The emotional state of a woman during pregnancy. The psychological and emotional state of a pregnant woman

30.06.2019

I think that all of you in one way or another have heard that pregnant women should not be worried and worried. That all the emotions of a pregnant woman are transmitted to the child.

There is truth in these words. However, in most cases, the interpretation of these words takes on a very simplified, and, unfortunately, often even harmful form. I am now talking about those situations when a pregnant woman herself and her environment understands this "should not be worried", how one should ignore, ignore or suppress "negative" emotions. And often pregnant women become hostages of these attitudes. Conflict at work, tired, quarreled with her husband, mom calls for the fifth time in a day ... no, do not get angry, do not be offended, this can harm the child, we smile, only positive ... As if, having become pregnant, a woman is deprived of the right to difficult emotions that are already tabooed by our society, and even more so during pregnancy, since the woman now has added responsibility for the life, health and development of the baby.

It takes a lot of effort and resources to suppress and not experience "negative" emotions. In fact, it still completely fails. The feeling of guilt and fear is added for the fact that experiencing something there, has harmed the child. Unfortunately, this is a scenario that is familiar to many during pregnancy. Is it so? How correct are these settings and what to do about it?

Let's figure it out. Have you noticed that I put the word "negative" in quotation marks? You may have already heard or read that emotions are not positive and negative. I ask you to try again to hear and relive the fact that there are no negative emotions. I am now focusing on this, because I am faced with the fact that many women, turning to me for advice and knowing this fact perfectly well in theory, still do not let it inside themselves. And they continue to fight their anger, resentment, guilt, fear.

Naturally, each of us has his own reasons from childhood and the family system in which we grew up. And yet. Emotions are just emotions; they are not good or bad. Emotions are markers of your needs. Emotions accompany the emergence and cycle of satisfaction or dissatisfaction of a need. Every emotion is good and necessary. It is natural to get angry when there is a violation of your boundaries, whether psychological, bodily, temporal, territorial, or any other. It is natural to feel disgust when you have too much of something in contact with a person (their smell, their cares, their expectations from you, etc.).

As any other emotion is natural. Ignoring and suppressing those emotions that this particular society or person refers to as "negative" does not entail anything other than additional tension and somatization of these emotions.

When, for example, there seems to be no anger, but just a sore throat often. Or, "I have no fears, I am not afraid of anything," but the uterus is in good shape all the time.

The worst thing you can do when you get pregnant is to ignore most of your life, trying to catch this ghostly positive and be in it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

It is perfectly normal to experience the full range of emotions during pregnancy. Emotions are presented in our body in the form of hormones. A woman's hormones enter the child with blood. A child needs different hormones to grow and develop. And it is good if the whole spectrum of hormones and emotions is presented, if the child already gets the experience in utero that adrenaline, norepinephrine, etc. are worried that stress is followed by relaxation.

Pregnancy Is not a disease. It is not an emotional illness. You don't have to stop and stop worrying about your life if you get pregnant.

What, then, do these words mean that pregnant women should not worry? Do they make sense?

To answer these questions, I need to tell you a little about the psychology of pregnancy. During pregnancy, the subcortical structures of the brain begin to work more actively, which means that the woman's sensitivity and emotionality increase. And often this is what happens during pregnancy. If in a woman's life there is a certain aspect of reality that she completely managed to ignore and with which to "put up" in a non-pregnant state, during pregnancy the same situations begin to evoke emotions and feelings that cannot be ignored. For example, if before pregnancy it was quite possible to live "normally" with her husband, despite the lack of spiritual closeness, pleasure and variety in sex, the presence of constant abuse and disrespect for personal boundaries, with the mother, despite the frequent devaluation of personal differences, lack of respect and admonition, etc. .d. etc., then, having become pregnant, pain, resentment, anger, despair, unfortunately, or, fortunately, will still draw attention to themselves.

Again, the worst thing to do is try to keep ignoring.

As I said, the emotional state of a pregnant woman differs from her non-pregnant state in the direction of greater sensitivity. Emotions seem to be more on the surface, closer, brighter, more changeable. This is natural during pregnancy. This is a woman's growth and development in the knowledge of her feminine. This is the expansion of the boundaries of the emotional sphere. However, for many women this becomes a difficult task and they make desperate attempts to collapse to a previous non-pregnant state, in which everything is already known and established. Usually attempts to stop Life and development do not lead to anything good.

