Random touches of a man which means. Non-verbal school. Secrets of touch

08.07.2019

Touch is a powerful tool to manipulate people's feelings.

Man possesses one of the most perfect visual apparatuses. He has the ability to hear. In principle, this is all that is needed for productive communication. However, we still need to touch someone with our hands.

Why do we still shake hands when you can just wave your hand? Why do we pat ourselves on the knee when we talk about something interesting, promising, tempting? What is the point of touching the shoulder of a person whose behavior we are unhappy with? After all, it is quite possible to do with a strict loud voice, and the message of our discontent will be conveyed.

Why do we need to touch the interlocutor, why do we touch ourselves and what does touch give in general - we will talk about this in our today's blog.

Sex or not?

Consider a fairly standard situation. Two young human beings of both sexes are talking. The essence of the conversation is to solve some business issue. During the conversation, the young man periodically strokes his knee, and the girl strokes her shoulder with approximately the same frequency. You already know from the previous blogs of the "School of non-verbalism" that such stroking speaks of the emerging feeling of sympathy for each other, and in this way young people simply replace the impossible touch to the interlocutor with the possible touch to themselves.

Let's take another case. Two serious businessmen in a serious age are discussing a contract. And closer to the end of the negotiations, having reached mutually beneficial agreements, they begin to stroke their thighs. There shouldn't be any sexuality here. Men are deep naturals and same-sex relationships do not carry a sexual context for them. There is no sexuality, but there is touch.

Now the third situation. Fashionable business coach conducts team building training known as team building. The participants of the training are employees of the same department, there is a deep chasm in the relationship. At the very beginning of the training, the business coach asks everyone to hold hands and do some exercises without breaking their hands. And so it does periodically in the course of the lesson. As a result, relationships improve, and after a while the department shows the ability to work as one, cohesive team. Well, it didn't happen because of sexual energy, did it?

Some conclusions can be drawn from the above scenes:

Touching is not always exclusively sexual in nature.
Touch can not only promote sexual interaction, but also have a beneficial effect on elementary business relationships.
Touch improves any kind of relationship, both sexual and overtly asexual.

Why do we touch?

The tasks that the evolution of human communication has set before touching oneself and each other are a great many. But the most important of them are:

1. Demonstration of friendliness. The very fact of intrusion into the living space of another person causes rejection. But if this intrusion is of a soft, cautious nature (which is very convenient to demonstrate with a light touch), then the participants in the contact tune in to a positive attitude towards each other, even if they do not know each other.

2. Attracting attention. In a situation where everyone around is screaming or your subject is too focused on something of his own, touch helps to draw attention to yourself, thus highlighting yourself from the surrounding information noise.

3. Restoration of peace of mind. Sometimes we need care and protection. In this case, touching someone we trust helps us feel the emotions we need.

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4. Winning leadership. Touch helps in building a hierarchy of human relationships. With the help of some gestures that serve as a demonstration of status, we force someone to shut up, stop, give in to their claims.

What happens to us when strangers touch us? The fact is that for a short distance we allow only the closest people to whom we have warm feelings (except when we ourselves invade the living space of a hated enemy in order to strangle him). From these people we often receive both psychological and purely physical touches. And we develop a kind of conditioned reflex "safe person = touch".

When a stranger invades our living space, we experience excitement and indignation about this. But only until the touch. As soon as he touched us, our conditioned reflex makes us change our attitude towards this person to a more positive one, because again "touch = safe person."

This principle is often used in marketing. For example, in the field of catering. An experiment was conducted in one of the restaurants. One part of the waiters had to lightly touch the client with their hand (with the back of the hand) while serving customers. It was necessary to touch in the zone of neutral contacts - in the area of \u200b\u200bthe visitor's hand or forearm. That is, the touch should have been clearly neutral, as if random.

The second group of waiters were not supposed to touch the customers in any way.

As a result, the waiters from the first group received 20-30% more tips than the waiters from the second group. In addition, customers rated the work of the waiters who touched them as more friendly and professional.

Why was such an effect obtained? The answer is obvious. A conditioned reflex is triggered. We feel the touch of another person and automatically begin to treat him in the same way as we treat everyone who has the right to touch us in this way. We humans are generally pretty automatic creatures. Many processes take place in us completely independently of our consciousness. Here are the cunning waiters often take advantage of this.

