Father and son: How important is the role of the father in the upbringing of the boy. Proper upbringing of the son by the father, the specifics of their relationship. What do boys need from their father?

20.09.2019

Does a boy need a father? Nonsense!

They live with sadistic husbands, pathological jealous, cheaters. Well, having lost the father of their child, they immediately try to find a replacement for him, and readily enter into a relationship with the first who takes care of their son, regardless of how pleasant and comfortable it is for them to be close to this person. In fact, they do not choose a husband for themselves, but a father for their child.

They ruin their own lives. They believe that they will be able to raise their son as a man. In vain. In the end, their sacrifice is in vain. Because the absence of a man in the house does not at all prevent mothers from raising their sons as real men.

Of course, a full-fledged family is a favorable atmosphere for the development of a child. But the lesser of two evils is always chosen. And it’s a mistake to think: “The main thing is to have a father, and it doesn’t matter which one.”

If the relationship between the spouses does not add up, but they want to do everything in their power for the good of their child, the best option for him is to grow up in a calm environment where mutual hostility does not reign.

More recently, children brought up in an incomplete family received social trauma. The kids team is tough. He never misses an opportunity to put pressure on the sore spot of one of his members. Bullying from peers about the absence of a father caused psychological trauma to children. But today's children are no longer subject to this. At least those of them who live in big cities.

In the current phase of development, the norms and limits of decency have been expanded. If even some 30 years ago divorce was considered a shame, now it is in the order of things. Children brought up in incomplete families are no longer a rarity. Therefore, today they do not suffer psychologically in the absence of a father.

But the opinion "The boy needs a father" is firmly entrenched in our minds. We believe. We do not doubt for a second that in order to raise a boy as a man, there must certainly be someone in the house who will set an example for the child. In fact, the mother has all the opportunities and abilities to independently raise her son as a man. And in this article, we'll show you how to do it.

But since the very concept of “male quality” is too subjective, each person has his own understanding of this word, we will talk about how to instill specific qualities in a boy.

How to raise a son as a man? We instill a sense of responsibility

The ability to take responsibility, to feel responsible for one's own actions and for other people, the ability to see and understand the consequences of one's actions is an important feature of any man. And it can be easily instilled in a boy from the earliest years of his life.

The easiest thing is with skin boys. They have this quality innate. And in order to develop it, you just need to interact correctly with such a child - to develop his skin properties. The process of his upbringing should be based on restrictions and prohibitions. He should always clearly indicate the limits beyond which it is impossible to go. Discipline is an important part of raising a skin child. Schedule for the day. Task plan for the week. Strategic goals for the month and monitoring their implementation. All this will help your skin son develop his skin properties. And with the development of these properties, he will develop the ability to take responsibility for his actions.

Each vector has its own qualities and strengths, inherent properties of nature. But even if your son does not have a skin vector and no natural properties that would allow him to take responsibility, you can well raise him in such a way that he can, using his own properties, meet the requirements for a man.

In the case of a small urethral leader, one must always show how important and significant each of his actions is. What catastrophic consequences can lead even to a minor offense. Here it is not dangerous to exaggerate the significance of his actions somewhat:

If you do not do your homework in physics, you will get a bad mark on the test, and then in the exam you will not be able to answer a question on this topic, and you will have a bad certificate. You will never be accepted into the Institute of Space Research / Technology, and you will never fly into space, which means that you will not discover a new planet that threatens the Earth, it will pull our planet with the force of its gravity, and we will all die.

Each time you describe what catastrophic consequences this or that act of your little leader can lead to, you will very easily and quickly enough bring up in him the ability to feel responsible for his actions and their consequences.

The situation is no more complicated with the anal boy. In general, it is a boy with an anal vector that is easiest to bring up as a man and instill in him all the masculine qualities. The mental features of this vector make boys always unconsciously strive to prove themselves in a manly way. For them, the very words “you are a man” / “you are not acting like a man” / “this act is not worthy of a man” already have great power. The anal vector is very well trained, and a boy with such a vector can be brought up as a man, if you always clearly explain which of his actions are worthy of the title of “real man” and which are not.

In his case, even no artificial manipulations are required, it is enough just to educate him in accordance with his properties and value systems. Don't take offense. Do not allow him to develop a sense of injustice. In raising such a boy, it is important not to go too far with the pedaling of masculinity. You can read about the correct upbringing of boys with an anal vector in the article “Slow Child”

How to raise a son as a man? Instilling Courage

To begin with, let's define the very concepts of "cowardice" and "courage". What is courage? The ability, under any pressure of the landscape, to get out of the situation with the intention to do better for society, and not for oneself.

