The child is naughty and crying. Why is your child often naughty. Overprotectiveness and overindulgence

It is quite easy to distract a baby up to a year from an unwanted activity by switching his attention to something else. They jingled the keys, showed a bird in the sky - and now he had already forgotten about someone else's ball, to which he was rushing a minute ago. But with age, the level of arbitrariness of attention increases. Now the switch can only work if you suggest something more interesting. And so the parents begin to lure the baby with phones, iPads, or simply turn on the TV to somehow calm him down. Don’t do this. Don’t give your child upbringing to gadgets.

“Well, now the computer is an integral part of our life, without it, nowhere,” young parents object to this. And they are, of course, right. And yet, even an adult, after a whole day of working at a computer, feels tired and gutted. What to say about the little man? A flurry of information falls upon him, which he simply cannot properly perceive and digest.

If you turn on the TV for your baby, be sure to watch the program with him. Only in this case you will be able to control what exactly and in what quantity he watches. There are great games for the little ones to develop visual memory: "Find me", "Memory". I myself use them in practice. But no matter how good they are, do not leave the child alone with the monitor, sit next to him and study with him. Then these games will benefit the baby. If all these devices are turned on only so that you do not interfere with your own business, then very soon you will shrug and exclaim: “I don’t understand where he got this from!” But this is not the biggest danger that lies in wait for a baby given up for education by electronic toys. Another thing is more terrible: the sooner he gets to know them, the more likely he is to develop dependence on them.

Ideally, when mom comes home, the baby should throw all the toys and run towards her - because he is bored, because playing with mom is more interesting than alone. Children usually behave this way in all cases, with the exception of one - if they are busy playing virtual games and watching TV. This is where even communication with mom can lose its value. After all, when you play with your mother, with peers, you need to somehow react to another person, find a common language, negotiate, receive, among other things, a negative reaction. In computer games, everything is different. "Did not work out. Try again,” the email friend suggests. Yes, on the one hand, the child does not experience stress due to the fact that something does not work out for him - there is an opportunity to improve immediately. But, on the other hand, are we given countless attempts in real life? If one day a child loses to peers in the yard, no one will give him a second chance, no one will offer to repeat it all over again. And he will not have the experience to cope with failures, lose and negotiate. And you will want to run away from this real courtyard back to the cozy computer world, where you will always be given an infinite number of chances to become a winner. And now your baby is spending more and more time with his favorite smartphone.

And when you try to take it away, it goes berserk, screams and protests. The gadget becomes the greatest value for him.

This is how addictions are formed: computer, gaming, television, and later addiction to social networks. If they arose at such an early age, it is almost impossible to get rid of them. And this is the main reason why young children need to be protected from electronic toys.

But let us return to the question posed at the beginning of this chapter. How to distract the child, if there is such a need? Try to do it in the simplest way possible. Draw his attention to the people who pass by. If he doesn't want to leave the playground, tell him what you will do when you get home. At the same time, it is necessary that in your future plans there is something that will really interest him.

And now attention! Distraction is a technique that is very convenient to use when a child is a year or a half old. But if you continue to often resort to this trick in the future, then the baby will eventually figure out your trick, learn it and begin to use it against you. Parents describe it this way: “As soon as I start a serious conversation with a two-year-old son or ask him to drink medicine, he starts to switch my attention to something else: he suddenly sees something interesting outside the window, or talks about extraneous things, or drops a chair on the floor, or start complaining about the stomach. In psychology, this is called replacement behavior. Here the kid is tired, sat down on the road and does not go further. "Why did you sit down?" - "The legs hurt." In fact, the legs do not hurt, just tired and I want to be picked up. But if you tell the truth, most likely you will hear in response: “Nothing, be patient. We'll be there soon." But if you complain that your legs hurt, you will definitely be pitied.

In general, children notice very early: nothing worries parents so much as health complaints. This is where the tummies, arms, legs begin to “ache”. And if parents succumb to this trick, then by school the child already has a stable model of avoiding unwanted situations with the help of simulations. It is no coincidence that the majority of absenteeism “due to illness” occurs in the first grade (when the difficult process of adapting to school goes through) and in adolescence (when many lose motivation to study altogether). These omissions are usually accompanied by notes from the parents: “I had a stomach ache”, “felt bad”. I do not want to say that our children, in principle, never get sick. But they get sick much less often than you might think, looking at the school magazine.