Due to all of the above, in a state of pregnancy, a woman becomes more vulnerable, more vulnerable. Often, habitual defense mechanisms stop working as smoothly as they did before pregnancy. Some psychologists say that pregnancy is a regression into what is commonly referred to as childhood. I do not really like this wording, but someone may like it. I am more impressed to pay attention to those phenomena that are more pronounced in women during pregnancy: great vulnerability, vulnerability, tearfulness, the need for security, a great need for care and rest, a great need for emotional closeness.

What do we have? During pregnancy, a woman becomes more emotional and more vulnerable. And at the same time, the One, whose life continues to happen in the same way (and as you know, life is different, and a variety of events happen in it, including death, loss, parting, moving, etc.) and in which the protective mechanisms of the psyche no longer work so effectively. The one who experiences life brighter and needs more protection and support.

The best option is when the pregnant woman, oh, God, no, in no case, DOES NOT experience ... when the pregnant woman EXPERIENCES all her feelings, emotions, new sensations and has support in this. When her feelings and emotions are not depreciated and not condemned. When she can cry to someone and share her fears with someone. With those who are in contact with her. With someone who is not afraid of her feelings, emotions, her condition and her vulnerability. With someone who is simple and at the same time very difficult to live his life next to a woman who carries a child under her heart, while remaining alive, experiencing her and herself with all the innovations that are born in this contact.

It's great if a pregnant woman has close people who have the qualities that I described above. Husband, mom, sister, girlfriends. I see it as a challenge, including for myself, to develop a culture of pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum period in our country and to form a community of perinatal specialists who can help women at this difficult and at the same time very wonderful stage of life.

Why am I talking about another living person, next to a pregnant woman? Because the experience takes place in contact. Out of contact, alone, without the skill to worry, emotions are not experienced, but stuck occurs when the next touch or immersion in complex emotions brings nothing but a new round of old pain. And then, indeed, it is just right to talk about the possible harm of those hormones that are released at the same time.

Therefore, I want to encourage women, especially pregnant women, those who will ever be pregnant to take care of their emotional sphere. Do not ignore, do not suppress, do not act out in familiar patterns, but look for an opportunity to experience. Learn to experience complex emotions while remaining stable. This is exactly the kind of experience that is good for the child inside. Experience that fear (adrenaline), anger (norepinephrine) and all other complex, stressful emotions are experienced. That it ends. That my mother copes with what happens in life, which means I can also cope. So the world is good and safe for me, no matter what happens in it.

Many will probably agree that the period of pregnancy has its own, incomparable aura, when life takes on new meaning, new shades. Your existence is filled with some special inner light, a feeling of a high mission entrusted to you. Indeed, most expectant mothers, trying to convey their new state, describe a sense of unlimited responsibility, which simply did not have to be faced before. It seems that she would not have done anything so that the child was born healthy and strong. Finally, you are relieved of vague guesses and agonizing doubts, now you know for sure - THIS is Pregnancy. Long-awaited or unexpected, planned or accidental, first or next. At the very beginning, like early spring. You dream that the next nine months will bring peace and joy to your soul. What if a wonderful dream doesn't come true? And persistent reminders of those around you that “it’s bad for you to worry” doesn’t help you get rid of conflicting, anxious thoughts and feelings.

The first months of pregnancy are a time of revolutionary changes not only in the physiology of a woman, but also in her psychology. In the inner, innermost space of her I, the space of another person appeared, whose existence must not only be reckoned with, but, possibly, rebuilt the whole life, change all plans. Not everyone can accept these changes unconditionally. Even if the child is desired and long-awaited, the grandeur of the accomplished event captures all the thoughts of a woman, forcing her to worry: “How will my life develop further? How will the pregnancy proceed? What will happen to my career? Will I be able to provide my baby with a decent future? Will I be a good mother? " Familiar questions, aren't they? Such mental anguish can cause not only a feeling of fatigue and irritability, but even cause toxicosis or the threat of termination of pregnancy.

First, don't try to fix all problems at once. Postpone them indefinitely, and perhaps some of them will be resolved without your participation. And in general, pregnancy is a unique time when you can rightfully afford not to react to life's problems. And do not feel guilty at the same time for such irresponsible behavior. Remember that more than all material goods in the world, a child needs your attention, understanding and love.

