Violence by the stepfather of the girls in the family. Stepfather perversely raped underage stepdaughters for several years and received a life sentence for this (details). Have you tried to complain to your mother about her husband's harassment?

I want to tell you my story. My mother divorced my father when I was 7 years old. When I was 11, she brought a new man into the house.

At first everything was fine, my stepfather and I got along great, but over time I began to notice some oddities in him. He constantly looked at me in a strange way, “accidentally” touched me everywhere, etc. At that time I was very naive and kind, so I did not pay attention to all this.

After a while, my stepfather got drunk and came home drunk, and I was alone in the apartment. And he just raped me, and after that, he said that if I even hinted at my mother, then I would have problems. I was terribly frightened then, and hid everything from my mother.

After the rape, I withdrew into myself, stopped wanting something. I felt like I had nothing more to live for. After this incident, I rarely appeared at home, I constantly walked. So six months passed, my stepfather did not touch me anymore.

All the worst happened on New Year's Eve. Mom went to congratulate her parents, and my stepfather and his friends (they came to us to celebrate the New Year) were left alone. Then my stepfather and his three friends raped me and intimidated me again. At that time, I kept a personal diary, and, of course, wrote down the events of New Year's Eve there. A week after the holiday, my mother found my diary, and instead of kicking this freak out, she yelled at me, did not believe me, and kicked me out of the house, but a few days later I returned.

For a year, this freak and his friends raped me, and I was afraid to tell my mother, I knew she would not believe. I have changed a lot in all this time. She stopped communicating with her friends, constantly ran around in tears, treated everyone like enemies, became very cruel, scored on her studies, and my mother did not even notice it!

And after a while, it turned out that my stepfather was seriously ill and he needed money for an expensive operation. After he found out about the disease, he quit his job and lay on the couch all day (although he could work).

Mom took out a loan, and after the operation, we could barely make ends meet. The stepfather was still lying on the sofa, whining that there was no work, and if there was, then they paid little for it. Everyone seemed to have forgotten about me. My mother constantly consoled my stepfather, saying that he would find a good job, she did not pay any attention to me.

I needed money for normal clothes, I wanted to eat delicious food (and there was little money, they saved terribly on everything) and I became a prostitute. I didn’t care then, because I was raped at home, so what’s the difference? And so I got some money.

There were a lot of clients because of my young age, and soon I started coming home in normal clothes, bringing a lot of food. I bought myself a variety of trinkets. My mother was not even interested in where I got the money from. But one day, after a long break, my stepfather decided to rape me again.

I don’t know why, but at that moment I was so furious that I took a knife and said that if he even tried, I would kill him. He did not touch me, and I packed my things and left the house. So, as then I was a prostitute, I had money, and I settled with my friend “at work”.

Six months later, I found out that my stepfather had been hit by a car and returned home, because I felt sorry for my mother, she must have been very worried. Then I abandoned prostitution, became, like all girls of my age, attended school. A few months later, my mother met a man and now he lives with us.

My new stepfather is good enough and kind, he doesn't bother me. Everything seems to be fine, but my heart sucks. I feel like I'll never be normal, because I voluntarily became a prostitute. For me, it's like a brand. I am afraid to look people in the eye and most of all I am afraid that my mother will know the truth. She can't take it. I don't understand how to live on, I'm confused. What should I do?

Trash regularly bullied a 7-year-old girl while her mother slept.

TERRIBLE MYSTERY
25-year-old welder Stanislav H. met Natalia K. in 2004. And when, two years later, Natalia's husband was once again behind bars on charges of theft, Stanislav and Natalia began an affair. Stas moved to Natasha and her daughter Masha in a private house on one of the streets of the Railway Station area.
Natalya drank, did not work. The family lived on the salary of Stas. Stani-Slav spoiled Masha, bought her presents, played with her and took her from school. Deprived of the attention of her parents, the baby even began to affectionately call him "Stasik" and "dad".
But caring and decent-looking "Stasik" turned out to be a monster. About the atrocities that he perpetrated on his stepdaughter, learned by accident.
In the spring of 2008, the district inspectorate for juvenile affairs received information that Masha was being brought up in terrible conditions: there was no heating in the house, the girl went to school dirty and unkempt. In addition, the girl lagged behind her peers in development, was unsociable and seemed to be intimidated.
PDN inspectors took the girl from the house. Soon the baby got to the child protection center. Here, a terrible secret was revealed, about which the girl was silent for two years.
- We noticed that Masha has health problems, - say the staff of the child protection center. - The girl was examined by doctors.
Doctors found injuries in Masha, which she could have received only as a result of sexual violence. Then the girl told about "Stasik".
... Natalia was forced to write a statement against Stanislav. Prosecutorial investigators took up the investigation.