To prevent such a scenario of development of events, already now, when your baby is 2-3 years old, translate his fantasies into reality, do not give him the opportunity to benefit from "physical illness". "My legs hurt." - “The legs don't hurt. You're probably just tired. We can sit on the bench for a while or just stand, and then we’ll move on.” “I won’t go to kindergarten, my stomach hurts.” - “It seems to me that you just really don’t want to go to kindergarten, but your tummy is in order. But if you want, we'll go to the doctor later."

“And if it really hurts, and we just dismiss what the baby says?” - Caring parents may ask me. And they will be absolutely right. But let's rely on common sense. Is it so difficult to understand whether it really hurts or not? Then consult a doctor, let him dispel your doubts.

Follow the routine of the day

Nothing is more beneficial for young children than stability and predictability. If you want to avoid childish tantrums and uncontrollable behavior, try to keep a daily routine. When the baby knows what he will do in the morning, in the afternoon, at lunch, the level of anxiety decreases, self-esteem increases. Why? Yes, because he becomes more independent.

I usually advise parents to draw and hang on the wall a large clock with a moving hand and pictures instead of numbers. With drawings, mark on the dial the time when the baby wakes up (spread bed and the sun), eats (a plate of porridge), walks (boots and a scoop) ... For a one-year-old child, this will be a very simple watch. And then, as you grow older, you can draw on the dial all the new things that appear in his life. During the day, move the arrow according to real time and talk with your child about what he has to do now. This is a very effective way to achieve compliance without scandals and hassle. After all, small children love rituals. And if you and your child move the arrow from picture to picture, he will be happy to do what is drawn on it.

Important! If there is a regimen in a child's life, everyone without exception should adhere to it - both mom and dad, and grandmother, and the nanny.

Unfortunately, very often it happens differently: parents who strictly observe the daily routine leave the child for one day to the grandmother - and by the evening they get a disinhibited, capricious baby. Grandmother decided not to put him to bed during the day, as a result he was overexcited and very tired. Parents understand this. What does the child understand? “You can stay awake at grandma’s, watch TV as much as you like and overeat with sweets, but mom and dad always make them sleep during the day, they don’t give sweets and forbid TV.” Thus begins the game of good and evil adult, a very harmful game in which there are no winners. Everyone loses. Therefore, I strongly advise: negotiate among yourselves and act together.

Warn in advance

If you say to a two-year-old kid playing on the playground: “We have to go home,” he will most likely answer: “I don’t want to.” And not because he really doesn't want to. It is possible that he is hungry and would like to go out to dinner. But such is the peculiarity of this age - he needs to show his independence, to defend his right to his own opinion. How to persuade him? Don't cut off abruptly. Come up and warn: “Finish. We're leaving in ten minutes." The kid still has no idea how long ten minutes last, but mentally he begins to tune in to the fact that it's time to go home. After another five minutes, come back and remind: "You have five minutes left." When you come up for the third time and say that the time is up and you need to leave, the baby will already be internally ready to finish the game and, most likely, will not argue or resist. It will be even better if you expand the action plan by adding an activity that the baby really likes. Time to collect toys. We go home in ten minutes. Let's make pies together. I'll let you knead the dough." Playing in the yard is very interesting, but making pies with mom is a great pleasure.

Suggest an alternative

If your child's favorite response to your calls is “I don't want to - I won't!”, Try not to give him direct instructions, but create the appearance of a choice. Don’t say it’s time to go for a walk, rather ask: “What tights do you want to wear today for a walk? Gray or blue? Or half an hour before it’s time to go to bed: “Are you going to bed right now or will you watch a cartoon first?” - "I'll watch the cartoon first." - "Good. Then we go to brush our teeth, change clothes, then we watch a cartoon, and immediately after the cartoon we go to sleep.” - "Are you reading a book?" - "Then choose: a book or a cartoon." Create a situation in which the child will not blindly follow your requirements, but will be able to make decisions for himself. Of course, this is an illusion of an alternative, and an older child, and even more so a teenager, will never agree with such a formulation of the question. But for a baby of two or three years old, the measure of independence that you provide him in this way is quite enough.