Secondly, the most important thing now is to realize and accept your new state. Give yourself permission to be pregnant. Accepting your new state means accepting the appearance of a child in your life, learning to understand his needs. Indulge your little weaknesses - whether it's a desire to lie down in the middle of the day or buy yourself some delicacy. Let pregnancy enter your life not as a time of inhibitions, but as a time of new opportunities. A statement like "I won't be able to wear my favorite skinny jeans" can be replaced by: "Finally, I'll update my wardrobe!" It is enough to change your point of view to feel the taste for change.

Pregnancy makes a woman emotionally vulnerable, prone to anxiety, more sensitive to negative experiences. It seems that the reason for the frustration is insignificant, but the eyes are in a "wet place" and nothing pleases. Many women are haunted by the feeling that you are "trapped" by incessant nausea, tiredness, constant irritability. Doctors explain such an unstable emotional state by violent hormonal changes in the body. Only the understanding that such a state is natural and completely physiological does not make this difficult period easier for a woman.

Psychologists believe that increased irritability is a signal to the expectant mother that she needs to learn how to relax. This valuable skill will come to the rescue not only during pregnancy or at the time of childbirth, but in general, it will have a beneficial effect on your life. The easiest way to relax is to play soft music, lie back, and focus on your breathing. Take a deep, calm breath and a slow, relaxed breath. Imagine that with each exhalation comes relaxation and peace.

By the way, moderate physical activity is an excellent remedy for blues.

Even if before pregnancy a woman was distinguished by an imperturbable disposition, now she can easily panic from the abstract reasoning of her doctor about the complications of pregnancy or from the story of an eccentric friend about her childbirth. Scenes from some movies or TV news, a sharp remark from your boss or fellow traveler on the subway can bring you to tears. Do not be afraid to give vent to your emotions - cry, complain to someone, the main thing is not to drive gloomy thoughts and resentment into the depths of your soul. This heightened sensibility is just a reminder that it's time to change your impressions. Remember that your impressionability has another side - it is the opportunity to look at the world in a new way. As if during pregnancy a woman becomes a little child who looks at the world with interest and wonder. Take this opportunity to enjoy the wonderful sides of life. Through your impressions, you transmit information to your baby about the world around you. Your impressions tell him whether the world is good or evil, colorful or dull, funny or sad. So try to get out into nature more often, visit concert halls or museums.

There are so many changes in the soul of a pregnant woman that she can begin to feel very lonely in the maelstrom of new experiences. All the people around her have remained the same, only she is at the mercy of "pregnant feelings". But at the same time, the experience of loneliness allows you to look deeper into your own soul, understand yourself, analyze your life experience, and perhaps overestimate your life values. Use loneliness for self-discovery, but do not become too withdrawn in yourself, share your experiences with loved ones, consult a psychologist, talk with other pregnant women. Now there are many opportunities to communicate with "their own kind" - these are courses of psychological preparation for childbirth, and special groups of pregnant women in the pool or sports complex, and even specialized stores arrange lectures for pregnant women. And most importantly, start communicating with your child, because he is the closest person to you.

The period of pregnancy can give a new positive impetus to family relationships, or it can give rise to misunderstandings. But the most important thing for a woman is to get support from a loved one. However, it is much more difficult for a man to get involved in the process of his wife's pregnancy and become a “pregnant” dad. He can hardly imagine that a man is growing inside your belly (by the way, he is not a stranger to him). A man is more likely to worry about your new quirks than the specifics of the course of pregnancy. A rare representative of the stronger sex speaks with inspiration with the "tummy" or is touched by the shocks from its depths. But this does not mean that men are completely indifferent to the upcoming changes. They just experience "pregnancy" in their own way.

Take the trouble to gently educate your loved one about pregnancy. He needs simple, specific information about what is happening at the moment. Ask him to go with you for an ultrasound. Some men, seeing with their own eyes their child inside the tummy, completely change their attitude towards their wife's pregnancy, as if convinced of the real existence of the baby. Use the pronoun "we" more often, this will be another sign that you are no longer alone. Unobtrusively tell your husband about the baby's behavior throughout the day. If at first there is no expected reaction, do not be upset and do not blame your husband for misunderstanding. It's just that many men don't express their emotions openly.

If you have a joint desire for your husband to be present at childbirth, then he just needs to take appropriate training courses. And not at all so that he does not fall at the most inopportune moment. And in order for your husband to become an active participant in the events from an uncertain witness (which he, in fact, was at the dawn of your pregnancy). He will not only be able to gently hold your hand, but he will also be able to do a relaxing massage, remind you of correct breathing, and help you change positions. Such active participation in childbirth helps a man to realize his paternity, and for a woman it is an indispensable support.

