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The girl asks to let go. How to forget the woman you love. How to let go of your ex. Why you need to let your ex-girlfriend go

Getting your girlfriend back can be tricky, especially if your relationship ended on a minor note. However, if you think that there is an incredible connection between you, then it is worth collecting the cooled coals and trying to rekindle the extinguished flame. If you want the girl to want you back, give her time to remember and understand how adorable you are. And to figure out how to do this, just follow the next steps.

Steps

Step aside temporarily

  1. Give the girl some freedom. Perhaps you think that the best way to get a girl back is to fight for her with all your might and by any means, in fact, it is better to give her some respite than to immediately rush into battle. Unless she's in a serious relationship with another guy and you're determined to break them up, take it easy, give her time to heal and take a fresh look at the relationship.

    • This does not mean that you need to cut all ties, unless you think this will be the best way. But you shouldn't write to her every five minutes or ask her to walk with you all the time, as you will only push the girl away.
    • If you leave her alone, she will most likely think of you too. She will think that she hasn't heard a word from you for some time. For a girl, this will mean that you are good without her. It will intrigue and make her think about how you are doing there.
    • If she initiates meetings early enough, that's good. But don't rush to get too close when you are together.
    • Giving your girl some freedom will make you look more mature. This will make her want to bring you back even more.
    • Of course, you shouldn't delay taking action. Give the girl enough time to heal her wounds, but not too much time to forget all the wonderful moments associated with you. Cases are different - trust your intuition. However, there is a general rule of thumb: give her at least a couple of weeks, but no more than two months.

  2. Think about what went wrong. Giving the girl some freedom, do not sit with folded arms, watching the movement of the clock hands. Instead, think about why things ended between you two. If the reason is obvious, like you haven't given enough time to it, great. But if the situation is more complicated, for example, you didn’t let her know how much you value her, and you spent too much time at parties, then you need to pinpoint the problems that caused your feelings to cool down.

    • If the girl was the initiator of the breakup, then the problem is more serious. Think of all the reasons that could have pushed her to break up. If things are cut short, look through your mail and text messages for a possible reason for the breakup.
    • If you've ended a relationship, that's another matter entirely. You need to convince the girl that you will not break her heart again.

  3. Make a plan for solving the problem. Got the problem? The decision is yours. If there are multiple problems, you need to find several solutions, or one comprehensive solution that will solve each of them. If the relationship is broken because you spent too much time with your friends, find opportunities to give your girlfriend more attention by arranging weekly evening dates and looking for more things to do. And if it’s because of your inability to communicate well, add honesty and empathy to your day-to-day relationship.

    • First of all, you need to work on yourself. It’s clear that you were flawed in the relationship.
    • Change your attitude towards the girl. If her fascination with horses is driving you crazy, find a way not to get so annoyed about it before moving on.
    • If there are a lot of problems, make a long-term plan of action, regardless of whether it relates to psychotherapy, quitting addiction, or some kind of overhaul of the soul.

  4. Work on yourself. Even if you think that you have accurately identified the problem and found a solution that will allow you to instantly return the girl, nothing is so easy. Better to work on becoming a more attractive person in general. And when you face the girl again, she will feel the difference. We are talking about both internal and external work on oneself. A new hairstyle is unlikely to impress a girl, but the cheerfulness and conscious changes that you make to your image will make her pay attention to you.

    • Dedicate more time to your favorite hobbies, be it cycling or mechanics. When a person devotes himself to what he likes, he becomes more positive, and it becomes much more pleasant to communicate with him.
    • Develop a more positive outlook on life. If she feels happier just by being around you, she will most likely want to see each other as often as possible.

    Make the girl want you back

    1. Show your girlfriend that everything is fine without her. If she finds out that you are completely unhappy, cry in public and shout her name at every corner, she will forget about you faster than you can say that you miss her. Instead, make her know and see that you are having a great time every day without her. She will see you as an active, vital person, and will wonder why you are not openly demonstrating that you miss her more and more.

      • Have fun in places where you are likely to meet her. Show that you are having fun with friends, let her see you laughing and having fun, but don't overdo it.
      • When you see her in society, such as at a party, don't drop everything to run and ask how she's doing. Ultimately, approach her, but make it clear what an active social life you have without her.

    2. Let her friends know that she needs you. Here's a fact: you can't get a girl back if her friends don't stand up for you. If friends don't like you because you were too controlling, careless about them, or simply because you are a bad guy, then your goal is to convince them that you are not so bad, and then they will pass this information girl.

