How to excite a guy from a distance through short SMS. How to write sexy messages

At all times, the relationship between a man and a woman was not easy and resembled a kind of game.

So today - guys and girls are not used to talking directly about their feelings, intentions, just desires.

And this happens not only because it is not customary to talk about such things directly, but also for such a simple reason that men themselves are often not sure of what they want and what they feel. However, human psychology is such that gestures, looks, behavior can give out hidden thoughts.

Therefore, a sufficiently attentive and observant girl can always guess that the guy is not indifferent to her. And words are often completely unnecessary for this.

How to reliably understand that a man wants you. Especially if he does not show this in any way and does not speak about his hidden desires?

Simple signs will say everything for him!

There are simple actions that will definitely give out men's desires. Just do not confuse lust with falling in love - such a delusion often confuses women and girls.

If a man really wants a woman, this suggests that she attracted him with her sexuality, attractiveness, she attracts him and makes him dream, be in sweet fantasies.

But this does not mean at all that the man is in love, has some serious feelings and wants to be with this girl! Perhaps this will come in the future, but sexual lust often goes away after an intimate relationship.

However, a wise woman knows how to turn a man's desire right. And if you use your feminine power correctly, then you can achieve a lot from your beloved.

Of course, if you give yourself up to a man right away, then besides fleeting pleasure, you are unlikely to get anything. And if you show cunning and intelligence, then you can really tie him to yourself and build a good strong relationship.

But for this it is worth learning to recognize the signs that give out male desires. Let's figure out how to understand that a man really wants a woman?

• She behaves differently with the young lady she attracts, as with the rest.
• His gaze is literally attracted by a "magnet" to her.
• He makes compliments, shows other signs of attention.
• The man is clearly trying to look good when he meets.
• He is looking for an excuse to gently touch, to be closer to smell a woman.
• In the general company, this man tries to stand out from others.

There are many more signs, but these are the most obvious. They tell you unmistakably that your friend is clearly attracted. Let's consider each feature separately.

A special attitude is a sure sign!

When communicating with a man in a company, it is easy to notice if he sets you apart from the rest. Pay close attention to how he interacts with other members of your gender - his intonation, speech, expressions, his gestures, where his eyes look.

Therefore, compare these signs with the same, but in relation to you. If they are clearly different, you can draw conclusions.

Look at his gestures. As a rule, during a conversation, a man's hands are at the level of the abdomen or chest.

And when he talks to the woman he really wants, all his gestures will be concentrated in the pelvic area (if he is sitting). This is psychosomatics, and you cannot argue with it: gestures betray inner desires and thoughts.

Also, a man can make involuntary movements of his hips or knees, this happens very naturally and almost imperceptibly for him. And it is the surest sign that mentally he is already making passionate love with you.

The man's speech and voice will also be different. Hear how he speaks to other ladies and compare. If in a conversation with you he tries to be more polite, his voice is softer and quieter, this is also a clear sign of his attraction to you.

The eyes will tell everything!

If a man looks at your lips, neck, chest, legs during a conversation, it is obvious that he wants you. Moreover, such views are often not intentional.

This is how the stronger sex works - his eyes are simply attracted by attractive parts of the female body, there is nothing to be done! So watch out for the eyes that have a lot to say!

This is especially noticeable if you are on the sidelines. When a man desperately wants a woman, he will glance at her every few seconds.

Being in a general company, step aside and try to observe. While he is busy with some of his own affairs or, for example, talking with someone, he will periodically cast glances in your direction.

If you work together, it is especially easy to notice: such a man from time to time will look at your legs, high-heeled shoes, chest. In a conversation about business or something abstract, he will not be focused enough, and it will be easy to understand from his eyes.

Signs of clear attention

In fact, it's not difficult to understand if a man wants you. He will not hide it much.

It is important for women not to show their sympathy and to be modest, mysterious, intrigue and make men suffer in ignorance. But the stronger sex is arranged differently - its representatives are usually very direct, open and persistent.

Most likely, a man will show signs of attention, because he does not just want a woman - he certainly thinks how to get her. And in order to achieve this, you need to persistently look after her, give nice gifts and flowers, say beautiful compliments, and so on.