Sometimes a pregnant woman fearfully begins to go through all the risk factors that she has been exposed to since the beginning of pregnancy, and think about how they will affect the child. Memories of a glass of wine or an aspirin taken when it was not yet known about pregnancy, reflections of the polluted air of your hometown or radiation from a computer monitor on your desktop are used. But you never know what else can affect the health of the baby. Dangers here and there. Don't exaggerate the risk. Birth defects are very rare. Think that unnecessary anxiety is much more harmful to your child than the mistakes that you made. Do not indulge in feelings of guilt, it is better to find a way that can compensate for your "mistakes" - whether it is active walks in the park, or a balanced diet, or listening to classical music. And also try to imagine more often how healthy, strong and beautiful your baby will be born. Such fantasies have a very beneficial effect on the development of the baby.

HOW TO AVOID STRESS DURING PREGNANCY

When a woman finds out that she is pregnant, she has different feelings. If pregnancy is desired, then the feeling of joy and happiness overwhelms her soul. For several days she just flies on her wings, and she wants to tell the whole world about this happiness ... The feeling of the holiday does not leave you. Gradually, the emotional outburst subsides, and you start thinking about how to make your pregnancy and the development of your baby the happiest and most prosperous. Many pregnant mothers take a very responsible approach to carrying a baby: they are observed by doctors, they follow the regime and diet, attend courses on preparation for childbirth. And everything seems to be fine, but real life, as a rule, often upsets a woman, so vulnerable and impressionable at the time of pregnancy.

The nuisances of everyday life, even if they are just annoying little things, often upset you, sometimes causing a very violent reaction. You notice that before you almost did not pay attention to the same situations, and now you can even break out into screaming or cry. Analyzing your behavior, you come to disappointing conclusions, and this only complicates the situation. You start to worry about your state of mind. As a rule, the expectant mother begins to scold herself for being so unrestrained, and feels a great sense of guilt in front of the child for scaring him with her behavior.

A woman wants her baby to feel no discomfort during pregnancy. She thinks that this can greatly harm his development. And very often she asks the question: how can you avoid stress and negative emotions during pregnancy?

Specialists dealing with the problems of psychology and pregnancy consider this issue from a completely different side: how to make sure that the baby does not suffer from mom's mood swings? The thing is that even the most diligent mother will not be able to avoid the "wrong" behavior.

The psyche of a pregnant woman is very different from her condition before pregnancy. During pregnancy, a woman experiences unexpected mood swings and various anxieties and fears associated with pregnancy. She can be very upset about a trifle or unexpectedly yell at her beloved husband. For herself, this is also inexplicable and disturbing. And most importantly, after what happened, the expectant mother begins to suffer with a sense of guilt in front of the child and in front of her family members. Naturally, it is very difficult to control yourself at this moment, and it is not necessary. This is the ancient mechanism of the state of pregnancy. You can learn how to avoid unpleasant feelings of guilt and bad moods.

Actually, this is the most important secret of dealing with stress: we do not exclude the reasons (this is impracticable), but we try to get out of the situation with dignity, without causing much harm to the baby.

In fact, everything is simple: it is worth talking about your emotional state with the future dad at a time when the atmosphere in the family is safe and calm. The dad-to-be needs to try to explain that you need care, guardianship, understanding, and sometimes you want to be pitied like a small child. After the next “wrong” outburst of mood, the expectant mother gradually calms down and begins an internal (possibly voiced) dialogue with the baby. She recounts the situation that happened, explaining that everything in life happens and nothing terrible has happened. If it was a quarrel with dad, a promise is made to make peace as soon as possible: "Dad is smart and kind and will understand everything."

When a woman goes to this dialogue, she herself gradually calms down, feels that the baby is calming too. There comes a release from an unpleasant situation, a bad mood and feelings of guilt do not arise. And this is the very result we are striving for: you cannot leave in yourself the feeling of guilt. After all, under the influence of your feelings, the foundation of your child's psyche is laid. The more confident you feel, the more confident your baby will be.

Mothers of "maximalists" often ask why it is not necessary to completely protect the baby from stressful situations.

Firstly, as already mentioned, it is impossible or worth the incredible effort of a woman, in which she experiences great stress and discomfort. And this can affect the course of pregnancy much worse than an outburst of emotions.