In my opinion, such a way to cope, or rather to bypass the natural children's stubbornness, is much more effective than an attempt by adults to “break”, insist on their own, in a word, “overstubborn” the baby. There is no doubt that you are stronger and can make him do what needs to be done. But at what cost? Is it worth bringing yourself and the child to hysterics? You are older, more experienced, wiser. Be flexible.

Important! The younger the child, the easier the alternative should be.

Do not offer a child of one and a half to two years old a choice of more than two options. Otherwise, he will simply be confused and will not be able to make a decision.

Use the join method

The baby walks and cries. "Why are you crying?" - "I do not know. I'm just crying." “Let me cry with you too. Who is louder? - "A-ah-ah!" “And I can cry even louder.” If possible, go together to a deserted place where you can cry and scream to your heart's content. Then begin to gradually bring the child out of his sad state. “Well, everything. I'm tired of crying. I no longer have tears." And here comes to the aid of children's love of imitation. If you have connected to his state, then he is ready to repeat everything after you. Now you can tune it like a violin. You are tired of crying - and he is tired. You remembered something funny - and he, too, is ready to laugh with you.

Wise mothers often use this method: first they start crying, and then they laugh. And now the baby is already laughing out loud, forgetting about his bad mood.

All parents are faced with the problem of baby crying, which can turn into a tantrum. It is necessary to find out why the baby is naughty, eliminate the causes, or, if possible, alleviate the condition of the baby. It is better to find out the possible options before childbirth, so that later you can help the baby faster.

Types of crying

Over time, parents can determine the needs of the child depending on the nature of the whims. Common variants of crying and their causes:

• Protracted, accompanied by redness, stretching of the arms - often caused by hunger. Feeding helps to calm down;
• The constant whimpering, sometimes with hiccups, may wax and wane alternately. You need to check the diapers, change if necessary. It is better to do this with a reusable diaper: if the crying does not stop, then the baby is wet, the skin is irritated by urine;
• A weak whimper turns into a strong cry, the baby actively moves his legs and arms - a possible requirement to eliminate inconvenience. This is a tight swaddling, an improperly fastened diaper, folds in clothes or a diaper that press on the skin. It can mean fatigue if the baby lies in the crib for a long time or takes an uncomfortable position;
• Crying slightly, trying to get rid of diapers - the baby is hot, he may blush, sweat. You need to change wet clothes and do not wrap the baby too tightly;
• A piercing cry with hiccups, trembling - the baby is cold, it is necessary to dress or cover him warmer.

A newborn baby can only report discomfort by crying, so you need to treat this with understanding. With frequent prolonged screaming that cannot be calmed by conventional means, a consultation with a pediatrician will be required to find out the reasons.

Crying while feeding

In addition, at 4 months, children begin to show more interest in the surrounding objects, colors, sounds. The muscular and skeletal system becomes stronger, more often there are attempts to roll over. The child begins to study the behavior of adults, toys, bright things. He shows emotions, enjoys attention and is dissatisfied if communication stops, is capricious before going to bed because of the desire to do something new and interesting.

Crying in a 4-month-old baby becomes more frequent due to the need for conversations, acquaintance with objects. In such cases, the whimpering child quickly calms down in his arms, becomes active.

It cannot be left without attention - it is important for the overall development, but it is not possible to keep it for days. It is necessary to act according to the situation: leave the child in the crib and not immediately take it to him if he starts to act up. Often he quickly stops whimpering due to switching attention to some object. In case of increased crying, it is necessary to calm the child - any accustoming should be gentle in order to avoid nervous disorders, muscle strains.

weather change

Many mothers note that the baby is naughty all day before changing weather conditions. In infancy, the protective functions are weakened, the systems of nerves, vessels of thermoregulation of the body are still just getting better. A sensitive reaction to the weather manifests itself in all children up to 4-6 months, but to varying degrees.

