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Gestures that betray a lover. A smile is not always a good sign. What signals do a man give

11.03.2015

Men don't always talk directly about their feelings and emotions. Sometimes it is difficult to understand what is going on in his soul, and how he treats his chosen one! If this is the beginning of your acquaintance, pay attention to his gestures. Luckily, a man's body language is text that is easy to read!

Here is a list of signals that indicate his interest.

1. Pay attention to his pupils, they are enlarged. This is a typical brain reaction when it likes something (or someone)!

2. His eyebrows are raised, especially when you speak. He subconsciously makes this gesture to increase his field of vision.

3. He smiles, showing his teeth. Men smile, therefore, only when they are truly happy.

4. The man smiles from ear to ear. A sincere smile causes men in particular to wrinkle their forehead and squint their eyes. If a man smiles in this way, it means that he wants to attract female attention.

5. Focuses his gaze on your face. He's guaranteed to like you if he devotes 80 percent of his attention to looking at your eyes, nose, and mouth.

7. He takes a deep breath when he sees you. The intake of air causes the chest to expand and the waist to narrow. This is a sign that the guy subconsciously wants to be attractive to you.

8. He leans towards you a little when you say something, even if he hears you perfectly. This means a deep interest in your words.

9. When he turns towards you, places his hands on his hips with the elbows out. The man, thus, shows that he wants to focus your attention on himself.

10. When he removes a lint or speck from your blouse, it means that he is trying to initiate physical contact in order to see your reaction. Wants to be closer to you.

11. Sits with legs wide apart. Thanks to this position, he shows his very sensitive "masculinity". This is a subconscious way to show not only the openness of the personality, but also mental activity.

12. Moves (carefully) a little closer if you are sitting next to. This means that he is hunting you.

13. Involuntarily directs the toe of the shoe in your direction. However, if you touch his shoulder and you notice that his legs are moving away from you, it means that he has lost interest.

14. Swinging legs - an attempt to attract attention. If a man crosses his legs or stretches out, this means a lack of interest on his part. If, he shifts from foot to foot, but the rest of his body is facing you, this means shyness.

15. Comes closer to you when you say something. This is a sign of interest.

16. If during a conversation he does not focus his gaze on you, this means that he is looking out for someone else. However, if he asks a lot of questions and looks for similarities, and his gaze wanders, this may mean sheer shyness.

17. Touches his neck. This can mean not only interest, but also fear about your relationship. It depends on the context.

18. When he holds your hand, interlaces his fingers around yours, it means that he wants to get to know you better.

19. Touches your hand when he speaks. This means that he wants your attention, wants to be heard. There is a desire to impress.

20. Casually touches your leg, but quickly removes his hand. This means that the man is interested in having sex with you. If, he removes his hand, slowly, and at the same time smiles, this means that he loves you very much.

21. Walks next to you, and at the same time does not notice the road ahead of him. However, if he walks several steps ahead of you, he is more focused on himself.

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The ability to understand people well is very helpful in building any relationship, including love relationships. The better you feel and understand your partner, the fewer mistakes you make when communicating with him, and the easier it is for you to control the situation and direct your relationship in the right direction. In addition, if you see a person through and through and know how to distinguish when he is trying to deceive you, and when he speaks the truth, then you will definitely not become a victim of a womanizer or an adventurer who wants to make you a toy in his hands.

And in order to understand people well and see through them, you only need one thing - to learn to understand the language of non-verbal gestures. Non-verbal gestures can tell a lot about a person, even against his will. The fact is that it is much easier for a person to control his words than to control facial expressions and gestures. This is how a lie is recognized - when a person says one thing, and his facial expressions and gestures testify to something completely different!

Knowing the language of non-verbal gestures and carefully observing a person's behavior, you can learn a lot of important information about him: how he treats you, what mood he is in at the moment, what character traits are inherent in him. Especially such knowledge can be useful to you when you are in love and want to understand whether your feelings are mutual. So, if you want to learn to understand non-verbal sign language, let's start learning it:

Behavior, gestures and facial expressions of a man in love

Recognizing whether a man is in love or not is not always easy. Some men, having fallen in love, seek to hide their feelings from the woman they love and try to look cold and unapproachable. And sometimes men, on the contrary, play out a passion that they really don't feel in order to seduce a woman they like. But non-verbal gestures never lie, and it is from them that you can easily understand what a man really feels.