Secondly, it is unnecessary. Suppose a baby does not experience any negative or negative emotions during pregnancy. And so he is born and gets into our world with his problems and worries. How hard it will be for him if he did not experience anything like this while growing up in his mother's tummy! This can badly affect your son's or daughter's fledgling character. Moderate stress in the mother's tummy prepares the baby for future difficulties. He learns to resist them before he is born.

Therefore, this advice to you: do not scold yourself for unexpected actions, for mood swings. Just explain your behavior to your baby, calm your loved ones, switch to something more enjoyable and have fun with your pregnancy!

An effective way out of an unpleasant situation is as follows: you prepare a warm relaxing bath, add essential oil to the water (it should be safe for your baby), turn on your favorite melody, light candles. Having created such a pleasant environment for yourself, you plunge into the water, close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply and smoothly to the music.

Breathing should be deep, wavy, without pauses between inhalation and exhalation. The body is as relaxed as possible. After a few minutes, you will feel light. Do not stop breathing, allow yourself to figuratively dissolve in this dizziness - in a few minutes it will pass. Get the most out of the unusual state.

Without opening your eyes, you "dive" to your baby (as if immersed in your tummy) and begin to communicate with him. Explaining your behavior to him, reassure him and be sure to tell him how you love and expect him and that you will be fine with him. After that, you will not be tormented by a feeling of guilt for stressing the child with your stress, and a bad mood will leave you.

Increased anxiety in a woman during pregnancy indicates a lack of confidence. First of all, to herself. Find within yourself those qualities that allow you to think of yourself with love and respect as a strong, kind, wonderful person. Don't judge yourself for your worries. Many women, knowing about the dangers of negative emotions during pregnancy, feel a strong sense of guilt in front of the baby for the fact that they are tormented by disturbing thoughts. Negative emotions are not harmful to the baby if you are able to throw them out and part with them. Worse if you carry anxiety in yourself, trying to look calm on the outside. Learn to trust yourself, your feelings.

Love yourself in any form, forgive your weaknesses, respect for giving life to a little man.

Remember that you are enclosing a whole world for your child. The richer the palette of your feelings, the more information the baby receives for its development. Let there be storms and calmness in this world, life is life. The main thing to remember is that there is simply no better world for your child than you are. Respect the personality of your unborn baby. Learn to feel and understand each other during pregnancy. Mentally address the baby, tell him about your thoughts and impressions, trust him. Fear will recede faster if you feel that a loved one is next to you. Communication with a child enriches a woman's life, gives her the opportunity to look at the world differently, brings a huge number of new bright emotional experiences. Open your soul to these changes, do not become locked in fears, do not rob yourself and your baby during this amazing period of life.

Each woman accepts the child growing in her differently. And, at the same time, a woman accepts each child in a different way. Pregnancy for pregnancy does not occur even with the same mother. We are changing, the perception of the world around us is changing, and the world itself is changing. Therefore, each time we are different, and different children, whom we give birth to.

Of course, everyone knows that pregnancy must be carried out contemplating the beauty, thinking about the eternal, in peace and joy. But is it possible for any of us, modern women? We are real people, we are overwhelmed with emotions, we are overwhelmed with feelings, and we cannot have an ideal pregnancy in an imperfect world. The question is how to relate to these experiences of yours! If this is just the emotional instability of pregnant women, then it is best to treat it with humor.

Start over.

For the health of the unborn child, the mother needs positive emotions and the absence of stress. Then what does it take to make a pregnant woman laugh and be happy?

Basically nothing special:

to remind my husband a couple of times a day that he loves her,

that he also loves his child - to show interest in the lifestyle of his pregnant wife (which means to take responsibility for walks before bedtime, evening massage, freshly squeezed juice in the morning, nuts and fruits in a vase on the table and attending classes together in the pool)

But the worst thing is that in order for a pregnant woman to burst into tears and flood all the surrounding hollows and depressions with tears, nothing special is also needed!

It is quite normal for a woman to boil over nothing, cry for the same reason and laugh the same way - without seeing anything funny.

What should men do if all their efforts and worries backfire?

It would be completely wrong to take offense and go drink beer with friends. It is necessary to treat the wife like a child, whom it is almost impossible to console, but necessary. In no case should you torture a woman with the question: "Honey, what happened?"

Nothing happened! There is no answer to this question while waiting for the child!

