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Why there is no desire to make love. Ways to return the disappeared sexual desire. Disease as a factor in reducing the desire for sexual activity

The quality of sexual relations between a man and a woman largely determines the psychological climate and harmony in relationships in general. It has been proven that frequent misunderstandings and disagreements can be the result of a lack of sex, which women often refuse. In fact, the reluctance to have sexual intercourse among the fairer sex can be not just a whim, but the impact of certain reasons.

To find a solution to the problem of a woman's lack of sexual desire, you need to find exactly the reasons that led to this, and then eradicate them. Such issues are usually dealt with by narrow specialists, such as gynecologists, sex therapists, and even psychotherapists. In addition, there are a number of drugs and non-traditional methods that increase female libido and sexual activity.

What influences women's desire?

According to the latest statistics, approximately 40% of women around the world experience disorders in the functioning of the reproductive system. And most often this is manifested by a complete rejection of intimacy with a man and even aversion to sexual intercourse. The reasons for this may be:

  1. Hormonal imbalance The sex hormone testosterone is responsible for the level of libido in both sexes. In women, it decreases in the period after childbirth, and in men gradually after 30 years.
  2. Age changes- more often we are talking about the period before menopause or directly during it. In addition, this can be caused by the extinction of the ovaries, respectively, a decrease in the level of estrogen. Such changes lead to a decrease in the amount of lubrication, against which the sexual intercourse may not be so pleasant and even cause discomfort.
  3. Gynecological problems and other diseases- Other diseases can also lower the level of libido, for example, diabetes mellitus, cardiovascular pathologies, diseases of the pelvic organs, inflammation and infections of the genitourinary system, etc.
  4. vaginismus- a disease that is accompanied by strong contractions of the vagina, causing pain during intercourse. Such a rare and complex disease is caused by violence, psychological disorders, etc.
  5. Psychological factors of influence- we are talking about chronic fatigue, frequent stress and conflicts, an unfavorable climate in relationships with a man, lack of sleep and banal grievances. Sometimes the reason for the lack of desire to have sex in a woman may be the fear of pregnancy.

For reference! If a girl has no desire to have sex periodically or once, most likely, such problems are resolved on their own without the intervention of a specialist.

And only after identifying the reasons for the lack of libido and sexual desire in a woman, a specialist can choose the right methods of treatment and restoration of sexual functions. You can find out how to restore a woman's libido.

Letting go of the problem and not visiting a specialist is the biggest mistake of many women with low libido, as an irregular sex life leads to other problems in the body.

What to do if the wife does not want sex?

Depending on the identified prerequisites, due to which a woman has no desire to have sex with her husband, the specialist selects the right course of therapy. Competent therapy can be as follows:

  • Lack of desire in women on the background of low testosterone is accompanied by hormone therapy what the gynecologist prescribes. In this case, it is important to comply with the dosage and treatment regimen, since the irrational use of hormones is fraught with side effects.
  • Psychological problems are eliminated by psychotherapy courses in the office of an experienced specialist, homeopathic remedies and antidepressants. According to leading psychotherapists, maximum benefit can only be achieved through complex drug therapy and psychotherapy sessions.
  • Help sexopathologist. In addition to psychotherapy and drugs to restore the emotional background, a sex therapist can help a couple. This is appropriate in case of disharmony in relationships. You can increase libido with the help of certain games, lubricants and exciting lubricants, etc.
  • Aphrodisiacs. For the level of libido, certain foods that are aphrodisiacs can be helpers. In addition to food, certain aromas are considered aphrodisiacs, as well as special preparations, for example, Spanish Fly or Silver Fox.
  • Physical exercise. Such exercises help to increase the sensitivity of the genitals, the most effective are Kegel exercises.

Sometimes it is possible to restore libido only with an integrated approach, putting into practice all of the above methods of treatment.

If a woman lost desire after childbirth

After childbirth, a woman's body recovers for a long time, from several months to six months. A lot also depends on a man, you need to understand that a wife’s partial or complete lack of desire should not be a reason for pressure and quarrels. You can solve the problem in the following way:

  • Normalize sleep, which contributes to the rapid recovery of the woman's body.
  • Do not critically evaluate your body for the current period in life, since after childbirth many women become complex, lowering their libido even more.
  • Distribute responsibilities in order to prevent chronic fatigue and problems with sexual functions against this background.
  • Do not push the man away, as quarrels and disharmony only aggravate the situation.
  • Eat well, because due to the lack of vitamins and other substances, the body is depleted, the level of hormones decreases, and metabolic processes are disrupted.

In addition, you can help increase libido with the help of certain drugs - Angelica forte with a 100% natural herbal composition, with a vitamin composition, a stimulant of sexual functions, etc. Before taking such drugs, it is important to study the instructions in detail, contraindications and side effects, and also consult with a medical specialist.

There are no clear indicators of healthy sexual activity - for some, daily sex is the norm, and for some, 1-2 times a week is enough. On average, under comfortable conditions and the coincidence of desires, as well as opportunities, 2-3 sexual intercourses per week can be considered a normal “load”. Moreover, this figure is very “floating”, since everything always depends equally on the desires and capabilities of a man, often disappearing for a variety of reasons - from stress at work and dulling the novelty of relationships with a particular partner to a serious illness. There may be the simplest explanation for the fact that the desire has disappeared, but it is still necessary to find out why there is no desire to have sex.

The simplest reasons

In the simplest cases that do not require the help of a doctor (perhaps with the exception of a psychologist), the question of why there is no desire to have sex can be answered in the following versions:

  • an addiction to a partner has formed or many years of living together with a spouse have passed;
  • primitivism of sexual intimacy, mechanical performance of sexual intercourse;
  • the birth of a child (if we are talking about a family).

In the first case, the reluctance to enter into intimacy may be due to the fact that a man simply does not feel sexual desire for a partner. If the wife becomes a “comrade-in-arms” or the mistress begins to resemble a “mommy”, there is no longer any talk of excitement.

If sexual desire has disappeared, it may very well be that the sexual relationship between a man and a woman follows a too primitive scenario (met, undressed, had sex, dressed and parted) or is strictly mandatory (“marital duty”). The desire for intimacy with a woman may decrease if the "patient" is too fond of watching pornography and masturbation - erectile functionality simply will not have time to recover.

The most elementary reason for not wanting to have sex is a violation of the normal sleep pattern.

It happens that a husband loses attraction to his wife if she recently gave birth to a child - a woman’s body that has changed after pregnancy and childbirth may no longer excite her husband. In addition, psycho-emotional fatigue, both from each other and from the rhythm of life that is established with the advent of a newborn in the house, also reduces sexual desire to almost zero.

Another - the most elementary - cause of problems with the desire to have sex is a violation of the normal sleep pattern. A pathologically sleep-deprived man is a good-for-nothing lover. The same is true for the representatives of the stronger sex, who work a lot and hard: they spend a lot of energy on their labor activity, so the organisms protect themselves by suppressing sexual desire, which provokes, albeit pleasant, but still additional energy expenditure.

Why did the sex drive disappear?

If there is no desire to have sex, do not immediately worry. Perhaps the reasons for the lack of sexual desire lie in the above factors, and it is possible to cope with them, albeit difficult, but real.

  • physiological;
  • psychological (sometimes - psycho-emotional).

The psychological reasons to some extent include the situations described above, they will also be discussed separately, since there are fewer of them than physiological problems with a decrease in libido.

