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Interesting topics for an interesting conversation. The best, interesting topics for talking with a girl on the phone, in VKontakte, on the Internet: a list of questions. How to start, start and maintain a conversation with a girl you don't know and with the one you like

What are the best topics for a conversation with a guy? What to talk about on a first date? How to behave in an unfamiliar company? We are ready to talk about all this. Having read the information, you will not feel embarrassed when the situation develops in such a way that you are left alone with an unfamiliar person. Of course, you can not start a conversation at all, but more often than not, for some reason, you still need to start it. Let's drop the constraint and try to find topics for communication.

Introduce yourself in an unfamiliar company!

Or ask to be introduced to a stranger (or people). It’s good if it’s a small presentation: “This is Natalya, we go to training together” or “My friend works in real estate.” Such representations give a course to the conversation, cause mutual friendliness, especially when interests coincide. Most likely, the topic will be developed, thanks to clarifying questions, both on your part and on the part of the interlocutor.

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Ways to find topics for conversation

By the way, in the old days, all persons of noble blood knew how to break an awkward silence. This art was taught along with French, dancing and etiquette. Now, in a situation where you need to say something, many do not know how to find a topic for conversation. The youth of today are not taught this either at school or at home. Many girls are embarrassed, not knowing what topics to choose for a conversation with a guy. Yes, and guys sometimes do not know what to talk about with a girl. But we know several ways.

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1) Find something good in the interlocutor

Look at a person who, by chance or at your request, was next to you. What is he? Find in him what makes him different from others, and mark it to yourself. You may not attach any importance to this, but your face will change significantly. The interlocutor will see genuine interest on your part, since this is noticeable even with the naked eye. The most unfriendly interlocutor will feel this and will give you his favor. Don't forget to return the compliment. If this is a woman, you can compliment her clothes or hairstyle. Such a remark will set you up for a positive perception of the environment.

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2) Look for a topic of conversation around you

If you are at a party, you can discuss contests, the number of guests, the mood of the heroes of the occasion. Even if you think aloud about the objects that surround you, it can be a good topic for conversation. If your interlocutor is a person of the opposite sex, you can ask typical female or male questions. So, you can ask a woman what she thinks about the design of the room. With a man you can talk about automotive topics. In addition, to somehow start a conversation, you can offer the interlocutor drinks.

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3) Find common interests

Mayer Rothschild once said the famous phrase: "Who owns the information, he owns the world." The statement still has not lost its relevance. So, if you check the news before going to a party, you will be aware of the latest current events, which means you can easily start a conversation and keep it going. Topics related to your city are considered especially successful. Preparing the streets for any holiday, weather forecast, the arrival of one of the artists or politicians. When such important topics related to the native year are discussed, few people stand aside. Most people jump right into the conversation. If you find that you are somewhat similar to the interlocutor, say so. “And I also have a child of the same age as yours”, “It turns out that we studied at the same school!”, “I also love indoor plants.” Such remarks contribute to the fact that the conversation proceeds easily and freely, without unnecessary pauses. In addition, there are new topics for conversation.

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4) Feel free to ask questions

But avoid questions that require a one-word yes or no answer. Ask the interlocutor where he works, what he enjoys. Psychologists say that all people like to talk about themselves, and therefore willingly make contact. But when asking questions, do not forget about the rules of ethics. So, it is not customary to ask questions that relate to the appearance of the interlocutor, his material support. Do not ask about salary, height, weight, size. In no case do not criticize relatives, friends and relatives of the person with whom you are talking, if you do not want to make an enemy for yourself.

Talk about abstract topics. But do not be embarrassed if the interlocutor stubbornly continues to play silent, do not take his coldness personally. Perhaps silence is one of the features of his temperament, or the person is simply not in the mood. In this case, it is better to stop pestering him.

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Non-verbal communication for the sympathy of the interlocutor

It is quite easy to adjust to the interlocutor by gestures and facial expressions. If you manage to do this, the person will be able to speak openly and confidentially with you. Psychologists identify several non-verbal ways to win over a person and start a conversation with him.

