Bitch woman. Good or bad
1. Do not feed a man "before"! Most men are primitive, not far removed from the "simple" and deeply
subconsciously in them, to a much greater extent than in women, such features predominate as: - laziness, hunger, sex,
entertainment (work, sports, politics, etc. is also a game to some extent for them, but sex to some extent is work!).
Laziness plus satiety can easily defeat all other "duties".
A satiated man may well try to "work out" at half strength, or even depicting tenderness to hug you and
doze off on your chest.
2. Don't hold back. If you get an orgasm, a man MUST see and know this. Man always
will choose a woman who violently receives an orgasm from him, and not an ideal in appearance, but a frigid top model.
It is better to get three orgasms with one of his erections than vice versa. It is difficult to overestimate the importance of satisfied ambition
a man who realizes that he is able to bring a woman to orgasm.
3. Plan for duration and intensity. The peak of orgasm in a man is very steep, it comes very quickly and also quickly
there is a period of inhibition. A woman, on the contrary, has a longer period of arousal and the same long, gentle
descent, and even multiple orgasms are possible. Probably the best option would be to arouse and bring to orgasm
FIRST women, and if you get an orgasm in front of him, you can be sure that the man will be already prepared.
4. Does he want oral sex? They all want this ... there is nowhere to go, but balance your position, offer him
provide you with the same services. But note that women usually learn faster what to do and how to do it, and with
men often have to tinker, they do not always understand what and how to do so that you enjoy it.
Usually they try to try everything on their own and act similarly, sometimes you have to tinker while you tame it ... But
it's worth it! Do not neglect the opportunity to ask him how exactly he likes, and directly indicate to him where and how he
poke...
5. Does he want anal sex? Well ... your man is the most ordinary and belongs to 80% of men who would like it.
But according to statistics, 70% of men who have tried anal sex experience
deep disappointment, and subsequently lose their obsessive interest in him. If you are deeply disgusted with
anal sex, and endure it only because of your partner, invite the man to try it anally too (with a vibrator or
fingers).
If he refuses, you get the moral right to refuse him the next time too, and if he agrees, he will at least
know how you feel, and if he does not like it, it is likely that he will moderate his ardor. Remember that only the literate
anal sex can be a lot of fun for both partners.
The main rule - DO NOT Rush!
6. Does he want to play some sexual games? Sharing fantasies with you? Congratulations! You received from a man very
a rare and expensive gift - trust and frankness. This is great luck, men are quite secretive and conservative
creatures, react very painfully to ridicule and, at the slightest hint of misunderstanding, withdraw into themselves, for a long time and
seriously. KEEP TRUST of a man if he opens up to you like the apple of his eye! Sometimes it is enough even just in words together with
him to dream up, and he will feel your understanding and support.
7. Does he want you to pretend to be a whore, wants to rape you? One of the most common fantasies of men.
The origins lie in the subconscious feeling of superiority over a woman, and the lack of confidence in this in the current reality.
Absolutely do not take seriously the offer of such a game as an insult, nothing to do with true feelings
your man does not have this desire. People are prone to everything forbidden. As a rule, it is the intelligent
educated and cultured men enjoy such games, it seems to balance their inner world with
dominant human values. Feel like an actress! Feel free to pronounce in this game
obscene and rude expressions, if he wants it, and a man who loves you will be wildly delighted, these are the "spices" of which
he lacks in fresh life. Similarly, it is noted that often men in everyday life perform responsible
work, with a lot of psychological stress, they are looking for an opportunity to play "victim", "performer", "slave", etc. That is, they are looking for
unloading with the opposite sign.
8. Warm it up! You have no idea how it excites men, the realization that you are going to visit, and, for example,
today there are no panties ... or today you go to work with an inserted vibrator (if you go of course), Only HE knows about
this and no one else! From such exclusivity, they drool and not only... Imagination finishes everything else for them...
Try it and he'll call you ten times at work to see how you're doing, what's on your mind, and what's your plans for the evening... Some
men are really interested in the inner world of a woman, they try to talk her, especially on sexual topics...
do not deny him this, let him talk about sex with you better than on the side ...
9. Men love with their eyes.. show him everything when he wants, how he wants, on purpose and allegedly by accident ... Keep him on
this leash. He wants to take your picture. Well... But together!
Sometimes it is enough for them to spin around with a camera or a camera without a film around you, the main thing is that you frankly tell him
posed! It is important for him to see, he wants to see it, he is interested in the process itself, not the result.
As a child ... well ... we allow children a lot. Men love to watch women masturbate, use
vibrators, etc. And the popularity among men, spectacles of lesbian caresses, generally requires a separate in-depth study.
10. You caught him masturbating... Join him and he is your body and soul. Don't neglect the opportunity quickly
satisfy a man if he asks, even if you don’t have time to enjoy yourself, or you have your period, or you are afraid
mess up your hair, make-up, be late ... Fortunately, a man can usually be satisfied very quickly manually or
orally. In the hallway, at the entrance, in the car, etc. Men consider such sex to be very extreme. Then "warm" you
you can persuade him to do anything, and solve any issues with him ... Use it.
Apply at least eight tips out of ten, and the average man is yours, as long as you yourself want it ...
Don't love anyone and everyone will like you. Send the whole world to hell and you will be admired.