Having sexual lust will cause him to choose special gifts and speak special words. It will be different from romantic youthful impulses, and certainly have a subtle sexual overtones. So you can reliably and accurately understand what is on the mind of the gentleman.

If he presented you with sexy lingerie, a negligee or a dressing gown - this is already an open offer, and not even a hint. But this rarely happens, more often a man who wants a woman gives her very cute trinkets - soft bears, cute jewelry, bouquets and sweets.

He suddenly became so beautiful ...

Every man understands perfectly well that in order for you to fall into his strong arms, he must be attractive.

So he suddenly changes - he puts on fresh shirts, he always smells good, and you can no longer remember when he was unshaven.

Appearance will give you a direct answer - if he always looks neat and fresh, going to a meeting with you, it is likely that he is attracted and hopes to get you.

Hands stretch like a magnet ...

For every man, the female body is an object of admiration. And if a man wants you, then first of all he will experience an irresistible desire to touch. Distinguishing simple, friendly touches from those with sexual connotations is easy.

If his touches are gentle, very light, often as if accidental, this is a clear sign of sexual desire.

It is also worth knowing the places to which men's hands reach. This place is slightly below the waist (a well-mannered man is unlikely to grab you by the buttocks, although he will certainly have such a desire), hair and neck, face, wrists, hips, knees, legs.

Also, men are always very aroused by the female smell. Therefore, you will be able to notice that a man seeks to smell you - to say something in his ear, while inhaling the smell of your hair, to kiss, to inhale the scent of perfume.

He's better than the rest!

If you are with your chosen man in a common company, and there are other representatives of his gender, then he will obviously try to be better than the rest.

Men by nature are leaders, conquerors, it is very important for them to be the first. So he will do his best to be much better than others in order to achieve your location.

In general, it will not be difficult for a woman to determine that a man wants her very much. Everything in him betrays this desire: the eyes become as if with a drag, the gaze wanders and cannot stop in front of your eyes, he is a little nervous, pays obvious attention and seems to be following you like a predatory animal.

Even the most modest and timid guy will not be able to hide his desire. It is too strong, and one way or another it will still be manifested.

How to use this knowledge is another matter. A woman is born to be admired, to be the object of lust and dreams.

But at the same time, it is worth remaining a woman - to behave with dignity and not vulgarly, not to forget about modesty and manners. Then the man will not only experience a strong sexual desire, but also want something much more ...
Author: Vasilina Serova

As it turned out, this question can be of equal concern to schoolgirls and those who rotate in the society of adults who consider themselves intelligent.

Without the right to instruct, but as an attempt at serving for the assimilation of food by meditation.

Knowledge is a directing light, Ignorance of the all-pervading darkness is the essence of ignorance.
The most effective weapon against ignorance is Knowledge.
Against ignorant, - those who enter ignorantly – impolite.

When men allow themselves to make vulgar jokes in women's society, this can speak, first of all (oddly enough, we omit the moral aspect of the problem here), about their low cultural level and the low cultural level of the environment in which this is allowed to be possible.

Embarrassment can be one of the most common reactions in women.
Obviously, it is precisely this "effect" that the one who makes such a joke is trying to achieve.

Turning to the basics of etiquette, we can immediately see that a well-mannered, cultured person will never allow himself to do something that can be reflected on the person next to him in a similar way. On the contrary, among educated people, it is customary not to notice the absurd flaws of strangers, so as not to cause in them the experiences generated by embarrassment. The whole etiquette is built on the principle when for everyone creates comfortable conditions for being together, everyone knows and does what is best for the other, and therefore for himself.

Do you think that everything, in this case too, should be treated lightly and with humor?
Yes. But humor is not always calculated not to be caustic.

