What to write to a boy? How to tell a guy that I like him: various options

02.07.2019

Do you think that the same boy from the class or the guy from the neighboring yard is the best in the world? In your own fantasies, you are already together, walking in the park, visiting cinemas and just sitting side by side, holding hands.

However, in reality, he is in no hurry to talk about love or sympathy and does not call for dates. And at one fine moment you decide to confess warm feelings, but you have absolutely no idea how to tell the guy that I like him. To tell honestly in a personal meeting or write a message on a social network? Consider all options.

Pressure and activity are, of course, wonderful, but before a “frank” confession, you need to make sure that you are at least not disgusting to the young man. Well, if you study together (at school or university) or "cool" in the same company, it will be easier to figure out his feelings. What to do specifically?

Ask your friends (those you trust) to find out if he likes you or not. Probably, in a conversation with someone, he already made such hints. The exact certainty that he is not indifferent to you will untie your hands.
Observe the behavior of the young man. Usually guys voluntarily or involuntarily show that they like this or that girl. Perhaps he sits next to you at recess, goes to the same events, or spends time with your company often.
Notice if he looks at you when he thinks you don't notice. If so, then that's a good sign. Try next time to catch his gaze and not look away. If a guy maintains eye contact, he definitely likes you. If he turns away, he is probably just too modest.

However, do not overdo it in your "investigation". No need to constantly look at him to catch a look or ask friends about him. Such behavior may seem strange to him, he will either laugh at you, or begin to avoid meetings.

So, it seems to you that he is in love with you, or at least he likes you. If you are embarrassed to be the first to start a conversation about sympathy, try to get closer and make sure that the initiative comes from him. By the way, according to statistics, only 7% of girls do not hesitate to be the first to confess their feelings.

Do not tell a young man or boy that you like him if you practically do not communicate. Such confessions look too unexpected, which can scare a person away. In the future, it will be extremely difficult for you to restore normal relations.

What to do? How to let a boy or guy know that you care about him and encourage him to make a confession first? Psychologists suggest the following steps.

Give him compliments, of course, it should not be rude flattery, but a slightly embellished truth. Everyone likes to hear warm words addressed to them, and your chosen one is no exception. You will flatter him, which will serve as a great start to a casual conversation. For example:
- “I saw how great you play basketball. You were especially good at the three-point shot. How long have you been playing sports?
- “I found out that you won the Programming Olympiad. Have you been fond of computers and programs for a long time?
- "Cool hairstyle! Where did you get your hair cut?"
Discuss a common hobby (if any) or his passion. Ask why he chose cycling, skateboarding or programming. Don't be afraid to seem ignorant, just honestly warn that you like his job, but so far you know too little about him. Perhaps the guy himself will offer to teach you something or invite you to ride a bike together.
Flirt a little with him to make him bolder. Probably, your chosen one already knows about the main signs of female sex games, so you can show your interest. Just do everything unobtrusively and not too unceremoniously, for example:
- try winding a curl around your finger or pencil during a conversation;
- do not cross your arms or legs when talking to him;
- smile when you meet eyes;
- inadvertently touch it (push it as a joke), lean on it when you get up.
Invite him to some event. Do not say directly that this is a date, just explain that you wanted to go to a new movie with your girlfriend (you need to inform her first), but she “got sick”. Being nearby in a dark cinema hall will inspire him to confess his sympathy to you sooner.

Let's say the guy turned out to be not the most ingenious, but you still weren't upset and decided to confess your feelings yourself. And there is nothing wrong with such an initiative, because while you are waiting for confessions, a more determined girl may meet a young man. Let's figure out how to tell a guy that you like him.

Choose the right moment to confess. Both you and the young man must be in a good mood, otherwise he will refuse to listen to you, and you will get angry and speak out of the case. Also make sure that none of you are in a hurry. Perhaps a long and detailed conversation is ahead.
Recognition is best done in private, without strangers. Of course, having your best friend around will give you confidence and courage, but the young man may think that you are kidding. In the presence of his friends, the guy can get confused and generally refuse.
Prepare a “solemn speech” in advance, for example, in front of a mirror. You can also practice pronouncing words with different intonations. Choose the one that seems the most convincing. Also, be prepared for an unpleasant outcome of the conversation - there is a chance (hopefully small) that he will not return your feelings.
Do not speak directly, first choose a neutral topic. For example, ask how the programming Olympiad went or what he will do on the weekend. Such a beginning is necessary in order to create a bridge to the main thing - your recognition. Questions might be:
- - What are you going to do on Saturday?
- - Do not know yet. And what?
- - Katya invited me to a birthday party, said that you can come with a guy. I want to call you because I like you.
- - How did the Programming Olympiad end?
- - So-so. Became only the fourth.
- - No need to worry. Still, I really like you.
In order for a young person to take what is said seriously, speak clearly and clearly. If he is confused, say your confession again, demonstrating the seriousness of your intentions. So your auto-training in front of the mirror will not be in vain.
If he is in no hurry to give at least some reaction, gently push him to the answer: "It was difficult for me to confess my sympathy to you, because I'm not sure if you like me or not." This will certainly encourage him to take a decisive step - a positive or negative answer. If a guy asks for time to sort out his feelings, don't rush him. Agree to return to this conversation in a couple of days.
If the young man says that he doesn’t care about you or that he likes another girl, you don’t need to cry, make scenes or beg to give consent. You are a very brave girl, so you leave proudly, saying that you hope to remain friends with him.

