Quiet life with a powerful man. “The only way to be around a strong man is to be yourself Relationship with a strong man

There is no such woman who would not dream of a strong man. The fair sex wants to forget about problems, worries and finally relax, leaning on a strong and reliable male shoulder. the site offers to consider all the pros and cons of living with a strong man.

A strong man is active and determined, and it is impossible to resist his perseverance. He easily takes responsibility for you and your children, emerges victorious from the most difficult situations, with him you can not worry about the material side of life and be just a weak woman.

But are the women who managed to become the legal wives of these delightful machos so lucky? Is life really easy and cloudless with strong men?

Unfortunately, what looks cute and romantic during courtship is family life can become a difficult problem. In some situations, the much-loved pluses of the beloved “strong man” turn into terrible minuses, with which you also have to learn to live.

From responsibility to despotism

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Anya dreamed of marrying a strong man all her life. And she was lucky to meet just such. Soon after weddings Alexey said that Anya should quit her job, because he earns well, and a woman should not strain. Anya liked such care, and she resigned without regret. At first, the girl enjoyed the arrangement of life and raising children.

When the children grew up, Anya got bored, realizing that she really wanted to realize her ambitions. She told her husband that she was thinking about returning to work. Alexei's indignation knew no bounds: “You offend me very much. Are you not happy with me and I am not fulfilling your needs? If you're bored, let's have another baby." Anya had to forget about her career plans under the threat of a break in relations.

A strong man surrounds a woman with care and attention. He does everything to ensure that she does not need anything. And, therefore, if the wife shows independence in obtaining money or makes career plans, he perceives this as a personal insult.

A strong man considers himself the head and breadwinner in the family, so he perceives your attempts at self-realization as disbelief in his masculine qualities. All this leads to the fact that the wife is gradually deprived not only of the opportunity to work, but also to study, communicate with friends and have fun without her husband.

This is exactly what happened to Lena. She lives in a luxurious house, from which she almost never leaves. The husband is very tired at work and therefore does not accept any secular life. However, he also forbids Lena to meet with friends and attend cultural events. He believes that he gives his wife everything she wants, and considers her communication with her friends superfluous. When do they travel relaxation, her husband does not allow her to leave the hotel without him. Since sights and excursions do not interest him, the family sticks out on the beach all day without any opportunity to have fun. In order not to quarrel with her husband, Lena leads a double life: she secretly meets with friends and carefully hides her studies at the correspondence department of the institute from her husband. She is constantly afraid that her husband will find out her secret.

Sometimes a strong man is not opposed to his wife working. But in this case, he tries in every possible way to belittle the value of her work. Masha faced a similar situation. Husband bought her a small business and now constantly chuckles at Masha's attempts to earn money. He believes that such work is a good toy for a bored woman, nothing more.

On the other hand, there is a special type of strong men - perfectionists. They try their best to make an ideal out of their wife. Such a husband forces his wife to study and work exactly where it is prestigious, only so that she meets his high standards, and he could brag about her among friends and business partners.

The woman is actually "behind a stone wall" that separates her from the outside world and her own desires. She feels infantile and dependent at best, and depressed and sick at worst. Such mental anguish can result in real illnesses.

The lack of self-expression and freedom turns into a protracted depression allergies, endless headaches, etc. It turns out that a woman pays with her freedom for the opportunity to be weak.

Paradoxical Desires

About responsibility

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Nastya liked that Oleg took full responsibility for solving all domestic and material problems. When the spouses started home repairs, Oleg did everything himself: from the choice of building materials to the purchase of curtains. Nastya also wanted to participate in the arrangement of the house, but her husband did not give her any chance. Everything should be just the way Oleg wants - he did not even entrust the choice of carpet and dishes to his wife.

Soon Nastya realized that Oleg decides EVERYTHING in their family: where to go on vacation, who to invite to visit, where the children should study and how to spend the weekend. Oleg constantly demanded from Nastya a report on what she was doing, and was angry if she did not pick up the phone on time. Nastya increasingly felt depressed and dependent, she only had to obey the will of her husband.

That's the other side of responsibility self-confidence and active life position. A strong man believes that only he knows how and what to do, he is sure that he is absolutely right, and in order for everything to work out as planned, the process must be controlled.

Often his hyper-responsibility turns into obsessive control, and even despotism. And the whole point is his confidence that if he took up the matter, he will bring it to the end and no one will cope with it better than himself.

A woman in such a situation feels absolutely dependent on her husband, she is offended by the fact that her opinion and desires are not taken into account.

Strong character

Once Olya, seeing how her husband could not solve a serious problem for the second hour, tried to give him advice. In response, she heard an irritated monologue about the role of a woman in a man's life. “I myself know what to do and do not need anyone’s advice!” he finished his angry tirade.

Unfortunately, the flip side of a strong character can be a reluctance to listen to the opinions of other people. The ability to stand up for oneself and fighting qualities turn into conflict and irritability.

Any expression of one's own opinion can become a serious test for the wife and develop into a conflict. The same goes for children. The man is in charge of the house, period.

How to build relationships

Submission or struggle?

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Often women who live with strong men face just such a problem. What tactics to choose to save the relationship and yourself?

On the one hand, strong the male demands complete submission from a woman, providing her with protection, care and the opportunity to be weak in exchange for obedience. But the paradox is that by demanding submission and having achieved it, a man loses interest in such a woman, and sometimes even ceases to respect her.

If a woman begins to challenge his influence and resist, endless conflicts begin in the family, which turn two strong personalities into enemies, and in most cases lead to divorce.

Women also do not differ in consistency. On the one hand, they want to be weak and completely trust a man. On the other hand, they get tired of obeying and depending on a man all the time, they want to show their power and original nature.

At the same time, when a man allows them to, they complain that he is weak. It turns out that a strong man does not give us the opportunity for self-expression, and a weak man prevents us from relaxing and feeling like just women.

A paradoxical situation arises from which there is no clear way out. So, what to do if you live with a strong man and experience both the pros and cons of his active nature?

The most important thing in such cases is to learn how to protect your personal space and live life to the fullest, while maintaining a good relationship with your husband and all the advantages of a weak woman. So:

Forget about fighting for your rights and blind submission, both of these paths are not effective.

Learn to interest your husband in your desires, to make him understand why he needs it. For example, Tanya, whose husband was against her work, acted as follows.

She told him that she loved him very much and appreciated that he was protecting her from all sorts of worldly storms. And that it is thanks to his care that she can afford to do exactly what she likes.

She also assured her husband that her work would not interfere with the family, and the children would love and respect their mother even more for her successes, and he himself could be proud of her.

Protect your interests. Learn to explain what and why you do not like, and what you really want. Argument your point of view.