Then a healthy child is able to adapt to changes in the environment: temperature, humidity, wind speed. When atmospheric pressure changes, signs may appear:

• Change of mood due to deterioration in general well-being;
• The child does not sleep well, which is caused by an increase, a decrease in intracranial pressure, headaches;
• Disturbances in the digestive system, more often colic occurs due to the expansion of gases in the intestines. This is due to the difference in external pressure on the body with intracavitary pressure in the pelvic organs;
• Lethargy, rapid fatigue.

According to statistics, sensitivity to weather conditions is more pronounced in twins, blond babies and premature babies. It can manifest itself with weak immunity, stress, diseases, after vaccination.

Often manifestations of meteorological sensitivity are observed in the autumn-winter period with frequent jumps in temperature indicators: from minus to plus and vice versa. You need to pay attention to whether the weather has changed after the inexplicable whims of the baby, and what signs were present. Report suspicions to the doctor, who can prescribe drugs to reduce bloating, a course of massage, taking vitamin complexes or homeopathic remedies to strengthen the body. In rare cases, weather sensitivity is a symptom that will require additional examinations and treatment.

Toddlers who are dependent on atmospheric changes have a particularly acute need for attention. To prevent a deterioration in well-being, you need to dress the child according to the weather, use hardening procedures: walking, air baths, swimming, and doing gymnastics.

Knowing the possible causes of the baby's whims, you can calm him down by eliminating provoking factors. Stroking often helps, mother's warmth, her calm voice, melodious humming. If the usual methods do not help, the child's desperate cry may be a sign of pain. It is necessary to examine the skin, folds on the body of the child. Additionally, remember the conditions under which crying begins. Information will be needed when contacting a pediatrician to find out the causes of crying.

Of course, all children are capricious from time to time - some more often, some less often. But sometimes parents notice that the child has become too capricious and whiny, and for no apparent reason. Increased capriciousness in a child causes a lot of trouble and takes a lot of strength from adults. Why did the child become whiny and how to properly raise a capricious child so that the stigma of “crybaby” does not stick to him?

The reasons why the child became very capricious and whiny

The tearfulness of children for parents is one of the most powerful irritants. At the same time, the tears and cries of the baby can cause a variety of emotions in adults from the desire to help to despair and rage.

It is worth mentioning right away that children's excitability is several times stronger than that of an adult. This is quite normal, since the baby's psyche has not yet had time to fully form. An occasion that is trifling for an adult can turn into a real tragedy for a child. The kid reacts with tears to all those moments that are connected in his mind with negativity. Crying for him is an expression of emotions that he still does not know how to restrain. However, parents can be sure that the child is able to switch from bad to good very quickly and forget that he was upset about something just a minute ago.

Parents need to be as calm as possible about the tears of their offspring. The younger the child, the more often he will express his problems with the help of tears. If the child is very capricious and whiny, tears appear in his eyes too often, then there may be several reasons at once.

First of all, the causes of tearfulness in children are associated with temperament or individual personality traits. The fact is that by nature every person has a weak or strong nervous system. If a person has weak nerves, then even in adulthood he will differ from others in increased sensitivity, a tendency to melancholic manifestations, etc. In babies, this is more pronounced - from the first days they have increased excitability, sleep poorly and cry very often .

But sometimes it happens that the child becomes capricious all of a sudden - why is this happening? This may be due to some kind of stress, such as conflicts in kindergarten or school, divorce of parents or quarrels in the family. All this can significantly weaken the child's psyche and make the baby more excitable. Quite often, a child becomes capricious due to crises associated with the peculiarities of the age development of the personality - for example, at the age of one, three and seven years. You can ignore such tears; over time, this tearfulness will disappear by itself.

Another reason why a child is very capricious is internal tensions, which become a behavioral form of the child, which turned out to be quite effective in order for him to attract attention at any moment. Parents need to follow the baby and find out in what situations he starts to get upset and whimper. If tears appear when parents forbid something to their child or restrict him in something, while crying often develops into hysteria, then you should think about why such behavior has become the norm for him.

However, it should be remembered that the reasons why the child became whiny can be quite serious. For example, if a child has depression or has experienced violence. If the parents notice that the child has suddenly become whiny, capricious and tense, he has lost interest in life and in what used to be very fascinating him, or that he begins to have nightmares, nervous tics or other serious symptoms, then in this case parents need to go with the child to a psychologist. A specialist will help identify the reason why children become capricious and give recommendations for treatment.