A room in a private house near the Railway Station. Here on the sofa and in
in a "dark" room with no windows, a scoundrel raped a seven-year-old girl.

Defendant Stanislav Kh.
will soon appear in court.

"A DARK ROOM
The ghoul began to rape the girl in the fall of 2006, when she went to first grade. When Natalya went to bed, he came to Masha's room. This room - "dark", without windows - the girl will remember for the rest of her life.
“It will be our secret, just don’t tell your mother,” Stasik assured.
The little girl reluctantly agreed. She endured the pain, just not to scream and wake her mother:
During one of the rapes, Natalia entered her daughter's room. The bastard with his fly open was kneeling in front of the bed on which Masha was sitting. "Go away!" - snarled the ghoul. Natalya nevertheless drove Stas away, but soon reconciled with him, and the rapes continued.

TRAUMA FOR LIFE
Natalia was deprived of parental rights. She never came to visit her daughter, although her house is only a few blocks from the help center where Masha was:
- We charged Stani-slava H. with three articles of the Criminal Code, - says Alexander Shatverov, investigator for especially important cases of the Investigative Committee at the Prosecutor's Office, - rape, sexual acts, causing grievous bodily harm. The materials of the case have already been submitted to the court.
Masha had an operation, there is another one ahead. According to doctors, it will not be possible to fully restore her health:
There was another defendant in the case of abuse of Masha. Natalya's cousin sometimes drank with Stanislav. During one of the boozes, Stas boasted to his drinking buddy that he was having sex with a girl. Natalia's brother stayed overnight and abused Masha. But he did not live to see the trial: in February 2009, he hanged himself in the forest near the Khanino station near Suvorov. Detectives say he didn't want to be in jail for child rape...

After the court verdict, the second stage of the nightmare began: the teenager and her mother began to be persecuted by the stepfather's relatives and the society, which for some reason pities and supports the rapist. And again she was afraid and silent. She spoke quite recently, when only one year was left before the release of her stepfather, who was sentenced to 11 years, and news began to come to the girl from places not so distant, they say, they would not leave her alive.

If 10 years ago, then a 14-year-old girl and her mother fought to put her stepfather in prison, now - to return the status of innocent.

Telling everyone about what happened to her, Aliya decided after hearing the story leader of the anti-violence movement "Don't Be Silent" Dina Smailova, which published an open letter to the public on July 9, 2016. It was about how, many years ago, the gang rape committed over her backfired on the life of a long-grown woman.

I was surprised that Dina spoke about it so openly,” says Aliya. - But when others started talking about the same thing, I realized: they do it not because they live sweetly and smoothly after the rapist is punished. For example, I had anger and resentment at everyone, but I gave myself a mindset - not to cry, to keep everything in myself.

While brewing in its own juice, it was hard. And when Dina said that if I stop being afraid, then I myself can become the one who will help others, I believed her. I myself did not expect myself to speak at the international conference “One Year of Silence”. Now I don't even remember what I was talking about. Only a couple of words remained in my memory that I was not a victim, although after my stepfather was sentenced to 11 years, I really survived for another 10 years. It was not only persecution by the stepfather's relatives. He himself came to me in my dreams, as if in reality I heard his voice.

His family is sure that I made it all up. Trying to catch me in a lie, they persecute me and my mother. I was already on my knees asking them to leave my life, but they stubbornly follow on their heels. My stepfather's sister said that when he got out of prison, I would be "killed". Did I get scared? While he is sitting, it seems to me that I can stand up for myself and for my mother and sisters.

When I went to a psychologist and once again experienced what he had done to me, I said: if after his release something happens not even to me, but to my relatives, I will do everything to protect them. True, I’m not at all sure that at the sight of my stepfather, that frightened child will not wake up in me again, who was ready to run anywhere and even die completely (this was in my life, my girlfriend and her mother saved), just not to stay under the same roof with him. On the other hand, the desire to look into the eyes of this person and understand whether he admitted his guilt is stronger than fear.