If you are shy and can not decide on a personal confession, you can take advantage of social networks or popular instant messengers. The tactics of your behavior will depend on whether you are familiar with the young man or just noticed and decided to write.

If you like a stranger, just go to his page, find out if he is in a relationship (usually young people indicate such information), leave “likes” or comments on photos. Thus, you will arouse interest in your person.

Then act according to the situation: if he sends an application to friends, agree, if this did not happen, offer to be friends yourself. Then start to find those points of contact that unite you. Probably, after a few days of communication, he can invite you on a date.

If you know a young man and are his friends on VKontakte, just write a personal message and act in the same way as in a personal meeting (according to the rules described above). However, this method has significant drawbacks.

The main disadvantage of such communication is the inability to see the emotions of a person and the eyes of the interlocutor. It is better to gather courage and talk about feelings in person than to talk about sympathy via the Internet.

What mistakes should be avoided?

It is not easy to be the first to admit sympathy, so you need to try not to get into an unpleasant situation. The following warnings will help you avoid possible errors:

do not impose your society, trying to always be close to the young man;
do not play someone else's role - if you are already modest, do not appear before him as such a bitch, and, on the contrary, an active girl does not need to hide under the mask of a quiet person;
if you fell in love with your friend, first make sure that he likes you as a girl, otherwise a careless confession can destroy friendship;
do not overwhelm the young man with messages on social networks, as he will begin to consider you a stupid and narrow-minded girl (or easily accessible), wait for his answer, and only then continue to communicate on the network;
do not show your feelings in the presence of his friends, as there is a possibility of his discontent or rudeness - this is how he wants to show himself as a man;
do not dismiss your friends who say something bad about your chosen one, as negative information may turn out to be true;
be mentally prepared for rejection, even if before it seemed to you that your feelings are mutual (there can be many reasons for this).

Keep silent about your feelings or take the first step? Of course, it's up to you to decide, but confessing to a young man in sympathy is not as difficult as it seems to many girls.

It is much more unpleasant to be next to a guy, disturbing your heart with constant doubts, hopes and disappointments.

Remember that your feelings are completely natural and sincere, and hiding them from a guy, you risk giving up the happy days and months of your life.

Perhaps then you will regret your indecision ... The main advice is as follows - listen to your own heart and act if it has made a decision!

Hello, I'm Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully studied at SUSU as a special psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and advising parents on raising children. I apply the experience gained, among other things, in the creation of psychological articles. Of course, by no means do I pretend to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers deal with any difficulties.

"He is so cool! I'm crazy about him! He is the best guy in the world!” - something like this every time you think when you meet a young man for whom you feel sympathy. In your thoughts you are already his girlfriend, you spend all your free time together, go to the cinema and clubs, walk around the city. But what is it really? In fact, he is in no hurry to make an appointment. And now comes the moment when you decide to confess your feelings, but you have absolutely no idea how to tell the guy that you like him.

Maybe just walk up to him, pat him on the shoulder and say, "Hey, I like you"? What if he laughs in your face? What if you leave a message on his Facebook page? What if he thinks you're joking? Ask a friend to tell him that you care about him? Well, no, in such cases the third one is superfluous. How to be? In our article, we will give some practical advice especially for modest women who cannot find the right words to confess their sympathy to a young man, and are desperately embarrassed to take the first step.

Love does not love…

First, find out how the guy treats you. Guessing on a camomile ("loves, does not love, spit, kiss, send to hell, press to the heart"), of course, is easier, but is fraught with unexpected results. So try to find out this question in other ways. Well, if you have one social circle: then it will be much easier to do this.

First, try to be closer to him. If a guy is interested in you, he won't mind letting you into his personal space. Psychologists believe that our comfort zone is the distance to which we “let” the closest people to us: parents, relatives, friends, as well as those to whom we are not indifferent. It draws a circle with a radius of approximately fifty centimeters. The second zone is neutral (from half a meter to one and a half meters). At this distance, we keep from work colleagues, classmates, etc. The third zone is social, it is intended for strangers or people unpleasant to us. From them we try to stay literally away - at a distance of one and a half to four meters. Thus, if the guy is not against the fact that you often try to "close the distance" between you, you have a chance to win!

