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What are the most valuable qualities of a man? What qualities women appreciate in men

It is not always and not immediately possible to determine and understand what fate has brought with the person who is worth appreciating. This comes from ignorance of valuable human qualities or their incorrect assessment. Unfortunately, often people make mistakes, missing the chance to be happy precisely because they could not see the valuable person next to them. What qualities should be valued in people?

Every person wants to have a good family, a loving partner, loyal friends, and friendly colleagues at work. These are the values ​​that, along with health, self-realization, material well-being and personal freedom, are also the needs of the individual.

Everyone dreams of a wonderful close and trusting relationship, but few people realize with which partner such a relationship can develop. Without the necessary knowledge, experience and a concrete image of a valuable person, it is difficult to appreciate the worthy person with whom you were lucky enough to meet.

It is not for nothing that there is a saying “What we have, we do not store, and when we lose, we cry.” Sometimes the value of a person is realized only when it is too late.

Value in the broad sense of the word - the importance, significance, benefit of something. This or that personality trait becomes valuable when it is assessed as significant and useful. A person becomes personally significant for another when a number or one of its valuable qualities is realized.

When a person's behavior corresponds to what is proper and expected, he likes it outwardly or has something in common with the individual himself (similarity in appearance, interests, views, preferences always gives rise to sympathy), then he is assessed as good.

Any positive and even negative, but attractive personality traits can be perceived as valuable, but they are not always so.

Valuable are the qualities that are important and necessary for building adequate harmonious relationships.

Another person's worth determined the system of values ​​of a particular person and society as a whole (norms of morality and ethics). However, the value of any personality trait relative... Depending on the society, the type of relationship, age, gender, social status, mentality, etc., different character traits and behavioral features are valued.

For example, such a quality as extreme scrupulousness characterizes a person as a good worker, but it can harm friendship. Another example: at the age of 18 it is important for a girl that her chosen one has a sense of humor, and at 28 she already considers it absolutely unimportant, and values ​​responsibility, honesty and care.

However, there are also such human qualities that, of course, are important and valuable for one and all.

Five universal human values

What human qualities should be appreciated in people always, regardless of what kind of relationship you want to build? Those quality which in themselves are common human values:

  1. Honesty... An honest, sincere, open, decent person is a reliable partner. He very rarely resorts to lies and deception, and only in those cases when it is necessary for the good. It is difficult to meet a crystal clear person, but honesty and decency are valued everywhere: at work, in the family, in love and friendship.

By linking your life with a dishonest, cunning, deceitful person, you can harm your psyche, physical health, material well-being, and relationships with loved ones. The moral upheaval that one constantly has to endure when a lie is discovered is nothing more than a psychological trauma. Just remember the phenomenon that destroys families and destinies - adultery.

A liar "steals" someone else's time. When entering into a relationship with an even person, you can be sure that time with him will not be wasted, it will be sincere feelings and relationships, and not a feigned game. A sincere person will not manipulate, provoke, use another for his own selfish purposes.

  1. Kindness. Just like honesty is not a very private phenomenon these days, especially if kindness is disinterested. A kind person does not intentionally harm, does not hold evil, knows how to forgive.

Kind people tend to be altruistic, kindhearted, generous, sympathetic, not critical or envious. Their actions show respect and love for people. They are capable of selflessness and heroism for the sake of others, as they are not selfish.

  1. Empathy. The ability to understand and accept another person without judgment is an important component of any close relationship, especially love. Sensitivity, the ability to listen and hear, sympathize, support, comfort, give wise advice, be near in difficult times are incredibly valuable qualities and actions.

When a person empathizes, he “lives” with another person and with him. A person capable of empathy is unlikely to betray, deceive, abandon, but will be a faithful, loyal and complicit assistant and support.

  1. Mind. This concept can include such personality traits as: rationality, prudence, education, intelligence, insight and wisdom. It is always interesting to communicate with an intelligent person; next to him it is impossible not to develop as a person.