This is normal for a physiological pregnancy! After a certain period of time, she will throw herself on your neck with the assurance that it is with you that she is infinitely happy.

But if there is no concern on your part, then he will not rush. It's one thing to cry over nothing. And then, as if nothing had happened to ask: “Poor thing! You probably didn't get enough sleep today? Did you run after flowers, make juice? " And it’s quite another thing, when a tear started rolling again, to think that no one gave flowers, didn’t squeeze out the juice - it means that he doesn’t love me, and in general nobody needs me, etc. And once you wind yourself up, and not without reason, cry and cry forever.

You can make fun of this. It is only necessary to remember that every tear brings suffering to your child, who lives inside with mother's emotions. And if you also take into account that his heart beats 2 times more often than ours, then he lives in his dimension for a much longer period of time in tears than we are here outside.

I will give examples of real family situations where wise dads diverted streams of tears from their future children with thoughtful and beautiful actions. You cannot call them indifferent husbands!

Remember the tale of the ax that hung in the basement and scared the whole family with the possibility of falling on the head of the unborn child, when there was still no pregnancy? The situation is one to one!

This all happened after a massive attack with massage, walks, flowers, etc. The TV was the reason. The program about the next hostilities made a strong impression on the expectant mother. With the words: "This is how you will give birth to a boy, and then he will be taken into the army, and he will end up in the area of hostilities ... !!!" she burst into sobs. All the assurances of the future father that maybe he would not get to this area, and maybe the girl would be born at all, did not lead to any result. The husband became depressed, and he himself began to think that the ax would certainly fall on his head, when a minute later he heard a deep breath and an amazing phrase: “Oh, well, okay! Are you going to drink tea? " This was repeated several times. He realized that pregnancy is a diagnosis. However, the TV was replaced by songs with a guitar, reading and discussion of carefully selected literature. After a while, he honestly admitted that there were fewer tears and life became easier.

The second situation was quite funny.

Coming home from work, the future dad to the question: "Will you eat?" - replied that he had a snack at work, so he was not hungry. He did not expect the consequences. The range of accusations was too wide. He went from the fact that a bad husband deliberately makes his wife laugh in front of the whole team, when he eats before leaving home, to the point that he never loved her at all and did not want a child. Pondering how to avoid a repetition of this, dad came to the conclusion that a joint dinner is necessary. And so that both sides were ready for him, he began to call back and find out the situation with neutral phrases: "Have you cooked dinner yet?" If supper was ready, he was full of praise, and if not, he said: “How good! And I just wanted to invite you to dine in one gorgeous place! "

With all my heart, thanks to such dads, who can not only comfort and calm, but even the reasons for tears are able to remove! Here we just need to state that such things are done by dads who are expecting their first child. When a woman is waiting for a second, etc. child, they still make fun of the emotional instability of pregnant women more than help to cope with it.

Of course, we are women and we ourselves are already experienced and understand what the state of pregnancy brings with it. We are struggling to control ourselves. Tears are no longer pouring down. But the fact of the matter is that they do not pour only from the outside. But from the inside, they continue to disturb the child. Unfortunately, there are more weighty reasons for this.

Rather, we acquire more solid skills in finding reasons. It is already clear to ourselves that it is ridiculous to sob over trifles, but sobbing cannot be contained. Then the husband is charged with more similar not only to compelling reasons for crying, but also to a clear desire to inflame conflict and offend. After all, it is always clear that "... the least love goes to our most beloved people."

Men, God help you! In this case, it is important to remember that this is the same "supper" or "ax".

Only in subsequent pregnancies is it more sophisticated. These same female hormones are scattered like fireworks throughout the body. Here you can only hope that you have accumulated wisdom, so as not only not to fall for the bait of strife, but also to stop your wife. Otherwise, she will immediately believe in what she says.

But now you have the emotional nutrition of more than one child in your hands! This will also leave its mark on the elders. Remember the simple guidelines at the beginning of our conversation. Feel free to say again that you love the whole family. The same juices, massages, walks and flowers will again help your wife to smile, and your children to be carefree happy in a strong and loving family.

I wish you happiness and smiles!

Pregnancy radically changes the usual state of a woman: she has new taste preferences, toxicosis pesters her, her belly grows in the end! Comprehensive information about these metamorphoses today can be found in any specialized online magazine. Meanwhile, the psychological state of a woman during pregnancy is no less important than the physiological aspects. Our article will tell you about the neuropsychic preparation for the upcoming motherhood.

