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Do what you like in life. Do what you like. the golden rule says - do what gives you real pleasure, and then you will become much happier. Do what you're really good at

It is strange that upon closer acquaintance it turns out that many of them have an unusual life story, interesting hobbies, a rich imagination, and the like. They are all unique, but how is it possible that such different people look so much the same?

Of course, it's all about socialization. When we were children, the world seemed so huge: we played merrily, laughed out loud, cried when it hurt, admired, knew how to see the beauty of the world and generally did not really think about who and what thinks about us. Everything was so easy until we started to grow up, acquiring unpleasant experiences, first disappointments, unrequited love.

In order to organically settle in society, we had to fall under the influence of the rules of etiquette, social attitudes and ridiculous stereotypes - this is normal, because we must live by certain laws so as not to infringe on other people with our freedom.

But the fact is that in addition to the hard work of being a law-abiding citizen, you need to do an equally difficult job of being yourself. Today in our world, which is so actively striving for tolerance, nevertheless, there are still big problems with this, because in order to freely do what you like (of course, within the framework of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation), you must have an outstanding will and strength of character in order to be able to defend their principles if necessary.

That is why the ability to be yourself is an important spiritual work that every person must do. And the trick is to strike a delicate balance between not bothering people with your eccentricity, but not being enslaved by their love of judgment and imposing their own opinions.

What are the usual reasons for not being able to express your feelings and do what you like?

You are afraid of conflict.
You have established control over emotions: usually for girls - this is the image of a languid diva who weighs her every word, and for men - the image of a sexy male who takes himself too seriously.

You have low self-esteem and whatever you want seems absurd and unrealistic to you.

Do you like to accumulate sad moods inside to indulge in melancholy from time to time.

Are you afraid to take responsibility for your own actions.

Because of this, unfulfilled desires, unsatisfied needs and unfulfilled dreams accumulate in a person for years, which cannot find a way out in any way, and a person, not wanting to become in opposition, does not suspect that result may turn out to be more deplorable than the condemnation from others.

Firstly, he simply runs the risk of not living “his life”. We very often follow the lead of mom, husband, dad, grandmother, best friend, who always "know what's best." Instead of rebelling and making a decision on our own in order not to take responsibility, we listen to people who project their experiences and desires onto us, but, as a rule, nothing sensible comes out of this.

Secondly, he may become depressed. Very often, in a psychiatrist's office, people admit that they go to great lengths in terms of work, night parties, romantic relationships, just not to hear how their soul calls for help and asks them to change something in their lives. But instead of daring to change, he only pushes himself harder, turning his everyday life into Groundhog Day. In such conditions, we do not understand at all who we are and what we want, and the more time passes, the more difficult it is to change something. It cannot go on like this for a long time, and at some point the body fails, which is expressed in depressive moods.

So, no matter how attractive the prospect of being someone else, more attractive, or the illusion that someone else knows what is best for you, or you just don’t want to get into conflicts and provoke outraged views, one way or another, Being who you are is very important.

To suppress this natural impulse by adjusting to other people's patterns and standards is an elementary disrespect for one's Self, and with such an attitude of happiness one can wait a long time. That's why work on your character, be able to stand up for yourself, withstand a harsh word or look, meditate to better hear yourself and your needs.

Let your childhood be your guide with all the bright emotions and sincerity, now subtract the naivety and capriciousness from here, add the experience and wisdom acquired in the process of life - the result of this equation will be the ideal option.

And remember: a person should not be someone's parody, make someone's dreams come true and match the tastes of strangers - all these desires are fundamentally immature, therefore, initially they cannot be crowned with success. Just be who you are, tirelessly improving and developing!

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I think I finally found a technique for finding what you love to do.

Sounds funny, but it's true! Very often we work in jobs that we seem to somehow like, but inside ourselves we understand that this is absolutely not what we would like to do in reality.

So why don't we leave our jobs and follow what we love to do?

