Speak good or be silent. Speak good or be silent. A true Muslim does not use bad language

04.07.2020

A very fashionable topic in Dagestan lately is dialogue. And since they are talking about him at the state level, why shouldn't I be in fashion and talk about him.

We conduct dialogues throughout our lives. The first conversation of this format takes place between a mother and her child and sounds something like this: "give" - "on". Big statesmen talk about dialogue at a high level, and let's talk about it as a form of communication between us - ordinary people - in our everyday life.

Dialogue is something that we, people, need, but at the same time it is not always pleasant. We like monologue more as a form of self-expression. After all, it is always pleasant when you speak and they listen to you. It is even more pleasant if the listeners agree with what you are broadcasting to them. If not, it is unpleasant, and it is with this feeling of discomfort that our opposition to others begins. The most common reaction to expressing disagreement is trying to convince you that you are right. And this is how most often disputes begin. Because it is not a fact: a) that you are right, b) that you will be able to convince your opponent of this, c) that you need to convince him at all. From the simplest, kitchen-scale skirmishes, people incorrectly build a dialogue with each other.

In kindergarten, children argue about whose mother is better. In old age - about whose grandson is better brought up. Parents and children, bosses and subordinates, husbands and wives argue. They argue and most often quarrel because of unwillingness and inability to give in. And so - from birth to death, if you do not learn to avoid the destructive maelstrom of incorrectly conducted discussion. Allah Almighty said:

“I vouch for a house in the vicinity of paradise for a person who refuses to dispute, even if he is right, (and I vouch) for a house in the middle of paradise for someone who does not even jokingly lie, (and I vouch) for a house in the upper limits paradise for the well-behaved "(Abu Dawda is an authentic hadith of Qudsi).

What does the controversy lead to? To break up the relationship. Both between relatives and between whole nations. If everyone would follow the hadith and refuse to argue, how wonderful it would be! If everyone gave the other the opportunity to say the last word, to stay right in their eyes. There is a difference between arguing and talking, noble discussions in which the truth is established. In order to decide to lead them, you need to have not only outstanding knowledge, but also the best disposition. The most common problem for Muslim women observing the canons of Islam is the rejection of their views by relatives, friends, parents ... Having gained knowledge, which, if presented in print, would be enough for a thin brochure about Islam, they eagerly rush to instruct everyone who is caught. Relatives and friends come across more often and faster. And most importantly, they themselves suggest themselves, and even start first. Because The hardest thing is usually to convince those who heard you say “mother” for the first time and know all your weaknesses in their rightness, it is much easier to move on to an argument and quarrel with them. How often does this lead to a break in relations! But it is said:

(meaning): "O Muhammad, call to religion by the Qur'an, instructions, politely, and dispute with them by what is best."(Surah "An-Nahl", ayat 125).

And the best - how can it destroy? The most important thing is to stop before anything is damaged. Before the first pain is inflicted - by a careless word, an irritated or arrogant look ...

Even more frightening and painful are the disputes between Muslims, whose beliefs about religion differ. The inability to build a dialogue in a dignified manner leads to fitna - division among believers.

The following story is given in the book describing the biography of Abu Hanifa.

“Abu Hanifa at one time was a strong connoisseur of Akidah, he conducted debates, disputes with various people, with atheists, sectarians. And prevailed over them. When his son began to study the science of Kalam, i.e. the science of theology, Akida, and also began to discuss, then his father, i.e. Abu Hanifa, forbade him, saying: “When we were debating, we treated our opponent with respect; we sat so quietly and calmly that even if the bird sat on our heads, it would not fly away. And we in the debate wished that our opponent did not make a mistake. When you conduct discussions, you want your opponent to make a mistake and commit kufr. And the one who wants his opponent to fall into unbelief, he himself falls into unbelief before him, because he wanted to endure his brother in faith with takfir ".

In fact, there is nothing to add, just remember and draw conclusions.

On the eve of Ramadan, I am addressing you with the words from a reliable hadith:

"Let the one who believes in Allah and the Last Day speak good or keep silent."(Muslim, Bukhari).

Let's meet in paradise.

Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him, in a hadith narrated by Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: "Let the one who believes in Allah and in the Last Day speak good or keep silent."

