What can not be forgiven to a man and a woman? What can not forgive a man? What can and cannot be forgiven

Surely each person has his own list of words and deeds that in no case can be forgiven to anyone. But love and close relationships often force us to reconsider our principles, and sometimes even change them.

Being in love sometimes closes a woman's eyes to the ugly male actions of her partner, often forcing her to forgive what, in general, should not be forgiven.

So, what actions and words can never be forgiven even to a beloved man?

• Treason.
  On the topic of unforgivable betrayal, the opinions of women and men unanimously agree in their majority - you can’t forgive betrayal! In treason, several negative points are collected - this is the pain from realizing the deception of a loved one, hatred of betrayal, and intolerance from the thought that he was close to another woman, this is the torment from the fact that someone broke into the close world of your relationship with a partner more, soiling and defiling the Temple of your love. Sometimes even a very strong person cannot forgive betrayal, and the fact of betrayal can simply trample a weak, sensitive person.
  Forgive the changer? Of course, everyone decides for himself. But remember that to forgive is not to live the rest of your life with a person under the yoke of suspicion, pain and this resentment. To forgive betrayal is to let go of the situation, completely clear your heart of resentment and start life from scratch, never returning to the past. Read also:
• The man raised his hand to the woman.
  The sad statistics that psychologists provide suggests that the fact of the first case, when, soon enters into his rule of communication with a partner. A man by nature is very strong, and he is able to protect his loved ones, as well as refrain from excessive emotionality and aggression. A strong man will never allow himself to humiliate a loved one.
  The one who raised his hand against a woman is a creature with an unbalanced psyche, who can easily do it for the second and tenth time, each time getting more and more excited and using more and more sophisticated methods of humiliating his wife.
• The man beats the children.
  Until the debate subsides about whether physical punishment of children is necessary, or it is not permissible, those men who do not have the right to be called men spread their hands in relation to their children, explaining this with fatherly love and the desire to raise good people out of them.
  The supreme role of a mother is to protect her children from all the cruelties in this world. So is it worth it to forgive a person who regularly tortures your flesh and blood? Is your love for your husband or the habit of living with him together worth all the humiliation, physical and moral pain of your child?
• Lie.
  Whatever the male lie - small or big - it can be a serious obstacle to this couple's path to happiness. As a rule, it is a small lie that undermines relationships - every day, bit by bit, suddenly growing into a snowball over time, which can no longer be moved aside. The lie of a man is a serious reason to doubt his feelings and sincerity . Relationships are built on trust, if there is no trust, there will be no love.
• Public words of insult against a woman.
  Dirty words spoken by a man in public should not be forgiven him. If a man suddenly begins to share the intimate secrets of your relationship with friends, criticize you rudely, utter obscene expressions against you - this is a serious reason to reconsider relations with him. Forgive such behavior to a man in no case can not be - unless, of course, you want to remain humiliated and insulted all your life, and possibly even beaten, in public.
• Disrespectful attitude towards women.
  “That blonde has a superfigure, and after giving birth you blurred like a cow”, “Yes, where do you care about this woman, you don’t know how to cook”, “My ex kept order, but you always have a mess” - and they continue comparing you with all the women on Earth, of course, is not in your favor. Should this be forgiven?
  Respect is one of the pillars on which Love stands. There is no respect for you - and this love becomes "lame", or maybe it does not exist at all. Most likely, comparing with other women, humiliating you, makes a man feel the pain of his own EGO. Do you really need this weakling?
• Male laziness.
  How often in life do we see families in which a woman is “I am a horse, I am a bull, I am a woman and a man”, and a man lies down on the couch, finding endless excuses for his passivity ... Such a man is not looking for an additional opportunity to earn money , he does not try to solve financial crises in the family, does not do any household chores. The most favorite activities of such a man are watching TV programs, lying on the couch, meeting friends in a garage or a beer bar, fishing, eternal smoke breaks ...
  Are you sure that at the moment when you are suddenly unable to provide for your family and do all the housework, your man will take over the solution of problems? So whether it is necessary today to put up with his passivity – the answer is quite obvious.
• The greed of a man.
  It is very difficult for a woman to feel loved and desired if her man is tight-fisted in gifts and purchases. In such couples, constant friction arises over allegedly excessive spending by the wife and children. A woman in such a pair is unlikely to receive chic gifts, and bouquets for her, if they are bought, then only on the basis of the principles of economy - cheaper, discounted.
  With such a situation, any woman, if she has not completely given up on her life, will very hard to deal with . And is it necessary to forgive a man for greed?
• Insults to your relatives.
  If a man sincerely loves you, he will never stoop to insult your parents, children from a previous marriage, brothers, sisters, etc.
  According to many people, no way you can’t forgive your man the words of insulting relatives - even if they were uttered in a temper, and one cannot forgive his ugly actions towards relatives.
• Bad habits of a man.
  In no case should a woman put up with the most common bad male habits - drug addiction, gambling. A man who seeks solace in these manias of his does not really love you - these passions replace love for him. Although he may swear eternal love for you - but how, it is very convenient for him to return after a night of drinking or after major losses to the house, where he will be fed, calmed down, caressed.
  Alcoholism, gambling, drug addiction can not be forgiven a man!
• Male egoism and egocentrism.
  Your man speaks only about himself, attributing all family achievements to his person. He is ready to go on vacation to the country he chooses, it is he who decides which friends to be friends with you, and which ones should forget the way to your house. A selfish man constantly wants attention to his person, but is very stingy to give attention to his companion or children.
  Forgiving male egoism and accepting this state of affairs, a woman a priori plays secondary roles in his life. But wait, where is the love here?

