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Seven bad tips that will tell you what to do and how to behave at a party in order to pass for the worst guest in the world.
So, you received an invitation to dinner from relatives, friends or colleagues. Do not panic. We will tell you how to go to visit so that you will never be called there again.
1. Come half an hour late (or earlier)
A real bad guest is sure to arrive with a significant delay. The soup and cutlets have cooled down, the salad has become “sad”, the hosts are at a loss. Ideal conditions to put everyone in their place once and for all. These despicable people will never again dare to humiliate Your Majesty with an invitation to visit!
But the cunning bad guest acts even more cunningly: he arrives half an hour early to catch the hosts by surprise. Why didn't you wash your hair? What, the chops aren't done yet? Yeah, haven't vacuumed yet? Well, nothing, nothing, for now you will fuss around Our Majesty, and we will watch, but livelier - we love it very much.
2. Don't answer the invitation
Why these outdated formalities? Answering an invitation with a specific “yes” or “no” (and even in writing) is for wimps! A normal guest will appear silently, even when no one is waiting for him, or promise to come and eventually stay at home. Let the owners be nervous.
3. Come empty-handed
Never, under any circumstances, invite party hosts to bring something with them. That's why you and the guest are to eat and drink for free! In the end, you are doing them a favor with your presence, not they are doing you.
4. Bring uncooked meals
If you didn’t manage to get rid of the obligation to contribute to the common cauldron, it doesn’t matter, it’s still fixable. Be sure to bring something to cook on site. For example, a kilogram of unpeeled potatoes for a potato roll. Of course, the hosts will be happy to give you their kitchen and will gladly wait an hour or two until the dish is ready.
And in general, feel free to open all the kitchen cabinets, scatter forks, knives and ladles, take whatever you want from the refrigerator, and fill up the sink with dirty pots. Then they wash themselves. Are they the owners or who?
5. Ignore other guests
Don't try to get to know the other guests at the party. After all, you were not hired as a toastmaster to entertain them all.
Sit near the hosts all evening, claim their undivided attention to your person and do not let these losers close to them, who do not yet have the honor of knowing you. React coldly to attempts to introduce you to new people: you are a bad guest, don't forget!
6. Don't thank
In no case do not say thank you to the hostess for a delicious table - they will still think of themselves who knows what! Feeding and amusing you is her direct duty, and there is nothing to thank for.
Frame from the TV series "Breaking Bad"
7. Leave in English
Do not forget to put a bullet in your trip to visit: seize a convenient moment to hide without saying goodbye to anyone. Resort to any trick to distract the owners and sneak out the door quietly. If, by some miracle, all your efforts have not convinced them to never invite you over again, this elegant finishing touch is sure to do the trick.
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What else to do with a friend? You can play cards, take online friendship tests, review photos and reminisce, try meditation, do fitness, or other movements that require their correctness to be observed from the outside.
It is worth dreaming up yourself, with a friend. The main thing is that you should be interested and have fun.
When we come to visit, especially to unfamiliar people, a lot of questions arise. The answers to them are not always obvious: what to do if you accidentally break the host's service, how to behave when you are persistently offered to pick up the remaining treats, is it decent to ask for more? AiF.ru helped to understand them teacher-consultant on etiquette and business protocol Tatyana Nikolaeva.
1. Is it proper to bring your own drinks and food to a party if for some reason you have not coordinated them with the hostess' menu?
There is one important rule: all drinks (food) that guests bring with them must be put on the table by decent people. Naturally, a situation may arise that your alcohol (dish) simply does not fit into the already created menu. For this reason, I would recommend choosing versatile drinks, such as cognac. Another option - you can bring something and tell the hostess that it is for her personally, her family. Then she has the right not to put your edible presents on the table.
As for some dishes that you spontaneously decide to take with you, it is better to refrain from such an idea. Suddenly your salad will be the same as the hostess's, and the guests will begin to compare them. Hardly anyone will like it.