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"I look at you like in a mirror"

If you copy the gestures, facial expressions, words of the interlocutor, you will demonstrate to him on a subconscious level that you are comfortable enough next to him. Just imagine that you are a mirror image of your interlocutor. If he put his right foot on his left, do the opposite: put his left foot on his right. This does not attract too much attention, but they are part of non-verbal communication. Psychologists do not recommend copying "protective" gestures (for example, crossing arms over the chest), as the interlocutor may perceive them as hostile.

After a few minutes of communication with his “mirror”, the interlocutor willy-nilly will take you “for his own”. After all, the same poses indicate that people are somewhat similar. The corresponding signal enters the brain, and the person begins to treat the interlocutor in a friendly manner.

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"Listen to our breath"

Another way to tune in to the "wave" of the interlocutor is to adjust to his breathing. Then communication will become trusting at a subconscious level. You can breathe in time with the interlocutor, after observing the rhythm of his breathing. Or you can just swing your leg to the rhythm of the interlocutor's breathing or speak to the beat of his breathing - try to pronounce your phrases on his exhalation. To understand in what rhythm your interlocutor breathes, watch his chest.

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The best topics to talk to a guy

By the will of fate, you were alone with a person who you like. But with excitement, you can not utter a word, and there is no need to talk about non-verbal communication. Try to quickly figure out what you already know about this guy and think about what topics he might be interested in. Ask questions (remembering the norms of ethics), talk about yourself (only carefully controlling so that the dialogue with the guy does not turn into a monologue about your life). If you have something in common in life (work, studies, hobbies) - fine, discuss this aspect. If there is nothing in common, remember these topics, perhaps they will be suitable for the situation:

  • music (which performers he likes, why);
  • cinema (new items can be discussed);
  • sports (what kind of sport is he interested in, does he support any football team);
  • favorite places in your city;
  • work or study (if you want to talk about it);
  • Pets.

Try to discuss any topics in such a way that the conversation does not look like an interrogation. It’s better to tell about yourself first (I watched such and such a film last week), and then ask about the guy’s attitude to these same events.

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Video about the types of people and the rules of communication with them

With whomever you communicate, often call the person by name. This brings the interlocutor to you at an unconscious level. After all, the sounds of your own name are the most pleasant sounds for any person.

Tired of the constant awkward silence while talking to your boyfriend? Once you've gotten to know a person well enough, it's very difficult to find new topics to talk about. Although nothing is impossible! Follow our tips to keep your conversations interesting and fresh. These rules apply to personal conversation, chat correspondence or SMS messages.

Steps

    Ask what topics your boyfriend is interested in. As a rule, people most of all like to talk about themselves and their interests. Why? And all because they are well versed in this and have already thought about everything. Here are some common questions:

    • How was the day?
    • Previous experience (in what conditions he lived as a child; what he was fond of, and what is very important to him and his family).
    • Guy's hobbies
    • Work
    • Favorite books, movies or music.

  1. Stay up to date. If you have time to read or watch the news, you will have more things to talk about in your head. Keep up with social events, hilarious snippets from comedy shows, or funny stories from the internet. If the conversation falters, ask your boyfriend about something he's heard or read recently. If he is up to date with the news, you can express your opinion. If not, now is the perfect time to bring the guy up to date.

    Talk about alleged circumstances. If you had to choose between blindness and deafness, which would you choose? Would you like to exist alone eating spinach and listening to Christmas carols for eight hours a day for the rest of your life? Try to find interesting, funny or challenging situations and ask your boyfriend what he likes the most. When he answers, ask him to justify his opinion.

    • Get into an argument. Provide a point of view opposite to the boyfriend's to get him to re-evaluate his opinion. Prove that you are trying to bring interest to the conversation, and do not want to argue with the guy at every turn.
    • A few more hypothetical situations: "What thoughts keep you awake at night?" "If you had the opportunity to live your life over again, what would you change?" "What can't you live without?" (or "If you were forced to keep only 10 items, what would it be?")

  2. Ask the guy to tell you about something you don't know. He can talk about himself, or just give an example that you have not heard of. Whatever it is, you will definitely learn something. If you want to go into details, ask the guy to tell you about his passion.