Seduction and power

However, our manipulations do not end with catering alone. One of the branches of human communication most saturated with manipulative techniques is professional seduction.

Seduction professionals try in the first few seconds of communication to touch their "victim" for any reason. This reduces natural resistance, increases trust, and so on.

Sex is generally involved in communication from a short distance, so touching in sexual or role-playing relationships plays a leading role. Moreover, we can touch not only the object of our interest, but also ourselves. And it is one of the most accurate diagnostic tools. If a girl or a guy, while communicating with a representative of the opposite sex, strokes herself, then this only means that she wants to stroke not her body, but the body of the person standing opposite.

Another important area of application of touch is the area of struggle for power. The struggle for power does not always take place with the use of force. Often, a light touch is enough to silence the interlocutor or retreat from their positions. Most often, such methods of struggle are used by women. Men are more characterized by a straightforward and forceful style of demonstrating their status. Men are chasing performance. A woman prefers a more economical way to demonstrate who is the boss in the house. Her hallmark is efficiency.

Sometimes you can witness the scene when a married couple sort things out with a representative of some service department. The man screams and waves his arms until the real leader, his wife, steps in. She gently but commandingly puts her hand on his shoulder (a gesture indicating her higher status in the system of their relationship) and the man droops. Hands drop, shoulders drop, mood also ceases to show signs of tone. A higher-ranking individual came, and the yellow jersey of the leader migrated to her, along with the authority to make the final decision. And it only took one light touch.

How to touch effectively

From the above, one might get the impression that touches have downright magical powers and are able to act effectively in any situation and in the performance of anyone. This is not true.

In order for the touch to bear fruit, several conditions are necessary:

Appearance. A person who touches us should not cause us disgust or rejection, we should not feel fear towards him. In general, it should look good or at least neutral. Otherwise, the strength of the emotion that we could feel for him will change sign to the opposite.
The nature of touch. Touch should not be "forceful" in nature. It should be easy. A strong touch is perceived as pressure. And then a physical law works in our psyche - the force of action is equal to the force of opposition. The duration of the touch also matters. Too long contact leads to loss of effect.
Touch speed. Sharp, quick touches lead to a negative reaction. The more smoothly the touch is made, the greater the effect it allows to achieve. There is a legend that at a geisha school in medieval Japan, little girls learned to touch the water without causing ripples on its surface. Such a touch was considered both a standard of state of mind and a sign of the ability to have a maximum impact on a client with a minimum of contact.
Place of touch. Touching an unfamiliar or unfamiliar person is only necessary in a socially acceptable area. Basically, this is the area of \u200b\u200bthe hands in the area of \u200b\u200bthe hands or forearms. Very rarely - above the elbow. It is desirable that the touch is made from the front. Of course, there are options when an unfamiliar waitress touches a man’s shoulder with her chest when taking an order or when changing dishes. But his companion is unlikely to like such a touch.
Circumstances of touch. The calmer the environment in which the touch takes place, the greater the effect it will have. In an aggressive environment and in a state of excitement, we are unlikely to notice that someone has touched us. Well, except for cases of control of us by the spouse. But here the habit of obedience comes into play, developed and consolidated by years of joint marital battles for supremacy.

Touch allows us to improve relationships with other people, to win them over, to create conditions for a productive conversation.

Touch serves as a marker of an established relationship. If sparks of passion or at least goodwill constantly jump between spouses, then he will definitely find a manifestation in touch.

Touch can reduce the impact of stress. It's amazing how easy it turns out to be to switch off from the hassle at work, everyday difficulties, sorrows and sadness - it only takes a loved one to touch us.

Touch also allows us to manipulate and control other people. Subtle and true or rude and unprincipled. Touch serves as a reliable tool for achieving selfish interest in human communication.

Homework

To learn how to use touch and achieve more in the process of communication, I suggest doing some homework.