Kyiv journalists and hosts of the social project "Between Us" Natalia Kruchinina and Viktoria Mogilnaya talked for "Matron" with Xenia Parjiani, the owner of two hotels and a small farm in Svaneti, a historical mountainous region in the north-west of Georgia, about the sacred attitude to “litter in the hut”, the difference in mentalities and the silence of Georgian women.

Opening wide the windows in the hotel "Laleta", you can wake up to get lost in your own location on the map. The view of majestic snow-capped mountains and verdant meadows is easily confused with the Swiss Alps. However, we did not come to the Alps, but to Svaneti, in order to eagerly inhale its air, customs and mores. Somewhere in the courtyard, the voice of the hostess is heard - “Modyak!” in Georgian - and it brings us back to reality.

Ksenia is not at all like a local, but she exudes confidence and hospitality. She is from Novosibirsk, she married Gigla, and she remained in the mountains. Make a revolution, develop business and be a real Svan wife. Sometimes the sly eyes of the youngest daughter peek out from behind her skirt, while the eldest intercepts her little brother from her mother's arms. Hilarion is a typical Svan. Red-haired and blue-eyed. A bright representative of the ancient Georgian ethnic group. Judging by the fact that it is advisable not to appear in shorts and especially swimsuits on the territory of the hotel, Svaneti is still the most “conserved” part of Georgia.

HOW IT ALL BEGAN

Xenia, please tell me everything in order. How did you get here? Surely this was preceded by a love story?

The story took place in the heart of my hometown of Novosibirsk. We met quite by accident. Before that, I had never been to Georgia and, to be honest, I didn’t know much about it. But when it turned out that my future husband would be a Svan, I asked Google what kind of land this was.

Your family, friends were surprised by this choice of the groom?

Rather, they were surprised at the very fact of an interethnic marriage, but when they saw us together, no one doubted that everything was going right.

Yes, Novosibirsk is a bit far for a Svan…

Despite the complicated relations between the countries in the early 90s, Georgia and Russia are connected by a long history. Family and friendly ties between people were maintained both during the Union and after its collapse. So did my husband: he came to visit friends of his aunt, professors from the Novosibirsk Academgorodok, but in the end he stayed to live. He graduated from the Civil Engineering University and opened his own business. Then there was our marriage, the birth of a daughter. When I moved to Svaneti, my life changed dramatically. Much of what I was used to living in a big city was not here. I had to learn to live again, learn new skills. I was interested in developing myself and developing the space around me. It turned out that I learned from the locals, and they learned from me.

My husband and I founded a non-governmental organization that was engaged in the development of our community. In my spare time, I blog. Svaneti.livejournal.com appeared in 2009 and within a few months the blog had several thousand visitors per month. I started researching the Svan culture, its traditions, because I needed to find my place. She studied, asked - who lives how, what kind of relations in the family, between relatives, with children, with those who were born, with the dead. Learning individual facts and legends, I described them in a blog, and so in our village there was a need for a hotel.

Readers began to ask: “We want to come, is it possible to stay with you?” I replied that, unfortunately, I had nothing to offer them. Our environment was primitive. But they insisted: “We don’t need the situation, we are going to see you, talk to you and we will feel more comfortable if we stay with a Slav woman.” By the way, the first guests were from Ukraine, three girls…

Afraid of being stolen?

Probably... Then a Ukrainian came and wrote to me that he wanted to help build the church. Deep believer, Vitaly. Three years later he came to visit us with his wife. I was pleased that such people began to visit these places - open, interested. They came for the soul, not the soul.

Now they often say to me: everything is too good for you, you have two hotels, a travel agency. But I started from scratch, in a dilapidated house, where no one even dreamed of a hotel. The project was born ... by itself, in a natural way.

Some time after the first guests, we decided to take out a loan to make major repairs. We started with one room. And step by step, they completely renovated the whole house, where the rooms of our hotel are now located. Then another hostel was built.

Do you feel the envy of your fellow villagers regarding your own achievements?

Anything happened, but my mother-in-law is a model of diplomacy, she solves all issues calmly, without emotions. When my husband is overly worried, his mother-in-law advises him to be calmer, because any aggression, any conflict in the future can lead to unpredictable consequences. She taught me to interact even with those who could say an unkind word behind my back. I greet them, smile, always on good terms, if there is an opportunity to help, I will always help. Women in the village make amazing works with their hands, various national souvenirs, and I sell it in my hotel. Tourists are very interested in local souvenirs. The more women I involve in a common cause, the more people are cordially disposed towards me. This is how we support each other.

THE MOST IMPORTANT DISCOVERY IN MY LIFE

Let's get back to tradition. We were amazed in the morning watching the oxen pulling the plows across the field.

This is not a tribute to tradition, but a necessity, a way of life. For these people, the bull performs many different functions - it is both meat and labor. Peasants have no financial opportunity to hire a tractor, and subsistence farming is the only source of food for most mountain dwellers. And it’s actually better to plow with a bull, it doesn’t turn over the fertile soil layer like a tractor. The bull goes more, as they say now, more ecologically, and the land gives a greater harvest. So "backwardness" from progress sometimes justifies itself.

In Ukraine they say that office workers do not see life...

It is difficult to say what is better - to be subordinate to someone or to be subordinate to your business. In any case, it is more pleasant for us to live in freedom, on our own land, to raise children, to eat our own food.

What it's like to be a woman in Svaneti?

Historically, a Svan woman has always been in the same team with a man. Her physical weakness was offset by her extraordinary capacity for work. It allows you to keep thousands of things in your head - both raising children, and farming, and caring for cows, pigs, chickens, haymaking, harvesting, etc. If you have not prepared everything you need in the season, then your family will remain hungry. I have mastered this skill. But all the time you have to think six months ahead, so that everywhere everything is full and not depleted.

Everything that concerns the house, the economy is the territory of a woman. But those cases that require any external contacts, she practically does not touch.

I want to make a reservation right away that this is my feeling, as a person who came from another culture to a new space for me. It seems to me that the forced neighborhood of women is fraught with the absence of real trusting, friendly relations between women in Svaneti. I don't know whether modernity has made its own adjustments or whether this way of life was present in Georgia a thousand years ago.

According to my feelings, the concept of "female friendship" does not exist here. A woman does not have the opportunity to relax, and this is sometimes so important for us - “to cry in a vest”. A friend is the best psychotherapist, isn't she? Here, any "cry in the vest", talk about your problems can cost you your reputation, honor. Any word can be ambivalently interpreted by another woman.

Well, there are mothers-in-law who are on the side of the daughter-in-law, for example ...

Here parents are always on the side of the clan and its interests. The son is not always right, the daughter-in-law is not always right, the goal is different - who stands on the side of the clan for the sake of its strength, its strength? A smart mother-in-law always takes care of strengthening the clan.

They say here that tests are given according to one's strength. And I often hear from my mother-in-law that while we are young, we have a lot of strength, and we can do more than we think. In Svaneti, women work hard, especially when they are young. Maybe that's why they want to take their souls and gossip? ( laughing). And this is where the most important task lies - not to give a reason to speak badly about yourself and your family.