Second, pay attention to body language. If during a conversation a guy does not take closed poses (does not cross his arms on his chest, does not stand half-turned towards you, and so on), does not try to put any barrier between you (for example, put a book), looks into your eyes, smiles, it means , he doesn't mind talking to you. Then it will be easier for you to confess to him tender feelings.

It is important not to go to extremes here: it is not at all necessary to constantly catch his eye, try to take him by the arm or carry a tape measure with you and carefully measure the distance between you. Such strange behavior can quickly scare him away, and then he will begin to avoid meeting you.

How to say what you feel

If you understand that a young man appreciates your attention, take the initiative in your own hands and move on to the main thing. Choose the right time to confess. Both of you must be in a good mood, because otherwise he simply will not want to listen to you, and you will rashly say too much. You shouldn't be in a hurry. Confessing your sympathy if a guy is in a hurry to workout in the pool, and you are late for an evening English course, is not the best option.

In addition, it is better if there are no strangers next to you during this important conversation. Of course, the presence of girlfriends can give you courage and self-confidence. But who knows, what if he decides that you decided to play him? And if his friends are nearby, he may be confused and react to your confession not the way you want - simply because he decides that they will make fun or mock him.

Smile! This will help you relax and create a positive attitude in the conversation. Look into his eyes and you will be less nervous. Prepare psychologically in advance for the fact that he may not return your feelings (although we, of course, want you to feel mutual sympathy for each other). You can practice in front of a mirror. Say the phrase "I really like you" several times in order to find the right intonation. So you will get used to it, to the way it sounds, and you will feel much more confident.

To start a conversation, you can choose a neutral topic, for example, ask him about his plans for the weekend or ask how the swimming competition in which he participated was. Keep in mind that questions should be formulated in such a way that they cannot be answered simply with “yes” or “no”. The young man's response should create a "bridge" to your confession. Develop in advance possible options for the development of the conversation, depending on what the guy answers your question.

For example:

You: What do you do on the weekend?
Him: Nothing special. Not decided yet. Why are you asking?
You: Masha called me on Saturday for her birthday. She said that I can come with a young man. I really like you, and I decided to invite you.

You: How is the competition?
He: Not really, to be honest. He took only third place.
You: Don't worry, I still really like you.

Of course, there is a chance that the guy will not take your confession seriously. This can happen because of how you say the phrase “I like you very much”: hastily, as if by the way, demonstrating that you yourself do not attach any importance to it. Or, perhaps, he will be confused by surprise, will not figure out how to react, and will simply pretend that he did not hear anything. Therefore, pronounce your confession, pronouncing the words clearly and clearly. If necessary, you will have to admit again: “I really really like you.” This is where your rehearsals in front of the mirror come in handy.

If he is still in no hurry to respond to what you said, you can gently push him to answer: “You know, this is the first time I confess to a young man in sympathy and I’m a little nervous because I don’t know if you like me.” This will be enough to bring him out of his confusion.

It's great if a guy confesses to you in return feelings. Of course, you will be in seventh heaven with happiness. Just don't pounce on him with kisses and don't hug him. Just smile and ask him out. If he says that he does not have any feelings for you, except for friendship, do not make a tragedy out of this, do not cry and do not beg him to explain why he cannot return your sympathy. You already have something to be proud of - you are a courageous and determined girl. Say, “It was hard for me to confess my feelings for you, but I just wanted you to know. We're friends, right?"

Perhaps the young man will ask for a time out to sort out his feelings for you. This can also be, because he did not expect you to admit that you care about him. Give him time to think, and agree to return to this conversation in a couple of days.

How to text him that you like him

This is an option for the most shy and shy girls who do not dare to confess to a guy in a face-to-face conversation. If you have his ICQ number or you are on his VKontakte friends list, you can write him a private message. This way of communicating is very similar to the conversation we talked about above, so you can just use the same prompts. The disadvantage of this option (and, in our opinion, a very serious one) is the lack of eye contact. Seeing the eyes of the person to whom you confess your sympathy is very important - they will tell you how he feels about your words, and whether he is ready to take your friendships to another level.

Some prudes choose to play the “mysterious stranger”: they write a note to the young man in which they confess their feelings, and they themselves make an appointment. Such a note does not need to be signed: an intrigued guy will come to a meeting to find out who the author of the message is.