Reason 2:
1. We don't know what we like to do
2. Fear. We lead a lifestyle that needs to be maintained. We have bills to pay, families and loved ones to take care of. We are insanely sick that there will be no sustainable income, fear of what others might think or say about us, etc. Just Fear.

The main reason is 1. Indeed, many simply do not know what they like to do. Or they are afraid to "open their eyes" and look at themselves.

STEP 1: Don't hesitate! You will find the answer. No matter how long it takes you. The answer will be.

STEP 2: _Write_ in two columns a list of SKILLS (1st column) and INTERESTS (2nd column).
It's important to write it down. And do it with full dedication. Sitting alone so that no one distracts you. Not looking at the computer, at people, not listening to music and not doing anything else. Just go inside and make a LIST. Let him be ridiculous. Well, do you like to collect labels from clothes - write it down. Write whatever comes to mind! Make it! OK? Right now. Put the fucking thing aside, take a piece of paper and do it. Otherwise, why are you reading this? To spend another piece of your life? It won't make you feel any better, and certainly not me. Just don't ask too many questions, just make a list. We are looking for what we love to do. It is so? :) Come on, write already!

After you make the list, think about:
1. What interested you at work. On this one, on the last one... on the one before last :)
2. Remember, if you walk into a bookstore, which section do you naturally go to? And what else? What attracts you?
3. Ask friends, girlfriends, acquaintances - what skills and interests they see in you. Perhaps you will discover many new things for yourself. M?
4. How do you spend the lion's share of your free time? What are you hesitant to do?
5. What did you enjoy doing when you were five or ten years old?
6. What were you praised for?
7. What skills, interests and abilities were noted by your parents and teachers?
8. Why did you write down these particular skills and interests and not others? :) Maybe just because you like it? Maybe by the fact that you from one thought from this Rushing?

So, Skills: They have a little secret. You need to develop what you are strong (strong). And don't say you don't have them. Everyone has skills. It just never occurred to you to sit down and think about it and write them down. Using your skills, you will be able to get a starting point, a catalyst.

Now a few words about Interests: Quite simply, you need to love what you will be doing. Turning on the interest, you start another form of mechanism that does not allow you to leave the "distance". After all, the path does not always pass along the highway, there are also mountain winding paths.

You may notice a simple thing skills can revolve around one or two skills. The same can be true for interests. This is fine.

STEP 3: Now let's modify the question "What do I like to do" a little, because it is very broad, to "What would I like to do every day that combines my skills and interests, and, most importantly, brings significant benefits to people?"

Why add a value-added part? Because it might lead you to discover a way to make money doing what you love. Fershtein?

STEP 4: So, the hardest part is over. We move on.
We look at the list that we managed to compile, choose one idea that seems more attractive. Perhaps it will be possible to combine several ideas into one. The main thing in the end is to get one that will bring the greatest satisfaction not only to you, but also to other people.

How do you know that you still managed to find what you love to do?
It's simple - if "it" makes you feel good, and it's great for you... No, you're just STUNNING from this topic - then it's yours.

Now the matter remains quite small - to act.
Do not think about the complexities and difficulties of the process. Just start slowly moving forward no matter what. And everything will work out!

Explore your likes and dislikes. Do you want to know what you love to do the most? Think about how you spend your free time. Do you like listening to music? Read? Write? To communicate with people? Analyze it and think deeply about why you like it. If you love to write, what would you like to write? What do you like most about writing? What makes you want to write? Think as much as you can about your ideal job to determine your true passion. You should also think about things that you are good at. If you are good at something, maybe you will also enjoy doing it in life. It's pretty important to be good at what you want to do if you expect to make money from it.

Think about how you can get paid for it. Knowing how to do something well and loving it is sometimes not enough, so you have to find a way to get paid for it. For example, if you love working out, consider what you can do to earn money while you work out. One option would be to work as a gym instructor.