An intelligent person, as a rule, is well-mannered, responsible, restrained, looks at life philosophically, does not make rash decisions, does not commit insane acts, and chooses peaceful ways of resolving conflicts. In addition, smart people understand the need to work on themselves and on relationships, and, most importantly, they know how to appreciate what they have.

  1. Optimism. At first glance, this is not the most important human quality (in the end, everyone is free to choose to look at the world positively or negatively), however, pessimistic people pull themselves and their environment “to the bottom”, and optimists in any difficult situation believe in the best and do not give up, which means they are able to achieve more.

Being an optimist is not easy in difficult times, but losing faith in yourself and hoping for the best is not an option. It is easier and easier to live with people who are benevolent, cheerful, cheerful. Optimism presupposes activity and determination. Next to such a person, one will want to grow and develop as a person.

List of valuable personality traits

In addition to universal human values ​​and valuable personality traits, there are others that are important and useful, but at the same time especially expected from men, women, workers, friends, as well as those qualities that affect a person's positive attitude towards himself.

V female character traits such as are valuable:

  • patience,
  • modesty,
  • tenderness,
  • softness,
  • sensitivity,
  • intuitive flair,
  • femininity.

V male character is valuable:

  • masculinity,
  • courage,
  • a responsibility,
  • persistence,
  • purposefulness,
  • pragmatism,
  • self confidence,
  • intelligence.

V employee such qualities are appreciated:

  • hard work,
  • conscientiousness,
  • diligence,
  • discipline,
  • punctuality,
  • a responsibility,
  • persistence,
  • accuracy.

Good friend there will be a person whose character is:

  • sociability,
  • responsiveness,
  • benevolence,
  • respect for people,
  • collectivism,
  • devotion,
  • the ability to support in difficult times.

And in order to be able to realize the value self, need to have:

  • self-esteem,
  • moderate self-criticism,
  • honesty towards yourself,
  • self-love.

It is important to be able to appreciate worthy people in order to be able to build harmonious and productive relationships, thereby making your life happier.

Do you know how to appreciate others?

There is a fair opinion that a man has only one one hundred percent means of attracting female attention - money. But if you temporarily exclude the wallet from the list of male virtues, then it immediately becomes unclear: what male quality attracts girls the most?

In order to find out this circumstance and finally dot the “i's”, a large-scale poll of women's opinion was conducted. All interviewed representatives of the fair sex were asked the same question: what makes a man attractive in their eyes?

The results were carefully analyzed by a group of experts, and they not only compiled a list of 20 classic masculine qualities that attract women, but also revealed a general trend. It turned out that modern women value more the moral and personal qualities of a man than his appearance. Although, what are we telling you? Judge for yourself.

Of course, the main thing for a woman in a man is his personality and intelligence, but appearance is also of no small importance. So what do women value about male attractiveness?

Sense of style
The way we dress says a lot to women about us. A man with a sense of style gets extra points, because if he is able to combine a shirt with a tie, he will be able to appreciate how beautiful, radiant and unique his partner looks this evening. So, buy a discount card at the nearest dry cleaner, and when choosing clothes in the store, give preference to showy, soft fabrics such as suede, cashmere and corduroy.

Beautiful face
The science of attractiveness, which man has been trying to comprehend since time immemorial, tells us that it's all about symmetry. Imagine your face is split in two by a vertical red line. Are its halves the same? Are the eyes aligned? Are the wings of the nose the same? The more symmetry, the more attractive your appearance. Among other things, women interviewed indicated that wide chins, prominent cheekbones and large eyes drive them crazy.

Height
A tall, handsome brunette is the ideal man for many respondents. Women admitted that they love to be shorter than men, even if height does not always mean strength.

Muscle mass
Modern men should spend more time in the bathroom than in the gym. In any case, this is evidenced by the survey data. The vast majority of women indicated that they value a clean-shaven face more than hefty biceps. Of course, muscle mass tells a girl that you will be able to stand up for yourself and for her, but, nevertheless, a neat, well-groomed man has a better chance of winning her heart.