There is a wonderful film "You've Got Mail" with Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks in the lead roles. The characters meet by chance on a social network, and a correspondence begins between them. They write to each other about everything in the world: about the books they read, about the city they live in, about evening walks with the dog and much, much more. Not even knowing each other's names, they begin to feel mutual sympathy, which they do not dare to admit. They know each other in real life, but they don't know it. The situation is resolved precisely after the young man appoints a date for the girl in a letter. This scenario is suitable for young people with a romantic streak.

Taking the first step and confessing tender feelings to a guy is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. It is much more difficult to live in a vicious circle of constant anxieties, hopes and doubts. It is impossible day and night to guess how he feels about you, or ask the same question over and over again on the forums: “Tell me, how to understand whether he likes me or not?”. By hiding your feelings, you may be giving up the happy moments of your life that you could spend next to the person you like. It is better to confess first than to regret your indecision later. It's up to you to decide what to do. And if you have already made a decision - act!

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The question that worries all girls: how to open your feelings and confess your love to a boy? You are in love and you want to know that he cares about you too. If you dare to confess, it's safer to do a little reconnaissance first.

Only then after that decide on frankness.

There are many shy people like you. And so they also have their own recipes for happiness. Here is one of them:

make it a rule to smile at yourself in front of the mirror, remember how you smiled, and then smile at school too ... no, no, not to the one you like (we understand that this is not easy), but to completely different five boys. For starters, 5 such smiles a day are enough for you, and you need to do this all week;
learned to smile and easily cope with it? Now you need to ask each of them 1 question. Questions must be prepared in advance. Let them be as simple as possible: “Did you learn what we were asked?” and "How are you?" You do it all week;
it is time to repeat it all for Him: a smile and a question. Stock up on questions for the whole week, and every day ask Him different questions;
now you can tell Him what you have long wanted. So, you have the following: Smile. Question. And just now: “I have long wanted to tell you that I think you are wonderful!”

A few little tips for a 10 year old girl

If you like your desk mate (we guessed it?), then you can consider yourself lucky because you have a wonderful opportunity to get to know him better.

Is he a sweet tooth? Then treat him to something delicious. Now you can confess: "I like to share with you."
Is he an excellent student? Why not tell him: "I'm very, very interested with you!"
He is a sportsman? Then the words of recognition can be: “You are so strong and dexterous, how great that we are sitting together! It's like you're protecting me!"

How to do it at 11 years old

If you understand that he is a good and kind guy, and you are not afraid that he will laugh at your frankness, there are several ways to confess your love to a boy at the age of 11:

simply tell him: “Let's be friends with you”;
ask him: “I want to be your friend. Are you mine?"
ask for a little help: “Can you teach me? I want you to teach me."

Wait for some of your trip, for example, to your grandmother or on vacation, it doesn’t matter. When you return and meet him, you can confess to him: “I thought about you there.”

Simple truths for a 12-year-old girl in love

Even if you are very brave, you still should not rush with revelations. You have already decided on your feeling, but He, maybe not yet. Therefore, do not rush to rehearse the words "I like you." It is better not to say, but to show Him your sympathy. Pay attention to his interests. Talk to him about his hobbies and share your opinion about the game he plays or the football team he supports.

You can get information from adults or from the Internet. He will most likely be pleasantly surprised. Ask him a few questions, let him show you his knowledge. And at the end of your conversation, you can confess: “Actually, to be honest, I don’t understand this at all. I just really like talking to you».

Hidden love confessions at the age of 13

Of course, you are already quite mature and independent, but it is all the more difficult to say about your feelings, choosing a good moment for this. Your best bet, of course, is Valentine's Day.

There are many words and phrases that will prompt or hint to him that you like him. In general, hints are a wonderful thing! Choose what you like about it and talk about it. Just let it be sure not to be words about his beautiful hairstyle or fashionable jeans, but your assessment of his actions:

I like how fast you work at the computer;
I like to watch when you play basketball;
It is impossible to break away from your stories about the sea.

If you are already 14 years old

If you really decide to confess, first understand what you would like to happen to you later. If you want to be friends with him, then you need to find some words. And if you just want to have fun with him at the disco, then pick up others. You see him as your pen pal - look for the next option to explain.

You have a close friend, and he has a good friend. Arrange with a friend and invite them to go somewhere the four of you: to the movies, to a school disco or take a walk. Ask a friend in advance to start a conversation with his buddy, and you could be left alone.

First ask him: “Do you want me to confess something to you?” You will definitely understand whether you need to continue or whether it is better to transfer your conversation to another topic. If you saw that he was ready to listen to you, now you can tell him: “It was I who asked us to go together. I really wanted to be with you."

You see that he is listening carefully, then you can continue: "I think about you very often." Or, inhaling more air, confess: “I like you for a long time.”

What to say to a guy in love with another

Did you find out that he likes the other, but do not lose hope and want to dot the i's? Then use sentences with the construction "if":

How wonderful it would be if we met at the disco today;
If we were friends, we could visit my friends.