2. Is it ok to ask for more?
If there is enough food, your request will only please the hostess, for her this is a kind of praise. But when the last spoon remains, she herself must either distribute it among those who wish, or offer it to someone who especially leaned on the dish.
In general, there is nothing criminal in such a request. For example, there was the last piece of cake left. You may well share it in half with a neighbor or someone who sits opposite. If they do not support your initiative, say out loud the following phrase: “since everyone refuses, I, with your permission, will eat this piece of cake.”
3. How to give up alcohol if for some reason you do not drink?
Refer to the doctor's ban. But this can provoke another question from others: “What happened to you?”. Therefore, this option is suitable for unfamiliar companies, where you are unlikely to be asked about the details.
In the event that you do not drink according to your ideological convictions, it is absolutely not necessary to voice them to the assembled guests. Just limit yourself to the phrase: "I don't drink."
Also, in order not to attract attention to yourself, you can always pretend that you are drinking (wet your lips with champagne - put a glass). However, there is another danger here - in any company there are people who consider it their duty to get everyone around to drink. It is unlikely that your little lie will hide from their eyes.
4. If you don't eat a salad ingredient, can you carefully take it out and leave it on your plate while eating the rest of the dish?
It's better to skip the food altogether. Picking out onions, peas, any other ingredient based on your taste preferences will spoil the appetite of others.
Another question is when a person has medical contraindications (for example, allergies). It is better to immediately voice them quietly to the hostess. And she will already tell you what you can eat and what not.
Again, you don't need to tell everyone that you are a vegan or fasting at the moment. This is personal information. By the way, I remind you that fasting is not only a refusal of food, but also a refusal of some kind of entertainment. Since you have decided to limit yourself in food, sit at home, you do not need to visit guests.
5. How to behave if you see a dirty spoon or a hair in a salad?
Of course, in such a delicate situation, it is not necessary to demonstrate either one or the other. A good hostess is always watching whether guests are eating or sitting idly by. In the latter situation, she will certainly ask: “Is something wrong?”. At this point, you should quietly say: "Replace me, please, portion." This phrase is enough for the hostess to fulfill your request without asking too many questions.
You can also take the initiative yourself and quietly, without attracting the attention of guests, ask to replace the plate.
6. Is it possible not to finish eating some dish?
Yes, we all have our own taste preferences. The hostess cannot know them. But a well-mannered person will never say that, for example, he does not like fish (any other product), so he will not eat it. He will agree to try the dish, just ask to put a very small portion, for example, saying that he has already eaten. In addition, it is very important to praise the hostess, so you show respect for her efforts.
7. Do I need to warn the hosts that you will not come to the celebration alone?
Necessarily, because people expect a certain number of servings, seats, and so on. Without the permission of the owners, you can not bring anyone with you, even children. Things like this need to be discussed. To clarify the situation, you can use the phrase: "I would love to come to visit, but, unfortunately, I have no one to leave the child with." If the owners tell you - it's okay, come with the children, then you can do it with a clear conscience.
8. Is it appropriate to offer your help to the hostess, for example, to bring dishes to the table, wash the dishes, etc.?
It all depends on the degree of closeness with your host. When you are not very close, of course, you should offer help, but you should never insist. If the hostess said: "Thank you, I myself." Do not cross. Also, you can’t dispose of in someone else’s kitchen, get into the refrigerator, cabinets, etc.
I will note one more important point: washing dishes in the presence of guests is wrong. This is a kind of hint that it's time for everyone to leave. The only thing that can justify you in such a situation is the lack of dishes for serving the following dishes.
9. How late is it acceptable?
Late arrivals are allowed only 15 minutes. This is just the time when the guests arrive. Not everyone can show up exactly at the appointed time. By the way, keep in mind that arriving earlier than the deadline is also ugly. The maximum that you can afford in this case is 10 minutes (before the start of the celebration).
If, nevertheless, for some reason you are late for more than 15 minutes, call the hostess and tell them to start the feast without you.