Barbra Streisand
Some women touch the heart, others get stuck in the liver
Tamara Kleiman
Since childhood, I was told that you need to be a good girl. I trusted adults and was obedient. But good girls are unlucky. Haven't you noticed that boys pester only excellent students with requests to write off the control? In the eleventh grade, I was finally "lucky": my first love and ... my beloved went over to a classmate. For the first time, the thought arose: "Something is wrong with me." She grieved and decided - there is nothing to dissolve drooling; so he needs it, and it is not known who was more fortunate. All men are bastards. The cat will shed mouse tears. I did not understand, I did not appreciate my happiness. Further more. University: selfish classmates who take everything from life (and even more than everyone else!), bathed in male attention and love. And I, like a fool (now, however, I think: “Why HOW ?!”), I pulled the strap of the head of the group and got my fives. Third course. Universities always vigorously celebrate the "equator" - half the term of study. My man (no, then still a boy), to whom I decided to give my innocence that day, kisses in the corridor ... a classmate. And then I could not stand it. Bitches, walking girls - why are they so attractive to men? Why are they, along with our men, laughing at us? Why are they lucky and I'm not? Why do they get good jobs and choose men themselves? It was not clear to me. I, like many, wanted everything at once, as in women's novels and TV shows: smart and rich gentlemen, a dizzying career, admiring glances and beautiful courtship, travel and expensive gifts. Do you think anything happened? Hell no! It didn’t work out until I realized that only bitches have all this (just “walkers” “go out of circulation” pretty quickly). While I diligently studied history and literature, my bitch peers studied a completely different science: how to use the weaknesses of other people for the benefit of themselves, their loved ones. They learned to seduce and flirt, put on make-up, drink after all. They learned to be interesting, and I remained the same boring and predictable. That evening, abandoned by a loved one, I cried from resentment and injustice. Disheveled, with spreading mascara, I went to the window and howled: about wasted time and my mother, who did not teach me to be a bitch; I cried for a good girl who, like snake skin, peeled off me that night along with pain and memories. I decided to become a bitch. Since then my life has changed. I changed her myself, not hoping for a successful marriage, rich lovers or inheritance. At that moment I realized that my life, my happiness is only in my hands. And for the most part, no one cares about me.
Let me tell you a little secret first. No, not the one that “is worse than a bitch - there is no beast” (I once heard from one tipsy fan). And the one why men love and hate bitches so much. Why do they remember them all their lives, but are afraid to deal with them? Because the bitches saw through the men. They began to think alike, but still remained women. And a man is terribly turned on by playing on an equal footing with a sort of “superwoman”. Who will outsmart whom? Who will conquer whom? Will he be strong enough to compete with a woman who thinks like him, but also owns a “female weapon”?
You can argue with me, but, studying history, I realized that all great women were bitches. How many nameless "sticks" went into oblivion, being just an "incubator" for healthy offspring ... A mother woman or a female woman? A full-fledged citizen or a "womb" for bearing a new member of society? Who likes what. Someone kitchen, children, household chores. But why do my housewife friends look at me with such longing and envy and cite me as an example to their daughters? Why not relax and enjoy cooking and TV shows? I have an answer to this: a bitch "sits" in every woman, but not everyone has the courage to admit it and listen to themselves. Traditions, conventions, advice from elders... We are taught to live the way women lived a thousand years ago. But is it right to listen to those who will never become rich, famous or just happy, who raised you, but did not give knowledge and advice for survival?
I don't like the words emancipation or feminism. This is how rude, disappointed in men, terribly notorious women are seen. Isn't this extreme? They talk about male power, but do not know how to approach a man, how to understand him and, finally, how to control him. If all women were bitches, emancipation would not be needed. Stupid struggle for stupid freedoms. What have we achieved? We plow along with men, do all the housework, raise children, tolerate male infidelity and read articles in women's magazines on how to keep love forever. Not very similar to the dream of freedom and independence. A step to the right, a step to the left - and already there was no trace of him.
But the most interesting thing is that you don’t need to invent anything. At the poles of "housewife" and "feminist", in the middle, guess who? Of course she is a queen. Walks along the equator, not leaning to extremes. She is a woman of mystery. There is a suspicion that she, too, sometimes cries, she can love, feel pity, walk around the house disheveled and drink moonshine with her neighbor friend. She can do everything. But no one forced her to do such things. It's weird and even more intriguing. Both in men and women. The unknown is always attractive. For thousands of years of history of the human race, the name of a woman who brings pleasure has not been invented. Pleasure is to look, touch, love, live. Pleasure - to take an example and admire. And finally, study. Separate shreds are snatched out of the kaleidoscope of bitchy moods and roles: a vamp woman, a homeowner, a fatal beauty, a lover, a socialite, a predator, a beast. And when they can not intelligibly characterize - "bitch". Recently, this word has ceased to be a curse word. If you were called a bitch, then you outdid someone in something. Congratulations. This is just the beginning, which will whip up your female ambition and make you a real bitch, sooner or later. And my task, like a teacher at school, is to prove the need for bitchy science and give real weapons to your fragile female hands. A bit of information, a “piece” of desire, a “drop” of ambition, a “pinch” of perseverance and LOVE (!!!) for men. And most importantly - the conviction that there is no turning back.
If a woman is not a bitch, then she failed
... people in white coats have already calculated that after several thousand years of such a life, the “ordinary man” will disappear from the surface of the Earth. And only we will remain - with our undeciphered mystery and phenomenal will to live ... This is not feminism. This is evolution...
Eteri Chalandzia
Bitches are not born - they are made.
Sylvia Cheese
In nature, there are inseparable concepts that, when one component is excluded, lose their meaning or cease to exist at all. For example, doctors are inseparable from patients, and cosmetics from women, toys from children (if they are not from a sex shop), and a cook from food. Bitches are inseparable from men. Let the strong half of humanity curse the insidious bitches and rack their brains in the hope of unraveling the labyrinths of the bitchy essence. In the depths of their souls, all men know: a bitch is the result of a long gene mutation aimed at conquering any man in any conditions. A bitch is a cyborg or a universal soldier (let's call on science fiction to help), which contains all the experience accumulated by women in the entire history of mankind, the experience of dealing with men.
If you are called a "bitch", is that a compliment or an insult to you? On the one hand, the word itself is abusive, but then why are there so many books on sale today with tips on “How to become a bitch”, which are very popular among the fairer sex. It turns out that being a bitch today is good and even fashionable?
The fact that I'm not a bitch, I know for sure. All my friends know about it too. Therefore, when some critical moments come in my life and I have a choice of what to do, whether it concerns my personal life or work, my friends constantly tell me the same phrase: “Stop being good, it's time to turn on the bitch. Everyone will just ride on you if you don’t change your behavior.”
The image of a bitch - a beautiful, independent woman who knows what she wants and knows how to achieve it in any way, of course, seems attractive. On the other hand, each of my girlfriends has already become a victim of this kind of women.
Here, for example, one bitch calmly took my husband away from me (although she probably already left). Another drove my girlfriend to get fired from her job. In general, there are many examples. It turns out that it’s good to be a bitch yourself, but somehow I wouldn’t want to face the like in life.