Remember, children's whims are already a more serious phenomenon compared to tearfulness and even tantrums. In fact, this behavior is a real manifestation of the dictatorship of the weak. The baby, with the help of screams, tears, etc., can control his parents and get what he wants from them. Adults, seeing such behavior of their child, are ready to do anything, if only he would stop being capricious.

How to deal with a capricious child and wean him from tearfulness

Parents may notice that the child reacts very sharply to sad episodes in movies and cartoons, to screams and noises, and cries if he is told a terrible tale. Adults often do not quite correctly perceive the tears of a child with weak nerves: they begin to ridicule, urge him to stop crying, etc.

This should not be done, because the child will additionally develop self-doubt, and tearfulness will not disappear. Over time, the psyche will become stronger, the increased tearfulness in the child will decrease, he will be able to control himself, there will be less and less tears. In this case, it is useful for parents to consciously focus his attention on the positive aspects of life, trying to switch him from the negative to something positive.

Parents are often afraid of capriciousness in children, so they begin to suppress the child from the very beginning and do not allow his independence to develop. It is worth saying that the development of the psyche of a baby cannot take place without the occurrence of various kinds of conflict situations. Often, such whims arise when a child is forbidden something, with the help of indignation and disagreement, he tries to defend his independence.

In addition, a tantrum is a great way to attract the attention of adults. It happens that the mother goes about her business all the time, not paying attention to the child, and the father is constantly at work. Due to this state of affairs, the baby has to somehow act. He chooses the easiest route and throws a tantrum just to get a certain amount of parental attention.

How to cope with a capricious child and prevent him from turning into a crybaby? If the child is properly treated, then the tantrum itself is not dangerous. Parents simply need to prepare to meet this behavior of their child. First of all, you will have to spend a lot of time and effort to teach the baby to resolve conflicts and disputes without tears, in addition, thanks to this approach, the child will be able to painlessly overcome one of the most important transitional periods in the development of his personality. However, it should be remembered that he also needs to set a personal example.

There are several basic methods for weaning a child from tearfulness and coping with children's whims. A tantrum is much easier to prevent than to deal with its consequences later. If mom or dad feels that the child is about to burst into tears, then you need to switch his attention from the danger zone to the positive or at least neutral. You should not shout at him, you should talk in a friendly tone, while parents need to remain calm. And, in addition, you should constantly give the child a sufficient amount of attention.

How to behave with a capricious child and re-educate a crybaby

If you do not know how to behave with a capricious child, use the following recommendations from psychologists. If it was still not possible to avoid whims, then, first of all, the child must be isolated from witnesses who can see his hysteria. The fact is that very often children work for the public. The kid needs to be taken out of the room where the rest of the adults gathered. You can only let him back in if he has calmed down. This action often leads to the most positive results in the shortest time.

When the baby begins to act up in a crowded place, such as in a store, you must firmly ignore any manifestations of tantrum. The child should be told that the conversation with him will take place only after he calms down.

However, before using such methods, you need to make sure that the baby's psyche develops in a normal way. Such methods will not work on a child with a weak nervous system, they can only aggravate his condition.

You need to re-educate a capricious child as quickly as possible. Parents should show their disapproval of the child's behavior in every possible way. For example, after another tantrum, a mother may say before going to the store that she was very upset by his behavior the last time. For this reason, she now takes the child with her, hoping that he made the right conclusions after that incident. It must be remembered that all the requirements of the baby, which he makes during a tantrum, must be ignored. Otherwise, such phenomena will happen more and more often.

The child should learn to manage their emotions and recognize them. During his whims, you can ask him leading questions so that he can understand the cause of the tears. Parents should offer him alternative ways to express their emotions. For example, a baby may start tearing up an old newspaper, jumping on one leg if he is very angry with something. He should explain that adults also experience similar emotions, but find the strength not to express them so clearly.

Parents should be consistent always and everywhere, especially if the child is next to them. In public, you need to behave very calmly, especially at home. Children perfectly feel those moments when their whims will have the greatest impact on their parents. As soon as they understand in which situation mom or dad has the least firmness, all their efforts will be directed to this place.

