In this article I will tell you how to become interesting for a girl. I am sure that you also constantly see such examples, when some guy, in a company, or just, comes up to the girls and easily and naturally communicates with them, so that they laugh, smile and ask him a bunch of counter. And I must say that questions from her side are the first sign that the girl is interested in you. For some reason, he is interesting for girls, but you are not. Okay, but I'll ask you a question - How do you understand why you decided that you are not interesting to girls? You probably often approached them and they kicked you off?

How many times have you approached unfamiliar girls in the past month? - answer yourself. I bet you counted no more than 2, or even none at all. Maybe you are certainly a more advanced guy in this regard and there were about ten of them, but that is still not enough.

Then where did you get the idea that you are not interesting to the opposite sex? What are the statistics? If you only approach them when you're drunk in the club. In general, you are already initially interesting to all women, because you are a man, you are a male! People, especially men, often tend to be too critical and biased towards themselves, that is, the guys themselves invent and wind up all sorts of "Disadvantages".

By the way, on this topic, I have some excellent training videos on my YouTube channel, which you can watch right now by clicking right here ... In these videos, I cover this topic in more detail. I don't really like to write on the blog, I'm still a lazy person, it's easier for me to speak on camera;). So, I’m better off than reading.

So how to be interesting for a girl

In general, the desire to please and the desire to be interesting is both good and bad. It's good that this desire makes you develop, become better in all respects, but it's not very good that all, absolutely all men communicate with women from the position of “From the bottom”, that is, they think - How would I like her, and not about - Do I like her, that there is something in HER that I like. Trust me, as soon as you learn to turn this vector in the other direction, and mentally ask yourself if you like it, then it will become much easier and easier for you. We teach this in our trainings, and after you go through them, you will be just as easy and free.

You need to develop in yourself all the qualities of a man from the top of the social pyramid. Girls, especially the best ones, need the best men. Your task is to become this man, or at least constantly strive there. Develop these qualities:

You must be a man who has many different hobbies, besides work, you must be a man who has, there is always something to tell a girl, for this you need to read interesting books, go to trainings (To develop), travel to different countries, and so on ... This requires opportunities, including financial ones, so you will inevitably face the need to make more money.

To please women and answer the question of how to become an interesting person for others, you need to develop. There is no magic pill, this is quite a serious and big work on yourself!

To be interesting for girls, you do not need to be a bore, you need not be afraid to tell them everything you think, you need to constantly change behavior patterns, be unpredictable for her. Now you are rude and tough with her, then you are gentle and affectionate with her. Even when you just sit with her and tell some stories, then the so-called Swing in emotions is necessary, that is, you tell her something funny, then serious, then sad, then funny or scary. In no case should you instead try to seem like a good boy to her, allow yourself to be bad, with your inadequacies.

In this article, we talked to you about how to be an interesting person for women. Everything is really only in your hands, there are no magic pills in this area, so only work on yourself, purposeful and systematic, will help you!

How often do we dream of being liked by everyone? And how much needs to be done for this! You need to be funny, interesting, charismatic, a good listener. The list goes on and on. But here's something worth noticing. Absolutely every person cannot be liked. This is simply impossible, and in ours we have already said why.

But if it is impossible to please everyone and everyone, then it is still possible to be a person with whom it is simply interesting to communicate. This is also not easy and requires many qualities, but at least it is real. And for this you need to follow a few rules.

Don't be boring

It is very difficult for us to understand that we are boring in this moment time, because each of us considers himself the best in everything. Do you tell an interesting story and see people yawning? Perhaps this story is not as interesting as it seems. Try to complete it and let other people speak.

The most charismatic people are always good listeners.

People love to talk about themselves to loved ones, which is why there is always a shortage of good listeners. Let the other person tell you about themselves. Ask him counter questions. Strangely, the people we like the most always say little.

Discuss the interests of the interlocutor

This problem is very well covered in the book by Dale Carnegie, a review of which you can find. Find out from the interlocutor about his hobbies, ask questions. And discuss them. You are already 80% close to being liked. If you are well versed in the interlocutor's hobbies, then you can easily keep the conversation going. If not, then ask him more details. He will tell you with great pleasure.

Rule of 3 stories

People aren't interested in the features of your new phone. What really turns them on are the real stories that happened to you. Dramas and reality shows have become popular for a reason. Therefore, always have 3 interesting stories to tell about. These stories should be engaging, emotional, and engaging. People should be wondering what will happen in the next minute?