First of all, a man in love has a special sparkle in his eyes, which simply cannot be overlooked. Love inspires a man, gives him additional strength and stimulus to life - and this is very reflected in his behavior in general. A man in love is more mobile, more energetic and ready for any deeds. Especially when the woman he loves is nearby. Some men in love, from an overabundance of feelings, sometimes control themselves poorly, and therefore do stupid things or say something out of place. And then they get very embarrassed and worried. In short, when a man is in love, it can be seen with the naked eye!

If a man is in love with a woman, then at the sight of this woman his appearance will be greatly transformed. Wanting to please her, he will certainly dignify himself, straighten his back, pull in his stomach, smooth his hair, straighten his clothes. Very often men in love begin to behave somewhat demonstratively, subconsciously wanting to draw the woman's attention to their masculine qualities. Typical non-verbal gestures of a man who wants to please a woman: thumbs put behind a trouser belt, legs wide apart, hands on hips, unbuttoning the top button on a shirt, etc.

If you are in a large company of men and women and you see that a man, during a conversation with you, shows clear signs of falling in love, do not rush to think that he is in love with you, but first pay attention to whether the socks of his shoes are directed in your direction. The fact is that when a man likes a woman, he unconsciously turns his torso in her direction, or puts his leg forward in the direction of the desired woman.

When a man holds his hands in his pockets with his thumbs up, this is also a non-verbal gesture with a sexual connotation. Moreover, this gesture speaks not only of sexual interest, but also of the desire of a strong and domineering man to conquer the woman he likes and achieve dominance over her.

A clear sign that a man is in love with you is if you meet him too often in the most unexpected places. A man in love is quite capable of starting to follow his beloved woman and arrange such "random meetings" in order to get to know each other better. And if a man, each time seeing you from afar, immediately begins to smile, comes up to you first and strikes up a conversation on some abstract topic, you can be sure that he is trying to make friends with you, in order to then transfer the relationship into the category of close ones.

Do not forget that the eyes are the mirror of a person's soul, and therefore they necessarily reflect the feelings that a person is experiencing at the moment. Look closely into the eyes of the man who is caring for you. If his gaze is cold and calm, then there can be no question of any passion on his part, even if he is scattered with beads in front of you and filled with a nightingale. If his eyes are wide open, the pupils are slightly dilated, the eyebrows are slightly raised, and his gaze shines with love - you can have no doubt about the feelings of this man.

And one more very important point: pay attention to where the man's gaze is directed during a conversation with you. If he keeps looking you in the eyes, it can be concluded from this that the feelings that he has for you are deep and sublime. If he looks at your lips, then he wants to kiss you. If his gaze slides over your figure, lingering on your chest, hips, legs - he likes you, but he most likely has a purely sexual interest in you.

If a man, during a conversation with a woman, casually unbuttons a button on his shirt, takes off his watch or jacket, straightens or looses his tie, these are also non-verbal gestures with sexual connotations, which indicate that the man is impatient to switch from words to the point. That is, undress and make love to a woman.

In order not to be mistaken and not to take wishful thinking, try to draw conclusions about a man's attitude towards you not on any one sign, but on the basis of an analysis of his entire behavior as a whole. Starting from looks and gestures and ending with actions. Please note: if a man is a womanizer, he will unconsciously try to please any woman who comes into his field of vision. Therefore, in order to state that a man is in love with you, you must have sufficiently good reason for this. Do not deceive yourself, so as not to be disappointed later!

One of the important signs by which you can judge how a man treats you is the distance at which he prefers to communicate with you. The fact is that each person has a personal space (about a meter), into which he lets only the closest people. If a man does not come closer than a meter to you during a conversation, then he is unlikely to get closer to you and let you into his life. But if a man is always trying to get close to you, this probably means that he is not against transferring your relationship to the category of close ones.

A 100% sign that clearly indicates that a man likes you - if he consciously or unconsciously tries to touch you. If a man takes you by the hand, hugs you by the shoulders or the waist, supports you under the elbow, then you can be sure that at least he likes you. By behaving in this way, a man not only shows you his affection, but also wants to demonstrate to other men that you are his woman, whom they should not pretend to be.

And there is certainly no doubt that a man wants to charm and seduce you if he suddenly starts to brag about his life achievements in front of you - work, salary, career, car, shopping, etc. he is strong, successful and wonderful!

Non-verbal gestures showing lack of interest

Along with non-verbal gestures that indicate falling in love and interest, there are also gestures that betray indifference and disinterest. And if your interlocutor unconsciously demonstrates such gestures, you can immediately conclude that he is absolutely indifferent to you.

One of the most obvious gestures that speaks of the desire to close off the interlocutor and curtail communication are arms crossed on the chest. Crossed legs say about the same thing.

