Everything is known in comparison what is the meaning. Everything is known in comparison: famous big guys who are not so big .... And here Arnie is in the company of professional strongmen and powerlifters. He's not that big anymore, is he?
At the age of 15, when I was still at school, I met a nice guy who attracted me with his attention. He was not handsome, a little taller than me. We met for a long time - three and a half years. But now it's - ex-boyfriend.
Since I was only 15 years old and he was 18, at first we only had a platonic relationship for a long time. Then we got close for the first time. Apparently I was not ripe for such a relationship, so further intimate moments of joy did not bring me. He was afraid to tell everything. I was afraid to offend him.
In addition, I liked his attitude towards me. He was caring, not rude, he loved me. And apparently I don't. I realized such an important fact only after we parted. But before the breakup, there was a lot more, including constant tears and scandals.
After a year of relationship, my ex-boyfriend was drafted into the army. For a moment I thought I loved him. Well, most likely, it was just a pity and scary to let him go nowhere. Of course, I promised to wait for him. And I waited. She waited faithfully, wrote letters, my mother and I collected and sent him parcels with chocolates and other joys. I have a good relationship with his parents. We called each other, I went to visit them. In a word, for two years she was like a "faithful husband's wife."
It should be noted that at that time I was only 16 years old. Dreams of a future and happy life with him did not leave me. Until I went to college.
There I met a girl. We studied by correspondence in a neighboring city and went to sessions. Naturally, they lived together and told each other all the innermost secrets.
She was also 17 years old, she was dating a boy three years older than her. And often we had conversations about relationships. She told me how they went on vacation together, how they communicate with their parents and other little things. After thinking a little, I realized that I had never had such a relationship with my boyfriend. I started to envy her, and then I decided that when my beloved comes from the army, we will all follow the same scenario. Here it is worth clarifying that there was nothing paradoxical and extraordinary in their relationship. They just treated each other with love and soul. They enjoyed their time together.
Here came my young man from the army. Having hugged and kissed him, I did not feel that pull, that happiness that I expected from his arrival. I was angry with myself, I did not want to betray him after two years that we were apart. And he, apparently feeling my attitude, also began to move away from me. I started going out with friends more and more. I often stayed with a friend to spend the night, and I sat at home and shed tears. Now I understand that I myself brought this relationship to such an outcome of events.
Having “tormented” together for six months, I decided to part with him. Of course, then I thought that he was the culprit. Resentment filled his eyes.
A week later, I found out that he started dating a girl. A week later, details of his adventures on the side began to emerge. And five months later, I learned from a mutual friend that he got married and would soon become a dad. Here's how.
Having cried a little from the same resentment, I began to understand myself. It seemed to me that there was something wrong with me, that I was so callous and cold, incapable of love, and, therefore, nobody needed me.
But my torment was not long. I met my husband. When we first met, I enjoyed talking to him. It was interesting and tempting with him. And he, as it turned out later, fell in love with me at first sight. When I got married, I again thought that I was only allowing myself to be loved. That I feel only respect for my husband. But now, after analyzing the whole situation and going through several difficult moments, I realized that I love my husband. I was convinced of this only when I projected the difficulties that had arisen and their resolution on past relationships. What would my ex-boyfriend and failed husband do. I looked at myself from the outside and realized that I would not be able to give the former those feelings and the warmth that I now give to my husband.
Therefore, we can conclude that then I really did not love. And the right decision was made to leave. He is now happy with his wife and daughter, and with his husband and son. Still, it's good that I have such experience behind me. I don't regret it at all.
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"Everything is known in comparison" Nietzsche.
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Comparative site-questionnaire site will help you compare things, phenomena, objects, organizations, various products.Comparison site questionnaire site will help you answer questions such as "Which is better?", "What to choose?", "What do you like?", "What to use?", "Where is better?" "Which is worse?" etc. Search engines help us find the information we need. Here you can always compare what you have found
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We are compared when choosing. When we make a choice, we also compare. How to find out who is the best runner? Arrange a race and compare the results. How to find out who is the most effective seller? We need to compare sales. How to find out which girl is more beautiful? Compare them all to a beauty pageant.
They started comparing me from childhood. Although it is at least not pedagogical. Often the comparison is expressed in such innocent phrases as: “Why are you walking around like an idiot? There Petka, look, he always walks tucked and tidy” or “You always find dirt somewhere, Lyoshka always walks clean”. And we hear reproaches in which the comparison is hidden, first of all from the closest people, dads, moms, grandfathers and grandmothers. Why else listen to opinions, if not theirs? It seems a shame for the reproaches, but you still look at both Petka and Lyosha, and compare yourself with them.
This is how, from the very childhood, the seed of “comparison” gets into us, and then it gives abundant shoots.
School. There's a 5-point grading system for easier comparison of all students. And the teacher, who initially has great authority for the child, continues in the spirit of comparison and sets an example of an excellent student: “Here is not a single mistake in the entire text! And you?".
Then we ourselves begin to compare ourselves with others.
It is clear that the principle of comparison in a person, and in me in particular, lies in the depths of the subconscious and is one of the “windows” through which I see the world around. I don't just compare, I look at the world this way. It shows up in everything. When you are going to make a purchase, you compare different models of a phone, laptop or car, compare their prices.
When I studied at the institute, it was the comparison with the people around me that prompted me to make serious changes in my life. I looked at some of my acquaintances and thought: “No, I definitely don’t want to live like that!”. It's just so much easier. Because for a loved one there will always be concessions and indulgences, but for others it is easier to notice shortcomings, weaknesses, or vice versa strengths. Sometimes there is simply not enough honesty with oneself and the courage to admit to oneself one's weakness. But with another, you always “find a speck in your eye, not noticing the log in yourself ...”.