Physiological factors are most often associated with the presence of various diseases of the genitourinary system in the patient (prostatitis, orchitis, urethritis, bacterial lesions). Body structure pathologies can also answer the question why the desire to have sex has disappeared: male sexual function suffers if there is excess body weight, anatomical features of the structure of the penis or other parts of the reproductive system, exposure to the negative effects of bad habits. It also happens that sexual desire disappears when other pathological processes occur in the body that are not related to the genitourinary system. These include diabetes mellitus, diseases of the blood vessels, problems with the functioning of the gastrointestinal tract.

The most common reason why there is no desire for sex is prostatitis in a man.

The most common reason why there is no desire to have sex is prostatitis. Inflammation of the prostate gland, which has a different origin, disrupts the functioning of this organ. If the prostate, which is responsible for the formation of the male sexual function as a whole, produces the secretion of seminal fluid and is the source of a certain amount of the male hormone testosterone, stops working normally, various sexual disorders do not take long. One of them is the lack of desire to enter into intimacy.

Orchitis is a disease of the testicles (paired male gonads), accompanied by an inflammatory process in them. The factors that provoke the disease can be different, ranging from hormonal imbalances to mechanical trauma. One of the forms of orchitis is an unpleasant sensation in the scrotum, pulling, with sexual intimacy aggravated to pain. It is these periodic pains that cause a man to refuse sex.

With urethritis (an inflammatory lesion provoked by the entry into the lower part of the urethra of various bacteria, most often treponema), pathogenic microflora spreads through the urethra with further development of the process to the upper urinary tract and sex glands. The disappearance of the desire to have sex in this case may be associated with the main symptoms of the disease: yellow discharge with an unpleasant odor, burning in the urethra, swelling of the head of the penis.

Physical ailment caused by a significant decrease in immunity, for example, due to the recent transfer of viral infections, can also cause a decrease and disappearance of sexual desire. Without a strong enough barrier function of the immune system, the body becomes open to the negative effects of a mass of various viruses and bacteria. The main symptoms of this condition include general lethargy and a drop in efficiency, constant exposure to respiratory and other similar diseases, and a decrease in the need for sexual activity.

Excess weight, “acquired” by a sedentary lifestyle and harmful, mostly fatty foods, is extremely dangerous for a man. Fat deposits interfere and disrupt the functioning of all organs and systems in the body. Moreover, they put pressure on the organs mechanically, forcing them to move from the place designated by nature. Subsequently, excess weight leads to the fact that an obese man begins to suffer from a decrease in the production of the hormone testosterone and from weakening of the muscles (including those responsible for the mechanism of erection), and the result of this is that the desire to have sex has disappeared, and the body's ability to have sexual intercourse, it must be said directly , have weakened considerably.

Overweight, a sedentary lifestyle and fatty foods for men are dangerous by a decrease in the production of the testosterone hormone.

Psychological factors for reducing sexual desire

The psychological reasons that cause problems with the extinction of sexual desire include many factors, including:

  • stressful condition, anxiety;
  • nervous tension in everyday life;
  • worries about problems at work, family or relationships;
  • a state of depression;
  • mental disorders.

The fact of improper upbringing of boys during puberty can also affect sexual desire. If a young man grows up with the idea that sex is dirty, indecent and wrong, his libido will be depressed. Later, entering into intimacy, he will not receive satisfaction from her and will either blame the partner, creating problems with relationships, or “acquire” new complexes, falling into a vicious circle. The result will be an even more noticeable decrease in libido, then a reduction in sexual intercourse, which is harmful, as it leads to stagnation in the pelvic organs, inhibition of hormone production, depression and irritability. And in such states, successful sexual intercourse becomes even less likely.

In young people who are just starting to have sex, the desire to have sexual relations can be extinguished by another version of the vicious circle: failure at the first attempts to have sexual intercourse gives rise to a fear of repeating the “misfire”, feelings and complexes about this. As a result, there is a decrease in libido up to a complete loss of sexual desire. Most often, this chain of events is triggered if a man having sex for the first time is nervously unable to experience an erection or hold it long enough to perform the actual act of intimacy. A temporary violation of erectile function with sufficiently strong feelings and fears of a repetition of "embarrassment" has every chance of becoming a permanent condition.

Important: unlike physiological reasons, in which the desire to have sex disappears not so much in the absence of the need for sexual intimacy, but in the inability to carry out sexual activity, the situation is quite the opposite with psychological factors. With such problems, a man can have a lot of opportunities for sexual intercourse, but due to various complexes and stresses, he loses his desire.

It's all about hormonal imbalance.

Factors that negatively affect the volume of sexual desire and the desire to have sexual relationships may be related to hormonal imbalance. Libido decreases if a man's body lacks testosterone, a hormone responsible for the normal course of arousal during sexual desire. A low level of testosterone is a low level of desire to have sexual intercourse. The reason for the decrease in the production of this hormone in the body of a man may be mature age, some chronic diseases, bad habits, and the use of certain medications.

The psychological reasons that cause problems with the extinction of sexual desire include a stressful state.

In addition to testosterone, the desire to have sex is affected by a lack of other hormones, such as thyroid, or an excess, such as prolactin. Also, the cause of problems with libido can be a lack of dopamine - a hormone that regulates the normal state of the psycho-emotional sphere of a person. Since the brain plays perhaps the largest role in the process of sexual arousal that occurs during the manifestation of attraction, the lack of the mediator dopamine in the chemical system of nerve impulses inhibits its reactions. And a "retarded" brain is not able to make the body feel the desire for physical intimacy.

What help can be

When all the factors that can potentially cause the desire to have sex to disappear in men have been studied, it is time to figure out what to do to return the extinct sexual desire. But first, one curious fact must be cited: it turns out that every fifth male who has reached the age of 35 years and older, even if he previously had an active sex life, is quite satisfied with the conditional standard, expressed in 1-2 sexual acts per week. So before you start to panic about your fading libido, you should think: maybe everything is going fine?

If, nevertheless, the decreased desire for sex worries, you should definitely consult a doctor. After passing the examination and identifying possible factors of the violation, the patient will be able to undergo appropriate treatment. If psychology and the emotional balance disturbed by various “provocateurs” are to blame, a man may be prescribed consultations with a psychologist, in some cases, taking antidepressants. Physiological factors require that the patient first turn to a specialized specialist - a urologist, andrologist, therapist, that is, get rid of the diseases that caused a decrease in the desire for sexual activity. After treatment of prostatitis, orchitis and urethritis, as well as after restoration of normal weight, the probability of restoration of sexual function is very high.

It happens that the absence of intimate relationships in the family is taken as a matter of course, especially if both spouses are over the age of 45-50. Many couples believe that the main thing in their life together is spiritual kinship and intimacy, and you can do without sex. However, from the point of view of physiology, not all women, and even more so men, are able to maintain long-term abstinence without acquiring complications of a physiological and psychological nature. Over time, these complications, accumulating, can result in either family scandals or infidelity. That is why, if a man in a love or family relationship begins to lose the desire to have sexual intercourse, and was previously sexually active, he should consult a doctor in order to begin to eliminate this problem in a timely manner.

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There is no desire to have sex for various reasons. This problem often occurs in modern men. It appears under the influence of various factors. To properly install them, it is recommended to undergo a complete medical examination. This is necessary for the correct diagnosis, since potency depends on the work of various organs and tissues of the body.

It is also necessary to pay attention to the psycho-emotional state of the patient. Negative atmosphere at work, various experiences in the family, quarrels also affect the desire to have sex. These problems can be identified only in a private conversation with a psychologist. In some cases, the help of several specialists is required.