So, in a stressful situation, with a threat to health or life, a not very well adapted skinner will be the first to run away, hide in an effort to "preserve his own skin." And it's natural. But socially unacceptable. "Not like a man." What can be done so that, under any pressure of the landscape, the skinner can behave courageously? Increase his stress resistance. And this can be done in one way - to correctly develop the properties of its vectors.

A sound engineer can also be taken for a coward. Sound people love silence. She is vital to them. Loud sounds inflict the strongest blow on their mental. Therefore, they often simply hide from loud sounds. How to deal with this trait? Everything is the same - to help the little sound player develop his properties. This will make it more adaptable to loud sounds.

Even a urethral can be a coward. Although he is appointed by nature to be a daredevil, if he is not properly developed, he can become a pathological coward. But don't get scared. To make a coward out of the urethral, you have to try very hard. Namely, from early childhood, one must begin to suppress it. This works very well with frustrated anal fathers. Therefore, if at the next trick of your sadistic husband you habitually reassure yourself “the boy needs a father,” remember this.

If the urethral is not suppressed, respectfully accept its dominance and do not allow such phrases as “You are still small for this”, “You are not old enough to teach your elders” and the like, then there will be no question of courage.

The situation is more complicated with visual boys. It is more difficult in the sense that we do not know how to understand them. After all, the visual vector is sympathy, compassion, tears, high emotional amplitude. Such qualities in our minds are somehow not linked with the concept of "man". But with proper development, the visual vector does not interfere with raising a son as a man. The main thing to remember is that in no case should such boys be forbidden to cry. But at the same time, one must observe what kind of tears they are - tears of compassion for someone or tears of self-pity.

In the first case, there is no reason to panic, on the contrary, such tears indicate the correct development of the vector. In the second case, you need to work on the development of compassion. At a younger age, tales of compassion are effective.

Keep track of what cartoons your son watches. From the point of view of the development of the visual vector, such cartoons as the good old "Beauty and the Beast", "The Lion King" can be ideal. Be careful that your visual boy does not watch horror films, this is very traumatic for the visual vector.

If you develop the visual vector correctly, bring it to sympathy, then your visual boy will never pass for a coward. Of course, it is unlikely to make him a great daredevil, but he will become quite an adequate man.

How to raise a son as a man? We instill self-confidence

Perhaps no one will argue with the fact that self-confidence is an important male quality. The ability to take initiative in your own hands. Confidently go through life and lead your family. These are the qualities for which women appreciate men, and other men respect them.

Big problems with self-confidence can be in a boy with an anal vector. With the wrong development of the vector, such boys grow up as scumbags, unable to take even a step forward. Afraid to go out into a big life, meet women, start families.

In order to prevent your son from turning into such a “miracle”, it is necessary, as in the case of the skin vector when instilling a sense of responsibility, just let him develop his properties correctly. Do not allow unfair behavior in interaction with him, which can lead to deep resentment, which is precisely the reason for the development of self-doubt. It is also important to be sympathetic to such a trait of boys with an anal vector as slowness and a desire to bring everything to completion. You can’t rush him, you must always patiently wait until he laces up his shoes, tucks in his shirt, finishes telling his story, even if it’s a very boring one. It is very important to be patient with such a child and not get annoyed at his slowness. And do not think that he should somehow be artificially taught to be quicker. You can show faster ways to solve certain problems, but pulling, shouting, constantly repeating that you need to do everything faster, in no case! It is this attitude that makes anal boys those very insecure “under-men” who are not able to connect even two words in order to meet a girl or fight back a boor.

As you can see, in order to instill in a child the qualities inherent in a real man, the presence of the man himself in the house is not at all necessary. We mistakenly believe that a child needs an example, when in fact he just needs the right development.

If a boy suffers from constant pressure, he will be treated unfairly and inadequate prohibitions will be imposed on him, then let men from men loom in front of him from the first day of his life in crowds - this will not help him develop masculine qualities in himself. And vice versa. If a boy does not have a worthy example before his eyes, but he will be brought up according to his vector characteristics, he will grow up as an adapted and worthy member of society. A man who will be worthy of this title.

Ecological Parenthood: Our affection for mothers cannot be compared to anything else, they are with us from birth, they take care of us and feed us, but our fathers are something else. They bring adventure and danger into our lives, and they tell us that if you hit, it's okay.