So how does it all look from the outside.
A girl, hearing a certain vulgarity (no longer and we will not even begin to delve into and disassemble that most male vulgar jokes have their subject of mockery over things, in most cases, humiliating for the female), she is embarrassed, she is confused.
She realizes that she must react somehow.
It is obvious to her the low cultural level of the one who allowed the statement (and he was counting [maybe even just subconsciously, although this does not do him a greater honor] to such a reaction; the reaction of a suppressed outburst of rage [so that without painful consequences] and he would also be satisfied with indignation, since it is so easy for him to experience pleasure from generating a negative emotion in you), from which this natural reaction of hers followed. She also clearly senses that such male behavior is unworthy. Rather, she feels it all, in aggregate, and instantly, without hesitation - emotionally.
Not giving her an adequate response can be her doubt that she takes the said nonsense at her own expense, because she has a place there, and with her answer, in the eyes of others, humiliates herself again, instantly sinking to the level of a "joker".
There is also a danger that, if your level of development is really higher, that by getting involved in the competition "who is more vulgar" you will not come out of it as a winner, and although this is for your good (congratulations! Vulgarity is not you), it is unlikely that this will also be perceived observers, moreover, most likely, their level of development does not greatly exceed the one who let go of vulgarity.

Some people do not care much about thinking about the best response, for any situation, and, in most cases, their response to aggression, overt, or wrapped in a seeming, for most, "innocent" ridicule, will be to hit it painfully.

Resentment? Yes, this is as predictably familiar as it is primitive too.
When were grievances able to help to move the case?

Intelligent people (although it is difficult to classify themselves as such, however, expressing their wit not in reflections on aspects of being that require their comprehension, but in similar exercises, in low buffoonery - for the amusement of the surrounding ignorance) can find a better way for themselves, not using also an extreme method - avoiding an unpleasant society, especially since the modern lifestyle of the majority does not always make this possible.

You cannot give a universal, effective recipe for the right reaction for every situation and every person. But it is possible to have an all-encompassing Knowledge of this aspect, allowing you to recreate it in the experience of your adequate reactions, when necessary.

Who can afford this kind of behavior?
Most likely, this is a person with hidden aggression towards others, in particular women.
A person who is stuck in the knowledge of this aspect of life, at the level of development of a schoolboy.
The one who did not have the will, or the capabilities, or maybe simply has physical / mental impairment, which did not allow him in life to fully express and feel his own need to receive satisfaction from the needs associated with communication with the opposite sex, which resulted in a kind of neurosis on the basis of his unresolved sexual experiences.
And he can cover up this inferiority of his by demonstrating success in the development of his other merits; but is a painted jug so valuable when it has no bottom?

Because of such a banal, seemingly sexual problem, a self-destructive feeling can arise that interferes with the ability to develop and cognize a higher understanding of male-female relations, which engenders respect and reverence, both of the opposite sex itself and of universal human dignity. Unfortunately, people susceptible to subjective fears of free travel, with the aim of experiencing and assimilating this aspect of relationships, preferring to sit back, deliberately justifying their fear to themselves, and are perceived by us later as nasty splinters found everywhere.

Yes, such a person can cause pity.
But whether there is a pity that he should be allowed to detect in your reaction.
After all, pity is not an uplifting feeling - it has more to do with rejecting the one to whom it is addressed, and gives him the opportunity to manipulate the humiliation of you.
And then, subconsciously, he tries to evoke a response from you, which doesn’t sly, but to you, blindly following it, humiliation, in order to protect yourself from the possibility of rejection of him by you, as a more developed, more worthy person.
For the subconscious fear of being rejected more worthy is the main destructive motive in situations with the manifestation of such behavior of people.

What can be countered with pity?
Only Mercy. It is the essence of the readiness and desire to help everyone who is in need. In this case, such a need consists in the need to be understood and help in acquiring the ability to move oneself to a higher level of development, by resolving one's own, pulling downward, internal contradictions.
Yes, and, most likely, it is it that is most suitable for those who have not managed to cultivate in themselves a tremulous admiration for female nature. Who, by the unwillingness / impossibility of developing his mind, locks his soul, depriving it of the experience of natural raptures from the possibilities of sensing unity with what it is, when it is not isolated in an individual body.

As you know, men joke more often than women. Moreover, their jokes are far from always innocent, and the fairer sex often seems too aggressive and even vulgar. Recently, British scientists led by Professor Sam Schuster from the University of Norfolk and Norwich have found that the sex hormone testosterone is to blame.