If a man crosses his arms or legs during a conversation, and even does not look you in the eyes, think about how you got him so that your company became unpleasant for him. Maybe you were tactless or obsessive?

A man who clearly does not want to make contact with you can behave as follows: often turn away from you, all the time avert his eyes to the side, cover his ears with his palms, or even invite someone else to your company. This behavior of a man clearly demonstrates his desire to run away from you, to protect himself from communication with you, to get rid of your society.

When a man is bored in your company and has absolutely no interest in you, he may begin to yawn, his gaze will become defocused and distracted. At the same time, a man will look anywhere - at the ceiling, at the clock, at his hands - but not at you.

If a man is nervous, in a hurry somewhere and wants to turn off the conversation as quickly as possible, he will be given the following non-verbal gestures: the ends of his shoes directed towards the door, a running gaze, fidgeting on a chair and nervous spinning in the hands of various objects. If your interlocutor has already furtively glanced at his watch for several times, do not torment him, let him go!

Indeed, the ability to understand non-verbal sign language opens up great opportunities for people in terms of communication with each other! Even if you will communicate with a foreigner who cannot pronounce words in your language, non-verbal gestures will help you understand each other and exchange the necessary information. Think about it: gestures and facial expressions have arisen long before ancient people learned to communicate with words!

But despite the fact that mankind has mastered verbal speech many thousands of years ago, the language of non-verbal gestures has not lost its relevance to this day - and this says a lot! So, learn to understand gestures and facial expressions if you want to read in the souls of other people, as in an open book. The better you understand non-verbal sign language, the easier it will be for you to build relationships with people around you and, in particular, with the opposite sex. Indents around the form

Many misunderstandings between men and women arise from ignorance and inability to decipher each other's gestures. The fair sex definitely needs to understand what the gestures of men mean. After all, this knowledge will provide invaluable help in various situations that are associated with communication with men. Misunderstood gestures are often the cause of emotional conflict, misconduct, and mental devastation. It should be noted right away that male gestures differ from female ones.

This circumstance can be explained very simply. The fact is that a woman aims to please all people around her at the same time, while a man wants to please one particular girl. No wonder that male sign language quite different from female sign language. It is also worth noting that mankind inherited both male and female gestures from its animal ancestors - monkeys (according to Darwin).

Male gestures that demonstrate love and sympathy without overt subtext can be both subconscious and quite conscious. According to research, a man who is surrounded by pretty girls undergoes some psychosomatic changes. In particular, for a man in the company of the opposite sex:

  • posture is noticeably straightened;
  • muscle tone increases significantly;
  • the stomach is visibly drawn in.

It even happens that a man's bags under his eyes disappear.

TO gestures of a man in love can be attributed to various manipulations with appearance. In other words, if a man likes a girl, then he involuntarily starts to smarten up. For example, if a man is at the parade (in a shirt and tie), then his hands will involuntarily straighten his collar and tie. Take a closer look, if a man in your presence strokes his hair, shakes off dust from his shoulder, which is not there at all, and straightens the buttons, then it is quite possible that he is breathing unevenly towards you. All the gestures of a man in love are always aimed at looking more masculine and more attractive in the eyes of a woman.

Male sympathy gestures without a hint of more are manifested in communication. For example, if during a conversation with a man his mouth is slightly open, then this means that he is pleased with communication. When communicating with a nice interlocutor, a man involuntarily opens his mouth a little for a short period of time until his eyes meet the interlocutor. A man's interest in someone is instantly reflected on his face, which becomes friendly and open. In this case, joy appears in the eyes, a smile plays on the lips and eyebrows are raised.

Male sign language

Male gestures - placing thumbs behind the belt... This automatic gesture and its variations (for example, placing thumbs in the slots of pockets) are expressions of masculinity. With this gesture, a man focuses attention on the most important thing that he has. This gesture can mean two things, depending on who the gesture is made with. If a man uses this gesture surrounded by other men, then he thus marks his territory and challenges all the surrounding representatives of the stronger sex. But in the presence of girls, the same gesture takes on a slightly different, more frank shade. With this gesture, a man demonstrates his sympathy and his disposition for a woman. In this case, the man's pupils dilate, and the body and toe of the leg are directed towards the woman he likes, and

Men gestures - hands on the belt... With this frank gesture, representatives of the strong half of humanity demonstrate physical strength, masculinity and readiness to interact. This gesture expresses a man's genuine interest in a particular girl. In this context, this gesture, as a rule, is accompanied by an interested glance, which lingers on the woman for a little longer than it should be.