10 lessons fathers should teach their sons

When I was four years old, I played with a boy who was six years old. He acted like he was my friend, but he occasionally pushed me. I told my dad about it and he gave me the advice I needed.. It was the advice that, from an early age, began to shape me into the person I am today.

He told me to resist.

He said that if they want to push or hit me, I should hit first and hit hard. It is possible that "hit first and hit hard" is not quite the exact words of his (I could read them in the book), but the meaning was just that.

However, children at this age don't delve too much into the nuances of meaning, so the next time I saw my abuser in the backyard of our house, who was actually a good child most of the time, I screamed: “Dad! Dad!". When I saw my father's head in the window and realized that he saw me, I hit the boy right in the jaw. He fell like a ton of bricks and never tried to intimidate me again.

The problem, of course, was that he wasn't a bully. He was a perfectly normal child. But my father's command was enough for me and I couldn't wait to get my revenge, so I hit him first.

Our mothers take care to feed us. They teach us kindness and affection, but kindness is of little use if you have to defend yourself. This is where our dads come into play. We need both men and women, and we need to appreciate both what they are and what they teach us..

Our affection for mothers cannot be compared to anything else., they are with us from birth, they take care of us and feed us, but our fathers are something else. They bring adventure and danger into our lives, and they tell us that if you hit, it's okay.

I think it would be worth considering the lessons that fathers should teach their sons. Some of these lessons are being forgotten in our politically correct and licentious world, in our emasculated society. However, where they are not forgotten, leaders grow up who can lead the nation in the right direction.

We need more leaders. We need more fighters and fewer cowards.

1. Hit first and hit hard

If a boy allows himself to be offended, then he will be offended even when he becomes an adult.. He must fight and become a fighter. Cowards are not born, they are made because they are allowed to be.. They are allowed to walk away from the fight by their parents, who tell their children that they should never fight back. They are allowed by those parents who nurse their children and tell them that violence never solves anything.

Sometimes, especially in childhood, reciprocal violence brings respect. But a child cannot fight back anyone who tries to offend him; in addition, in our modern society there is another problem. Previously, ridicule ended with the last call. Today, all social networks are full of insults, and they are almost impossible to avoid. You have to teach your son to hit first if he's facing a physical threat, but if that threat is emotional, if it's behind a computer, you have to teach him to be tough emotionally as well.

2. You are only hurt when you allow it.

Sacrifice does not take place without the permission of the victim. When the victim allows someone to make fun of him, mock his dreams, or torment him, the abuser is gratified. No matter how fat your child is, how clumsy or ugly he is, he needs to know that he is still strong and also part of something big, and not just an object of ridicule from classmates.

He needs to know your history, the history of your family, in order to understand what he is a part of.. He needs to understand how strong he is and how insignificant his troubles are..

3. Be a defender, not an attacker

If your child is physically strong, you may experience the opposite problem. He can be cruel. In this case, you you need to teach him to be a protector, not an aggressor. You need to raise him into an athlete who is able to sit alone in the corner of a cafe, not caring what other children say about him.

You must raise a leader who makes his own rules and doesn't do what others expect.

4. Laziness can give nothing

If your son believes that success, greatness, happiness, values in life are all that he is entitled to, he has lost. The talk of rights is getting more and more popular, it is a cancer in the body of society, which everyone demands to ensure personal prosperity.

It doesn't make any sense. If your son learns to enjoy the very process of labor, and not just the material benefits that it brings, then you will have a happy, successful and strong son.

5. There are difficulties in life

We like to tell fairy tales to our children, but initially these fairy tales were about strong people. Hansel and Gretel? In its original version, this was a rather violent story. Modern fairy tales have been remade to present the world as a good place where only good people live. The reality is that the world is not always good and different people live in it.

The world is a place of struggle, and one of the few things that is guaranteed to be there is hardship and sorrow. But God does not give us trials greater than we can bear. If you accept this as a fact, then nothing can stop you.

Life is hard. Not all people are good. You must earn everything you get, otherwise you will get nothing but cynicism and envy as your constant companions.

6. Be a man who cares about his woman

In another twisted attempt to create equality, we are increasingly trying to blur the difference between the sexes. In this situation, the roles of men and women become perhaps even more important. Wives are called our better half. Take care of your woman, protect her, help her, fight for her. Make sure your son sees you doing this or he will never be the one to take care of his woman.