Charisma

There is so much meaning in this word that it becomes difficult to understand what it really means. Someone says that they are born with charisma, while others believe that this skill is developed over the years. But here's what's interesting:

A 1967 study by two psychologists found that only 7% of a conversation is focused on words. The rest of the attention is paid to speech tone and body language.

Laugh. Smile. Be emotional. Don't forget about gestures and don't rely on words alone.

Chat with interesting people, read interesting books. The people you spend time with have a huge impact on your character, whether you like it or not. The most correct way to get interesting is to live an interesting life. And believe me, this will give you much more than a simple opportunity to be an interesting conversationalist.

How to learn to be an interesting conversationalist for a girl

If you once tried to impress a girl with your ability to communicate, but saw the absence of any desire at all to maintain a conversation, then this is a clear sign that you need to learn to communicate with the opposite sex.

How can you become an interesting conversationalist for a girl? How do you stand out from her other fans who talk to her about the same topics as you?

The answer to this question is already included in the question itself and lies on the surface. Oddly enough, in order for her to be interested with you, you need to communicate differently from the majority. For if you do it in the same way as everyone else, then there will be nothing interesting here. And try to evoke emotions not with some super interesting topics, but with the very style of communication.

At first!

Challenge!

Girls are fed up with guys who are trying to please them, beliefs and, as they say, "look in the mouth." These guys are trying so hard to impress with their topics of conversation that it becomes immediately clear to her that any of them are already at her feet.

On the other hand, there are guys who understand that you can't immediately inflate the value of a girlif she hasn't proven herself worthy of it yet. Men of this type actively value women. And they know how to challenge them.

Therefore, one of the main tips: challenge her!

She must understand that her beauty does not seduce you, and that your trust, respect, interest and time must be earned.

But how to do that? Of course, you won't tell her directly that she should deserve your interest. Since she will most likely just send you.

But talking provocatively is a very real task (although it may seem difficult to you if you are used to always adjusting to girls).

For example, instead of saying that you also like Dima Bilan, say that you do not love him. Better yet, come up with a joke on this topic. Instead of "assenting" to her reflections on life, challenge them. Add something new.

The main thing is to do all this very confidently, and by no means making excuses.

You should not be afraid to express your point of view, even if it differs from her views..

How else can you challenge?

Ask provocative questions like: “ And if he kisses me on the cheek, will you be jealous?". Or more in detail: " Imagine that my old friend came up to me, we exchanged a couple of phrases, and then she kissed me goodbye on the cheek. Would you be jealous?". Another example: " If I were your boyfriend, and your girlfriend began to pester me, who would you kill first: me or your girlfriend?».

Why does “challenge” work?

Because it’s very fun and emotional.

Light topics only!

How to become an interesting conversationalist for a girl?

You need to communicate with her only on light topics!

No need to delve into complex topics, philosophically discuss relationships or the complexities of life. Don't argue about beliefs (especially personal and deep ones).

Even a topic like childhood or dreams can cause negativity or make her bored. Therefore, you need to be able to talk about this in a positive way. And be able to immediately switch if the situation requires it.

Give her more lightness. More conversations on ordinary topics, more flirting, jokes and just fun - then she will get the necessary emotions. This will already distinguish you favorably against the background of her other fans, who are talking about relationships with a clever air.

Well, and, of course, you should not ask too "deep" questions about life. Be more simple!

Your store of stories

This is what you must have.

Remember a few stories from your life, as well as from the lives of other people. In total, you should have 5-10 mini-stories that would make the girls feel good.

How to do it?

In the stories themselves, it is important to describe everything in detail, use vivid comparisons and convey the emotions that other people experienced.

Perhaps emotions are what these stories are told for, so try to make your stories so that you yourself smile more from them than she does.

And don’t think it’s hard to tell stories by heart. You just need to learn and try to tell each of them at least 3 times. Then you will do it "automatically".

No problem!

Although I have already said that to speak on "difficult" topics, special attention should be paid to the issue of problems.

During a conversation with a girl, you can (without even knowing it) delve into thinking about any problem. She may begin to complain to you about something (and, in a completely harmless form - as if, just discussing the topic). But then it can develop into frank complaints on her part (and assenting on your part). And, most interestingly, even though you support this conversation, she will partially lose interest in you (after all, you allowed her to pour out all her problems on you).