10. If you accidentally broke (broken) something in the house, how to get out of this situation?
Any material damage must be compensated. But this does not mean that you should drop everything and run to the store for new glasses. Offering money is also not always correct. In such a situation, it is better to bring back what you accidentally broke. I want to emphasize that the owners should behave with dignity in this situation. If, because of a guest, your favorite glasses have inadvertently turned into fragments, there is no need to lament about this.
11. How to ask for a dish that is far from you?
It is quite correct to ask the person who sits closest to him to pass the dish. You can also donate your plate to have it served to you. But there is a slight difficulty here - it is transmitted with devices, and this is not always convenient.
If we are talking about a lady, she refers to the man who is on her left. Let me remind you that, ideally, guests are seated through one: a man - a woman, a man - a woman. The guest turns to him: "Could you, Ivan Petrovich, ask me to pass that salad over there." And already Ivan Petrovich is acting according to the scheme, which I mentioned above.
12. Is it appropriate to take shoes and slippers with you when you are invited to visit?
To begin with, it is inappropriate to take off guests' shoes. It is not right. But, you see, few people want to sit at the New Year's table in winter boots and boots. Therefore, taking a change of shoes with you is a great solution.
Of course, when you drop in on a friend for a cup of coffee, you may well walk around her apartment in socks (pantyhose), but if we are talking about some kind of gala dinner where ladies put on evening dresses, this look is inappropriate. It is important to choose interchangeable shoes for your outfit. This rule applies to both men and women. Only shoes, no slippers!
13. When you are invited to visit, is it possible to ask the hosts who else will be present at the party?
Asking questions like this is ugly. However, good hosts themselves must make it clear to the guests what kind of party they are planning. Of course, no one will give you the names of all the invitees by name, they will simply outline the picture in general terms. For example: there will be colleagues from work, my mother, relatives, etc. Thus, you will understand the level of the upcoming event and choose the appropriate outfit and image.
14. When we go into the bathroom to wash our hands, is it necessary to ask the hostess for a towel, or is it better not to disturb her?
Wiping yourself with the master's towels is bad form. Never do this. To avoid such situations, you need to prepare for them. Prepare a pile of clean towels for guests with an urn (basket) where they can be thrown away. In extreme cases, use thick, disposable wipes for the same purpose (also with a bin for disposal).
15. How to behave when the hostess insistently invites you to take something from the treats?
If we are talking about close people, then it is quite possible to agree to such a proposal. But when we are dealing with relationships of a completely different level, the hostess should not offer such things, and you have the right to refuse. The main thing is that you yourself do not ask for anything from the festive table.
16. What topics are better not to raise at the festive table?
Definitely, you should not raise topics that will lead guests to disputes, discussions and quarrels. I mean politics, sports (if fans of different teams have gathered). Do not discuss bad news, even when it is socially significant, health issues. Of course, you should not gossip about other people.
17. Is it possible to ask the hostess to serve tea or coffee before they bring sweets?
Remember: you do not need to demonstrate your habits in a strange house. It is better to follow the program of the owners, because everything that goes against their plans causes some inconvenience. Even if you really wanted tea or coffee, the most you can do is ask for a glass of water. It is easier to fulfill such a request than to make a hot drink.
18. When is it appropriate to leave and how to respond to the persuasion of the owners to stay and sit a little more?
If you know that you will have to leave early, arrange this in advance. And, since you are leaving the event critically early, it is better to say goodbye only to the hosts.
The serving of tea and coffee indicates that the program has come to an end and after about 15-30 minutes after that you need to get ready for home. As for persuasion to stay: if you decide to leave, leave. Do not give in to requests to stay for another half an hour. Otherwise, you might just annoy people.
Print out this list, cut it into narrow strips with one item each, and put them in a box or jar. When you get bored at home, just pull out any note at random - and act according to the plan.