Easy level. Try to ask your colleague for something by touching him with your hand (using the recommendations above). For example, you touch him and say: "Could you…". Do a similar experiment with different people and evaluate which of them, when fulfilling your request, smiled, who frowned, who, after fulfilling the request, showed a willingness to do something else for you. If you have a pronounced off-scale sexual attractiveness, then try to perform this exercise on colleagues of the same sex, since the opposite sex will do everything for you anyway.
Average level. There are probably people in your environment who are not very sympathetic to you. Try to talk to them about something that affects both of you, using touch before the very beginning of the conversation. Just do not try to talk with those who openly dislike you. Otherwise, the touch may turn against you.
Extreme. If you are in a quarrel with your loved one, colleague, friend - use touch during a showdown. Only in no case at the beginning of the conversation, but closer to its middle, when you have already listened to the interlocutor (without interrupting him even once, if possible), but have not yet expressed your arguments to him.

Touch helps to control, manipulate the attitude of another person towards you. Communication is always a conflict of interest. Even if you are talking to your mother, friend, colleague or partner, the conversation still goes according to the script and on a topic that is closer only to one of you. Therefore, in communication, one is always the leader, and the second is the follower. So if you are already trying to manage your interlocutor - do it correctly and effectively.

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You can control speech, that is, the verbal way of communication, and actions. But random movements are dictated by our subconscious. Therefore, the gestures of a man in love can say much more than words. According to them, a girl can understand what a person feels for her, and develop a further line of behavior in order to interest him even more.

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External signs of love

In psychology, it is believed that in men the language of non-verbal gestures is less developed than in women. If a girl expresses her sympathy with one glance or a smile, then the young man must be "evaluated" by all signs. A single gesture still does not mean anything, but if a set of signals is repeated regularly, this indicates sympathy.

It is important not to miss the moment, as a man from time to time stops flirting and flirting when he does not see a response.

Signs of a man in love

Features of the perception of reality

Depending on how a person is aware of the space around him, signs of love will also appear:

1. The visual perceives information through eye contact. The lover begins to "wake up" in those moments when the chosen one catches his eye.
2. Auditile understands sounds better. The voice of the beloved will encourage this personality to express itself through non-verbal signs.
3. A kinesthetic person experiences the world through touch. Recognizing such a man is as easy as shelling pears: he will try to touch the person he likes as often as possible.

Of course, this does not mean that the kinesthetic will constantly stroke the hand, and the visual will only look at the beloved. But some advantage will remain behind these signs of attention.

Small but sure signs of falling in love are easy to recognize, and they will help facilitate the process of flirting.

Scorpio man how to understand that he likes you

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Men are not as good at maintaining eye contact as women. However, you need to watch your face and eyes.

Visual signals can be divided into two categories:

1. "Reviews". If a girl is not very familiar to a young man, but he likes her, then he will constantly stop looking at her, but not for long. The moment he realizes that his interest has not gone unnoticed, he will immediately look away. But soon the guy will resume the attempt again, and each time the duration will increase: from 2-3 seconds to 10-15.
2. Long contact. More assertive people or those to whom a woman has long been introduced will look at her for a long time and carefully.

When he looks at a girl, his pupils increase in size, his face turns red, his eyebrows rise.. This reaction of the body is due to great sympathy.

It is also worth paying attention to exactly where the subject you like is looking. If he constantly watches a woman and his gaze stops at the chest and hips, then he is definitely interested.

Other non-verbal cues will let you know that there is more to this.

How to understand that this is your person

Gesticulation

By nature, the male tries to feel like a leader, he needs power and a sense of his own superiority. Therefore, their signals of sympathy may seem insistent:

1. Invasion of a woman's personal space. This does not mean that he will constantly cuddle up to her, but he can tilt his head in her direction during a conversation, turn around to her with his whole body.
2. Quick touches. When talking, a man will sometimes easily, but regularly touch his beloved. By such actions, he emphasizes that the girl is his chosen one, and only he can allow such contact.
3. Finger movements. If a young man puts his fingers behind the belt of his trousers or keeps his hands in his pockets with his fingers left on the surface, then this means sexual desire and an attempt to emphasize his "male" qualities (aggression, courage, strength, will). Such gestures are purely instinctive and cannot be controlled.

Rolling objects in the palm of your hand is another sure sign of liking and affection.

Such gestures will appear unconsciously. According to them, one can conclude that a person is in love, if there are no signs, then the lady does not cause high feelings.