      • When reaching out to her friends, take the trouble to have a sweet conversation and not seem too intrusive.
      • When talking to her friends, don't mention her right away. Although you can casually ask how she is doing and really let them know how painful you are, if you are able to be so vulnerable.

    3. When the time is right, slowly approach her. When enough time has passed and you are back in her field of vision, you need to slowly begin to return to her life. When faced with her, stop and talk for a couple of minutes, or at lunch, as if accidentally place your tray next to her, or even write her a message if you know that her favorite show is starting on TV.

      • Keep calm. Be nice to her, letting her know that you just want to be friends. Don't shower her with compliments on the second date after a breakup.
      • As soon as you start chatting again, raise the stakes slightly. Offer her something simple, like having a coffee or getting ready for a library class together. This is not the time for romance.

    4. Show how you have changed. Screaming "Look how I've changed!" - not necessary. Just spend more time with the girl so that she understands that you have changed your attitude towards life, if necessary. If she thought you were too sloppy, work on your appearance. If she criticized you for being constantly late, make an effort to show up early for your next date for coffee. You should not focus on what you have changed in yourself. Let the girl see for herself and she will be truly impressed.

      • Change should come naturally to you. Do not change anything just to appease the girl, otherwise everything will return to normal at the first opportunity.
      • If you feel like you actually hurt your girlfriend when you dated, it's never too late to apologize. She will be touched that you thought about the relationship so much after it ended.

    5. Stuff yourself. Yes exactly. Even when you think that you have almost returned the girl, even when she finally realizes what a tidbit you are, it is not yet time to declare your love. Instead, throw the rod so that she realizes that she still has to fight for your love, and not just throw herself into your arms. As you start dating more and more often, remember that you don't need to be available all the time.

      • Get lost for a few hours and let her think where you are. She’ll just go crazy.
      • After dating, mention them without too much detail, and she thinks she might really lose you.

    6. Make sure she wants you back. Once you feel like you've got her attention and made her jealous, it's time to make sure she really wants you back before confessing your feelings. You don't need to be 100% sure about her feelings, but the more confident you are, the less you will blush. Here are some signs of her desire to renew the relationship:

      • Pay attention to her body language. When you speak to her, does she lean closer to you and look into your eyes? Does she look down every time she is embarrassed?
      • See if she is jealous. She asks if you are dating other women, or does she look upset when you hang out with girls? If so, then she wants you to be only with her.
      • Observe, she may have started treating you like her boyfriend again. Does she hug you, compliment you, and invite you on dates with particular enthusiasm?

    7. Admit your feelings. Once you make sure she shares your feelings, it doesn't make sense to beat around the bush. Find a time when you can be alone, and a romantic place with the right atmosphere. Now look into her eyes and tell her how much you missed and how you want to be together again. Do not humiliate yourself, but you need to show that you thought a lot about a failed relationship, and now you are determined to change everything for the better.

      • Be convincing. Show how much effort you have made to change instead of making empty promises.
      • Give her time. If she refuses you at first, don't get angry or disappointed. Remember, even if the girl wants you back, her wounds may not yet heal.
  5. Don't take the relationship for granted. Just because you’re dating again doesn’t mean you shouldn’t rush to show your girlfriend how much you love her.
  6. Do not hurry. Treat the relationship as if it were new, instead of plunging back into the old relationship. Don't be together all the time, even if it was before the breakup.

  7. Don't repeat mistakes. You do not need to constantly think about unsuccessful relationships, but you need to realize what caused the breakup the last time. If it was because you spent too much time with your friends and you find yourself doing it again, settle down a little. And if it all ended because of the girl's act and everything repeats itself, have the courage to talk about it.

    • Think about how you felt terrible after making mistakes the first time. You don't want to feel this pain again.
    • If you feel that you cannot be yourself without dooming the relationship to failure, then you should rethink your priorities.
    • Be confident in yourself. Remember, the girl loves you, not your meek version in need of her attention.

Advice

  • Be discerning. Assess your ex-girlfriend before doing anything - she may have changed for the better or for the worse. Either way, you will either not like the changes, or it may become easier to bring it back.
  • When spending time alone with your ex, do not openly insult her new boyfriend, as this will make your true intentions apparent and embarrass you.
  • Set aside all disagreements and do not leave unresolved problems before embarking on this mission.