Mothers, love your children more than your husbands.

- Have the resentments against your mother for her husband already passed today?

For now, I can't say.

- What would you advise to those women who, having children, are going to get married again, from the height of their 24 years?

I don't blame them. But I myself want to get married once and only for a loved one. While I'm not in a hurry to seriously look at someone. I know that my childhood and teenage traumas can affect the person who can become my husband.

I still have aggression, anger and resentment in my soul, however, if others drown it out with alcohol, drugs and pills, then I am a sport. I am sociable, the soul of the company, but my motto is: do not complain! I came to “Don't be silent.kz” only to get support.

I want to tell mothers to love their children. For any complaint - burned, fell, scratched - pay attention. And if the child suddenly for some reason does not want to go to the store with your husband, hear him.

When a woman loves a man, it often happens that she does not see or hear what is happening around. And if, moreover, she had psychological trauma in the past (parents beat her, for example), she is ready to be committed over her child: if only the nightmares she experienced would not be repeated. I'm not talking about my mother, but in general about those women who marry with children from previous marriages.

- Have you tried to complain to your mother about the harassment of her husband?

Maybe I would have tried, but my stepfather threatened that if I told my mother about this, he would leave her, and she would kill me for it.

- And you believed?

Well, how not to believe if I was then only 8 years old? I was afraid of him. When he hit my mother for the first time in front of me, I stood between them, and he hit me so hard that he broke his nose. How could I then tell her what he was doing to me? I worried about her and my sisters. Once he came drunk and brushed off the sofa, like a thing, his daughter - my little sister. She would have fallen to the floor if I hadn't caught her. Although my three sisters have different fathers, they are all dear and beloved to me. I also consider my half-brother, who lives in Russia, to be my own.

- How do you imagine your future today?

Work through all your fears and become a healthy, balanced personality. I can’t say that tomorrow I will get married, give birth to a bunch of children, I will definitely become happy and leave for another country. I am responsible to the younger sisters and to the project “Don't be silent. Children.kz”. I set myself such a bar - to work and work on myself and help teenagers - both boys and girls.

Find the strength to face the truth

Comment of the leader of the anti-violence movement “Don't be silent”:

It is very difficult for society to understand the situation in which this family finds itself. When Aina Buzik, the mother of Aliya Yestenova, posted her story on the Web, women rushed to condemn her: what kind of mother is she who has not seen that her daughter has been raped by her husband for years?! And I, until I met her in person and did not understand what it was like to be a constant victim (in the parental home, Aina herself was not loved and poked, at the age of 16 she was raped, her husbands beat), I also thought so. From the lips of Aliya came the phrase: my mother did not want to be beaten and raped, so she turned a blind eye to everything. That is, the hopelessness was complete.

Incest is the most hushed up topic, and yet 70 percent of the 200 letters that I received after I spoke about the gang rape that I myself suffered were about this. Uncles, grandfathers, dads, stepfathers... But the children have nowhere to run.

We had a case when a five-year-old girl raped by her stepfather was accused by her mother of “wagging her ass”. And the Kazakhs still have such a wild tradition - to give the eldest child to the elderly. Parents do not think at all that tomorrow they will still have to pick it up and the child will end up in a family that is not for him. As it happened in the case of Aina Buzik, the mother of Aliya Yestenova, who was already a schoolgirl who ended up with her real parents.

There was a case when a grandfather raped his granddaughter from the age of three. When the girl was already 7, she threatened that she would tell her parents everything. The lustful old man fell behind, but when the girl was already 15, she was gang-raped. Then everything became clear.

Our people are irresponsible, they are used to scolding the state, laws and continue to live by double standards. They see and hear, for example, that a neighbor brutally beats his wife, but they shake his hand and thereby approve of violence.

Now I understand: no matter how much we build crisis centers, no matter how much we create state programs, there will be violence until society changes its attitude towards it.

Builders from the Kazakh town of Shemonaikha saw that the boss was harassing an orphan, 19-year-old house painter Lena Ivanova. They hid her together, but not a single man went to beat the boss in the face.. These people still treat Lena well, but I'm sure they won't go to court to defend her.

