Hangs on the chest at 4 months. The feeling that the baby's breast is not only for food. Leaning to one side is always bad
The behavior of the baby often causes inconvenience to the mother: the child requires constant attention, the mother gets tired and nervous. And with breastfeeding, a situation often arises when the child hangs on the chest for hours day and night, not letting go of mom, not giving her a rest. Why is this happening and what to do in this situation?
Why won't the baby let go of the breast?
The periods when the child hangs on the chest occur in two or three month old and nine month old children, and even in children over a year old. The reasons for this behavior are different and depend on age.
A newborn baby, up to 1 month old, needs frequent and continuous breastfeeding. Usually at this time, children are constantly at the breast, but mothers regard this as a natural behavior of the child, getting used to a new stage of development. The baby fully satisfies the sucking reflex. Moms still do not feel tired, they themselves do not yet strive to leave the child, do not complain that he is constantly hanging on the chest.
Time passes, and the feeding rhythm is gradually improving, mother and baby adjust to each other, mother learns to have time to do her business in between feedings. And suddenly - like a bolt from the blue - at the age of about 3 months, the child begins to demand breast more often, does not release it after he has eaten, in case of mother's refusal, he is naughty, screams. Mom is in a panic: what to do?
"Experienced" grandmothers admonish: "It is he who shows character, do not spoil him, do not give a breast." Nervous dads echo their grandmothers: “Is he in charge here? Let him lie in bed, there is nothing to indulge his whims. "Girlfriends advise:" Yes, give him a pacifier, cry and calm down, I also had it. "
Respectfully listening to these opinions, confident mothers still follow their own idea of raising crumbs. And here the main thing is to understand why the child does not let go of the breast? The fact is that at the age of 3 months the first lactation crisis occurs. For many women, it goes unnoticed. And for some, the amount of milk decreases slightly. The child grows intensively during this period, he needs more and more milk every day. And his chest is less and less. Feeling this, the child instinctively tries to solve the problem in the only way available to him - more frequent attachments to the breast. In this case, the child is wiser than the mother, he does not listen to anyone, he does what nature taught him in the process of evolution: if you suckle the breast - there will be food - you will live.
The best way out for a mother is to listen to the child, give him what he asks for. A calm, confident mother knows that the period of "hanging" on the breast is a temporary phenomenon, and if you do not get nervous and blame yourself and the baby for what is happening, then this period will quickly and safely end, and you will again return to your usual feeding rhythm.
If you try to “educate” a three-month-old child, show him who is in charge here, admonish him with meaningless notations like “well, you just ate,” then you can get into a vicious circle:
The child asks for the breast - the mother does not give - the child is nervous and asks for the breast to calm down - the mother does not give, thinking that he is capricious - the child screams and cries in panic, asks for the breast - the mother, unable to bear it, gives up and gives the breast - the child, having finally received breast, sucks it for a long time and does not let go - the mother pulls out the breast - the child is nervous again, afraid that he will not be given breast again - the mother is irritated with the child, scolds him, does not give the breast, punishing him - the child does not understand what is happening, wants only one thing, to suck on the breast and so that everything was as before - the mother wants only one thing: to rest and sleep - everyone is crying.
Often the way to break this vicious circle is to switch to artificial feeding, it is at 3 months that many mothers stop breastfeeding: the baby begins to hang on the breast, the mother thinks that he is not eating enough, and gives him a mixture. Everything.
How to break out of the vicious circle?
A more correct way out of the vicious circle is simple: you need to submit to the child's wishes, pushing your pedagogical aspirations to a later period. Just let your baby hang on your chest for as long as he needs. Not getting enough sleep? Organize. Don't have time to do your household chores? Buy a sling sling, adapt to it, learn to do household chores without leaving your child. Are you tired? Relax with your child. Everything has a solution, you just need to want to keep breastfeeding! Remember, this is not permanent, the periods of hanging on the chest usually go away quickly.
Thus, before the age of 1 year, periods of hanging on the chest are associated with lactation crises. The older the child, the shorter these periods, and they may already be associated with some external problems not related to the amount of milk: for example, teething causes some discomfort in the child's mouth, and he tries to smooth it out with frequent sucking. Colds, a child's ailments can also provoke long hovering on the chest. But this makes it easier for the child, you can relieve his pain simply by giving him the breast at an inopportune time when he asks.
If the child is older than a year, does not get sick and does not actively cut teeth, but at the same time he begins to constantly demand the breast (already eating regular food in normal quantities) - this may be due to the onset of weaning. Often mothers of one-year-old children begin to think that it is time to part with their breasts. They talk a lot about this, hint to the child that he is "already big", try to limit sucking. The child expresses his disagreement, unwillingness to part with the breast precisely by frequent attachments to it. Seeing the mother, the child is distracted from a very interesting toy and runs up to suck on the breast, and then again runs away to play. This is how the child seeks confirmation that the breast that is valuable to him belongs to him. The child needs this feeling to gain confidence, control over the world, and trust in the environment. If you feel that the child is over a year old, that he is not yet ready to part with her. It is worth continuing breastfeeding if possible, wait until the end of this period and a more favorable situation for. It is already possible to negotiate with children over a year old, you can calm and encourage them with the help of attachment to the breast, you can sometimes refuse attachment for a short time, demonstrating frustration and resentment if the child exhibits unwanted behavior. However, attachments cannot be manipulated, this is dishonest in relation to the child - after all, the breast for him is still associated with unconditional maternal love. “If you don’t eat porridge, you won’t get a title” - this phrase is understood by a child as follows: “if you don’t eat porridge, then I will stop loving you” - you will agree, you didn’t mean that?
So, if the child is hanging on the chest - realize the reasons and tune in to calmly overcome this period, allow the child to be with you as much as he needs. Thus, you will strengthen mutual trust and will be able to quickly and painlessly get through this period.
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Elena, hello! Help me please. Daughters 1.5 months About 3 weeks ago, she began to hang on her chest. During the day, he practically does not sleep, a maximum of an hour and that is rare. Sucks the breast for 1.5-2 hours. She slumbers only with her in her mouth, sucking. You take your chest and starts crying heart-rendingly. No one can calm down often, 10-12 times for sure. And n
Elena, hello. We have such a problem. The child is 10 days old, from the first day there were problems with feeding. The nipples are flat, it's hard for my daughter to grip. I tried to feed with a pad, then after a guards consultant I began to give breasts without a pad. But it became very painful to feed, straight to tears. And the daughter has been asking for breasts for 2 days, she refuses to take the breastplate, gets angry, cries constantly. You have to supplement with the mixture. What to do? I'm afraid that he will completely give up the breast. I'm desperate.
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Elena, thanks for the answer. It seems to me that expressed milk is not enough. At a time, somewhere around 30-40 ml is obtained in total. Pain during feeding, she began to smear Purelan, really needs to be endured.
About getting angry, I meant that the first time I can't grab the chest, because the nipples are flat, and after several unsuccessful attempts, she begins to cry a lot, turn away and then I can’t apply her at all.Good evening, please tell me, the child is 2 years old, at night she began to constantly hang on her chest, with what this may be connected, I do not plan to excommunicate yet, but the lack of sleep has begun to strain!
Hello! Child 1.5 months The problem is that the baby often hangs on the breast and uses the breast not for food, but for comfort. When milk arrives in the process of sucking, the breast lets go, gets angry, as if not hungry at all. At night, sleepy sucks the breast well, I hear how he swallows. During the day, near the breast when he eats, he behaves strangely, bends over, cries, gets nervous, especially when milk arrives.
I tried to give expressed milk from a bottle - she drinks very little 50 grams no more.
I have enough milk, there are many hot flashes.
What to do, why can a child behave this way?
From such behavior, lactation may decrease and you will have to transfer to IV later. That I would not like.
Please advise what to do, how to set up GW ???Hello! The baby is three months and a week and a half. For the last four days I have been observing a change in behavior. If earlier we tried to withstand two hours between feedings and three times at night (we have a joint sleep from birth), now she eats every hour, even though check the clock and sleep between feedings. She walks a little, I can't stand the street, she falls asleep under her chest, sleeps for forty minutes, provided that I don't go away, her chest wakes up and again, she cries straight if I hesitated. Didn't notice that there was less milk, really a lactation crisis? Or is it something else?
Good night, my baby is 1.5 months old. He also hangs on his chest every half an hour after spitting up and again asks for a breast, such a cycle, but at night every two hours, but the fact is that we were told that he had an advantage, I don’t know what to do, I wanted to teach him to endure at least an hour, he does not want to cry ! And colic is also tormenting ..
Hello Elena!) Such a situation ... My baby is almost 11 months old. What worries me is that even in daytime dreams, if they are not on the street, but at home, I have to lie next to him, he either sleeps with a tit in his mouth, and even if it falls off, then in 30-40 minutes he will start looking for her ... the child had a full sleep in 1.5 hours, I have to lie next to ... And what about the house? Yes, I would have had time to redo everything during this time! But for all 11 months I’m afraid to move away from him, I’m afraid that he will wake up ... And a child who has not slept enough is a whim. At night I don’t understand how much he sucks there ... Everyone is in some kind of half-sleep ... But at this age he should generally sleep at night without waking up, and I have a feeling that he sucks half the night. Please give me some advice! Maybe it's my own fault? Didn't you have to shove a tit to a child with every cough?
Oh, that's a great question for Olga. We have the same thing at five months now. Only my son wakes up five minutes after I leave. I always thought that it was his need to be with his mother and did not see the problem. Once I mentioned this in a conversation with a friend, a mother of three children. She started a conversation about rickets. That, coupled with a worn back of the head (my son had it), a bad dream testifies to its presence. I myself have read a lot about the fact that sweaty legs and a bald spot on the back of the head are not a sign of rickets. We have been giving our son one drop of aquadetrim for a long time, but not every day. So the pediatrician recommended, she did not even want to prescribe at first. So a friend is talking about 9 (!) Drops.
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Hello. And I have a similar problem. The child is already 13.5 months old. During the day, he sleeps only if I am lying next to him, and at night too, but at the same time he constantly hangs on his chest. I can't even drink water, I wake up right away, start crying, begging for a breast. I used to think that this is due to the fact that he does not gorge himself during the day, since he eats almost nothing except 100 grams of cottage cheese for breakfast, and 50-150 grams of vegetables - meat for lunch, and 100 ml of kefir as an afternoon snack, the rest of the time - breast milk. We rescheduled lunch in the evening - before bathing, so that the well-fed would go to bed - it's useless, nothing has changed. Everything is also restlessly sleeping and hanging on the chest. What can it be and what to do?