The impossibility to relax, to cry on the shoulder of the mother-in-law is compensated by the fact that her authority protects the whole family from some bad things?

Of course. But I, like all women living here, can only allow many things with my mother. Relations between mother and daughter in Svaneti are very warm. Even after getting married and leaving for another village or another city, women often visit their father's house. It seems to me that they yearn for parental warmth, "relaxation", a confidential atmosphere.

Is mom coming?

Thank God it's coming. A week, two, three nearby - and this is happiness.

How do local women communicate with each other?

They are very fond of going to common village holidays. Then women sit separately from men and communicate only on women's topics. Someone will be surprised that women are sitting separately. But the reason is quite simple: it is more comfortable for both men and women. There is no oppression of women in Svaneti, they can both drink and talk at the table on an equal basis with men, another thing is that this is not the most correct equality, and no one abuses these opportunities.

Can you single out any one circumstance that was the hardest for you to bear? In addition to the lack of female friendship.

I had to grow up and grow up very quickly. It turned out that neither the presence of children and a husband, nor age, nor education, can make a woman emotionally mature, or, as they say, wise. The fact that I was far from the "artificial" sources of inspiration of modern civilization made me turn to my inner resources, and I found a lot of interesting and useful things there. But it wasn't easy for me. It was a difficult stage of accepting and taking full responsibility for all the steps taken in life - both right and wrong. I'm here because I wanted to and want to. The most important discovery in my life: family and home is not a prison.

Despite the remoteness from the “world”, I no longer feel inferior. And earlier it seemed to me that I would go crazy from monotony and limitation. True, now my family and I have a busy life. Not all visiting guests believe this. Many sympathize with our difficult life, some are taken to argue - why deprive your children of the future and live in the countryside? And what is it, the future? Now you can get any education remotely. The network has a lot of lectures from leading universities in the world. The only question is how to apply the acquired knowledge. My husband and I work so hard, among other things, to give children the basis for the opportunity to develop. And there let everyone choose a thing to their liking.

Does that mean you have to make excuses?

We travel far less than all of our guests. But hosting hundreds of tourists from all over the world in your home is not a trip?

"What is the strength in, brother?"

The correct Svan woman is the one who does not take dirty linen out of the hut. And the man?

In my opinion, a Svan man is a strong man. Strong not only physically, but also emotionally. Svan will first weigh each word, and then pronounce it. Apparently, historical memory is affecting. Here, in ancient times, people could be killed for a rude word.

Unfortunately, recently I began to notice that men are lost. Today it is important to own a computer, to be able to keep documentation. Residents of the regions, of course, are inferior in this to the city. The knowledge that was important in Svaneti some 40-50 years ago is now of little use. In this regard, women are more mobile and easier to train, because female labor is more in demand and better paid. Due to the fact that Svaneti has become a popular resort, the tourism sector is developing here, where personnel are constantly needed (cooks, administrators, cleaners, and this is a purely female job).

What, in your opinion, are the differences between the mentality of Slavic and Svan men?

Slavic men, it seems to me, rarely draw their male resource from the family. Work occupies the main part of their lives, they feel confident in communicating with friends. If you didn’t take place socially, didn’t “fly up”, then you’re not a man, as it were. Here, this desire to be “at the top”, to reach the top of the career ladder, to be honest, I have not met.

To become strong, to make your family strong, to raise your children to their feet, to have a good house, normal food, clothes - that's the main thing. It's not about physical strength. About the inner strength that helps a person to be first of all a person. The rest are ways to achieve prosperity for your family. Men are very attached to their home and family. And family comes first for them. This is their source of life energy.

In Svaneti, you will often hear that my great-grandfather was a blacksmith, my grandfather was a blacksmith, that's how much he did, he built those towers, and what am I? I have to restore the house they were building. Money is only a means for the prosperity of the family. My husband is already planning what he will pass on to his son. He says he will work with me at the sawmill, go to the forest for firewood. I laugh, I say: "Let's wait a bit, because my son is only 9 months old."

But male friendship is not forbidden in your country?

No friendship is allowed. The question is how people manifest themselves in these relationships. I notice that Svan men communicate more often on some business. All the villagers are either neighbors or relatives, they will always find something to discuss and how to help. I notice that my husband has mostly business relationships, which, of course, are not devoid of mutual respect, trust, and support.

About women's dignity and happiness

Even being in outwardly more comfortable conditions, many women, however, are unhappy in marriage. They no longer see the best in their husbands, which once allowed them to decide and make their choice, to say “yes!” at the altar. What prevents a modern woman from finding harmony in love, in your opinion?

My version is too much external noise. You are advised and taught from the TV screen, from the covers of fashion magazines, various Internet resources on psychology. Do you know how much this external noise affects the true, inner "I", forms the character of teenage girls? Often, exchanging for all this external husk, they forget - what are they real? Girls today absorb life values ​​from social networks. In this regard, children in Svaneti are less informed and more free from modern imposed standards. They absorb age-old traditions by watching adults. There is a tremendous opportunity to see yourself in real light, without noise.

In my youth, I also had a conflict between external and internal. What kind of harmony can we talk about when you are painfully trying to please everyone, ceasing to be yourself? When I met my husband, I realized that I didn’t need to build anything out of myself with him, because everything is in me. He always reminds me of what is real in me, and emphasizes that he loves this. He hears only one type of my desires - what I really want. The only way to be around a strong man is to be yourself. Very hard. But incredibly correct and comfortable. For me.

Does he also speak to his daughters? Or is the upbringing of girls more in the power of the mother?

I don’t specifically teach girls anything, I just live next to them. I think a father should teach. He must teach to interact with men, with the outside world. I feel that this is more correct: he sees many nuances outside better, while I am more focused on the house and try not to forget about spiritual, emotional development.

Where can family people look for a resource for inspiration so as not to despair?

This is purely individual. I have learned to find it in myself. And in each situation I act differently. I call my mom, for example. Sometimes a letter from a friend, a glass of red wine, a trip to the city, shopping, a manicure can revive. When my husband sees that I need to unwind, he not only does not forbid me, but supports me in every possible way, stays with the children. Basically, I try to keep all these little joys inseparable from children. And we all go together.

What surprises you the most about Georgian women?

Probably humility. For us, Slavs, any humility is a synonym for humility, but by no means a source of life. And it seems to me that there is so much feminine dignity in humility! Thanks to him, a huge amount of internal resources opens up. Humility for a woman is following her nature, allowing herself to be weak.

Weak?

No, it's not that weakness. To follow your desires and needs, you need to take the right place next to a man, shifting responsibility for many decisions to him. In order to decide on this, the effort of a “not weak” woman is needed.