Good physical form
A beautiful body speaks of the discipline and self-control of its owner. So, if the body does not work out, do not be discouraged: practice discipline and self-control.

Loyalty
Women's desire to be confident in the attachment of a partner is explained by natural instincts. The girl wants to know for sure that today, tomorrow and the day after tomorrow the man will bring the "booty" to her house, to her children, and not go to that painted otter from the neighboring "cave".

Kindness
Young girls fall for good guys, but women who are more experienced are attracted by kindness. In other words, if, on a date in a restaurant, a girl sees how condescending you were to a waitress who accidentally poured a bottle of Bordeaux on your pants, she will conclude that her mistakes will also be forgiven.

Honesty
Having a man of such a quality as honesty informs the girl that her boyfriend is potentially prone to kindness, caring, decency and long-term relationships. If the latter is not included in your plans, you know what to do - start shamelessly lying.

Intelligence
A resourceful, intelligent man is an object of female pride. Well, who else would have guessed to buy Chinese blue bedding and become an Avatar overnight? A problem-solving man instills confidence in women; it is never boring with a man who is constantly working on himself.

Passion
Ever wonder why girls fall for pop stars? The stars are passionate and ardent. Women love the display of passion. Want to win a girl's heart? Become a passionate admirer of equestrian sports, the work of the Impressionists, the animal welfare society, finally.

Generosity
The survey has shown that women over 35 value generosity most of all. Please note that generosity does not mean going to a restaurant on March 8th. In the female sense, a generous man is not only the one who gives her gorgeous bouquets, but also devotes his time and listens to her attentively.

Paternal qualities
The presence of paternal qualities (at least inclinations to them) makes you an object of female sympathy. Patience and caring are two qualities that girls love. If you have not yet become a father and cannot describe how cute your little son painted a thousand-dollar Cardin suit with felt-tip pens, just tell or think of your favorite nephew to whom you regularly bring a melted McDonald's horn.

Listening skills
Attention! A woman feels safer and safer when she knows that her man is ready to put his laptop aside and listen to her from start to finish. Magic words: " I'm here dear. Tell me what happened».

Romance
Romance has a direct effect on the illogical right hemisphere of the female brain. Every girl dreams of being conquered. This method has been tested by many generations of men (you shouldn't be equal to Romeo - he finished badly).

The art of sex
This isn't just about orgasms. Girls believe that if a man takes into account their interests in bed, then he will do the same during the rest of the day. So caring for her pleasure is a key factor in your combat glory.

Good earnings
At least one in five women surveyed noted that a man's ability to earn money affects his attractiveness. If you are a purposeful person, women see you as a reliable life partner.

Self confidence
When a man is confident in himself and his strengths, this feeling is transmitted to his other half. By showing that you are able to handle both a rude stranger at a bus stop and a difficult situation, you tell your girlfriend that she has nothing to worry about with you.

But in general, the desired self-confidence, from the point of view of psychologists and from the point of view of ordinary people, are completely different things. How we all value and yearn for self-confidence! She is considered almost one of the main virtues of the modern civilized world. Who do we represent as an example of a confident person? Well, some cheeky leader of a political party like Zhirinovsky, a Nobel laureate, or a bank president getting out of a Mercedes ... Or just the President. But this is how you imagine it.

And psychologists have a completely different opinion on this matter. They are firmly convinced that they are truly confident in themselves ... a lucky man who sits on a tree stump in the middle of a clearing, serenely nibbles a hump and feels himself in perfect order. By the way, it is people who are quite successful in making a career that most often turn to a psychotherapist with the problem of self-doubt.

True, they themselves do not complain about the lack of confidence and often do not realize this problem. It disguises itself as other problems: excessive anxiety or aggressiveness, loss of taste for life, etc.


Reliability
Three out of four women interviewed admitted that they have been looking for a man all their lives, behind whom they will be like a stone wall. That is why this quality is in second place on our list. The male sense of responsibility, like an electromagnetic coil, attracts women.