When you grow up, you don't let girls treat you the way they did when you were younger. Disrespect for you remains in the past and all these unhappy relationships are on the verge. When you are an adult man, then you need to immediately upset a woman and twist it into a ram's horn, if she allows herself something that should not be.

The girl behaves the way you let her. Will she test you for character and balls? Of course, more than once.

1. The betrayal of the girl and the choice

Does a girl choose between you and someone else? So she does not love anyone, and no one really likes. The girl chooses with whom she will be better based on the maximum benefit. Who can give her as much as possible. But here the conversation is not about love, but material wealth and commercialism. Do you need it? Find a normal girl who will love and idolize you.

The girl set her horns and asks for forgiveness? Betrayal cannot be forgiven in any case. No matter how much you love. Throw to hell before you stain your name and your family.

2. Women's manipulations

This is the most popular game of a woman in a relationship. The girl begins to achieve what she wants using manipulation. Cheap play on emotions, moral pressure, threats of parting, deprivation of sex, demonstration of resentment, forcing with tears, categorical ultimatums, involvement of relatives and friends. A girl should be put down and ignored until she understands or you find a better chick.

3. Prohibitions and control

The girl starts to forbid the man to do what he wants? Don’t be friends with those, don’t go there, then don’t do it. Do as I said. An adult man will not tolerate such tricks and will put the girl in her place. Slavery has long been abolished, and the girl does not have the moral right to forbid something to a mature and wise man.

4. Comparison with others

A girl can compare you to other guys or her exes. Sometimes girls compare with their girlfriend's husband, reproaching you for a low salary, lack of press, or a small “friend”. A man does not have to endure this. You should find another girlfriend and let the girl go to hell.

5. Disrespect for a man

The girl is disrespectful to the man. She constantly criticizes and makes fun of him. The girl swears in the presence of strangers and expresses her displeasure. The girl treats the man's family badly. Such a girl has beguiled the shores and you need to get rid of her immediately.

When you grow up, relationships follow your rules, not women's. If a girl does not suit you, then it is very easy to replace her. Now there are so many girls that with your experience, lassoing a good and young female is not a problem. Are you a real man?

Surely everyone has a certain list of actions that cannot be forgiven to any person, even if he is the most dear and beloved. It is possible that many do not understand what exactly is included in this list until they encounter it in real life.

This is where the understanding begins to come that, no matter how you fight with yourself, you can’t forgive. Of course, everything largely depends on the person who is at fault - it is easier to forgive a child or a close family member, but this often requires titanic work on one's consciousness.

Basically, what is forgiveness? And what does it mean for the person himself, as well as for his offender. Many believe that to forgive means to forget, it is this delusion that prevents them from understanding why they need to. Surely, each person has his own understanding of this phenomenon, but still, there are some common characteristics, right?

So what is forgiveness?

From a philosophical point of view, forgiveness is the refusal to take revenge on the offender, as well as the ability to “understand” the one who caused you pain or damage.

Unfortunately, even the purest and kindest people, after they have suffered the fate of becoming a "victim" of someone's stupidity, thoughts of sweet revenge and revenge creep in. But does that make it any easier? Maybe in the first minutes yes, and then? Any normal person will be overwhelmed with guilt, and besides, you will sink to the level of your offender.

"Why forgive?" - you ask, - "If I'm still not going to have any more business with this person?". Yes, at least for the fact that people who have learned to understand and let go of their grievances suffer from psychological disorders and stress half as much as people who live with their grievances, periodically remembering all the sorrows and hateful feelings for the guilty person.