An important point in the course of how to raise a capricious child is the approval of calm behavior. When a child has managed to cope with his anger or some kind of stressful situation, he should be praised and encouraged. In the future, this method should be resorted to if the baby again tries to throw a tantrum. The baby needs to be hugged, kissed and praised as often as possible. It is parents who have a primary influence on the self-esteem and self-awareness of children.

To avoid tantrums, it is necessary to develop the will of the baby from early childhood. At the same time, the will is not the ability to insist on one's own at all costs, but the ability to cope with the difficulties that arise. Children need to be taught on their own, dress, make the bed, wipe the dust, put away toys, etc. In order to prevent hysteria, it is very convenient to apply the rule of the third call, that is, parents begin to talk about the end of some business in advance. In addition, the child should be given the opportunity to understand the feelings of other people. The sooner he starts doing this, the easier he will be able to fit into the society around him.

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Many parents wonder how to raise a capricious child.

His behavior can be infuriating, but it is imperative to deal with children's whims.

The reasons

Why are children naughty? Causes of whims may vary depending on age.

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1-2 years

Why does the baby whine all the time? At this age, the most common causes of whims are:

1. lack of sleep: the child did not get enough sleep, so he becomes whiny and irritable.
2. Overwork: if the parents took the baby to an event, to the hospital, were on a walk for a long time, he may get tired and give a sign with whims that he needs to go home and rest.
3. A change of scenery: the child gets used to a certain room and people, and if the situation suddenly changes, he gets scared, does not understand why everything has changed, tries to attract attention to himself so that he is protected.
4. Reaction to the word "no": babies begin to be interested in everything that is outside the crib and do not understand why their parents do not allow them to explore the world.
5. Inability to speak your mind: the child feels that he is being led and he has certain beliefs, but is not able to express them, so whims remain the only way out of the situation.

Psychologists call this age the first. By this time, the child has accumulated a certain amount of knowledge and skills, which requires the transition of relations with parents to a new level.

He begins to realize that is a person. He is interested in the world around him, which, with the help of mastering speech, is trying to learn.

Children during this period still cannot establish contact with others through speech and say what they need or don’t like: they are not able to express in words what worries them, so they begin to act up.

Understanding what behavior is draw attention loved ones.

3-4 years

This age period is difficult because there is relationship restructuring between baby and parents.

By this time, he has already formed, there is an awareness of his own "I". Taking into account the changed behavior, which has become more conscious, he tries to build relationships anew.

If there is a misunderstanding on the part of adults, the baby reacts very emotionally, resenting that they do not understand him and do not want to be taken seriously. Even calm children become and can behave in the following ways:

Psychologists say that such actions cannot be called established.

The child experiments with the impact on others. He wonders if it will be possible to have what he wants if he weeps and screams.

5-6 years

In this age emotional breakdowns happen already quite consciously. The child knows that he will get his way if he starts crying, squealing and pounding his feet on the floor.

He influences those around him in such a way that his desires are fulfilled. Similar ones will increase in the future if they are not stopped at this age.

This happens if at an earlier age whims ended the desired result. Parents simply did not know how to react to this, so they gave their beloved child what they wanted.

You should stop doing this and not follow his lead, continuing to adhere to your own point of view.

Why is the baby naughty only with mom?

Some children are naughty only with their mother, while they may have fine behavior in or when interacting with other people.

This happens because the baby loves the mother the most.

With this man lining up over trusting and close relationships.

Psychologists say that this happens when the mother is trusted. He does not pretend, he is not afraid to show all his feelings. In the future, he will be able to share the most intimate with this person.

This may also happen for another reason: the child did not have time to adjust. For example: I spent time with my grandmother and adjusted to her behavior, and when my mother came, I did not have time to readjust. Continues to behave as he did with his grandmother.

It takes time to adjust to the behavior of the mother. While the restructuring is taking place, he may behave strangely and have little control over his own behavior.

From the outside it looks like. In this situation should calm down and not to raise the tone of his voice without provoking a deterioration in his behavior.

What to do?

Does the child often freak out and act up? Parents often do not know how to respond to the whims and emotional behavior of children. Psychologists say that to fight this cry, you can't raise your voice.

This will only aggravate the situation and make him very nervous, emotionally unstable.