Good day! I am sorry for your help. My son is three months old, in the maternity hospital he was fed with formula, when there was no milk yet, it took us a day. Then the son sucked the breast, there was enough milk. I slept until a month and ate in 2-3 hours. Everything was fine. But then the son began to hang on his chest. At first there were colic and the son fell asleep only on the balcony in the cool air. It's summer now, we go out into the street and after 5 minutes hysteria begins, does not sleep, demands a breast. So we sit on a bench in the yard with our breasts. Sleep for 2-3 hours at night, wake up to eat, sleep together. And in the afternoon some kind of nightmare, constantly on my chest, sleep 15 minutes, I get up, he wakes up. It doesn't look like a crisis, there is milk. He doesn't take a pacifier either, even on the street. How to be? I tried to give a mixture of nan, 60 ml, I ate everything and ate my chest for another hour and did not fall asleep ...
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Hello! Tell me, please, the child is 3 weeks old, he constantly hangs on his chest during the day. He sleeps, sucking on the breast, and in the evening he starts screaming, you can't calm down. I tried to give breast plus mixture at night, and he slept for 3-4 hours, then only the breast every 3 hours, and during the day again constantly on the chest.
I myself constantly drink tea with milk, I drink lactafitol, I sleep with a child, but milk, it seems to me, does not increase in volume. .I'm desperate, advise what to do.Good day! My daughter is 1.2 years old. Complementary feeding began late, from 7 months. From about the same time, even a little earlier, the night hovering on the chest began. The situation was getting better and worse. But she never returned to normal. Recently, my daughter has been sleeping very badly. Falls asleep at about 22.00, then wakes up to suckle at the breast at about 24.00, then about 01.00, and then every hour and even more often. This can continue until 04.00 in the morning or even until 05.30. At the same time, he whimpers until I give a breast. Doesn't want to hold it if I take it. Only lying down. Not so much sucking intensely, but simply, like sucking a nipple lightly. I don't get enough sleep chronically. I can sleep and feed well. But! She throws her breasts, and then soon wakes up and whimpering, wants her breasts again. I tried to give water. Doesn't want to drink. We can't have milk. Allergy still torments me. Teeth, of course, can be disturbing, but there are only four of them so far. So they can climb for a very long time. We both don't sleep well. I think this is wrong. I would be patient if I understood that my daughter is good. But for her, apparently, it is also difficult. Please help me. Thank you
Hello, I have a question for you. My son is 2m 3 weeks old during the day without a breast at all, if I fall asleep, I just take the breast, he immediately wakes up and starts looking. it happens that he spits it out and searches again. and at night it wakes up only 2 times! there is nothing to do around the house there is not enough time for yourself! How to be I do not understand at all!
Elena good time of the day. My name is Galina. I have the same problem as many people have - my baby hangs on my chest day and night ... and sleeps only with her breast and wakes up at night to suck every hour ... and my boy's weight is 10800 at 5 months. (3850 born)
My mother fed me up to 7 months, my brother up to 3 months. She says that no one hung on the chest. And, in general, there is a feeling that it was not like this before: there were no slings, women walked calmly with strollers, went to work, and now, if GW, then the child hangs and the mother is tied for years. - I don’t know why it’s so now?
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Elena, hello! If you can, give advice, please! The baby is 3 months old, weighs 6 kg, almost does not sleep during the day, hangs on his chest, and at the same time refuses to walk in a stroller, after the bath she cries terribly. One pediatrician advised to drink Pantogam, another - Tea, a neurologist - Phenibut. The mother-in-law says to switch to SV. I do not know what to do. We are also diagnosed with secondary lactase deficiency, because problems with the mixture may arise.
Elena, the drugs were prescribed after my complaints about my daughter's daytime sleep. The diaper test was done several times, it turned out 11-14 pee per day. The mother-in-law of her children transferred to SV with such complaints, so she advises me. At night, the daughter sleeps for about 8 hours and wakes up once to feed. Yes, I'm already thinking about a sling (I have problems with my back, so I still don't have it). In general, I want to keep GW, of course.
Elena, good afternoon. If you have the opportunity, please help with advice. My daughter is 4.5 months old. From birth on mixed feeding, milk was not enough. Until 4 months she slept with me more or less normally, woke up a couple of times at night and ate her chest, from 4 in the morning until 6 she hung on her chest. 2 weeks ago I moved to live in another country. The child was changed. She hangs all night on her chest, instead of a nipple she has a breast. It gets to the point that she can suck for 3-4 hours in a row. She doesn't suck like that during the day. It doesn't hang on my chest during the day, only sometimes it can when I put her to bed. I'm desperate. Is this a normal situation? Thank you very much.
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Hello! The baby is a month old, I feed it on demand, everything is fine, but in the first month they got 1400, the doctor said that it was not very good, that the norm is 600, that you should not overfeed, that the baby will have a stomach ache. I looked at my notes, the eldest daughter also scored 1300 in the first month. At the same time, the doctors themselves say to feed on demand. Many acquaintances say that in the first month children on gv are gaining far from 600, but a kilogram or more. Maybe it's worth rewriting the norms already, if we are all so for the guards on demand, what do you think?
Elena, good afternoon! Such a problem. The child is 3 months old. I am silent about the fact that he began to constantly hang on his chest (both day and night), because I realized from the previous comments that this is normal. But here's what confuses. During the day, the child does not sleep at all (maybe a little sleep if I am around). And in the last 4 days he stopped sleeping at night. He twists his head back and forth with his eyes closed, waves his arms, scratches his eyes ... cries all the time. At night I also give breast, otherwise I will not sleep at all. Is this something nervous? Doesn't lie in the wheelchair, shouts like a fool, we can't go for a walk. Is this appropriate behavior for a child of this age? I already have no strength. I do not eat and do not sleep.
Hello. The child is 4 months old. Hangs on the chest day and night. Does not take a pacifier. When you press on the nipple, milk flows well. It turns out that there is no lactation crisis? What then?
Elena, hello. I won’t ask anything new, and you probably won’t answer (I read the article and almost all the comments to it), but I’ll still tell my story and ask a question:
My son is 3.5 months old, we are on GW, probably for 5 days he eats at night and does not let out, he sleeps, he can just suck, but does not swallow (does the sucking reflex satisfy?)
Today, in fact, what prompted me to write, he was on me for more than 5 hours, he fell asleep with his breast, let it out, it will take a little time again, suck it, it stops, but it doesn’t let it out. If I let it go, I put it on the bed, immediately wakes up and cries, I take it back to me, calms down. I don’t take his chest. It's easier at night, because joint sleep. Yesterday, too, I did not let out for three hours, but at least we were on the bed and I myself was able to sleep, but today only my hands, does not want to shift, even if I lie down next to me. What's this? Lactation crisis? Teeth? Lack of milk? (This is the last thing that comes to mind, because in the plans and the desire to feed until self-exclusion). Maybe something else? Tell me pleaseHello, I have a similar problem. The baby is 2 months and a week. In the morning, he eats his breast, sleeps a little during the day. Often wakes up and plays, sometimes he whimpers asks for a breast. Somewhere from 4 pm he starts to ask for a breast even more often and from that moment on not to leave, constantly asks I don’t give, crying and so until ten in the evening. I don’t sleep all night. I don’t sleep all night. You can’t walk away either to eat or to eat. He is gaining weight badly, he refuses to eat a mixture flatly or takes a single bottle. We have tried different nipples. But we have a growth spurt by as much as 7 see what to do how to feed so that you do not ask so often? or is it a crisis?
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Elena, good afternoon. I have a situation like many mothers after a year))) Well, I can still learn something new)) my daughter is 1 year and 1 month old. From the very birth on GW, on demand, at any time, always and everywhere, I ate as much as I wanted. There was never a break of three hours from birth. There were no nipples. I would not think about excommunication, if at least at night it was calmer and it also hangs all night without stopping. During the day, very often she also comes up, pulls the shirt, sits down and eats. I tried to refuse twice and cried a lot. He eats food normally, I do not insist, but he eats and shows interest, although she introduced complementary foods very late and one can say only from a year she has become more or less interested in all food. I didn’t plan to excommunicate by force, or through her tears the situation just deteriorates day by day. There is still a child 4 years old. With two in general, you will not be very fooled. There are assistants, but still not every day. I do not consider situations when a child is left with a grandmother and excommunicated for myself. But still I worry that it will only get worse in the future, and she will demand her own and also hang. I also want to get enough sleep in a normal position. What to do, to feed to self-denial or to wait a month or two if it does not change nevertheless, but then already through screaming and stress for the child and me ?? Help
Good day! We are 7 days old and have been hanging on our chest all day since birth. The first 20 minutes sucks, then falls asleep and slowly sucks. If I remove my breasts, I wake up and demand it again. At night we sleep only on the chest. The pediatrician said to buy baby lactase and give it to the baby. That you can't hang so often is an anomaly, most likely the child has lactase deficiency.
Elena, hello! Such a problem, the daughters of 4 months have recovered by 200g in just a month, we are on Gv, I stopped sucking the breast in an amicable way, all three minutes and that's all, if I still bend, the placet does not want to take the breast, before and before going to bed it could have been for a long time to suck, and now it’s cut off, in the evening the doctor said to give the mixture, we don’t take the bottle from the spoon, we try, but she doesn’t drink very much. How should we be and what do we have for the period?
Good day! I have the following problem. The son is 4 months old. We are on the guards. Previously, he slept until 3 am in his bed, then I took him to feed and the rest of the night he slept with us, waking up twice in the morning to eat. From 3.5 months, kashmare began, the child eats before going to bed, falls asleep, I put him in the crib after an hour and a half, he wakes up, and begins to hang on his chest, sleeps badly, wakes up often, every hour and a half, I give the breast falls asleep again, naturally I I am not getting enough sleep. I do not know what to do, help with advice. Many thanks!
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Hello, Elena! I am writing in despair, because For two weeks now, my 3-month-old son wakes up every 40 minutes (every cycle) at night and does not fall asleep on his own, he either needs to be rocked. whether to give breast. But the chest does not help either. This is how the whole night goes by with my lifting 10-12 times or shifting it from one breast to another. To say that I am awake. say nothing…. She has been sleeping badly since birth, but in recent weeks she has just been awful. He sleeps normally during the day, he can sleep for 2-3 hours himself, or maybe 40 minutes and that's it. We feed as when, but we do not keep strict time intervals, we sleep together, but every night is a nightmare for me, not to mention the fact that there is a husband and an older child, whom I cannot devote time to at all in the evening. I don't know what to do, but despair darkens the joy of motherhood ... ..