As for the relatives of Aliya Estenova's stepfather, who are persecuting her, they are protecting not the rapist, but their own name. Aina Buzik, who was wandering with three small children and a 14-year-old injured teenager in rented apartments, was offered to buy an apartment in Russia as compensation. But the woman, having decided to fight for her child to the end and knowing at the same time that there were few chances, refused.

The horror of this situation is that the whole family - the mother and her four children - after the verdict of the trial of the rapist was driven into a corner.

When a person has an accident, everyone runs to support him in the hospital, but here, when the soul and body are broken, there is no sympathy. For some reason, an adult man is associated with some kind of dirt, shame. Not enough persecution of the relatives of the ex-husband, so also the parents of classmates, directors of all schools in Astana took up arms against the girl. It was already a trauma. Frightened society shied away from her. Aina had to leave Astana for Almaty, but her former relatives were found here as well. And again they offer money so that the rapist can get out on parole. Knowing how hard it is for Aina (some days she and her children go to bed hungry), tried to breed her for 50 thousand tenge. The woman was already ready to sign everything that was going to slip her. The notary stopped me: “You fought courageously for 10 years. And now, for 50 thousand tenge, are you ready to give up all your claims?”. And Aina is just tired, she has no job, no money, no home. After that, the younger sister of the former called her: “Did you ask for money? Shame on you, my parents have tuberculosis. They want to see their son before they die.” Worrying about her mother and father, this woman did not even hint at the girl, whose fate her convicted brother walked with a tank.

This man kept the girl away for seven years, and there is no guarantee that he will leave her alone. There are many cases when a rapist, going free, is looking for a new victim.

After all, we don’t have such that in all public places, starting from the entrances, a sign was hung out: “A rapist lives here, beware of him!”.

After all, what? They are sophisticated psychologists who know how to make a child so addicted that for years he will feel guilty both for what happened to him and for the fact that this person was finally imprisoned.

And don't be under any illusions. Pedophilia is a way of life. Since 2018, released pedophiles are going to undergo chemical castration: at a certain time of the day, they are required to take pills that reduce potency and sexual fantasies in the presence of witnesses. But such castration, in my opinion, carries an even greater danger. After all, there are antidrugs, after taking which, the castrated pedophile will again look for a defenseless person. In addition, this procedure will not be applied to each of them. Most likely, she will not touch Aliya's stepfather, because the old law is applied to him.

Therefore, Aliya worries, but not for herself, but for others. After all, the same nieces of her stepfather do not understand that for him they are not relatives, but simply a body to satisfy sophisticated sexual fantasies.

