About "negative" emotions during pregnancy. Or the main myth of pregnancy

03.08.2019

I think that all of you have heard one way or another that pregnant women should not worry and worry. The fact that all the emotions of a pregnant woman are transmitted to the child.

There is truth in these words. However, in most cases, the interpretation of these words takes on a very simplified, and, unfortunately, often even harmful form. Now I am talking about those situations when the pregnant woman herself and her entourage understand this “you can’t worry”, how you need to ignore, ignore or suppress “negative” emotions. And often pregnant women become hostages of these installations. Conflict situation at work, tired, quarreled with her husband, mother calls for the fifth time in a day ... no, do not get angry, do not be offended, this can harm the child, we smile, only positive ... As if, having become pregnant, a woman loses the right to difficult emotions that are already tabooed by our society, and even more so during pregnancy, since the woman now has added responsibility for the life, health and development of the baby.

It takes a lot of strength and resources to suppress and not experience "negative" emotions. In fact, it still doesn't quite work. A sense of guilt and fear are added that, experiencing something there, harmed the child. Unfortunately, this is a scenario familiar to many during pregnancy. Is it so? How true are these settings and what to do about it?

Let's figure it out. Did you notice that I put the word "negative" in quotation marks? You may have already heard or read that emotions are neither positive nor negative. I ask you to once again try to hear and experience the fact that there are no negative emotions. I am now focusing on this, because I am faced with the fact that many women, turning to me for advice and knowing this fact very well in theory, still do not let it inside themselves. And they continue to fight with their anger, resentment, guilt, fear.

Naturally, each of us has our own reasons from childhood and the family system in which we grew up. And yet. Emotions are just emotions, they are not good or bad. Emotions are markers of your needs. Emotions accompany the emergence and cycle of satisfaction or dissatisfaction of needs. Every emotion is good and necessary. It is natural to get angry when your boundaries are violated, be it psychological, physical, temporal, territorial, or any other. It's natural to feel disgusted when you have too much of anything in contact with a person (his scent, his concern, his expectations of you, etc.).

Just like any other emotion. Ignoring and suppressing those emotions that a particular society or person refers to as "negative" does not entail anything but additional tension and somatization of these emotions.

When, for example, there seems to be no anger, but just a sore throat often. Or, "I have no fears, I'm not afraid of anything", that's just the uterus in good shape all the time.

The worst thing you can do when you get pregnant is to start ignoring most of your life trying to catch that ghostly positivity and be in it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

During pregnancy, it is absolutely normal to experience a whole range of emotions. Emotions are represented in our body in the form of hormones. The hormones of a woman come to the child with blood. A child needs different hormones to grow and develop. And it’s good if the whole spectrum of hormones and emotions is presented, if already in utero the child gets the experience that adrenaline, norepinephrine, etc. We feel that after stress comes relaxation.

Pregnancy- it's not a disease. This is not an emotional illness. There is no need to stop and stop experiencing your life if you become pregnant.

What then do these words mean that pregnant women should not worry? Do they make sense?

To answer these questions, I need to tell you a little about the psychology of pregnancy. During pregnancy, the subcortical structures of the brain begin to work more actively, which means that the sensitivity and emotionality of a woman increase. And this is what often happens during pregnancy. If in a woman's life there is a certain aspect of reality that she was quite able to ignore and with which she "put up" in a non-pregnant state, during pregnancy the same situations begin to evoke emotions and feelings that cannot be ignored. For example, if before pregnancy it was quite possible to live “normally” with her husband, despite the lack of spiritual intimacy, pleasure and diversity in sex, the presence of constant abuse and disrespect for personal boundaries, with her mother, despite the frequent devaluation of personal differences, lack of respect and instructiveness, etc. .d. etc., then, having become pregnant, pain, resentment, anger, despair, unfortunately, or, fortunately, will still attract attention.

And again, the worst thing you can do is try to keep ignoring.

As I said, the emotional state of a pregnant woman differs from her non-pregnant state in the direction of greater sensitivity. Emotions seem to be more on the surface, closer, brighter, more changeable. This is natural during pregnancy. This is female growth and development in the knowledge of her feminine. This is an expansion of the boundaries of the emotional sphere. However, for many women this becomes a difficult task and they make desperate attempts to collapse to a previous non-pregnant state in which everything is already known and adjusted. Usually attempts to stop Life and development do not lead to anything good.

By virtue of all of the above, in the state of pregnancy, a woman becomes more vulnerable, more vulnerable. Often, the usual defense mechanisms stop working as smoothly as they did before pregnancy. Some psychologists say that pregnancy is a regression to what is usually called a child's condition. I don't really like this wording, but some might like it. I am more impressed by paying attention to those phenomena that are more pronounced in women during pregnancy: greater vulnerability, vulnerability, tearfulness, the need for security, a greater need for care and rest, a greater need for emotional intimacy.