In sura "Kaf" The Holy Quran says:

« Two angels sit on the right and left and receive (record deeds)... As soon as he (a person) utters a word, he has a ready observer "(50: 17-18)

Think about what angels record each your word!

Islamic scholars say: "Saying a word is easy, but calculating for it will be difficult."... And this is really so, because the Almighty said:

"Whether you hide your speeches or say them aloud, hide them at night or openly pronounce them during the day - you are all equal before Allah." (13:10)

Allah Almighty has endowed people with many benefits, and one of the greatest benefits is the ability to speak. If we use this gift to worship Allah, pray, read the Holy Quran, Salavat, call for good and do other godly deeds, we show gratitude to the Almighty for this priceless gift. If we lie, spread gossip and insult other people, we show ingratitude and incur the wrath of God.

A true Muslim does not use bad language

20 authentic hadiths to prove:

1. The believer does not denigrate, curse, do nothing obscene or use foul language"(At-Tirmizi).

2. Iyaz bin Hammad, may Allah be pleased with him, says: “Once, I asked the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him:“ O Messenger of Allah, one of my tribe is insulting me. Can I answer him in the same way? " The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, replied: “ Those who insult each other are two shaitans scolding each other».

3. Said the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him: “ Paradise is forbidden for the one who speaks foul"(Abu Daud).

4. It is narrated from the words of Abu-d-Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “ Pverily, Allah hates the one who utters obscene and bad words"(At-Tirmizi).

5. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Shyness and rejection of destructive words are two branches of faith, and profanity and talkativeness are two branches of hypocrisy” (Ahmad, at-Tirmidhi, al-Hakim).

6. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “ Save your tongue from the bad, with this you will defeat the shaitan"(At-Tabarani).

7. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “ Feed the hungry, give the thirsty drink, strive for good and avoid evil; and if you cannot, then restrain your tongue from all words except kind"(Ibn Abi ad-Dunya).

8. It is reported that one Bedouin said to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him: "O Messenger of Allah, I am a rude man, give me instructions." In response, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Fear the Almighty and Great Allah; in no case neglect any of the approved (Shariah), even if you only need to pour water from your tub into the vessel of the one who asks for it; in any case, do not show arrogance, for the All-Good and Almighty Allah does not love this; if someone begins to scold and reproach you for your shortcomings, which he knows about, do not reproach him for his shortcomings, which are known to you, and you will receive part of his reward for this, and he will bear the burden of sin; and under no circumstances scold anyone"(Ahmad).

9. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “ The one who speaks against and hears is partakers in sin"(At-Tabarani).

10. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, also said: "The character of a slave is not corrected until the faith is corrected, just as the heart is not corrected until the tongue is corrected" (at-Tirmidhi).

11. From Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, it is reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “ Oh Aisha, truly, the worst people before Allah are those whom others leave for fear of hearing something obscene. "(Al-Bukhari, Muslim).

12. Imam Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “ A noble man never swears».

13. It is reported that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Shyness is one of the branches of faith. And faith will be in paradise, and shamelessness from rudeness and rudeness will be in hell ”(Ahmad, at-Tirmidhi, ibn-Hibban).

14. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "The one who is not worried about what he says to people, and what people tell him, is born of adultery, or a shaitan took part in his conception." Another version says: “Allah has forbidden Paradise for any vile shameless scolder who does not care what he says about others, nor what others say about him. And if you look at him, you will surely see that he was born of adultery or that the seed of his father was mixed with the seed of the shaitan ”(Al-Kafi, volume 2).

15. About those who speak foul, not considering that they are doing something bad, the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “ Indeed, a certain person can say a word without even attaching any importance to it, but because of which he will be thrown into hell for seventy years» (at-Tirmizi). Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said: “Indeed, a slave can say something pleasing to Allah Almighty, which he himself will not pay attention to, but for this Allah will exalt it is many steps, and a slave can say something that arouses the wrath of Allah Almighty, which he himself will not pay attention to, but for this Allah will plunge him into hell! "(Al-Bukhari).

16. Imam Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, said: “By Allah, the believer will not make Allah pleased with anything like patience, and he will not infuriate the Shaitan more than by silence [in response to curses], and will not take revenge on a fool like by not paying attention to him. "

17. Hasan al-Basri, may Allah be pleased with him, said : « One who does not hold his tongue cannot understand his religion ».

18. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Listen, I will tell you the simplest and easiest form of worship is silence and a good disposition"(Ibn Abi-Dunya).

19 ... The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Indeed, the tongue of the mumin is behind his heart; when he wants to say something, he thinks it over first. And the tongue of the hypocrite is in front of his heart; when he wants to say something, he does not think it over with his heart. "

20. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “The Almighty covers up the shortcomings of the one who restrains his tongue, and does not punish the one who restrains his anger, and accepts the complaints of the one who turns to Him” (Ibn Abi-Dunya).

It was narrated from the words of Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: "The faith of a slave is not set directly until his heart is set straight, and his heart is not set straight until his tongue is set straight."... The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, called the purification of the heart a condition for the purification of faith, and the purification of the tongue is a condition for the purification of the heart.

To purify the heart, we must more often praise the Lord, recite tawhid, read salavat.

Let this verse of the Holy Quran inspire you:

“O you who have believed! Fear Allah and speak the right word. Then He will correct your deeds for you and forgive you your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger has already achieved great success. " (33:70-71)

And Allah Almighty knows best!

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And if it is used in worshiping Allah: reading the Quran, encouraging good and forbidding evil, or using it to help the offended, then this is exactly what is required of every Muslim, and this will be a true manifestation of gratitude to Allah Almighty for this priceless gift.

And if you use it in evil, obedience to Satan and to split lies and deception among Muslims, spread blasphemy and gossip, defame the honor of Muslims, and in everything that Allah and His Messenger forbade, peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him, then it is such use is a sin for every Muslim and would be a manifestation of ingratitude towards Allah for this great gift.

Striving to look good and paying great attention to our appearance, sometimes we forget about our words and deeds. Islam, being not just a religion, but a way of life, encourages fear of God in everything - and in what we say and do.

Allah Almighty said in the Qur'an: “O you who have believed! Fear Allah and speak the right word. Then He will correct your deeds for you and forgive you your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger has already achieved great success. "(Quran 33: 70-71).

Notice how the call to speak righteous words is aligned with the call to fear God. This is no coincidence, because goodness and warmth emanate from the God-fearing, people feel safe next to them. Those who do not have fear of God, do not inspire confidence, and harm comes from them. Sometimes it happens that in word or deed we involuntarily offend people. Abu Hurayrah reported that Ibn Abbas said: "On the Day of Judgment, a person will not feel more rage or indignation at any part of his body more than what he will feel about his tongue, unless he used it to express or induce goodness.".

Al-Hassan said: "He who does not hold his tongue cannot understand his religion." The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "A sign of a person's good practice of religion is that he leaves things that do not concern him.".

The Companions and their followers devoted their time only to that which benefited them both in worldly life and in eternal life. In this way, they kept their hearts pure and multiplied their righteous deeds.

Narrated in Al-Musnad, from the words of Anas, that the Prophet said: "The faith of a slave is not set directly until his heart is set straight, and his heart is not set straight until his tongue is set straight."... This statement shows that the Prophet made cleansing of the heart a condition for cleansing the faith, and cleansing the tongue a condition for cleansing the heart.

Ibrahim ibn Adham said: "Two things decompose the soul of a person: an increase in material goods and conversations".

Imam Ghazali said: "There are four types of conversation: bringing only harm, bringing only good, bringing both benefit and harm, or not bringing either one or the other.".

In a hadith narrated from the words of Mu Aza, the Prophet said: "Can I tell you how to handle all of this?" I then said: "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He grabbed his tongue with his fingers and then said, "Hold this!" I said, “O Prophet of Allah! Will we be responsible for what we say? " He said: “Woe to your mother! Is there anything more than a crop of tongues throwing people with their faces (or he said "noses") into the fire? "

By the words "harvest of tongues" is meant the punishment for saying forbidden things. A person by his deeds and speeches sows the seeds of good or evil. On the Day of Resurrection, he reaps the benefits. He who sowed the seeds of good words and deeds will reap a harvest of honor and blessings. He who sowed the seeds of bad words and deeds will only reap bitterness and humiliation.

The Qur'an also contains a verse with the following meaning: “ In many speeches that you make, there is no benefit, except in the speech of a person who commits alms, good, creates compromise relations between people "(surah "an-Nisa", ayat 114).

