Why are they treating me like this. He pushed his wife away to save himself. Why did he do this? Why Rapid "Rapid Personality Change"

A 55 year old chef right in the middle of a work shift. The attacker is Dmitry, a visitor from Ukraine, before the murder he worked in a restaurant for only two days on probation. According to the employees of the institution, Dmitry literally begged the management to take him to work: he did not have a dependent wife who was five months pregnant, he needed money.

The deceased did not work at Sport Point: he was a so-called cook for hire. Due to the increased workload due to the World Cup, the restaurant administration invited an employee from another institution - literally for one work shift. On a fateful day for himself, 55-year-old Sergei started work at 8 am and was supposed to be free at 8 pm. But instead, he died.

According to investigators, during the shift, the waiter Dmitry left to talk on the phone with his pregnant wife and was absent for about two hours. All this time, Sergei had to do double work, which, of course, he did not like. When Dmitry returned, the cook reprimanded him. Apparently, this was the cause of the conflict. At the time of the murder, the men were alone: ​​all the other employees of the restaurant were busy with work. As the investigation established, Dmitry literally beat Sergey with serving knives. Bleeding, the cook ran into the hall, then into the hall and fell dead. Eyewitnesses say that Dmitry was not himself, although outwardly he gave the impression of a rather calm person.

The Sport Point restaurant is located on the territory of the Novogorsk Olympic base in Khimki, and after the incident, some media outlets wrote that it was there that the Russian national football team trained. However, the Ministry of Sports of Russia denied this information.

The Ministry of Sports reports that the information disseminated in the media about the commission of a crime on June 24 on the territory of the Novogorsk training center is not true. Moreover, there are no restaurants and other commercial structures on its square, the ministry said in a statement, writes Chempionat.

The Sport Point restaurant is located in the Novogorsk Olympic Village multifunctional complex. This is a completely different object, and the Russian football team has nothing to do with it.

Hello. My name is Anastasia. I have a strange situation. Well, I’ll tell you in order, we met a guy, started dating, everything was fine, well, in other ways, it’s always like this at the beginning of a relationship. But then he didn’t like something and he decided to leave, I was killing myself, crying, trying to talk to him, but he didn’t want to. Then for some reason he decided to come back to me, I accepted, but after a while he again wanted to leave, he said that he hadn’t walked up yet ... Well, I was again in tears, but I didn’t get him. Then it so happened that we began to communicate in social .VKontakte networks. He wrote that he had a lot of girls (which, as it turned out later, was not true), so I somehow got together to visit a friend (and of course I really wanted to see him) (a friend lives with him in the same village)), she told him, and his reaction shocked me, offered to meet, meet me, etc.) then he called me that day to arrange a meeting) well, we met and walked with him. then he wrote on VK for a long time so that he would come more often and that he wanted to measure himself. I didn’t mind, but then he started having problems, and we stopped talking for a while. in the summer, he called me with his parents to the sea, said not to think for a long time, and then disappeared. later he appeared and wrote that he had a girlfriend ... I wished him happiness and that's it, I didn't write a word to him anymore. He periodically wrote himself, asking how I was doing. And then at one fine moment he writes to me and asks about the guy (do I have a boyfriend, I write to him no. A few days later he writes again: hello. tell me honestly do you have a boyfriend? I write him a question: why are you like this interested, and he writes: just say yes or no. I wrote that no. he writes: you have a boyfriend, I found out everything about you. you are now happy with us, well, well. I again wrote that I don’t have a boyfriend .) (I just wrote in VK in the status: happy, and set the cn: in love). then his girlfriend writes to me, says that I should not get into their family and that he thinks badly of me, I got him, and that I behave like a girl of easy virtue, and that she knows about correspondence. Tells him someone said that I have a boyfriend and he decided to find out for sure. and if I had a boyfriend, he would be glad that I wouldn’t beat him up. I was in shock ... I wrote to my mother that they live together and that the wedding is coming soon. well, I listened and that’s it ... I didn’t touch them, suffered silently, then ate to build relationships with other guys, but without results, I literally felt sick from them, I came angry from meetings, tried to escape from them, etc. . . I eventually stopped trying. and just recently, about a month ago, he writes to me like he wants me back, he thought about me, he loves that he won’t offend anymore, he won’t leave. well, I agreed. everything started great, he wrote me that he loves, called me, missed me, said that people like me don’t leave. and now I find out the reason for parting with his ex: she became pregnant, and ruffled his nerves, demanded to buy something, and if you say no to her, then in tears, she made scenes for various reasons. and in the end he couldn't resist. as he found out, she was married, lived with her husband for 3 days and kicked him out, and she had a lot of boyfriends, found out that she smokes, although she hid it from him. then she constantly wrote obscenities to his mother, saying that he was a creature and a bastard, mothered me, wished me death and that I would burn in hell, that I was a creature. he always told me that her pregnancy was superfluous, that he didn’t want to return to her ... at that time he offered me to come to him, introduced him to his parents, met mine, gave me a ring, told me to move in with them after school . that everything will be fine with us, and that I will still sing at our wedding. I spent the weekend with him, he took care of me, made tea, forced me to eat so that my back was kept straight, we watched films together. and everything was fine. and then this ex appears and says the type does not want to raise the child herself and that she takes her words back. his mood has changed dramatically, and he does not know what to do. I asked: do you want to return to her? he writes no. I ask you love her: he writes where love is, I just did stupid things and I will decide them myself. asked to give him time the next day, he deleted me from friends and wrote that for a while, I noticed that his friends did not decrease and that he added the former. I ask him: did you decide to return to her? he writes: I'm sorry, yes, I can't live with a stone in my soul. I ask: do you love her? he: what does this have to do with it, my child and I don’t need a dash of paternity. and then he writes like I realized that the seed should be whole. and then the phrase killed me: thank you for helping to relieve stress. Now he has restricted my access to VK. but I don’t understand why everything has changed so dramatically (I was already told that they supposedly bewitched him), I love him and worry about what is happening to him. I'll be glad if he's happy. but I don't understand why this happened. if he wanted to relieve stress, then why me? he has many friends on VK (I was not in them then and he deleted my number). could choose any. Why was all this (acquaintance with parents, care, ring, plans for the future)? Is it really all a game? (A friend tells me that she’s supposedly manipulating him. When she started dating him, she found out that I once met him, found out my home address, where my parents work and generally showed great interest in me.). help me figure it out

