A woman has a masculine face and how to be stylish. A masculine woman. Oh, by the way, what about princesses?

The disgusting thing is that every girl thinks this way from time to time.

Here you are walking down the street in a wonderful mood, everything is fine with you, you are loved very much, you just had the best sex in the entire history of mankind. On the first try, against the light, you took a wonderful selfie. People smile at you.

And then you suddenly start to think that your shoulders are too wide, which don’t go with your almost bald head, that with such a hairstyle everyone is sexy except you, and that your skin will never be the same as when you were sixteen (that is, when you were sixteen). terrible rash, but that doesn’t matter, “Sixteen” is the general mood here.

This is all terrible.

At one time, a psychoanalyst forced me to collect “Automatic Thoughts”, that is, in simple terms, the broadcast of emotions, the range from the sudden “life is wonderful!” to “if I fall straight on the asphalt in a faint, no one will come.” This nonsense about old age and masculinity is from the same area. Emotional echo of patriarchy.

Humanity has worked so well on the image of the undine as the only worthy embodiment of female beauty that now we are all poisoned by it.

No matter how annoying Kim Kardashian is, no matter how creepy she seems, we women know that this is the ideal. Lips, eyelashes, curls, breasts, waist, ass, an aura of defenselessness (high heels can break at any moment under the weight of huge artificial buttocks) - all this is feminine, feminine, feminine, sexy - sexy - sexy.

In a certain sense, we envy her and others like her, because they took and painted all women's phobias directly on themselves, and now they have nothing to fear anymore. They are simply a mobile diagnosis for all victims of sexism.

And we are hiding. We are fighting. Not with world evil, not with chauvinism, injustice and inequality, but with ourselves.

I was about 12 years old when I started having tantrums about “Faspers on the Men’s Side.” Dad bought me a lot of cool things back then, but I didn’t wear them. He seemed to be in real shock - he didn’t even curse, but just quietly begged.

I picked this up at school - suddenly there was a theme with fasteners. On the male side - bad. Great, right? Who even cares these days about whether he wears men's jeans or not?

I wore jeans, T-shirts, and sneakers all the time. Once my older sister tried to squeeze me into a dress with ruffles - I sobbed, screamed and resisted, as if I was being sent to an orphanage. I didn't give up. And then suddenly society took it and broke it. Apparently, at the most disgusting time of puberty, when everything is complicated with hormones.

I also remember how, as children, we talked about such topics: does anyone want to become a boy? Some did. Even though my dad raised me in splendid isolation, I never had this kind of doubt - I was always glad that I was born a girl.

Relatives told me that when my mother was pregnant, she was worried that my father, like all men, wanted a boy. And he, they say, just repeated to her that, on the contrary, he really wants a girl, because girls are cute, but boys are not so much.

But at school it turned out that girls are the ones with bows. With bows! Dad's fuses went off when he saw these bows. My poor grandmother listened to so many screams about bows, ruffles, and some other girlish accessories that she tried to attach to me. I'm used to hating them. In addition, it turned out that the girls with their trinkets in their hair did not know how to do a left hook.

Of course, there were also fat girls, girls in accordion tights, too tall girls (also ugly - unfeminine), skinny ones (board - two nipples. But those who set the tone had curls and aprons with lace, they always smelled pleasant, and not gasoline or dog... And the boys bullied them.

Already in high school, ninth grade, I really sympathized with one girl who was bullied by young people. I remember that I even shaved off one impudent person, and another classmate said to me: “What are you talking about! They’re all madly in love with her!” I thought about this for probably a week. The boys mocked the girl, joked about her stupidity, tormented her. that this is not life, but a nightmare, but it turned out - love.

I took a closer look and realized that men were really going crazy about our classmate.

It occurred to me that it is very difficult to be not only a beautiful, but also a feminine girl: maybe all these idiots are in love, but that doesn’t stop them from tormenting you. It is precisely at this stage that a woman forces herself to believe that love is cruel and that a man humiliates a woman because he loves her?

Then I was even glad that I always had some kind of abrasions and torn pants - apparently, this prevented men from causing me trouble due to romantic feelings.