A person who believes that “such things” cannot be forgiven to any living person is constantly in a state of stress, subconsciously again and again returns to the experienced situation, which continues to traumatize him, causing already chronic symptoms.

What needs to be done to forgive?

Most importantly, you need to immediately understand for yourself that it is possible to forgive, but after that, most likely, you will have to let go of both the offense itself and the person, because there are certain misconducts, after which you will never be able to return to the same stage and the level of relationship that existed before the problem arose. You need to be prepared for this, both mentally and physically.

• Become an offender. Not literally, of course, but figuratively. Try to understand what pushed him to such an act, why it happened, and also think, maybe your behavior was far from ideal, which prompted the person to do what he did. There's a great idea about this: every villain has a story in the trunk. After all, a very close person can also be an offender, from whom you do not expect this at all, but standing in his place, you realize his motives. Forgiveness is easier when understanding comes.
• Let go of resentment. Sometimes it’s easier to forgive when you let go of resentment and pain not only mentally, but also physically, for example, by throwing a stone deep into the sea, or completely burn it to the last piece of wax. Such a symbolic act can help not to return to resentment never, not in a day, not in a year.
• Honesty. You have been offended, and you have the right to show your feelings, your pain and aggression. Even if you decide to forgive, namely to get rid of internal destructive feelings and thoughts, then it will be quite normal and justified to show your anger. And, if a person who really wants to be forgiven, and your emotional state is restored, then he simply must endure and do a lot so that you get rid of the heavy baggage of emotions.

What things are not forgiven?

All this, of course, sounds good and beautiful, but to put it into practice, as it seems to many, is not so simple. This is especially true in cases where the offense is really serious. What are these cases and misdeeds that make the heart shrink and ache wildly, and common sense turn off?

To be honest, everyone has their own such list, someone can philosophically look at one problem, but does not accept another at all, and vice versa. There are times when, for example, a woman who is too in love turns a blind eye to too many offenses, which may not be worth doing.

• For many, the most important offense that definitely cannot be forgiven to a man is treason. And most men hold absolutely the same opinion about women. - this is betrayal, and humiliation, and the pain of deceit, not everyone, even the strongest person, can forgive this, because thoughts always creep in that this can happen more than once, because a person has already crossed the forbidden line. Who knows, maybe so.
• If a man raised his hand to a woman. Even in the most difficult life situations, a man is a man to remain him, and not to stoop to the humiliation of the weaker sex. If this happened at least once, then this indicates a person’s mental imbalance and, most likely, he will not be able to resist the next time.
• Cruelty to children and relatives. Yes, everyone can be in a bad mood, everyone can be tired and not want to see anyone. Children often make noise, play around, demand attention, but they are also his children, therefore, when a man constantly beats children and insults your next of kin, you need to seriously think about whether this is worth forgiving? After all, it is the duty of the mother to protect her offspring, even from the father, if necessary.
• Betrayal. Betrayals are different, each person may have his own reasons for committing such a low act, but sometimes even the closest people cannot be forgiven.

In addition to these main points, there are many others, personal, for example, laziness,

Over the past ten years, or even several tens of centuries, people have been forcibly invested in the notion that it is better to [ FORGIVE] their offenders, they will be rewarded according to their merits by higher powers for their black deeds.
Today, there are a lot of sick people in the world who have been forgiven, accepted, agreed, based on popular teachings and modern trainings.
And I will now talk to you about the fact that it is impossible to forgive, yes ... in order to maintain your integrity. You may not agree with me and you will be right too.
Did I forgive? Relatives, yes. No others.
My story now does not touch on the topic of a close circle of native people, people related to you by blood. This is another topic. separate for explanation. I will tell you about those cases when you were harmed by strangers (neighbors, colleagues, buddies, “friends”, all kinds of structures), and you swallowed it, accepted it, forgave it ... Without letting go of the offense, but on the contrary, hiding it even deeper in yourself . Why? Let's go in order.