Hello, Elena! Please tell me what to do in the next situation - my son is 1 year and 2 months old, has begun to sleep badly at night, wakes up, whimpers, sometimes screams, gives a breast, sucks, falls asleep, his chest releases, then after a while he wakes up again and so it can reach yes 10 times a night. I don't know what happened to the child, I am tormented by doubts, maybe I missed it. My son sleeps with me, otherwise I won't sleep at all. Previously, I only woke up in a pot a couple of times a night ... in the daytime he does not remember about breasts at all, he eats regular food ...
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Hello, first of all, thanks for everything you do! there are few places where you can find such support online (and offline too)
And now I have a question about your opinion, perhaps advice.
the situation is this: for my boy 2 and 2, from the very beginning he hung on his chest, he is just one of those babies who slept every half hour for half an hour, day and night. it was hard, as you know, but habit and some skill made my situation easier (if you can call it that). in spite of all this, I like the guards myself, especially now when the child is talking and tenderly calling for a title. in general, I must say, the child is very active, quite independent, the character is bright. with all this, we fall asleep only with our breasts, during the day we fall asleep and sleep with our breasts, does not let go at all, there was a period that could be unhooked for 20 minutes, but then sucked it back in, now after 2 it does not let go at all. at night he wakes up 5-6 times, maybe sometimes more or less, but he sleeps with us, I try not to wake up completely. all would be fine, but at night he will not just wake up quietly but screams and demands his chest, that is, not so that he calmly asked or crawled closer himself. in the afternoon, if at home he often walks around asking, it is impossible to distract if I sit down to play with him or read a book right away! if outside the house, then most often it turns out to persuade that the tit is at home, of course, if he fell or got scared, then most often the tit is also on the street. in general, on the street everything is not so bad. my dream is to have 1-3 feedings per day. but it seems impossible. do you have any recommendations for reducing the quantity?
still need to add, there is a nanny and 2-3 times a week, she calmly puts him to sleep during the day, sleeps as usual for 1.5-3 hours, in this interval she wakes up in her arms, he immediately calms down and sleeps on. dad does this very rarely, he does not have that calmness. every weekend he tries to lay him down during the day but no. I'm trying to explain to my son that the tit is tired, he only freaks out even more. he loves to do everything himself, I suggest that he sleep on his own, after titi, but no
for reference, someone else’s opinion that it’s time to excommunicate me does not really bother.
itching all got out before 2 years
thanks in advance
renGood day! My daughter is 1 month old, while I am breastfeeding, but I think that there is not enough milk! During the day it hangs on my chest all the time, I eat with her, I can’t move away at all, immediately wakes up and is indignant. He sleeps well at night, falls asleep at 10-11, feeds at 3-4 and then at 6-7. I didn’t do the test for wet diapers, but judging by the diapers, she pisses normally, not a little, she also poops 4-5 times a day. BUT. We have gained very little in a month. 3250 were born, at discharge 3020, now about 3350. Is it worth starting supplementary feeding or continuing the struggle for full GW? I'm afraid the daughter will be weak from malnutrition. If it is still worth feeding, then how many times a day and how many ml?
Hello! We have been constantly hanging on our chest since 1.5 months and now it's already the 3rd month! And we can eat for 2 hours or more, if the baby falls asleep during the day, he will sleep for half an hour and again wants to eat! Walking is generally a problem for us! We scream all the time! Soothes only the chest! Please tell me, someone advises to feed with a mixture, they say that milk is not fat! I don't know what to do anymore! (
Hello. Help me please. The child is 7.5 months old, I began to sleep very badly at night, we sleep on our chest, they used to fall asleep at 21.00. And slept all night. Now the regime has gone astray, the child for some reason began to fall asleep at 24.00. During the day he sleeps for 2-2.5 hours, for example, we go to bed at 14.00, we wake up somewhere at 16.00. I try to put it at night at 22.00. But she can fall asleep for an hour and wake up again. We have to wait until night. But that's not all, when we fall asleep at night we sleep for about 40 minutes with a breast, then the daughter starts screaming with her eyes closed, she releases her breasts, I try to give her back, she screams and doesn’t take her. Calms down only when I pick it up. Then I try to put her to sleep again, but everything repeats itself once more. 2. At night, she does not sleep normally, she takes the breast and cries, lets out crying, sleeping in fragments, I don’t know how to help her, I’m worried. As a result, he falls asleep in the morning. Moreover, the daytime sleep is not the same as at night. Tell me what I'm doing wrong, what's my mistake?
Hello! The son is a year and a half. She sucks her breasts endlessly, eats practically nothing. We went to the doctors, the tests were normal. Hemoglobin was lowered, after iron intake it increased. I am not bothered by hanging on my chest, I am worried that there are not enough substances in my milk for its rummage and development. For the whole day, he can eat a piece of some kind of fruit and nibble on a cucumber with a crumb of bread. Sometimes, he eats a whole cutlet, but this is a rarity. I do not want to excommunicate. What to do?
Elena, hello! Thanks for all your articles and answers to questions !!!
Daughter is 6 weeks and 3 days old. She was born 3 kg 50 g after stimulation with oxytocin, epidural and forceps.
Weight changes:
Birth - 3050
2 days - 2 840
5 days - 3 210 (supplemented with a mixture from the second to the fifth day in the hospital)
2 weeks and 6 days - 3 240
6 weeks and 3 days - 3,560
She is active, vigorous, cries in moderation, I seem to have enough milk, sleeps 4-5 hours at night, 1-2 hours in the afternoon, eats the rest of the time - hangs on her chest, applies well, poops profusely several times a day, pees 6 times -7 per day, spits up milk periodically.
A child health visitor came to me today and said that since we have little weight gain, we should consider giving formula.
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Good day! Daughter is 9 months old. Mainly I feed with a mixture. Almost does not eat complementary foods and refuses. But after drinking the whole mixture, he is looking for a breast and without it I can’t rock my daughter. At night, too, very often wakes up and cries. I give my chest calms down and falls asleep. In the morning, awakenings become more frequent and the daughter literally hangs on her chest. I don't get enough sleep, and besides, it makes me very unpleasant from the long sucking nipples ache. I cannot sleep while sucking it because of the discomfort. I still have milk, but not enough. I think my daughter is not sucking because of hunger. I want to wean. Please tell me how?
Oh, I didn't ask the question myself. The question is, how should I act in this situation now?
Hello !! I have a very difficult situation. At 1.7-1.8 I decided to turn off the GW. Before that, everything was generally not bad. There is only one feeding left before bedtime, at night and at night a couple of times. We all sleep together, so night feeds are still tolerable, besides, she didn’t eat for hours. Well, so I decided that it was time to clean up the only daily feeding, before going to bed. And then hell began. For a couple of days, I laid her down in all possible ways, she cried, hysterics began during the day, requests for her breasts (which had been gone for a long time) at night, naturally, just began to hang on me. I realized that she was not yet ready to leave. I returned one for daytime sleep, but for 3 weeks now she has been hanging on goudi at night. It became very bad to eat regular food during the day. I’m more capricious than usual. But I’m already tired of feeding her, and all the more, I don’t want to return with intensive feeding. I have such a question, what to do now? To wait until she begins to lose interest herself, but it is not known when. Or just chop everything off at once. Or still put the squeeze on the situation with daytime feedings - first cancel them at all costs. Leave the night feeds for now and what to do with the night feeds? She does not drink water from a bottle at night (oh, I forgot to say - bottles / sippy cups go very badly with her), I did not give a bottle at all when I was little. At first I drank it from a spoon and then immediately started from the small chaste. Maybe for this she is not at all interested in sucking from bottles ... I will very much wait for your recommendations !! Thanks!
Hello. Now my child is 1 month and 12 days old. In a month we were on a control weighing, gained 330 g. The pediatrician says that it is not enough and it is necessary to supplement with the mixture, but I would still like to fight. He hangs on his chest all the time during the day, at night the child does not wake up by himself, but I wake him up for feeding. We sleep together. I feed through the pads, since I have a flat nipple and even in the maternity hospital could not take the breast and in this regard, I did not have milk for several days, I was supplemented with a mixture. In the maternity hospital they said they needed overlays. Pooping once a day, it happens 2 times. I didn't check for wet diapers, but judging by the diapers, I think that's enough. We bought a scale, now the child weighs 4040 (born with a weight of 3440). I tried to weigh it a couple of times before and after feeding (eats from 20-75 grams at a time) after feeding, I sometimes pump and supplement with my milk. The pediatrician said that he needed to eat 100 g at a time. Tomorrow for re-weighing. I have a question, I am trying to wean the baby from the linings, but while he is very resisting, they tell me that it is not worth starting. Is there a chance to wean it or I will only make it worse and the baby may even do
give up the breast. Also a question about supplementary feeding, should I fight for HB or not torture myself and the child and feed with a mixture?Good day! The baby is 2 months old. After one breast, she cries and worries, looking for movement with her mouth always! Born 3900. Now the weight is 6300, a big one in itself, a dad. The ultrasound showed a slightly enlarged gallbladder. The pediatrician says that I am overfeeding, my stomach will hurt and spit up like a fountain. I don't see these symptoms. The Uzist and the pediatrician strongly advise feeding on the regimen every three hours, with a night break of 6 hours. Tell me what to do? Can I give a second breast? I would not want to torment the baby with the regime, but it’s scary for the gallbladder and digestion.
Hello! The girl is 5 months old, earlier at night she got up 2 times to eat, then 1 time, and after 2 weeks she gets up 10 times, as a result of which we organized a joint sleep, now she eats her breasts constantly and falls asleep with her breasts, as soon as she rolls over in a dream and she starts crying to ask again for breast and so all night and she starts amyu at night. I can’t sleep at all, because I’m afraid to move once more and wake her up. During the day she eats little and sometimes you cannot force her, or you just start to feed, she falls asleep and does not eat (it seems on a lacation crisis or is it teeth? For a month, the increase is only 300 grams. She falls asleep only with her breast, day and night, it is pointless to put on the bed, she immediately wakes up. The problem is that I cannot sleep at night with her (I feel uncomfortable lying on my side , so I hardly sleep.