But now you live a great life, you have your own tastes and values, and then it turns out that the more men harm you, the more sexy you are, and this all has something to do with fluffy angora sweaters, strawberry hairpins in your hair, shoes - pumps and hair curling.

And you realize that you have lived wrong all your life. And that in general a man’s interest is the main priority. Let them say you're stupid, let them smear gum in your hair - it's all passion. And passion must be forgiven, because it is flattering.

Only if passion does not arise on its own, it must be evoked. Breasts, lips, legs, lace, lipsticks, glitter, stockings, heels.

I decided to show off my passion with terrible purple eye shadow, red lipstick and a coyote collar, which I ripped from my jacket and sewed for some reason onto my turtleneck. The most violent passion came to my dad - it seems that the sight of me caused him to have a hypertensive crisis. But I'm a stubborn person. He himself taught me to hold my own opinion.

The shadows and the coyote attracted the attention of young people to me, which was both gratifying and strange. Because, in truth, these young people were not worth my attention.

But I was honestly happy and enjoyed my newfound femininity and attractiveness. I kissed and went to the movies, putting aside all sorts of activities that interested me. A sexy woman, you see, does not belong to herself.

I even started to have real elegant dresses - and then they started meeting me on the street and inviting me to the casino. I learned to do all the “hihi” and “haha” things that real women do, and I found myself in a circle of serious men who talk about their work and joke about blondes for fun.

But in the end I got tired of all this, the dresses were burned, they bought jeans and Martins instead, and I cut my hair to zero.

But femininity is like hepatitis C. sits inside you like a time bomb. No - no, and you'll look at yourself in the mirror and think that sleeveless T-shirts don't suit you, because with your shoulders you look like Butch. You stand and look at yourself in horror, and then you find a wrinkle. The kind, you know, like a scar right in the middle of the forehead. And your pants are also baggy. And all your legs get tangled in them, not giving men the opportunity to think “Yabeivdul.” How can you live without this?

What will happen if everyone, when they see me, does not remember their father’s treasured “Playboys”, sanctimoniously wrapped in a “light” cover? How do I even turn it on?

Men's basic instinct? Is it really just your face, taste, intelligence, wit and, if you’re lucky enough to get naked, your shape?

This is not enough, yes. The fact that I am basically a woman is not enough. You have to be exaggerated, romantic, goofy, touching, in the rays of the setting sun, and smell of fields and meadows, and stand on your heels very uncertainly, and even better - step on your dress.

Then harmony will visit me - my inner demons of femininity will be temporarily satiated until they, infinitely gluttonous, need lips with fillers and a forehead with Botox from me. And a shortened nose. And bigger breasts. And some anti-cellulite torture.

Eternal torment, endless sacrifice to the devils of attractiveness, who offer nothing in return except empty vanity and the attention of people who are not interesting to you. Author Arina Kholina.

On the street today you can often see a young man in tight pants, pink clothes, long hair, with all sorts of rhinestones and hearts, a chain around his neck, a bracelet on his wrists, etc. Sometimes it is not always possible to determine whether it is a guy or a girl... Even more often you can see girls in jeans, trousers, chewing gum, laughing loudly, using obscene language...

In this article we will try to express the point of view of Sharia regarding such self-expression - when men acquire feminine qualities, and women acquire masculine qualities.

Imam al-Bukhari and others cite a hadith from Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him), which says: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed men who resemble women and women who resemble men.”

At-Tabarani reports the following hadith: “One day a woman passed by the Prophet (PBUH) with a bow around her neck, and the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “The Almighty cursed women who resemble men and men who resemble women.” In the hadith narrated by Imam al-Bukhari, it is said: “The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) cursed effeminate men and masculine women.”