1. Dance. To your favorite music, of course!
2. Test a new game. For example, or.
8. Discover new music. You can search for it. Try it and you will understand how many great songs you have not heard yet!
9. Rhyme everything that you see around, even if it is "cat - cattle." Perhaps you will have a poem! It's also a great brain workout.
10. Compose and beautifully design a crossword puzzle.
11. Explore a site you like and get ideas from there. Dig deep!
12. Start your own blog or .
13. Get lost on Pinterest. What to pair your new pencil skirt with, how to spend your child's first birthday - millions of ideas are waiting for you for every taste!
14. Build your own private Pinterest page by saving ideas that interest you.
15. Take a bubble bath with a couple of drops of your favorite.
16. Arrange a spa at home: with masks and, a hand bath and a heel brush.
17. Cook and leisurely, savoring every sip, drink cocoa or perfect.
18. Give yourself a massage.
22. Start painting by numbers.
26. Take a nap.
27. Sit in front of the window with a cup of coffee and watch passers-by, leaves and clouds. Feel yourself.
28. Spend all day on the couch and not worry about it a bit.
29. Deal with the instructions for household appliances and finally figure out how to make a double latte in a cool new coffee maker.
30. Cook something interesting according to the recipe of some. Or master, which takes no more than 5 minutes. Or finally cook the best borscht in your life.
42. Make a list of goals for the next month, six months, year.
43. Refresh and expand your resume with a job that can double your salary.
44. Update profile on the site. If you are registered there, of course.
45. Get a facial massage.
46. Explore Wikipedia. Fall down the "rabbit hole" for a while: follow the links inside the article that interests you, expanding your knowledge of the issue more and more.
50. Shine a bathroom.
52. Make a list of the pros and cons of a task that you think about a lot. Whether to have children? Should I buy a car? Go on vacation abroad or within the country?
64. Play with friends or children in .
65. Teach your friends card tricks or surprise with simple magic tricks based on the laws of physics.
66. Compete: who will lay down the most far-flying? Anything can be used for aircraft construction: from office paper to old magazines and newspapers.
67. Together with someone, start putting together a huge puzzle of a thousand pieces.
69. Fortune telling. For example, take the thickest book and invite friends to name the page and line number, and then read the prediction together. Or do .
70. Enough to take pictures with friends.
71. Blow soap bubbles.
72. Make your pet a new bed, toy or scratching post. Lifehacker instructions already.
73. Together with your children, write a letter to your family in the future. Hide it in a time capsule and promise to open it and read it in a year.
74. Make a clear joint plan with the children on how you will spend your summer holidays or. Choose movies on the sites of the nearest cinemas, book a ticket, make an itinerary ...
75. Cuddle babies, arrange pillow fights (it's nice, and such memories will remain in children for a long time).
76. Finally go in for sports. Have you been dreaming of pulling up for a long time or?
77. Together with the children, build a cardboard castle from old boxes and color it. If you put several boxes together, cutting doors into them, you get a multi-room house!
78. Arrange a dress-up show with the children (at the same time, sort out the closet in the nursery).
79. Draw a big picture together on a huge sheet or glued landscape sheets.
80. Take paints and a sheet of drawing paper and leave prints of your palms on it. Date and store carefully.
We are sure that you already know what to do at home with your boyfriend without us. But let's open a secret: romantic conversations, kisses and all of this following is not the only way to have a good time.
Child's world
Get out the albums that your parents have been keeping for a thousand years and tell him why you were afraid of a plush hare in the younger group of kindergarten and who you were in love with in the first grade. True, be more careful with the latter - if he suddenly tells about himself in response.
Offer to recognize you in a group photo. After 5 minutes, admit that you watched SpongeBob at home that day.
Happily ever after
Get comfortable on your pillows and dream about the future: tell each other how great it will be to live in the mountains, go to concerts in the middle of the week, and invite friends over (except Tolik) on weekends. Go wherever you want: Seattle or Vienna, St. Petersburg or Kamchatka.