Reasons for lack of sexual desire

There are a large number of different reasons that cause the refusal of sex. For a simpler understanding, the reasons are divided into two main groups:

  • Physiological;
  • Psychological.

To establish the cause of the lack of sexual desire is possible only by contacting a specialist. Only a doctor can conduct the necessary examination and make the correct diagnosis. In some cases, the diagnosis does not give an exact answer. To identify the causes in this case, you need to seek help from a psychologist. Perhaps the reason lies in the internal state of the patient.

Physiological causes

There are several reasons that are physiological in nature. The main influence is exerted by diseases of the genitourinary system. It is they who cause reluctance to have sex. Such diseases include orchitis, prostatitis, bacterial pathologies, urethritis.

Physiological causes also include pathologies associated with the structure of the body. Excess weight, structural features of the genital organs, bad habits have a negative impact on the sexual function of a man.

There are other health problems that affect sex drive. Diseases of the vessels, gastrointestinal tract, diabetes mellitus lead to a decrease in sexual activity. Refusal to have sexual intercourse can also be justified by the general malaise of the patient.

To understand how these problems affect the desire to have sex, it is necessary to consider them separately.

Orchitis

Orchitis is a common disease of the male sex glands. With orchitis, there is a decrease in sexual activity and other unpleasant symptoms. Pathology is accompanied by an inflammatory process in the testicles. Inflammation develops under the influence of various factors:

  • Hormonal disbalance;
  • hypothermia;
  • Injury;
  • Testicular torsion.

Inflammatory disease in the testicles does not always have obvious signs. With sluggish orchitis, the patient has an unpleasant pulling sensation in the scrotum. Periodic pain is aggravated by sexual contact. It is this phenomenon that entails the refusal to have sex. To establish a diagnosis, you should visit a doctor.

An ultrasound machine is used to diagnose orchitis. The specialist studies the structure of the outer shell of the testicle and its shape. If the patient has obvious changes in one of the gonads, it is necessary to pass a series of tests. They will help to accurately confirm the diagnosis.

After the diagnosis is made, the patient is treated. It is carried out with the help of various antibiotic drugs. If torsion becomes the cause of orchitis, the man needs surgical intervention. After the necessary treatment, the desire to have sex returns.

Prostatitis

Prostatitis is a common cause of decreased sexual activity. This is a dangerous pathology of the prostate gland. The etiology of prostatitis is varied. Pathology is characterized by the development of inflammation of various etiologies. Inflammation affects the prostate gland. It is an important organ in the formation of the male sexual function. The gland produces the secretion of seminal fluid and produces a small amount of male hormone. If it is affected by prostatitis, various disorders of the genital area occur. One of the undesirable consequences is the lack of desire to have sex.

Prostatitis has two main forms: bacterial and non-bacterial. With bacterial prostatitis, pathogenic microorganisms that live and multiply in the organ are detected. They cause atrophy of the tissue area on which they live. This process causes an accumulation of dead cells and waste products. This compound creates inflammation. With non-bacterial prostatitis, the process develops under the influence of various factors. Diabetes plays a major role. Pathology entails a decrease in the trophism of the tissues of various organs. In men with diabetes, there is often a decrease in the activity of the hormonal background. Due to this process, there is a decline in the function of the prostate gland. Reduced testosterone also affects the desire to have sex. The man loses his sexual desire.

Pathology can be established during a routine routine examination. On the device, the organ is clearly visible, which is significantly enlarged. This is the first and main symptom of prostatitis. Also, the patient has a variety of urinary problems. The chronic form of prostatitis has a depressing effect on the psychological state of the patient. Treatment of prostatitis is different and depends on the nature of the pathological process.

Bacterial urethritis

There is no desire to have sex with bacterial urethritis. This disease is caused by various bacteria that settle in the lower part of the urethral canal.

Often in the study of patients revealed triponema. This bacterium causes a bacterial urethritis called gonorrhea. This disease is very dangerous for a man's health. Gonorrhea often occurs due to the lack of protective equipment for casual sexual contact.

The bacterium enters the urethra and begins to multiply actively. There is a gradual distribution of the pathogen throughout the urethral canal. The bacterium enters the upper urinary tract and infects the gonads. With bacterial urethritis, there is a discharge from the penis that has an unpleasant odor and is yellow in color. Also, men note a burning sensation in the urethra and swelling of the glans penis.

All these symptoms make a man refuse to have sex. This phenomenon can be quickly eliminated with proper medical treatment. To determine the type of microorganism, it is required to pass a swab from the urethra. In gonorrhea, this procedure causes inconvenience to the patient. For the analysis to be informative, some preparation is required from the patient. The following rules must be followed:

  • Stop drinking alcohol;
  • Do not use an antibacterial intimate cleanser;
  • Lack of intimate life.

All these activities will help to pass the analysis correctly. It is necessary to fulfill these requirements within 5-7 days before the analysis. The collected analysis must be sent to the laboratory. The sample is placed in a special container in which ideal conditions for reproduction are created. After growing a full-fledged colony of bacteria, a study is carried out on the sensitivity of microorganisms to various antibiotics. The drug that has shown the best efficacy is used to treat gonorrhea. After the patient is completely cured, the desire to have sex returns.

Varicocele

A varicocele is formed when the pampiniform plexus of the inguinal vein malfunctions. The pampiniform plexus is responsible for blood circulation in the gonads. With this pathology, there is a violation of the reverse blood flow in the vein. This phenomenon occurs when the sphincter of the inguinal vein does not work properly. Blood enters the organs, but it cannot leave the vessel back. With a strong accumulation of blood in the vessel, the walls wear out. The vein is stretched, a knot is formed on the pampiniform plexus.
The cause of varicocele is considered to be such pathological factors as:

  • Hormonal changes in the body;
  • Inflammatory diseases of the reproductive system;
  • Groin injury.

The main way of formation of varicocele is hormonal changes in the body. In boys, the restructuring occurs at the age of 13–15. In this case, there is a rapid growth of the whole organism. In some men, the veins do not have time to fully form. Pathological areas appear. They appear due to increased blood pressure in the vessels. Sometimes this phenomenon disappears on its own, in some cases, the development of varicocele occurs.

With varicocele in a man, oxygen supply to tissues and the penis is difficult. Blood does not fill the cavernous bodies completely. There is erectile dysfunction. With constant sexual failure, a man begins to avoid sexual contact. You can restore the desire for sex with the right treatment. The therapy is carried out under the strict supervision of a specialist. The doctor selects the method of treatment strictly individually. It depends on the degree of development of the varicocele. Surgical intervention will help to avoid remission.

physical ailment

The reason for the disappearance of desire for sex can be a general physical malaise. It may occur due to recent acute respiratory infections or a decline in the body's immune defenses. Immune protection helps prevent various viruses and bacteria from entering the body. If this system weakens, there is a rapid infection of the body with a variety of viruses.

If the patient has had an acute respiratory illness, the immune system is weakened. This entails the appearance of the following symptoms in the patient:

  • General lethargy;
  • Decreased performance;
  • Frequent relapses of acute respiratory infections;
  • Lack of sexual activity.

If at least one of these signs appears, you should contact an immunologist. The doctor will select the appropriate treatment and help restore the protective properties of the body. If therapy is not carried out in a timely manner, the patient develops additional complications.