Imams Abu Dawud an-Nasai, ibn Majah and al-Hakim cite the following hadith in their collections: “The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) cursed a man wearing a woman’s attire and a woman wearing a man’s attire.” The hadith narrated by Imam Ahmad says: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) cursed effeminate men who resemble women and masculine women who resemble men and the woman who set out on a journey alone without a mahram (without a close relative, with whom she is prohibited from marrying )". Another hadith cited by Imam at-Tabari says: “Four categories of people will be cursed (deprived of the mercy of the Almighty) and the angels will say “Amin” (O Allah, curse him!) both in this world and in the next: the man whom The Almighty made him a man, and he became like a woman; a woman whom the Almighty made a woman, and she became like a man; the one who misleads the blind and the one who does not marry, having a passion for women, and the Almighty did not make anyone like that except Yahya, the son of Zakariya (alayhima-s-salam).”

Masculine woman psychology. Masculinity in women – where is the measure?

Remember the photographs of your grandmothers and great-grandmothers. Everyone has long hair, skirts or dresses, in a word - women from head to toe. And look at your photos or your mothers. Some have short hair, while others are wearing trousers or shorts. But half a century ago, not all women wore jeans or trousers. Everything changes in our age of change, as the song sang almost 30 years ago.

Man – strength and protection, woman – beauty and care

As the incomparable Faina Ranevskaya said: “Women are not the weaker sex. The weaker sex are rotten boards.” Nowadays, the standard scheme, when a man is a hunter and conqueror, and a woman is a homemaker, has practically lost its relevance. What ideals of masculinity and femininity reign in the modern world, what criteria should we rely on? Not many people can answer this question unequivocally now. If we turn to the origins of our unconscious, we will find that the archetypes “animus” and “anima”, the masculine and feminine principles of the soul, are inherent in both men and women, regardless of cultural origins. In other words, every woman, like every man, is a bearer of the feminine and masculine principles.

When you see a beautiful couple, you notice that the more feminine the woman looks, the more masculine the man next to her is. He and she, like pieces of a mosaic, make up a holistic and harmonious picture. What can a relationship lead to if a man is an active, active, leader and has an equally strong woman with him? Will they get along? Will their union be strong and long-lasting? As is correct, these couples break up. Both cannot occupy a leading position: someone is a leader, and someone is a follower.

Femininity as a resource

What can femininity be compared to? What metaphor would best describe this word? Among female characteristics in the literature on psychology, one can find sensitivity, caring, gentleness, tenderness, pliability, and empathy. External manifestations of femininity, for example, demeanor, graceful physiological forms, are more obvious than those described above.

Does this mean that if outwardly a woman is perceived as a true feminine, then her inherent qualities characterize women to a greater extent than men? Not at all. A means by which a woman can unlock her potential and feel her energy gives her the opportunity to develop. The first impression is formed by what we see and hear. Changes in external parameters entail internal changes. In other words, having done makeup and hair, bought a new dress, we are filled with energy that we receive externally from other people and internally, of course, we are also energized. The personality traits of a woman that we talked about can complement external characteristics. This creates a holistic picture and image of femininity. In our lives there are women who behave rudely and sometimes abruptly, their gait is angular, their clothes are, at best, unisex, or even just a man’s shirt and jeans. Primary sexual characteristics are barely visible in such ladies, not to mention manners and corresponding gender-role identification of behavior. Does this mean she doesn't feel feminine? And does she need it? After all, to be feminine means to be yourself, to correspond to your essence and understand yourself. A masculine woman may well feel confident and calm if she lives so comfortably and conveniently.

Cherche la femme

Women's and men's roles at work, in the family, in life are different. If a woman takes on a male role in some matter, this will entail an imbalance in other areas. Surely, you have met women who say about themselves “I am both a woman and a man.” These women believe that they are doing men's work too, since they identify themselves, albeit indirectly, with the other gender. When we consider men's and women's responsibilities in the family, we note the functions that each of them must perform. The woman’s task is to take care of the family, and the man’s task is to provide for the family financially. Often, the roles change and this is a disaster for both. A woman, taking on a masculine position, changes her behavior, her family’s attitude and perception of herself changes. Nowadays, it is difficult to determine the standard of male and female behavior in the traditional sense. Gender-role identification is no longer as obvious as it was two decades ago, but you still need to remain a woman.

Despite the modern rapidly changing world in which everything is mixed, there are only two genders: male and female. There is no average, so you need to choose from two options: how to perceive yourself, how to relate to life and organize the space around you. You can earn your place in the sun in a guipure sundress, heeled sandals and a light hat.