Sense of humor
The ability to make laugh is so highly valued by women that we had to put it first in the ranking of the classic personality traits of men that girls like. If you have a sense of humor, give yourself a fat plus. Its presence suggests that you are not a bore and that you are easy on life.

Almost every man dreams of looking desirable handsome in the eyes of women, but what exactly do they need? Are you also interested in this question? Then let's read what the women themselves say.

Loyalty (84%)

8 out of 10 women ranked loyalty as the first of 10 attributes they consider sexy in a man. A woman's tendency to attachment is her natural trait. Therefore, learn to be true to your choice and then you can be called a real man. Prove your loyalty with deeds, but also do not forget about words. Tell your darling as often as possible that you will never leave her.

Reliability (75%)

Three out of four women say they are looking for a reliable person who fulfills their promises and gets things done. Being responsible, even if it just means remembering little things, is a good sign that you are capable of bigger things too.

Kindness (67%)

Young women may still fall in love with “bad” guys, but more experienced women are attracted to kindness in men, because it gives them confidence in their chosen one. In other words, if you are good to the people around you, and not just to your beloved, it will speak of your kind heart no matter the circumstances.

Moral purity (66%)

Having the courage to speak the truth is a sign for a woman that you are capable of being a good, caring, worthy partner for her for a long time. Avoid any form of lying. A small, innocent, in your opinion, lie can sow mistrust in the heart of your chosen one and it will be difficult to restore it. Just think, why would you lie?

Paternal qualities (51%)

Being a good father (or you can become one) is a role model that shows that you are patient and caring and treat a woman like a partner. If you have not yet become a father, then tell her about your beloved niece or nephew, about how you love children. Be considerate of children when meeting families of friends, for example.

Sense of humor (77%)

The ability to laugh at the troubles of this world is a mandatory quality that women consider essential for men. It's a plus for you if you can make them laugh. Humor will tell the woman that you can laugh at what you have read and can easily endure many of the difficulties that you face in your life. It is easy for a woman with a cheerful man, a small happy child is revealed in her herself, when he knows how to joke on time and create a relaxed atmosphere.

Education and intelligence (55%)

A well-rounded man is a person she can boast of. Men who take responsibility for solving problems make women feel safe and never bored with men who pay attention to their self-education. A woman should feel that he is able to make important decisions and think about everything in advance.

Self-confidence (41%)

A person who feels safe will make a woman feel safe too. By showing that you can handle strangers or situations, you are telling the woman that she doesn't need to be afraid of anything either.

Generosity / sacrifice (38%)

This quality is more appreciated by women over 35 years old than those who are younger than this age. Generosity, however, means more than dining at a four-star restaurant. Your generosity towards other people will show that you have enough and do not worry about being stranded if you help someone. Also, your willingness to sacrifice your time and listen to her is something that women appreciate very much.

Listening skills (53%)

Pay attention to her. A woman feels comfortable and safe when she knows that her man has put his affairs aside and listens to her. For her, these are magic words: “I am here. Tell me everything." It is not always necessary to immediately offer a solution to all her problems. Perhaps she was not going to solve them right now. But the opportunity to tell someone about her feelings will calm her down and maybe even help her come to some kind of decision herself.

Romance (48%)

Romance is a quality that the right hemisphere of the brain is responsible for. Every woman dreams of a man kneeling at her feet. Romance takes courage because you show your desires to a woman and show your vulnerable side, which women find irresistible.

The ability to be sensual in bed (35%)

A woman knows that if a man takes care of her in bed, he will take care of her outside. Your enthusiasm for her body is more important than your sexual prowess. This means that you need to listen to the rhythm and desire of your beloved, feel her and try to completely please her, and not yourself. When it happens 100% of everyone in a marriage, it's amazing!

Cooking, cleaning, etc. (23%)

Self-sufficiency means that you have no expectations that she will be like your mom. Help her with cooking or cleaning from time to time. You can choose a special day, when you will do it completely on your own or without a schedule, just sometimes participate in what she does around the house. Being together like this brings together and enhances a sense of security. The main thing is in what frame of mind you begin to help!