Hello! Tell me please. My baby is now 8 months old. We also experienced a lactation crisis at 3 months. Often hung on the chest day and night, there was a joint dream. Then lactation improved and everything settled down. At 7 months, the story repeated itself, the child at night cannot sleep without a breast at all. Everyone worries that he hangs so often on his chest, he does not sleep and does not give us. And how to wean him from the guards at night then?. Wakes up with a shout. One tooth has erupted so far. But the pediatrician says that they still climb from above 4 and from below 2. Is it possible that he so often requires a chest because of his teeth? I think he won’t get used to sleeping with us in bed, and then he won’t be in his own? We even used gum gel, but the result is not lasting. At night he sleeps only with a sissy in his mouth. During the day we sleep only outside. And if at home, then, too, only with sissy in the mouth. Please tell me what to do? Thanks in advance for your reply!
Hello, Elena! You are a very smart girl who created this site! I have three children: a 7-year-old son, a 4-year-old daughter, and the youngest, she will soon be 6 months old! All the children will grow on their chest, but now doubts are in my head: the baby has been peeing very little for about two weeks. The number of peeses -8 will be typed per day, the volume of urine secreted has decreased (we are without diapers, so this is noticeable) and the color is a little richer, I have already begun to offer water little by little, unchanged. The baby weighs 10500g, the breast is always with her). Tell me, does the number of pee-pisses in 6 months affect?
And more ... I am sick, I had temperatures for three days - tonsillitis, I did not take anything, I offer my breasts at the first squeak. I'm on treatment. Can this somehow affect?Hello. We are already 4 months old tomorrow, and the baby sleeps badly for the second night, often wakes up and demands her breasts and also jerks her legs and arms all night, we have a joint dream. During the day, she does not hang on her chest, for some reason I do not understand this, please tell me
Good day, Elena. I have such a situation: the baby is 2 and a half months old. We still do not have a sleep regimen, sleeps with me at night and gives breast on demand, it comes out somewhere in 1.5-2 hours. But! It fits only with me, as I lie down - so does she. He falls asleep either with a tit in his mouth, or after a sedentary feeding, he needs to shake it. In the afternoon, the story is the same: it hangs on Tita all the time. I'll feed while sitting, falls asleep on the arms, as soon as I get up, he wakes up and asks again. Sometimes he does not fall asleep, but immediately asks again in a minute. I'm worried if there is enough milk ?! I applied and I always apply often, but we have a low weight gain, barely barely 500 grams per month, the doctor says to feed with a mixture, I don't want to desperately yet, but I'm worried that the girl is starving. Writes well, basic monthly examination did not reveal any violations. I’m already drinking special teas for lactation, changing feeding positions, in general, I’m climbing out of my skin, and the weight gain is low, but we have a very fast growth in length! Tell me how to be? Listen to the doctor - supplement with formula or still try to keep pure breastfeeding?
Good evening! We are 3 weeks old. The pediatrician prescribed lacto baby after we passed for carbohydrates, 0.4%. We started drinking and my daughter stopped pooping by herself, I save myself with a warm cotton swab, strong gas formation. The stool is liquid. If you do not help, he screams strongly and knocks his feet. Warm diapers, laying on the stomach, and stroking do not help. We are completely on GW, we don’t take a pacifier or a bottle, espumisan doesn’t help much. I really want to continue to feed. At night it hangs constantly, but sometimes after they began to give lactase, the baby began to sleep for 2-3 hours, but at night. From 5 in the morning begins: screams, superficial sleep and constantly hanging on the chest. He sleeps with me at night and doesn't really vomit. During the day, he always sleeps very superficially and often wakes up, spits up profusely. Weighed before and after feeding, eats 90-100 grams. In about 2 weeks I gained 700 grams. He behaves nervously at the chest, squeezes the legs. How can you help a child? Am I doing everything right or do I need to change something?
Hello, Elena. We are a month old. The kid hardly sleeps during the day and hangs on his chest all day, falls asleep with her. If you shift, then screams begin. Sometimes it turns, the chest loses, it starts looking for it and screaming, twisting its legs until you put it back into it. This can be repeated for a long time. There is enough milk - we have gained more than a kilogram this month. He rarely takes a nipple. Help with advice
Hello. We are 2 months and a week old. Previously, the baby hung on her chest in the evenings. Typically from 7-8 pm and fit in at 11-12 at night. Now and during the day he sleeps only with his chest. You have to constantly lie with her, as there is no strength to sit. 10 days ago, my chronic tonsillitis worsened, there was almost no milk. With the help of lactation teas and a breast pump, it seems like it turned out to return the milk. The chest is not empty, in the morning it even hurts to touch, but still it hangs on the chest. At night, falling asleep at 11, wakes up in 5-6 hours. Then he sleeps for a couple of hours. Well, from morning to evening all the time on the chest. With what it can be connected?
Hello, this is a problem we are 7 months old. Recently, I began to eat every hour at night, but not restless, just wake up and suck a little and continue to sleep and so on all night long. It seems to me that he doesn’t even eat, but just sucks. We started feeding on the guards, we eat porridge in the morning for lunch, vegetables for the night, a little kefir, began to eat not water, not compotes, does not drink
Hello. I have a problem with GW. we are already 1.8, but we are hanging on our chest and practically do not want to eat anything. eats very little and very selectively. can eat once a day and then in the late afternoon. the rest of the time the chest. at night, during the day, 1 daytime sleep is also on the chest. I suggest .. but to no avail. more or less gladly eats only yogurt, which I make myself. I don’t give sweets .. in general, at her age, at least something could be eaten with pleasure - we have no such thing .. no fruit, no soup. eats pilaf, dumplings, steamed cutlets ... mostly from food she just spits .. I already have an inferiority complex about food .. it seems to me that she no longer gorges on breast milk, because she will eat a little and can run to me on several times per hour. breasts for her and communication with my mother (although I am always with her, there are no special nannies) and drink and eat, and it is scary and painful, and sleeping - all breasts! I was already very tired of the constant hovering, became nervous and irritable. I can’t do almost any household chores - neither really cook nor clean. because at any moment she will have to give up everything and sit while she enjoys. On the one hand, the GW is our salvation, and on the other, I can’t wait until I finish it .. now my fangs are still climbing - refuses to eat at all. we have a joint dream almost from birth. I don’t understand where I could make a mistake .. it would seem that I was always on her lead .. she had no sleep until 8 months. I slept at night, and during the day I didn’t fit for 10-15 minutes. and the chest did not help
everyone around is saying that it is necessary to throw the guards, and I'm straight at the crossroads. and it is a pity and there is no more strength. morally I am no longer (((Hello, the baby is one year and 2 months old. For three months now I just began to hang on my chest (especially during the day, at night 1.2 times and then for food) and in the daytime it’s just a nightmare, milk will suck, and then just chews the breast, sucks, or just keeps it in my mouth and so on all day. Moreover, he eats ordinary food very well, even after eating, he is applied to the chest. I tried to refuse, it doesn't work ... she cries, picks up her jacket. And to be honest, it hurt my chest ... it's like fiddling with a sick mazol all the time. .r.s. The child does not get sick, the teeth do not bother, and nothing new happens. Tell me how to be?
Elena! thanks for the answer! your opinion from the outside helped me a lot
but there are still more questions than answers
how to introduce complementary foods? And How? although it probably sounds funny already. the child is almost 2 years old .. I might not be so much bothered by her hanging on the chest and I would not refuse GV as long as possible - if she ate well, at least a little .. when she was 6-8 months old, she started feeding with vegetables. She ate a little at one time, and then she just began to spit everything out and nothing could be persuaded or entertained. she closes her mouth, turns around .. but now she doesn't want to, if she just gets up from the chair and that's it .. this is a signal that she doesn't want anything at all .. this thought does not leave that it seems that milk alone should not be enough for her .. and it cannot be said that she loves something in general - I offer fruits - for a very great desire, you can sometimes shove it. it would seem that the teeth are itching - she offered an apple, a carrot - she would gnaw and throw. our front tooth, which is on the left, began to crumble. went to the dentist - said the reasons may be due to the fact that something was missing during pregnancy, and due to the fact that he does not eat solid food - that is, a kind of cleaning does not occur and because of night feedings, too, that the mouth is not enough saliva at night it is washed .. almost does not give teeth to clean .. so, gnaws the brush itself
When she began to spit food, of course I tried to lag behind her and apply pedagogical complementary foods. that is, when we eat, we always put it with us. but still, the interest in food is minimal .. that's right at all ..
listen to others, how they hamster .. we don’t know when to get to this thenHello! I was completely exhausted, started reading on the Internet and came across your site. I have a similar problem with the previous girl: the child is already 1.9, and she hangs on her chest every hour! It's just horrible. I don’t know what’s the matter. We sleep together, I always gave on demand. During the day he sleeps with a breast in his mouth. Complementary foods were introduced at 8 months, in the fall I already ate regular food + breast 4 times a day. But since the New Year, teeth have begun to bother me a lot, and since spring it's just a madhouse! Requires breasts all the time! I already began to limit the usual food, because between meals he could hang on his chest 3-4 times for half an hour. What porridge already ... Weight is within the upper limit. She does not want to drink any liquid, which she did not offer! A couple of sips and that's it. At night he wakes up at one o'clock, and from 4 in the morning he simply sleeps on me (in the literal sense of the word) and sucks. Otherwise, he does not want to go to bed, hysteria begins. And this is 14 kg on you kszhkyu night lie. And with fingers the nipple on the second breast is monotonously winding. For hours. Like medieval torture. On the street, she constantly remembers, waiting for me to promise that I will give a breast at home. Earlier in the evening and during the day I fell asleep with motion sickness, now eat milk, then get motion sickness. In no other way, otherwise hysteria. And he constantly talks about it and remembers it. And so for the 4th month ... I was waiting for the teeth to come out. We got out, but nothing has changed. There are 16 of them, the last 4 pieces are not visible at all. I understand that I cannot leave him in such a situation, there will be terrible stress, but I am slowly losing my mind, to be honest ... my relatives keep saying, “Drop it!”, But no one helps, and then I have to sort out the consequences myself. I feel sorry for myself and my son. Thanks!
Daughter 3.5 months old As we arrived from the hospital (she had bronchitis), she constantly cries and wriggles while feeding .. I have forgotten how to empty the intestines on my own .. only massage - legs to the stomach. Very often requires a breast, but comes across some incomprehensible pain .. I distract her, walk in a column, calm down, again suggest. And this has been going on for 2 months already. She still has Gaziki, farts with difficulty and cries. I don’t know what to do? The gastroenterologist recommended maintaining daily intervals of 3 hours, dewy - 6, but this is simply not realistic !! At night, it can still be 2-3 hours, but during the day it can stick to it for 2-3 hours with a sissy in her mouth: she sleeps and eats, sleeps and eats. What if I overfeed her and this makes her stomach ache ?? How often do you change your breasts? Change every 3 hours. When will these stomach problems end? We are already 4 months old soon. Increases for the first 2 months in kg, for 3 months only 420 grams, since it is difficult to feed her .. she cries and bends ..