Find out more about what you want to do. If you already know what you love to do the most, you should look into it. It's not enough to just think you're good at it - you have to improve your skills in order to make it your job.

  • Try to read as much as you can find in online textbooks and everything you can find online about the activity you are interested in.
  • Talk to someone who is already working in the area you want and ask them to tell you some basic things about it and also be able to advise you on how you can get started in that direction.
  • You can also apply for courses if you have the money, or find free ones.
  • Try to exercise as much as you can.

  • For starters, don't worry about money. Sometimes you have to start this way in order to get some important connections before you get a job. You can start looking online for freelance jobs to build a portfolio if needed. Or take a walk around the neighborhood, giving everyone a taste of the great cake you made if you love to bake. You have to tell people what you can do and what you're good at.

    • Remember that you want to make the best first impression (every time), so be nice to everyone and give your best without thinking about making money just yet.

  • Let everyone know that you want to work. You should talk to people around you about what you want to do and tell them that you are ready to do it for them if they ever need it. For example, if you love to cook, tell everyone about it, and also tell them that if they ever throw a party, you'll be ready to help them with the cooking.

    Start small. To begin with, do not expect to immediately become the boss of thousands of people. You have to be realistic and understand that in the beginning you will have to do some things that you don't really like and that you will have to work with little to no money, but it's worth it. For example, if you love to write and your favorite thing is to write about fashion, but someone offers you money to write an article about sports, do it. Make the most of it. We are all starting somewhere. This may lead you in the right direction and maybe you will meet someone who can help you.

    Work on it. Now that everyone knows about you and your abilities and accomplishments, you can start looking for more job opportunities. Don't be afraid to apply for a job you love once you have the experience and some great accomplishments to fill out your resume.

    1. Understand what you really like. This is the most important and the most difficult. The golden rule says - do what gives you real pleasure, and then you will become much happier. But one must be prepared for the fact that the search for one's own path is a marathon that can last for many (dozens?) years.

    2. Give up the garbage that you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets and cunning diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. You don't have to become a vegetarian and stop drinking completely - just limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.

    3. Learn foreign languages. This will unrealistically expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented opportunities for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. English speakers - a billion. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language one. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity.

    4. Read books. An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, high-quality fiction. No time to read because you drive - listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life.

    5. Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, an exhibition, go in for sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your contact area with the world. When you have already traveled around and around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is not to sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.

    6. Start a blog or regular diary. No matter what. It does not matter that you do not have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you will be able to think and reason. And if you just regularly write about what you love, readers will definitely come.

    7. Set goals. Fix them on paper, in Word or a blog. The main thing is that they be clear, understandable and measurable. If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you do not put, then there are no options for achieving at all.

    8. Learn how to touch type on a keyboard - not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as fast as you can think. And you should not think about where the desired letter is, but about what you write.

    9. Ride time. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, do not postpone "for later." All things either do or delegate to someone. Try not to let the ball linger in your side. Write down on the sheet all the "long-playing" things that have not yet been done and prevent you from living. Rethink whether you need them (remembering point 1). Do what is left for a few days, and you will feel incredible lightness.

    10. Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid surfing on the Internet. Minimize communication in social networks (up to optimization - leave only one account). Destroy the TV antenna in the apartment. In order not to be drawn to constantly checking e-mail, install an agent that will inform you of incoming messages (including mobile ones).

    12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always have more time than in the evening. If you leave Moscow at 7 am on weekends in the summer, then by 10 am you will already be in Yaroslavl. If you leave at 10, you will be there in the best case for dinner. The same goes for weekend shopping. A person needs 7 hours of sleep, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.

    13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open-minded, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and learn from (it's especially important that your bosses fall into that category). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, dull, pessimistic and angry. In order to get taller, you have to strive upwards, and having people nearby that you want to grow up to will be a great incentive in itself.

    14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can be an invaluable source of information.