Earning opportunities (21%)

One in five women surveyed said that a man's success in his career contributes to his sexuality, reinforces confidence in him as a powerful fortress behind which to hide in times of trouble. If you have demonstrated talent, ability to achieve goals, and you have a job, this will give the woman the confidence that you can provide for the family. Material wealth, not necessarily beyond measure, but such that it makes it possible to cover the needs of the family, makes the woman feel protected next to you.

Sense of style (30%)

The way you dress affects the woman you live with, and she knows it. A man who knows how to choose an appropriate shirt and tie will notice when she is well dressed. But you don't always have to be dressed in a suit or perfectly ironed shirt to be stylish. Have your own style.

Nice face (26%)

The science of being attractive, which has been studied up and down, says that it's all about symmetrical facial features. Imagine that you have a dashed red line drawn vertically through the center of your face, passing through your nose. Are your facial features the same in shape and position on either side of the line? Are your eyes and ears on the same level? The more symmetrical one side of your face is to the other, the more attractive you are. Women are also noted as the most attractive men with wide chins, high cheekbones and large eyes. The best way to improve your appearance is to smile more.

High growth (15%)

Tall, dark and handsome - these are not all qualities that women appreciate in men. They say they like to feel less than their men, but height doesn't necessarily mean strength. They will feel comfortable without towering over you.

Clean and muscular (13%)

Spend more time in front of the bathroom mirror and less time looking in the mirror in the gym. Almost three times more women value a clean-shaven face than the ability to squeeze the barbell from the chest. Muscle will help you protect yourself from competitors and convince a woman that you will not drop her during a fall, but your appearance is more important to her than the size of your biceps.

Women believe that if a man is in good physical shape, this is a sign of his discipline and self-control. This tells the woman that you are on the same level in all areas of life.

Isn't it easy to live up to such qualities? Raise a man in yourself, because this is your essence and purpose. A woman wants to be close to a real man. However, you may have noticed that not all qualities are so important! Try to work on your best sides, and then develop new qualities in yourself, then you cannot avoid success and victories over yourself! Your woman will appreciate it!

We will be happy to talk about this topic in the comments to the article. And, of course, you can contact us using the form indicated on the page.

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Soul binding 24.09.2017

Dear readers, today in our section we will talk about what qualities women value in men. Interesting topic, isn't it? And for both men and women. This may help men to better understand us women. And it will allow women to look at themselves from the outside and once again think about why we generally appreciate and love our men. And, of course, love them even more for it. The heading is Elena Khutornaya, writer, blogger, author of intuitive maps, and I give Lena the floor.

Greetings, dear readers of Irina's blog. In the comments to our articles, wishes were expressed that we should write not only for the female, but also for the male audience. After discussing this with Irina, we decided that this is just the right topic that will be of interest to men as well. So, what qualities in men do women love and appreciate?

Women cannot always answer this question unambiguously, because we are also attracted by different things in men. And sometimes, in order to see some qualities in your man, you have to give up others. But the main thing is not that a man should be perfect himself and combine all conceivable virtues, but that he should contain exactly what is most valuable for us to see in a loved one.

However, we women still lack something in a relationship. And then we begin to dream of some missing qualities in our men. At the same time, we forget that every virtue has a downside. And are we ready to accept this downside along with the desired quality, or, again, can we only come to the conclusion that after all, our man is the best for us?

So, let's talk about the valuable best masculine qualities and how difficult they can be.

Reliability

Despite emancipation, our genetic memory always turns out to be stronger, therefore, very often, first of all, we look for exactly this in men - guarantees of reliability, stability, that strong shoulder and a strong wall that will allow us, fragile and weak, to feel protected.

Downside

Reliable people are often quite predictable even in their spontaneity. Their goals are rational and practical, they themselves are serious and solid. It also often happens that taking responsibility for providing and protecting loved ones, they reserve the right to make all important decisions, so you need to be prepared for the fact that in some way you will have to give up your interests.