The psychology of women’s love interests humanity no less than the psychology of men’s love.
Many scientists and ordinary men are interested in the psychology of interpersonal relationships between the opposite sex, and most importantly, why do all girls show their love differently?
The opinions of psychologists, by the way, men, are divided on this matter. Some agree that women are all individual, and therefore their attitude towards men and their expression of love are different.
Others are sure that “all women are the same.” Let’s try to figure out which one is right and why girls love differently.

Women's logic

For most men, women's actions are always unclear, and most do not even try to find out the true motives of women's actions.
The female motives of this or that action, which remain behind seven locks, force men to only superficially judge the actions of the fair sex. In such cases, men blame women for everything, and do not think for a second that perhaps they themselves do not understand female psychology at all.

A common opinion among the stronger half of humanity is that a woman is “capricious, strange, and the actions she commits are devoid of any logic.” However, this opinion is “subjective”; men who do not understand the peculiarities of female psychology think so.

Having understood at least a little about female psychology, you can conduct a comparative analysis with male psychology. So, it is known that the girl herself does not always fully understand what she wants, because... in most cases he is guided by female intuition.

Not a single professional psychologist will talk about a woman’s lack of logic; he would rather point out that women have their own – individual logic. And it’s hard to disagree with this.

Female sensitivity

Despite the similarity of emotions and behavior, all women and the love they show for a man are inherently unique. Although girls tend to perceive and experience relationships with the greatest strength: to take everything to heart, to feel sorry and empathize, each one does it in her own way.

Of course, the weaker sex is more sensitive than the stronger and this cannot but affect the relationship between a man and a woman. The weaker sex is attentive to people, and especially attentive to their man.

The psychology of the weaker sex in love has not been fully solved even today, and despite the fact that for many centuries in a row great thinkers have been pondering this issue, it has not yet been possible to reveal the secret of female psychology. Only one thing is known for sure - each of the girls understands love in her own way, which means that each representative of the fair sex on Earth radiates her own unique shades of this wonderful feeling of “love”.

It turns out that an ugly woman has more chances to please a man in a relatively underdeveloped country than to attract a man from a country where high standards of human life are established.

A recent study by Finnish scientists showed that men living in countries with relatively low levels of health care are less attracted to pretty women than representatives of the stronger sex from highly developed - in terms of living standards - countries of the world.

For this purpose, 1,800 men from 28 countries of the world, located at different levels of economic and social development, were interviewed. All subjects were given the opportunity to view several portraits of women and then evaluate what they saw.

Through special calculations, it was concluded that the more developed a country is, the more its men are interested in ladies with beautiful feminine faces.

19 main differences between women and men, and vice versa

Expressions. The words that fall from the lips of a woman who has hit her fingers with a hammer, not a nail, can be safely broadcast. What comes out of men in such cases cannot be broadcast.

Movements. When swinging to throw something, a woman moves her hand not to the side, but back. A woman does not bite a cigarette with her teeth, does not leave it in her mouth, but always holds it in her hand. The woman walks on tiptoes on the hot pebbles, the man walks on his heels. Women plug their ears with their fingers, men cover them with their palms. When you ask a woman to pass you a lighter, she hands it to you, rather than throwing it, testing your reaction. Women never scratch their heads - it ruins their hairstyle.

Mirrors. Men look in the mirror only to evaluate their appearance. Women evaluate their appearance by looking into any reflective object, be it the mirror itself, a shop window, or even the polished hood of a car.

Telephone. Men consider the telephone a means of communication and use it as an information transmitter. A woman can stay with a friend for several days, but when she returns home, immediately call her and chat for another good hour.

Purchases. When a woman goes to the store, she makes a preliminary list of what she needs, buys everything that is planned, and returns home. A man gets ready to go to the store only when the only food left in the refrigerator is a dried-out lemon and half a can of beer.

Shoes. Arriving at work, a woman exchanges comfortable street shoes for more elegant shoes. Sitting down at the table, she quietly takes off her shoes: who is able to torture their feet all day long? A man usually does not change his shoes throughout the day.