What do we have? During pregnancy, a woman becomes more emotional and more vulnerable. And at the same time, the One whose life continues to happen in the same way (and as you know, life is different, and a variety of events happen in it, including death, loss, parting, moving, etc.) and whose defense mechanisms of the psyche no longer work so effectively. The one that experiences life more vividly and needs more protection and support.

The best option is when a pregnant woman, oh, God, no, in any case, DOES NOT worry ... when a pregnant woman EXPERIENCES all her feelings, emotions, new sensations and has support in this. When her feelings and emotions are not devalued or judged. When she can cry to someone and share her fears with someone. With those who are in contact with her. With someone who is not afraid of her feelings, emotions, her condition and her vulnerability. With someone who is simple and at the same time very difficult, he can live his life next to a woman who carries a child under her heart, while remaining alive, experiencing her and himself with all the innovations that are born in this contact.

It's great if a pregnant woman has close people who have the qualities that I described above. Husband, mother, sister, friends. I see as a task, including for myself, the development of a culture of pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum period in our country and the formation of a community of perinatal specialists who can help women at this difficult and at the same time very beautiful life stage.

Why am I talking specifically about another living person, next to the pregnant woman? Because the experience takes place in contact. Out of contact, alone, without the ability to experience, emotions are not experienced, but stuck, when the next touch or immersion in complex emotions brings nothing but a new round of old pain. And then, indeed, it is time to talk about the possible harm of those hormones that are released at the same time.

Therefore, I want to encourage women, especially pregnant women, those who will be pregnant to ever take care of their emotional sphere. Do not ignore, do not suppress, do not act out in the usual patterns, but look for an opportunity to survive. Learn to experience difficult emotions while remaining resilient. This is exactly the kind of experience that is good for the child inside. Experience that fear (adrenaline), anger (norepinephrine) and all other complex, stressful emotions are experienced. That it ends. That mom can handle what happens in life, which means I can handle it too. So the world is good and safe for me, no matter what happens in it.

Many will probably agree that the period of pregnancy has its own incomparable aura, when life takes on a new meaning, new shades. Your existence is filled with some special inner light, a feeling of a high mission entrusted to you. Indeed, most expectant mothers, when trying to convey their new state, describe a sense of boundless responsibility that they simply never experienced before. It seems that she would not do anything so that the child is born healthy and strong.

Finally, you are freed from vague guesses and lingering doubts, now you know for sure - THIS is Pregnancy. Long-awaited or unexpected, planned or accidental, first or next. At the very beginning, like early spring. You dream that the coming nine months will bring peace and joy to your soul. What if a beautiful dream doesn't come true? And the persistent reminder of others “it’s bad for you to worry” does not help get rid of conflicting, disturbing thoughts and feelings.

The first months of pregnancy are a time of revolutionary changes not only in the physiology of a woman, but also in her psychology. In the inner, innermost space of her Self, the space of another person appeared, the existence of which must not only be reckoned with, but perhaps restructure all life, change all plans. Not everyone can unconditionally accept these changes.

Even if the child is desired and long-awaited, the grandeur of the accomplished event captures all the woman’s thoughts, making her worry: “How will my life develop further? How will the pregnancy proceed? What will happen to my career? Will I be able to provide my child with a decent future? Will I be a good mother? Familiar questions, right? Such mental anguish can cause not only a feeling of fatigue and irritability, but even cause toxicosis or a threat of abortion.

First, don't try to solve all problems at once. Postpone them indefinitely, and perhaps some of them will be resolved without your participation. In general, pregnancy is a unique time when you can rightfully afford not to react to life's problems. And do not feel guilty for such irresponsible behavior. Remember that more than all material goods in the world, a child needs your attention, understanding and love.

Secondly, the most important thing now is to realize and accept your new state. Give yourself permission to be pregnant. Accepting your new state means accepting the appearance of a child in your life, learning to understand his needs. Indulge your little weaknesses - whether it's the desire to lie down in the middle of the day or buy yourself some delicacy. Let pregnancy enter your life not as a time of prohibitions, but as a time of new opportunities. A statement like “I won’t be able to wear my favorite skinny jeans” can be replaced with “Finally, I will update my wardrobe!” It is enough to change the point of view to feel the taste for change.

Pregnancy makes a woman emotionally vulnerable, prone to anxiety, more sensitive to negative experiences. It seems that the reason for the frustration is insignificant, and the eyes are in a “wet place” and nothing pleases. Many women are haunted by the feeling that you are “trapped” by incessant nausea, tiredness that has piled up from somewhere, and constant irritability. Doctors explain such an unstable emotional state by the rapid hormonal changes that occur in the body. Only the understanding that such a state is natural and quite physiological does not make this difficult period easier for a woman.