There are other ways to solve the problem. Specialists offer do the following:

• try to find a common language, to talk;
• soothe, hug;
• ask the child for his opinion more often so that he understands that his opinion is important to relatives;
• give the baby his own space - a room or a corner where he can play, relax from other people, spend time alone with himself;
• make concessions whenever possible in order to find a compromise.

You can play with it spend more time with him so that he does not experience a lack of attention, he understands that he is loved and appreciated, and whims are not needed.

Instead of screaming, you should hug the baby, show love. A scream will only push him away and lock him in.

How to deal with a capricious child?

To deal with such situations, you need to know a few tricks:

These methods will help to establish a connection, to cope with the vagaries.

How to deal with children's whims?

There are several ways to deal with this behavior:

1. Explanation of the rules. The parent should explain in detail what can and cannot be done. He must understand that not everything is allowed to him and there are certain limits. Do not succumb to provocation if the child continues to demand his own. You need to ignore his tears, provocations and manipulations. After a few minutes, the baby will calm down and come running with an apology.
2. It happens that whims appear due to the fact that the child is hungry or tired. We should ask if it is worth feeding him, or if he wants to rest. Talking will help resolve the situation.
3. It must be explained that punishment for inappropriate behavior. He must understand that his negative emotions and cries are not approved by those close to him.

Explain to the child that the requirement will not be met.

It is necessary to speak strictly, but not to shout.

How to bring up a capricious?

Often these children are more sensitive demanding of those around them. They need their loved ones to support them, be there and not offend them.

Any phrase can drive them crazy, but only because of vulnerability and resentment. Anger and aggression are the consequences, not the cause of such behavior.

In no case should such children be called bad or, since the situation will change for the worse.

These kids should be raised a little differently. They need show more care and attention explain what is good and what is bad.

Parents should be and mentors and friends. They should see in them support, love. If there was a tantrum or a breakdown, there is no need to shout, it is better to limit yourself to a strict conversation.

In moments of tantrums, you should talk, but if this does not help, you should slightly move away from him at a short distance and continue to observe the behavior.

Most likely, after a few minutes, the baby will understand that he did a bad thing and he will come up with an apology. Gotta give it time to figure it out.

It is necessary to develop an attitude that only good behavior is encouraged. If he behaves well, he is praised, complimented, delicious meals are prepared. This will be an incentive for good behavior. Tantrums will be a thing of the past.

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How to calm down before bed?

Nighttime whims: what to do?

Before going to bed, children are capricious for various reasons: they get tired, or they don’t want to go to bed because of the cartoon on TV, computer games.

In this case, you need to find an approach, calm him down, because excessive nervousness and irritability can cause sleep disturbance.

Necessary find out the reason such behaviour. Perhaps he was offended by something, wants to tell his parents about something.

Before going to bed you need create comfortable conditions in the room: ventilate it, dim the light slightly if there is a fear of the dark. You should provide the baby with a comfortable pillow, because sometimes discontent and tantrums appear due to discomfort.

When raising children, there are a few things to keep in mind. recommendations:

• one must be honest and sincere in communication, sooner or later a lie will be revealed and push the baby away;
• attempts should be made to establish a connection, one should try to hear and understand him;
• you can’t break into shouting and raising your voice, this is not a way out of the situation;
• you need to be patient, control yourself, not show negative emotions.

If the baby is behaving badly, you need to talk to him. It is necessary to convey the information that parents are not enemies, but friends and want only the best for him.

Parenting Mistakes

Major mistakes in the process of education are:

• indulging the child, fulfilling his requirements;
• refusal to talk and contact with the child;
• manifestation of negative emotions, screams;
• utterance of offensive phrases;
• use of corporal punishment.

Many parents don't try to fix the situation. prefer to break into a cry, physically punish, rather than explain what he did wrong. You need to tell him what not to do, so that in the future the baby does not do this.

Screaming and negative emotions will not lead to anything good and may cause the development of mental illness in the future.

Raising a naughty child difficult task. It is necessary to take into account several rules, follow the recommendations of psychologists.

In order to avoid mistakes, it is necessary to carefully watch your own behavior. Proper upbringing will help the child to open up and stop showing negative emotions.

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