Elena, hello!
My son is only two days old. The first day after giving birth, I slept periodically waking up for "snacks" that lasted no more than 30 minutes ... And then suddenly there was a need for continuous sucking. Doesn't even let me go to the toilet, falls asleep on my chest and as soon as I try to sneak away, he immediately arranges an op. We are still in the hospital. The doctor says I need to sleep on my stomach. And I can't just sleep, I can't turn on my stomach, because the baby needs breasts continuously. There is no milk yet. There is colostrum. It is not possible to invite a GW consultant. Tell me how to understand if I'm doing everything right? Maybe he doesn’t have enough colostrum, or I ate something that made him feel bad and therefore hung? Do I need to count peeses when milk has not yet arrived or are there some other indicators that at least clarify something?Hello. Please tell me, I have a flat nipple on one breast. No matter how much she offers, she does not want to suck. Eats on the other, which has at least some kind of nipple. What to do to make the nipple stretch?
Hello, the child is 2 months old, he is already hanging on his chest for a couple of days, he sleeps at night, wakes up 1 time, during the day he sleeps only with the breast in his mouth, or a maximum of an hour, one and a half, yet I'm afraid suddenly there is not enough milk (((
Elena, hello. Tell me please, my 1 month old child prefers to take only one breast and eats everything out of it to the end, I suggest she takes another breast, sucks a little something that is easy to suck, and then begins to freak out with his legs, pulls his hands and cries. How can the situation be corrected? I often try to offer her this breast, but without result, she still freaks out. Maybe there is some way so that milk from an unloved breast flows as easily as from another breast?
Hello! Baby 2 months old was born 3630 kg, height 53
Now 4720. Growth 58. From about 2 weeks I stopped sleeping normally during the day. She sleeps for 15-20 minutes and then on her arms and with her breast. On the street I also came to feed, now the cold will go, I don’t know how to walk. He sleeps well until 13 noon, from 11 to 13 and we walk. He sleeps well at night. From 24 to 10 in the morning. Getting up at 3-4 o'clock, 6-7. At 9-10 he already gets up. We go to bathe at 22.30 at 23 in bed with a breast. He falls asleep firmly by 24 hours.
And in the daytime only on the chest. And he is awake for 30-40 minutes, and then there is and doze. After 20 minutes he gets up and in a circle. I used to fall asleep for 40 minutes and an hour in my arms, as soon as I shift everything, I did not sleep.
This is fine?Elena, hello!
Tell me what to do in my situation. We are 1 month and a week old. We are on GW and are supplemented with a mixture 2-3 times a day (60-90 ml on average).
The supplementary food supply does not have enough milk. The child is naughty throws the breast. I give one, then another. Both suck out the other end, wriggle screams, hit me with their fists, demand food. Big guy, 5200. Is it possible to somehow "add" milk to make it enough?
The second question: sometimes I need to be absent for 4-5 hours. I was able to squeeze once. Now I am afraid to express myself, because there is not enough milk. Therefore, in my absence, dad has to feed the baby with a mixture. How to be in such a situation? Is it possible to strain a little during the day from both pears into one container?good afternoon. Lena, I again to you about the painful.
we are already almost 2.2 g, but we stubbornly do not want to excommunicate ourselves. On the one hand, I like it and solves a lot of questions, but on the other hand, at this age it is simply unbearable. Now I left my breast only for the night and for a nap, during the day I try to distract, but the problem is that my daughter practically prefers her breast to any other food. and it would be okay to eat - I might then be in no hurry with excommunication. but after all, whims and tantrums are already due to the fact that I try to give breasts less often. during the day I don’t give it just like that .. and it will be hungry to sit .. shove it very rarely that it turns out. sometimes our food is a few spoons of porridge, tea, banana and a couple of cookies per day. I already consider myself to be some kind of handshake, sorry for the expression. that I don’t cook — you can’t push her into anything .. already with jokes and in different ways, both with toys and with cartoons. how she eats the same porridge - she walks and is cheerful and plays herself, but how can I not feed - all day nagging, reaching for the chest, I distract, I don’t give it .. otherwise it will be like this every hour climbing under a jacket. I think that poor appetite is associated with GW because my daughter thinks all the same, yes I will get what I want. and will endure .. in general, removing the GW without a shout is not realistic yet. in the daytime he does not want to fall asleep without a breast .. neither on his arms, nor shaking .. although in the car he may well pass out if he gets tired
I can’t single out that she loves something from food .. something different .. what she eats today is not a fact of what she will eat later. I cook everything fresh every day .. soups, we don't recognize liquid at all .. we eat soup at best - dipping bread and chewing bread.
at our age we don't speak yet. at all. there are separate syllables mama papa .. but pronounces them unconsciously. Ie not mom and dad ..
were at a speech therapist - she said it was necessary to stop the guards, it is also connected with the way the child sucks the breast - the tongue, in general, will not work as well. which is bad for speech. although I don't really see the connection - there are children who are already 3, practically from birth on mixtures - and they also do not speak
how to reduce guards to a minimum so that self-excommunication occurs? radically I do not want - so as not to injure the psyche, but I also do not know how much patience I have enough .. it has long been running outElena, hello! My baby is 4 months old and he sucks every 1.5-2 hours day and night. Is this considered normal? Do I need to increase the interval or leave it as it is? Just who you don’t ask children eat in 2.5-3 hours
Good night Elena. I am very worried about the issue of overeating. The child is completely on GW on demand, 2 months. He falls asleep with his chest, wakes up, needs a chest, sleeps with a chest, while awake, he also needs a chest (it doesn't bother me, I give it). It worries me that milk comes out of her mouth back (when she lies, when you take her in your arms, while falling asleep), but still asks for breast. We went to the pediatrician. She said that the child overeats a lot, it is difficult for him to breathe due to overeating, his stomach is swollen, his intestines rumbling, she scolded me that there was no regime. I advised: feeding in 2.5-3 hours (the rest of the time, drink water or soothe), remove for a long time, prescribed probiotics. In my opinion, it is easier to switch to a mixture with such advice (both the regime and adding water, and the volume of the mixture is known), but I am only for GW. Please advise what should I do? The child is full, milk does not climb into him (it comes out back), but he sucks and sucks everything.
Hello, Elena! My child is almost two months old, a week ago she began to behave strangely at the breast, she takes it out and then spits it out, again takes it and spits it out again, and now I also cry, I can't understand if there is not enough milk, but I feed it on demand and eat at night often, is it still connected with something? But I don't really think on my stomach either, there are gaziki, it seems to me within the normal range. So crying freaks out ladies another breast calms down. Tell me if this is still a shortage of milk how to restore it?
Elena, good morning! The baby is almost 2.5 months old. I read your post and comments, we just seem to have this lactation crisis. The baby "hangs" on the chest for the third day, complete ignorance of the nipples (she did not particularly like her before). The advisers suggested supplementing with formula, because in their opinion the child is hungry, but I refused. We have an increase of 900 grams per month, I believe that this indicator speaks about the satiety of the child. I have a different question: when to pump? The daughter falls asleep on her chest, sleeps with her chest, in a dream she periodically sucks, often wakes up if she picks up her breasts.
The thing is that three weeks ago I stopped pumping after feedings (the interval was 2-2.5 hours between feedings) and received a very unpleasant thing in the form of milk stagnation and a temperature of 39. After that, by the way, my daughter began to "hang" on the chest.Good afternoon! We have the following situation: the baby is 9.5 months old. From birth I feed on demand. There is an interest in food, it creeps into our plates when we eat something. But she stubbornly refuses to eat off the spoon. Turns away, crying. He can take something with his hands, a banana for example, and suck on it a little. No teeth yet. At the same time, he constantly asks for breasts, crawls up and lifts up his shirt. I am afraid that it is not enough for her, the doctor says that daily feedings should be from other food. And it is impossible to stuff more than a few tablespoons of mashed potatoes or porridge into it. And her weight for our age is small - 7.7 kg. I'm worried and can't figure out what to do, how to feed Her? And he practically refuses to drink water. How to be? Give advice, please.
Elena, thanks for the answer! I still have a question about the continuation of our situation. Due to the constant "hanging" on the chest, the baby began to spit up, her tummy was replaced. She sleeps mostly on her arms, with her chest in her mouth. If I gently try to pull out the nipple, then often my daughter wakes up and starts to be capricious until her breasts are back with her. We are 2.5 months
My son is a year and a half, recently he began to sob before going to bed at night if I don’t give a breast. Can cry for a long time. Sometimes I manage to go to bed after crying myself in the crib. Sleeps in it for an hour, maximum two - wakes up whimpering asks for a breast, I take it in my arms, give it a breast, just keeps it in my mouth, barely sucks, falls asleep, I put it in a crib - wakes up quickly. He wants to sleep at night only with me in bed. At night, it is often applied, recently, to keep it in the mouth. During the day, he falls asleep on his chest, sleeps in the crib for an hour and a half. Recently, without tears at night, rarely fit. Now give me a breast, then put it in the crib, then read a book and so for an hour and a half, until my nerves fail, I put him in the crib - he sobs. We have a sleep ritual practically from birth. I go to bed at 17:00 and fall asleep somewhere at 18: 20-18: 45. In the morning he finally wakes up at 5: 00-6: 00 am. A tangled circle.
Hello, Elena. Thank you very much for your valuable advice - once again I reread my letter and yours - and I calm down ..
nevertheless - continuation ..