And in fact, he didn’t go anywhere, but hid around the corner and waits for you to rush after him with a cry of “Darling, come back, why are you doing this to me?” Or don't even come back. Just “For what?!”, or maybe “Well, you are a beast, however!”. Almost no one is able to control himself when a relationship ends abruptly and without explanation. Even if we don't want to continue, we want to talk. Finally. We want to put an end to it, and here it’s not even an ellipsis, it’s just a torn off page with the final. And it will torment us for a long time. A very long time. That is why the sudden disappearance is a great tool for manipulation: you yourself will drive yourself into a frenzy, trying to understand what happened - and that’s it, you can be taken warm. And impose my will on you.

He is a coward

Cowardly men love to wear masks of a “real man” - a brutal, laconic macho who is alien to “female things”. By "female things" he means normal human interaction. Which includes conflicts, yes. Conflicts are absolutely normal, but a coward does not understand this precisely because he is afraid. If a coward considers himself an aesthete, he will sigh picturesquely, roll his eyes and say: “Oh, women's tears are beyond my strength!” If a coward imagines that he is a tough guy, then through his teeth he will throw a contemptuous: “I just didn’t have enough women’s tantrums!” In fact, he's just really scared. He is terribly afraid of conflicts, because he is generally afraid of relationships. He just doesn't know how to be in them. Physically present, emotionally, he sits in a mink, bites his nails and whispers: “No matter what happens, huh?”

He is infantile

Bunny boy. The little kid may be forty years old, but development stopped at the crisis of three years, so he still behaves like that. Have you ever seen how babies tear their hand out of their mother’s palm and, with their noses scowling severely, stomp where they suddenly want to go? Silently, of course, and without explaining anything. Because they don’t know how yet, and they can’t know how, and they shouldn’t - it’s still too early. Here are some comrades who are tightly stuck at this stage of development, and nothing can be done about it, unfortunately. One can only be glad that he is finally gone. Because if you still catch up with him and ask why the hell he did this, you will hear in response: “What's wrong?”

He is a cheat

An ugly type, from which none of us is immune, unfortunately. And it is almost impossible to prevent the situation, because the cheaters do not play. They just live like that and get incredible pleasure from it. If you rush to look for your disappeared sweetheart, you may well find that he is not a busy bachelor, but a happy husband and father of three kids, and his name, by the way, is completely different. And by the way, you'll get off easy if you do. Because cheaters rarely use their gift just for fun. Usually they pull money from gullible women at the same time.

He's just a goon

Some prefer to use the expression "energy vampire", but it smells too mystical. It seems to us that “ghoul” is a much more capacious word and perfectly reflects the nature of the moral sadist, which, in fact, the ghoul is. He knows that at any moment he can return. He knows he will see you tormented. And, leaving, he is already looking forward to this moment. Om-nom-nom, delicious. Try not to give him that pleasure, okay?

Twenty eight years old. Beautiful, slender, by no means stupid, adequate behavior. Was not married, no children. Guys, like hell from incense ...