Thrift

Many women dream of their husband helping with the housework, taking care of the children, and solving household issues. He could cook and wash and wash the floor. Not to mention, of course, about men's work - nailing, screwing, repairing, looking after the cars, getting insurance on time. In life, probably, there would be nothing more to dream of if men helped us like that.

Downside

From practical experience - next to such a man herself, you have to be very economic. And one must be prepared for the fact that he will notice that the floor has not been washed, and that the things have not been cleaned, the food is yesterday, and on the bottom shelf of the refrigerator there is an expired kefir.

Attractiveness

Of course, every woman wants her man to be attractive, but this parameter is so subjective that it is unlikely that it will be possible to say anything specific, what this attractiveness should be. Someone likes muscular handsome men, some respectable older men. For some, style and gloss are important, for others, discreet elegance or slight negligence in appearance is more dear. But the relationship is definitely very beneficial when a woman is pleased with the way her man looks. So men should emphasize their merits, hide their flaws, but, of course, they need to remain themselves.

Downside

Often, women do not choose those men who like them, but those who are able to make a favorable impression on others. However, what is more important for us, in the end, that our friends envy us or that we ourselves look at our man with admiration and love?

Self confidence

What truly adorns a man is self-confidence. So even without being handsome, but possessing self-confidence, he will seem very attractive in the eyes of women. With such men, our confidence is added that, if necessary, he will be able to protect, and achieve, and support.

Downside

In some situations, this confidence can turn against ourselves. And if we lack this confidence, then it will be easy to feel our vulnerability, and it is not always pleasant.

Sense of humor

Nothing beautifies a relationship like the opportunity to laugh with a loved one together. When our ideas about funny coincide, it unites so much - there is little that compares to this feeling. Also, a man's ability to relate with humor to life and to himself is very valuable - thanks to this, much can be experienced much easier.

Downside

This quality can also be turned against us, and the better a man knows our weaknesses, the more painful his jokes against us can be. Again, if humor is more manifested not in wit, but in playfulness, then this can often be perceived as frivolity.

Ability to understand and feel

Attention and understanding - these qualities in men are capable of conquering any woman. That is why we love the period of falling in love in relationships so much, because men at this time are so open, generous in response, compliments, they are ready to listen to us, support, comfort, notice our moods, changes in appearance. Love for a woman in many ways begins precisely from such moments, which is why it is so difficult to look for warmth in a relationship when, having experienced a surge of love, men return to their business and notice us only when the time is right for sex. But after all, sex for a woman often begins precisely with communication, with a feeling of contact with a partner. So the importance of this point for the relationship is very difficult to underestimate.

Downside

The mood is felt and captured by those men who are themselves quite sensitive. And this means that their moods will have to be experienced quite sharply, and not only good, but also bad ones. Again, if one ever wants to hide his condition from such a man, then this is unlikely to work - he will definitely notice and will not calm down until he finds out the reasons.

Sensuality

Just as in the case of attractiveness, everything is very individual here, but, of course, any woman in a relationship would like to realize her sensuality. And for that you need the right man. This does not mean that he must necessarily be extremely skillful and sophisticated. The main thing is that he again knew how to feel and understand, and sometimes help a woman to open up. So again, the important thing here is the man's desire to pay attention to the woman.

Downside

It happens that women dream of a more experienced lover, it seems to them that this would help them learn how to get more pleasure from intimacy. But often it is not a lack of experience of their men, but the fact that they themselves are not ready to open up to this.

Mind

Smart men are always very attractive to women. As we have already said, for women, love and intimacy begins with communication, and what kind of communication can bring more pleasure, if not with an intelligent and interesting man?

Downside

Sadly, smart conversations rarely take place in kitchens after years of marriage. And it turns out that for life, various other virtues are much more important than the mind. Again, intelligent men are often intellectually snobbish, and this quality can be quite unpleasant in everyday life.