This is something to be taught by actions, not words.. Words cannot describe what a man at home should look like. They can't convey the tenderness he shows or the toughness when it's required. Men and women are very different beings. Be yin to her yang, be a man to a woman, and let it serve not only her, but also your son.

We need more men who are men and at home. Do not neglect your duties as a father or husband, because your son is the loser.

7. Serve others

Leaders serve the people. O not the first to go into battle and the last to leave the battlefield. Serve others and let your son see it. Tell him to serve others and not himself; he will never become the person you want him to be unless you explain it to him yourself.

8. Never stop

The inaction of good people is just as bad as the actions of bad people.. We are becoming more and more of a soft-bodied society, your son should not become one of them. Raising a warrior and protector requires the development of courage in a man, not cowardice.

Never stop in your life and you can be sure that your son will become a man of action, not intentions.

9. Money is not everything, but a lot

As our society becomes more and more consumerist, your son must learn to be a provider and a keeper, an admirer of thrift. What people spend their money on today is completely useless, and they do it all in an attempt to impress people whose opinion they don't care about.

What you have is truly yours. Teach your son to see the value in work and the acquisition of knowledge, and not in trinkets, gadgets or other things.

However, money does matter. Earning allows you to take care of your family and not worry about many important things in your life. Poor people talk more about money than wealthy people because the way a wealthy person thinks tells them to talk about ideas, not about people or things. When you don't have to worry about money, the topic of conversation can only be how to get the most out of it.

10. Become a master at something

Practice and perfection. Teach your son the value of craftsmanship and multiple skills. It is not at all necessary that you will earn money thanks to your skills, but they are always beneficial. And the better you know how to do something, the higher your skill is valued.

Teach your son the value of hands-on activities from an early age. Practice everything. Practice the skill. Learn to love making good things. These things come from good practice, not talent.

Words versus actions

Most of these lessons require teaching by doing.. Our actions have a far greater impact on our sons than our words, which they often tend to ignore. So, make sure you practice each of the ten lessons on this list. They will do you good.

If you do something useful every day, your son will learn every day. published

Fathers have a special way of interacting with their sons

Every boy needs a father, a man who would help him decide in life- by example would show what it means to be a man. This is the greatest privilege that is given to a father, and the greatest gift that he can give to his son. There is always a special bond between father and son, and it is a great joy for a boy when his father approves of his actions. To test your strength on dad and learn life from his example is the best protection for a boy in the most severe trials of life, including physical abuse and all kinds of failures.

Support from the father, instructions, approval and love provide a boy's connection with the world of men. Numerous studies conducted over the past few decades convincingly confirm that the role of the father in the life of a boy is crucial. The same studies point to the sad fact that if there is no dad or he is, but you don’t approach him, then this causes great harm to the formation of the boy’s character.

Research also shows that no matter how involved fathers are in their sons' lives, their involvement is never great and that this involvement has a huge impact on a child's future. If the father took an active part in the upbringing of the boy, then the positive effect of this will affect over the years - on his ability to show empathy, enter into healthy social relationships, including intimate ones.

If we exclude cases of violence, insults or indifference on the part of the father, then he is always the main character for his boy.

Fathers have a special way of interacting with their sons belonging to the category "men's partnership". The father plays the role of a person through whom the boy establishes a relationship with the outside world, with all its horrors and dangers.

A father is not a mother in male form. He has his own, fatherly style of upbringing, he does everything differently.

The time allotted for playing with the son is precisely communication, which is especially necessary for every boy. The physical play, often violent, that dad takes part in and the desire to push the narrow boundaries of his childhood world are healthy and necessary parts of the boy's development process. While mothers try to calm their kids so that they do not play pranks, dads, on the contrary, often bother them, playing games with them in their own special way, teaching them their “male” science.

Violent physical play is not just a male whim, but a great school that can teach a boy a lot, including the ability to control his emotions, an understanding of how far one can go in a game, and the ability to assess whether he can do this or that type of activity. The boy is just learning to understand his dad and his own feelings. If the baby starts screaming when the adult "goes too far" in the game, or simply loses interest in her when she is beyond his strength, then the father should immediately realize that his son needs help so that he can cope with the situation.

The boy learns to read dad's facial expressions, as well as "his body language" and understand what behavior in this case is right for him. This helps the baby learn an important social skill - quickly understand the intentions of other people. He knows a whole range of emotions that will sometimes amaze him. The boy learns to understand when dad is joking, and when he lets him know that he has crossed an invisible border that cannot be crossed. Dad can organize the game in such a way that the boy does not experience confusion, or, conversely, bring it to such a level that he will no longer be able to do it.