Good day, I am meeting with a girl 2.5 years old, we are from different cities, so we see each other only on weekends, and when her school holidays began to meet when she was 15 years old a month to 16, we have a difference of 8 years, now she is 18 sex we have been living life for over a year, everything was fine, she went to see me, I lived with each other for weeks when we met, she always spent in my city, my mother loves her like a daughter. when we had fights, then usually I came and hugged her after she calmed down, and everything became normal, on the Internet we often quarreled but quickly left, when they were very rare in the place, and now she left on watch, she put a photo in VK that was not beautiful asked to change, because it was difficult to see it there, etc. she did not want to change the password in VK (although we had passwords from the beginning of the relationship, she trusted me with it and I gave her mine) so that I did not change we had a fight on this topic. I asked her do you trust me she said no. I freaked out, added her to the blacklist in VK for a couple of minutes. I quickly move away from quarrels and she is very touchy, and leaves for a long time. and after 5-7 minutes I added her again, asked for an apology, she said that she no longer loves and does not want to see. started to ignore on the social network. when he arrived he gave a bouquet of bears, she accepted the gifts for the Rafaelka, and she told me that she didn’t like it and didn’t give us a chance to be in the place, spent the night with them for 2 days, my mother allowed her. slept in the same bed, but it was impossible to touch her as soon as a finger even trnu fucking screamed at the whole house so as not to touch her. for all the time I have never hit her. and now she is behaving so that you cannot touch her, but for me hugs are very important. and so he tried to go to her often during the day, she smiles laughs sometimes allowed to touch herself, but as her throne changed in her face and freaked out, she immediately said that she would not give me a chance. and now I do not know what to do, she asks for time to understand herself. She definitely does not have another, I'm sure of this help me what to do very badly without her and I don't want to let her go

Sergey, hello.

There is such a wonderful, very wise saying: "You can't be cute by force." This is exactly what you are trying to do.


I feel very bad without her and I don't want to let her go

Sergei, it is not without reason that an adult man connects his life with a very young girl. This is usually due to the emotional immaturity of the man himself. So you do not care about the girl's happiness, but about the fact that you feel good. And how she will be in a relationship with you, it seems, is not very important.

It seems that in order for the relationship to improve (at least with this girl, at least with another), you will have to make a cosmic leap - learn to respect the needs and desires of another person. Including to keep your personal space (passwords from social networks, for example) from you, to let go of the other when he does not want to be with you. This is a daunting task, but this step will help you have healthier and more harmonious relationships in the future.

Good luck and awareness.

Best regards, your psychologist Irina Rozanova, St. Petersburg

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Sergey, good afternoon!
I think the time has come for a lot of things to talk with your girlfriend. In my opinion, a quarrel over the photo on Ave is more likely an excuse, tension and discontent have already been accumulated from her, and possibly from your side too. It often happens when people in a couple discuss little about their discontent, plans or wishes for the future.
I think the best option for you now is to get ready and have a serious talk with your girlfriend about how to improve your relationship. What is important for this:
1. To understand and honestly answer to yourself why she is so dear to you, what kind of relationship you want with her in the future. (Do you consider her as a future wife, the mother of your children, if so, after how long do you want to live together, get married, etc. Does everything suit you in a relationship, what you like and what you want to change).

2. Agree with her about the conversation - appoint a convenient time, place (even if it will be on Skype) and indicate the purpose of the conversation (so that she does not get scared).

3. Prepare your list of questions and topics that are important for you to discuss (and ask her, and voice your opinion). For example, what she likes in a relationship with you is valuable, and what does not suit her; how she wants to see the development of your relationship in a year, two to five.

4. And then - the most interesting and most necessary - reach an agreement! This means in those points where your views clearly diverge, you need to come to a common one. Let her say her conditions under which she is ready to stay with you. And you will voice your conditions. I am sure if this relationship is really important to both of you, you will be able to agree on their implementation.

If one of you insists on clearly impossible conditions, or is unable to discuss, this is a sign that this partner is not interested in maintaining the relationship.

I wish you to discuss all the ambiguities with your girlfriend and agree to live happily ever after! All the best to you!

Maria Efimova,
practicing psychologist, coach, Tyumen

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How to let your ex-girlfriend go

Get the girl back

How to let your ex-girlfriend go

Not all of our relationships lead to a happy marriage, and not all of our relationships are destined to end on a happy note. Based on this, we can say that each of us in life will experience several unhappy partings with girls, and some of them will forever remain in our memory.