For twenty-eight years, there were practically no serious relationships, I really want them serious, a husband, a family, children. I’m suffering ... I got a job, met a guy, 6 years younger than me - I really liked it, half a year without sex, spit on everything - we slept! After suffering, I wanted to be with him! She left for another city, met another, began to live. Did not work out!

Came back. And here he is again. He begins to write, seek meetings, say how good he was with me, begins to court and seek me. All this lasted half a year. Cinema, cafes, walks. Although, from one correspondence, he honestly said that only banal sex could offer me, and that I would not make plans for it! And so I decided again. Everything happened, passionate sex. And the next day he didn’t answer SMS, doesn’t call, doesn’t write ... I don’t want to believe that with me there can only be banal sex. After all, a whole year has passed since the first meeting, he sought, looked after me, spoke beautiful words, all for what? For sex with me?

Explain to me, please, his behavior.

TAYANA'S WORDS

All the causes of problems that cause suffering to a person lie in himself. It is necessary to change your previous attitude towards the opposite sex, family, sex and life in general. Twenty-eight years for a woman is a time of fragrance. A favorable moment for the transition to a new level of your inner plan, the perception of the world around you, the realization of your destiny, the world of true values. Are you capable of being a wife, mother and lover all rolled into one? If yes, then the law of correspondence will not take long to wait, all you need is patience on your part and a desire to build the right relationship. Perhaps excessive aggression and an indefatigable desire to achieve your most cherished goal by hook or by crook frightens and even repels your chosen one. Accept what happened. Don't be angry that things didn't go according to your plan. Thank the divine manifestation for this moment of communication. You wanted and achieved this, for more, until you have the ability (to give free of charge, to be grateful, caring, to have a lot of other female blessings). And besides, your young man is young and not ready for marriage. Here lie the differences in your views on living together and everyone's concern only for themselves. A responsible and serious person already has a correct understanding of what is happening. If there is self-doubt (and it seems to be), then there should be time to explore what causes it. In addition, there was an initial installation: "No obligations."

Now I remember a letter from a young man:

“I am looking for answers to my questions. The fact is that I am married, I have a good wife, my two children. I am 23 years old, my wife is 30. Everything was fine.
Then I met a girl on the Internet. I left my wife. I began to live alone. I told my wife that I no longer love her, that I have another. The case is headed for divorce.
I never saw the girl with whom I talked on the Internet, only photos and telephone conversations. But there is one but...
When I see my wife, a great longing appears in my soul. When she says she'll find someone else, I'm choked with jealousy. I worry about her very much. I want to return to it, and at the same time I am afraid that this is a fleeting phenomenon.
We lived with her for 6 years. Help, please, to understand. I don't understand what I'm doing anymore."

This is the approach of an honest man, with the imagination of a teenager who married too early and little studied himself, not having enough experience. He needs time. And even if he makes a mistake, it will bear its fruits of experience. He has a right to it. Experiences lead to understanding.

Your situations are similar. Perhaps this is a sample of one of the options for your prospects in terms of building family relationships. And if this near future is indifferent to you, then your partner is trying to prevent or at least temporarily delay the course of formation of such events.

Your attitude to sex is somewhat alarming. Sexual energy is life energy. It is capable of transformation, permeates and fills everything that exists, giving it certain forms. Its free movement is beautiful. But when it is used as a means of bargaining, a monetary equivalent based on the terms of the contract "you - to me, I - to you", then the form of its expression becomes ugly.

By condemning sex, you make it ugly. With this attitude, you should not expect your meetings to resume soon. You yourself deny them, condemning them. There are no prospects for your transformation of sex into love, since the initial condemnation of a natural phenomenon turns it into a poison that threatens the life of another and yourself, and not into life-giving and voluptuous nectar.

Anger, despondency, hatred, anger arising from this become an expression of your sexual energy. And the energy field of such a person begins to take on a menacing shape. Hence the conclusions from the observations: "...they run like hell from incense."

Here you need to be angry with yourself that you are trying to trade in sex to achieve your goals. And sincere anger at your attitude to yourself will help you free yourself from the role of an entrepreneur. Anger and bewilderment are signs that love has not happened yet.

Move in the direction of love. And unfavorable symptoms over time will turn into peace and joy, and later there will be no positive and negative at all. Everything will become a true ocean of feelings.

Fears and discontent will disappear, there will be ground for trust and a desire to be near.

It's still ahead. And you will have to put more energy into love. Do not analyze the behavior of another. Psychoanalysis will not help here. Dedicate yourself to love. Let it not be for you just a beautiful word and fantasy. And it will become a holiday, without any plans for the future.

You need to either accept the situation as it is at the moment and work hard to achieve what you want or, if you are not satisfied, leave it and continue your search.