Loyalty

We conclude our list with such an important quality as loyalty. Every woman wants to be the only one for her man. So the relationship in which she feels that way is valuable. This does not mean that a man must refuse any contact with other women for this. But even if he communicates with them, then his woman should know and feel that for him she still remains special. This quality has no downside, when a woman responds to a man in the same way.

Be wise, my dears, do not demand too much from others, but at the same time look in people for what is really important to you. After all, our happiness depends on this, and there is nothing better when next to us is a person whom we love and appreciate for all his dignity and whom we invariably admire.

With warmth,
Khutornaya Elena

I thank Lena for this conversation. Sometimes it really is so useful to remember all the good things again, for which we should be grateful to our men. And the men were probably interested in reading all the thoughts. Perhaps this will be a reason to think about and even change something in life. Or just enjoy your happy relationship.

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    Mutual sympathy is read immediately. This is something special about the look, the turn of the head, the movement of the hand. But “our” person, with whom we want to connect life, we determine by the emotional attractiveness of a woman.

    An emotional connection is a testament to a deep relationship, it maintains the desire to be together when feelings are not new. The experiences of meetings, breakups, and relationships that made me and didn't make me happy can help define the qualities of an emotionally attractive woman.

    1. She is patient

    We think that emotionality does not match masculinity, and we wear a mask of equanimity. But one day a man meets a woman who feels in him what he hides from others - vulnerability, doubt. And yet she considers him courageous.

    So he gets a chance to open up. She understands: it's not easy, he needs time, even if he loves her. Therefore, she does not rush him, does not torment him with questions whether the relationship with her is dear to him. Her patience and ability to see in him something that is hidden from a superficial glance, allow a man to relax and be himself.

    2. Self-confident

    He chose you despite the fact that you seem imperfect in your appearance. Even if you put on a little weight, he might even like it. The main aphrodisiac that attracts a man is your self-confidence. The worst thing you can do is discuss the extra pounds in his presence and complain that you began to look bad.

    You are already on a special pedestal for him. And it will upset him if you decide to leave it of your own free will. Thus, you destroy the image of a woman who loves herself and her body, and deprives you of the pleasure of admiring you.

    3. Looks at life positively

    When a man shares plans with you, it is important for him to see your interest and support. If you begin to point out possible risks and doubt the feasibility of plans, you cut his wings. Encourage him to set challenging goals and take on challenges. If in doubt, come back to the conversation a little later. Perhaps during this time he himself will have time to better think over the idea and agree with your comments.

    4. Doesn't dwell on the past

    It is important to know that your partner is always ready to listen. However, an endless return to past experiences risks turning the relationship into an unhealed wound. We are attracted to women who learn from the past and are able to step forward.

    And most importantly, they do not devote us again to the details of the ups and downs with the former. This deprives the relationship of air: it begins to seem to us that we are superfluous. We like it when a woman understands where the line is between sincerity and personal space.

    5. Keeps secrets

    If a man shares intimate things with you, he wants to be sure: it will forever remain between the two of you, you will not tell your friend or mother about it. You destroy his trust when you use this information in an argument with him, even if no one else hears. For him, this is a signal that you are manipulating his trust.

    6. Knows how to listen

    For many, it is difficult to talk about what is of particular concern. And we will be grateful if you help us with this. The problem is that you are not always able to listen to us. You know how to express your feelings and emotions much better, so sometimes you lack patience. You cut us off by giving out your own conclusions. And we regret that we decided to talk at all. Please do not interrupt us, do not jump to conclusions, just listen to the end. Give an opportunity to speak out, this will help us to comprehend a difficult situation for us.

    7. Speaks openly and honestly

    We cannot read minds. We need to hear what you want from us at the moment. After years together, some learn to better guess moods and thoughts. But in general, we are all bad at predicting women's desires. Please be blunt.

    8. Doesn't expect perfection

    We appreciate women who know how to treat our shortcomings with humor and condescension. By choosing a man, you accept all facets of his personality.