There is such a legend or parable. Two bulls went uphill together, in one harness, one bull was stronger, the other weaker, and the burden was very heavy, at the limit of their strength. What did the weaker bull do, do you think?

Did not interfere with the stronger?

No, he took on even more, because he understood that he was weaker, but did not want the strong one to overstrain. In the end, both pulled with equal force. Humility is about it. In this connection, you are weaker, but you can even more than a man, you can equally participate in the construction of a family ship. For example, emotional support. A woman knows how to stay awake for years until all her teeth come out. And an interrupted dream makes a man completely broken. There are many differences, but when two people love each other, they do one thing well. The result is mutual understanding. This is family happiness, in my opinion.

And when did it boil? Can you “let off steam”, quarrel? Probably not for everyone?

It is possible for everyone. It depends on what moment we are caught by this "boiled". Let's blow off steam and move on. The ordinary life of ordinary people.

And the last question - what are your plans for the future? What are you dreaming about?

My husband and I dream of going on a trip. Together. We missed being together so much, talking together, listening to each other, looking into each other's eyes, holding each other's hands - these are very simple things, but we missed them very much. We only regret that time is running inexorably, and we are already such adults. We dream of being somewhere where there is no one, where you can concentrate on yourself, even for a short period of time. This space is sorely lacking.

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Greetings lady!

How to meet a strong man, if there are a limited number of them?

Is it possible to influence YOUR darling and make him courageous and independent?

That is what we will be talking about today.

Indeed, the reality is that there are not as many mature real men as we would like.

This is influenced by the peculiarities of upbringing and the unwillingness of mothers to let their sons go into independent life.

But it is in our feminine power to "grow" the man we love, if we ourselves are mature.

And the signs of maturity are:

perception of life as perfect and harmonious
lack of resentment, irritation, anger, hatred, jealousy, envy
the absence of pride is the ability to see God in every person.
full responsibility for your life - understanding - "everything that is now in my life is the work of my own hands"
From a state of maturity, you can help your man become strong, courageous, and decisive in a short period of time.

After all, when we are mature, we are invulnerable. We are not easy to "hook for emotions. We are able to accept everything that will happen during the period of "growing up" of our beloved.

You will need patience and female wisdom.

So, the algorithm for “strengthening” a man:

Accept him for who he is and try to see his strengths.
This may seem like a no-brainer. Focus only on this.

For example, he is kind and affectionate. He does quality work. He is attentive and caring.

Show him his strengths every day.
"I like your attention to me." "I appreciate the way you care." "You are a professional"

Speak correctly about those things that you want to strengthen in it.
Remember the situations where the desired qualities were manifested and convey to him.

“I loved your determination a year ago when you changed jobs to better paying ones.” “I remember my delight at your courage at the beginning of our relationship.” “When these qualities manifest in you, I feel especially happy with you.”

Let him make decisions for himself and for the two of you.
Don't interfere even when he asks.

“I believe that you will figure it out yourself, you are smart with me.”

Close your eyes to his mistakes.
And they definitely will. Repeat to yourself in your thoughts "he can handle it himself, I'm not interfering."

Support his ideas, even if they seem unrealistic.
"Yes, I believe that you can realize it."

Forgive him for his rudeness, aggression, which will manifest itself as his masculinity is revealed.
Can you imagine how many years he suppressed negative emotions in himself? This process is inevitable. Here you will especially need the ability to accept a person and love him in different manifestations. Of course, you can ask him to be more gentle with you, but without condemnation and resentment.

In no case do not argue with him, do not prove your point of view.
Each person has his own worldview and each is right in his own way. Try to follow the course of his thoughts and calmly state your opinion.

“Interesting opinion. Did not think about it. These are my thoughts on the matter."

Talk about your desires. But don't ask for anything.
"I want to live with you in a big beautiful house." "I want to go on a trip around the world with you."

Trust the flow of life and embrace change with gratitude.
Slowly, there will be a shift in roles in a pair. He - will take the male role, you - the female. This process may not seem easy. Since it is necessary to give leadership into his hands. And you, perhaps, are already used to the fact that your word is the last.

And, of course, be that inspiring woman for whom you want to change! Shine, open up, smile!

Be sexy and beautiful!

Perhaps one of you will object: “Why should I do so much for him? I'm not his mother!

Of course they shouldn't. This is every woman's choice.

If you love your man and feel that you are ready to devote months, or even years, to strengthening the masculine principle in him, I congratulate you. Soon you will be living the life you dreamed of. You have no idea what a strong, loving and grateful man is capable of.

If there is no such readiness yet, do not be discouraged. Direct your forces to the disclosure of your femininity, sensitivity, lightness, wisdom.

Become mature and you will forever provide a strong shoulder next to you!

After all, if suddenly you do not meet a strong man - you can easily make him so! J

As you already understood, the key to everything is your own maturity.

I wish you patience and wisdom!

See life as a game! And you will succeed! 🙂

From time immemorial, it has been believed in society that a man should be strong. It is so true that women love strong men, and everyone wants to see a man next to them so that they can completely rely on him, forget about all grief and worries and just relax, leaning on a reliable and strong male shoulder.

A real strong man is determined, active and persistent. With him, you can not be afraid of anything and be a weak woman. For many years, a strong man in the eyes of the fair sex is made by his responsibility for children and his wife, courage in resolving difficult situations and hard work.

Today, most married couples can be divided into two types of unions:

• strong woman and strong man. This option is extremely rare, because the representatives of the stronger sex often simply avoid their own kind of ladies. Two leaders will never divide the territory equally and will forever fight for supremacy. But in the event that a woman plays the role of a weak one, at least sometimes, the union can turn out to be very successful;
• strong man and weak woman. Such couples are much more harmonious. A woman who is led does not pretend to be a leader, but her husband, on the contrary, feels like the strongest man next to her.

In fact, life with strong men is far from cloudless. They also have serious flaws that a woman is forced to put up with, what seems romantic during courtship can be disappointing in a life together.

Disadvantages of strong men

1. A strong man feels himself the head of the family and its breadwinner, therefore he considers attempts at self-realization as something that his wife does not believe in him. Over time, the spouse is gradually deprived of the opportunity to work, study, meet girlfriends, and have fun without a spouse.
2. It happens that a man does not object to his wife working, but at the same time he underestimates the value of her work in every possible way, considering such work to be nothing more than a toy for a languishing woman.
3. There are also perfectionists - a special type of strong men. He tries in every way to make an ideal out of his wife: he makes his wife work and study only where, in his opinion, it is prestigious, so that she meets his standards, and he can boast of her among colleagues and friends. The woman is separated from the outside world and her desires. She feels infantile, completely dependent, at worst sick and depressed. Such mental anguish can contribute to the emergence of real diseases. Lack of freedom and self-expression contributes to headaches, depression, allergies. It turns out that a woman gives up her freedom for the opportunity to be weak.
4. The reverse side of the confidence and responsibility of a strong man is that he decides everything autocratically and for his wife too, only he only knows what and how to do it right, and in order to achieve the desired result, everything must be under control, which is sometimes very intrusive and turns into despotism. A woman feels dependent on her husband, offended that her wishes and opinions are not taken into account.
5. The ability to defend oneself turns into irritability and conflict, and any expression of one's opinion can lead to a scandal. The man is in charge and this is not discussed.