Psychologists believe that increased irritability is a signal to the expectant mother that she needs to learn how to relax. This valuable skill will come to the rescue not only during pregnancy or at the time of childbirth, but in general will have a positive effect on your life. The easiest way to relax is to turn on soothing music, lie down in a comfortable position, and focus on your breathing. Take a deep, calm breath and a slow, relaxed exhale. Imagine that with each exhalation comes relaxation and peace.

By the way, moderate physical activity is an excellent remedy for blues.

Even if before pregnancy a woman had an unflappable disposition, now she can easily panic from her doctor's abstract arguments about the complications of pregnancy or from an eccentric girlfriend's story about her childbirth. Scenes from some movies or TV news, a sharp remark from your boss or fellow traveler on the subway can bring you to tears. Do not be afraid to give vent to your emotions - cry, complain to someone, most importantly - do not drive gloomy thoughts and resentment into the depths of your soul. Such increased impressionability is just a reminder that it is time to change impressions.

Remember that your impressionability has another side - it is an opportunity to take a fresh look at the world. As if during pregnancy, a woman becomes a little child who looks at the world with interest and surprise. Take this opportunity to enjoy the beautiful aspects of life. Through your impressions, you convey information about the world around your baby. Your impressions tell him whether the world is good or evil, colorful or dull, cheerful or sad. So try to get out into nature more often, visit concert halls or museums.

So many changes take place in the soul of a pregnant woman that she can begin to feel very lonely in the whirlpool of new experiences that have come flooding in. All the people around her remained the same, only she alone is in the grip of "pregnant feelings." But at the same time, the experience of loneliness allows you to look deeper into your own soul, understand yourself, analyze your life experience, and possibly overestimate your life values. Use loneliness for self-knowledge, but do not close yourself too much, share your experiences with loved ones, consult a psychologist, talk to other pregnant women. Now there are many opportunities to communicate with "their own kind" - these are psychological preparation courses for childbirth, and special groups of pregnant women in a swimming pool or sports complex, and even specialized stores arrange lectures for pregnant women. And most importantly, start communicating with the child, because he is the closest person to you.

The period of pregnancy can give a new positive impetus to family relationships, or it can give rise to misunderstanding. But it is most important for a woman to receive support from a loved one. However, it is much more difficult for a man to get involved in the process of his wife's pregnancy and become a "pregnant" dad. He can hardly imagine that a little man is growing inside your stomach (by the way, he is not a stranger). A man will be more likely to be concerned about your new quirks than the peculiarities of the course of pregnancy. A rare representative of the stronger sex speaks with inspiration with the “tummy” or is touched by the pushes from its depths. But this does not mean that men are completely indifferent to the upcoming changes. They just experience "pregnancy" in their own way.

Take the trouble to gently educate your loved one about pregnancy. He needs simple, concrete information about what is happening at the moment. Ask him to go with you for an ultrasound. Some men, seeing with their own eyes their child inside the tummy, completely change their attitude to the wife's pregnancy, as if convinced of the real existence of the baby. Use the pronoun “we” more often, this will be another sign that you are no longer alone. Gently tell your husband about how the baby behaved throughout the day. If at first there is no expected reaction, do not be upset and do not blame your husband for misunderstanding. It's just that many men don't express their emotions openly.

If you have a joint desire for the husband to be present at the birth, then he simply needs to take the appropriate training courses. And not at all so that he does not faint at the most inopportune moment. And in order for your husband to become an active participant in events from an uncertain witness (which he, in fact, was at the dawn of your pregnancy). He will not only be able to gently hold your hand, but he will also be able to give a relaxing massage, remind you of proper breathing, and help you change positions. Such an active participation in childbirth helps a man to realize his paternity, and for a woman it is an indispensable support.

Sometimes a pregnant woman with fear begins to sort through all the risk factors that she has been exposed to since the beginning of pregnancy, and think about how they will affect the child. They use memories of drinking a glass of wine or taking an aspirin when pregnancy was not yet known, thoughts about the polluted air of their hometown or radiation from a computer monitor on your desktop. But you never know what else can affect the health of the baby. Dangers here and there. Do not exaggerate the degree of risk. Birth defects are very rare. Think that unnecessary anxiety is much more harmful to your child than the mistakes you made.

Do not indulge in guilt, better find a way that can compensate for your "misses" - whether it's active walks in the park, or a balanced diet, or listening to classical music. And try to imagine more often what a healthy, strong and beautiful baby your baby will be born. Such fantasies have a very beneficial effect on the development of the baby.