Appearance

When a man, when a woman appears, wants to look in the mirror, adjusts his belt, smoothes his hair, this person is not indifferent to him. The young man straightens his posture, he tries to straighten his shoulders as wide as possible, and his gait becomes smoother and gliding. With such actions, the guy is trying to stand out from the rest.

Personal contact

Everyone has their own comfort zone, where a person lets only people very close to him. Adoption in this "circle" - a sure sign that friendly or amorous sympathy. A man in love on a date will try:

take the girl by the hand;
to press cheek to cheek when meeting or parting;
hugging, holding hands on the waist, his girth will be a little stronger and stronger;
kiss the palm;
press your lips and forehead against the head of a woman.

But if a young man picks up a girl and holds her in his arms, then she can be sure of his sincere feelings.

Signs of love according to the signs of the zodiac

Signs of sympathy for each sign are manifested in certain gestures and features of verbal behavior:

1. Aries. Such men are bold and assertive, and their courtship will be similar. Intimate touches, smiles and frank glances are a small list of those signals that representatives of fire signs have.
2. Taurus. These people are not too fond of using non-verbal gestures, they are more accustomed to talking with their chosen one and trying to win her over with words. An open smile and a look, a light handshake and a kiss - this is the maximum that these men are capable of at the beginning of a relationship.
3. Gemini. They try to shield their beloved girl in every possible way from the attention of others. When rivals appear on the horizon, Gemini stands up, spreads his legs wide and straightens his shoulders, tries to be close to the woman and cover her.
4. Cancer. These men do not like to show their interest with gestures, it is easier for them to confess their feelings in words (which is extremely rare).
5. Lev. This zodiac sign is distinguished by truly royal manners, and his courtship is similar. The gestures will be extremely respectful: he will open the door in front of the lady, give her his hand when leaving the car and kiss her hand goodbye.
6. Virgo. Like Cancer, he is afraid to immediately admit his sympathies, trying to control even non-verbal behavior, so it is better not to expect gestures of love from such a person.
7. Scales. Loving men easily and quickly switch to body language. They often touch the girl, stroke her hand or hug her and are absolutely not shy about it.
8. Scorpions. Assertive and confident representatives of the water sign will simply come up and kiss, rather than play a love game. Their gestures are straightforward and speak of sympathy better than any words.
9. Sagittarius. It is not difficult for these men to talk about feelings right away, without prior flirting.
10. Capricorn. He is careful in his actions, he will slowly show his attitude towards the girl with the help of some signals: a half-smile, a turn in her direction. But this will only happen if the woman seriously hooks him, and this does not happen often.
11. Aquarius. He starts active actions only after he is convinced of serious intentions for the chosen one, before that he does not betray his feelings in any way.
12. Pisces. Men in love and romantic will secretly look at the girl, turn in her direction and try to embellish themselves.

The gestures of men in love may vary, but the most common ones still periodically appear when sympathy for a woman arises.

So, such a model of behavior should be deciphered based on several factors, each of which is decisive, because it is one thing if we are talking about just nascent relationships, and completely different forecasts and conclusions will arise if people have been together for a long time.

It also makes a lot of sense what a woman feels on herself for the touch of a man and what emotions she experiences at the same time. So, for example, if the touch of a man to a woman excites the blood, forcing her to beat more actively in her veins and she only hides from them, then in this case we are not talking about something out of the ordinary and such caresses definitely benefit both . Moreover, most skillful lovers are able to bring a woman to the highest degree of pleasure, without even entering into intimacy with her, using their talents bestowed by nature to perfection. Men's touching a woman can be considered reprehensible only in those cases when they are unpleasant for her and she experiences only shame and discomfort from such assertive behavior.

In turn, such dissatisfaction on the part of the fair sex can be dictated by two main factors. So, the first of them can be attributed to the initial stage of a relationship, when any tactile contact, and even an obsessive one, seems unacceptable and reprehensible to a woman. In this case, the man will have to significantly reduce his pressure, as he risks being misunderstood and abandoned by this lady, who has more restrained and conservative views on things of this kind. At the same time, one should not regard a woman as a narrow-minded touchy, because nature is created in such a way that the fair sex, due to its physiological characteristics, usually tends to be less intimate, unlike the same men.