Often women do not know how to interact with a strong man in order to save the relationship and not lose themselves. First of all, he needs complete submission, in exchange for providing care and protection. However, having achieved submission, a man loses interest and respect for a woman. When a young lady resists and challenges her husband's influence, begins a series of endless conflicts that lead to divorce.

Women are also not consistent: they want to be weak and rely on a man, but at the same time they are not satisfied with being in a dependent position and obeying him. I want to show power and independence. When a man allows it, they complain about his weakness. It turns out that a strong and weak man do not fully suit a woman. One does not allow her to express herself, and the other does not allow her to relax and feel like a woman. On the other hand, ideal people do not exist and in the end everything depends on us.

In addition to the stereotype that men love girls, football, cars, they are much more complex creatures. For example, if a woman tends to show most of her feelings in public, whether it be tears or laughter, then men keep most of their feelings to themselves and do not show others. Men are more closed personalities than women.

But for all that, every man is unique and no one is the same, although in different situations their actions are similar. Sometimes they can be very cruel, and sometimes too soft, they treat women differently. Just these differences are studied by male psychology.

Often girls do not understand the behavior of guys, and then a completely logical question arises: how to understand a man and build a balanced and healthy relationship with him. To do this, we will tell you some features of male psychology.

It's no secret that girls and guys differ in appearance, body structure, thinking and outlook on the world. No wonder they say that women are from Venus and men are from Mars. It can be difficult for women to understand a man, especially if he is emotionally restrained. For a man, emotional restraint is quite normal, because since childhood he has always been taught that he is a man and should be strong and not show his pain. Therefore, it is often very difficult for a woman to understand a man.

In order to understand the psychology of men as deeply as possible, it is necessary to return to their childhood and pay attention to how today's men were brought up.

Psychology of men says that since childhood, boys have been interested not in dolls with dresses and playing mother-daughters, but in completely different things. They like to climb roofs, trees, make something out of wood. They are interested in how a homemade bomb, firecracker, etc. is made. They are more likely than girls to scratch, fall, tear their knees, break their arms and legs. From childhood, boys like everything to be concrete, clear and precise. They like concrete action, not reasoning. Since childhood, boys strive for success, self-realization.

And somewhere in the depths of their consciousness, they understand that they need to build, conquer, strive for the best, assert themselves, and make others respect themselves. Self-respect for guys is a very important moment in the development of personality. If he is respected, then he is worth something, if not, then the boy begins to have complexes. Without self-respect and respect from friends and relatives, a guy cannot even like a girl, because he does not have an inner core, and he does not know what his own dignity is. Guys tend to constantly prove to themselves and everyone else that he is the most, the most ....

But, like girls, boys sometimes want to be capricious, whimper, cry. I want to be hugged and comforted, caressed, made pleasant. In any case, men, like women, need the moral and psychological support that his mother provided him in childhood. In adult life, this duty falls on the shoulders of a girl or wife. It depends on how a man adapts to the world around him, how he will realize himself, build, buy, conquer, etc.

In psychology, it is customary to compare men to dogs (apart from the fact of fidelity), as there are some psychological similarities. And you will see it for yourself now.

Firstly, despite the fact that men are rude and tough, they are very fond of affection and attention. They love to be warmed on their chests to be praised. Dogs, when the owner comes home, rush to him, wag their tail, and wait to be petted and patted. So men, when they come home from work, they wait for their wife to meet them, hug them, kiss them. It happens that they come with a salary, gifts, or they have some kind of achievement. They tell their wife and wait for her to praise him.

Dogs love to follow the commands and orders of the owners. So are men, they will gladly fulfill any request of their wife, the main thing is that this request be feasible, simple, specific and understandable. Also, it must be repeated not once or twice, but many, many times. Do not think that a man will guess what he needs to do.

Dogs love to play with different toys. So men love toys. For them, it can be computer games, sports games, even fishing. If they are not allowed to play, they quickly grow old, dumb and fat, just like dogs.

Dogs love their kennel, and they love to lie there, and that no one touches them there. They do not like leashes, especially short ones. The psychology of men shows that men are very similar to dogs in this. Men also like to be alone in their free time or just lie on the couch. Men, like dogs, also do not like short leashes. They do not like to give an account all the time: where they were, with whom they went, what they spent money on, etc.

Well, the most elementary thing is that men, like dogs, love to eat delicious food. For a dog, this is his favorite bone, and for a man, this is a delicious lunch.

How to win a man?

For many girls, the question arises - how to win a man for all his eccentricity? We'll give you some tricks, but don't forget that every situation is not a standard situation, and your twist is always welcome.

Before you start winning the heart of a man, think carefully about whether you need him at all. Find out through acquaintances how he "breathes and lives." This will not be difficult, especially if you have mutual friends. If not, then you can look at his page on the social network. If everything that you have learned about him suits you, and you have not changed your mind, then you can proceed to the main actions.

The most important thing in this business is your personality and your zest. Do not forget about this, as men immediately feel pretense. Make him "hunt" you. But be careful not to overdo it. When men see that a girl is completely impregnable, they lose interest in hunting.

In order to make this hunt interesting for both him and you, create intrigue. Make him think about how to please you. There is no single way here. It all depends on the situation, on him and on you. So it's better to rely on intuition.

Men love when a girl can be different in different situations. For example, with friends she is talkative, cheerful, laughing, or vice versa modest and shy. You can play in contrast: at first burst into laughter, and then suddenly become sad. The main thing is to be close to him so that he notices this change in behavior. This will be an occasion for a conversation in which you can show your vulnerability. And if at the same time you show him that only he cheers you up, then his sympathy for you is guaranteed.

You also need to show him that you can listen. To do this, you can go to the cinema or some other entertainment place and play the role of an attentive listener. So you can decide for yourself whether he is interesting to you, or his conversations are boring and unpleasant for you. If this turns out to be the case, then at this stage of the relationship you can stop and no one will be hurt.

Another point that should not be forgotten is that the path to any man lies through his stomach. And indeed it is. All men love tasty and satisfying food. So if you know how to cook deliciously, take advantage of this. If not, then urgently learn it.

The most important thing in all this intrigue is not to overdo it, otherwise the guy may get scared, and eventually run away.

In addition to the relationship between a man and a woman, there is psychology of relationships between men. These relationships are the basis of our society, because basically, whatever one may say, men, whether it be work, friends, communicate mainly with men. And the atmosphere of society depends on how their relationship develops. Relations between men can be formal and informal.