HOW TO AVOID STRESS DURING PREGNANCY

When a woman finds out about the onset of pregnancy, she is overcome by different feelings. If pregnancy is desirable, then a feeling of joy and happiness overwhelms her soul. For several days she simply flies on her wings, and she wants to tell the whole world about this happiness ... The feeling of a holiday does not leave you. Gradually, the emotional outburst subsides, and you begin to think about how to make your pregnancy and the development of your baby the happiest and most prosperous. Many pregnant mothers take a very responsible approach to carrying a baby: they are observed by doctors, follow the regimen and diet, and attend courses in preparation for childbirth. And everything seems to be fine, but real life, as a rule, often upsets a woman who is so vulnerable and impressionable at the time of pregnancy.

The annoyances of everyday life, even if they are just annoying little things, often upset you, sometimes causing a very violent reaction. You notice that before you almost did not pay attention to the same situations, and now you can even break into a scream or cry. Analyzing your behavior, you come to disappointing conclusions, and this only complicates the situation. You begin to worry about your state of mind. As a rule, the expectant mother begins to scold herself for being so unrestrained, and feels a great sense of guilt towards the baby for frightening him with her behavior.

A woman wants her baby not to experience any discomfort during pregnancy. It seems to her that this can greatly harm his development. And very often she asks the question: how can you avoid stress and negative emotions during pregnancy?

Specialists dealing with the problems of psychology and pregnancy consider this issue from a completely different angle: how to make sure that the baby does not suffer from mom's mood swings? The thing is that even the most diligent mother will not be able to avoid the “wrong” behavior.

The psyche of a pregnant woman is very different from her state before pregnancy. During pregnancy, a woman experiences unexpected mood swings, she begins to overcome various anxieties and fears associated with pregnancy. She can get very upset over a trifle or suddenly scream at her beloved husband. For her, this is also inexplicable and disturbing. And most importantly, after what happened, the expectant mother begins to suffer from guilt before the baby and before the members of her family. Naturally, it is very difficult to control yourself at this moment, and it is not necessary. This is the ancient mechanism of the state of pregnancy. But how to avoid unpleasant feelings of guilt and bad mood, you can learn.

Actually, this is the most important secret of dealing with stress: we do not exclude the reasons (this is impossible), but we try to get out of the situation with dignity, without causing much harm to the baby.

In fact, everything is simple: you should talk about your emotional state with your future dad at a time when the atmosphere in the family is safe and calm. The future dad needs to try to explain that you need care, guardianship, understanding, and sometimes you want to be pitied like a small child. After another “wrong” mood swing, the expectant mother gradually calms down and begins an internal (possibly voiced) dialogue with the baby. She pronounces the situation that happened, explaining that everything in life happens and nothing terrible happened. If it was a quarrel with dad, a promise is made to make peace as soon as possible: "Dad is smart and kind and will understand everything."

When a woman goes to this dialogue, she herself gradually calms down, she feels that the baby is also calming down. There comes a release from an unpleasant situation, a bad mood and feelings of guilt do not arise. And this is the very result we are striving for: you can not leave a feeling of guilt in yourself. After all, under the influence of your feelings, the foundation of the psyche of your child is laid. The more confident you feel, the more confident your baby will be.

Moms of the “maximalist” often ask why it is not necessary to completely protect the baby from stressful situations.

Firstly, as already mentioned, this is impossible or it costs a woman incredible efforts, during which she experiences great stress and discomfort. And this can affect the course of pregnancy much worse than a surge of emotions.

Second, it's not necessary. Assume the baby does not experience any negative or negative emotions during pregnancy. And so he is born and enters our world with his problems and anxieties. How hard it will be for him if he did not experience anything like this while growing up in his mother's tummy! This can have a bad effect on the nascent character of your son or daughter. Moderate stress in the mother's tummy prepares the baby for future difficulties. He learns to resist them before he is born.

Therefore, this is your advice: do not scold yourself for unexpected actions, for mood swings. Just explain your behavior to the baby, calm your loved ones, switch to something more pleasant and enjoy your pregnancy!

An effective way out of an unpleasant situation is as follows: you prepare a warm relaxing bath, add essential oil to the water (it should be safe for your baby), turn on your favorite tune, light candles. Having created such a pleasant environment for yourself, you plunge into the water, close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply and smoothly to the music.

Breathing should be deep, wavy, without pauses between inhalation and exhalation. The body is as relaxed as possible. After a few minutes, you will feel slightly dizzy. Do not stop breathing, allow yourself to figuratively dissolve in this dizziness - in a few minutes it will pass. Get the maximum pleasure from an unusual state.

Without opening your eyes, you "dive" to your baby (as if diving into your tummy) and begin to communicate with him. After explaining your behavior to him, calm him down and be sure to tell him how you love him and expect him and that everything will be fine with him. After that, you will not be tormented by guilt for the fact that you stressed your child with your stress, and a bad mood will leave you.