Moreover, "touching" all the intimate places on the first date can simply scare away the lady and be misunderstood by her. And even if a man feels sincere sympathy for her and simply cannot restrain his keen lust and delight in her feminine beauty, she may think that he takes her for a girl of easy virtue and about no more serious plans for her than just sleeping, even and doesn't think. That is why you should be extremely careful in your body movements, especially if a woman really causes sincere sympathy. And even if you manage to sort out such a misunderstanding, an unpleasant aftertaste may still remain.

The second factor that can cause a woman's negative attitude to any touch of this kind may be a very rude or completely inept technique for their implementation.

And even if a woman does not mind making closer contact, inept caresses can cause her rejection and rejection. At the same time, most men, for one well-known reason, consider themselves absolute aces in the art of love and are seriously surprised why a woman does not like painful compression or, for example, bites of the most delicate skin of intimate areas. In order not to become a victim of such an awkward situation, you should carefully monitor any reaction of the lady to the manipulations being performed, and at the slightest dissatisfaction with her, you must immediately stop and soften the tactics. At the same time, it is extremely important to remember that the female body is like a fragile musical instrument that does not tolerate false notes and rough handling (although there are exceptions to the rules here too).

In this article, the topic of exceptions is not accidental, because there is a certain category of women who are excited by rough, assertive touches and caresses. Moreover, they even have their own system of notation, in which it is conditionally deciphered what this or that tactile gesture can mean. And despite the fact that the touches of a man to a woman and their meaning are often of an exclusively individual nature, nevertheless, a certain regularity can be deduced from them.

So, for example, a situation in which a man grabs his beloved by the face or neck is considered by sexologists to be the highest manifestation of an all-consuming passion and desire to completely subjugate this "female" to himself. By the way, women usually feel this very keenly and not only are not afraid of manifestations of this kind, but on the contrary, they begin to experience an almost animal attraction towards their sexual partner, feeling neither pain nor fear (for those who doubt, a visual aid can be a wonderful picture of 2002 "Kill me gently"). Approximately the same meaning is touched, in which a man abruptly turns a woman with her back to him and firmly, even somewhat rudely, presses her body to his. Gentle strokes of the neck, arms, chest, face and other intimate areas, on the contrary, may indicate pure intentions and feelings close to the father's. In this interpretation, there is not even the slightest hint of incest, just for men of such a warehouse, relationships are close in which he takes care of and protects his beloved in every possible way.

Both situations have a number of advantages and disadvantages, and it is up to the woman herself to decide what to do with a man of such a plan, although usually each of them is guided by her feelings, and not by her mind.

It is the inner instinct and one's own taste preferences that help to finally resolve this delicate issue, in the context of assessing the more specific significance of male touches.

Every woman wants to be loved and adored. When a man looks at his chosen one with delight, it is worth a lot. In order for personal life to develop harmoniously, both partners must be sexually satisfied. But at the dawn of a relationship, a woman does not always understand what a man wants from her. To understand, it is enough to carefully observe the young man and correctly evaluate his actions and words. If a man wants a woman, the signs will be quite eloquent.

How to recognize sympathy?

Psychologists identify a number of factors that may indicate that a man has more than just friendly feelings for a woman.

Does a man want a woman?

This question interests every girl at the beginning of a relationship. Of course, the most reliable evidence is an erection that has arisen, but it is not always possible to notice it. Therefore, it is worth looking for other ways that will help determine the desire of a guy. If a man wants a woman, signs such as or gestures will definitely give him away.

How can you tell if a guy is aroused?

Experts advise to pay attention to a number of factors that indicate that a man is excited.

Male confidence

If a man wants a woman, the signs cannot be hidden. Each young man tries to show his individuality in order to conquer the girl, but there are still common features. In the presence of his chosen one, a man can straighten his tie or belt and touch his face.

When he keeps his hands on his belt or on his hips, this is self-confidence and a subconscious call for sex. A man wants a woman to caress these places.

All thoughts are about one thing...

If a man wants a woman, the signs will "scream" about it. A young man can persistently call a girl home for some completely stupid reasons: watch a movie, evaluate his renovation, or help him with the design of an apartment.