There was a moment in my life when I wanted to change my behavior. Remember how Bulgakov’s Margarita said, “I became a witch from grief and disasters that struck me.” I got angry that all my actions “in good conscience” did not bring any positive results and thought about whether I should become a bitch.
My experiment was short-lived, but allowed me to draw certain conclusions.
Conclusion one. The bitch is treated differently
In society, being a bitch is not so easy, because in different situations this role can be both negative and positive.
If a man called you a bitch, it means that you are an independent, confident woman who is different from others and clearly attracts the attention of the opposite sex.
If another woman calls you a stray, it means that you live at the expense of men, use men in your own interests, more often material ones, for you there is no concept of female friendship, because for the sake of your whim you are calmly ready to take your husband away from your friend, without experiencing any the slightest shame.
If you are called a bitch at work, then you are considered a careerist who goes over the heads to get a promotion, you know how to make friends with the right people to move up the career ladder, you don’t care what the team thinks about you. If you are also a leader, then you definitely do not forgive your subordinates for mistakes. 
Second conclusion. Not all men love bitches
In general, it is generally accepted that men love bitches. Many familiar men say that they certainly attract attention, but not every man will decide on a relationship with such a woman, at least for a long time for sure.
I remember how my boyfriend, when he saw books on the rules of behavior for a bitch on my shelf, almost tearfully begged me to throw them away, said that he did not need such a woman and he immediately notices when I start to follow these tips.
In general, those men who had relationships with bitches, after a stormy romance, spoke of them as hypocritical and vengeful persons, whose eccentric behavior then already begins to infuriate.
Conclusion the third. The bitch has a lot to learn
From books about bitches, I learned something: to value myself more and respect, after which others began to appreciate me more. I learned to say “no”, although it was a problem for me to refuse someone before, as a result, there was never enough time for myself. I realized that I can achieve a lot.
Such an independent confident behavior of mine began to attract male attention, but the most important thing here was not to overdo it.
Conclusion four. And yet bitches fail
After several of my attempts, I realized that I will never become a bitch. She probably still needs to be born, but you should not change your behavior and remake yourself. If you follow all these fashion tips, you can easily turn into an evil fury, which in the end will be left alone without family, friends and good relationships at work.
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There is a certain stereotype in our society. bitch women as a hysterical vamp, but what her real essence is, few people guess.
Being a bitch is a real art which really requires a lot of sacrifice. bitch It's not an insult, it's a compliment. Being a bitch is fashionable. This is a kind of ideal of a modern woman and a special science.
Lovely young ladies sharpen their claws, paint their mouths scarlet and take courses in "stervology". They are ready to do anything to earn the title of "bitch": bad girls have come to the fore. Strong, tough, self-confident and not subject to any rules but their own. They are no longer cornered. They are set as an example to those sweethearts who have patience, modesty, the ability to forgive everything and always wait for their mysterious female happiness. But still real bitches not enough - the female soul is sensitive. Walking over the corpses "to the cherished goal" is not given to everyone.
In general, a "bitch" differs from an ordinary woman only in self-confidence, lack of tantrums and self-sufficiency. In general, this is a rather pleasant young lady, she manipulates men imperceptibly, using female wisdom, and not harshness and uncompromisingness.
bitch men admire, she can be different - and a fluffy kitten, and a vamp, and a gray mouse in sneakers. The main thing is that she should be most comfortable and that she exudes confidence and self-love. The signs of a predator are still present - "a deep alluring look, a hoarse voice, the habits of a predatory cat, knows the special tricks of seduction." Of course, seduces men in packs. But - in search of the only one.
Stervology- this is what mothers taught their daughters back in knightly times, so that girls could be loved and happy. Then this science was somehow lost. bitch- this is not a tough woman-egoist. Do not confuse this concept with a bitch. bitch- this is a wise woman who knows how to manage her life, gets along with everyone, never whines and not only receives benefits, but also gives a lot.
The main traits that hold many women back from being different are fear, shyness, and self-doubt. "Bitch" in our terminology is a strong, successful, self-confident Woman, somewhat emancipated, free and ironic.
Since the values of modern society include professional self-realization and independence, such a woman is successful in her work, ambitious and even ambitious, she is persistent, persistent, strives for growth and development in everything. These are not feminists with their hatred of men, they are rather players who skillfully control male attention, these are women who turn a man around as they want, but at the same time he feels like the master of the situation.
Bitch - Leader in life, Woman in fact.
In order to dispel a deep-rooted myth, let's talk about the appearance of a bitch, which is dictated to us by expensive gloss and fashion channels. bitch- this is not necessarily a burning brunette with a lush mop of hair extensions and eyelashes, an "acrylic" manicure, well-groomed skin ... In a dress from Dior, with a Prada handbag, shoes from Manolo Blahnik, a fragrance from Chanel, etc. bitch maybe that individual of the female sex, which acquires all this “goodness” in Troyeschina (although the difference is in the absence of genuine quality), and also feels great “in the image”. Which, of course, does not exclude the presence of well-groomed: skin, hairstyles, manicure and other "paraphernalia".
stervism- it is, rather, internal content, which dictates that special, exceptional behavior. bitch is a real actress. And in most cases, her game is worth the candle. She chooses the best and the best. To manipulate a man for his own sake, and even so that he does not notice this and takes it for granted, is a skill that you cannot learn right away. But the difference between "to be" and "to seem" is also great. First you need to realize and determine what you need this image for and how to try it on yourself. After all, it may turn out that this image does not corny suit you. Ugly ducklings become swans only in fairy tales and TV shows, but in life there is also a place for a miracle. And the "flower girl" can get used to the role of a notorious bitch. At first, however, this may seem absurd for the familiar people around you - over time, they will also drop out, and this will only mean that you have managed to reach a completely new, higher level of communication. Get ready, because your faithful companions will be the admiration of men and the envy of women. Two sides of the coin, and you choose which one is more expensive for you.
Many men admit that at the word "bitch" they turn on a certain lever that starts the flywheel of erotic fantasies. They identify a bitch with a vamp woman - luxurious, sexy, vicious, certainly endowed with a flexible, trained body, captivating forms, a luxurious mane (they already see her hair scattered over the pillow) and a sensual mouth.
Every bitch is a girl with character. This is a strong, whole, outstanding personality, imperious and cruel.