The other day, a girl came to me for an appointment, who was energetically exhausted and depressed. As a result, she is not successful either in her personal life or in other issues that are significant to her. The fact that it had a negative program became clear to me immediately, we began to work. Such a program was not a directed blow, but a bunch of blows that she took upon herself unconditionally and unquestioningly for many years. Did she forgive? Oh yeah! Didn't get angry at the offenders? No, she thought that anger was bad and got rid of it as best she could. But the body remembers everything, and the subconscious mind recorded everything, and deep inside the thought of the desire for a person to answer for everything ... lived in it. After our session, it became easier for her to breathe. But what she said after the meeting instead of gratitude just shocked me! “I’m kind, I don’t want him to return to those who sent him to me, removing the negative from me, I don’t want this for them”
[So this article has matured against the background of this.]
Dear ones, when you forgive your offender, you simplify the situation by making it easier. not in your favor. On an energetic level, it looks like this. The person sent you a stream of negative, destructive energy (in other words, just dirt), and you accepted it safely, thanking for this with your forgiveness, thus removing from the offender all obligations for what he had done, and all causal relationships for practicing this act. Question! Where has the energy gone? Right! It took root in your body, in your subtle body and consciousness and began to grow, and possibly feed on similar “forgiveness.” The energy remains with the one who accepted it. The negative twists like a funnel, violating the integrity of your ethereal field, holes are formed. Subsequently, you attract through them a similar negative from the outside, at the same frequencies, and the most unpleasant thing is that your loved ones who live with you on the same territory indirectly fall into this funnel.
“So I let go of the enemy and the negative!” - you say.
Released where and to whom? Until the address and purpose are indicated, she remains with you. And can hold it cunning guilt.
Have you seen people unpunished? Here is a vivid example of how they were forgiven by their own victims.
It is sacrifice that is born in people when they hear around that everyone needs to be forgiven ... turn the other side so that they hit harder. They suppress their power and become simple, weak, manageable. This technology is clearly supported by some religions, in which a person is not a SPIRIT, but a victim and carry his cross to him until he dies ...
The victims today are clients of psychologists and psychoanalysts, magicians, priests, night girlfriends ... and you will agree with me that there are quite a few of them ...
Only you have the right to decide whether you are a victim or a winner.
Forgiveness… FORGIVENESS state… Imagine a little Puppy. He is very small and cannot take care of himself. Another thing is an adult dog that runs fast, jumps, he is full of strength and will not attack first, but if you hit him in the face, he will hardly give you a paw ... Can a person be like that? Yes, if he still believes that he is not a puppy in this world.

Rituals of Forgiveness were very popular at one time. Radical forgiveness even became fashionable study. But, many people with these techniques came to me with a lot of problems and failures in life. You probably already guessed what kind of kickbacks they pulled to themselves when they forgave everyone indiscriminately with a backhand. They read mantras in the pure stream of the Universe, and in response she accepted their messages and removed all the "sins" from those who were truly to blame. (This is not about petty grievances, I write about serious things ... a victim of rapists, criminals, teachers at school who bully children, peers, and others ...)
A person who does not feel guilty is often freed from it by the mercy of his victim, and sometimes by himself denying the fact of his atrocity. Done and forgot. And the person who has forgiven slowly dies from a serious illness or mental illness. And, unfortunately, there are many such cases today. And not all experts understand the full depth of this problem. I personally know only three of them in Russia.
When a person undergoes repentance in the church (sometimes he repents precisely for holding evil against the enemy, thinking about revenge), from now on he takes on everything that he proclaimed before the clergyman or other mediator of forces. He experiences a strong sense of guilt at this moment, which means he accepts the right to be weak. On this thought-form, he attracts to himself all the troubles, problems, constantly solving one thing or another. "He's guilty, which means he deserves it."
People who are in a constant position of all forgiveness and acceptance receive again and again new and new slaps in the face from hard life. Observed?
Retribution is an Illusion that was instilled long ago so that people would let everyone go, and it would be easier to control them. Analyze for yourself, if retribution was based on the fact of your forgiveness, then boomerangs would fly over their heads every single day. But that doesn't happen. Why? (Reread the text above)
But people are told: he will answer for everything after death, in the next life, he will burn in a hyena ... and you?
Tests in the form of blows from others are given to a person not so that he “simplifies” them and agrees with them, but so that he learns how to respond to them correctly, becoming stronger, wiser, happier. This is the school of life. Natural selection.
No one has the right to take yours, to encroach on your territory, life, the life of your loved ones. If you go into someone else's house, you will become a criminal and must answer for your actions. These are the laws of Energy and cause-and-effect relationships. To hold a blow and protect the territory from the enemy was in the blood of your ancestors, and mine too.