As a rule, in such situations it is better to just develop the topic a little, but when you feel the beginning of her complaints, you need to joke or just change the topic. Don't be afraid to sound rude - on the contrary so you will make her respect you more and try to choose normal topics for communication.

Therefore, the next time you communicate with her, never delve into her problems, and even more so, do not try to advise her something.

Confidence and independence from her reaction

If you watch an insecure guy, you can see how he sets the topic. Any question or the beginning of a conversation - and he immediately has a barely noticeable fear. This is the fear that the girl may not like the question or topic of communication. And when he is convinced that the beauty took this topic "with a bang", his reaction also changes dramatically. He himself begins to maintain a more lively conversation.

She understands that at first he was afraid to ask her anything or was generally afraid to ask a new topic. From his reaction, one could understand how he peered into her eyes, as if fearing that she would not approve of the new topic.

Oddly enough, there is a fairly simple solution to this problem. You just need to stop attaching great importance to her words.

You should keep the conversation relaxed, confidently asking the topic / questions, and not overreacting to what she says. Even if you disagree with her point of view, don't show surprise.... The logic here is simple: if your reaction and mood depend on her words, then you are easy to control. So you are NOT a sexually attractive man.

Finally, there are only two ways. First: you live so interestingly that you always have something to talk to her about. Second: all day long and do what to train to properly communicate with the opposite sex. And, as you understand, the first path is much more pleasant and useful for your development.

Be yourself an unusual person do not be afraid to express your point of view and do not be afraid to talk about topics that are important to you... Once you stop being afraid to “be yourself” in conversation, the problem of awkward pauses will disappear forever.

Comments (5) on “How to Become an Interesting Interlocutor for a Girl”

Maybe it will be a little off topic, but I will share my thoughts on seduction, courting girls, and so on. Here I read your articles, watch various videos, where you teach people to get to know each other correctly, to be interesting, and so on ... And you all say that most guys do not communicate correctly or behave like that; that girls need strong and sexy, that they want to be led and obey a man, as this is their nature.
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In general and in general, I agree with this that the nature of the female sex is such that they want to see a strong partner in front of them.
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BUT ... Why do we men need to correspond to this, why do we cave in to this feminine nature, why do we need to increase our sex capabilities and subjugate a woman, to be the first, the best, the most for her, that is, to correspond to her ideals, isn't this sycophant? So there is still a woman controls male behavior through her sexual preferences ?!
And where is male leadership asked? When these SUCHES have ass and lust instead of brains and souls!
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And now I'll tell you why most guys do not behave by nature, that is, they do not show libido qualities, do not behave like orangutans, do not show sex signs, do not want to be lustful and certainly be leaders and number one to drag a woman into bed and enjoy her flesh.
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The thing is that a man is a spiritualized being, striving to get closer to God, not wanting stupid extramarital sex, a lot of contacts, licentiousness. He who has a direct connection with the divine channel, he feels it with his conscience, it is she who stops him from immoral behavior with the opposite sex and in general from any evil spirits, preserving purity and love, an eternal soul. A man is the beginning of Light (this is love, God and angels), a woman is Darkness (demons, the devil controls her).
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Egor, I appeal to you, why should we destroy what was created by God and turn into monkey-podomny creatures living according to the flesh? Maybe it is worth contemplating the Divine, being on the side of light forces, on the side of goodness, love, soul, God ?! You don't think this is more correct, leading to contemplation rather than destruction. You know how the world has degraded since recent timeswhy go with the flow and keep up with the current trend ?!
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Egor, understand that the forces of EVIL rule the worlds, the devil implants sex in us, and he is the creator of the sexual revolution. You simply correspond to his intentions, thereby pulling eternal souls to HELL. So - how even Adultery is a sin! Have you read the Bible at least a little?
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Maybe my speech won't convince you. I advise you to watch the films of Galina Tsareva, especially - "on the other side of earthly life - 2". Souls after death go to hell in millions, and a lot because of the sin of adultery.
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My speech was somewhat emotional, broke out, fasting now and it is difficult to resist sin in such a Godless world.
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Globally, nothing has changed in heaven, everyone also goes through ordeals after death, but on earth they constantly change their thinking and lead people to hell.
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God - our creator for another created us, for eternal and righteous life. I am not inventing anything, if you plunge into a topic that is possibly new to you, you will be convinced of this yourself.