When playing with his son, the father should talk to him, thereby helping him grow up and strengthen control over his emotions.

OTHER BENEFITS OF A DAD'S PRESENCE(by David Popnow)

The presence of a father helps children in the sense that they develop connections between the left and right hemispheres of the brain faster. This is especially necessary for boys, as it helps to develop their speech skills.
Boys who make good use of their time around their father are more likely to be good at math.
Boys who do not see their fathers are four times more likely to drop out of school and are much more likely to develop addictions to alcohol and drugs, and are more likely to commit crimes.
Cases of mental illness occur with boys much less often in those families where they constantly see their father.

WHAT BOYS NEED FROM A FATHER

Boys need a father who:

7 things boys need to be taught

Overcoming difficulties

From a very early age, the son must be left alone with obstacles. If you do not give him a chance to cope with the problem, to find its solution on his own, he will never learn this and will think that everything in life will be easily solved without his participation.

Let him dress himself, apply ingenuity and strength, train decisiveness.

Men's activities

You don't have to take your son to the dance if he wants to play football. His interests should include self-made campfires, fishing, sports, technology, cars, martial arts, swords and pistols. Naturally, according to the hobbies of each individual child. But the essence is the same - the occupation should be male. If a man is not around and there is no one to instill in him an interest in these activities, there is no one to teach him all the wisdom, today there are special circles for boys where they teach all this. In the end, not everything is lost with your personal life - if you really want to, you can meet a man who will become a real example of masculinity for your son. Brothers, teachers, coaches, uncles, grandfathers - mothers, look for any ways, but the child should communicate with a man almost more than with you.

Giving freedom

Don’t go there, don’t touch it, it’s bad to fight - every now and then the son hears from his mother. Such prohibitions are appropriate only in case of a threat to the life of the child. The rest is ok! Fighting is in the nature of boys. Otherwise, how will he learn to defend his future woman and defend his position if the offender does not understand the words?

Give your child the freedom to climb in and touch, take apart and assemble. Male nature in the thirst for research and pioneering. Let him figure it out. Do not limit this freedom. The son must acquire male experience, even if he has stuffed bumps.

Ability to make decisions

Give your child the opportunity to make their own choices. Don't decide for him. He himself must be responsible for his choice. Otherwise, he will be unable to make decisions in the future, will grow insecure and will be afraid to take responsibility for his actions. Again, a woman will decide for him.

Didn't do homework - got two. He didn’t wash his plate after himself - he eats from a dirty one. He didn’t take his pants to the laundry - he walks grimy. Teach your child to recognize the consequences of their behavior and solve problems.

Let him choose which book to read, which cartoon to watch. This does not mean that if he preferred computer games to reading, he should be allowed to play all day. Your task is to push him to the right choice only once, explain the benefits of reading books, instill the habit of developing intelligence, working, helping around the house, and having only an hour to have fun.

The more the son has the opportunity to make independent decisions, the faster he will learn this and the less he will be afraid of mistakes and defeats.

Leadership

A man should be a leader. Create competitive conditions for it. A sports club or competition with other boys in the yard is a great option. At the same time, you don’t need to go too far - the requirement to always be the first in everything can break it sooner or later, it all depends on the character. But one thing is for sure - you need to instill in him the desire to achieve his goals, applying maximum efforts to this.

Duties

The son should have responsibilities - at home, at school, etc. He must know how the washing machine turns on, from which side the refrigerator opens, how clean T-shirts get into the closet, where the garbage from the carpet goes. And do not think that these are women's duties. A real man should also know and be able to do all this. Including how to hammer a nail and fix a leaky faucet. From this begins the instillation of responsibility, diligence, independence, and also eliminates the fear of a problem and the desire to shift its solution to someone else.

Desire to help

The son must help. Mom, neighbor girl, grandmother, sister, dad ... A boy will never become a man if no one needs him. He must realize the importance of his help to people. Ask him to help take out the garbage, peel potatoes, fix an iron with dad or a sister with a broken toy. Do not think in advance that he will not cope. Let him try, try, experiment. He must feel your faith that he will succeed.

Tell your son more often that he is your helper, hero and protector. Reassure him that he is strong and brave. Do not be afraid to hand over the reins to him, even if he does not pronounce all the letters yet. Do not command him and do not suppress the masculinity in him. Only with such upbringing will he grow up to be a real man.

Based on the materials of the book by Olga Valyaeva "The purpose of being a mother."