When a man thinks about sex, he can say vulgar phrases that sometimes even repel girls. But this is worth reconciling with, since at the moment he is completely focused on his feelings and the desire to have a chosen one.

material side

Many girls often think about what are the signs that a man wants a woman. Signs can also relate to the material aspect. When dining in a cafe, a young man will definitely pay for his passion, and will not offer her to split the bill equally. This does not mean that the woman is obliged to spend the night with him, but the man hopes that she will appreciate his generosity.

Some secrets of male psychology

It has long been known that the representatives of the stronger and weaker sex differ in nature. Therefore, women should not expect from men what they cannot give them. In order for relationships to develop harmoniously, girls must take into account some of the characteristics of men.

Young people do not know how to violently show delight and admiration, they prefer to hide their emotions. Even a minor compliment can be regarded as the highest praise. A woman is unlikely to hear words in excellent form.

Almost all men love to interrupt. They do this not on purpose and do not want to offend or belittle the interlocutor. This type of communication occurs on a subconscious level. The brain of a man is arranged in such a way that he is looking for a solution. Therefore, while the girl sets out the essence of the question, he may already think over the answer and skip the information that, in his opinion, is unnecessary.

When talking with a man, you must first state the main idea, and only then proceed to discuss the details.

Young people love to argue, but a woman should not take this as a quarrel or disagreement. You do not need to prove anything to a man if the question is not fundamental. It is much wiser to agree with him and admit the correctness of his arguments.

When a tense situation arises, it is enough for a woman to touch a man and hug him to extinguish a quarrel. This behavior turns off the logic and tunes it to the emotions.

The most valuable thing is deeds!

The behavior of a man who wants a woman is quite predictable. He will look for meetings with her, call after dates, give flowers and gifts. Do not settle for not making sure that the young intention. If he is sure to prove it with his actions and actions. And when a man needs one-time sex, he is unlikely to take care of and seek the attention of his passion for a long time. Women should remember this, so as not to experience a bitter feeling of disappointment later.

Sometimes we desperately want to know if the man we like is interested in us. Alas, the myth that the representatives of the stronger sex in the literal sense of the word “take it in a hurry” is greatly exaggerated. We are all different, regardless of gender, and where one directly expresses his sympathy, the second will fall into a stupor at the sight of the object of his adoration.

Therefore, it is impossible to equate the actions of each man with the only true and “supposed” ones.

How to identify a man in love?

Is it worth saying that many of them simply cannot express their sympathy verbally, due to certain circumstances?

However, there are also non-verbal manifestations of sympathy and interest on the part of a person, which are easy to "count", knowing what exactly they mean. Gestures of sympathy from men to a woman are diverse, and if you want to know everything about them, we will be happy to tell you how to identify a “male” in love in a company!

It is generally accepted that the manifestations of female love are quite colorful - a beautiful lady literally “blooms”, a slight blush appears on her cheeks, and her eyes shine with happiness. Some women even lose a lot of weight during the period of falling in love and being infatuated with a certain man! And what is male sympathy for external "symptoms"?

It turns out that a man's enthusiasm can also manifest itself outwardly, and quite clearly and specifically, which cannot be overlooked with due attention. If you have a suspicion that someone has fallen in love with you, or you want to recognize this from a certain person, we will gladly tell you about the non-verbal signs of a man's sympathy for a woman!

Gestures, looks, facial expressions

A man in love has to hide his sympathies quite hard, and this is no secret to anyone. When we feel that we like someone very much, we experience something like euphoria, spiritual uplift, inner harmony. Of course, all this is difficult to "mask" from prying eyes. Men behave in much the same way as we do. Therefore, there are many signs of sympathy on the part of a man that are easily recognized "to the naked eye".

What can betray a person interested in your attention?

