How to make your relationship better with your loved one. How to make your relationship better
Any relationship - friendly or romantic - requires certain "investments" on your part, and not only at the stage of their formation. Such garbage often happens: you go out of your way to "get" a girl, and when you are already officially called a couple, you relax and let everything go by itself. The benefits of your efforts will fade very quickly if you start to take your relationship for granted and don't care about maintaining and improving their quality.
1. Watch the words
The old adage about a word that is not a sparrow never loses its relevance. No matter how close and trusting your relationship is, watch what you say. Before you blurt out something, think about how you would feel if someone told you something like that.
2. Respect other people's opinions
If this person is really dear to you, respect his opinion, regardless of whether you agree with him or not. No, of course, you can argue, but without humiliating your opponent.
And try not to touch the "sacred".
3. Find the positive side of the negative character trait
The positive / negative categories are highly subjective. This means that what is negative for you does not necessarily mean that for another. Besides, it is possible that there is something objectively useful hiding behind the fact that you do not like it. For example, you are annoyed by her excessive love for order and organization. However, this same love can make your life full of chaos a little easier and more comfortable.
4. Don't be boring
Not every difference of opinion should be a reason for a dispute or, even more so, a quarrel. Think, is it worth it? Is it so important to prove your case to her, if by doing so you only hurt her?
5. Don't jump to conclusions
“Someone else's soul - darkness” is another ageless thought. Do not rush to blame or condemn the other, perhaps you do not know even a tenth of what is happening in his head. Give your loved ones the benefit of the doubt. Trust is essential for a strong relationship. If a loved one does something that you think is wrong, the normal reaction is to try to figure out why this happened, rather than immediately blame him.
6. Compliment
Especially the girl.
7. Don't forget to thank
You quickly get used to good things. Even if your girlfriend cooks borsch for you every day, and your best friend constantly throws up orders, do not limit yourself to the words “yeah, good” in response. Say thank you. Don't underestimate the importance of this symbolic gesture. The person whom you thank even for everyday trifles feels his own importance to you. In addition, the whole life is made up of little things, do not forget about that.
8. Appreciate your loved ones
Returning to the previous point: gratitude pronounced “on the machine” will not work. Sincerely appreciate those who are near you. When you are angry with someone, remember the good things that this person did for you, and think: maybe this "joint" of his is worth forgiving.
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Being unhappy in personal relationships means being truly unhappy in life. If the relationship does not go well at all, if there are continuous quarrels with the guy, it's time to think about what needs to be done to improve the relationship.
Prepare that this is not easy, because in order to improve relations, you need to rebuild yourself. And this is a huge work. But these efforts will surely bear fruit: the relationship will be better, and you will be happier.
10 steps to improve your relationship with your loved one
1. Forget all the grievances... Yes, yes, forget it altogether. Get up in the morning and start your relationship with a clean slate. Forget all his lateness, his lies, the pain he once caused you.
It’s not easy, but without this step, it’s unlikely that you will be able to improve your relationship with your loved one. Indeed, often the wall of misunderstanding between a man and a woman consists of past grievances.
2. Give the guy freedom. And stop imposing on him what he does not want and is not ready to accept. Doesn't want to visit your mother - and don't, good relations are more expensive. If he wants to go to the movies with friends, let him go.
It is freedom that makes a person happy. And only a happy person is able to build harmonious relationships.
3. Understand your beloved. In each situation, try to put yourself in the man's place and understand his feelings, motives of behavior, point of view. After all, except in extreme cases, everything has its own reason. Do not rush to condemn, draw negative conclusions, better support your loved one.
4. Don't try to change your loved one. And no need to redo it! Imagine that someone is trying to remake you: makes you, for example, forget about manicure and heels and impose the role of a housewife.
Take him for who he is. Obviously, this is difficult, because people have many shortcomings. But there are also advantages! Identify the positive character traits of your loved one and think about them more often.