    • Nostalgia is for you. Ask the guy about his first memory, first day at school, first toy, or first memorable birthday. This is a great way to learn about what happened in your boyfriend's life and what kind of a kid he was.

  3. Ask questions of an unusual nature. In return, you will receive funny, entertaining statements, and you will be in a good mood. For example: "Do you still believe in Santa Claus?", "If you had to choose between TV and the Internet, what would you refuse?" or "If there were no clocks in the world, how would we live?". Continue the conversation in a positive and cheerful tone. There are no wrong answers here!

    • Tell your boyfriend a couple of jokes and laugh with him (if the guy has a good sense of humor).

  4. Give compliments. Tell him why you liked this or that date. For example, you could say, "I loved it when you invited me to dinner at the restaurant. It was so pretty and made me feel special."

  5. Discuss the future. Talk about what you would like to do one day. Maybe you would like to visit Crete, become a stage star, write a novel or live on a ship. Ask what he wants to do in the future. Here are some sample topics:

    • When the guy wanted to go to school
    • What did he want to study?
    • Where would he like to live
    • Where would he like to go
    • Possible hobbies
    • What job would the guy like to have in the future?

  6. Play a game. It can be a board game, an online game or a video game - it's all up to you. If you're competing with each other, you can have a discreet chit-chat or play pranks on your boyfriend. If you are on the same team, you can discuss the strategy and process of the game. Try classic examples:

    • Chess
    • Checkers
    • "Scrabble"
    • Race
    • Egyptian Rat Screw card game
    • Board game "Sorry".

  7. Be an active listener. The art of communicating with another person involves active listening, which encourages the person to have longer conversations. Show your boyfriend that you're genuinely interested in what he's saying by acknowledging that he's right. Use affirmative sentences and positive body language during conversations. Summarize what you were told so that the guy understands that his words are understood and accepted.

    • If your relationship is in its infancy and there are many pauses in the conversation, try to keep the conversation to an hour and no more at first. Excessive talk can turn the freshness of a relationship into confusion and boredom.
    • Let the guy know that you are still interested in the conversation. A conversation on trifling topics can quickly turn into silence.
    • Be yourself and don't pretend. If you try to be perfect around a guy, you will be a lot more nervous. Remember that the guy chose you for who you really are.
    • If you're joking about your boyfriend, make sure your jokes don't lead to confusion. This tone of voice can lead to awkward silence or a negative impression.
    • Be yourself. Be honest with your thoughts.
    • Be yourself around the guy.
    • If you are a shy, modest girl, show the guy that you love him, and he will understand everything.
    • Just relax. This guy is your boyfriend first and foremost. Even if you run out of topics to talk about, awkward silences will disappear a lot faster if you understand this.
    • Never tell a guy that you are not worthy of him because he is too good for you. Better say you appreciate it!
    • If the silence drags on and you have nothing else to talk about, offer to play a game of Truth or Dare. This game will quickly revive a boring conversation!
    • Always tell your boyfriend how you feel.
    • Hold the guy's hand while talking. This gesture in some cases simplifies the conversation.

    Warnings

    • Don't lie just to find a topic of conversation.
    • Forget about your past relationships! If you constantly talk about ex-boyfriends, your boyfriend will feel awkward, especially if you praise or blame them. He will be curious how there is still a place for him in your brain. Also, guys don't like being compared to others.
    • Never use the phrase "I love you" to continue the conversation. Express your feelings only when you are fully prepared for it. Your boyfriend will be embarrassed by your words if they were said to fill the silence.
    • Topics to avoid if your relationship is in its infancy: marriage, children, expensive gifts, and dislike for the guy's family. Be careful when it comes to your future together. Talk about it only when you both realize that you mean a lot to each other.
    • Never praise or gossip about your friends. It looks bad from the outside.
    • Don't complain or whine to keep the conversation going. No one will tolerate this for long. If this behavior becomes a habit, it will demonstrate a lack of self-confidence and a need to upset people just because you have nothing to say.

Have you ever experienced this: you came to an unfamiliar company and you don’t feel at all like a fish in water? Everyone is talking about something, but you have nothing to say? And they seem to be not bad, interesting people, but the conversation somehow does not stick together: as if there are no common topics of contact. It's hard to find good topics for conversation right away. There are other situations: two people are forced to spend a long time together, but they don’t even know what to talk about with each other, how to find interesting topics for conversation. Therefore, all conversations are reduced to "about the weather" or to a long silence.