Schuster conducted an experiment right on the street, observing the reaction of passers-by to his playful tricks. Of the approximately 400 people, half responded with remarks. However, it was men who made the most harsh and malicious remarks about the professor - among the stronger sex there were 75 percent of them, while among women the number of those who made such remarks was very small. According to Schuster, testosterone is responsible for male aggression.

It is he who determines libido - the level of sexual desire and makes a man a man, allowing him to build muscle mass and raising the tone necessary for achievements in sports and in love. But he also generates aggression in men. Aggressiveness is inherent in human males by nature itself. This allows you to win in the struggle for survival and successfully compete with other males for female attention.

Teens and adolescents often commit acts of aggression precisely because they are prompted to do so by an overabundance of testosterone. They can also make "free" remarks about girls, experiencing a strong sexual attraction to them. However, over the years, the level of the male hormone decreases, and men cease to react so sharply to women, they will not run after every beauty ... th ", and is looking for young mistresses, with whom, nevertheless, he is not always on top ... The level of aggression is also decreasing, which now manifests itself only on rather weighty reasons.

But still, in the appropriate situation, a man does not miss the opportunity to make a caustic remark or a joke, which a woman is unlikely to do. Hormones make the representative of the stronger sex assert itself, and this can lead to aggressive antics and "strange" displays of humor. Men, in particular, like to tell jokes about sex, and they can do it in the presence of women. Another manifestation of excess testosterone is the desire for foul language, which is often viewed by men themselves as a sign of a real "male". Ladies will start joking about sex and scolding not in all situations. The approving statement "What a buffer!" towards the busty beauty - this is typically masculine.

Women, of course, can publicly discuss the physical merits of men, but this is still more the exception than the rule. Of course, ladies also have a surplus of testosterone. Probably, everyone has met women who are more like men - they have large facial features, a low voice, sometimes excessive hairiness. They can wear men's clothing and even behave like the stronger sex. They often do well in sports. All this may be due to the fact that they have more male hormones in their bodies than they should.

The most charming vulgar man of all time is Lieutenant Rzhevsky. I don’t know, maybe this folk art made him so, but in life he was a bore, which the world did not see, but in jokes he appears as a very charming person.

In general, from childhood I was taught that vulgarity is disgusting. And of all vulgarities, the most disgusting is male vulgarity. Moreover, this word, as a rule, meant exclusively greasy jokes and anecdotes. Then I learned that vulgar things do not necessarily have a sexual connotation. Over time, my opinion has changed: jokes below the belt can present their author in a very favorable light.

For some reason, men succeeded in this. I love it when they look for a topic from nothing. Someone said something, and the man saw a subtext in it - and please, the vulgarity is ready. This, in my opinion, is very sexy. Especially if this is a sophisticated joke, half-hints, and not grease, uttered in plain text.

For example, one of my acquaintances believes that such half-hints with elements of flirting are simply necessary in a team, because they defuse the atmosphere, allow you to build informal relationships. Although, in his opinion, in men's companies such statements are more vigorous. Due to the lack of delicate female ears, which are not made for such things.

But another friend of mine (let's call him Vlad) - an exemplary family man - believes that grease is always negative, and is born only in those companies where there are representatives of both sexes.

“They say vulgar jokes in order to pry on a person of the opposite sex,” explains Vlad. - The interlocutor seeks to embarrass the opponent, make him blush, feel uncomfortable. Doing it with vulgar barbs is low, this is not the method. Although it is appropriate and tastefully uttered a vulgar joke may look very successful. "

“I am against plain language vulgarity,” adds his colleague Sergei. - The vulgarities should be spoken as a joke, they should be funny, amusing, should cheer up. And, of course, like any other joke, it should be pronounced appropriately. "

But men, who look differently at grease, are united in one thing: if a person is vulgar, this does not mean that he has any problems sexually. With which the girls, as you understand, do not agree.

"Steamy spoken in a playful tone are only appropriate in private, because they help create a special atmosphere between loving people, strengthen family ties, if you like," Lena, who got married two years ago, shares her experience. - If a person goes to the company or, even worse, at work, then he is fixated on this topic, he definitely has some kind of problem with sex.