Also, you should not abuse the attention of people, talking about yourself, about your personal business, about your abilities, family, loved ones. One sage was asked: "What is right but bad?" He replied: "The praise that a person addresses himself.".

There is a verse in the Qur'an with the following meaning: "A person does not pronounce a single word so that the angels Rakib and Atid are not present next to him."(Surah "Kaf", ayah 18). Islamic scholars say: "Saying a word is easy, but calculating for it will be difficult."... And this is really so, because the Almighty said: "Whether you hide your speeches or say them aloud, hide them at night or openly pronounce them during the day - you are all equal before Allah."(Quran 13:10). Therefore, we should all think about what we are saying, because Allah will ask from everyone for this.

Imam al-Qurtubi said in his tafsir: "The words of the Almighty indicate that people should not meddle in other people's affairs, and it is impossible, on the basis of guesswork, without proper knowledge, to condemn anyone or suspect him of something.", after which he quoted the following words of Allah: “ Don't follow what you don't know. Indeed, hearing, sight and heart - they will all be called to account "(Quran 17:36).

Let us think about our deeds, appreciate the words and conversations, let us speak only righteous words and be God-fearing! And let us not forget the words of the Prophet, may Allah be pleased with him, who in the hadith narrated by Abu Hurayrah said: "Let the one who believes in Allah and in the Last Day speak good or keep silent"... The truth of the great prophet!

Abdrahman KHABIBULLIN

There is no doubt that Allah Almighty has endowed man with tremendous benefits. And one of the greatest benefits is the ability to speak through language. But this language is like a sharp spear.

Ibrahim ibn Adham said: "Two things decompose the soul of a person: an increase in material goods and conversations".

Imam Ghazali said: "There are four types of conversation: bringing only harm, bringing only good, bringing both benefit and harm, or not bringing either one or the other.".