Increased anxiety of a woman during pregnancy indicates a lack of trust. First of all, to yourself. Find within yourself those qualities that allow you to think of yourself with love and respect as a strong, kind, wonderful person. Don't judge yourself for your worries. Many women, aware of the dangers of negative emotions during pregnancy, experience a strong sense of guilt towards the baby for being tormented by disturbing thoughts. Negative emotions are not harmful to the baby if you know how to throw them out and part with them. It is worse if you carry anxieties in yourself, trying to look calm on the outside. Learn to trust yourself and your feelings.

Love yourself in any manifestations, forgive for weaknesses, respect for giving life to a little man.

Remember that you contain the whole world for your child. The richer the palette of your feelings, the more information the baby receives for its development. Let there be storms and calms in this world, life is life. The main thing to remember is that there is simply no better world than you for your child. Respect the personality in your unborn baby. Learn to feel and understand each other even during pregnancy. Mentally address the baby, tell him about your thoughts and impressions, trust him. Fear will recede faster if you feel that a loved one is next to you. Communication with a child enriches a woman's life, gives her the opportunity to take a different look at the world, brings a huge number of new vivid emotional experiences. Open your soul to these changes, do not focus on fears, do not rob yourself and your baby during this amazing period of life.

The mood during early pregnancy can change like a sine wave, from strong to weak, from joyful to depressed, from confidence to fear about the future. Changes in the body and the conditions of your life play a big role in this.

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Changes in the body and their effect on mood

Internal physiological changes accompanying the onset of pregnancy play a primary and key role. The restructuring of the body and the emotional state during pregnancy in the early stages are inseparable from each other:

. Taste sensations change. As a result, the mood can also change. Some products (even previously loved ones) can be unbearable in taste, up to disgust. On the contrary, other foods will cause a passionate desire to eat them and as much as possible. You may also want to either not eat anything at all, or the feeling of hunger will haunt you all day long. In both cases, you should eat as recommended by your doctor - changes in mood and appetite in early pregnancy should not greatly affect the diet necessary for your health and the health of the baby.
Restructuring in the central nervous system. The brain (or rather, its small but very important structural part - the hypothalamus) qualitatively and quantitatively controls the regulation of hormones. And hormones - mood, and quite long. It is impossible to regulate the work of the hypothalamus on your own, so you need to adapt and be prepared for the fact that the mood can change very much: from irritability and even anger to tears of happiness. An event and details that previously did not affect you can cause a very strong emotional reaction, and something that previously worried, disturbed or pleased you may no longer affect you. By the way, this may also apply to the perception of sounds, you may want to listen to certain music more often, or maybe it will be comfortable mainly in silence.
Metamorphoses of smell. Closely associated with changes in the central nervous system. Previously beloved perfumes can at best cause rejection and misunderstanding of how they could previously be used and admired. The same goes for food and cooking.

Smell is the strongest stimulant of memories and mood. If there have been changes in the perception of smells, you should surround yourself with those smells that cause, if not admiration, but at least a neutral attitude. Buy new perfumes, change something in the kitchen. You can’t ignore it: mood swings due to smell can be a cause of stress.

pathology in the mood

Far from always emotional swings and changes in mood can be explained solely by physiological reasons.

Asthenia is a severe decline, weakness and general constant drowsiness. Those tasks and responsibilities that were previously easy to do, seem impossible. Possible pallor and circles under the eyes. It is better to overcome this condition with rest and sleep, regular meals, and a walk in the fresh air. The main thing is not to bother yourself with activities that require strong emotional or physical involvement, so as not to expend energy that should be spent on restoring a healthy state.
Stress during pregnancy in the early stages is a normal and frequent occurrence, since pregnancy, although natural, is a very strong load. And you should organize your day so that pregnancy remains the only strong load. The severity of stress in each person is individual and does not change much over the course of life. If you feel stressed, you should either sleep or switch to a pleasant activity, such as a hobby. This will distract you, and pleasant and desirable activities in themselves are not sources of stress.
Depression in early pregnancy is actually rare. More often, a depressive syndrome occurs after childbirth (the so-called postpartum depression).

Depression

A serious psychiatric diagnosis that is treated with medication: often requires the simultaneous intervention of both a psychiatrist and a psychologist.

What causes depression:

depressed mood after waking from sleep. Often the mood improves significantly with the onset of the late evening;
simultaneous feeling of irritability and weakness;
the feeling that the world has lost its colors, everything may seem gray;
reluctance and a feeling of physical impossibility to do something. Severely weakened will.
regular self-deprecating thoughts (“I am a bad woman and mother”, “I do not deserve life on earth”, “My whole life is terrible and meaningless”);
suicidal thoughts and plans;
self-harm attempts.

The above signs are also typical for asthenia and for the usual. These are sufficient reasons to consult a specialist.