5. Do not offend your loved one. Are you constantly in conflict? Quarrel and scandal over the little things? Understand conflicts: Learn all the phrases and reactions that annoy you.
Stop hurting and insulting each other with words. Replace harsh expressions with softer ones, do not call names. To avoid a scandal, ask about the feelings of your beloved, analyze your emotions and answer your partner's questions.
6. Communicate more with your loved one, and not only on topics of living together. Talk about pleasant things - about music, about cars, about books. Spend more time together, and not only for household chores, but also on vacation.
7. Ask forgiveness and goodbye to your beloved. Always ask for forgiveness first. Even if you are right and he is wrong. Remember that a good relationship is more important than any righteousness there. After all, it is not necessary to improve those relationships in which peace and tranquility reign. Do not hold evil and resentment in your heart, because this is how the heart grows dull, and the relationship becomes terrible.
8. Respect your loved one. Try not to shout at the man, it humiliates both yours and his dignity. It happens that a man acts in such a way that he just wants to kill him. But even after the biggest quarrel, when passions have escalated to the limit, respect for your partner should remain in your soul.
9. Trust the guy... Forget jealousy and suspicion. After all, a relationship built on distrust is almost impossible to improve. It is better not to suspect about anything and live in peace than constantly thinking about the betrayal of a loved one. It poisons the relationship like nothing else.
10. Touching, kissing and sex. Hug and kiss your loved one at least 8 times a day. It is this much warmth that is vital for every person. Tactile and intimate intimacy can improve your relationship in no time.
Yes, taking these 10 steps to improve your relationship is not easy. But it's worth trying, because a precious prize is at stake - happiness!
Strong relationships are built by two people who love and respect each other. Relationships can only be strengthened when everyone is committed to making the greatest contribution to that relationship, thereby helping their soul mate become better too. The more you show love, the more you want to do it to the other in return, and so on in an endless circle of love, trust, tenderness and acceptance. This is probably the most important secret, but let's talk about its ingredients. By strengthening your family relationships, you will strengthen your confidence in other areas of life, receive the best support in the form of the love of the person you love and help him in the same way. So love becomes an inexhaustible source that fills all vessels with crystal clear water, so desired on a hot day.
Find out 7 simple secrets to strengthen your relationship with your partner.
1. Talk to each other
2. Listen to each other
You can listen, but you can hear - these are two different things!
Try to understand your partner's feelings. Learn to be attentive by asking questions about various details that will help you learn more about the situation or experiences that your loved one is sharing with you.
3. Evaluate the state of the relationship
Try to protect the relationship before the real danger of their strength and stability comes. Communicate with each other about how you see your relationship, what is missing, whether everyone finds what they expect in it, and together look for ways to embody what each of you wants from this relationship.
Let it be joint construction, not restoration. Remember that your spouse may not perceive the state of the relationship between you exactly the way you do. For example, everything suits you, but something hurts her (him), or vice versa. Therefore, it is important to understand what the other is experiencing in this relationship. Help each other in this.
4. Prevent conflicts before they arise
There are many ways to deal with conflicts, but the best is to prevent them. Although, you and I do not correctly understand the meaning and importance of conflicts. In fact, conflicts are a necessary part of a relationship - you are different! But how you solve them and whether you bring them to quarrels will speak of the maturity of love between you. Be prepared in advance that there will be conflicts. Do not rush to pour out all your displeasure on your beloved (beloved). Learn to speak lovingly about your negative experiences as well. And never go to bed without solving problems.
5. Strive for a balanced life
6. Let your relationship grow and change.
All people change every minute, and you can change with your partner if you take into account each other's feelings. Be open to change, look for ways to change together. Strive for more in your feelings, do something every day that will make them even stronger. Do not think that you have reached the peak of love, all the peaks are still ahead of you - do not deprive yourself of the opportunity to experience completeness in all its manifestations.
Support the interests of your loved one and find new activities for yourself. Even if your day-to-day work life begins to turn into a chore, bring something new to your relationship, arrange dates, write notes to each other, and go out on a picnic!