Excess weight

Overweight should not be neglected. It affects the work of all organs and systems. Excess body weight accumulates due to a sedentary lifestyle, fatty and fried foods, hormonal changes. The fat layer is formed due to the work of mast cells. A large number of these cells are located in the abdominal cavity of a man. With proper nutrition, the cells are in a state of rest. Food entering the body is completely broken down in the intestines and excreted from the body.

If a man eats only fatty foods, then the gastrointestinal tract cannot fully perform its work. Lipid particles remain in the intestine. They are absorbed by the intestinal walls and enter the tissues. Mast cells take up excess lipids. Their size increases dramatically. With prolonged malnutrition, mast cells greatly increase in size. A fatty layer is formed. There is an accumulation of excess body weight.

Excess weight puts pathological pressure on the internal organs. They change their location. They are shifting. The main pressure is on the pelvic organs. They no longer fully perform their function. Against the background of obesity, the patient experiences the following changes:

  • Decreased testosterone production
  • The muscular frame is weakened;
  • Decreased physical activity;
  • Libido changes.

In men who are overweight, there are various negative changes in the body. The main change occurs in the hormonal system. With a decrease in the production of hormones, the formation of the body according to the female type occurs. The mammary glands swell, fat is deposited on the waist and hips. There is also a decrease in body hair. The man loses interest in sex. Several activities are required to restore sexual activity.

Initially, a man should visit a nutritionist. He will develop a weight loss plan and select the appropriate diet. After choosing a meal, you should visit the gym. Individual training should become a constant companion of such patients. It is not recommended to select a set of exercises on your own. Against the background of obesity, the development of vascular diseases often occurs. For this reason, physical activity that increases blood pressure is contraindicated. It is necessary to select classes that include cardio training. Such exercises can only be picked up by an experienced trainer.

The patient is also advised to undergo a general examination. Many men experience changes in hormone levels. Hormones cause the formation of sexual arousal. If the level of hormones decreases, the desire to have sex disappears.

Psycho-emotional state

Particular attention should be paid to the psycho-emotional background of the patient. Many men try not to talk about inner experiences. This will help to identify an experienced psychologist. The doctor will conduct a survey and help to get out of the state of isolation. The following phenomena can become the cause of psychoemotional disorders:

  • Negative communication at work;
  • stressful conditions in the family;
  • Internal experiences;
  • Experience of the first sexual relations.

It should be borne in mind that the first sexual experience is of primary importance for the further development of sexual life. Often, many men at the first sex can not control their emotions. This is accompanied by rapid ejaculation. Due to inexperience, the partner may not provide proper support. A man has negative memories. Further sexual life will be accompanied by unpleasant memories. The man begins to avoid sex. To reveal this memory, you should go through several sessions of treatment with a psychologist.

Psycho-emotional changes also occur with negative communication at work. Psychological pressure from the authorities, quarrels and swearing cause stress in a man. In a stressful situation, the patient has a decrease in testosterone production. It is blocked by adrenaline. This phenomenon is accompanied by a decrease in sexual desire. There is sexual peace. Many partners cannot find out about stress, they make scandals. Scandals provoke increased stress, persistent depression is formed.

Depression is also dangerous for the patient, like other diseases. Resistant depression in some cases leads to death.

How to improve sexual performance

The desire to have sex depends on the health of the man. To restore sexual activity, it is necessary to identify the pathology that affected the libido. The patient needs to do the following:

Initially, it is necessary to undergo a complete medical examination. During the examination, special attention is paid to the state of health of the genital organs. The shape and structure of the glands is being studied. If changes are detected, the patient is prescribed treatment. If the disease is not established, then an additional examination is required.

It is also required to establish a hormonal background. Hormones can be detected by donating blood fluid for research. It is necessary to establish the amount of testosterone and estrogen in the blood. With a low level of hormones, hormone therapy is recommended.

If the desire is gone against the background of weight gain, qualified help from a nutritionist is required. It will help you choose the right food. In some cities there are no such specialists. In this case, it is recommended to reduce the intake of fatty and fried foods. Eating is divided into 5-6 meals. The portion is reduced in volume. It is also recommended to increase physical activity. Going in for sports, morning jogging or swimming will help strengthen the muscular frame and increase the protective function of the body.

Psycho-emotional state requires the intervention of a psychologist. This specialist helps the patient overcome internal isolation. A man freely shares his problems. A splash of negative emotions and unpleasant memories helps to recover quickly. A man ceases to be afraid of further negative consequences. Sexual life is restored.

There are many reasons that affect the sexual activity of a man. If any pathological changes occur, it is necessary to visit a doctor. A specialist will help answer the question why there is no desire to have sex.

In this material, we will talk about the desires of a woman, and about those that relate to sexual arousal, and, most importantly, if a woman does not experience it, about what underlies this and how to overcome such problems.

If a woman has no sexual desire, then what to do in such cases?

First, let's talk a little about some other things. For example, if, sitting in the kitchen and talking with a friend on various topics, among others, the problem of intimacy is touched upon, you can talk more about this. A friend says that she is not attracted to a man, and she does not know why. She is married, her husband is a very good person, he does not drink, does not smoke, loves her, takes care of her, but for some reason does not excite her. And everything is here! As a result, sex every time becomes the fulfillment of some kind of heavy duty.

This topic so "nailed" us that suddenly there was silence, and each of us began to sort through the memory of various situations related to intimate life and those moments when there was no desire for bed comforts. In fact, it turned out that we are not the only ones, in almost every life, similar situations happened. Immediately, the memory came with questions related to those methods and ways of increasing sexual desire, if it was partially lost in a woman. True, it has rarely been heard that a woman has a complete lack of libido, but it turns out that this is also possible. Naturally, the computer and the Internet came to the rescue. Yes, the help of a specialized specialist is needed in the first place, but still it was interesting for us to learn everything about what is connected with such a sensitive issue.

What is the sexual desire of the female half?

In fact, it turned out that it is directly related to libido and sexual desire. In turn, both suggest that both sexual partners feel the desire to have sex and are attracted to each other. Each of the adult healthy people should have a sexual desire, which is gradually formed, starting from adolescence. Each stage of life is characterized in its own way in terms of sexual desire.

After searching the Internet, we came to the following conclusions:

  • About 40% of both men and women experience problems in their sexual life from time to time, which are based on various reasons.
  • Most women prefer not to tell their partners what they expect from them in sex.
  • There are cases when such problems are the result of some dysfunctions of a physiological nature.
  • If you look closely at various data, it turns out that more than one third of all women have never felt all the emotions and feelings associated with the onset of orgasm. But if she experiences it at least once, she will look for this feeling all her life.
  • It is absolutely wrong to say that the lack of sexual desire is based on a single problem. A similar problem happens due to the presence of a number of very different factors.
  • Often, excitability is significantly reduced if contraceptives are constantly taken, since the ovaries are in a static position, there is no hormonal renewal.
  • The disappearance (decrease) of intimate desire in women is based on psychological and physiological problems.
  • Much depends on the man, on how he behaves, but it would be wrong to place all the blame solely on the partner.
  • Some of the problems related to the lack of sexual desire can be solved by yourself, but in some cases the help of a sexologist is needed.
  • A set of exercises has been developed, the task of which is to increase blood flow to the genitals and small pelvis, and increase libido. This includes yoga, aerobics and some other physical programs.
  • A decrease in libido is often a natural process, as nature itself regulates the reproductive period, or when it is not the right time to have sex. This includes the incompatibility of partners, the postpartum period, a serious illness, when there is simply no time for sex. But it happens that problems of a physiological nature can develop into pathology.
  • A woman, like children, needs more sleep than men, and as a result, she needs to sleep a little longer than her partner. Then the libido will be in order.
  • In most cases, a decrease in sexual desire is based on a number of factors. Therefore, it is necessary to thoroughly approach the solution of the problem, analyze all the conditions, give a correct assessment.
  • The state of excitability is significantly influenced by the presence of estrogen and testosterone. And not only them.
  • Each lady has her own sexual structure (this can be estimated based on a number of objective conditions). Therefore, her needs are those that are inherent only to her. A good professional, after talking with a woman, can quickly assess her sexual needs.