On one of the forums, I saw the cry of a girl's soul: “Men love bitches! Learn how to be a bitch!" Answer: easy. You just need to fall in love very much, then be very disappointed, and, in the end, become embittered. And then you'll definitely freak out. True, with the exact opposite of the result.
For example, I will tell you one story about the transformation of a good-natured housewife into a predator.
I have an old friend of Light. A few years ago she was sitting at home with a small child and did not look for the soul in her husband. In the company of our friends, they were considered the perfect couple. Svetochka's husband is a positive person in all respects: he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, brings money home and is madly in love with his wife and daughter. For the time being, this family was quiet, smooth and graceful. The child was three years old, and it was time for Svetochka to go to work.
This is where our story began - she fell in love. The object of her love was the chief physician of the hospital where she worked as a diagnostician. He made a couple of compliments, invited him to dinner, and that was enough to evoke strong feelings in Svetochka. For several months she talked only about him, dressed and painted for him.
“I have an affair at work,” she whispered into the phone so that her husband would not hear.
On the part of the head physician, it was an easy affair. He had been married for a long time and had three children. It is difficult to understand what Sveta was counting on, but she dived into this love as if into a pool. So much so that it scared the unlucky boyfriend. She scared me by offering to move the time of their intimate meetings to the evening hours, after work, somewhere in a neutral place. He was taken aback: why go somewhere if everything can be done quickly and at the workplace. Yes, and his wife is waiting at home in the evening ... After this conversation, he stopped appearing in her office.
And then a tantrum began with Svetochka: for two months she could hardly eat anything, lost ten kilograms of weight, constantly cried and got hooked on tranquilizers. Svetik's husband did not understand anything, and she explained her stress by overloading at work. But, as you know, time heals. Gradually, Sveta got out of her depression. I finally realized that a man of forty-five years old, with an outlined belly, burry speech and three children, is not worth such experiences. She was disappointed.
However, such a shake-up did not go in vain. Without another office romance, Sveta could no longer imagine life. Svetlana was seized by some kind of malicious excitement. She needed someone to fall in love with herself, but not just fall in love, but win a crushing victory in order to prove to herself that she was worth something. Her husband had nothing to prove, he loved her so much, so she switched to her colleagues.
She managed to hook one pretty young doctor pretty quickly and almost divorced him from his wife. Only his untimely vacation prevented him, during which he changed his mind and retired from the hospital out of harm's way. She was very annoyed, but she could not stop. By this time, the relationship with her husband had declined. He felt her indifference and vaguely guessed that he had large branched horns.
The last time Sveta and I met was in a cafe in the summer. After we had not seen each other for half a year, the changes in her appearance seemed striking to me. She was dressed stylishly - during her escapades, Svetlana changed her entire wardrobe and dyed her hair blond.
In a year and a half, Sveta turned from a cheerful, fat, laughing woman into a thin, hardened bitch who will not stop until she destroys someone's family.
It might not be the best way. become a bitch, but if you still want to become it, then the main thing is to start acting. Do not be lazy to work on yourself: "both day and night, and day and night ..." Turn on natural femininity and charm. Experiment and be different every day, slightly capricious. And then the men will be drawn to the magnet, and the women will begin to hiss through their teeth: “Well, what did he find in her ?!”. And you will only smile mysteriously and condescendingly - to both. After all, you are dominant. You worship no one more than yourself. For your sake they fight (even the most local ones) and pluck the stars from the sky. And only you can consider the most worthy compliment, which will be pulled behind you by a train: “Uff, ssbitch!”
Natalya Sunyasheva:
“I always thought bitches were bad women. It's like an axiom. Cruel, selfish, sawing, dripping on the brains of others (especially men), insidious, vengeful, vile, malevolent, envious, achieving their goals at any cost ... Have you met such people? Not? Can not be! The traits of a bitch sometimes appear even in an angelic creature - a kind, sweet and affectionate cat, a tender chick and a goldfish. After all, as you know, non-bitchy women do not exist. Trying to find out from my male colleagues what a bitch is, I received an exhaustive answer from one of them: “A bitch is a LIVE woman ... Besides, a fool!”
Our hero, psychologist Vladimir Rakovsky, understanding a smart, successful and happy woman by a bitch, teaches how to become one in his stervology courses.
Help N.:
Vladimir Rakovsky, 38 years old. Higher technical and psychological education (Moscow State University - Faculty of Psychology). Vladimir is the host of various trainings at the Sinton training center, a psychotherapist-consultant. Married (multiple times), has three children.
From rescuers to stervologists
— Vladimir, why did you decide to teach people how to be happy?
- Ten years ago I worked as a rescuer in the Ministry of Emergency Situations. We went to suicide, family squabbles, we saw thousands of unfortunate people who were desperate to change something in their lives. I understood that it was not enough to come and pull people out of crises. We must teach them to be happy. But how? My knowledge was not enough, so I decided to enter the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University.
What is stervology?
- I studied the experience of successful, self-confident women, the qualities that they possess, and identified a number of patterns, features of their behavior. So stervology is the science of the behavior of such women who are able to build various (including family) relationships, understand men and learn how to manage them. Be strong and at the same time not fight with men. And the most important thing is to firmly know what she really needs.
As a rule, all girls want to get married. So it is necessary. What kind of man is needed is unknown. Although one thing is clear. Must be successful. I don't want a car or an apartment. Found what I wanted. Not with an apartment, with a cottage. And it begins: “But I don’t need you to work.” A month later she howled in this cottage. “I wanted so much, but I never tried it and it turns out I can’t do it.” By the age of thirty, a girl becomes a mature woman. Calmness, confidence, self-knowledge and a clear understanding appear: what she wants and what she was taught are different things ... She wants to change something, but does not know how. I can explain to a woman how a man behaves, how he thinks, to reveal male psychology. Similarly, I believe that women should teach men to get along with them.
Why did you turn specifically to women's issues?
- All relationships are built by a woman. She cannot live without a man. By and large, a man does not need a woman. He asserts himself at work. What do the boys want to be? Cosmonauts, pilots, businessmen, military. Get recognized, become great. After all, no one says: "I want to become a dad and take care of my children." Therefore, it is the woman who is the director of the play called life, she determines where the relationship develops and directs the man.