Plan your vacation - choose a city and several excursions that no guide will guess. Even if you're not going anywhere.
Instead of sushi
Choose a few recipes to have a tasting later, and cook something unusual together. Get inspired by "Kitchen", "Ratatouille" and these sites:
ogoloda.li - with the ability to select the ingredients that are in the refrigerator;
sushifan.ru — website with cartoon design for fans of Japanese cuisine;
talerka.tv/ru/recipes - video recipes, which are divided into parts of the world and countries.
He is still running
If your boyfriend likes exercising as much as brushing his teeth, ask him to be your personal trainer (which is also a compliment). The main thing is not to be too serious. The motto of training at home is “Fool around is allowed!”.
An alternative is arm wrestling (he doesn’t have to carry a purse with a ton of cosmetics on his shoulder every day, which means you have every chance).
Pure dancing
Turn on your favorite slow song (or the very song that you call "ours") and ... a table lamp instead of the usual one will already give the desired effect. Let this dance last as long as you want.
To make everything really turn out like in a movie, change your T-shirt for a floor-length dress.
flap your eyelashes
It is unlikely that the guy is a fan of fashion shows (or knows about them only from the Victoria's Secret show). But isn't his angel the best, even though sometimes he doesn't behave like an angel? Show off some of your favorite outfits and have him choose the one you wear next time you go out on a date.
If you need to choose a kit for the occasion (girlfriend's birthday or an exam), ask the guy to take a picture of you in each - he will feel like an artist, and you will see everything from the side.
Think of a quest for him
Buy some funny thing in advance and hide it in the apartment. Come up with a quest with hints that will help the guy get to him. When silence hangs, slap your forehead: “But I have a present for you!”
Recall the game "Hot-cold" and take turns looking for a plush otter.
Need a pencil
You can learn a little more about MCH with the help of psychological tests. As, however, and he about you. Just don't take it seriously, the result of any test is not a reason to quarrel, even if it turns out that Hermione is the perfect guy, and you look more like Ginny.
Come up with a test yourself. For example, how well does he know you, with questions like "What color is my toothbrush?". And he let him come up with for you, but more difficult.
Even making soap turns into an adventure when you are alone.
Came out of the foam
Girls call it “Beauty Day”, but don’t tell the prince about it. Turn on the ambient, give each other a fragrant massage. Maybe you can even get him to make a blue clay mask that reduces redness and oil.
Try to learn meditation or yoga lessons on YouTube.
Everything is fine
Joint difficulties like cleaning bring together. His strong shoulder and determined gaze will keep you from dropping boxes in the middle, and his height will be useful (or rather, harmful) to the dust on the eaves. Every 15 minutes, arrange a "minute" during which you are allowed to lie on the couch and check the pages.
Don't tell him what to do or how to do it, and don't be offended if he moves a rare hemifusus colossus shell a millimeter. Be fun, not boring.
Geek romance
Self-education together is much more pleasant. Learn languages, solve puzzles, walk through museums virtually holding hands (already in reality). You can look at a site like universarium.org - this is an interuniversity e-education platform, everything is serious.
If the guy has a technical mindset, and you have a humanitarian one, even better. Let him explain physics to you using simple examples and using improvised means, and you will tell him in his ear about the leitmotifs of Bulgakov's work.
And finally just shut up
If you suddenly have nothing to do objectively, and all the points above have been tried, just sit next to each other and go about your own business. And these moments will be more beautiful than any crazy parties and adventures.
6 simple games for two
- "Jenga" (let him concentrate while you distract him with stories about what will happen to the loser).
- “Sea battle” (warn you right away that if you don’t give in and sink all your ships, you will arrange a pillow fight in which you have no equal).
- "Cities", "blue-haired cartoon characters" or whatever (avoid the use of any gadgets).
- "Twister" (to the advice about yoga).
- "Mario" (if you can't find a prefix, play on the computer - and be sure to wish).
- Reading aloud and role-playing.
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