As a rule, when partners are just starting to meet, their sexual desire is at a fairly high level. But gradually the passion gradually decreases, the man and the woman get used to each other, there are no more secrets, sex becomes to some extent an everyday occurrence (at least it does not excite as it used to). If such an established level satisfies both, then there is no reason to lose desire. But there are situations when, after a certain period, sexual desire completely disappears. A partner becomes uninteresting to a man or woman, they are not attracted to intimacy. If a woman’s desire disappears, then this very significantly affects male pride. It is necessary to analyze all the conditions and reasons that have become the basis for such a decrease in sexual desire.

Causes of problems

The causes of sexual desire problems in females are different. All of the above reasons for which a decrease in the desire for sexual intimacy may occur may have a physiological or psychological origin.

The relationship of the influence of hormones on the decrease in female sexual desire

  • A physiological factor in the suppression of sexual desire can be an imbalance in the body.

Testosterone is the sex hormone responsible for libido for both males and females. The trend of its decline in recent years, unfortunately, occurs ahead of time, that is, before the age of thirty. Sexual activity in women and men decreases due to the fault of another hormone - prolactin. Weakened libido in women is observed after childbirth, while breastfeeding a child.

age factor

  • A physiological factor in women with a decrease in sexual desire may be age-related changes.

Weakening and lack of libido in women can occur when it reaches

premenopausal and menopausal age. The function of the ovaries during this period of time gradually fades away and little estrogen is produced. Sexual intercourse causes an unpleasant feeling and even pain, as the lubrication in the vagina decreases. For many women, the complete rejection of sexual life at this particular age does not bring physical and psychological discomfort.

Disease as a factor in reducing the desire for sexual activity

  • A physiological factor in reducing the desire for sexual intimacy can be both general diseases and gynecological ones.

With diabetes mellitus, cardiovascular pathologies and diseases of the urinary system, small pelvis and other diseases in women, sexual coldness often occurs.

Bad habits and their effect on sex drive

  • To the physiological factor in women with a decrease in sexual desire are habits.

Considered harmful, such as: excessive alcohol consumption, drug addiction and smoking, which contribute to the suppression of sexual desire. Bad habits cause inhibition of nerve impulses in the brain responsible for sexual desire. In the first place are the listed dependencies and the pleasure derived from them.

Vaginismus is a physiological factor in reducing sexual desire in women. With vaginismus, the muscles of the vagina involuntarily contract spasmodically, causing pain during sexual intercourse in both partners. Vaginismus can be caused by experienced sexual harassment, violence, and other similar factors.

Sex drive reduced by infection

  • Various infections in the genitals can become a physiological factor in the absence and decrease in sexual desire.

Such infections are known to cause discomfort in the vulva and vagina. With severe kalpitis, during sexual contact, unpleasant and even painful sensations may occur.

Decreased female libido as a result of psychological disorders

  • The reasons that led to a decrease in sexual desire in women can be completely different.

The reason can be experienced stress, physical fatigue, endless quarrels with a partner, an environment that is not conducive to intimacy, a lack of male understanding of female preferences and desires, as well as other factors. In addition, the reason for the lack of desire for intimacy with a man in a woman can be her religious upbringing, natural shyness and tightness, and maybe some shocks associated with the sexual moments of the fairer sex. Often, men do not take into account women's problems, taking them for ordinary whims, and in fact a woman, at times, takes on the main burden of responsibility for the family: cook lunch or dinner on time, find time to work with children, keep housing in order, etc. , and often she has to combine this with work. It is also worth noting another reason for the lack of libido in young ladies - inexperience or fear of becoming pregnant.

What measures can be taken in the absence of sexual desire in women?

First of all, you need to find the reason for not wanting to have sex. Therapeutic treatment of a sexual ailment can begin with taking antidepressants, homeopathic remedies, as well as attending psychotherapeutic sessions. With a disease such as diabetes, problems with intimate life are also possible, and here a woman should take the treatment of this disease more seriously, which as a result will help improve her quality of life. It is worth noting that in order for the problem with a woman's personal life to disappear completely, the use of drug treatment is not enough, the active participation of her sexual partner is also necessary.

Possible side effects in the treatment of sexual disharmony

During a woman's course of treatment for disharmony in her sexual life, her sleep may be disturbed, headaches often occur, and breast sensitivity often appears. In addition, there may be an increase in vaginal discharge, the appearance of signs of weight gain, an increase in the fat content of the skin, as well as the occurrence of acne. And the use of hormonal drugs often causes an increase in body hair growth.

If a couple has certain intimate problems, you should not delay their resolution as soon as possible, otherwise this circumstance may cause a breakup. Experts recommend giving some rest in sexual relations and diversifying your life with other new sensations. This will help restore sexual attraction to each other, and desire will overwhelm both partners.

Listen to some tips that may come in handy for awakening sexual desire.

First you need to learn how to enjoy, which can be felt by such sense organs as touch, hearing and smell. Pleasure can bring the sound of beautiful music, the smell of your favorite perfume, the taste of delicate fruits. All these moments play a big role in the restoration of female libido. Having created an atmosphere conducive to relaxation and turning on the appropriate music, try to relax and "dissolve" in the beautiful sound of the notes, leaving aside all life's problems. You can add the aroma of familiar perfumes and a vase of ripe peaches to the music ... Such therapy has a positive effect on the awakening of sexual desire and causes a desire to receive gentle caresses and kisses.

Often a woman is not satisfied with her appearance: a figure given to her by nature, facial features that do not fit into the cocoons of beauty, etc. And yet, most often a woman suffers from a sense of her own fullness when she feels sexually unattractive. An ordinary mirror can help here, in which a woman should look more often, finding only positive moments in her reflection. A lady should improve in emphasizing her attractiveness, because the tastes of men can be fundamentally different, and if one likes slender ladies, then others prefer "donuts". Every woman has her own personality and this should be remembered! After all, your personal charisma, your own charm can become the desire of your man!

Sexopathologists unanimously claim that the main point in sexual intimacy is foreplay. And setting aside foreplay for a longer period of time can be a good start to increasing sexual desire. The partner should know that you simply need prolonged caresses, and he needs to be understanding about this. It is also worth stocking up on some sex toys, which will greatly help diversify sex. During sexual intercourse, you can use special gels designed to lubricate the genitals, which, in addition to helping prevent dryness, contain components that stimulate libido. It has been proven that women who devote sufficient time to sex do not suffer from a lack of sexual desire. Therefore, try to make your intimate life full enough!

A woman's sexual desire directly depends on her vitality. Raising the tone, you raise the desire. It has been proven that you can increase sexual desire with the help of physical activity. Elementary 30-minute walks, swimming or jogging will significantly increase the level of libido in women. At the same time, no one says that after running once, you immediately want a man, no. Physical activity should be regular, and special attention should be paid to specific muscle groups responsible for sexual pleasure. Remember the wonderful Kegel exercises - they are just right for such exercises. Moreover, you can perform them several times a day in any place convenient for you: on the street, at home or even on the way to work. Just contract your vaginal opening muscles, and within a few days, the result will be noticeable.