It turns out that being a good conversationalist is not always easy! Why, then, with some people you can talk on any topic, while with others you can’t even get a couple of peppy words? Sometimes it's just necessary to be able to properly maintain a conversation! For example, when meeting with the authorities at a new job or with the parents of your soulmate. After all, all the people with whom the conversation does not fit in any way cannot be deleted from life! So how do you find a topic to talk about?

What we say, what we say, actually SAYS about us. Every day we unconsciously verbalize our desires and lacks. After all, it is not we who speak: our unconscious speaks to us, our vectors.

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It turns out that the set of vectors directly affects the topics of conversation we choose and the very manner of communication. People with a similar set of vectors and states understand each other: their conversation is built freely and naturally. But the representatives of counter vectors may not get along well. Each vector has its own good topics for conversation.

So, if you know everything about the vectors of the interlocutor, you can understand what you can talk to him about and how to properly maintain a conversation with him. Today we will look at how representatives of the most popular vectors manifest themselves in communication.

skin vector. As you might have guessed by now, good conversation topics with leather workers are money, profit, and everything that comes with it. Careers, jobs, prices, sales, methods of earning money are their most popular topics of conversation. After all, we all remember that money is the main value of leather workers. Moreover, the owners of the skin vector like to talk about a healthy lifestyle: about sports, about weight loss and diets, about healthy and unhealthy foods. Male skinners like to discuss cars, expensive gadgets and, of course, girls in their circle. Because By their very nature, all leather workers love to compete and dream of being the first in everything, then the conversation about women often comes down to who picked up how many "women". Skin women love to talk about shopping and fashion.

People with a skin vector are extroverts, so they are quite open in communication, but they don’t really like to talk a lot about themselves: they ask more.

anal vector. The owners of the anal vector are not as verbose as the skinners (but this also depends on the upper vectors). Analniks are introverts. They like to talk little and to the point. There are many good topics for conversation. For example, women with an anal vector love to talk about family, children, cooking and cleaning - in general, about their daily activities. Men with an anal vector talk about purely “male” topics: hunting, fishing, maybe history. “We are not women to trynd a lot!” The picture, of course, changes, there is an anal man, for example, with a visual vector, and / or oral.

The favorite motif of any conversations of the owner of the anal vector: “It used to be so good, but now ...” And a long discussion begins about how humanity has degraded, what kind of “youth” has gone now and where the world is heading. Homosexuals are not the most pleasant topic for a man with an anal vector (but, nevertheless, also very popular). The fact is that a man with an anal vector has an undifferentiated libido. This means that in the potential it can be attracted not only by women, but also by males. And even if “everything is all right” with his orientation, he often without realizing it, all the time emphasizes his masculinity.

If you want to win over a man with an anal vector in a conversation, then don’t look for smart topics for a conversation for a long time, instead, it’s better to agree with him in everything, often nod: “they say, yes, the world is going to hell”, “yes, family - this is the most important thing in life, and a man is always the head of the family.” Then, believe me, he will remember you as a wonderful conversationalist and a pleasant person.

visual vector. The audience is probably the best interlocutor. Especially when it comes to people with a developed visual vector. Why? Because the visual vector gives its owners a unique gift - the ability to empathize. They feel their interlocutor, so they unconsciously adjust to him in a conversation: sometimes they even adopt the pace and manner of speech. It is comfortable and cozy with them: they are excellent psychotherapists. They can listen, support and give the most valuable thing - sympathy. Interesting topics for conversation with them are always provided.

At the same time, people with a visual vector are still talkers. They can tryndet for hours on end: so that even a word in their tirade will be difficult to insert. Particularly talkative are not very developed spectators, who in a conversation are constantly trying to pull the blanket of attention over themselves. People with a visual vector are very emotional, they can often exaggerate and escalate the situation.

How to find a common topic of conversation with skin-visual women? They talk about men all the time. But what else?