Depression is a disease that needs to be treated. If most of the symptoms described above have been observed for more than two weeks (or the last three have only made themselves felt), you should immediately contact a psychotherapist. If a woman has harmed herself or attempted suicide, immediate psychiatric help is needed.

How to deal with depression

We recommend that you accept changes in your mood as normal. Self-acceptance is often the best medicine. A change in mood during pregnancy in the early stages is a normal and correct signal, indicating that the necessary restructuring of the body is taking place.

You should more often turn to what brings joy and satisfaction, which can distract from everything bad (for each woman, of course, this is individual): a walk in the fresh air, reading books, watching movies, going to the theater or museum, cooking, work ( working during pregnancy is not harmful, but it’s impossible to recycle, and if possible, if there is a choice between work and taking care of yourself and your health, you need to choose the second), hobbies and hobbies (moreover, new hobbies may appear during this period), (which , of course, cannot and should not replace everything). In some women, sexual desire fades in the early stages, and even for the entire period of pregnancy; and for some, on the contrary, libido only intensifies. If you are concerned about this issue, then talk to your doctor, almost always sex during pregnancy is harmless and rather beneficial.

Professional help

Sometimes there may be a need for the help of specialists: an observing doctor or a psychologist.

You are not alone in your experiences, mood swings during early pregnancy occur to one degree or another in every woman. Accept your changes as normal and natural. Do not self-diagnose - if you have doubts about your health or emotional state, do not hesitate to consult a doctor. Watch your diet and sleep patterns. Try to be in such conditions in which the mood, if it changes, is only for the better.

Before using any drugs, be sure to consult your doctor if there are any contraindications. You should not self-medicate!

Pregnancy This is a time of change, not only physical, but also emotional. During this period, women begin to feel completely different, find a new meaning in life, see the world in different colors. It's all because of the little life that grows in the tummy.

Many women cannot understand where during pregnancy for no reason they have is changing mood, Tears come to your eyes during the hundredth viewing of a movie that has not previously caused such emotions? Or why does rage seize sharply, and jealousy, which was not disturbing before, suddenly begins to manifest itself? One minute you feel happy, another you don’t want anything from life? And is such an incomprehensible state normal? In this article, we want to acquaint you with individual periods of mood swings.

1-2 month

Regardless of whether the first is the second or third pregnancy in a woman, at first she will feel almost the same. There are several explanations for this. First, the pregnant woman comes to an understanding of her current situation. From now on, her life will change dramatically: a small person will appear in the family, requiring attention, care and responsibility, there will be less time for herself and her career, and she will acquire a new profession, the best, but also the most difficult - mother. Also, thoughts immediately arise about how to communicate this good news to loved ones and how they will react to it. All these reflections occur against the backdrop of constant fluctuations in hormones caused by pregnancy, as a result - sudden bursts of rage, irritability, or vice versa, joy and euphoria.

3-4 month

At 3-4 months emotional state of the pregnant woman women are especially calm. This is due to the fact that she finally accepts her position and dissolves in euphoria from the knowledge that she will soon be able to hold her baby in her arms. During this period, a pregnant woman may become a little forgetful. Such a reaction is caused not only by the fact that she flies in the clouds with joy, the reason is also that during the bearing of a child, the number of cells in the brain of a woman decreases, but, fortunately, this is temporary, soon everything will return to normal. Sharp mood swings are possible, as well as irrationality in behavior, nothing strange, because the hormonal background is still in an unstable state.

5-6 month

Most often, during this period, women do not feel any special changes in their emotional state, perhaps because they have become more or less accustomed to everything that has happened to them over the past six months and have learned to suppress sudden outbursts of irritability in themselves. But we must not forget that pregnancy puts an additional burden on many vital organs. The load on the muscles increases, the need for blood, oxygen and nutrition increases; kidneys, heart and lungs work with additional load. In the period of 5-6 months, this begins to be especially felt, so all the same mood changes, although not so powerful, remain relevant.

7-8 month

The third trimester is a time of great excitement for women. No wonder, because during this period she is “the most pregnant” - with a large round tummy, sparkling eyes and full of love and maternal care in her heart. A woman constantly thinks about the child, worries that he feels good and is born healthy and strong. And, if in the early stages of pregnancy, it was possible to get a little distracted by thoughts from the crumbs, now he constantly reminds of himself, kicking his mother with his legs. In addition, a pregnant woman is worried about how she will endure childbirth, and how she will get in shape afterwards. All this, of course, affects her emotional state. In addition, the forgetfulness inherent in pregnant women continues, irrationality in behavior too. Often women have a desire to surround themselves with everything bright and shiny.

9 month

This is the most exciting and hectic month throughout pregnancy. After all, a woman understands that every day brings her closer to the most important meeting with her beloved baby. Pregnant women during this period are characterized by increased anxiety.