Sight. always looks at his newfound passion in a special way. Whether there is a whole crowd of pretty girls among him, he singles out exactly her. Often his gaze becomes especially intent, even, if I may say so, “fixed”. When you respond in kind, the man tends to look away. When a man in love looks at you, his eyes seem to “shine”, they show the same “sparks” that are written about in women's magazines. Thanks to her innate intuition, a woman simply cannot lose sight of this;
Gait. Another change happens with the gait. She becomes light, as if flying, or even dancing. Often a man begins to hum melodies and whistle. Which, you see, is completely uncharacteristic for typical representatives of the stronger sex in ordinary life;
Attitude and outlook. A guy in love changes radically in front of others. He becomes more cheerful, mobile, "easy-going". He is dominated by high spirits and cheerful disposition. It is said that in this state he is able to "move mountains", and this statement is fully justified. By the way, it is during the period of falling in love that men often commit adventurous and reckless acts that are completely unexpected for them. They can go on specific feats, causing great surprise and bewilderment on the part of the people around them;
Gestures. Back in children's "encyclopedias for girls" it was said that an interested young man always puts his toe in the direction of the object of desire. And this is true - a man always turns his foot to where his beloved is standing. And here it is important not to make a mistake - if you become a witness of other signs of a man's hidden sympathy for a woman, but his sock is not directed in your direction, respectively, he does not send them to you at all. Faced with you, he tries to preen - touches his hair, straightens his tie, shakes "invisible dust" from clothes. Another important "symptom" of intense interest is the thumbs in front of the pants belt, as if the man is about to expose her. Moreover, this gesture is purely instinctive and uncontrollable, because in wildlife the male always tries to demonstrate his genitals to the female in order to indicate his clear superiority over rivals. Another similar “natural” gesture is placing your hands in your trouser pockets with your thumbs up. Thus, a man tries to show his determination, will, firmness of character;
Posture. If a man is in love, he tries to show the object of sympathy all his “power” and “strength”, which is given to him by nature. He stands straight, straightens his shoulders, as if trying to demonstrate the width of his back. He often keeps his hands on his hips and spreads his legs wide, as if showing his physique. When talking, he turns to his beloved with his whole body and listens very carefully to what she says.

Unlike female signs of sympathy for a man, the second one expresses its disposition more “carefully”. If a woman, in the presence of her newly-born hero, often begins to stutter, speak out of place and simply carry out frank nonsense, a man tries to seem more balanced, strong and smart to her. After all, by nature he is a male, which means that such weaknesses are not inherent in him!

Colleague: how to recognize the signs of his affection for you?

It happens that a single, young, promising, and, moreover, a very nice employee appears in the team, who immediately becomes a “target” for women. The case often ends "office romance" if a certain girl recognizes his signals of sympathy for her in time.

Male colleague: what are his signs of sympathy for you?

It makes you stand out from everyone. Moreover, he can do it openly, for example, praise you for a brilliantly done work, set an example, admire your experience, skills and knowledge. He tries to be closer to you, and is interested in conversations with you. He often appears in those places where he can “accidentally” meet you, even if his localization in them is completely inappropriate;
He looks at you. A closer look is always a sign of passion. However, it can be directed not only to your eyes. An interested representative of the stronger sex can often turn his gaze to where yours is directed. If a man stares at your lips, it signals sexual interest. Psychology often talks about "devouring eyes", i.e. detailed examination of your entire body in order to memorize the details of the image;
He is "undressing". No, of course not completely! However, if a man wants to give you a certain signal, in your presence he can take off his jacket or vest, loosen his tie, unfasten his watch strap. All this suggests that he wants to draw your attention to himself;
He invades your personal space, and in the truest sense of the word. Each person has a so-called intimate zone, located no further than arm's length. In it, we usually allow only relatives and well-known people. If a man wants to be in her, this is a great sign that he wants to get close and start a relationship with you;
He tries to create tactile contact. Does your colleague constantly try to touch you, put his arm around your waist, put his hand on the chair or chair where you are sitting? This indicates his serious interest. And thus, he instinctively shows other "males"that you are his territory, which cannot be encroached upon;
He shines in society. If a young man constantly tries to demonstrate his sharp mind or sense of humor in your presence, he probably likes you a lot. However, this signal also needs to be regarded as a complex, since it can be directed towards a completely different lady.

Signs of sympathy are multifaceted and varied, and in your case it is important to evaluate them in combination. You can not rely on only one signal, considering it the only true one. And then, do not forget that the guy can theoretically have other objects of attention, in which he involuntarily has to express his interest in your society.