Let's talk about formal relationships between men. This type of relationship includes the relationship of men with colleagues - men, work partners, friends. By virtue of their character and nature, men, when communicating with each other, try to show that they are worth something, that they are strong and self-confident. Therefore, when they communicate with each other, most often they do not show their real feelings and emotions. But any man will still try to get to know his interlocutor better.

Psychology of men all relationships between men are divided into 3 types:

• rivalry;
• male friendship;
• informal relationships;

Rivalry can also be of a different nature. Rivalry may be at work. Such rivalry most often has a positive effect on a man. This gives a reason to learn something new and hitherto unknown. It is also a good incentive.

Another kind of rivalry between men is the rivalry for a woman. For the loser, this fight becomes a reason for depression, loss of interest in what was happening around, a decrease in self-esteem, etc.

Male friendship is not comparable to female friendship. Male friendship is less common and more difficult to form. But if it is formed, then for many years. If a man has a true friend, then for his sake he will do anything, no matter what it costs him. The only thing that a man will not forgive from his friend is betrayal and a formal attitude towards himself.

And another type of relationship between men is a love relationship. In most cases, such relationships are unfriendly to society, and, in the end, lead to collapse, rupture of relationships, and mental imbalance.

Psychology of men in love

It is also a very interesting and educational side of men's lives. Having understood it, you will be able to understand a man in those situations in which his behavior will seem strange to you. There is nothing complicated in this, you just need to always remember that men are different from women.

How does a man choose a woman?

Any man first of all looks at the appearance of the girl and checks her for compliance with her internal standards of the beauty of the girl. And if she fits, then only then does he pay attention to her inner world.

When the stage of acquaintance and mutual recognition of love passes, that same period of love begins. For men, this period means only one thing - he has already chosen a woman for himself, and now he will strive to please her, and at the same time look at whether she is suitable for the role of wife and mother of his future children. At this stage, the culinary and economic abilities of the girl are important. Men like that the house is cozy, clean, but at the same time, that his woman looks good. If a woman does not take care of herself, then sooner or later this will lead to a break in relations.

Psychology of men in relationships, whether it's love, friendship or work, in any case depends on the second person and how they get along. In love relationships, men are looking for respect and support in addition to love, and in friendships, men are looking for trust.

Sometimes a very strong man with powerful solar energy appears in a woman's life. And it is easy to feel it even with your back, the body of a woman fully responds to it, her thoughts calm down, and the center of femininity, the uterus, is filled with warm and radiant vibrations of life and tenderness ...
Next to such a man, even the most active and dynamic woman with a daring character becomes a little chick, the whole bouquet of feminine qualities suddenly wakes up in her, she suddenly wants to cook for him, take care of him, clean the house, wait for him from work and maybe for the first time in her body consciously sounds "I want a child from this man."

Usually it is with this man that she begins to understand the true pleasure of sexual intimacy, she feels everything especially brightly and strongly, femininity awakens in her at the hormonal level. She likes his smell, his body, his look and voice...
Next to him, she can feel stupid and weak, but this does not bother her at all, but rather makes her smile at herself and realize how nice it is sometimes to be weak.

Next to him, she does not want to argue, prove, measure intellect with him, for the first time in her life she wants to obey!
Several of my clients told me this thing: “He can sometimes put me in my place harshly, but I don’t feel any humiliation, I get high that he is so strong and even a little tough. I can feel its power!"

A woman begins to blossom in this relationship, realizing the strength of this man and harmonizing through it. She begins to love not with her mind, but with her whole feminine being. Moreover, outwardly, this may not be her type at all, not that level of intelligence, not that level of spiritual development, completely different ... perhaps not even beautiful, but simply strong, courageous and decisive, next to which her heart awakens to love. As my friend says about such a man in her life, “After all, look at him - well, scary! The face is so simple. Well, a tractor driver! Only in an expensive shirt. And I love him and feel that this is my man ... "😉

And then (after a day / week / year of dating him) most women make the same mistake: they start to adapt to these men, to serve, to try to please him ... they stick to him!
Completely, to the very ears! And then the questions begin: “What did I do wrong?”, “Darling, what didn’t you like?”, “Darling, is everything okay?” etc.
"What to submit? What to bring? What to change in myself for you?

A woman is capable of anything to keep him. She feels that she is not internally ready for such a relationship, she herself has not yet matured, and she is trying to compensate for her internal unpreparedness through external self-improvement, because losing is insanely scary ...
If you look deeper, then she doesn’t even need him, but that state of awakened nature that she feels, which overwhelms her.
Maybe for the first time in her life and only next to him she felt like a woman!
How can you let it go?

And then hyper-efforts begin in an attempt to be the best, to correspond, to deserve ... which alienates a man more and more.
And in the end, he leaves.

In most cases, such men appear in a woman's life and leave to show her how much she is not yet ready for a strong and mature relationship. After all, he needs not a slave, not a maid, but a woman who can be filled and whose love can be filled!

After his departure, pain remains, the unbearable pain of returning to another reality, where you no longer feel like a woman at 100%, where there are no more those strong arms and a confident look, where you cannot relax and feel ...
Now the woman is doing everything to get away from this pain. But believe me, it is better to live all your life with pain that moves you forward and develops than to live without pain, but also without love.
Pain means you have been given MORE of some kind of energy than your current reserve can hold. And instead of expanding their reserve, women are simply trying to remove this energy from their lives, not realizing that by doing so they are harming their development.

Some of the women are trying to return these men by fasting, prayers and austerities, which only aggravates the situation. In this case, all austerities, fasts and rituals work just like magic. A woman without a powerful opened energy will need to perform austerities for several months in order to attract him again at least for a day. But then he leaves again, because the lesson is not passed ...
I won’t even write about love spells, because the fate of those women who try to seize a man through magic is terrible!

I'm not kidding, I'm warning you!!! So that your house of marriage in the horoscope does not close at all from fortune-tellers, witches and gypsies, you need to hold on to 5-10 meters! Venus is very much spoiled by magic, the house of marriage and relationships can completely close. Look at fortune-tellers and sorceresses - they are hereditary single women. A man comes into their life only to give a child. Then he either dies or leaves. So God take you away from such people.

Other women try to cut it off from themselves, and go to energizers and healers to be cleansed of this connection, which does not leave the head, heart and uterus ... Which does not want to leave.

But it will be this man that will be incredibly difficult to cut off from yourself, it will be he who will dream, imagine himself in a crowd of people, it will seem that he will now appear somewhere, come out from somewhere, every phone call and every SMS will make the woman shudder with anticipation ...

It is such a man who brings the most powerful lesson of love and development into a woman's life.