To stabilize the emotional state of a pregnant woman, attention and understanding from relatives and friends are necessary, as well as the acceptance that such a state is normal and, if you do not fall into depression and violent outbursts of emotions, then it will not bring any harm to the baby. Nature has thought of everything and instability in the mood of a pregnant woman is a positive experience for a child, so even in the womb, he begins to prepare for real life with all its problems and anxieties, without this, children would simply be born unprepared. Therefore, relax and enjoy your position, and nature will take care of everything itself.

Pregnancy radically changes the usual state of a woman: she has new taste preferences, pesters toxicosis, her stomach grows in the end! Comprehensive information about these metamorphoses today can be found in any specialized online magazine. Meanwhile, the psychological state of a woman during pregnancy is no less important than the physiological aspects. Our article will tell about the neuropsychic preparation for the upcoming motherhood.

A miracle happened: the pregnancy test “gave out” two strips! From that moment on, life changes to become even better and more beautiful. Only now, the expectant mother is not yet able to immediately comprehend the obvious - for this she will need a lot of time, namely 9 months.

The inner world of a woman in position is so complex and deep that her mood can change more than a dozen times a day: a minute ago she laughed merrily, and now her eyes are wet, and there is nothing strange in this. Sensitivity, susceptibility, impressionability - all kinds of reactions to the outside world during pregnancy are aggravated to the limit. All expectant mothers from the moment of conception and up to childbirth live according to the special rules of psychology.

Physiology divides the period of pregnancy into three fundamental stages, or trimesters. The same can be done from a spiritual point of view.

Features of the psychological state during pregnancy by trimester

First trimester

The first weeks of pregnancy are the most emotionally unstable period for a future mother. The female psyche does a tremendous job to adapt the pregnant woman to her new position. The state of a woman during pregnancy is unsteady and vulnerable, so she is often thrown into extremes: joy replaces regret and vice versa.

Moreover, the expectant mother is worried about a vague excitement. This is not yet a fear of childbirth and not a fear for the health of the baby, no. It is rather the anxiety of having to let go of the old life in order to open the doors for change.

The state of health during pregnancy in the first trimester also adds fuel to the fire: nausea, poor sleep at night and drowsiness during the day, severe hunger or a complete lack of appetite make the newly-made expectant mother feel overwhelmed and tired. How not to be sad? At this time, it seems to a woman that she is insolvent, dependent on external circumstances and other people. But she is unlikely to find the strength to resist this feeling: on the contrary, she wants to become the object of increased attention and care.

The psychological mood during pregnancy is so changeable that it is really difficult for the expectant mother to assemble herself into a single whole: she often wants to cry, she is almost sure that no one cares about her, she is more and more often visited by sentimentality, and what she wants most of all, she and she doesn't know.

The reason for such an emotional "kaleidoscope" lies in a thorough restructuring of the hormonal system of the body. It is the hormones that are to blame for the fact that the way of thinking of a pregnant woman at the first time of her new position acquires some features of the child's psyche. Psychologists believe that nature did not do this by chance: such a kind of correction of consciousness will help a woman find a common language with her child in the future. This period is necessary for the successful development of motherhood.

At the end of the first trimester of pregnancy, the condition of the future mother is still not stable: a carefree life will not give way to the inevitable growing up in one day. Such a duality of the situation is not always obvious to the pregnant woman herself, so she can be offended by loved ones for no reason, and also break down on them in moments of sudden outbursts of anger.

At this stage, fertile ground for the development of depression appears in the life of a pregnant woman: even the most harmless disagreements with her husband can emotionally break the expectant mother. At the same time, she needs the support of her family more than ever.

Second trimester

A woman who is in a state of pregnancy of the second trimester rests her soul and body. Energy flows in her body flow in their own way, and excellent health helps to tune in to the best. The expectant mother sleeps well again, has a healthy appetite and gives others her radiant smile.

At this stage, what she was waiting for with great excitement finally happens - the baby shows the first signs of life and pushes! The pregnant woman is no longer able to hide her joy, now she knows exactly how much she wants to become a mother. Self-confidence and rational thinking returns to her.

third trimester

At the final stage of the "interesting" position, sobering up occurs. In the first trimester, being pregnant was new for a woman, so she could not perceive the child as a reality. Now that the birth is just around the corner, the baby becomes the center of her universe. All desires and thoughts of the expectant mother are connected with him.

Smoothly approaching the most important event in her life, a woman pushes everything that does not concern her position to the background. Hobbies, work, even a beloved man - everything fades before the all-consuming desire to prepare your “nest” for the arrival of a son or daughter. If you answer the question, what is the state of pregnancy in the third trimester, then the word “immersion” characterizes it better than others. Immersion in yourself and your unborn child is a hallmark of late pregnancy.