Defeat hormonal failure in your body with the help of a qualified doctor. Usually, hormone therapy is used for women who have recently given birth, nursing mothers, or women who are in the menopause period. In addition, hormonal failure is sometimes observed in women who have experienced severe stress. In any case, in your body there is a lack of testosterone, estrogens and pheromones. Any hormonal medicines that a doctor prescribes for you must be drunk strictly in accordance with the prescription, otherwise there is a risk of deterioration not only in sexual life, but also in health.

It has long been known that proper nutrition can solve many problems, including those of a sexual nature. Increase libido in both sexes can special products - aphrodisiacs. The fire of passion is kindled by spicy food using peppers, onions, garlic, ginger, fennel, cinnamon, cardamom, anise, horseradish and turmeric in the composition of the dish. Clams, oysters, salmon and halibut are considered world famous aphrodisiacs. The fatty acids they contain help increase sexual desire. Among our daily products, erogenous stimulants are also often found, for example, dark chocolate, mangoes, figs, bananas, nuts, eggs, avocados and liver.

In helping women increase their libido, traditional medicine is far from powerless. Herbs most commonly used in these situations are wild yam, aloe, ginseng, damiana, and celery. They are used in various decoctions, tinctures, inhalations, and also as a seasoning for dishes. Aloe can be consumed in its natural form, for example, with honey.

Most problems with a decrease in libido are treated on a psychological level. The reason is the deterioration of relations with a man, quarrels, omissions, conflicts, suspicions destroy sexual life in 80% of cases. Usually, the woman suffers first, and the only solution to the problem is a frank and frank conversation. Tell the man about your suspicions and doubts about him, listen to his position on this matter. The sooner you find the answers to all questions, the sooner you will feel the joy of intercourse again surging over you. However, there are quite neglected cases in which only a psychologist or psychotherapist can help, do not hesitate to contact them.

Add variety to your current sex life, because the boredom and dullness of everyday life always do their job, and without introducing new sparks, your flame of love runs the risk of first dying out, and then completely going out. Act out your fantasies with a man, and perhaps play by his rules. Try to be as open as possible with your partner, do not hide your desires and fantasies from him. A night of revelations is the perfect solution to a problem, especially when it flows smoothly into the fulfillment of your deepest desires.

No wonder women love romantic men so much, in fact, romance is simply vital to prolong female sexual happiness. Everyday life and routine takes all the time we can, it is simply not left for even the simplest things. And the evening with your soulmate, which will be held by candlelight to slow romantic music, promises to be simply unforgettable and will surely awaken your most vivid sexual desires. First of all, such an environment solves the problems of an emotional connection between two loving hearts, you will begin to better understand each other, trust and feel. Do not forget to properly set the table for this event, it should contain not only candles, but also dishes containing aphrodisiacs, as well as light wine. Arrange such evenings every month, and sexual problems will become much less.

We bring to your attention a small dictionary for this article:

  • Orgasm - contractions of the muscles of the vagina and uterus, which occur during sexual intercourse, bringing both physical and moral satisfaction. During one sexual intercourse, a woman is able to experience single and multiple orgasms.
  • Vaginismus is a spasmodic contraction of the vaginal muscles that occurs involuntarily.
  • Frigidity is female sexual coldness. It manifests itself in a significant decrease in the level of libido up to a complete lack of desire to have sexual intercourse, as well as to a complete aversion to sex. It is divided into several types: psychological and physiological, as well as true and imaginary.
  • Libido is the direct desire of a person to have sexual intercourse. Currently, the heyday of libido in women is considered to be between 20 and 22 years of age.
  • Desire is a special state of the human psyche, reflecting his needs in a qualitative form. Desires are divided into many types, including feasible and impossible, regular and one-time, strong and weak, explicit and hidden. Absolutely every person has desires at any time, including the period of sleep.
  • Aphrodisiacs - substances that increase sexual desire for a partner.

Where does everything go and why is this happening? Well, of course, everything is already known with socks and the size of clothes: socks are dragged away and hidden by a malicious sockliner, and trousers and skirts suffer because of dirty small calories that gather in large crowds at night and impudently sew clothes.

It is even known for certain where Mary Poppins disappears - she flies away on a large black umbrella when a fair wind blows. But where do feelings and desires go? Where does the sexual attraction disappear, which was not just there, but which, no doubt, adorned life, making it brighter, richer, richer.

It is unlikely that anyone should explain the difference between rushing home for the sake of love and how because of the need to paint the window or wash the stove (the eyes would not have seen it all). Yes, and banal cooking turns into a real sacrament and witchcraft, when not just food is languishing on the stove or in the oven, but a romantic dinner or snack that will come in handy on the night of love ... But you don’t want anything ...

What happened and why? After all, nothing seems to have happened, everything remains the same, only sexual desire and attraction disappeared, disappeared, evaporated, gone - call it what you want, but there is no desire. There is a bed, sheets and pillows from the latest catalogs, night clothes - in the best traditions of the sex symbol of the twentieth century, Marilyn Monroe, who considered a drop of Chanel No. 5 to be the best and only clothes for the night ... And there is no desire and attraction even on the farthest horizon. What happened and is there any way to fix the situation?

What do the research results say?

Medical research could not ignore such an important area of ​​human life as sexual relations, since here one can see the most direct connection with reproductive function, and with psychological, and even mental health, as a result of which violations of any organs and systems of the body are quite possible.

What were the results of the researchers who dealt with this problem? Sexologists say that if sex is impossible due to a decrease in potency, then in 80% of cases such problems are explained solely by physiological reasons, that is, by any physical diseases that can affect different organs and systems of the body.

However, if sex becomes a problem because sexual desire has disappeared, then in 80% of cases it is caused by psychological problems and psychological factors. From the results of absolutely all studies, only one conclusion can be drawn - the deterioration in the financial situation of the family immediately negatively affects the sexual life of this couple: up to 50% (but not less than 40%) of cases of deterioration in material well-being.

Also, research results convincingly prove that sexual desire disappears under, and under the influence of both acute and chronic stress, as well as with alcohol abuse and with too many cigarettes smoked.

As far as sociological indicators are concerned, research data show that businessmen and top managers suffer from a lack of sexual desire much more often than ordinary employees or workers. In addition, it is noted that in some cases it is not only a lack of desire, but also problems with potency, and this is most often not only a psychological, but a physiological problem.

It is also very alarming that the lack of sexual desire and sexual desire often haunts female leaders who are constantly exposed to stress, and their daily routine can rarely (that is, almost never) be considered not only ideal, but even satisfactory.

According to the results of all the same studies that were conducted in different countries and among people of different social groups, scientists made disappointing conclusions that in some cases the reasons for the lack of sexual desire do not depend on external factors, but on the person himself: a sedentary person can lead to the disappearance of sexual desire. Lifestyle; incorrect and irrational daily routine, in particular, insufficient sleep; constant and systematic malnutrition, especially the abuse of fatty foods; overweight or obesity.

Of course, in such cases, the level of the hormone testosterone decreases in men, which leads not only to a decrease in sexual desire, but also to a decrease in potency, up to complete impotence. In women, hormonal disruptions, provoked by an unhealthy lifestyle, can cause frigidity.

However, it is very important to carefully understand and find out what caused the decrease in sexual desire: are diseases of any organ or system to blame for this, for example, a disease of the cardiovascular system or the genitourinary system, or should the cause be sought elsewhere, for example, in family problems and family relationships.