    15. Start traveling. It doesn't matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of rest has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop obsessing over the small space around you and become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.

    16. Buy a camera (maybe the simplest one) and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by beautiful photographs that you brought with you. Alternatively, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.

    17. Go in for sports. It is not necessary to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, biking, horizontal bars, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to restore tone to the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about what an elevator is - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change the body almost beyond recognition.

    18. Do unusual things. Go somewhere you've never been before, take a different route to work, sort out a problem you don't know anything about. Get out of your "comfort zone", expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do it about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.

    19. Invest. Ideally, every month it is worth investing part of your income, because a rich person is not someone who earns a lot, but someone who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it.

    20. Get rid of junk. Throw away any items you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't be able to get to them next year either). Leave only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - distribute it. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.

    21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you know something that others really want to learn.
    22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better - as unambiguously positive.

    23. Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relations and positive impressions.

    24. Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance to experience failure.

    25. The last, it is the first. Do what you like. Learn. Learn. Develop. Change yourself from within.

    “Find something more important than yourself, and devote your life to it,” philosopher Dan Dennett once said, talking about the path to happiness. But how exactly do you find that job? Surely this does not happen by accident. I am convinced that curiosity and the ability to make choices help us find ourselves, but the search for one's vocation is a complex and individual process. Despite this, there are some factors that help alleviate it. In this article, we share the observations of seven thinkers who talked about how to make a living doing what you love.

    Paul Graham on doing what you love

    Every few months I rediscover and voraciously re-read Y-Combinator founder Paul Graham's excellent article, "How to Do What You Love", written by in 2006 year. The article is great, but the most important and relevant part, in which the author talks about public opinion and how prestige is not an indicator of success, seemed to me the most important and relevant:

    “I think you should not worry about the opinion of others about you, with the exception of your friends. Don't worry about prestige either. Prestige is the opinion of others.”

    “Prestige is the strongest magnet that can distort even your own ideas about what brings you pleasure. He makes you work not on what you love, but on what you wanted you to love.”

    “Prestige and inspiration are inextricably linked. If you are very good at something, you can turn this activity into a prestigious one. Many phenomena that we consider prestigious were far from this at the beginning of their history. Jazz is an example of this, although any art form would fit that description. Therefore, do what gives you pleasure, and do not think about prestige.”

    “Prestige is a particular danger to ambitious people. If you need to get an ambitious person to spend their time doing errands, make them believe that they will do a prestigious job. That is why many people give speeches, write forewords, serve on committees, hold positions as department heads, and so on. I advise you to make it a rule to avoid performing any task with a touch of prestige. If it was truly worthwhile, it would not be labeled with prestige.”

    Alain de Botton on success

    Alain de Botton, a contemporary philosopher and author of self-improvement books written in an artistic style, studies the paradoxes and fallacies generated by the norms of our culture.

    In The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work, de Botton, with his usual wit and wisdom, addresses the topic of professional activity, exposing the deceitfulness of “success”.

    “The interesting thing about success is we think we know what it is. Very often, our ideas about a happy life are not really ours. They are absorbed by us from other people. We also absorb advertisements, messages from TV, and so on. These are the strongest sources that determine our desires and how we perceive ourselves. I am not saying that we need to get rid of our ideas about success, but only that it is important to make sure that these ideas are actually our authorship. I advise everyone to focus on your ideas and check if they really belong to you, if you are really the author of your own ambitions. Not getting what you want is bad, but it’s much worse to live thinking that you need one thing, and at the end of your journey to realize that this is not at all what you would really like.”

    Hugh McLeod on setting boundaries

    Cartoonist Hugh MacLeod is famous not only for his provocative scribbles, but also for his categorical judgments about creativity, culture and the meaning of life. In Ignore Everybody: and 39 Other Keys to Creativity, McLeod has collected some of his wisest advice for creative people. Particularly close to my own judgments about the importance of choice, this thought of his about the need to set boundaries seemed to me:

    16. “The most important thing that a creative person can learn in terms of work is the ability to draw a line that separates what you agree to do from what you do not agree.