Hello Egor! I read several of your articles, I seem to have already made certain conclusions on seducing a girl, but the only problem is that with a girl I really like, I started to communicate wrong from the very beginning and managed to move her away from me in a month, well, if I now change and become just myself, it is possible that I will not only be able to regain my previous opinion of myself, but also just become myself and I think I could do it, but the fact is that we are at a decent distance from each other, and I can't invite her for a walk, but I can only correspond with her via VK, I don't even have her phone number, the trouble is that I was able to bring to the point that now, as it seems to me, she just sometimes supports with I had a conversation, only because we became friends with her, and she knows that I like it a lot and therefore does not want to upset me by answering that she is busy, yes, she is really busy now, but in the evening she usually talked to me hunting and even I apologized that I could not answer earlier, but now until you write some provocative message, hell will answer. Egor, tell me, if it's not difficult, what to do in such a situation?

If you like interesting facts and articles about, then the question is, how to become an interesting conversationalist most likely appeared in your head more than once. We offer a brief analysis of this topic.

Almost everyone has the ability to chat, but the ability to be a good listener is not given to everyone. It is believed that listening is a great art. After all, listening without interrupting the interlocutor, and then starting some kind of speech is not an easy task.

With such people you want to communicate over and over again, share your thoughts and, in general, have a good time.

Undoubtedly, you have heard such phrases of surprised men: "I listened to her in silence for two hours, and she said that I was the most interesting interlocutor of those whom she met." Think about it.

Two types of interlocutors

1. Chatterboxes. Obsessive talkativeness incessantly will not lead to the desired effect or positive impression on your interlocutor. There is not a single person who would only agree to listen. People need to tell their own stories. And given the fact that talkers never change roles, and always strive to be in the spotlight, they are naturally disliked. Such comrades will never become interesting interlocutors.
2. Silent people. Silence when someone speaks is, of course, a noble occupation. But excessive silence and a rare nod of the head, instead of an active and interesting dialogue, is not at all considered an ability to listen! It is also impossible to achieve the desired effect from this position. It is unlikely that they will want to re-communicate with you if you are silent all the time. In various articles on personal growth, you can find such a thing as "Active listening". So you have to understand that it is precisely "active", and not squeezed-gloomy.

By the way, you can check out the most famous ones.

How to be an interesting conversationalist?

The first step is to make a decision about who you want to be in society. You can take an example from a person with whom it is pleasant to communicate in reality. Copy his facial expressions, gestures and some phrases that you like. You also need to change your behavior: if you really change, then only for the better.

An interesting fact is that we, in fact, always copy someone. It is no coincidence that one wise man said: “ Everyone comes to this world as originals, and leaves as copies.". From childhood, we imitate and imitate the people around us. So isn't it better to use this natural mechanism deliberately?

Active listening

It is necessary to conduct dialogue by looking into the eyes. Foreign objects, such as a phone or other gadgets, distract attention and leave a bad impression of you as an interlocutor.

It is necessary to create an atmosphere in which the interlocutor will feel interested in his story. It will not be superfluous to use not a large number of words during the story to convince the interlocutor that he is being listened to.

Ask clarifying questions, but without going into unnecessary details. It is important not to overdo it, so that active listening did not turn into an interruption.

After the story, it is worth maintaining a certain pause, lasting no more than three seconds. This is so that the narrator can add a few more words. Then there will be no awkward situations.

An important factor that must always be considered is to monitor your actions. While the interlocutor is telling another story, a thought may arise in my head: what to talk about next.

To avoid such situations, carefully and actively listen to the story of the interlocutor, and then you will not have to come up with a topic for conversation, since you can organically cling to a fragment from the story and talk about it for a long time.

And most importantly, you need to think before you say something.

It is also pertinent to emphasize that you should never belittle or belittle the dignity of a story or an incident in life that is narrated by your counterpart. An interesting interlocutor will never say the phrase: "That, that's nothing, but I had a case ...".

I must say that respect is not manifested in any specific actions or gestures. It is felt on a subconscious level.

Talk about him

Surely you are familiar with an interesting aphorism: “ Start talking to the person about him and he will listen to you for hours.". Pay attention to this extraordinary moment.

We are all selfish by nature. Most people eagerly listen to the storyteller only to then begin their own story. If you want to be known as a good interlocutor, actively listen and highlight the merits of your comrade more.