7. Let Your Difference Strengthen Your Relationship
You are so dear, but so different. Each of you is unique, but you can no longer live without each other, these differences only brighten up the relationship. Do not try to make the other person the same as you, to force him to react to situations as you do. Don't see differences as a problem, but take it as a chance to be with someone who can push you out of your comfort zone. Admire this difference and think about how it will help you overcome different difficulties in life.
Strong relationship to you! Do not forget these secrets, strive to develop them in a relationship with a partner.
What's the easiest way to improve your relationship with a man? What is the most effective way to influence a man so that he begins to respect a woman? Let me remind you that a man cannot truly love a woman he does not respect. (On the contrary, it happens) This is a feature of male psychology.
Of course, the main way to improve your relationship with a man is to build self-confidence. Should confidence increase by 10%, as for insecure women, relations with men will immediately improve 2 times and at least 10% for women with average self-confidence.
Developing self-confidence prior to the formation of subconscious reactions and behavior. For example, reacting quickly to a joke, being confident when tired, focusing on other thoughts, and even being confident when trying to appear insecure requires training. (that is, this behavior happens by itself, and not only when the girl tries) - this is a rather lengthy process, which is described in my course "How to become more self-confident in 3 months".
However, there are behaviors that you just need to be aware of, and they do not require a lot of training. Know, understand, try several times and there will already be an effect. Of course, the effect of such knowledge is lower than that of training, but all actions require much less time and effort.
It is about this behavior that I will talk about today. This behavior is the simplest, obvious. But, nevertheless, if you constantly apply it in life in relation to men, you will quickly feel the effect.
The first way to improve relationships with men is to voice your opinion, tell stories from your life, share something useful, etc.
Do you know what outwardly one of the biggest differences between confident people and insecure people? In the first few minutes or hours, how do men determine a woman's confidence and, accordingly, draw conclusions for themselves about the prospects of love for her, marriage, etc.?
Confidence or uncertainty is determined by whether a woman expresses her opinion on some issues, tells something about herself, advises or not.
Insecure women (as well as men) often think that their opinion is not interesting, that they do not fully know the situation in order to have their own opinion, etc. Often this has nothing to do with objective knowledge.
Therefore, it makes sense to get used to expressing your opinion. You can and should train, of course, not only on the man you like, but on everyone. The easiest and safest way to train with friends or colleagues. It is more difficult already in professional activity. But you have to try and try.
A Few Notes on Expressing Your Own Opinion.
Expressing your own opinion is an effective and fairly safe technique that builds confidence and even more perception of you as a confident girl. However, there should be minimal caution.
First, be very careful about expressing your own opinion about the ethics of your man's actions in his professional activities.
Many professions of men, especially managers, law enforcement officers and entrepreneurs, require a certain rigidity or they immediately fly out of the cage. It is necessary to fire people who may have nothing to live on, sometimes you need to cheat, evade taxes, give bribes, manipulate employees or colleagues, make notes, do unnecessary work (window dressing) and do a lot of not always pleasant, but necessary things ...
It is necessary to criticize (under the guise of expressing one's opinion) this part of men's work (if there is one, of course) either very carefully or completely forget about it.
Ethics or unethical behavior with friends, relatives, yourself, etc., is quite debatable.
Secondly, expressing your opinion on the professional behavior of the manager and colleagues.
You also need to be careful here. You need at least some preparation so that your opinion is perceived (and does not look like another stupidity) and you need to be prepared for the fact that it can be perceived as criticism.
In addition to these small clarifications, there is a huge number of areas of life where one can and should speak out. Tell about yourself, express your opinion, share tips on where something can be done right (or someone did wrong), etc.
If you do this all the time, then in addition to the perception by men (and women) of you as a more confident woman, you will get feedback on your statements. You will understand that you have said something stupid here, but here you know no less than someone else, but here it was necessary to say something for a long time, and not to be silent. And if you listen to this feedback, you will become much wiser.