Leaving the house. When a man says he is ready to go out, it means that he is only a trip to the toilet away from leaving. The same phrase in a woman’s mouth means that before going out she needs to have time to wash her hair, iron her outfit and, of course, do her makeup.

The end of a love affair. Women, as a rule, cry and share their mental anguish with their friends. After this, having written a poem on the topic “All men are pigs,” the woman faces tomorrow quite confidently. For men, the romance period is “the time when we communicated with:.” About six months after the breakup, a man may call his ex-girlfriend for an hour at 3 am after a fair amount of “breastfeeding” to inform her that, although the hatred still has not subsided in his heart, he is ready to forgive the one who “is to blame for everything.” ". If she agrees to wash the dishes he has accumulated over six months.

Print and body. On the pages of publications for men there are many photographs of naked women. On the pages of women's magazines such photos are also no exception. The reason is that the female body is a beautiful creation of nature and it is not a sin to show it naked. The male body is covered with hair, awkward, and should not be shown in daylight. Most men, when they see a naked female body, show keen interest in it. For women, a photograph of a naked male figure usually causes a surge of fun.

Sex. Women want 30-40 minutes of lovemaking before the actual embrace. Men spend 30-40 seconds on “preliminary preparation”, and they also count the journey from the restaurant to the apartment in this period. While having sex, a woman thinks about whether she looks beautiful. After that, she doesn’t want to sleep, but wants to talk and kiss.

Bathroom and related rituals. A man's bathroom usually contains six items: a toothbrush, toothpaste, shaving foam, a razor, a bar of soap, and more often a remnant of soap, and a towel taken from some motel. In the average woman's bathroom you will find 437 items, most of which the average man would be unlikely to identify. After taking a bath, a woman (it doesn’t matter if she has long hair, bobbed hair or has had typhus) wraps a towel turban around her head, at least for a minute. The reasons for the emergence of this Eastern ritual are unknown.

Offspring. Women know everything about their children: the date of their next visit to the dentist, the day of an important sports competition for their offspring, the story of his last love, the best friends of their children, their favorite foods, secret fears and dreams. Men's ideas about the small creatures that live in their apartment are very vague.

Flora and fauna. Women are afraid of spiders, worms and mice. They don't like caterpillars, even the most beautiful ones. Women love cats. Men claim that they also love cats, but when a woman is not at home, they strive to send this animal to hell. The man doesn’t understand why his girlfriend likes these tattered brooms, which for some reason she calls “arrangements of dried flowers.” A woman leaves for a week and asks a man to water the flowers in her absence. The man naturally undertakes to do this. The woman returns to find that all the flowers have died. Nobody knows why this happened.

Clothes and accessories. A woman dresses differently for going to the store, walking the dog, answering the phone, taking out the trash, reading a book, cooking. Men change their usual attire only in the event of a wedding or funeral.

Behind the wheel. If a woman, while driving, realizes that she is lost, she stops at the nearest gas station and asks for advice. Men consider such behavior to be a purely feminine weakness and spend hours driving around unfamiliar terrain, encouraging themselves with phrases like: “How interesting it is to find a new way to home!” or "Aha, there's a department store - very close now."

Low blows. Watching a boxing match and seeing a blow below the belt, a man can howl and bend over, since only he knows the severity of the pain that the athlete experiences. A woman will never truly understand why football players, lining up in a wall, make a funny “slide” with their palms. That's why she doesn't even flinch when a movie character gets hit in the crotch with a boot.

Toys. Little girls love to play with toys. By adolescence, their interest in this begins to disappear. Men never lose interest in toys. The older they get, the more expensive and impractical their toys become. Typical toys for men: cars, mini-TVs, mobile phones, graphing calculators, small robots that offer different drinks on command, video and computer games, and any other beeping or flashing objects.

In the locker room. Men talk in the locker room about money, hockey and women. They inflate their incomes, know little about hockey, and their stories about women are usually made up. Women only talk about sex in the locker room. They speak directly, without hiding, their descriptions are very detailed and picturesque. They never lie.

Tastes. Men like women. Women only like uncomplicated things, like men.