- Don't you think that you are shifting all the responsibility to women? To be a director in this sense is to cut the branch on which you sit. The popular American psychologist Barbara de Angeles, in her book Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know, says that the most common mistake women make is to take the initiative in their own hands, maintaining the illusion of a great relationship when a man is the main character in a theater performance called life turns into a passive spectator and he becomes uninteresting.
Barbara de Angeles writes about American culture. There is a completely different mentality. In our country, women dominate initially, and often not where it is needed. Who is primarily responsible for raising boys? Mothers, grandmothers, educators, teachers. Women teach them not how to be men, but how to be obedient boys.
- In your course there is such a thing - "Life scenarios". Can you illustrate at least one?
- For example, each girl with the help of her parents has ideas about herself. Mom throws the phrase: “Daughter, you are stupid with me, you won’t master the institute. God has given you beauty. But nothing, you will not grab the stars from the sky ... "That's it. The program of life has already been laid. And oddly enough, the girl begins to believe in her, although all these ideas have nothing to do with reality! The child absorbs what he sees, hears and feels quite unconsciously. Why often the children of divorced parents, growing up, cannot save their own family? Or does a girl whose mother hated men become suspicious of them? This is not mysticism, but a pattern. The script of the boy is superimposed on the script of the girl: after getting married, the young spouses appoint each other to a certain role. "You MUST wash my socks because my mother washed my father's socks." "And you, in addition to soiling the laundry, MUST also earn money, like my dad." Here it is immediately worth making a reservation that no one owes anything to anyone. There is no need to look for a sponsor, an excellent interlocutor, a great lover and a caring father in one man, but learn how to solve your problems yourself. This is the path of a strong successful woman. And then relationships with men, if she is independent, are built very easily.
- As a rule, in a pair, one is the leader, the other is the follower. And if two strong people meet, how can they build their union?
- In this case, they should be united by some business. If a strong, successful woman builds a career in her job, and her husband in his, eighty percent of the time they will give to work, and only twenty percent to each other. It probably won't bring them closer.
- Vladimir, you yourself have been repeatedly married. Have the wives not heeded your professional advice in order to save the family?
“Marriage is not a lifelong arrangement. Relations in the family change every three or four years, overcoming various crises. People change, start wanting something different and decide whether to stay together.
Stitch system
The husband left Sveta Avdeeva for the secretary completely unexpectedly: he announced in the morning and did not come to spend the night. “I found out that he was rewriting his property to his mistress,” recalls Sveta. - I say: I'll forgive everything, just come back. We saw each other every day, there was a common business, a common life. But he's not into any." In order to get her husband back, Sveta first went to the fortune-teller, and when she did not help, she went to training in stervology. At the second lesson, she realized that she did not need a husband, because he was not worthy of her: “He only earns $10,000 a month, and besides, he betrayed me.” Since then, she managed to get a divorce, convince her ex-husband to leave her an apartment and take the circus-variety team away from him, thereby destroying the joint business.
Today, the bitch has ceased to be an evil vixen, seeking to ruin the life of everyone around. The new image is actively promoted by television talk shows and glamor magazines, numerous “bitch courses” are offered to help transform in accordance with the new fashion. After all, the current bitch is a purposeful, self-absorbed perfectionist who makes a career and along the way improves the world around her, based on her own ideas. “There are more and more supporters of such a life position,” Leonid Shkurovich, director of the science fiction, children's and applied literature editorial office of the EKSMO publishing house, rejoices at the fashion for a new image of a bitch. In February, EKSMO for the fifth time in two years republished the best-selling American Sherri Argov's "I Want to Be a Bitch" (about 40,000 copies sold). And they are already translating another of her creations - Why Men Marry Bitches (“Why Men Marry Bitches”).
Culturologist Anna Melnikova explains the popularity of the new image of a bitch with a feature of the time: “Bitchiness is a response of women to the strict rules that society dictates to her lately: be nice, obedient, executive, hardworking, but at the same time secular and responsible for your life” . At some point, a woman spits on all the wishes of men, children, friends, bosses, clients. And he starts doing things for himself. In this case, according to Melnikova, she becomes a bitch in the eyes of public opinion.
More and more women want to learn to be a bitch of a new formation. Moreover, many people prefer to master the basics of the practical science of stervology under the guidance of experienced trainers, usually women. On the Internet, offers "for those who want to achieve social success in the male world and be happy in their personal lives" are a dime a dozen. For every taste: here you have neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), "energy practices", and game trainings. If you want, you can become a bitch for two lessons and €100, if you want, you have at your service a one and a half year school, each of the six steps of which costs from 1,500 to 4,000 rubles.
One of the oldest Russian stervologists is Vladimir Rakovsky, who has been teaching for 10 years. He says that five years ago his trainings were in demand only in Moscow, St. Petersburg and Yekaterinburg, and in three months of 2006 he opened courses in Magnitogorsk, Dnepropetrovsk and Novosibirsk. Calling to other cities.
Nineteen Muscovites from 17 to 45 years old (mostly 25-35 years old) sit on chairs near a full-length mirror and write advertising texts to themselves. A plump 35-year-old woman with a deep cleavage neatly deduces: “I cook food best of all and my sex is the most erotic of all.” A little brunette with the face of Evgenia Simonova can't think of anything other than: “I'm the best. I know English". “Do you think this will conquer a man?” Rakovsky doubts.
At a four-hour lesson, women manage to do a lot: discuss which of them looks more attractive and why, turn their booty in front of Rakovsky (“yes, not with your shoulders, I didn’t order a“ gypsy ”), accuse mothers of improper upbringing, play out several situations (“here is a photographer from shied away from you, try to please him"). Many are aware that Rakovsky's advice is a "commonplace", but someone just needs a push. 33-year-old policeman Tatiana, who was scolded by Rakovsky for dirty hair and lack of perfume, shares a few days later: “Indeed, how can I be an attractive bitch to men if I don’t do elementary things? True, I did not start washing my hair every day, but on the weekend I went to the makeup artist.
All female students want to be bitches. They just do not really understand what this means, and they pursue completely different goals. If the policeman Tanya came for the men to “fall in stacks” in front of her, then, for example, the 25-year-old married Sasha, an employee of a large trading company, overcomes the shyness that prevents her from working with strangers. 25-year-old fashion designer Nastya came to the training six months ago to understand men and then find her only one, and after three steps she decided to wait: “I already realized that men are not aliens, but people like us. Now I want to understand myself more, and then soberly set goals and achieve them.