Do you like a guy and he doesn't even know it? Cunning hints do not help? Why not tell him directly? In our article, we will talk about how to do it right: what to do, how to behave correctly, various confession options for different girls, common female mistakes. Knowing this, you can take a bold step towards a new relationship.

Before you decide on recognition, you need to decompose the situation into components. To begin with, make sure that this is really sympathy, and not a fleeting feeling caused by his beautiful hair or a well-chosen suit. After making sure that he definitely won your heart, you can proceed to the next step - "opinion monitoring".

You can ask him how he treats you or ask one of your girlfriends or friends about it. Another option is to get to know someone close to them and leave a good impression of yourself. Soon they will surely mention such a beautiful girl in a conversation, and you will find out how he feels.

There is another way to get his opinion - invite the guy somewhere. If he immediately agrees or refuses on the proposed day, but calls another, you can safely proceed further.

Step 2. Taking the relationship with the guy to the next level

Most girls from the first minute make grandiose plans for the guy they like. But do not be in such a hurry and immediately run to confess your love, this can scare men. To get started, use a few preliminary tactics:

You need to make sure he likes you.- We follow the "body language" of a man. Details in this video:

We find common interests and discuss them: films, music, literature, painting, mountain skiing - the list cannot be listed.

You should not behave like a bosom friend - if your plans are for a serious relationship, then stop giving him love advice and discussing other girls.

We make sure that his heart is free. Yes, maybe you already spend time together and communicate quite closely, but it’s worth finding out if he doesn’t like the other.

More touching and flirting- tactile contact has a strong effect on people, but touch it as if by chance.

We create a comfortable atmosphere with our presence- to make pleasant surprises, to give something for a birthday.

Here are some more helpful tips as well and get him interested.

Step 3. Various confession options

In most cases, after the first two steps, the guy himself admits that he likes you. If this does not happen, you can take the initiative in your own hands, and explain your feelings first.

If recognition will take place directly, eye to eye, then it is better to choose a quiet place where you will be left alone. A noisy and crowded crowd will confuse and make you unnecessarily nervous.

For brave girls

It has long been considered wrong to confess feelings of the first. And if you are a brave girl, this option is the most suitable for you. During a pause in your normal conversation, hint that you are about to say something very important. After that, make your confession, don't be surprised when he gets nervous, if everything went to such a conversation, no matter who confesses first.

For shy girls

Ask him out on a date without mentioning the word. But you don't have to choose a cinema or a club where there are a lot of people. Give preference to a quiet cafe or park where you can talk tête-à-tête. The situation forces you to make a confession.

For those who do not see it possible to say this, looking into the eyes, there is the Internet or the telephone.

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A short SMS with the words: “I like you” will be enough. But after that, no matter how much you worry, you should not take further action and in a panic decide on stupidity. Wait patiently for an answer.

Online texting provides many options to help you confess your feelings. Using VKontakte, Skype or other services, you can start with a simple, unpretentious conversation. Then, for example, ask him about his plans for the weekend:

What are you going to do on the weekend?

So far, nothing has been planned, why do you ask?

My friends are having a party. They say come with your boyfriend. And I like you, so I decided to call.

It is advisable to make sure that the guy is alone at the monitor screen, because in the presence of third parties his reaction may be completely different - not serious.

For romantic girls

You can write him a letter, like in the old days, and even send it by mail, he will be surprised and understand that you are an unusual girl. Of course, it is not necessary to use postal services, it is no less romantic to put a letter in his mailbox / under the door of his office and so on.

Another option is to write him a confession in verse. Even if you have never tried it before. Any person will appreciate such romantic things, because it is like a handmade gift.

Common Mistakes

You don't always have to learn from your mistakes. Everything written exists to make your confession perfect.

What not to do:

Flirting with other young people in front of him. Behind the back, of course, too, but this is not specified.
Show off or try to show off who you are not. Men don't like cheating.
If you decide to ask for help, then let it be a deed worthy of a man., the inability to perform elementary things will not make a good impression about you.
Talk about your feelings at every step- carefully choose a circle of friends dedicated to this situation.
Discuss your past experiences and mistakes with your boyfriend., it will be unpleasant for him to hear this, he should feel like the only one.

In this video, there are some more useful tips on how to properly tell a guy that you love him:

Be prepared to be rejected before you even start talking. It is better not to be upset and move on, because the world is full of surprises, maybe that same prince has been waiting for you for a long time.

Does the guy you have a crush on show little initiative? Perhaps he simply does not know that you are interested, and therefore he does not dare to take the first step. There are many ways in which you can show a young man how you feel without talking about them directly.

Should you tell your boyfriend about your feelings?