Such a man comes and shows a woman what she can be, how feminine she is, how much power she has ...
He teaches her to live in harmony with her nature, and he also allows her to see and feel how much love she has!
After all, it is his woman who begins to love from the very first days of their communication ... It is for him that she does not have passion, not love, but love, and she feels it with her whole being ...
And that's why it hurts so much when he leaves.

If in your life there was or is such a man, then you are lucky and unlucky at the same time.

Lucky because few people in life experience true love, and you were given to love deeply, truly, with all your heart, with all your feminine being, with every cell of your body. And when a woman loves, nothing is impossible for her! This love continues to live in you all your life, it fills your life with meaning. Moreover, when a woman recalls with love and gratitude the experience she had with this man, she automatically harmonizes on a subtle level, her energy levels out, she remembers her femininity, her nature...
And if you make up your mind, gain courage and begin to open yourself, allow, expand your boundaries, if you accept the loss of this man, but at the same time remain happy and full of unconditional love for him - you can be together, and this union will be incredibly powerful.

Unlucky because with this man you will be taken through the most severe stresses, with him you will be pulled to a completely different level of feeling life.
And each new energy transition is always pain, crisis and depression.
Every time you become attached to it, it will be taken away from you.
You will be inexorably taught to live happily and freely without attachment.
You will be taught emotional maturity and unconditional love all the time!

But the happiness that you will experience from these relationships cannot be compared with any other experiences in life, the love that will fill your heart will make your life full of meaning and divinity!

This man teaches you how to be a woman!
He showed you how you can love and feel - now it's your job to support it.

If you want to be with him, then you do not need to learn to clean the house and cook food, you do not need to learn to be worthy of his mind!
It is necessary to reveal love and a sense of drive from life, happiness from within.
You just need to become a woman in the full sense of the word, real, feeling, emotional and able to let go.
And when you can calmly refuse him, but at the same time keep love in your heart and joy from life, when you can be with him and not lose your head from euphoria, be calm and internally joyful - then you can stay with him!
Then life will bring you together again.

With other men it will be easier, easier, but with this it will be difficult, sometimes painful, but you will live, feel life and you will be filled with love.

If there was such a man in your life:
Learn to be grateful to him, because it is these men who lead us to knowledge, to teachers, to God! Even through pain, but now we understand that it's worth it, right?

Do not think about it and do not try to forget it, just grow yourself and your strength.

When you learn to love yourself and be happy, your pain will go away by itself, and your relationship with him will either move to a new level or stop bothering you!

Why do we stick to such men?
Because they are strong in a manly way, they are realized in their nature, and this makes them incredibly attractive. But the same process happens to a woman: when she reveals herself in her nature, when she comprehends her depth, when she has learned to love and preserve freedom, then she becomes magnetically charming, and she no longer sticks to men, but builds relationships on the principle of energy equality.

Now most women are driven by the desire to own a man, but with a strong man it will not work like that with a strong woman. In general, it is impossible to control energetically strong people, you can only interact with them according to the principle of merging energies.

Therefore, discard the desire to possess this man, thank him for what he discovered in you!
The pain will live in your heart only until you give up the desire to own it.
As my teacher says in this case, “You were given a beautiful canary, its singing awakens your heart to love, and you come up and say, “Oh, what a wonderful canary, let me eat it!”

Throw away the pain and let love fill you again! Not the selfish love that gloatingly says, “You will still be mine,” but the one that gently whispers, “God, thank you for sending me this man and opening love in my heart! Now I feel!”

Whatever man you live with now, whoever surrounds you, anyway, learn love every day, and if there is a person who awakens it in you, be filled with it!
Even if you are already married, and your heart is still fluttering from another man, do not discard love.
Just do not focus on a man, take the feelings that he gave you and share with your spouse.

We enter into relationships not because of people, but because of their energy and the states that we experience next to them.
Live in a state of love and gratitude, and God will take care of the rest!

First of all, let's decide with you who you need to keep next to you, and who is better to let go immediately, without wasting precious time and effort. To do this, use our three simple rules.

Rule #1: Don't rush!

It is no secret that a woman in love tends to idealize her lover. Under the pressure of male charm and a cocktail of raging hormones, we all lose our heads and point blank do not notice its shortcomings. But he is not an ideal, and very soon, what seemed inconspicuous and even cute will literally become terribly annoying. Therefore, try not to make plans for the future with a man earlier than after six months of your relationship with him. According to research, this is exactly how long it takes for our endocrine system to get used to the hormonal explosion caused by an overabundance of love feelings.

Rule #2: Be honest with yourself

So, after about 6 months, your relationship will already get a little stronger, you will get to know each other quite well, and your hormones will subside - it's time to think about the future. This is the perfect time to ask yourself a simple question: Do I want to be with this man for the rest of my life? If, in response to it, butterflies start to flutter in the stomach, and images of your joint children appear in your head, then proceed to the next paragraph. If you don’t experience anything like this, then reconsider your relationship, it is quite possible that they have long outlived their usefulness. Just be honest with yourself. Your happiness depends on it!

Rule #3: Be sure to reciprocate

The third rule is the most important condition for a happy life together. Therefore, you need to make sure that your and his views on the relationship are completely the same. In other words, you must be sure that you are together solely out of mutual pure love, and not because you have been seeking his attention for a long time and he is just comfortable with you. How to understand that feelings are mutual? Just trust your intuition and analyze your relationship a little. It is advisable to do this being alone with your thoughts. You can additionally resort to a simple exercise: divide a sheet of paper into two columns and write out in them everything that each of you brings to your relationship. Ideally, both columns should be about the same size. A significant advantage goes in one direction - this is an occasion to think about harmonizing relations with your loved one.

If you are sure that this man is the love of your life, then the matter remains small. It is necessary to make the beloved come to the same conclusion. It is advisable to do this carefully and imperceptibly, otherwise men are gentle and shy creatures, and they must certainly be prepared for a “happily ever after”. And you need to prepare in such a way that he is sure until the end of his days that he himself made the fateful decision to make you his wife. And I didn't guess.

Fear has big eyes: how to keep a man in a relationship

Now that the presence of a prince is beyond doubt, it's time to talk about how to keep a man close to you, preferably for life. And for this, you first need to understand why modern men are in no hurry to part with the status of a bachelor, even when there is already a wonderful and, most importantly, beloved woman next to them.

As cliche as it sounds, it's all about fear. The fear of a serious relationship is a fairly strong psychological barrier, which can be very difficult for a man to cross alone. It can manifest itself in completely different ways. For example, in a cheerful revelry and a constant change of sexual partners. Or it can “hide” in a civil marriage, lasting without a stamp in the passport for decades. There are also cases when this very fear makes men even break off relations with their love, so as not to move to a new stage in the relationship.

Causes of fear of a serious relationship in men

One of the main causes of such fear is a bad experience. In other words, unhappy love. Therefore, it would be useful to ask the young man if there was something similar in his life and how he survived this spiritual wound. If the breakup occurred relatively recently, then you should not rush to the rapid development of your relationship.