Even in other people, we are most often annoyed by what is in ourselves, we just don’t notice it behind ourselves.
But even when I set the most successful of all my friends as an example, I came to the conclusion that comparing myself with others is not enough. Too mundane comparisons are obtained. You can, of course, try to compare yourself with world-class stars. But what do I know about their life, except for the bullshit that I read on the Internet or magazines? Nothing.
Therefore, I came up with one tricky thing, which may not be new at all, but I will voice it. You need to stop comparing yourself to others and start comparing yourself to yourself. Just do not compare yourself with the past, but create the desired image of yourself in the future. To do this, you need to come up with this image in your head and, for clarity, describe it in words on paper, draw it, mold it from clay, make a computer model ... In general, here, who is on what much. And strive for this image, constantly comparing yourself with it, and not with others.
Is the top half darker than the bottom? Close the connecting line between them with your finger.
When it came to creating an image of myself, the first thing I thought about was the car I would drive, the apartment I would live in, my physical appearance, a beautiful wife, my position in society, and so on. But for some reason, I didn't write it all down. Probably due to the fact that I have already done this many times, writing it down in the form of goals.
It's been a couple of weeks. And I settled on a completely clear position. Everything that is external in life, it itself will be applied as needed. Much more important are internal changes and personality traits. Therefore, go ahead, “back to the future”, draw an image of yourself (if you can really draw an artist).
Here are a few basic qualities and characteristics that I wrote down for myself. All of them relate to the same desired image.
Energy. I have a lot of energy, I can extract it from situations, get it from people, and even from space. I do not splash it around, but spend it on achieving specific goals in my life.
Confidence. I am confident in myself, in what I am doing and in the future. I make my decision without hesitation.
Cheerfulness. The life that nature has given me is the greatest of all miracles. I am happy with this gift.
Persistence. I get what I want. I bring the business to its logical conclusion.
Communication. One of the most important parts of life. In communication with people, I gain new knowledge, exchange experience, expand my worldview, get new ideas. Based on this position, I communicate only for my own benefit.
So, my friends, comparison is not just a habit. Therefore, you don't need to get rid of it. Just stop comparing yourself with others, exchanging for envy or discontent, start comparing yourself with yourself. With the way you want to see yourself.
P.S. After reading, in the comments, add one or more items to this list, from yourself.
As the old folk wisdom says: everything is known in comparison. This compilation will clearly show that even the most imposing athletes and athletes can look so cool next to even more imposing people. What can we say, even if the old man Arnie can be small.
1. This is the well-known Arnold Schwarzenegger, the same “iron Arnie”. His height at the moment is about 180 cm, and his weight is about 100 kg. 
2. And here is Arnie in the company of professional strogmen and powerlifters. 
3. Although, the comparison with the legend of wrestling - Andre the Giant, becomes even more obvious. 
4. Now let's look at Vin Diesel, he's not a small guy either. 
5. But compared to The Rock, it no longer seems so big. 
6. But if a Shaquille O'Neal basketball player stands next to Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson, he will seem like a baby himself. 
7. You might think that Shaq is simply unrealistically huge. And, yes, it is. But only until another famous basketball player Yao Ming stands next to him. 
8. And here is Alexey Bekker (left) and Alexander Eskin (right). Big guys? - Undoubtedly! 
9. But Mikhail Koklyaev appears in the frame and everything changes. Misha is a real Russian hero - 192 cm tall and 160 kg weight. He's really big. 
10. Although, there is someone, in comparison with whom, Koklyaev no longer seems like a giant. This is Kirill Sarychev, his height is 197 cm, and his weight is from 170 to 180 kg. 
11. Speaking of really big people, one cannot help but recall the famous Ser Gregor "The Mountain" Clegane from the Game of Thrones series. Here he is next to the Iron Arnie. 
12. Hafthor Bjornson (that's actually the name of the actor who plays "The Mountain"), really very big, just look at this photo. 
13. However, in one of the malls, he somehow met two of his fans. And from this photo you can no longer say that he is "Mountain". 
Without comparison, we would never have a correct idea about certain things. How can you tell if a person is tall or not if there is no way to compare him with other people?
Here, for example, we see a guy who is clearly taller than everyone else. But another guy comes up to him, 1.5 times bigger than him, and then that first tall guy already seems to be some kind of dwarf compared to the thug. In star society, the same rules apply. Some famous big guys aren't actually that big when you look at them objectively!
1. Let's start with one of the biggest tough guys - Arnold Schwarzenegger. His height at the moment is about 180 cm, and his weight is about 100 kg.
2. And here is Arnie in the company of professional strongmen and powerlifters. He's not that big anymore, is he?
3. Arnie is here next to wrestling legend Andre the Giant. It turns out our "terminator" is quite a baby!
4. Another big, buff guy is Vin Diesel.
5. But compared to The Rock, it no longer seems so big.
6. Although, if Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson stands next to basketball player Shaquille O'Neal, he himself will seem like a baby.
7. But! Shaq isn't the biggest guy yet! Here he stands next to the famous basketball player Yao Ming. I just can't believe...
8. And here is Alexey Bekker (left) and Alexander Eskin (right). They seem to be incredibly big guys!
9. Although, against the background of Mikhail Koklyaev (height - 192 cm and weight - 160 kg), everything changes.
10. But even Misha may not seem so big when he is next to Kirill Sarychev (height - 197 cm, weight - 180 kg).
11. It is worth remembering another really big guy Hafthor Bjornson, Ser Gregor "The Mountain" Clegane from the series "Game of Thrones".