The woman is again subject to painful mood swings: basically, she is most often seized by causeless irritability and anxiety. In fact, the subconscious of a pregnant woman already lives with anxiety about the upcoming birth and potential pain.

The state of the body during late pregnancy burdens the expectant mother, and she endures the last weeks of expecting a child with great difficulty: it is hard to lie down, it’s hard to walk, it’s hard ... In addition, the woman’s feelings are in great turmoil: she wants to see her baby as soon as possible, but at the same time, she is very worried about how the birth will go.

The last trimester of pregnancy is considered the most unique period in a woman's life - it is so unusual and amazing in terms of a complex of sensations.

What is the expectant mother afraid of?

In the first trimester, a pregnant woman is tormented by the fear of the unknown and change. A woman will need a lot of strength to get used to her new position, which will undoubtedly affect her studies, work, and life in general. The most correct step at the beginning of pregnancy is to accept yourself and the baby, which caused such emotional confusion. As soon as a woman can do this, she will feel an incredible relief and a desire to learn to coexist with the child she carries under her heart.

Moms who really wanted to get pregnant, from the first days of this wonderful state, often begin to worry about the health of their unborn baby. A long-awaited child will be born strong or weak, will he have any unforeseen deviations, will a strong painkiller tablet taken unknowingly affect his development, how to protect himself from the harmful radiation of a computer monitor .... What terrible pictures the expectant mother will not draw, sorting through various situations in her memory when, in her opinion, she stumbled.

In the second trimester of pregnancy, all expectant mothers, as a rule, become victims of social superstitions regarding pregnancy. For example, which woman has not heard that it is impossible to cut, sew and put patches in position, otherwise the child will have many moles? And every woman, most likely, will remember how she, a pregnant woman, was warned to raise her hands so that the child would not get tangled in the umbilical cord. Nothing good and useful, except for increased anxiety, such beliefs do not bring. The surest way to get rid of them is to perceive these collective "fairy tales" as nothing more than a given pregnancy, as one of its natural phenomena.

If unconditional trust in omens does not give the pregnant woman peace of mind, it is better for her to turn to a professional psychologist, regular conversations with whom will put everything in its place and bring the expectant mother to peace of mind.

In the last trimester of pregnancy, a woman, consciously or not, begins to think with caution about the upcoming test in the form of childbirth. The most interesting thing is that these fears are not groundless: childbirth is a powerful physical and psychological experience, so all women's fears are absolutely natural. For example, a pregnant woman may be afraid not so much of pain as of the development of certain complications during childbirth. There are frequent cases when the expectant mother is afraid to seem ... unattractive in the eyes of a loved one and medical staff at the time of childbirth.

However, most often a woman is afraid for her life and for the life of her child. Psychologists interpret these fears in their own way: a pregnant woman worries about her baby in advance, who, when born, inevitably goes through the stage of psychological death. He dies for the intrauterine world in order to be born in another, external world. Birth is the strongest experience in all human life, and in terms of strength it is comparable only to death.

At the same time, one cannot discount the subconscious delusion that a woman should give birth in pain. Even all the latest research and techniques in the field of obstetrics and gynecology taken together will not be able to drown out the human ancestral memory with which we come into this world. It remains only to hope for the mind and adequacy of the pregnant woman herself.

To ease the moral discomfort that complicates the last weeks before childbirth, you need to properly prepare for the process of giving birth to your baby: sign up for special courses and think through the scenario of your birth to the smallest detail - choose a maternity hospital, meet a doctor who will help in delivery.

The influence of the state of the expectant mother on the intrauterine development of the fetus and childbirth

All scientists agree that an increased degree of maternal anxiety and regular worries affect the health of the child in the most negative way. Also, emotional stress can cause complications during childbirth.

From the second third of pregnancy, the circulatory system of the growing organism begins to actively form and improve. Through the placenta and the umbilical cord, the fetus receives the lion's share of hormones whenever its mother succumbs to anxiety or depression. A negative perception of her condition by a future mother leads to the development of real functional disorders in the child's body. Prolonged irritation or anxiety of a woman makes the child upset no less, about which he immediately informs his mother with a series of indignant thrusts in the stomach.

An emotionally unstable pregnant woman has a high risk of miscarriage and premature birth, as well as serious violations of the course of childbirth, even if they began at the right time. Most often, on this basis, there are weak labor activity, intrauterine oxygen starvation of the child, pathologies of the blood supply to the placenta.

A woman's positive attitude towards pregnancy works wonders - proven by medicine. When a pregnant woman happily feels like a vessel filled with precious contents, all chronic diseases recede, physiological ailments are easier to tolerate, and there is no room for fears and doubts in the mind. Maternal faith in herself, her unconditional admiration for the miracle of the birth of a new life, charges the baby with positive energy, gives him a sense of security and confidence that somewhere out there, in another universe, he is loved and expected.