Her friend Julia associates vulgarity with sexual humiliation. In her opinion, many people simply do not know how to distinguish between vulgar and frank jokes. There are frank topics that can be discussed in the company and which you can joke about. But there are topics that are unethical to talk about in society, and therefore all statements sound vulgar.

It's no secret that the same vulgarity will sound differently in different companies. If there are only women or only men in the team, then the jokes there, as a rule, are cruder. Because the main purpose of the statement is not achieved - a hint, flirting, attracting attention. In same-sex companies, jokes are demeaning, and in opposite-sex companies, they are playful. Because greasiness is a good (or not very good - depending on the education and skill of the speaker) a veiled hint of a special attitude. This is a form of flirting in which compliments are spoken in a more explicit form, but given in a playful manner. It seems like he was joking, but it seems like he said a compliment - understand as you know.

For example, a man says to me: “Do you have a new hairstyle? It suits you very much "or" Wow! Judging by your hairstyle, you had a stormy night ... ”Do you feel the difference? The first is pure compliment. It's nice, I don't argue, but the second is more informative, because it already contains a hint, a hidden desire to spend this very night together, to be the reason for such a hairstyle. And this, you see, is many times more pleasant. Especially if you like the man too.

In general, the conclusion is again banal: skill and good taste turn even vulgarity into art. And if there is such a person nearby, a kind of modern Rzhevsky, then, dear women, we are lucky. And again the palm among men ... We'll have to work on ourselves.

07.07.2013

As you know, men joke more often than women. Moreover, their jokes are far from always innocent, and the fairer sex often seems too aggressive and even vulgar. Recently, British scientists led by Professor Sam Schuster from the University of Norfolk and Norwich have found that the sex hormone testosterone is to blame.
Schuster conducted an experiment right on the street, observing the reaction of passers-by to his playful tricks. Of the approximately 400 people, half responded with remarks. However, it was men who made the most harsh and malicious remarks about the professor - among the stronger sex there were 75 percent of them, while among women the number of those who made such remarks was very small. According to Schuster, testosterone is responsible for male aggression.
It is he who determines libido - the level of sexual desire and makes a man a man, allowing him to build muscle mass and raising the tone necessary for achievements in sports and in love. But he also generates aggression in men. Aggressiveness is inherent in human males by nature itself. This allows you to win in the struggle for survival and successfully compete with other males for female attention.
Teens and adolescents often commit acts of aggression precisely because they are prompted to do so by an overabundance of testosterone. They can also make "free" remarks about girls, experiencing a strong sexual attraction to them. However, over the years, the level of the male hormone decreases, and men cease to react so sharply to women, they will not run after every beauty ... th ", and is looking for young mistresses, with whom, nevertheless, he is not always on top ... The level of aggression is also decreasing, which now manifests itself only on rather weighty reasons.
But still, in the appropriate situation, a man does not miss the opportunity to make a caustic remark or a joke, which a woman is unlikely to do. Hormones make the representative of the stronger sex assert itself, and this can lead to aggressive antics and "strange" displays of humor. Men, in particular, like to tell jokes about sex, and they can do it in the presence of women. Another manifestation of excess testosterone is the desire for foul language, which is often viewed by men themselves as a sign of a real "male". Ladies will start joking about sex and scolding not in all situations. The approving statement "What a buffer!" towards the busty beauty - this is typically masculine.
Women, of course, can publicly discuss the physical merits of men, but this is still more the exception than the rule. Of course, ladies also have a surplus of testosterone. Probably, everyone has met women who are more like men - they have large facial features, a low voice, sometimes excessive hairiness. They can wear men's clothing and even behave like the stronger sex. They often do well in sports. All this may be due to the fact that they have more male hormones in their bodies than they should.
Alas, low testosterone levels in men can lead to bed failures. Therefore, sexologists advise to do hormonal tests after 45 years. Modern medicine allows you to restore the amount of male hormones and lead a full sex life until old age.
Daria Lyubimskaya