learn to understand their feelings).

What does love mean for a man?

In different periods of life, men feel and understand love, relatively speaking, differently. We will now consider the most general, averaged models.

First love for a man, as a rule, has a determining value for the development of his personality. She reveals men and gives her special features, by which we recognize real men. In fact, true love makes a man out of a man (we are talking only about a realized feeling).

Views of love

Love through the eyes of men under 30 is rather a passion for the object-subject of love with increased attention to external signs and manifestations. Usually up to 30 men love, as they say, with their eyes, smell and, to a lesser extent, other senses of perception. Sex and the desire for sexual interaction during this period, as a rule, is the main component of this feeling.

After 30, when youthful hypersexuality is replaced by normal sexuality, the main thing for a man is the desire for joint and conscious interaction aimed at implementing life plans (building and arranging a joint household, procreation, joint care of the house and offspring). During this period, romance and passion should develop into respect and common deeds aimed at the good of the family, after all, marriage is, in fact, an enterprise.

Closer to the age of 50 and after, love becomes and is understood as a more moral and spiritual feeling. Mutual understanding and its depth, support and care for each other, as well as mutual assistance in the implementation of new social programs and roles come to the fore.

It's good if everything happens according to what is described. However, do not be discouraged if life turns out differently - unusual people with an unusual fate decorate society and are the main root group that is significant for its development.

In any case, the main signs of true love for a man at any age look like a voluntary desire to make the object-subject of love feel good, like a willingness to perform certain actions and deeds for this. Of course, men and women can understand this in different ways. Well, well, there is only one way - you need to negotiate, honestly and openly. Living together is not a war of the sexes for gender equality, but a joint search and building of harmony.

Many men, especially well-mannered, culturally developed and experienced in relationships, show their feelings very restrainedly and this is normal. Excessive demonstrativeness does not suit either men or women. Another question is that women, due to their socio-biological nature, need periodic displays of attention from men (in fact, men also need this, they just feel differently, besides, it is not customary to show it).

In any case, it is useful to remember that love is something worth living for, something from which, in fact, life comes from.