Twelve main reasons for the extinction of sexual desire

Does the absence of sexual desire mean that there can be no talk of any love? The results of sociological surveys and medical studies show that reduced sex drive absolutely does not mean that love is no more. Love may well remain and even not decrease at all, but the physical component may decrease due to the influence of many different factors, among which are both physiological and psychological.

Of course, each person is individual, so the reasons for each person may be completely different from any others, however, during the research and study of this problem, it was possible to find out which reasons for the decrease in sexual desire in the family are the most typical, that is, the most common.

Reason #1 – Stress

Unfortunately, there is no getting away from stressful situations in our lives - time has become denser, the pace of life has become just crazy and everything is accelerating, distances are growing, the number of contacts is simply gigantic, information does not fit either in the head or in the notebook, even if it is electronic , information systems and gadgets replace live communication…

Against this background, children get sick, relatives require attention, it is necessary to clarify some issues in official institutions, sometimes there are problems at work or some kind of financial problems ...

Sometimes it seems that a person is strong and very successfully copes with all the questions that have piled up, but it has long been known that efficiency and activity can be maintained even under stress, but sexual potential and sexual desire can “fall asleep” so as not to take energy from the body, needed for more important things.

Way out is to deal with stressful situations and stress as a result of such situations.

  1. First, you need to organize your daily routine as clearly as possible, leaving the necessary time for sleep and rest.
  2. Secondly, you need to take care of the most healthy diet.
  3. Thirdly, you should, without the slightest thought, give up all bad habits, especially alcohol and tobacco (so be it, the habit of not washing the cup can be left).
  4. Fourth, at every opportunity you should go out into the fresh air and walk.
  5. Fifth, even if there is no possibility for regular visits to the gym, then at least the fifth floor should be climbed by stairs, and not in an elevator.

You can also use stress-reducing medications, but this should only be done after consulting your doctor. Without consulting a doctor, you can use teas from mint, lemon balm, chamomile, St. John's wort.

Reason #2 - Alcohol Abuse

As for alcohol, many people have a completely wrong impression that alcohol makes sexual relations easier, and sex brighter and more liberated. However, in reality, everything is not quite like that, that is, not at all like that.

Alcohol is a mind-altering substance, as are some recreational drugs or certain medications. On the one hand, what is the pleasure of sex in a state of altered consciousness?

On the other hand, alcohol dulls the senses and sensations, which is also far from the best option. But that's not all: at certain stages of alcoholic intoxication, alcohol "turns off" any sexual desires and possibilities, and if it comes to alcoholism, then sexual life for such people generally becomes almost unreal. So you have to choose: either Big Liter or Big Sex.

Way out. If any problems with sexual life, including a decrease in sexual desire or even impotence, are associated with alcohol abuse, alcoholism should be treated first of all.

Since alcoholism is a chronic disease, it will take more than three days to treat it. In addition, alcoholism can be cured only in one case - when a sick person himself seeks to get rid of his harmful addiction. In all other cases, recovery from alcoholism is unlikely. But is the state of intoxication really worth all the other joys of life?

Reason #3 - Lack of sleep

One of the reasons for the decrease in sexual desire, scientists confidently call the lack of sleep. Of course, if a person does not get enough sleep once or twice, then nothing serious can happen, but if lack of sleep becomes regular, then this can cause serious health problems, including problems with sexual (sexual) desire.

It is known that an insufficient amount of sleep very quickly becomes the cause of fatigue, and fatigue, in turn, practically destroys sexual desire (sexual desire), which is not very surprising - what kind of sexual desire is there if you are deadly sleepy ...

Way out. If sexual desire is reduced due to lack of sleep, then a normal regimen should be restored. It is very important to remember that the average person needs about eight hours of sleep per night, however, the individual rate may vary slightly in one direction or another. The most effective sleep from 22.00.

If you regularly go to bed after midnight, then such a dream will not bring the necessary rest. To improve sleep, you can drink herbal teas and decoctions (mint, lemon balm, valerian, motherwort, chamomile) or warm milk with honey before bed. In cases where sleep disorders cannot be corrected by changes in the regimen for and in lifestyle, a doctor's consultation is necessary.

If a somnologist consultation is not available, then a family doctor or a neurologist should be consulted. Such advice should not be neglected, since sleep disturbances are possible with a variety of diseases, including quite serious ones.

Reason #4 - Children

Of course, children are our joy and our future, but children are our anxiety, our anxiety and our worries. In addition, if parents and children are forced to sleep in the same room, then, of course, sexual desire may well decline.

And it’s one thing when a child is sick and requires constant attention, and another thing when everything is in order with the child, but there is simply no extra space (there are still apartments in which the room is a little more than ten square meters, and the kitchen is no more than four ).

Way out. If the child is healthy and prosperous, then it is quite possible to let him go with an overnight stay with one or another grandmother, purchase a weekend ticket for a teenage child, or at least use the time that the child spends at a music school, with a tutor, for the benefit of his personal life, in training...

In the end, the relationship of the spouses is no less important than washing, cleaning, cooking, and even more so, much more important than sorting out the relationship on an insignificant occasion, which no one can remember later.

Reason #5 - Taking Medications

Many people who complain about a decrease in sex drive do not even suspect that this may be due to the fact that some kind of drug is being taken.

Moreover, the same drug can have completely different effects on different people, so it is almost impossible to predict the result in advance. In addition, it is important to understand that drugs with the same active ingredient, but from different manufacturers, can have completely different effects on the body, including sexual desire.

Of course, any drug does not always have such an effect and not on everyone to the same extent, but you should know in advance which drugs can reduce sexual desire. Such drugs with a possible antisex effect include:

  • any drugs to lower blood pressure (blood pressure);
  • antidepressants, especially prescription drugs;
  • oral contraceptives (birth control pills);
  • antihistamine (antiallergic) drugs.

In addition, drugs that are used in chemotherapy reduce sexual desire; many drugs intended for use in HIV infection; synthetic progesterone (one of the sex hormones); finasteride (a hormonal anticancer drug that is quite often prescribed to treat benign prostatic hyperplasia and male pattern baldness).

Way out. If there is a suspicion that a decrease in sexual desire appeared as a result of taking any drug, then it is necessary to consult the doctor who prescribed such a drug as soon as possible. Perhaps the drug can be replaced with another with the same effect, or change the regimen, or change the dosage.

However, in no case should you make independent decisions, because any of the mentioned drugs are very potent and are really used for serious diseases that can even be life-threatening, which is why self-adjustment of admission is unacceptable.

It is likely that together with the doctor an acceptable solution will be found. By the way, pay attention: drugs for lowering blood pressure and antihistamines, as well as oral contraceptives are taken by a lot of people, both women and men.

Reason #6 - Appearance

Interestingly, sexual desire can be affected by the appearance of both partners, that is, dissatisfaction with the appearance of both. But dissatisfaction can arise only with the appearance of one person, and such an overcritical attitude can arise both in the one whose appearance is being questioned, and in the one who considers himself almost perfect.

Where does dissatisfaction with appearance (one's own or a partner's) come from.

Well, firstly, during the courtship period, the lady appears in front of the gentleman with makeup, hair, manicure, in a thoughtful outfit, all in perfume and in the image; the gentleman, in turn, is washed, shaved, cut, combed, washed and ironed down to his socks.