Anyone can be an interesting conversationalist

So, in order to become an interesting interlocutor, always try to mentally respect the speaker and carefully, actively listen to him. Perhaps this is the great skill that distinguishes worthy people from idle talkers or, on the contrary, notorious silent talkers.

It's called How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

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In relationships with girls, eloquence has always played a significant role. Sometimes relationships were created or, conversely, destroyed due to a person's ability to communicate. Communication is important not only with the opposite sex, but also with other people, especially when you want to make contacts with them or acquire joint work. Male site site will bring 10 rules that will help you establish contacts and become an interesting conversationalist.

Have you ever had such a thing that you communicate with a person, but he causes you some discomfort? It seems that he is outwardly attractive, does not say bad words, but something in him repels. You naturally want to stop communicating with him as soon as possible.

However, there are people who do not possess bright beauty and great knowledge, but it is so easy and fun to communicate with them that you do not want to end the meeting. It seems that the person is not your type. It seems that he does not say some truths and hidden information. However, it is so pleasant to communicate with him that you do not want to come off.

With every century, the ability of a person to communicate well with people around him becomes the main priority and step towards. Many talk about the need to be well connected to be successful. However, to have these good connections, you need to be able to be a pleasant and interesting conversationalist. And this is an axiom both in the field of work, business, and in love.

How to win over the interlocutor?

Tell the person: "I understand you!" - and he will want to continue to communicate with you and continue. Many people ask themselves the question: "How to win over the interlocutor?" Nothing is easier than just letting him be right even when you disagree with him. Everyone considers their opinion to be the only correct one. Your opinion may be as wrong as the thoughts of the other person. Why argue about who is right and wrong? You can just let everyone be right to start with! By doing this, you will win over anyone, because everyone wants to be right.

People don't need much. Give them insight. When a person is understood, they do not try to contradict and convince, then he relaxes and is imbued with gratitude to the interlocutor. You don't have to accept someone else's point of view. If you think differently, then you have the right to stay with your opinion, if it seems more correct to you. If the interlocutor speaks reasonable words, you can adjust your opinion. But be that as it may, whatever you do with your point of view, tell the interlocutor: "I understand you!"

To understand is not to agree. To understand is to accept the right to exist of someone else's opinion, no matter how erroneous and wrong it may be. When the person feels that you “accept” him, then he will relax. He may even want to hear your thoughts and ask about them. Perhaps he will continue to speculate on the topic of the conversation you are having and come to a broader understanding of the issue. Give understanding to the other person. This will allow not only to endear the interlocutor to himself, but also to calm him down, prompting him to look at the question more broadly.

Often people do not understand each other, or rather, do not want to accept other people's points of view, because they have their own opinion, which they consider more correct. But the dispute begins where the interlocutors begin to fight for whose opinion is the most correct, doesn't it? Why start a fight when you can avoid it? Accept the right to the existence of someone else's opinion, tell the interlocutor about this, even if your thoughts do not change from this. It is not necessary to fight for the correctness of someone's point of view. You can just listen to what the other person thinks and draw your own conclusions. You don't always need to convince someone. The other person has the right to be delusional. Life will put him in his place if he is really wrong. You can be wrong, just like your interlocutor. And no one, except life itself, will convince you of this. That is why many people, arguing their opinion, often give examples from life.

Tell your partner: "I understand you!" You will not only become his friend, but also not provoke a quarrel, allow the other person to calm down, not fight with you, and also look at the situation more broadly, even listen to your ideas and not resist them. You see how many pluses there are in one expression, where you accept the right to exist of someone else's opinion, no matter how it contradicts yours?

10 rules for an interesting conversationalist

So, you want to be an interesting, attractive, and good conversationalist. Here you need to show not only understanding, but also show communication skills that create ease of communication. Consider 10 rules that will make you an interesting conversationalist:

1. Tell interesting stories. Sometimes there is an awkward silence between the interlocutors. Do they have nothing to tell? In fact, they just don't know what to say to them. However, funny, interesting or exciting events happen in every person's life. It is about them that you can remember, tell with a smile on your face, have fun and laugh together. The main aspect is that the story must be positive. There is no need to talk about your problems or tragedies. Tell funny, positive, interesting, or informative stories.
2. You're kidding. Humor has always been considered one of the attributes of a good conversationalist. Here you can use anecdotes, funny stories, even compose jokes yourself. Allow yourself to laugh a little - draw the interlocutor's attention to what makes you laugh. There is an important nuance here - if the interlocutor does not know how to laugh at himself (his shortcomings), then there is no need to joke about him.
3. Compliment. A compliment is a positive assessment of another person. Who hates to hear nice things about themselves? Even shy people are pleased to hear that others see them from a positive side. No need to throw compliments on your interlocutor. You can say 2-3 compliments all the time. However, it will be much more pleasant than you say nothing at all. One caveat - really notice what is in a person, no need to flatter.
4. Listen and talk. In communication, a person either listens or speaks. A good conversationalist can do both. Bad interlocutors go to extremes: either they listen and are silent all the time, or they constantly talk, not allowing other people to say a word. You need to be able to both shut up in order to allow the interlocutor to speak out, and to tell something when the interlocutor now wants to listen to your opinion.
5. Make eye contact. Confident people do not hide their eyes, but constantly maintain contact with their interlocutors. They look straight into the eyes. Of course, they sometimes look at them. However, they do not hide themselves and do not make their interlocutors shy.
6. Don't interrupt. This quality should be developed by many, since quite often people interrupt each other. Before the interlocutor had time to say everything he wanted, he was immediately interrupted. You can interrupt once or twice, but if this happens all the time, then the interlocutor loses interest in you. He begins to think that you do not want to listen to him, which means that you do not respect and do not reckon with his opinion.
7. Don't ask a lot of questions. The conversation, of course, consists of questions and answers. However, it shouldn't look like the other person is being interviewed. You ask a question, the person answers you, and it is desirable that his answer be open, covering various topics. For your part, you can supplement his answer, agree, refute, or tell a story that relates to your topic. Questions don't always have to come from you. Let the interlocutor also be interested in you, and you give as detailed answers as possible.
8. Don't criticize. If you want to ruin the other person's mood, start criticizing him. But will he consider you an interesting interlocutor if he feels guilty, pathetic, worthless after your words? Criticism is needed only on the case. It should be short and concise. However, you should not focus on it. Have criticized - and that's enough, move on to another topic.
9. Do not boast. This quality is rare, but still occurs. Boasting makes a person pitiful, and makes the interlocutor get rid of the imposed sense of worthlessness. While you are boasting, you are proving to the other person that you are better than him. There is no need to rise at the expense of others. You can tell about your achievements that you are proud of. However, do not forget at the same time to ask what your interlocutor is proud of - listen to his boasting!
10. Expand your social circle. The more people you communicate with, the more communication skills you will have. Different people require a different approach to themselves. And this requires you to be flexible and understand your interlocutor, how you need to communicate with him and behave. If you know how to be different in communication, then you become interesting.

Laughter disposes the interlocutor

Do you want to become a part of the company? Do you want to make friends with someone? Do you intend to win over your loved one? Create a situation where your partner laughs heartily. It doesn't matter what exactly you do or what you laugh about. What is important is a surge of positive emotions that encourage a person to open up in front of those who made fun of him or were just around.

There have been studies that have given the same result. People in high spirits were more inclined to reveal their secrets, to become sociable and good-natured towards those who were around. Laughter brings people closer together - it's been proven by research.

How is this phenomenon explained? You can consider in the mechanism such a moment as the elimination of the reasons for isolation. A person in a depressed state or when immersed in despondency often closes. He trusts those who surround him at this moment. He does not know what can be said to him, and what is better to be silent. Thus, contact with others is broken due to the fact that a person becomes withdrawn.

In the moment of laughter, the grievances that upset you are forgotten. Negative thoughts are no longer scrolling in my head, but something funny and positive arises. The brain relaxes, the person himself lets go of the negative, which gives rise to a feeling of stability and calmness. When he does not see any threats to himself, he becomes open and benevolent. The most effective way to achieve this state is to make the person you want laugh.

At the moment of a comedic situation, people get closer and become open. They remove their barriers, which they used to protect themselves from the cruel world. Thus, if you want to make friends or attract the attention of the right partner, learn to make him laugh, amuse and delight him. This will give him a sense of comfort.

How do you eventually become an interesting conversationalist?

The best way to learn how to communicate well with people is to be in constant contact with them. Communicate with as many people as possible. Track what mood you make them, what words and phrases evoke positive or negative emotions in them. Train, change your communication style, adjust your skills depending on the result, and then you will become interesting.