As a matter of fact, according to stervologists, understanding yourself and setting goals is the first stage in becoming a bitch. This task, according to Rakovsky, is what unites his diverse students. Then each of them will remember what she needs specifically.
According to 31-year-old Sveta Avdeeva, the future bitch has been working on increasing self-esteem through simple actions for a long time. For example, having received the task of Rakovsky, Sveta immediately met with a friend and said what she learned by heart at the training: “Do you know how I want to live with a man? I want to meet him with hugs and kisses. Then set the table for him by candlelight. After dinner, prepare a fragrant bubble bath, and then give him a pink towel. And to bed." The main thing then, Sveta warns, is to be ready to refrain from talking on this topic for at least a couple of days. Then the man will offer to meet at home. “He really offered in a day. I invited and did everything exactly as I said. And the man reacted as Rakovsky predicted: he asked her to move in with him. “Only his apartment is too small, and in general I didn’t really like him,” Svetlana suddenly concludes.
Men are frightened by frenzy as an aggressive process in relation to the familiar world, terrible and irreversible. A regular visitor to the dating site, 40-year-old Sergei, also associates the demographic crisis with this trend, but he frankly feels sorry for women: “Look at the ads of women over 30, from Moscow to Rostov. All hardworking, all socially realized. Everything is in order with them, only they cannot find a man stronger than themselves. I really sympathize with them."
Alexander Nikonov, author of The End of Feminism. How a woman differs from a man” believes that “the frenzy of a modern woman is one of the symptoms of social feminism that has swept over Western societies. Some women, hurt by feminism, really want to lose their natural biological qualities - compliance, gentleness ... those qualities that have been given to them by evolution to nurse offspring. In his opinion, the demographic crisis in civilized countries is partly caused by the change in the social role of women and threatens humanity with extinction.
From the point of view of fashionable gender sociology, both Sergey's opinion and Nikonov's opinion are discrimination against a woman, since these are arguments like "a woman is also a person." In this sense, according to practicing psychologist Boris Novoderzhkin, it is understandable why women hang themselves with an initially negative social label.
However, the writer Maria Arbatova is convinced that the passion for stervology is nothing more than "growing pains". “There was a stage when Russian schoolgirls answered in questionnaires that the most prestigious profession was a hard currency prostitute,” recalls Arbatova. - Time has passed, and they are ashamed to remember it. The same will happen with bitches." Today's Russian middle class, she says, is half women - that is, in 15 years of reforms, our women have done what Western women have done for a century. At the same time, ours remained kind, compassionate, gentle and patient, and, Arbatova is sure, they will remain so.
How to become a bitch
newspaper "Evening Moscow"
Recently - not without the participation of our journalist brother - the word "bitch" has become unusually popular. If earlier “bitches” were mainly called untidy wives, forever sawing their faithful, now this definition has acquired a completely different expressive coloring. There are many variations: from a hypersexual vamp woman seducing crowds of rich men, to a cold careerist, confidently marching over the heads of her colleagues in the direction of the “most important” chair. In any case, the concept of "bitch" is associated with material well-being, and no one has yet refused this.
Being a bitch has become prestigious, glamorous Muscovites strive for this, which rustic provincial women do not always skillfully imitate. In bookstores, numerous "benefits for bitches" are sold out at a frantic pace, and on TV every now and then they show stories about the greedy wives of oligarchs. Among individual representatives of the gentle sex, it is generally accepted that only bitches survive in the current difficult time. The VM correspondent decided to look at this phenomenon from a slightly different angle: to fix the process of transforming an average girl into a bitch. Who are they, these wonderful dolls, dreaming at one fine moment to flap their wings and land on a warm place under the sun? And I was inspired to write this material by a training under the promising name "Stervology". Moreover, I did not find analogues to him in Moscow.
Without yellowness and negativity
The training (course), consisting of two stages (six sessions for each), was developed by the famous psychologist Vladimir Rakovsky. The course is designed for men and girls.
In the first part of the course, students pass by "gender", in the second they are united in mixed groups, so to speak, to strengthen the material. The author of the course is a very persuasive man, and not only outwardly. Among other things, Rakovsky is also a professional rescuer - he participated in the elimination of various kinds of accidents. It is immediately clear that Vladimir is a serious psychologist and, in general, a “man of action”.
“If you think that I picked up a buzzword and speculate on it, you are mistaken,” the guru immediately warned me. This course is over 10 years old. In general, I propose to immediately determine the possible discrepancies. In my understanding, a bitch is a woman who is successful in all aspects: in her personal life, in her career, in motherhood, etc. Let's do without negativity and yellowness.
I would like to note right away that the students themselves, who were sitting along the perimeter of the spacious hall for classes, did not cause any particular negative emotions in me. Well, as for the yellowness ... If these were women with pronounced outward signs of bitchiness - from the point of view of the "yellow" journalists - for example, dressed in Gucci and Yamamoto, I would, of course, fight the temptation to stamp them with the now fashionable stamp "Rublev's wives". So no, they didn’t evoke any, even distant associations with “roubles”. Quite ordinary girls, dressed, like most Muscovites, not haute couture, but at sales. Without visible mental disorders and defects in appearance.
There are much fewer mature girls (about 20 to 100%), but they did not stand out with anything so infernal.
Rakovsky begins the lesson. He summons a pretty woman of about 35 years old to the carpet.
- What is stopping you in life? he asks. - What is missing?
“Flexibility is not enough,” is the answer. - And that my subordinates respect and obey me.
- Okay, you're the director. Order!
The “Director” sits down on a chair and timidly gives the order “Everyone take their jobs!” After several “demos” (this is how the playing of a certain situation is called in local slang), during which the psychologist actively interrupts the “boss”, is rude and generally refuses to obey her, the verdict follows: the role of the boss needs to be worked on.
“You must always be different,” the stervology guru sums up thoughtfully. - At work, perform one role, with a husband - another, with a lover - a third. Try to be sincere. Men subtly feel falseness.
And cry quietly
The session goes pretty smoothly. One theme flows smoothly into another. Next up is a self-esteem test.