In addition, the fear of a serious relationship in men may arise due to a distorted view of family life. For example, if a man has already had an unsuccessful marriage or his parents/friends/relatives have experienced a painful divorce. In this case, he can literally believe that marriage destroys the relationship and will not strive to create it. Your main task will be the destruction of this illusion. It is very important to show your loved one that the marriage relationship depends on the mutual efforts of two people, and can be very happy.

The idea of ​​a merry bachelor life imposed by advertising and the media completes our triad of the main causes of the fear of a serious relationship in men. It's about the artificially created and so attractive playboy lifestyle: lots of girlfriends, no obligations, fun and no responsibility. If this is the reason, then your task is to show your beloved another world. A world of mutual love and harmony, where real happiness can be achieved. How to do it? The simple tips that you will find below will come to the rescue.

It's time to move on to practical advice that will help you realize the dream of a happy life together with your lover. But keep in mind that they only work if your love feelings with a man are mutual and the relationship is developing. Let's make a reservation right away that their implementation will require good willpower and sometimes self-sacrifice from you. Therefore, be ready to work on yourself for the benefit of your love. And remember that it is impossible to keep a man either by a child, or by blackmail, or by money. Only mutual love and respect can make a couple happy for life!

What is the difference between a beloved woman and a mistress or wife? The fact that she skillfully combines both of these roles. And he also knows how to be a close friend for a beloved man, a cheerful girlfriend, a caring mother, a sympathetic sister, a fair critic, a faithful ally ... This list can be continued for a long time, but its main meaning is clear and so - you need to be able to be multifaceted with your loved one. Don't focus on just one role, like the girl he's dating. Guys can go on dates with you for years, but none of them will dare to propose to you for one simple reason - you do not demonstrate anything else. Therefore, if you want to keep a man, be ready to cook borsch for him, and listen to problems, and take care of him in illness. And all this despite the fact that you are "just dating."

One of the most common female mistakes is rushing into relationships. On the one hand, it is understandable: age is running out, girlfriends are all already married, parents buzzed about their grandchildren ... Yes, and you have been dating for a long time - it’s definitely time to get married. But having come to this idea, in no case should you put pressure on a man, let alone blackmail him. In principle, this advice works at every new stage of a relationship, and not just when it comes to a wedding. So never rush! Give your man time to mature for cohabitation/marriage/children. In the meantime, no one forbids you to gently and gently guide him in the right direction with your caress and care.

For a man, there is nothing more boring than a monotonous life with a woman about whom he knows everything. Therefore, cultivate mystery and mystery in yourself. First of all, we are talking about a variety of hobbies and hobbies that will help you always remain interesting for your loved one. Ideal if some of your hobbies will completely coincide or overlap with the interests of your beloved.

Also try to surprise your man from time to time. Surprises can be very different: from a new hairstyle and an unexpected hair color to buying a certificate for a joint parachute jump. A little hint: in order for the surprise to be a success, be sure to make sure that your loved one will be happy for him. You can do this gently through indirect questions to him or his close friends.

Start with an elementary - everyday appearance. Once and for all, say a firm "no" to peeling nail polish, disheveled hair and soiled bathrobe in his presence. By the way, there is nothing wrong with appearing in front of your beloved without makeup. But doing the same make-up / manicure / coloring / hair removal with him is categorically not worth it. Firstly, these are far from the most attractive procedures. And secondly, such activities very often seriously scare men away. Therefore, it is better to let your little beauty secrets remain with you, and your beloved will only see the finished result.

Also, take care of your body. Ideally, try to maintain those forms with which you once conquered him. But remember that a couple of extra kilos are not so terrible as rough skin and cracked heels. So be sure to take care of yourself! Remember that a well-groomed woman is already a beauty.

Nothing brings a couple together like small family traditions and rituals. For starters, let it be a simple Sunday tea party in a cozy cafe or a Saturday evening watching your favorite TV shows. The main thing is that it becomes really traditional, and therefore a regular pastime for both of you. Gradually add new joint rituals to your relationship that bring pleasure equally to each of you. And very soon they will become traditions that will bind you even more.

Here, men do not like problematic ladies who strive to cry on their shoulders or complain about a bitter fate every time they meet. They don't like everything. Accept this fact and stay most of the time with your loved one on a positive wave. Firstly, you can cry with your mother and girlfriends, but it’s better to spend time with your loved one in some more interesting way. And, secondly, by demonstrating an optimistic attitude in a difficult situation, you thereby show a man that he can always count on your common sense and support in difficult times. And, thirdly, by ceasing to complain about all sorts of minor troubles in the company of your beloved, you automatically become stronger in spirit.

Another factor that repels men is the complete dissolution of women. It can be dissolution in a spouse, children, life or work. The worst thing is that when a woman dissolves, she loses her boundaries and ceases to be an interesting person. Therefore, no matter how much you like the guy, no matter how much you want to make your loved one the meaning of your life, always remain a holistic person. Remember, no man will appreciate such sacrifices. And even worse, at one point it will simply consider you as a service staff, with whom it is so convenient, but so boring. Well, the fact that men run from boring women like fire, you already know from our advice at number three.

Like it or not, but only caring female hands are able to create that unique home comfort that men appreciate so much. Therefore, make every effort to ensure that your joint housing becomes a real home for your beloved. Watch the cleanliness in the apartment, the neatness of his clothes and be sure to learn how to cook his favorite dishes. For most men this will be more than enough. And do not think that we urge you to plunge headlong into economic affairs and forget about your beloved. Learn to properly manage your time and then you will be able to do a lot! Including taking care of yourself and meeting with girlfriends.

Criticism of a lover is a dangerous thing. Especially if you criticize sharply enough and constantly. Believe me, not a single man will tolerate a woman next to him who regularly “nags” him. Therefore, if you criticize your beloved, then try to do it as carefully and constructively as possible. For example, do not just point out his mistakes, but offer a solution that will help avoid similar negative experiences in the future. Remember that a man will be much more attentive to a calm and reasonable conversation than to an emotional tantrum. In addition, having mastered the ability to criticize correctly, you can take the important place of a trusted adviser in the life of a loved one.

This is one of the most important tips on how to keep a man close to you. What do we mean by "to give freedom"? First of all, the ability of a man to independently make important decisions and the lack of total control on the part of a woman. Learn to trust your lover and don't keep him on a "short leash". He should have the opportunity, for example, to watch football with friends without you and your endless calls.

It is also important not to impose your views on life to your loved one and make plans for the future for him. Always remember that your beloved is an adult and accomplished man who is able to make important decisions on his own. And your task is to become for him a faithful and loving person, to whose opinion he will be ready to listen, and not a second mother. Therefore, more often be guided by this principle in relationships. And very soon you will personally be convinced of its effectiveness!