And we all need to solve one big and fateful task: to transfer memories from the category of "painful" to the category of "we were young, happy and stupid." And this state can be achieved with the help of three stages, through which every guy with a broken heart has to go through.

Why you need to let your ex-girlfriend go

We've known a lot of guys who have suffered from their ex-girlfriends over the years. They constantly tried to return past relationships, tried to get in touch with the girl, looked for her face on the street in the crowd. But most importantly, they refused other girls, even if they were decent and attractive girls. The guys actually put themselves in a cage of empty hopes and ruined their lives.

It is for this reason that it is necessary to let go of your ex-girlfriend so that she does not take the place in your heart set aside for new feelings and emotions. This is the only way to rejoice in life, again have an interest in girls and improve your sex life.

If a guy wants to be happy again, he must let go of his ex and forget about the dreams associated with her forever.

How to let go of a girl - stages

Suffering and longing. If a guy really loved a girl, then after parting, there comes a moment when the holes in his heart begin to remind of himself more and more. And the situation takes such a form that only in the company of friends or at work can a person live, and as soon as he is alone with himself, he is swallowed up by melancholy.

Even for all the ready girls, friends and alcohol are not able to help a guy avoid this stage in his life. Anyway, sooner or later, such a wave will cover him, and he will suffer!

And this stage will last until the guy empties himself completely, when there is no one left inside whom he would feel sorry for. A person who could enjoy life and love will die inside!

Beginning and first steps. After such devastation, a person will again come out to the light and begin to learn step by step to live without his girlfriend. He will understand that time can be spent with friends, and not necessarily with a girl. He will understand that many girls communicate as sweet and romantic as his ex-girlfriend. He will start looking for new acquaintances, he will start looking for a new warmth in people that he missed so much.

And the danger at this stage is excessive cowardice and weakness, because it is so easy to hide back in your dark world when other people burn you with their energy and emotions. Only those who conquer the fear of the unknown will be able to let go of their girlfriend and go forward to a new star!

Recovery and new love. As soon as a person can improve his life without a girl in his life, he will understand that he has a lot of free time and energy for new feelings and emotions. Someone completely devotes themselves to a new hobby, someone improves their skills and abilities, and someone sets off on a journey on a sailing ship of love to new shores.

This is a whole new world that is open to the guy, a world in which there is no more room for suffering, pain and emptiness. And that's exactly what a guy should strive for.

Letting go of the anchors of the ex-girlfriend

An anchor is any thing or emotion that connects your feelings and emotions with your ex. For example, a mug that a girl gave for an anniversary, or shared photos that the two of you took together. These are all those things that first make you a little happier, and then plunge you back into the darkness of suffering.

Delete all photos of the girl. Many of us love to look at photos of our girls, especially if these are naughty photos. But to make it easier for you to get rid of the girl, you need to completely remove them all. Of course, a few days after deletion, you will reproach yourself for this step, you will try to restore them or somehow find them again. But, find the strength in yourself, and delete these photos!

Do not go to her page. Block yourself or punish yourself somehow so that you cannot visit your ex-girlfriend's page. After breaking up, almost all guys begin to spy on their ex-girlfriend, and also spy on a guy who is somehow connected with her. Don't look for a connection, don't torment yourself with different thoughts, just give it up.

Do not go to "your" places. Absolutely all guys, after parting with a girl, begin to walk in common places, or start walking near the girl's house, hoping to see her at least for a moment. Believe me, you will simply waste your time, and such a chance meeting will give you absolutely nothing! Free yourself from this.

Her friends. You don't need to discuss your girlfriend with your mutual friends and ask them to tell her something. If it happens that the girl gives you another chance, you will be the first to know about it. Asking your friends to spy on your girlfriend or send something to her: stupid and useless, do not waste your time on this.

Negative. Sometimes guys get so upset about a breakup that they begin to slander their ex-girlfriend a lot of unflattering words, and then they realize that it was said in vain. As a result, they set themselves the goal of apologizing for these words to the girl, creating an additional debt-anchor for themselves! It is better not to do stupid things initially than to somehow make excuses to oneself.

When will I let her go?

You will be ready for a new relationship, when all the memories and feelings about your ex-girlfriend turn into something distant, pleasant and completely unnecessary. Then you will be ready for new feelings and achievements. You know, this is difficult, but it still needs to be done.