    Art suffers from the moment people start paying for it. The greater your need for money, the more others will tell you what to do. The less control you have over the situation. The more crap you'll have to swallow. The less pleasure you will get from creativity. Keep this in mind and plan your path with the above in mind.”

    McLeod then talks about prestige, giving an opinion similar to Graham's:

    28. “The best way to get approval is not to need it. This rule applies to art and business. Love. Sex. Anything really worthwhile.”

    Lewis Hyde on the difference between work and labor

    One of the best books on creativity of all time is The Gift: Creativity and the Artist in the Modern World by Lewis Hyde, published in 1979. About him, David Foster Wallace said the famous phrase: “No person who has previously been engaged in creativity can remain the same after reading this book.”

    In the passage below, Hyde explains the difference between work and creative work, realizing which we can get closer to the much-desired professional self-realization:

    “Work is what we do by the hour and, if possible, for money. Work is when people weld car bodies on an assembly line, wash dishes, calculate taxes, make rounds in a psychiatric clinic, pick asparagus on the lot. Labor, on the contrary, sets its own rhythm. We can get a reward for it, but it will be harder to measure it ... Examples of labor are the creation of a poem, the upbringing of a child, the development of a new method of calculation, overcoming a state of neurosis, inventing something.

    Work is an intentional activity performed by the will of a person. Labor can also be intentional, which can manifest itself in preparatory work or avoidance of doing things that could interfere with work. However, apart from these moments, work proceeds according to its own schedule.”

    Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi gave a name to the quality that distinguishes work from work - "flow". The flow state is characterized by a strong focus and clarity of thought, as well as a feeling of “losing” oneself, losing track of time, and a sense of belonging to something important. If you've ever spent the night working on your own project, or writing a love letter for 20 hours straight, you've probably experienced flow and creativity.

    Steve Jobs on constant search

    In his legendary 2005 Stanford alumni address, Steve Jobs eloquently spoke of the need to keep looking for what you love until you find it. In the search process, according to Jobs, human intuition plays the most important role:

    “Your work will be a significant part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you think is a good job. And you can only do good work if you love what you do. If you haven't found something like this yet, keep looking. Do not stop. When you meet true love, you immediately understand this, and in the search for your favorite business, everything is exactly the same. And, like any strong relationship, over the years, attachment to your favorite business only grows. So keep looking until you find the right one. Do not stop."

    Robert Kralvich about friends

    Robert Krulwich, co-producer of the excellent WNYC Radiolab radio program, author of the fascinating science site Krulwich Wonders, and recipient of the Peabody Award for Significant Contribution to Broadcasting, is one of today's finest journalists. Addressing the Berkeley graduates, he emphasized the most important social aspect of work - the presence of social ties that are much more significant and honest compared to the prestige and approval of others.

    “On your path in life, you will find a job, but you will also gain affection for the people you have helped and who have helped you. It doesn't matter what status your friends hold in society. It is important that they give you time, challenge you, help you in your work and are always ready to give you a friendly shoulder. Perhaps you will find strength in friends.”

    “If you can, fall in love with your work, with the people you work with, with your dreams and their dreams. Don't forget what brought you to this university. Don't forget what you were here for. Believe in your friends. Trust that your thoughts and those of your friends, and the way you express them, bring something new into the world.”

    Holsti's manifesto

    Holstee Manifesto is a beautiful message about the meaning of life, an excerpt from which we give below:

    "It is your life. Do what you like and do it often. If you don't like something, change it. If you don't like your job, quit. If you don't have enough time, stop watching TV. If you are looking for your soulmate, stop. She will appear in your life as soon as you start doing what you love.”

    The words of the manifesto are now printed on posters, greeting cards and even children's bibs, because it's never too early to learn to listen to your heart.