Now my daughter is already 2.5, but the situation has not improved .. moreover, I don’t know what it’s connected with - whether it’s a habit or is it in itself. I wrote to you that we switched to 3 x one-time attachment (in the morning, at lunchtime before going to bed and in the evening, well, at night, naturally), but then the painter's upper tooth climbed wide and this whole routine flew not to understand where .. the daughter just began to hang on breasts ... up to 10 times a day, gels from the teeth brought short-term relief. I already, as they say, waved my hand and gave a breast every time I asked .. I understood that it’s easier for her .. as a result, the tooth almost got out in a month without fever and generally some complications
then he began to climb below. still in progress
however, the situation has not improved in any way. daughter still prefers breast to any other food .. drinks water, sometimes juice, loves purchased puree such as agushi, frutonyani .. but I'm not a supporter of putting it on a purchased one - but I will make the same fruit puree - she will not eat from a spoon. he simply covers his mouth with his hands, turns away, is capricious - that is, in every way he makes it clear that he will not. in the store and the hysterics are not satisfied if not given .. but in the refrigerator they are monitored regularly. worried about the fact that wherever you read - everywhere they write that a child after 2 years old especially needs solid, varied food .. in general, when they write about doses of 200 g, it becomes straightforwardly funny .. we will eat at a time if from 3-5 teaspoons - it’s for happiness in general .. I understand that I’ve done well that I have kept the GW up to this point, but still I don’t let go of the thought that I did something or do something wrong .. very true it strains the constant climbing under a T-shirt .. all advice such as wearing closed clothes is all by ... we are fine by climbing from below if everything is closed at the top. I need to wear this bodysuit with a turtleneck every day so that it is impossible to get there ..
climbs to eat, climbs to drink, climbs like a pacifier to drive (when teeth hurt), and what is most unpleasant for me - just from idleness. that is, we play, what we do, but it's better for me not to squat at all = just sit down right there .. now it's winter and there is no special entertainment. at home I occupy her of course with games ... but she is almost always with me - we live in the village and there is no such thing as a playground here, in principle, and there are no children nearby .. that is, all the time together .. my husband comes in the evening, but he is not particularly an assistant - there is no patience to play for a long time - this is all stupid, to feed it all the more
Mom's grandmothers are already just pushing a rod to throw, etc .. it’s long been necessary .. because of the fact that he doesn’t eat ..
Yesterday I went to the bathhouse, gave my mother a task to try to feed her. in the end, when she came - she said - in snot in tears but did not eat a spoon (((
also worried about the fact that the bad teeth are very upper - I suspect that it was during pregnancy that she did not have enough calcium or may not have been absorbed. at the bottom there are good even ones (there are small holes) and at the top one has already broken off and the process continues. we clean our teeth with baby paste and mineralizing - but no sense ... I do not associate this situation with GV (as bottle caries is also called) because I know a family where the child was breastfed for 2 months then on artificial feeding - and also by 2.5 over the years, the upper teeth have all broken off. now just wait for the milk teeth to change to permanent ones.
maybe it hurts her to chew .. although she gnaws cookies, sometimes an apple, a carrot, but it’s not visible that it would cause discomfort to her, it’s probably just not interesting ..
the situation with speech has not changed either - we are lazy and that's all .. we went to a neurologist - a quick examination and a very short contact with a child - they diagnosed an expression disorder .. and all this in 10 minutes of admission - most of the time it was scribbling. Pantogam was prescribed and 1 more pill - according to the description, by no means our case. decided not to give it yet! although I really want the speech to appear .. understands the addressed speech well
in general - I ask for advice - what am I doing wrong? to give up and wait until she falls off her chest - oh, I think it will take a long time to wait. morally I'm already like a squeezed lemon - how sick it all is - cannot be conveyed. I would feed it further - as much as needed .. but here it is insanely annoying that the main food is the main food .. for half an hour, and then we climb again ..
somewhere to give it - there is no way. I mean to change the scene. one grandmother is very far away, the other - she herself suffers from psychosis due to the situation in the family - that is, it is clearly not up to us. kindergarten shines in the fall at best ... such a vicious circleHello, Elena. I really need advice ((for a 1.5 month old boy, we are on GW, the child always asks to his chest as he drinks, immediately pulls out, cries with hysteria and sometimes an offended face, I don’t know how to help him (((there’s enough milk, I would even say that a lot We went to the clinic, the pediatrician scolded us, says that we gained too much (2.5 kg in a month) told to feed on time with a break of 3 hours, but the boy even ate 2 hours withstand the last 15-20 minutes pass in hysterics Although in a month he added 7 cm in height, I mean that the child does not have obesity.
Good day! I read the advice that the breasts should be on demand and the doctors advise so, I did so. My child is now 1.4 months old. He is gaining weight and height very poorly, hemoglobin is low. Pediatricians in unison say that this is because it constantly hangs on the chest, knocks down appetite and then does not eat properly. Yes, my son is a baby (or is my appetite really knocking down with my milk?). The son hangs on his chest all the time, not once every hour, there is no feeding regimen. He is not accustomed at all that one must endure breaks between meals, he also sleeps all night on tit ... He is capricious, if he does not immediately receive breasts, this is the result of “breasts on demand”. I love my son and want what is best for him, I do not stop GW, but I am worried about the fact that he does not grow well and eats (height 76, weight 9 kg). How to combine power mode and hot water on demand?
Thank you for your answer) Let me explain. Yes, my son is now 1 year 4 months old. From 6 months introduced complementary foods, from a year already eats as expected. I cook for him separately every day cereals, soups, mashed potatoes, compotes, meat (finely cut), give him fruits, bread, cookies ... What hangs on his chest all the time is not an exaggeration. The son is very active, runs around the house, gets everywhere, loves to run after the cat ... but! If we are not on the street, but at home, then he smacks his chest for a couple of minutes and then runs again. This does not bother him. I try to give food after about 3-4 hours, but eat little or not eat at all - asks for a title. My husband and I are both slender, maybe heredity, that the son is so tiny. but the doctors wrote out a bunch of metabolic drugs, mixtures, etc. Tim spits all these mixtures (he doesn't take a bottle and a pacifier at all). And at night - yes, he sleeps on tit or next to him, but about every hour he wakes up, smacks his chest and falls asleep again. Nothing else helps, falls asleep only on the chest: day and night. After a couple of months in the kindergarten, how will it be there without titi? In general, such cases: first, doctors insist on GW on demand, then they scold for it ...
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Good afternoon. I read the article and comments, but still would like to ask a question about my situation. The child is three months old, on GV. But there was a period when they switched to the mixture for five days. In order)) I had lingering jaundice, bilirubin 170 at almost two months. We went to the hospital, where they glowed under a lamp and took ursosan. It didn't help much. The doctor strongly recommended giving up the breast in five to seven days. I agreed. She expressed milk. But the child did not sleep and threw tantrums, tk. demanded the chest. On the second day, I began to express my breasts, feed with formula and give after expressed breasts. And five days passed almost easily. There was no less milk, and bilirubin dropped sharply. Discharged with a reading of 65. But two weeks later, the same 65. Again switched to the mixture according to the old scheme (gave an empty chest). And then I noticed that I was expressing less milk, it was 100-110, it became less than a hundred ml from each breast. After the full return of GW, the baby stopped sleeping at night. The first time he falls asleep for an hour and a half, and after 30-40 minutes. And all this without releasing the nipple from the mouth. Plus he began to regurgitate, especially in the morning. Not a fountain, but a tablespoon by volume will be. I associate this with overeating, but you write that it is impossible to overeat on GV. Apparently, I still have a lactation crisis just every three months, hence the decrease in the amount of milk and night hovering on the chest (in the afternoon he eats and sleeps for an hour and a half, then he is calm for an hour and a half to two hours). But then the child should not have enough milk, again, there should be no overeating. Could you please tell me if I could disrupt any metabolic processes by my throwing from GW to the mixture? And the child also begins to behave restlessly when the chest is empty, that is, jerking his legs, waving his arms. I give a second breast, begins to drink greedily, then it is the curdled milk that spits up again. The pediatrician also writes off on overeating, they say, I feed the child.
Hello!) We had problems with gv from birth, flat nipples and the child could not take the breast, I pumped and gave milk with an interval of 3-3.5 hours. not very much) ... and hung on his chest, suckle and fall asleep, put it down and immediately wake up and cry ((the breast is filled only at night, but at night the child sleeps well, waking up only once. Perhaps he gets tired of sucking from habit? Consider learning from the first days ... with a bottle it was easier
Hello, Elena!
I read the previous messages and your answers and calmed down a little: hanging on my chest and short dreams between feedings will now try to perceive normally) But here's the caveat: I have twins. The guys are 2.5 months old. I manage more or less at night, because For one of my kids, it seems that it is enough to eat 2 times (at 2.30 and 4.30 usually), but the second is a classic "visyun")) I have the following questions:
1) what about walking? We sleep in a stroller only if we miraculously managed to put it in the cradle and lower it into the stroller without waking it up after feeding. And the sling for twins did not seem to be invented ... therefore on the street we often have a collective op ...
2) I feed them mostly at the same time on a pillow. Last week, the problem with falling asleep at night: the elder starts to eat very nervously, apparently swallows air or simply does not understand because of the speed that he has already eaten enough, and after the 2nd / 3rd tide he starts waving his arms and then we have hysteria for an hour ... well, if the younger one managed to fall asleep, and if not, then ... sometimes during the day I try to feed them in turn: it doesn't work, usually when one eats, the second hears a champ, and wakes up or cries. what can you advise? And the elder also eats only at high tide, and in the middle of the day and in the evening they rarely come with me, he also hysterics from this ... how to teach not to be lazy? Or is it not laziness, but a lack of milk? I have not checked the peeses, but by the monthly weight we are gaining a little more than the norm.
3) I know that when feeding, especially in the first months, you do not need to take the breast from the baby until he lets go. But in my case, it sometimes happens that if one is asleep on his chest, and the other is still eating, then the tide goes into both breasts, and the one who has already fallen asleep is sometimes frightened, so for him the process of falling asleep begins again and the whole collective matter is stretched to hour…
4) despite the weight gain, I still have an eternal fear of a lack of milk / crises and, of course, double the amount)) I know that expression after feedings can help. But how do you organize them for on-demand feeding? What if I pump, and the child wakes up in 10 minutes - the tit will not offer him anything?)) And is there any point in pumping if the child eats often and little by little? I would like, of course, that at least 1.5 hours were kept, which is a rarity in our country.
Elena, hello! Probably, I have the same lactation crisis, my daughter is almost three months old, and for the third night we have been sucking all the time, since sleeping together helps out (breaks for an hour, maximum one and a half). But, for some reason, during the day, she does not breastfeed very often, especially when I sit and feed, screams, turns inside out, I have to observe an interval of about 1.5-2 hours, then you can avoid screaming and feed only while lying down. The breast is no longer as full as before, and it is rarely possible to pump with a breast pump ... And in this situation I have such a question, how many days this can last and after what time, if the feeding is going well, to feed the baby. pee-pecks settle back to normal, more than 12 per day. Can Apilak start drinking?