Male gestures - raised and lowered eyebrows... In communication, men often give out their true feelings by involuntary raising or lowering of their eyebrows. For example, if a man is interested in a man as a good interlocutor, then his eyebrows are slightly raised. If communication with this or that person is a burden for a man, then his eyebrows drop, and his gaze “fades”. By the way, according to the same gestures, you can determine whether a man likes and is interested in the topic of the conversation.

In order to capture the attention of a woman, men resort to various methods: they use bright gestures and perform beautiful actions. Fighting for the attention of a girl he likes, a man demonstrates his individuality and tries to stand out from the crowd.

When a man wants to please a girl, he is permanently preoccupied with his appearance. When worried, he automatically adjusts his shirt collar, tie and haircut. Moreover, it does it quite often.

A man who wants to please a girl closely examines her figure. With his scorching look, he makes it clear to the girl that he likes her. Please note that this gesture is quite deliberate.

Wanting to please a girl, men use special gestures that visually demonstrate to the chosen one an athletic figure and extraordinary abilities. Of course, such boasting cannot fail to bring a smile. But this is how a man wants to show you that he is stunningly handsome and amazingly talented.

So, today we talked about what the gestures of men mean. We hope this article will help you understand a man by his slightest gesture. Be happy!

Maryana Andreeva, Become a Lady

It has long been known that much more information can be learned from the sign language of men than from ordinary conversation. Gestures will instantly give out real feelings, even when the person is hiding them. Knowing the body language and gestures of men, you can not only guess what the interlocutor is thinking, but also his specific intentions. And this, you see, will come in handy in any situation. So, we will present several options that will help any woman think over her future behavior:

Guys gestures that mean sympathy

In the presence of the object of sympathy, the guy straightens his clothes, smoothes or ruffles his hair, so subconsciously he tries to look better. His attempts to get closer are indicated by his intrusion into your personal space and his head tilted towards you during your conversation. A fleeting touch betrays his interest in you.

A sign of good mutual understanding between the interlocutors is the similarity of the postures and communication style. When a man copies your movements, there are two options: either he consciously adjusts to you or does it unconsciously. But in any case, it's good, he makes contact.

Lack of interest in a man in sign language

Sometimes, after the first date, the girl is lost in conjecture why the young man does not call her. But if she knew how to understand the guy's gestures, it would be clear to her that he did not like her. So, if a guy is bored, he internally disagrees with you, the discussion becomes a burden for him, he only thinks about how to leave as soon as possible, you will notice such gestures: touching his ear, supporting his chin with his palm, the toes of his feet will be directed towards the exit ... Boredom is also indicated by the tapping of the foot on the floor, the clicking of the cap of a fountain pen, the automatic painting of the paper, and a blank stare. When you appear, he crosses his arms or legs - you have no chance, he does not see you as a woman and a sexual partner.

Lies in male sign language

Knowing what the guy's gestures mean, you can easily determine when he will lie. His hand reaches out to his mouth or touches his nose, during your conversation, most likely you should not trust what he said. A person telling a lie, looks away, occasionally looking into your eyes to make sure that you believe him. An inexperienced liar will mumble, transfer the conversation to another topic, fiddle with foreign objects in his hands. An experienced liar, in order not to miss your reaction, on the contrary, will carefully look into your eyes. At the same time, he will often squint or blink.

Male sign language should be interpreted very carefully, as some gestures have a double meaning. For example, nervousness and shifting gaze do not necessarily indicate a lie - the same behavior will be in a shy and squeezed person. You can unmistakably understand a man by analyzing his actions.

To understand the gestures of the guys, in your free time, observe others, analyze their actions. So you can see the patterns that people use even with meager gestures and facial expressions. Simple exercises can be used to train mindfulness. Turn on the TV without sound and focus on the dialogue on the screen. Observe the facial expressions and gestures of your interlocutors. Try to guess what the conversation is about, and what is the position of who. After a while, you can turn on the sound and test yourself. At first use feature films for training. Actors, in order to enhance the impression and convey emotions, try to actively use gestures. When there are no difficulties with films, you can switch to programs with politicians and journalists. These people are trained to hide their feelings and emotions. When you begin to guess their thoughts, consider that you are already an expert.

It would not be entirely correct to characterize a man by only one facial expression or a couple of separate gestures. It is important to generally perceive the entire body language and draw conclusions from the totality of all signals.

Have you ever thought about the fact that body language: facial expressions, gestures and other non-verbal manifestations help to learn much more about the interlocutor than words? If you've read Allan Pease, a renowned non-verbal professional or other non-verbal professional, it shouldn't be difficult for you to tell by his gestures that a man is in love.