Plus, as I've written on numerous occasions, men need to be direct about what you need. (with a few exceptions) By learning to talk about yourself more often, it will be much easier for you to tell your man what you need from him.
In general, talking about yourself, about your opinion, advising someone from your own experience is a pretty good strategy. Apply it and you will gradually understand how it works.
Method two - don't try too hard.
Obviously, the more insecure a woman is, the more she tries to please a man. A self-confident woman, of course, also tries to please a man to some extent, but she does it ten times less for this. (Doesn't do less, but usually tries less)
To make it clearer, I will give a few examples.
The first example is dressing too diligently.
Let's say that a woman meets a man.
She might dress TOO hard for the first meeting. For example, put on your best evening dress, all your best jewelry, do some incredibly expensive hairstyle, etc. etc. And besides this, she can even tell the man that she begged for a dress from a friend for a long time, that she does this hairstyle once a year on major holidays, etc.
This is an example of over-diligence. A man may come on a date in ordinary clothes or even in a tracksuit and does not expect such clothes from a woman at all. Such excessive diligence clearly shows him that a woman is too interested in him, it is not particularly necessary to achieve her, that she is already practically in love and the only task is quick sex and think about how it is easier to part with such a thing later.
Again, I’m not suggesting you come on a date in a tracksuit. (Although depending on where the date is and it may be a good idea) Of course, wear a normal dress, if necessary, then do your hair and nothing more.
The second example is cooking too diligently or even more table setting..
A man comes on a date to a girl and sees candles, some kind of tablecloths, expensive champagne, expensive table setting, etc.
But why would it be? What did he deserve? If yes, then there are no questions.
Again, I'm not suggesting leaving a man hungry if he came to a girl's home. Of course, you need to feed him. However, one dish and a regular plate with a fork are enough for this.
The third example is diligence in helping a man..
For example, a man has a difficult situation. He does not have time to do something, he lacks some connections or skills, he does not have enough money or something else. Can the girl help him? Of course it can, why not.
But don't try EXTREMELY.
If a man does not know something, then it is quite possible 
suggest where to look for it. It would be excessive in this situation to sit for weeks in libraries and the Internet, systematize another couple of weeks of knowledge, and then print it all.
If a man does not have time for something, then you can cancel the date (no offense), you can even sit with him for a couple of hours and sort it out together, but excessively - to do everything for him.
If a man lacks some kind of connections that you have, then it is quite possible to give him a small recommendation, to organize a meeting where he could tell about his wonderful proposal himself. It will be excessive - this is to push someone (parents, subordinates or colleagues) so that they forget about other options and accept only services, goods, ideas, etc. men you liked.
So, in order to please men, of course, you need to try. But it is desirable that these efforts are basically directed at you, and not the man. That is, they mastered some skill from the Psychology of Men - well. They brought the weight back to normal - excellent. Improved your confidence - great.
You need to try much less for a particular man. And most importantly, as I write here, you need to avoid EXTRAORDINARY diligence. Not only is it not helpful, it is extremely harmful to relationships.
The fourth example is an excessive attempt to match his hobbies, interests, etc..
Almost every man loves something that does not arouse any interest in a woman. Someone is ready to examine or repair cars all day, someone watches sports programs, someone constantly reads about politics, and someone is ready to work from morning to evening. (Of course, this is not all, there are still a lot of different hobbies.)
Of course, it is highly desirable that a woman at least minimally understands what is important for a man. This often holds the family together, or even serves as the basis for starting communication.
It is desirable that a woman at least in general terms knows what her man is doing, knows at least approximately his hobbies. And if the relationship develops, then it makes sense to go a little deeper and know more about what the man knows. (If there is interest, then dive deeply)
Excessive effort rather quickly shows a man that a woman needs him too much, has no interests of her own and is not confident in herself (in general or in a relationship with a particular man). Excessive independence, of course, is also bad, but in Russia it is still relatively rare.