Sergey, what to do, what recommendations?
1. Show your emotions boldly and naturally. Don't be ashamed of what you are doing. When you have been hurt, offended, speak up about it, do not keep it to yourself. Do not take anything personally that may interfere with your life, that does not correspond to your values. If you do something you don't really want to do, you are blocking your inner resources. Your own will and natural process of protection. Be honest with yourself!
2. If a negative was directed at you, you realized it, collect it from yourself and send it back to the ill-wisher, even if you do not know who it is. Let him deal with his Karma himself, you have your own business.
3. Any Simplified Negative is garbage in your field. You take out the garbage when the smell has already gone ... Do you feel it? Do it immediately!
4. In order not to receive resentment against a person who supposedly needs to be forgiven later. Do step #2 first.
5. Is it impossible to forgive at all? Can! Only yourself, for wasting time on something that is not worthy of you. And so that you don’t have to do this, read point # 1.
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People tend to make mistakes from time to time. Only those who do nothing at all do not make mistakes. However, the error is different error. Some things can and should be forgiven, and some things cannot be forgiven categorically.

Today we want to talk about something that cannot be forgiven under any circumstances. And here it does not matter at all what the gender (sex) of a person is. Whether you are a man or a woman, you cannot forgive what is listed below under any circumstances.

Something that cannot be forgiven... To anyone and never!

Cruelty is something that DEFINITELY cannot be forgiven to anyone. Today he kicked a stray dog ​​(or she threw a stray cat), tomorrow everything will be the same for you! Thoughts on the topic: this does not mean anything yet - the pinnacle of stupidity and irresponsibility.

Addiction (dependence) cannot be forgiven! It doesn't matter what they are: alcohol, drug addiction, gambling or something else. You should at least stay away from such people. They will bring nothing good into your life! And you don’t need to entertain yourself with the thought that you will help him (her).

The lack of support cannot be forgiven. And it doesn't matter what kind of support we are talking about. If a person is emotionally cold towards you and your problems, then nothing good will come of it in the end anyway. In addition, indifference to yourself is not worth forgiving.

You can change not only in the physical plane, going "to the left." You can change in the soul, morally, which is much more dangerous and has much more serious consequences. For example, he (or she) is behind your back chatting with someone on the network, flirting, making some plans, declaring his love ... Should this be taken for treason? What do you think?

When they do not respect the business you are doing, or your hobby, when they do not respect your achievements, there is no need to talk about the seriousness of the relationship. Such a person will never really begin to respect you, accepting you for who you are.

The simplest thing is to blame others for your fiasco, for example, the one with whom you live. Naturally, the one who is nearby is to blame for everything. However, every patience has its reasonable limits. Sooner or later, they will pass ...

If he (she) does not respect your parents/relatives/friends, let alone forbids you to communicate with them, can something good/pure/real come out of this? You yourself know the answer: of course not!

There are idiots who dump the intimate circumstances of their own lives to the first person they meet, there are those who are ready to show your nude photos or tell “how it was”. This cannot be forgiven!

Some people have trouble setting their own boundaries. They are either unsteady or absent altogether, as such. Of course, these are your problems, but if you have built your own boundaries and outlined the rules of the game, but they are still being violated, then isn’t it time to stop destructive relationships?

If you have to constantly do something for him (her) that you don’t like or that goes against your moral principles, then it’s time to think about the question: “How much longer will I endure all this”?

In no case can you forgive the fact that you are simply shamelessly used, using you as a personal driver and wallet, and maybe as a mom / dad .... However, what difference does it make who you are used as? The fact is that such an attitude towards oneself cannot be forgiven.

Never forgive lies. It is worth knowing two points: a lie is always the beginning of the end of a relationship. This is a story about how trust disappears like water into sand. Drop by drop, slowly but surely. And nothing can stop this process.

At the same time, one cannot forgive distrust in one's address. If he (she) has problems with self-esteem, then why should you suffer from this? In such cases, it is worth seeking help from a specialist, and not hysteria, wringing your hands.

If he (she) frankly jokes (sorry for the slang) over you in front of friends or in public (even strangers), this only says one thing: such behavior cannot be forgiven in any case. Even if a person begins to justify himself by saying that it was just a joke ....

The fact that you were compared with the former is not pleasant enough. What if this happens all the time? What then? Naturally, we cannot close our eyes to this. After all, this is the first sign of disrespect. Is it possible to forgive that you are not respected? And most importantly: what does it ultimately lead to?

"I would like your problems ... .." Have you ever heard something like this addressed to you? If you hear this all the time, run, run away from this person and this relationship! It is impossible to forgive such ignorance and neglect in your address.

The story about the fact that he (she) has parents / friends in the first place and God everything else is not the best story. If you constantly feel like the number "six", then the buzz is not enough. You have never been this person's priority.... Is it worth investing further in this relationship?

If he (she), having abused your trust, all the time pokes your nose into your past. For example, you were frank, and you said something about yourself that should have been left behind the scenes. But just a little time passed, and they began to reproach you for your own past. It shouldn't be forgiven.