We have already met for 8 months, at first we went through many trials, we did not understand each other, made compromises to each other, made concessions, when we went somewhere, gave each other reports, set a certain time, she recently began to say that I set the framework, I said: let's agree somehow differently! Although, to tell the truth, I set frames, argued, swore, quarrels, we talked every day by phone, by text messages, saw each other almost every day, everyone was jealous of our relationship, but we often had quarrels when we swore when I was to blame or when she was to blame, I always took the first steps, it happened that I ran, made various beautiful gestures, flowers, gifts, cards, candles, made surprises, nice things, everything was fine, 3 days ago we had a fight, she said that she wanted to be alone, I love you, I didn’t love anyone so much, I love you very much, but I’m tired, you put pressure on me, I want to be alone! I said: okay, I won't press, she says: no, it's too late, patience is over, and so tried, and so tried to talk, her best friend thought that we would make up, she talked to her and told me: she loves you, she has no one, she's just tired and wants to be alone, we saw each other, she said everything about what she was tired of, what I put pressure on, I told her, understood everything, said, I promise it won't happen, she cried all the time, said, I love you, but it's too late, I want to be alone, let me go, I’ve decided everything, I don’t want any relationship with anyone, I want to be free and that's it!
My friend said that she was used to the fact that when you swear, you run after her, here she shows character, her friend says: don't talk to her yet, don't press on her, then we'll see !!! give advice, please, what should I do ???? I want her back.

Jaha, Tashkent, 21 years old

Psychologist's answer:

Hello Jaha.

She is probably tired of the pressure and constant stress (conflicts, quarrels, clarifications). You need to take a break from each other and then reconsider the ways of interaction.

Respectfully yours, Lipkina Arina Yurievna.

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It seemed that you only recently met her, the one from which your heart was pounding in a frantic rhythm, you were dizzy with a surge of feelings, and your emotions like a hurricane seized you in the desire to be with her always. She is beautiful, you are happy together, it seems that your love is endless.

But time passes, and now the moment has come when you see that the relationship has changed, love has changed, and if your love may have grown into real love, then for the girl time has shown that you are not a couple, her feelings began to grow colder, and she became move away from you.

This fact does not want to accept at all, it seems that all this is temporary, and everything will change, you just have to try, and at this moment a man begins to look for reasons and, as a rule, looks for them in himself, in his attitude, behavior.

Often a man loses self-respect for himself, he forgets about his personality, and only his beloved woman comes to the fore. But this does not help, it only gets worse, and she repels with even greater force, already quite clearly showing that she does not want to be with you anymore, that she no longer wants your meetings and your communication, but at the same time she does not leave, she does not quit and does not put the last point in the relationship, perhaps it’s because of pity, maybe it’s fear, or maybe it’s a habit, but be that as it may, it’s already quite clear that it’s time to leave. And if your beloved does not have the courage to leave you, then you must do it.

It is much easier and more worthy to let go of your beloved woman, and not to be abandoned by a man, so you need to take courage and let go of your beloved woman.

We understand that this is not easy, but for someone it seems impossible, so on the Love-911 website we will try to consider this situation and understand what to do and how to let go of our beloved.

You know that in a relationship there are always ups and downs, there are both storms of emotions and a chill that gradually destroys them. But the whole point is that if two have feelings, then when the chill begins, each understands how he does not want to lose each other, a certain awareness comes, and the feelings intensify again, both partners do everything to revive this relationship again.
And one must understand that if this struggle is going on only from one side, then it is a senseless struggle.
Plus, when you start fighting for a relationship alone, you stop remembering yourself as a person, trying to please your beloved in everything and running after her, two very destructive things happen:
First: the girl ceases to respect you, appreciate and value you. Why it ceases to respect, probably, it is clear, to appreciate and value it ceases, since you do not even give her the opportunity to feel what it means to value you, because you are always at her feet, for every call you are already with her, any problem - you are like here.
Second: gradually you will begin to hate yourself for humiliating yourself in front of her, for the fact that she “made” you experience such pain. Actually, this is already enough to understand that in order to continue living, you need to let go of your beloved.

How to let go of your beloved

1. Accept her feelings

Accept the fact that the girl may not feel for you the way you would like.

2. Closing some doors, life opens up new ones

A hard parting

How to let your ex-girlfriend go

Not all of our relationships lead to a happy marriage, and not all of our relationships are destined to end on a happy note. Based on this, we can say that each of us in life will experience several unhappy partings with girls, and some of them will forever remain in our memory.