The most important question for a girl is whether it is necessary to confess to a young man about her love at all, or is it better to wait for the first step from him, as required by numerous traditions. There can be many reasons to tell a man about it herself. A guy can be very timid, he can be too sensitive to a girl and is simply afraid to offend or rush her with his confession. Also, some bettors are morally afraid to reveal their soul and therefore hide their feelings. Or a young man may have doubts whether he really likes you or is it just a passing fad. So do not be afraid - recognition by a girl of tender feelings today is considered quite normal. First of all, it is worth assessing the general situation and the situation. Logically, a declaration of love should entail serious consequences, the main of which is the creation and development of a couple and your love relationship. Therefore, first of all, you yourself must be sure that you want the possible development of relations with this man, you want to see and communicate with him more often. You also need to assess whether he is ready for a potential relationship, whether he currently has strong love with another girl, or whether he has recently suffered a difficult breakup, after which he definitely wants to be alone for a long time. Take the initiative if he is shy You understand that this young man likes you, as indicated by some direct or indirect facts, but there are no confessions of sympathy on his part. If you see that the guy is shy or for some reason not confident in himself, then you can take the initiative into your own hands. His shyness can manifest itself in different ways: for example, you notice that he tries to stay longer in your company, but is embarrassed if he accidentally touches you or when the conversation turns to personal topics. He can also fade if he catches your eye or is alone with you. Of course, the lack of initiative can be explained by indifference, but most girls, perhaps, will be able to distinguish indifferent behavior from hesitant attempts to get closer. Don't embarrass a guy if he has a girlfriend If you know that the person you like is already in a relationship with another girl, and this romance at least outwardly seems to be prosperous, then you don’t need to embarrass him with your confessions. It is unlikely that he will reciprocate under such circumstances. But even if this happens, it is unlikely that you will want to be in the status of a homemaker. You can gently hint to the guy that you like him, but do not talk about your feelings directly. Don't push if he's not interested in you Communicating with him, you see that he has no interest, and this is clearly not embarrassment or self-doubt - he is really burdened by this communication. The reasons may not be in you at all - in general, he may not want a relationship now, or he is looking for a girl exclusively for a certain type, which you do not fall under. In addition, he may have liked another for a long time. There may be a lot of circumstances due to which he does not see you as a potential lover, and in this case, your recognition may completely make him avoid meeting you.

How to show a person that you like him

Just telling a man about your love in plain text - you can always do this, but it's not too romantic and morally very difficult. It is much more beautiful to express your warm sympathy for the person you like with the help of gentle words spoken in a suitable setting and with the right emphasis on your hints for a man. At the same time, it is worth choosing the right words depending on how close you are already with a young man you like - he may just be nice to you, you may be in love with him and your feelings may well be mutual. The tips below will surely help you find a way to express your feelings to a man without getting confused and not missing your opportunity to become happy next to him.

When you just really like him

When a young man is just nice to you, you can express your tender feelings well with the help of hints. For example, appear in front of him in beautiful outfits and, in response to his compliments, say that you wanted to look good especially for him. Men generally love with their eyes, so your beautiful appearance will be very important for a young man to have a good impression of you and this will put him in a position to communicate and get to know you better. You can also use not too obvious compliments to a young man, tell him live or via SMS, as if by chance, how strong he is, how he looks like a handsome actor, what interesting hobbies he has, etc. You can make friends with his friends or acquaintances, and through them learn about the tastes and interests of the guy, so that later in conversations with him to use these topics as "hooks". And in one of these conversations, you can notice that you have a lot of similar interests and therefore you clearly sympathize with this guy.

When you love him, how to confess your feelings

If your feelings are already something more than just sympathy, you should act more confidently so as not to miss your happiness. First of all, exclude flirting with other young people in his presence, so as not to arouse the opinion of yourself as a loose and fickle girl. Try to be positive and cheerful in order to attract attention - it will also be useful to evaluate the jokes of a guy you like, because he will certainly appreciate those who appreciate his sense of humor. You can also write to him about your feelings, without naming the word “love” itself, but speaking quite clearly about your feelings. In this case, if the guy is interested in you, he will answer you, and if not, you can pretend that this message did not exist and thereby get rid of unnecessary worries.

Declaration of love when feelings are mutual

In the case when your feelings are mutual and you are also nice to this young man, it will be easier. It will be enough for you to take the first step to start a relationship. You can write a message in a message or social network saying that you like him and if his feelings are mutual, then let him write you a response message. You can also tell the guy that you have long wanted to go to a movie or play, but you have no one to go with. He will probably offer to keep you company - and this is an excellent occasion to talk and get to know each other better. A good option is to give the guy a small gift that would hint to him about the reciprocity of your feelings. For example, paired mugs or key chains, one of your joint photos in a frame, etc. Do not be afraid to make contact, because young people are also often shy before the first conversation and may be embarrassed to admit their warm feelings.