Whoever considers himself the most beautiful, please come out!
Five girls of completely different types come out to the center of the room.
- Are you a cool girl? Rakovsky asks one of them.
— And you? asks the next one.
The answer is the same.
Now, on a 10-point system, rate your appearance and the appearance of your neighbor.
The girl immediately puts herself an 8, and her competitor a 5.
“Now put yourself in the place of a man,” the psychologist suggests.
The girl is lost.
Rakovsky asks to evaluate himself in parts, namely, the ass, chest, waist and legs. Then he delicately asks:
We didn't try to lose weight?
“My husband loves me like this.
— And you? - Rakovsky turns to a pretty 5-point beauty. Did you do your hair today?
“There was no time,” she apologizes guiltily.
- Great. Now both of you go outside and compare yourself to girls on a different level. And cry quietly.
The girls fail to cry quietly, as Rakovsky switches to his partner:
Which of these girls would you choose?
The man shakes his head, embarrassed.
- Nobody.
- Who would you let go?
- Well, let, probably, everyone.
- Come on, come on! the psychologist calls one of the girls.
With the gait of a grenadier, she goes to the indicated object.
- Where so abruptly? Rakovsky stops her. Why are you all so proactive?
Because men are inactive! the girls answer in unison.
To be honest, I expected to see at the training some kind of heroines of the TV series “Sex and the City” or “All Men Are Their Own…” - such ambitious bitches who sort fans, decisively throwing “illiquid” ones out of their lives. At the first stage, I did not find any. However, where do young 20-year-olds get such predatory instincts? Everything was mixed up in the heads of the girls sitting around me: money, marriage, calculation, sex, children; for a few, a career was also mixed in here. "What do you want from life?" “I want to be loved and cared for,” this is how most of the listeners indicated their life priorities. Rakovsky, in response, uttered an abstract monologue, the essence of which boiled down to folk wisdom “do not rush to marry girls,” but first, learn how to deal with potential husbands. The “girls” listened, flapping their painted eyelashes, and forced smiles. Not otherwise, they all came here, buying into the rating word "bitch". After talking with the girls, it turned out that the truth wanders somewhere nearby.
A pretty 20-year-old girl who called herself Tanya, blushing slightly, told me the story of how her friend left her, saying a bunch of nasty things in the end. “My self-esteem collapsed,” Tanya sighs sadly. “If a man I trusted allowed himself to insult me, what can I expect from other men? Silly of course, but I wanted to take revenge on men - to become an indifferent bitch and throw them right and left.
A 23-year-old student from Ufa, who is getting a second higher education, came here after she was again abandoned by a friend with whom she lived for about two years. “I, naive, fell in love with him, thought that he would marry me. But everything ended ugly. Moved to a hostel, got a job, which takes all the time. The depression was terrible ... ".
The more experienced 38-year-old Yulia, who occupies a rather respectable position in a foreign company, admitted that she had been performing the role of a sacrificial woman all her life: “Next to a man, I simply did not have the right to vote. At some point, I got tired of it, and I came here.”
Take her by the hand!
In the group of "advanced" bitches who moved to the second stage, a completely different picture opened up to my eyes. In front of me are attractive, self-confident girls, in front of whom a miserable bunch of men under the age of 35 shyly huddle. Men, it should be noted, like the weaker sex, have passed the first stage of “processing”. But for some reason they give the impression of prisoners of war who were brought to be shot. Looking at them, I clearly realized that they would not let me into the men's group (and I really wanted to complete the report!) “What are you talking about! - the psychologist almost twisted his finger at his temple when, after class, I timidly voiced my request. “They won’t be able to speak in your presence!”
Compliment Contest! the coach announces and points to the male “victim”. The victim instantly turns pale and covered with perspiration. With an unsteady gait, she approaches the object in the form of a pleasant brunette with original earrings in her ears.
“Uh… hello!” You are so beautiful today! - the seducer of bitches says in a guttural voice, and a drop of sweat rolls down from the tip of his nose. I love your earrings so much!
The girl moves away in fright, apparently fearing for the safety of the accessory.
“Take her by the hand!” the coach urges.
The admirer takes the woman's hand in his hands and begins to crumple it convulsively:
I love your earrings so much!
- Yes, tell me, finally, what a cool smile she has! - the guru can't stand it. Everyone is laughing together.
A new fan confidently approaches the girl, gently pushing aside the admirer-maniac, gently takes her by the hand, looks into her eyes for a long time and quietly says: “I'll call!” The girl breaks into a smile: “OK.” The lucky gentleman's name is Alexei.
I have been interested in psychology for a long time. Went through a lot of training. I can say that 30 percent of active girls account for 5 percent of active men.
"Now let's get to know each other!" Rakovsky is in command.
The object of acquaintance is a young creature with unusually beautiful eyes. A quite handsome guy who looks to be in his early thirties is brought up to her. The guy shifts from foot to foot, clenching his fingers into the lock so that the knuckles turn white.
— Well, well! the coach encourages him.
"I should probably say hello," the poor man chokes out. - And smile? .. No, I can’t!
— What's the matter?
- I'm shy!
Girls feel much more relaxed. With the task of "making eyes" one of them copes more than successfully. Slightly lifts her skirt, pushes back her flexible ass and with a languid look invites one of the listeners to come up. Men stare at the seductress like high school students at a new teacher. Nobody dares to approach.
You are too unavailable! - concludes Rakovsky, apparently implying the temperament of men living in the temperate continental climate zone.
The next exercise is again on the game of views. The girl must force the man to approach her without words. In the center of the room, a model-looking blonde makes masterful eyeballs. Around her, in the pose of idols, those who are destined for this whole holiday of life froze.
With such an erotic attack, even Koschey the Immortal would not have resisted. A brief briefing by an experienced bitch connoisseur and - suddenly: “And you lean your elbows on a chair!” The blonde blushes like a schoolgirl at the first ball: “No, I can’t. This is not appropriate!"
I wanted to lesbian!