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A father for a son is the main role model. Not everyone is fully aware of the importance of the father's role in raising a son. Any male baby is not born a man in the full sense of the word. A man's character, as well as actions worthy of a real man, can only be brought up by his own positive example.

Understanding your role in education

It is important that the father is fully aware of his role in the upbringing of the child, then his authority as the head of the family will be undeniable, and the child will respect the father and reach out to him. Having missed the upbringing of children in the first years of life, it is sometimes very difficult or even impossible to make up for the wasted time.

The male type of relationship is inherent exclusively to men, and therefore the father always becomes the son's first and main friend. Between them, as a rule, there are such relationships that many women simply do not understand, a kind of peculiar method of education. Boys take over from their father all his qualities, sometimes not even the best, but peculiar to him. Only the behavior of the father seems truly correct and fair to the baby, and his way of life is a theorem that does not need proof.

Child or work?

The father should pay maximum attention to his son, sometimes postponing the work "for later." The most common mistake is paying off with toys or sweets. Some men believe that in this way they compensate for the lack of attention. In fact, material values, which seem to be a paramount task for adults, are not so important for the crumbs. It is much more pleasant for him to play with his parents, especially his father, or go for a walk with the whole family. By replacing communication with shopping, parents are simply admitting their weakness and inability to fulfill their parental responsibilities.

Lack of aggression

The opposite of coaxing behavior is also common. . In this case, parents do not shower the baby with purchases, thus compensating for the lack of attention. They begin to demand unquestioning obedience from the child, establish incredibly Spartan rules, or read lengthy and extremely tedious lectures. Such behavior kills in the child the desire to communicate with elders, he begins to seek understanding on the side.

Basics of Behavior

Cheeky and wrong behavior in the family is the biggest mistake that a father can make. For example, a disrespectful attitude towards the mother of your child leads to the loss of her authority, the baby simply will not respect his mother. Attacks of aggression towards their parents (grandparents of the child), the baby also begins to understand as the only correct style of communication. Are you sure that in a few years you will not suffer the same fate? Relationships in the family, your behavior in society, unflattering comments about people - all this the child “copies” and does the same in adulthood. Therefore, succumbing to your momentary ambitions, you show the child a bad example. The baby begins to form an incorrect idea of \u200b\u200bwhat the head of the family should be.

Boys brought up on the example of disrespect for their family members and people around them are not only unable to become a support for their soulmate, but also do not perceive other stereotypes of behavior. The vital attitude has already been formed, and nothing can be done about it.

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The same can be said about bad habits. If you yourself smoke or occasionally drink alcohol, how will you explain to your child that this is harmful and dangerous to health? Will he understand you?

Behavioral foundations are laid in early childhood. Stereotypes and norms of social relations should be clear to the child, and to give their correct interpretation is one of the primary tasks of the father. You need to be able to direct your son, create the very “framework” on which materials from personal experience will be “superimposed” in the future.

Don't miss out on relationships with the opposite sex. Teach your son to treat women as an equal party, without superfluous superiority. And at the same time, the baby must understand that in some life situations he must be a reliable rear and a strong shoulder.

Child and society

Relations in society are an important part of life, but you also need to be able to manage household chores. To begin with, you can teach your child to simply clean up after himself, and then it will be possible to add other important things to his duties. For example, sweep the floor, take out the trash, help dad hang a picture ... But you never know what to do at home! A real man should be able to cope with the most difficult work.

After you have introduced your son to household chores, you can begin to master the financial component of life. The child must understand that money does not come from nowhere, but is earned by one's own labor. But in the process of adapting to the financial side of life, it is important not to overdo it and stop at the golden mean. The child should develop a respectful attitude towards the money earned, but without idolatry.

Good education is possible only with a positive personal example. Children "absorb" all our positive and negative qualities. Do not drag out the moment of upbringing until adolescence, start teaching your son from early childhood and respond to his mistakes immediately.

Imagine for a moment that your child will also become the head of the family in the future. Which young man would you like to see as your daughter's husband? Surely he should be disciplined, law-abiding, be able to cope with everyday life and be responsible for his words and deeds? By answering these questions, you can develop the right tactics of behavior.

Boys need a father who:

Will act as a coach.
Takes on obligations.
Firm, fair and friendly.
Able to laugh.
Constant in his feelings.
Able to subdue anger.
He believes in his sons.
Can share his "adult wisdom".
Able to show what to do and how to do it.
Will play with them.
Will teach family traditions and introduce the concept of spirituality.