I want it like hint to bed

If you are not in a relationship yet, then such hints may not play into your hands. The guy, of course, can answer your “signals”, but there is a high probability that everything will be limited to bed only - the chosen one will simply consider you a windy person. However, if you have already started dating, but things don’t go beyond kissing, then, of course, you can take the initiative. Try to be alone with your lover more often, hug him and just touch him. Also, in order to take the relationship to a new level, you can invite him home for a romantic dinner - wine, candles and pleasant music will undoubtedly encourage your rapprochement.

Interesting places In personal communication or during correspondence, you can mention some new establishments or just interesting places that you would like to visit. Note that you usually go for a walk with a friend, but in the coming days she has other things to do, so you don’t even know whether to wait for her or find yourself another company. For a young man, this will be a clear hint that you are located for a walk together. His tastes Find out where your chosen one likes to spend time, and show interest in his choice. For example, he likes skiing. Tell them you've never done it, or you can't learn it, but you'd really like to. Or he may state that he likes a certain genre of films, which he periodically goes to the cinema. You, in turn, can answer that you are also interested in such films, but your friends do not share these tastes, and you yourself do not want to go to the cinema. direct hints Write or tell the young man that you are very interested in communicating with him, and it would be nice to take a walk together sometime. You can find a reason. For example, you told the interlocutor about some place that he had not been to. Note in passing that you will definitely show him "somehow" this institution. If he wants to meet, then your application for him will be a good chance to take advantage of the situation and invite you for a walk or a date.

We hint the guy at the relationship correctly

Positive mood In his presence, try to maintain a positive mood, showing the guy that you enjoy being in such a society. It makes sense not only to show it, but also to voice it. Talk about how interesting and fun you are with him. You can also mention that he, like no other, is able to cheer you up. body contact Touch the guy you like. Although, of course, here it is also worth knowing the measure - there is no need to “hang” on it, your touches should be as if by chance. You can take it by the hand when crossing the road or climbing stairs. Light hugs and a kiss on the cheek are also quite appropriate when meeting or parting. Telling something important to the interlocutor or needing his support, you can briefly take his hand. Personal questions Here, too, it is important not to cross the line. Ask the guy how long he had his last relationship, what kind of girl he sees next to him. However, if the young man is reluctant to answer, then it is better not to delve into such questions. True, detailed answers do not mean at all that you need to pay excessive attention to this topic - it would be more appropriate to find out all the details of parting with ex-girlfriends if you are in a closer relationship. For now, it’s enough to let him know that you care about his personal life.

Say "I love you" in other words or actions

It is quite difficult to say about your love to a man in plain text. It is much easier to veil your confession so that the man himself guesses about your tender feelings. This option eliminates many awkward sensations. Therefore, you can try other good options for declaring love below. One of them will surely give a positive result and you will definitely get closer with a young man you like.

Beautiful words for a declaration of love

In order to confess your love to a young man, it is not necessary to use banal phrases. It is much better to speak from a pure heart and sincerely. If it is difficult to collect your thoughts live, write a long confession in the message - this will help you pick up beautiful phrases, think over the train of thought. Be sure to use more characteristics that emphasize the qualities of a young man who sympathize with you (strong, caring, reliable, etc.). This will help him understand why you appreciate him. Do not use too many diminutive forms like "bunny" or "cat". A declaration of love is a rather serious thing, and such words will reduce seriousness to a minimum. The words must be honest - say only what you are really sure of. You should not make abstract reviews of your common future and prophesy an excellent development of relations. It is better to talk more about the present tense, about your feelings and the positive qualities of this young man. Then the conversation will be more effective.

Confessions through communication on the Internet or by SMS

Modern communication allows you to make a confession in a social network or using SMS messages. This relieves your stress and worries, you can properly prepare. Choose the right words, think about what idea you want to convey to the guy with your messages - and send him. In correspondence, you do not see the reaction of the young man and do not worry so much. In addition, if the guy says no or ignores you, it will be much easier to bear than if he refused you during a personal conversation. In addition, in order to declare love in this way, too close communication and acquaintance between you is not required - after all, it is enough to find a guy’s number or his page on a social network, bypassing the need to get to know friends, etc.