And we all need to solve one big and fateful task: to transfer memories from the category of "painful" to the category of "we were young, happy and stupid." And this state can be achieved with the help of three stages, through which every guy with a broken heart has to go through.

Why you need to let your ex-girlfriend go

We've known a lot of guys who have suffered from their ex-girlfriends over the years. They constantly tried to return past relationships, tried to get in touch with the girl, looked for her face on the street in the crowd. But most importantly, they refused other girls, even if they were decent and attractive girls. The guys actually put themselves in a cage of empty hopes and ruined their lives.

It is for this reason that it is necessary to let go of your ex-girlfriend so that she does not take the place in your heart set aside for new feelings and emotions. This is the only way to rejoice in life, again have an interest in girls and improve your sex life.

If a guy wants to be happy again, he must let go of his ex and forget about the dreams associated with her forever.

How to let go of a girl - stages

Suffering and longing. If a guy really loved a girl, then after parting, there comes a moment when the holes in his heart begin to remind of himself more and more. And the situation takes such a form that only in the company of friends or at work can a person live, and as soon as he is alone with himself, he is swallowed up by melancholy.

Even for all the ready girls, friends and alcohol are not able to help a guy avoid this stage in his life. Anyway, sooner or later, such a wave will cover him, and he will suffer!

And this stage will last until the guy empties himself completely, when there is no one left inside whom he would feel sorry for. A person who could enjoy life and love will die inside!

Beginning and first steps. After such devastation, a person will again come out to the light and begin to learn step by step to live without his girlfriend. He will understand that time can be spent with friends, and not necessarily with a girl. He will understand that many girls communicate as sweet and romantic as his ex-girlfriend. He will start looking for new acquaintances, he will start looking for a new warmth in people that he missed so much.

And the danger at this stage is excessive cowardice and weakness, because it is so easy to hide back in your dark world when other people burn you with their energy and emotions. Only those who conquer the fear of the unknown will be able to let go of their girlfriend and go forward to a new star!

Recovery and new love. As soon as a person can improve his life without a girl in his life, he will understand that he has a lot of free time and energy for new feelings and emotions. Someone completely devotes themselves to a new hobby, someone improves their skills and abilities, and someone sets off on a journey on a sailing ship of love to new shores.

This is a whole new world that is open to the guy, a world in which there is no more room for suffering, pain and emptiness. And that's exactly what a guy should strive for.

Letting go of the anchors of the ex-girlfriend

An anchor is any thing or emotion that connects your feelings and emotions with your ex. For example, a mug that a girl gave for an anniversary, or shared photos that the two of you took together. These are all those things that first make you a little happier, and then plunge you back into the darkness of suffering.

Delete all photos of the girl. Many of us love to look at photos of our girls, especially if these are naughty photos. But to make it easier for you to get rid of the girl, you need to completely remove them all. Of course, a few days after deletion, you will reproach yourself for this step, you will try to restore them or somehow find them again. But, find the strength in yourself, and delete these photos!

Do not go to her page. Block yourself or punish yourself somehow so that you cannot visit your ex-girlfriend's page. After breaking up, almost all guys begin to spy on their ex-girlfriend, and also spy on a guy who is somehow connected with her. Don't look for a connection, don't torment yourself with different thoughts, just give it up.

Do not go to "your" places. Absolutely all guys, after parting with a girl, begin to walk in common places, or start walking near the girl's house, hoping to see her at least for a moment. Believe me, you will simply waste your time, and such a chance meeting will give you absolutely nothing! Free yourself from this.

Her friends. You don't need to discuss your girlfriend with your mutual friends and ask them to tell her something. If it happens that the girl gives you another chance, you will be the first to know about it. Asking your friends to spy on your girlfriend or send something to her: stupid and useless, do not waste your time on this.

Negative. Sometimes guys get so upset about a breakup that they begin to slander their ex-girlfriend a lot of unflattering words, and then they realize that it was said in vain. As a result, they set themselves the goal of apologizing for these words to the girl, creating an additional debt-anchor for themselves! It is better not to do stupid things initially than to somehow make excuses to oneself.

When will I let her go?

You will be ready for a new relationship, when all the memories and feelings about your ex-girlfriend turn into something distant, pleasant and completely unnecessary. Then you will be ready for new feelings and achievements. You know, this is difficult, but it still needs to be done.

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