For those who are hearing about non-verbal cues for the first time, this article will help you read the body and gesture language of a man in love like an open book.

Why facial expressions and gestures speak more than words

Silent movie actors - Charlie Chaplin and others could show their abilities on the screen, tell the viewer what the movie is about, only through non-verbal communication: gestures, facial expressions, looks.

American psychologist Albert Meyerabian established empirically that 55% of information in interpersonal communication is transmitted through body language, and with the help of words only 7% (!), The remaining 38% are accounted for by the perception of sound signals: timbre, intonation, tone of voice.

You have often heard the expression “female intuition”. In fact, it is the ability to read body language, to understand the true state of affairs by facial expressions, gestures, even if it contradicts words. This skill is more developed in a woman, because, raising her children, for the first few years she has to rely only on the non-verbal signals of babies. Every mother is very successful in this task.

Couples who have been married for many years often communicate easily through non-verbal cues. It is enough for a woman to cast a "murderous" look at her husband, as he fully understands her message. You don't even need to open your mouth.

The eloquence of body language is due to the fact that a person is still a biological being, more highly developed than animals, but the instincts have not gone anywhere. It is instinctive manifestations that cause automatic psychological reactions, expressed by gestures, facial expressions and other uncontrollable behavioral factors.

Sign language of a man in love with the presence of a woman to whom falling in love is directed is characterized by very specific signals, and read about them below.

Loud silence or how to understand without words that a man is in love

No matter how confident a person is, it is incredibly difficult to utter aloud about quivering feelings, especially if it is love or love. Often, when the gentleman is ripe for recognition (if at all), the woman has long known about the love of the fan. Body language helps her.

What is the difference between the behavior, gestures and facial expressions of a man in love, aimed at the "object of increased attention" from those that are manifested in an ordinary setting?

  • The first thing to look out for is the eyes. Psychologists have noticed that if a person, in this case, "our" hero, wants to please, arouse interest, attract attention (is this not a longed-for desire of a lover?), Then his pupils dilate significantly. The eyes turn into "whirlpools".
  • Pay attention to the eyebrows. If a man is in love, when he meets the object of sympathy, he involuntarily makes a subtle movement of his eyebrows or one eyebrow for a split second - lifts it up.
  • A man in love has a special look, passing through the line of the eyes, down through the chin to other parts of the woman's body. With close communication, the gaze goes down to the chest line, with a longer distance between the communicators, it goes down to the lower body. This look is called intimate. Most women unmistakably identify this look. And when the ladies themselves look at a potential gentleman with such a look, the “male” does not know how to read the non-verbal message, to the great female disappointment.
  • A man in love unconsciously begins to smarten up: straighten his tie. If he does not wear it, then his hands still involuntarily reach for the neck or shoulders to straighten the collar or brush off a non-existent speck of dust, straighten his hair.
  • When a man sees a woman, he straightens his shoulders, raises his head, and draws in his stomach. Such gestures show his interest, the desire to please.
  • To understand the body language of a man in love, you should pay attention to the position of the body, legs. If the toes of the shoe are turned towards the woman, or there is a full turn of the body towards the lady, approaching is a sign of interest. This sign is easy to track on the example of a large company, you can immediately see from the toes of shoes who is most disposed to whom.
  • Non-verbal signs of falling in love can be expressed in an intimate gesture: a man puts his thumbs behind the belt of his trousers. Only, carefully, in relation to a competitor, a gesture can mean aggression, discontent. The interlocutor can keep his hands on his hips, or, if sitting on a chair, stretch his legs. By this, subconsciously, he shows his physical strength, his readiness to interact with a woman, "highlights" the genital area.
  • If he, as if by chance, touches you, takes your hand or "accidentally" touches your hair, such gestures make it clear that a person is pleased to be around, there is a desire to be closer.
  • When a man is in love, he repeats your body movements, nods imperceptibly (sometimes with his eyes only) listening to you, catches glances. These reactions express empathy (emotional adjustment), the desire to protect and preserve.

If you notice, two or three of the described non-verbal signals from a potential gentleman is a reason to think, to observe. But if at a meeting with you there is a complete set of the described gestures, behavioral features - do not hesitate - this man is in love with you.

Gestures that have no place in the behavior of a man in love: crossing arms, clutching hands in a lock (closed poses), half-closed eyelids, yawning while communicating with a lady (a sign of boredom in relation to the interlocutor), twitching the corner of the lips, touching his mouth with a hand, rubbing century, while looking at the floor (signs that he is lying, hides the truth).