A miracle happened: the pregnancy test "gave out" two strips! From this moment on, life changes to become even better and more beautiful. Only now, the expectant mother is not yet able to comprehend the obvious at once - for this she will need a lot of time, namely 9 months.

The inner world of a woman in a position is so complex and deep that her mood can change more than a dozen times a day: a minute ago she was laughing merrily, but now her eyes are in a wet place, and there is nothing strange about it. Sensitivity, susceptibility, impressionability - all types of reactions to the outside world during pregnancy are exacerbated to the limit. All expectant mothers, from the moment of conception to childbirth, live according to special rules of psychology.

Physiology divides the period of pregnancy into three fundamental stages, or trimesters. The same can be done from a spiritual point of view.

Features of the psychological state during pregnancy by trimester

First trimester

The first weeks of pregnancy are the most emotionally unstable period for a mother-to-be. The female psyche is doing a tremendous job to adapt the pregnant woman to her new position. The condition of a woman during pregnancy is precarious and vulnerable, so she is often thrown to extremes: joy replaces regret and vice versa.

Moreover, the expectant mother is worried about an unclear excitement. This is not yet fear of childbirth and not fear for the health of the baby, no. Rather, it is the anxiety of having to let go of the old life in order to open the doors for change.

The state of health during pregnancy in the first trimester also adds fuel to the fire: nausea, poor sleep at night and sleepiness during the day, severe hunger or a complete lack of appetite make the newly-made mother-to-be feel overwhelmed and tired. How not to be sad here? At this time, it seems to a woman that she is insolvent, dependent on outside circumstances and other people. But she is unlikely to find the strength to resist this feeling: on the contrary, she wants to become an object of increased attention and care.

The psychological mood during pregnancy is so changeable that it is really difficult for the expectant mother to put herself together: she often wants to cry, she is almost sure that no one cares about her, she is more and more often visited by sentimentality, and what she wants most is she and she herself does not know.

The reason for such an emotional "kaleidoscope" lies in the fundamental restructuring of the hormonal system of the body. It is hormones that are to blame for the fact that the way of thinking of a pregnant woman at the beginning of her new position acquires some features of a child's psyche. Psychologists believe that nature arranged it this way for a reason: such a kind of correction of consciousness will help a woman in the future to find a common language with her child. This period is necessary for the successful development of motherhood.

At the end of the first trimester of pregnancy, the state of the expectant mother is still not stable: a carefree life will not give way to the inevitable growing up in one day. This duality of the situation is not always obvious to the pregnant woman herself, so she can take offense at loved ones for no reason, and also break down at them in moments of sudden outbursts of anger.

At this stage, fertile ground for the development of depression appears in the life of a pregnant woman: even the most harmless disagreements with her husband can emotionally break the expectant mother. At the same time, she needs family support more than ever.

Second trimester

A woman who is in a state of pregnancy in the second trimester rests in mind and body. The energy flows in her body are flowing as usual, and the great state of health helps to tune in for the best. The expectant mother sleeps well again, has a healthy appetite and gives others her radiant smile.

At this stage, what she was waiting for with great excitement finally happens - the baby gives the first signs of life and pushes! The pregnant woman is no longer able to hide her joy, now she knows exactly how much she wants to become a mother. Self-confidence and rational thinking return to her.

Third trimester

At the final stage of the "interesting" situation, a sobering occurs. In the first trimester, being pregnant was new for a woman, so she could not perceive the child as a reality. Now that childbirth is just around the corner, the baby is becoming the center of her universe. All desires and thoughts of the expectant mother are associated with him.

Smoothly approaching the most important event in her life, a woman pushes everything that does not concern her position to the background. Hobbies, work, even a beloved man - everything pales before the all-consuming desire to prepare your "nest" for the arrival of a son or daughter. If you answer the question, what is the state of pregnancy in the third trimester, then the word "immersion" characterizes it better than others. Immersion in yourself and in your unborn child is a hallmark of late pregnancy.

The woman is again prone to excruciating mood swings: in general, she is most often seized by unreasonable irritability and anxiety. In fact, the subconscious mind of a pregnant woman is already living with anxiety before the upcoming birth and potential pain.

The state of the body during late pregnancy weighs on the expectant mother, and she endures the last weeks of waiting for the baby with great difficulty: it's hard to lie, hard to walk, it's hard ... In addition, the woman's feelings are in great confusion: she wants to see her baby as soon as possible, but at the same time, he is very worried about how the birth will go.