Sound vector. The most "uncommunicative" and the most paradoxical vector. Like typical introverts, sound people are often silent: they listen more than they talk. How to find a topic for conversation with them? This is a difficult task, because they believe that the conversations of "all these people around" are meaningless. So, there is no point in even opening your mouth. For people with a sound vector, the question is important: “Why?” Why talk about the weather, women, cars, fashion? If the sound engineer starts talking, then in the company of sound engineers like him. It is then that conversations begin about the meaning of being and philosophy, about God and religion, and about many, many other things. A person with a sound vector has been trying all his life to learn the laws of the universe, so these topics are more relevant to him than anyone else. Who am I? Why am I? Why me?

Sound-vectored people may seem like good listeners, but not all are. Some sound engineers, while you are chatting, are not listening to you at all: they have been hovering in their thoughts for a long time, but they have already forgotten about you. By the way, it is the sound engineers who like to have a quiet conversation with themselves: I am the best interlocutor for myself.

Oral vector. God himself ordered people with an oral vector to speak, so they have no problem choosing a topic for conversation: as soon as they envy free ears, they begin to attack with their chatter. And there is no escape from their "verbal diarrhea".

We have considered only the most common types of people. But, already possessing only this knowledge, you can understand how to build a conversation with certain people, how to find a common topic for a conversation with any person. And if you dig even deeper, whole layers of information will open up! Chat at your pleasure with Yuri Burlana!

The article was written with the use of training materials on System-Vector Psychology by Yuri Burlan. Find out more about OUR LECTURES.

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About what…. What to talk about? Yes about everything! Such an answer! Have you ever tried to talk about absolutely everything? There is nothing difficult in such conversations. All you need is a so-called "hook".

  1. Listen to the interlocutor! See what topics he enjoys talking about.
  2. Don't interrupt someone who is speaking. Then you won't have to worry about topics. The person who pours out his soul to you will himself “dissolve” in topics for conversation.
  3. Remember what the person talked to you about before (if, of course, you have communicated before). And start "leaning" on old topics.

Didn't find anything great?

Didn’t see “interesting topics” in the tips?

Especially if you don't use a camera. "Invisibility" liberates people.

My husband and I met mine online. It so happened that I was incredibly sociable, like him. But since I found it... That conversational initiative was “attached” to me. I never go into my pockets for a word, so I knew what to say and when. My habit is “interrogative rain”. I added Stasik to Friends (on a social network) and immediately began to ask about many things. He got tired, probably, from me in the first seconds. But he didn't admit it. What topics were covered?

Our first conversation was more like a very detailed questionnaire:

  1. How old are you?
  2. Who are you according to the Zodiac?
  3. What do you like to do in life?
  4. What do you like?
  5. Who do you work?
  6. Is that you in the photo?
  7. Where you're from?
  8. Where do you live now?
  9. What is the nationality of your parents?
  10. Do you have a brother or sister?
  11. Where do you work?
  12. What are your food preferences?
  13. Is there a favorite color?
  14. What kind of women (girls) do you like?
  15. What do you like to do on the Internet?
  16. How do you feel about coincidences?

I can go on listing questions for a long time, but you will just get bored reading them. Speak! And the theme itself will be found!

How to find an interesting topic?

If the interlocutor is very unsociable caught? Ask directly what the person would like to talk about. So pastime will be much more interesting.

Interesting topics for conversation are topics that will delight not only your soul, but also the soul of those with whom you love to talk. Are you uncomfortable with this or that topic? This does not mean at all that the person who is next to you will have the same “feeling” for her. Try to support all topics, not just those that inspire you exclusively! In this way, you will earn a positive reputation and a positive opinion about yourself.

All topics for conversation have run out, and you don’t know what to talk about with the guy you like? When meeting, how to find a topic that will be of interest to both? In fact, finding common ground with a stranger is easy! And we will tell you how to do it. In addition, you will find here a list of universal topics for talking with any guy at the first meeting, and you will learn how to properly keep the conversation going and what is better to keep silent about.

How often have you seen girls who are able to practically maintain a conversation with a completely unfamiliar man, able to listen, ask the right questions? There are few of them, because the ability to conduct a conversation is a complex art, which can be learned throughout life. A newbie has a lot of questions. What to talk about with guys? What topics to choose? What is not worth discussing?