I agree with you about crises. Our last one was when the child was 1.5. Constant "night hovering" led to cracks, very painful. Although I am an experienced mom. Decided it was time to excommunicate. I see only +. I have an appetite, I don't wake up at night, I can finally take care of my health. The kid perfectly drinks milk from a bottle before bedtime. I see no reason to delay breastfeeding. The previous child was weaned in a year, there were no problems at all.
Good day! We have a problem with sleeping and feeding. The child is 5 months old, sleeps with us since birth, wakes up every hour, demands a breast, seems to be overeating, because then he whimpers, pulls his legs, does not take the breast. And so all night, the chest whimpers, pours a little and again demands the chest. And stubbornly "slides" on the nipple. My chest and nipple hurt, and I don't get enough sleep. If my chest doesn’t give, it yells. What to do?
Hello! Such situation. Son is 21 days old. Upon arrival from the hospital, we set up feeding every 2-3 hours. I slept well between feedings. But for the second day it has been hanging on my chest all the time. Doesn't let go at all, sleeps and sucks. It is worth leaving - he wakes up in five minutes and cries. What's this? Lactation crisis? Some resources write that the first happens in 3-6 weeks
Elena, hello! Again to you for help. I can't get through the "answer" button, so I'm writing a new post. The kid turned out to be very noisy. Colic torments him, and maybe a plus and something else, but he screams terribly. Already yelled a hernia. It calms down only on the chest, motion sickness rarely helps. And I feed every two hours, and even "sedative" times. Apparently, it turns out a lot, he spits up, gets upset, cries again, gasps for air, torments his stomach, yells, again on his chest and spits up again. In general, we walk in a circle.
I would like to help him, but I don’t know how. Maybe something to change in your behavior?
No, the grip is correct. Well, not in the classics, but very good. I also thought about the seizure and invited a consultant
Good evening! I have such a problem, my son is 9 months old. Misha sleeps with us in bed, because we are on the GW. From about 7 months old Misha began to sleep poorly at night - he wakes up every hour to eat. The nipple at such moments does not help, but only annoys him, and he begins to cry even harder. So only the chest saves. But every hour, or even more often, it is very difficult.
Diet before bedtime:
- At 7-7.5 months at 18: 00-19: 00 cottage cheese with fruit 100-130 gr., Then only breast for the night.
- By 8.5 months, we decided that Misha would stay hungry for the night and decided to feed him with porridge (on the advice of a pediatrician) 1 hour before bedtime. But even after 5 days, the situation has not changed!
Also, from 7.5 months, the sleep regimen was lost: before night sleep began from 20: 30-21: 00 and until 06: 00-06: 30. Now we put it at 20: 00-21: 00 and after 40 minutes he wakes up and does not fall asleep until 23: 30-00: 00
Sleep in the afternoon: 1.5-2 hours in the morning (11: 00-13: 00); 40 minutes - 1.5 hours in the afternoon (15: 00-16: 30); 40 minutes in the evening (not always) (20: 30-21: 30)
The teeth came out in 6-7 months (6 pieces), until new ones are expected (as the pediatrician said).
Tell me what you can do, or wait until he stops waking up so often?
The baby's sleep problems are not related to breastfeeding. It's all about sleep associations. This is how the baby falls asleep.
If you want to keep breastfeeding and sleep well at the same time, you need to separate food and sleep. That is, to divide sleep and feeding in time. When you can separate food and sleep, you can quickly put your child back to sleep at night, reduce nighttime attachments in sleep, but do not quit GW.
This is a very important topic. Defeating a stereotype based on many years of experience is very difficult. Year after year, moms improve their babies' nighttime sleep by weaning.
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Sleep and food are separated, the association for sleep - sucking at the breast - is removed, and the child begins to sleep remarkably at night. Overjoyed at these achievements, Mom tells all her friends about this way to improve sleep and willingly shares the secret of good sleep on the Internet.
She sometimes regrets that she had to curtail GW at 10 months, she wanted to feed longer, and the child began to get sick more often. But sleep is more important. It was simply impossible to endure sleep problems anymore, I had to excommunicate the child, there was no choice.
In the end, the child is already eating "adult" food, and the mother is important to the child, not the breast. But there is a choice!
How does a child sleep when he falls asleep on his chest?
Let's observe the sleep of a child who falls asleep exclusively with his breast in his mouth.
In the evening, the child is tired, it's time for sleep. From birth, the child is used to falling asleep with the help of his mother, she gives him the breast. It is so natural and pleasant, warm and comfortable. This is the dream association.
In this case, in order to fall asleep, the child needs to eat, that is, sleep = food. Somnologists in Russia, America and Europe in most cases consider falling asleep on the chest after a year as an incorrect association for sleep.
Why is it wrong? Because it makes sleep worse. Waking up at night, the child will scream and demand to create the conditions in which he usually falls asleep. That is, he does not need food, but help to continue sleeping.
Indeed, children very often wake up at night and this is an absolute norm. ... The baby sleeps with constant awakenings between sleep cycles. We adults do too. But we immediately fall asleep again and do not remember it. And a child, in order to continue sleeping after the next awakening, will need the usual conditions for falling asleep (otherwise, he simply does not know how to fall asleep), in our case - the chest.
Does everyone need to separate food and sleep?
Most sleep experts are men. Perhaps they cannot fully believe that some mothers, when sleeping with their baby, do not know at all how many times their baby feeds per night, because night feeds do not interfere with their sleep. The main criterion in this matter is a calm child and a sleeping mother.
What else affects a child's sleep?
So, now we know why the situation may arise: "hangs all night on his chest, does not eat much, but it is impossible to lay down again without a breast." The kid falls asleep as best he can, and he knows how to fit only with his chest in his mouth.
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At the age of 9-15 months, there are several other objective reasons that can worsen the quality of a child's sleep.(not counting "eternal teeth" and diseases):
Development stage: the baby gets up, tries to walk. It is likely that he can do this at night - jump up right in his sleep, so he is practicing a new skill.
Change of regime, transition from 2 dreams to 1. Temporarily this may affect the duration and quality of night sleep.
At such moments, you need to help the baby go through this difficult stage, if possible, do not introduce new incorrect associations for sleep - motion sickness, for example.
How to separate breast and sleep without folding the GW?
Resolved, we won't introduce new wrong habits, but what about bedtime feeding? Maybe we will stop breastfeeding, and the association food = sleep will disappear? But WHY end the GW, when you can simply spread the moments of feeding and falling asleep in time.
How to teach a child to fall asleep without breast? When to feed your baby?
You can breastfeed 30 minutes before bedtime. And be sure in the morning (5-8 am) if you plan to keep lactation.
If you want to qualitatively improve the sleep of the whole family, then you can and should teach your child to fall asleep on their own.
Waking up at night, the baby will calmly roll over on his other side, or you just have to say: "sleep, my good", and he will be able to continue his sweet dream.
There are many techniques for teaching yourself to fall asleep, but they are not discussed in this article. Now we are interested in how to wean from falling asleep on the chest, how to separate food and sleep?
We proceed from the fact that the parents decided to wean the baby from falling asleep with the breast. We decided because he is already 2 years old, the child hangs on his chest all night, cries, does not fall asleep and does not get enough sleep; decided because the baby falls asleep only at the breast and sleeps on his mother, and the mother sleeps sitting (and soon it will just go crazy).
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We decided, as we decided - everyone has their own initial data.
Here are some practical ways that you can hopefully adapt to your child's needs and situation.
1. When a baby of 4-6 months suddenly fell asleep without breast by himself - rejoice
If the child himself provides you with this opportunity, do not miss it. This ability (often natural for many children) will greatly facilitate your life in the future.
When the baby wakes up, feed him well. After playing, try to lay him off the chest again. When the baby falls asleep on the chest - great; when not - support it. As a result, sleep will not be dependent on the breast.
2. Conduct preparation
If you decide to stop falling asleep on your chest:
Spend as much time as possible with your baby. Physical contact and closeness will help a lot. A lot of focus during the day - restful sleep at night.
During the day, offer other methods to calm you down - hug, wear, stroke, play together, lie on the bed.
Trust that peace and comfort comes from YOU, not just your chest. Your confidence will be passed on to your child.
3. You can try to change the environment, the ritual of laying down or the immediate "stacker" - most often it is mom
Mom will breastfeed, and then dad or grandmother reads books for 30 minutes, sings a song, hugs and helps the baby fall asleep. On the first night, even on the arms, the main thing is without a breast.
Practice shows that this method often works. Chances increase when there is a fairly clear regime, the ritual of going to bed, the skillful abilities of family members: an affectionate, calm, confident voice and methods of distraction.
4. You can apply one of the methods of teaching self-sleep
There are different teaching methods. BabySleep does not use mom / baby separation (“leave to cry”) and does not recommend them.
We work according to proprietary methods that combine softness and fast efficiency. The methodology is selected by the consultant individually, depending on the age of the child, his individual characteristics and temperament, habits, wishes of the mother and many other factors.
5. Fading technique
Fading is the gentle, gradual separation of food and sleep. We act according to the rule "two steps forward - one back."
The bottom line: We do not refuse to suck before bed! Mom feeds, and then offers to listen to a fairy tale or song, talk, stroke - you need to experiment and find a way to calm down.
The baby may ask for breasts again. It is important that fun and breastfeeding do not happen at the same time. Mom gives the breast, but after a while she picks up the breast again and distracts the child with a book or conversation.
If the baby wants to listen or talk, he stops breastfeeding. At this stage, the mother's goal is for the child to get used to the fact that before bedtime you can listen to something interesting performed by the mother, or that the mother can stroke him, and that you can fall asleep without a breast in your mouth.
After a while, the baby will sometimes be able to fall asleep without a breast in his mouth. When it will be stable to feed a little, then sing or read to fall asleep, you can begin to "forget" to breastfeed for sleep - that is, immediately proceed to other methods of calming. If the child does not want to forget, then let him suck a little.
I wish you good sleep and happy breastfeeding!
Elena Muradova,
Head of the Center for Children's Sleep and Development "BabySleep"
Have you had trouble sleeping with your child? How did you solve them?
One of the rules of on-demand feeding is as follows: the baby needs to be held at the breast as much as he needs. For each baby, the feeding process takes a different amount of time: some need 5 minutes, and some all 30.
To a large extent, it depends on the temperament, the state of the nervous system and the age of the baby. As a rule, the child hangs on the chest in the first weeks of life, when falling asleep, when they are sick or experiencing psychological discomfort. The baby will let go of the breast itself when it is ready for it.