The last trimester of pregnancy is considered the most unique period in a woman's life - it is so unusual and amazing in terms of the complex of sensations.

What is the expectant mother afraid of

In the first trimester, a pregnant woman is tormented by fear of the unknown and change. A woman will need a lot of strength to get used to her new position, which will undoubtedly affect her studies, work, and life in general. The most correct step at the beginning of pregnancy is to accept yourself and the baby who caused such emotional confusion. As soon as a woman can do this, she will feel incredible relief and a desire to learn how to coexist with the child she carries under her heart.

Mothers who really wanted to get pregnant, from the first days of this wonderful condition, often begin to worry about the health of their future baby. The long-awaited child will be born strong or weak, will he have any unforeseen deviations, will the unknowingly taken pill of a strong anesthetic affect his development, how to protect himself from the harmful radiation of a computer monitor…. What terrible pictures the expectant mother will not paint, sorting through various situations in her memory when, in her opinion, she stumbled.

In the second trimester of pregnancy, all expectant mothers tend to fall prey to social superstitions regarding pregnancy. For example, which of the women has not heard that in position it is impossible to cut, sew and put on patches, otherwise the child will have many moles? And every woman is likely to remember how she, a pregnant woman, was warned to raise her hands so that the child would not get entangled in the umbilical cord. Such beliefs do not bring anything good and useful, except for increased anxiety. The surest way to get rid of them is to perceive these collective "fairy tales" as nothing more than a given of pregnancy, as one of its natural phenomena.

If unconditional trust in omens does not give a pregnant woman peace, it is better for her to turn to a professional psychologist, regular conversations with whom will put everything in its place and lead the expectant mother to peace of mind.

In the last trimester of pregnancy, a woman, consciously or not, begins to fearfully think about the upcoming test in the form of childbirth. The most interesting thing is that these fears are not groundless: childbirth is a powerful physical and psychological experience, so all women's fears are absolutely natural. For example, a pregnant woman may be afraid not so much of painful sensations as of the development of certain complications during childbirth. There are often cases when the expectant mother is afraid to seem ... unattractive in the eyes of a loved one and medical staff at the time of childbirth.

However, most often a woman is afraid for her life and for the life of her child. Psychologists interpret these fears in their own way: a pregnant woman worries about her baby in advance, who, when born, inevitably goes through the stage of psychological death. He dies for the intrauterine world to be born in another, external world. Birth is the strongest experience in all human life, and in strength it is comparable only to death.

At the same time, one cannot discount the subconscious delusion that a woman should give birth in pain. Even all the latest research and methods in the field of obstetrics and gynecology taken together will not be able to drown out the human ancestral memory with which we come into this world. It remains to hope only for the reason and adequacy of the pregnant woman herself.

To ease the moral discomfort that complicates the last weeks before childbirth, you need to properly prepare for the process of giving birth to your baby: sign up for special courses and think over the scenario of your childbirth to the smallest detail - choose a maternity hospital, get acquainted with a doctor who will help in delivery.

The influence of the state of the expectant mother on the intrauterine development of the fetus and childbirth

All scientists agree that an increased degree of maternal anxiety and regular experiences affect the child's health in the most negative way. Also, emotional stress can cause complications during childbirth.

From the second third of pregnancy, the circulatory system of the growing organism begins to actively form and improve. Through the placenta and the umbilical cord, the fetus receives the lion's share of hormones whenever its mother succumbs to anxiety or depression. The negative perception of her condition by the expectant mother leads to the development of real functional disorders in the child's body. Prolonged irritation or anxiety of a woman makes the child just as upset, which he immediately informs mom about with a series of indignant pushes in the stomach.

An emotionally unstable pregnant woman has a high probability of miscarriage and premature birth, as well as serious abnormalities in the course of labor, even if they started at the right time. Most often, on this basis, there is a weak birth activity, intrauterine oxygen starvation of the child, pathology of blood supply to the placenta.

A woman's positive attitude towards pregnancy works wonders - proven by medicine. When a pregnant woman happily feels like a vessel filled with precious contents, all chronic diseases recede, physiological malaise is more easily tolerated, and there is no room for fears and doubts in her mind. A mother's faith in herself, her unconditional admiration for the miracle of the birth of a new life also charges the baby with positive energy, gives him a feeling of security and confidence that somewhere out there, in another universe, he is loved and awaited.