Confessions in verse, through gifts or selfless help

A beautiful and unbanal way to hint to a guy about your feelings is to write poetry to him. It is to write, even if they are not very colorful, since almost every guy has already seen poems from the Internet and you are unlikely to please him with such bad taste. Find an opportunity to write poetry yourself, or ask your friends about it, and send it to a young man via SMS or on a social network - he will surely appreciate your creativity. Another option is a nice present or an offer of disinterested help to a young man. These gifts or help should not be large-scale, rather, it is just a small sign of attention that will let a man know that you care about him. The present can be something like a keychain, a photo frame, a book that a young man told you about - something nice that this man will then associate with you. You can also make a commemorative engraving, non-banal, then in the future it may become a kind of motto of your relationship with this young man.

Confess love in person

The most honest and open version of a declaration of love is a personal meeting and a face-to-face conversation. In this way, you can immediately see the real emotions of a man in response to your words, clarify some individual phrases and supplement your confession with some comments and clarifications. Before a personal meeting, you will have to muster up the courage, but this method is really the most reliable and time-tested. This option is also very good because in the event of a successful conversation, you will immediately feel a new closeness to each other, you can hug or kiss each other for the first time. And this is a great start to the strong development of your relationship.

I'm afraid to confess my feelings to him, what to do - advice from psychologists

It is not uncommon for a girl to be very afraid to tell a young man about her love (for example, she is one of the timid ones). This is normal, because subconsciously the girl is afraid of a possible rejection, rejection of her feelings. In such cases, you need to be able to overcome your fears and understand what goal you would like to achieve: just hint to a guy about feelings, openly declare your love, get your relationship started, etc. And then it is important to actively act until the first impression you create did not dissipate. It will be useful when you feel fear and excitement to find out what psychologists recommend doing and what common female mistakes are best avoided by deciding to confess your feelings to a young man. Many practicing psychologists recommend thinking through as much as possible to relieve feelings of fear and excitement before recognition your words and say them out loud in front of the mirror, as if to evaluate yourself from the outside. Firstly, it will help relieve the excitement that you can start to get confused in words and say too much or not quite what you wanted. Secondly, it will be easier to relieve stress, because the body will feel that you are not saying such words for the first time, which means you should not worry too much. Also, experts often suggest pre-assessing the situation - not the best option would be to confess to a guy in love when he heavily loaded with problems at work or school, or in the family. Both of you should be conducive to conversation, be in a good mood and be able to think over everything that has been said after communication.

Is it true that guys don't take hints?

Many men really do not react as subtly to the intonation of the interlocutor as women do, and do not always understand the hints. For example, you can tell him that you would like to go to the cinema in the near future or you are interested in some kind of event. Some guys react instantly, offering to go together to a place that intrigues you, but there are also those who sincerely think that you are just sharing information to keep the conversation going. In the second case, the interlocutor sincerely does not realize that he was hinted at something - he can understand what you need only if direct offers are made. When the couple is already in a relationship, this problem does not disappear. For example, before your birthday, you can praise some new popular book, stating that your friends really liked it, and you would also like to read it madly. Or you can say that your earrings are missing a ring in a similar style. It is likely that you are hoping to receive a bestseller or jewelry as a gift, but the chances are very high that the chosen one will not understand this and will give, for example, perfume you do not need. Coquetry will not work with such men: “I don’t even know what I want, choose to your taste.” He needs to speak directly, and just accept the fact that he does not understand the hints - this is how you prevent resentment and misunderstanding in the future.

How to understand that a man understood your hint

There are few options here. If you start a topic with enviable regularity, and the young man diligently avoids it, despite all the transparency of the hints, or constantly takes the conversation in a different direction, then most likely he understood what you are leading to. However, his reaction, unfortunately, indicates that he is not enthusiastic about your message. There is also a reverse option, in which everything is more obvious. A man with interest supports the topic you set, asking clarifying questions, instead of simply ignoring your words. So he noticed that it was about something important, and did not lose sight of it. In this case, your hints will probably bring the desired result soon.

The most common mistakes girls make

Backlash Have you hinted in every possible way to the guy that he is interesting to you, but still did not wait for an invitation to a date? No need to hastily remove him from friends in VK or turn away when you meet. Assume that he really did not understand the hints, and now your behavior looks completely stupid. Unnatural behavior Deciding to hint to the young man of sympathy, suddenly you began to behave unnaturally - to flirt excessively, to joke vulgarly, to actively show him signs of attention. Many guys like this approach, but there are also those who are confused by such behavior. Engagement of third parties You have already discussed with some mutual friends that you are interested in a young man. However, when you meet him, you show detachment, expecting that he will seek you out. This is not the best tactic, which in his eyes, most likely, looks strange. Pointlessness of allusions It also happens that a girl actively flirts with a guy, hints at sympathy, but there is no purpose behind all this - she just likes to communicate like that or she wants to surround herself with fans without planning any relationship with them. Realizing that your hints mean nothing, the young man may completely cut off contact with you. If you understand that you do not consider a guy as a potential lover, it is better to maintain a friendly relationship with him.