Do I need to alternate breasts when breastfeeding on demand?
It is advisable to give the baby one breast at a time. Breast milk contains "front" and "back" milk. The baby receives the "front" at the beginning of feeding. It contains a lot of liquid, carbohydrates (lactose) and protein. This is a drink for a toddler.
Back milk is food. It comes to the baby at the end of the feed and is rich in fats, polyunsaturated fatty acids and enzymes necessary for the digestion process.
At the end of the feed, the baby continues to hang on the chest and at the same time begins to fall asleep
Fatty milk makes the baby drowsy, and he begins to suck more sluggishly. Often it is at this moment that the mother thinks that the baby is full and fell asleep, and takes the breast from him, thereby depriving the child of full-fledged food.
Why does the baby have colic?
As a rule, due to errors in the organization of feeding on demand. If the mother, thinking that the baby hangs on the breast for too long, interrupts the “lunch” prematurely, the baby does not receive the “back” milk (food).
Rear milk contains a special enzyme - lactase. It breaks down lactose from front milk. If the baby didn’t have time to drink the “back” milk, the undiluted lactose enters the large intestine, where it causes fermentation, increased gas production, disturbed stool and abdominal cramps. All this, in turn, leads to poor weight gain in the baby, anxiety and disturbed sleep.
The baby is hanging on the chest, I interrupt it, the milk becomes less
Your "dairy factory" operates on a demand-supply basis. Due to poor breastfeeding with insufficient sucking, the production of a new portion of milk decreases, and milk stagnation (lactostasis) may also develop. Less demand means less milk, this is a law of nature.
The feeling that the baby's breast is not only for food
Yes, not only. You are his mother, the most dear and dear person with whom the baby was connected by the umbilical cord for 9 months. For children in the first 3 months of life, it is often the norm to breastfeed. With the help of sucking, the baby satisfies the need for physical and emotional contact with the mother, for warmth, safety, in constant care and love. Feeling any discomfort, the baby calls his mother.
Do not forget that young children have a well-developed sucking reflex, and they need to satisfy it.
The first thing a baby gets after birth is the mother's breast. Breastfeeding is such a natural process that a woman after childbirth tries to satisfy this baby's need as much as possible. If the first 1-2 months the situation when the child hangs on the chest for hours seems to be the norm, then over time any mother starts to worry.
Anxiety for a newborn, coupled with the resulting irritation from a lack of free time, can seriously affect the psycho-emotional state of a woman. What are the reasons for many hours of breastfeeding? How to deal with this, and is it necessary?
Reasons for the frequent need for a baby's breast
The complaint that a baby is constantly asking for a breast is one of the most common complaints. It is important to learn to recognize when it is a food source and a calming agent, without letting sucking become fun. The determining factor is the age of the child.
In the first month, the newborn should have unlimited access to the breast, this will help:
- adapt to new living conditions and food;
- start the process of normal digestion;
- get the most valuable vitamins and minerals for the full development of all organs and systems;
- establish emotional contact with mom;
- gain a sense of security from the potential dangers of the outside world.
The volume of the baby's stomach after birth is so small that it is completely natural for his frequent need for breast. You should not limit the baby in this, you need to feed him.
When a child reaches 1.5 - 2 months, most mothers begin to feel burdened by the fact that he hangs on his chest all day. At this time, you can find that the baby has become more resilient - he can already withstand hours between feedings, and in between feedings, just use the breast instead of the nipple. It is not necessary to completely wean him off from this - the child still needs close contact with his mother, but it is already possible to try to distract him with the help of toys.
If, after 6 months, the baby hangs on the chest as often, this becomes a serious problem. At this age, children do not need to be fed according to the first squeak, and breast milk serves as an addition to various complementary foods. It is possible not to deny the child sucking before bedtime - this way he will calm down faster, but the rest of the time the breast is most likely a toy.
Exceptions are growth spurts, when it is important to offer the baby a breast at the first call. They are manifested by vagaries and sleep disturbances at 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 and 6 months. The feeding regimen is restored in a few days, and this difficult period you just need to wait out.
Baby suckles after 2 years
Does the baby have enough breast milk?
When a child hangs on his chest for hours, any mother involuntarily comes to the idea that he is constantly hungry, he does not have enough breast milk. And if the baby is crying without a breast, she is convinced that she is right and transfers the baby to an adapted mixture. This approach is not correct.
First of all, you need to exclude the causes of crying, not related to lack of food:
- Pain. Understanding what makes a baby uncomfortable is not easy. If something hurts him, then he begins to cry pitifully, occasionally turning to a desperate cry.
- Fear. It manifests itself in a loud, hysterical cry. As a rule, the child is afraid of loneliness - in this case, he will first cry softly and calm down, waiting for the arrival of his mother. If this does not happen, the crying intensifies and turns into hysterics.
- Wet diaper. The child will whimper intermittently. If you take him in your arms, he will not calm down.
- The child is cold. If the baby is cold, his limbs become cold, it can begin.
- The child is hot. Crying attacks are accompanied by a flushed face and hot skin.
- Fatigue. The child is naughty, when he tries to rock it, he calms down.
If the baby cries during feeding, this is also not direct evidence of a lack of milk. Crying may indicate inflammation of the oral cavity (for example, about or stomatitis),. In addition, it is important to know which foods the mother eats change the taste of breast milk - the baby may not like it.
If all reasons are excluded, and the baby is still hanging on the breast for several hours in a row, it is necessary to analyze whether he has enough milk.
When breastfeeding, it is almost impossible to tell how much milk your baby has sucked.
Mothers, who are accustomed to measuring everything accurately, have to rely on other ways to determine the degree of satiety of the child:
- Monitoring the quality of sucking.
The baby can hang on the chest for hours without drinking milk. The pharynx should be clearly audible, and the baby's sucking characteristic of food intake should be heard: the retraction of the nipple ends with a pause, then the oral cavity relaxes as much as possible, followed by a sip is clearly heard. One sucking - one sip.
- Chair.
Not a very indicative sign, however, a child who receives only breast milk, 2-3 weeks after birth, should, according to pediatricians, empty the intestines at least 2 times a day. This generally accepted norm is in fact purely individual and depends on the degree of assimilation of milk by the child's body. If the stool is mushy and the bowel movement does not cause discomfort, there is no cause for concern. The absence of a chair for more than 5 days is a good reason to show the baby to the doctor in order to find out the reason, perhaps he is receiving less milk.
- Urination.
A baby who receives enough breast milk fills at least 6 diapers per day. This only applies to exclusively breastfed babies who are not additionally offered water.
The test can also be carried out with regular diapers. If the situation is normal, the baby will urinate 12 or more times a day. If there is less urination, then it is customary to talk about reduced lactation, with an indicator below 6, it is important to show the child to the doctor. In this case, the fears are confirmed and the pediatrician will suggest further actions to prevent dehydration.
The baby is constantly asking for a breast - what to do?
If a mother sees that a child needs a breast for fun, then you need to know how to wean him from this habit.
Children from the age of 3 months become very curious, at this time it is important to show that there are other ways of entertainment - toys, books, joint activities. The child will very quickly switch his attention, but there is no need to hope for a quick result, it will take a little patience. If the child is full and in good health asks for breast, it is necessary to immediately distract him. Such training will soon bear fruit, but only if the baby is suckling out of boredom.
A child who needs her to calm down and contact her mother will not give up long sucking. He simply will not understand why his mother deprives him of his breast and will be capricious even more. Both will fall into a vicious circle: the child is crying - the mother does not give the breast - he cries even more and the breast is already needed - the mother still does not make concessions - the child is hysterical - the mother gives up - the baby sucks again for a long time - the mother is annoyed and tries to take the breast away - the child cries from misunderstanding.
Bottom line: both mother and child are exhausted, one wants to suckle the breast, the other wants to rest. There is only one way out - to wait. At this time, you can organize a joint sleep, and to free your hands - purchase a sling. The difficult period will not last very long, and later mom will not consider it the most difficult test in life.
In the first months, many babies hang on their chest for hours (especially in the evening). There is a lot of information on this topic. But in each case it is necessary to individually understand the causes of the problem.
NORMAL BABY BEHAVIOR.
If your child is healthy, is gaining weight within normal limits, and has regular urination and stool, then the behavior described below is usually normal for the development of the baby. In any case, if something bothers you, it is better to contact a breastfeeding consultant and a pediatrician.
The kid often kisses in the evenings .
Most babies become more moody in the evening and often crave for breast. Some can literally hang on their chests for hours in the evening. Troubled evening hours are quite common. The baby needs to be given more attention, worn on handles or in a sling. Allow him to be at the breast for as long as he wants.
Often evening whims are a reason to make the regimen earlier.
The child constantly asks for a breast if he is sick or thirsty.
During illness, the baby feels calmer and can tolerate pain more easily while breastfeeding. Also, the baby may ask for breast more often when it is very hot.
The child hangs on the chest during difficult periods of development . When a toddler is learning something new, such as rolling over or crawling, breastfeeding can become quite frequent. Frequent attachments can also occur during periods of growth spurt and teething.
ABNORMAL BEHAVIOR.
Do not wait in case of restless behavior of the baby. Better to be safe. Please monitor your baby's weight gain at home, call a breastfeeding counselor, or call a pediatrician at home. The baby's behavior described below may indicate real problems with breast milk sufficiency, problems with latching on and sucking on the baby, or other problems.
A baby who cries, even if you've just fed him, is constantly looking for a breast..
This behavior is considered abnormal if it occurs very often. A few "moody" hours a day is normal. But if the baby constantly hangs on the chest day and night, this is an indicator of a problem. Yes, all mothers and babies are individual: but it is better to play it safe and rule out malnutrition.
The child sleeps too much or too little .
If the child is constantly awake or, on the contrary, sleeps all the time, this may mean that he does not have enough milk or something else is happening to him. If your newborn sleeps at night without waking up for more than five hours in a row - this is not a reason to rejoice, but a reason to be wary. In the first weeks of life, the baby's sleep is evenly distributed over 24 hours and the longest sleep usually does not exceed 4-5 hours. Conversely, if a baby sleeps only in short naps during the first weeks, this may be a symptom of hunger.
How much a child should sleep - look. Significant deviations from the norm should alert you.
Baby sucks for too long at every feed .
Usually the child eats for about 5 to 45 minutes. For the same baby, the duration of one feed may differ each time. But, if your baby suckles for too long with each feed, then it is most likely that he or she has problems sucking milk efficiently. It's time to seek help from a breastfeeding consultant.