The third way to improve relationships with men is to be at least a little secretive..
Insecure women immediately tell everything about themselves. More precisely, it usually happens as follows. At first, they are generally not ready to tell anything to unfamiliar men, to ask them something or to defend their opinion. (Shyness)
But as soon as the man showed his affection for her, they talked for several hours, and the flow of information about himself immediately begins.
Confident women do the opposite. A little, shallowly, they are ready to communicate with almost any more or less adequate man. However, in order to speak frank conversations in large numbers to a man, he must deserve it.
Let's take an example from them. Learn to chat about everything on the one hand. Naturally, you also need to train not only and not so much on the man you like, but also on any person. It is clear that communication with strangers or unfamiliar people is of value for learning.
On the other hand, learn to hide information about yourself. Think about what you can tell at the first meetings (and not only at the first) and to whom, and try to keep this information to yourself. Think about what information you should never share with anyone at all.
Conversely, think about what you can talk about with almost anyone.
With a man who likes a woman, you need to talk with even more caution. At the very least, never tell him that you are head over heels in love with him. And do not write him love letters until he himself tells you about his feelings.
I think it’s clear that you don’t need to tell a man that you are sitting by the phone all day and waiting for his call with an invitation to a date. The rest of the points, I think you can add yourself.
The general principle is as follows. Learn to talk about general topics (weather, children, world events) with any stranger and keep with you information with a relatively well-known person, but which does not need to be said. Insecure women have problems with both the first and second points. But if it is not so easy to learn to talk with strangers without special training, then you can retain information simply by volitional efforts, a little practice and analysis.
Best regards, Rashid Kirranov
Everyday life absorbs our life. They make it monotonous and uninteresting. How to make relationships interesting is a question that worries many married couples. Family life must not lose its imagination. And the main thing is to avoid routine in a relationship.
The most important condition for making family life more diverse is that both spouses strive for this. Both should have a desire to bring bright colors to family life. And if this desire appears and there is a desire for a successful result, then the obstacle can be easily overcome.
An interesting and varied life should start in the first months after the wedding. And here it is necessary to take care of traditions.
In the evening, share your impressions of the past working day, discuss everything that happened to you. As for lunch, you can spend your lunch break together in a restaurant or cafe.
Many couples are thinking about how to make the relationship more interesting. You can use the traditions of your parents or take their ideas as a basis. Over time, love becomes familiar, and relationships lose their original freshness. Therefore, family traditions can become a real value for your couple. Prepare some interesting and new dishes together, and then mutually enjoy their taste. Every year, with the beginning of the fruit season, you can go together for fruit in honor of the arrival of spring and the beginning of the warmth.
Learn to surprise each other
Do not use your usual expressions all the time and get rid of predictable actions. All this brings monotony to the family union.
How can you make the relationship more interesting in this case? Just imagine: you had a fight, and it would seem that you have to get up, go out and slam the door. Do not do this! Better get up, go to your soul mate and say: “Let's not quarrel. Let's figure out the situation without scandals, and everything will be fine! " You will see - the conflict will come to naught.
Don't forget to give gifts to each other. While in the store, in addition to the planned purchases, buy something for your spouse. Believe me, he will be very pleasantly surprised. After all, men are very fond of unexpected gifts.
Come up with a joint hobby for yourself
Jogging in the morning together will not only be good for your health, but will also charge you with positive emotions for the whole day and diversify your family life.
The main thing is that the chosen hobby is interesting and pleasant to each of you.
And, of course, the intimate side of relationships also requires variety. Don't be afraid to innovate your sexual relationship. Improve your relationship, improvise, and don't be afraid to tell your partner what you like. Focus your attention on what he likes. A strong family will not work without intimate relationships. Otherwise, it will lead to betrayal of one of the spouses.
Relationships are central to family life. You need to constantly work on them. After all, a good relationship is a solid foundation for a happy family. Get rid of the mundane and make your relationship varied, interesting and strong.