I can’t say that the women’s series mentioned are my favorites. But somehow strange, you see, it turns out. The heroine, for example, Jessica Parker, who fully corresponds to the concept of a modern "bitch" in the best, as they say, her traditions, is looking for the man of her dreams. After parting with another fan who does not meet the given parameters, she laments - where is this world heading? In the cinema, of course, everything is simpler, there a happy ending is provided for by the script. Life is different. In order to meet the man of your dreams, you have to work: desperately lose weight, develop acting talents in yourself - be at home at home, tough at work, with a seductive lover, while maintaining sincerity with everyone and everywhere. This is probably correct, but somehow it turns out unfairly. Girls, diligently absorbing new knowledge, really turn into confident, flexible bitches who can look spectacular in any situation - a kind of Charlie's Angels, the heroines of a famous film, who will neutralize a spy, and put a burning plane on the ground, and samba in a disco they will dance, and, if necessary, they will seduce at least the Statue of Liberty.
What actually happens to men? Who is this carnival of passion and temptation for? One of the participants of the training, telling me her story of a broken love, exclaimed in her hearts: “At that moment I wanted to spit on everything and go into lesbians!” Once upon a time, in my childhood, my grandmother read fairy tales about noble princes who conquered rootless beauties. Now sexy princesses are working tirelessly on how to seduce the anemic Vanya Fools.
Businesswoman turns into a bitch in 2 days
“Man, you shout here, call names, and for now I’ll go smoke. Just shout louder, otherwise I won’t hear.” "That's a bitch!" The fury in his voice miraculously transformed into admiration.
Approximately this behavior is achieved from his wards by the psychologist of the Sinton center Vladimir Rakovsky, who has been earning for 6 years by turning women into bitches.
The motto of the training he invented was "Stervology": "Bitches are not born, they become bitches."
Everyone in the garden!
A terrible sight, I must say - 25 women in one room and only one man, and even that one is a psychologist. Everyone is so different - both in age, in appearance, and in social status. Most of the ladies are middle managers, but there are a few tops and even private entrepreneurs.
For almost everyone, the “purpose of arrival” is to sort out their relationships with men: “Why is everything not right? I’m so good, but he doesn’t do what I want ... He doesn’t do anything at all! According to Rakovsky, this is one of the symptoms of nervousness. Bitches simply cannot have this - they master the art of manipulation. At the same time, the man himself will be deeply convinced that he "decided everything himself."
The participants were promised that during the training one can “learn to be self-confident. To be free and independent (both externally and, most importantly, internally), get rid of complexes ... Learn to manage the actions of people and direct the situation in the right direction. To bluff and take risks, and at the same time be able to lose with dignity. Remain feminine even in situations where you need to be tough. Learn to communicate with a variety of people, even with those whom you can not stand ... "
"Stervology" lasts 2 days and mostly consists of conversations. True, sometimes Rakovsky offers to perform exercises - joint dances are also included in the kit. But the most important thing is the questions that not everyone seems harmless. Sometimes “bitchy” girls start to sob after statements like: “Look at yourself - what is there in you that could interest a man? A man, not a boy, who has sperm toxicosis. Now look at your neighbor - and do you think he will choose her or you? You look at her style of clothing - everything is thought out ... And on you, sorry, what?
This can be called a "bitchiness" test. A real bitch will not react to such attacks and certainly will not make excuses. She doesn't care what others think of her. It is self-sufficient and transparent. "Hooks" for which you can "hook" her with the aim of insulting or causing offense are simply absent. The bitch takes nothing personally. “There should be no resentment. Otherwise, you cannot force a person to do what you would like to get from him. And yet - do not be afraid that someone will evaluate you. Who does not like your behavior - in the garden! Rakovsky teaches.
Press the button
“How do you react to the man you like? Who has what methods? Rakovsky asks. Participants must demonstrate. Natasha creates a model of the situation: she sits in a cafe, reads a newspaper, occasionally raises her eyes. “Do you think he will suit you? Look at your face! I would be scared, ”Rakovsky comments:“ Will you just sit and wait? And at this time, here she is - all liberated, attractive, radiant - she herself will come up. Or he will go dancing - so it will “light up” that you won’t take your eyes off. And he will leave with her. And you sit, suffer, mentally call ... "Another fundamental principle of a bitch, according to Rakovsky, is to be able to show what you want:" Men - they are not psychics, they cannot "see" your desires - that you want flowers, for example Or that he takes pity on you. Women, what are you doing, you are driving yourself into the ass with your thoughts and lifestyle!
“What if I’m not in the mood to dance? Why should I? If there is a mood, I still do my best! “Yes? Show me!” Show not obtained — the mood is not right. "That's the point - to be able to turn on the" button "in any situation," says Vladimir.
"Buttons" can be any number. For example, you can turn on not only the button of joy, but also humility - take, say, the appropriate pose, then the male aggression will come to naught, or maybe tenderness will appear, the desire to protect, regret.
And this does not mean that you are defeated. Vice versa! You are manipulating. It is impossible to command a bitch!
Once upon a time there was a girl
"I'm tired of being strong! What to do if he excuses himself with work, and the toilet in our house has been broken for a week already ?! one of the participants asks. “Put the potty down, let him walk in it until he gets bored,” the “stervolog” advises.
"Why doesn't my man do anything in the house?" asks the third. "Whose house?" - "My." “And what do you want? He feels like visiting. Do you ever start to be active at a party?”
Yes, the psychologist is right, very often “castles in the air begin to fall on your head like concrete blocks” ... “What are you like?” — deathly silence hangs on this seemingly simple question instead of an answer. “Cheerful,” Irina grimly squeezes out of herself. "I do not believe! Look in the mirror!” — Rakovsky quotes Stanislavsky.
Meanwhile, this question is perhaps one of the main ones for further improvement - until you understand yourself, it is impossible to do anything with others. And you can't change your life either. “We are divided into several groups - according to the similarity of character. And we make up a story. The beginning is this: “There was a girl who looked like me ...”, Rakovsky commands.
The stories are hilarious. The girls wanted something specific: the first group - romance, the second - sex, the third - communication, status. The heroine of the first tale, sitting in a cafe, constantly threw romantic glances at the young man she liked, lowered her eyes - for a very long time, until, finally, everything ended with a dance.
The consequence of frenzy was the only, but strange. Immediately after the training, I went by train to Moscow and, returning from the vestibule, found my bed spread out. “Excuse me, don’t swear, I made the bed for you,” the neighbor man smiled guiltily.