Abdrahman KHABIBULLIN

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Allah wants us to have the personality and character of true Muslims.
Engaging in empty deeds (may Allah save us from this), gossip and other things is a disaster. You need to be reverent about worship, and outside of worship, save yourself from empty and unnecessary words. The hadith-sharif says: "The abandonment of affairs that do not directly interest a person is an indicator that he is a good Muslim." Allah says: "Wa la tajassus" - "Do not look for faults in others." Do not look for flaws in anyone, but if you want to do this, then let's look for your flaws. Gossip is one of the disasters that lasts until the Day of Judgment, it is an attack on the rights of Muslims. One of the awliya says: "If you are used to gossip and cannot save yourself from it, gossip about your parents, let your good deeds pass to them."
One day Abdullah Dahlevi, passing by a meeting, saw that people were gossiping and quickly left this place. He said, "Hey-wah, my post has gone bad." To which his student replied: "Teacher, but you weren't gossiping!" And Dahlevi said: “Let it! But when we passed them, the darkness of this gossip reflected on me. "
Our language is very important. There is one hadith-sharif, Muaz bin Jabal (r) was one of the beloved companions of the Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam), the Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam) consulted with him personally. Once the Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam) was riding a camel, and the Ashabs also rode alongside him. Muaz bin Jabal had deep feelings for the Prophet (Sal'Allahu alayhi wa salam) and he said to our Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam): “Ya Rasulullah! If I don't bother you, can I come up to you? " The Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam) said: "Please!" Muaz (r) approached and said: “Let my soul be a sacrifice for you! Ya Rasulullah! One thing worries me: I would like to die before you and not feel the pain of losing you. But, if fate is such that you leave before us - what is your advice? " The Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam) did not answer and for some time remained in mysterious silence. Muaz (r) asked: "Ya Rasulullah, do jihad ?!" But there is better. " Then Muaz asked: "To fast, to recite namaz ... Is this?" "This is a must, but there is even better!" - answered the Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam). The associate began to list all the good deeds. The Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam) said: "There is better for people than all this!" Muaz (r) said: “Ya Rasulullah! May my mother and father be sacrifices for you! What could be better than what I have listed ?! " - "If you say good - speak, if not - be silent!" - said the Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam). Muaz (r) asked: "Will we be asked even for what we say?" (Not because we say bad things, but because we are empty talk, and Muaz asked: "Are we going to be asked for this?" O Muaz! What else drags a person to hell besides his tongue ?! If you say good - speak, if you do not say good - be silent! " Allah says: "They protect themselves from idle talk."
In the language of a mumin, there should be no empty words. We must think that every word that has flown out of our language reflects our inner world. If lies, gossip, slander or empty unnecessary words come out of our mouths - all this is a reflection of our inner world. It means that there are such feelings inside, and they come out. If only good (khair) and beautiful come out of the mouth, then our spiritual world is full of very beautiful feelings. This is how it is measured for us.
Tirmidhi says that our Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam) said: “In every conversation you have, remember Allah, talking a lot about other things hardens the heart. It is obvious that people with a cruel heart are the most distant from Allah. " Likewise in Bukhari: "Let the one who believes in the Day of Judgment speak good or keep silent." There are still very different warnings. We must adopt the spiritual state that our Prophet had (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam). A man with those he loves. This spiritual state should be both in our worship and delicacy in our fellowship. We must constantly carry joy with us, then politeness will be in our disposition. We must be as polite as we expect others to be. The soul should be soft and deep, merciful. We are even responsible for the cats and dogs in our yards, as Allah created them for us.
Faces should radiate light, like angelic ones. Because Allah says: "You will see them making ruku", soot "" Min eseri sujud "- they have signs of soot, a special nurture and calmness.
Abdullah bin Salam, the head of the Jews during the Hijri, wanted to be shown our Prophet (SalAllahu alayhi wa salam). Looking at him, he said, "This man cannot tell lies." This means that the spiritual world is always reflected outside a person. Allah says: "You will recognize them by their faces." That is, the heart is so cleansed that you recognize them by their face. There is also a verse about infaka (that is, spending property on the path of Allah): "Give alms to those who gave themselves on the path to Allah, because of their devotion and upbringing they will not tell about their problems, you will recognize them by their faces." ... This means that the Mumin's spiritual world should become like an X-ray. The language should be like that of our Prophet (Sal'Allahu alayhi wa salam): clear, understandable.
How does Allah want us to speak? What language? - This is the language of the Koran. Our heart must imitate the language of the Quran. We must address our parents with Kalban-Karim, Kalban-Sadida - who speak the truth. Kavlan-Meisura - if you cannot give anything to a Muslim, then speak in such a way as to bring joy to his heart. Kavlan-Balig` a - eloquently, beautifully. Kavlan Leyina, when you call to Islam, speak beautifully, like the flow of water, in very beautiful phrases.
Allah created for us the Prophet (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam) as the most beautiful person with a wonderful character - an example to follow. A man with those he loves. We must try to be like Him in every matter (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam), the purpose of ashab-kiram is to imitate the Prophet: to think like Him (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam), to be merciful like Him (SalaAllahu alayhi wa salam). The following verse says: "Wa lyazuna lizzakati failun" - "Zakat is the share of those who do not have opportunities, but it is entrusted to those who have them." And also: "assaili wal makhrum" - "the right of the one who conceals his condition over the one who does not hide it."
Musa (Aleikhi salam) asked: “Ya Rabbi! Where can I find you? " Allah replied: "Look for me among the offended, lonely, beggars."
Saadi Shirazi says: "Friends of Allah bargain in bazaars where no one bargains." What are these bazaars? Sad souls, sad hearts.
Thus, a mumin must look at all beings with the eyes of the Creator. Whatever he wants for himself, he must also wish for others.
Abdullah bin Ja'far passed by a slave and saw that he had three pieces of bread, and he gave them to the dog. Abdullah bin Ja'far asked: "Who are you?" And the slave said: "I am a slave, and these three pieces of bread are my earnings for today." Then Abdullah bin Jafar asked: "What kind of dog is this?" The slave replied: “I see, this is some strange dog, not like the locals, and I accepted it as a guest. I gave her one piece ... She's hungry. " And Abdullah bin Jafar asked: "What are you going to do yourself?" The slave said, "Today I will bear it." So what is it? It means looking through the eyes of the Creator.
Mawlana says: "Shams Tabrizi taught me just one thing:" If there is at least one offended at least one frozen person in the world, you have no right to warm yourself. " I know that there are many offended and frozen, and because of this I cannot keep warm. " What's this? - This is the heart of a mu'min. Ibrahim Edham gives this example when he says what the heart should be like.
In the heat, be like a shadow, in the cold like a caftan, in hunger like bread.