Secondly, during the candy-bouquet period, everyone remembers many amazing things, for example, the rules of conduct at the table, and many other rules too. But when family happiness becomes a reality and the wedding has already become history, romantic images may well fade: you should shave not only before work, fashionable haircuts and styling - not only “on the way out”, excess weight and sagging sides appear not only from fast food, but also from delicious homemade pies…

Yesterday's quivering doe becomes a "fat cow", yesterday's knight turns into an "unshaven freak" ... What kind of sexual desire is there?

Way out. When deciding to live together, you need to understand that you will certainly have to face the “non-front side of the coin”. If someone is only interested in external data, then maybe the marriage is premature?

Marriage should be built not only on sexual desire and sexual desire, but most importantly, on spiritual unity.

The husband should be ready for the notorious PMS, and for the plump waist of the wife after childbirth, and the wife, in turn, must also take into account in advance that the chosen one is not only a festive promenade.

It is very important to understand that both classes in the gym, and walks in the forest, and massage-solarium-beautician, and oatmeal for breakfast are a way to maintain excellent health and a wonderful appearance for a long time, and at the same time constant sexual desire.

Reason #7 - Overweight

Very often, excess weight, especially if it has already passed into the stage of obesity, causes a decrease in sexual desire. Moreover, this can happen to someone whose weight is out of control, and to someone who was not ready for the fact that the partner can turn into a shapeless mass.

I must say that you can understand both partners: being overweight very often causes a very low sexual desire in a person who suffers from this problem; and a person with a very high weight is not often the object of sexual desire. In addition to other troubles, being overweight causes many health problems, as well as a cause of psychological discomfort.

Way out. In the vast majority of cases, excess weight can be corrected, that is, a person can set a goal to lose weight and achieve this goal. The most important thing is not to try to lose weight in a week, because this is unattainable.

Normal weight loss, when a person also works, that is, deals not only with this problem, is one or two kilograms per week. Believe me, this is a lot - from five to ten kilograms per month. It is very important to understand that effective and healthy weight loss can only be achieved with an integrated approach: a healthy and well-balanced diet (in no case fasting), physical activity, giving up bad habits, enough time in the fresh air.

Reason #8 - Erectile Dysfunction

Sexual desire in men is sometimes reduced as a result of erectile dysfunction, and erectile dysfunction itself is not associated with libido and its decrease. But most men who develop erectile dysfunction worry about the possibility of sexual activity in the future, and it is this concern that can reduce sexual desire.

Way out. In case of erectile dysfunction (problems with erection), it is necessary to consult a specialist for medical help in order to accurately determine the causes of this phenomenon, and then carry out the necessary treatment.

In most cases, erectile dysfunction is treatable and the possibility of a normal sexual life is fully restored. However, it is very important not to postpone the visit to the doctor until "later" and not to self-medicate, which can cause a lot of harm.

Reason #9 - Hormonal Imbalance

Sexual attraction, like many other processes in the human body, is regulated by the endocrine system, that is, by hormones. Therefore, sexual desire (desire) depends on the state of the hormonal system. As for men, the sexual desire they experience depends mainly on the level of the hormone testosterone, which can be different.

It is noted that testosterone levels decrease with age - this is a natural process. However, sexual desire in most cases does not drop to zero, but simply gradually decreases. As for women, their sexual desire is regulated by a whole complex of hormones, so a decrease in sexual desire can be caused by any hormonal imbalance in the body.

The reason for this imbalance may be pregnancy, lactation, taking hormonal contraceptives, especially oral, some diseases of the female genital area, menopause and other conditions of the female body.

Way out. The hormonal system of the body is an extremely delicate mechanism, so you need to carefully monitor your health and in case of the slightest doubt or suspicion that something is going wrong, immediately contact an endocrinologist who will prescribe the necessary treatment.

Reason #10 - Menopause

Medical statistics have reliable figures that cannot but upset: about half of women report a decrease in sexual desire, and exactly the same figures were obtained as a result of surveys of those women who intend / intend not to reduce the activity of their sexual life.

Why does sex drive decrease during menopause?

  1. Firstly, the hormonal background changes, which entails vaginal dryness - as a result, pain occurs during intercourse and sex becomes uncomfortable.
  2. Secondly, sexual desire can be reduced by some drugs that are often taken with age, for example, the same antihypertensive drugs (but they are not alone).
  3. Thirdly, sexual desire may decrease due to constant worries about children, grandchildren, problems at work, health ...

Way out. Unfortunately, a person has no power over age - some changes cannot be avoided. However, a reasonable approach to the regime of the day, to nutrition, to rest, to relationships can work wonders. An autumn woman should feel like a bright and tart viburnum, a magnificent, juicy and sweet bunch of grapes, a luxurious sunny morning, which is slightly sprinkled with frost ...

And this is how it should be seen and perceived by others. And sexual relations will remain harmonious, although they may become somewhat different than several decades ago.

Reason #11 - Depression

Previously, depression was considered a whim and an invention of rich loafers. Now it is quite convincingly proven that depression can very significantly affect all areas of life, including sexual relationships. Everything is dull and dull, nothing pleases, no one can be trusted, life has been lived in vain and completely useless ... Familiar?

This is it, depression, which can pile up after some kind of stress, or it can sneak up completely unnoticed, seemingly without any reason. However, depression most often (almost always) reduces sexual pleasure, because it kills any emotions in general. But depression is not a sentence - it can and should be fought.

Way out. If symptoms of depression appear, you should consult a doctor: it can be a neurologist, a family doctor, or a psychotherapist.

Usually, in cases of depression, non-drug remedies are prescribed, such as normalization of sleep, outdoor recreation, walking, proper nutrition, exercise, positive emotions; and only when non-pharmacological means are not enough, antidepressants are prescribed. However, it should be remembered that it is antidepressants that are often able to reduce sexual desire, so it is absolutely not worth abusing such medications, although the course prescribed by the doctor must be completed in full.

Depression has long been considered not an invention, but rather a serious illness. However, any depression is cured, and the joy and feeling of fullness of life returns.

Reason #12 - Relationship Problems

Among the common reasons for the disappearance of sexual pleasure are problems in relationships. What kind of sex, if no one trusts anyone, everyone yells, swears, or even fights? What kind of sex, if love has long been forgotten, and it is not known whether it was? What kind of sex if just strangers live nearby due to various circumstances?

Way out. Problems in relationships can be temporary, situational. In this case, it is simply necessary to try in every possible way to resolve these problems: talk, figure it out, ask each other for forgiveness, smile at each other, go to the cinema or barbecue together. But if the problems are very deep, if there is no emotional intimacy and emotional understanding for a long time, then it will not be easy to restore relations.

Most likely (even for sure) in such cases, you should contact a psychologist or a psychoanalyst who will help you find the root of evil and eliminate the problem. However, both partners must look for a way out together. And if mutual understanding cannot be restored? ..

conclusions

What to do if the family has lost sexual desire? Don't get excited. First, calmly analyze the situation - has sexual desire disappeared completely or has it simply decreased? What could cause such a change in family relationships? Maybe it's just time to postpone repairs and go to the Mediterranean Sea or the Carpathians?

Maybe funny souvenirs under the pillow will please not only the baby on St. Nicholas Day? Maybe a kind word is pleasant not only for a cat? In a family, sexual attraction is a constant and relentless work: work on your appearance, work on your behavior, work on relationships.

It should never be forgotten that sexual attraction lasts for a long time only to someone who is always interesting, always attractive, always indispensable, unfailingly friendly and ready to help in any situation; and also that good sex is good work.