The first thing to think about is the topic of the conversation. But how to choose it if you are practically not familiar with the interlocutor? A great chance to learn more about a guy is to ask him directly about his hobbies. Perhaps your passions will match.

Here is what you should unobtrusively find out from him at the first meeting:

  1. what he does in his spare time, his hobbies, hobbies;
  2. favorite movie, book;
  3. how he spends time more often - hanging out in clubs with friends, or prefers a relaxing holiday at home;
  4. what plans do you have for the future;
  5. you can ask if he ever did crazy, thoughtless things;
  6. where he likes to spend his holidays/holidays.

It is possible that already at this stage you will find several points of convergence of interests.

Universal topics for conversation with any guy

If there is no intersection of interests - do not be discouraged, there are several win-win topics of conversation that are suitable for communicating with any guys. Here are the topics:

  1. Sport. What sport does he do? Does the gym, fitness club, swimming pool visit? Does he lead a healthy lifestyle?
  2. His family, relatives and friends. Are there brothers and sisters? Favorite uncles and aunts? Who does he get along with the most? Perhaps he will tell some interesting stories from his childhood. You can tell something about your childhood. It brings together very well.
  3. Animals. Does he have pets? If not, does he dream of having someone?
  4. Technique. Many guys are fond of technology, well versed in electronic innovations. You can ask for advice, help in choosing a new phone, setting up a computer, etc.
  5. gastronomic preferences. All guys love to eat, and this can and should be enjoyed.

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Another inexhaustible topic for conversation with any guy is the latest news and events in your city. Here are some examples:

  • new films;
  • theatrical premieres;
  • concerts held in your city;
  • music festivals;
  • sport events.
  • latest news;
  • discussion of interesting places you have visited;
  • trendy nightclubs;
  • beaches;
  • parties.

In a conversation with a guy, do not forget about the ability to listen to the interlocutor. You should not exclaim after each phrase: “It can’t be”, “Wow!”, “Cool!”. Such "patterned" cries often sound feigned. Try to listen calmly and very carefully to the interlocutor, you can ask relevant questions.

This should be avoided

Obviously, you can not continue the conversation on a topic if you see that it is not interesting to a man.

In addition, there are so-called "forbidden topics". Their discussion is undesirable if the guy is not your friend. Here are the topics:

  1. His and his past relationships. The main danger of such conversations is the comparison of past and current relationships, which leaves an unpleasant aftertaste and hurts pride. You should not touch on this topic, especially if you practically do not know your interlocutor;
  2. His failures. Guys take any trouble very hard: failures at work, losses in sports competitions are perceived by them very painfully. Talking about past troubles affects self-esteem. In such a situation, it is better to switch his attention to something positive;
  3. Bad habits, weaknesses. If you start to discuss in a negative way, his bad habits, he will perceive this as a gross interference in his life. This topic should not be raised at the very beginning of a relationship. In the future, when you get closer, you can return to this.
In addition, unsuccessful topics are:
  • Politics
  • Religion
  • Nationalism

Your views on these topics may differ significantly, so these topics should be avoided at first.

In general, if you're on a first date with a guy, it's best to talk about something fun and positive. Too serious topics for conversation are best left for later.

There are some more helpful tips in this video:

Finding an interesting common topic for conversation is half the battle, the conversation still needs to be skillfully conducted. Here are some helpful tips for keeping the conversation going:

Many girls make mistakes in communicating with guys. Here are the most common ones:

  • Talk about several things at the same time. Do not quickly and often "jump" from topic to topic. This will tire the interlocutor. Focus on one thing.
  • Interruption. This mistake is made by many girls, trying to make the conversation more "alive", but guys perceive this behavior as aggression. You need to learn to listen.
  • Conversation in hints. This is a "feminine" way to carry on a conversation. If you want to make a good impression, be direct. Hints are perceived as a way of manipulation.
  • Don't complain. No need to immediately complain about a bad life, lack of finances, bad friends, neighbors. This behavior can be embarrassing. It is much more pleasant to communicate with a positive person. Focus on your accomplishments and successes.