Good afternoon!
I want to tell my sad story and ask for advice!
I was 10 years old when my stepfather began to pester me. Mom went somewhere on business for a week and my brother and I stayed with my stepfather under supervision for 8 years. My brother and I slept in a separate room, he was on the top floor of a bunk bed, I was on the bottom. I was already asleep but I heard my stepfather come into the room and sat down next to me. I want to say that I almost felt him, he smelled of fumes. He put his hands under my blanket and touched different places. I was afraid to move, pretended to be asleep. He took me in his arms and carried me to his room. I was very frightened and afraid to move. He looked at me in the light of the TV and touched me. I didn’t know what to do and just kind of slept. (Now I think that he masturbated then.) After that, he took me back. Then in the morning conversations began. He caught me when I was alone and persuaded you. He said it will come in handy ... or I will teach you everything .. better me than someone .. or I will buy you this and that ... I want to say that we then lived very sometimes hungry went to bed or ate liquid soup once a day, so my brother and I were always very hungry. After such conversations with my stepfather, I became curious (what he offers me) and he promised good food, but I was also scared I said I don't want anything. Then, after a couple of days, he pulled me out of bed again, turned on "adult" films and began to show me at the same time touching me everywhere - I thought the sooner everything would end the better and endured. He made me touch him, excite him, tried to excite me ... .Mom said not to say anything, they say he wouldn’t believe it, and he beat her and I was afraid that he would beat her again. In general, he began not to let me go for a walk, left me alone, gave me food, sweets and, like, taught how to deliver to a man pleasure. He himself did not try to have sexual intercourse with me, but rubbed his genitals everywhere. At the age of 12, he tried to shove "there" but I got scared and cried, he tried to persuade me that they say it doesn't hurt, it's nice or .. let's try in the ass, even smeared it, but I got scared. And he seemed to fall behind. So he played with me and my mother didn’t know. I didn’t tell her anything, I don’t know why ... When my menses went and I already understood that such things were not normal. I had a feeling of guilt, isolation and a lot of complexes. I began to avoid him, I hated, my mother didn’t understand why my relationship with my stepfather had deteriorated, I wanted to confess to her, but I understood that since sexual intercourse was not provable. So he touched me until I was 15, then I said categorically no. And after a couple of months he fell behind ... Although he always scoffed that you now know everything, they say you probably have a lot of guys and so on. I just hated him and now I hate it! I was lucky and I began to live with my father and gradually forced this nightmare out of heads. I don’t communicate with him and don’t see him. If I come to visit my mother, I ask that he not be at home. He drinks a lot and doesn't work. Now I'm 27 and I coped with my problem, but my mother's daughter is growing up from my stepfather. She is now 11 - I love her very much and I am very afraid for her - suddenly he sticks to her. I never confessed to my mother - I want to bury it in myself. My sister is very sensitive, I indirectly ask my mother a lot - she spends a lot with him alone time - he buys delicious food for her and there are many more small moments .. sometimes it seems to me that I invent them .. but suddenly it’s the same with her? I don’t know what to do, talk to my mother? Or with my sister? to his own daughter - now he is about 48, he drinks a lot and is sick, maybe he no longer has an attraction and I worry in vain? - to expel him says it's a pity

The woman guessed, but did not intervene

This criminal case at one time escaped publicity. Even now, a year after the verdict was passed, many who took part in the investigation of this wild crime are reluctant to talk about it.

It's no joke, for several years (!!!) my stepfather, with the tacit consent of his common-law wife, raped her three young children.

“Have you thought about the children,” one of the investigators in this case asks. “What will happen if those around them find out about what they have been exposed to over the years?”

“In 2006, 28-year-old Sergei met 27-year-old Natasha, the mother of three young children,” says an investigator from one of the investigation departments of the ICR in the Nizhny Novgorod region. - 3-year-old Sveta, 5-year-old Maxim and 7-year-old Marina.

They began to live in Sergei's house with his old mother in one of the settlements of the Tonshaevsky district.

Both did not work anywhere, abused alcohol, and lived on child benefits that the state paid to Natasha.

A year later, on one of the summer days, Sergei waited until Natasha, along with her eldest daughter and his mother, left home for a short time.

The man closed Sveta in the kitchen, and he invited 6-year-old Maxim into the room, ostensibly for a conversation.

Here, threatening the child, he forced him to take off his pants and raped him.

“I was very hurt,” the boy will tell later, “I cried. But we were all very afraid of him. He often beat us and even my mother.

“According to our data, the first rape of a child took place in the summer of 2007,” the investigator continues. After that, the pedophile did not wait for his common-law wife to leave the house. After waiting for her and his mother to fall asleep, he invited the child to his bed.

This continued for 2-3 times a week.

The boy was very scared. He understood that they were doing wrong to him, but he was very afraid of his stepfather. Especially when he was drunk.

A year later, Natasha became pregnant, and the "family" moved from Tonshaev to another district, to a house owned by Natasha.

Realizing that his actions with his stepson went unnoticed by his mother and wife, Sergei began to invite to his bed the matured 10-year-old Marina, and then the 6-year-old Sveta.

“Marina often cried,” Sveta said, “she said she didn’t want to sleep with him. Then, when he began to call me to his bed, he understood why Marina was crying.

He often beat us, we even hid from him behind the stove and often ran away from home. He fought with his hands and feet.

- When he slept with his mother in bed, - says Marina, - he often invited me to them. Mom was against it, but we were all very afraid of him. He told me to hug him, kiss me.

Very often, with my mother, he hugged me, said that I was his future wife, and that when I grow up, we will get married.

“Natasha was carrying a child,” the investigator continues, “then she gave birth. Sergey spent less and less time at night with his wife, and preferred her children.

Since 2008, intimate relations with his wife have completely ceased.

Moreover, he often invited all three to his bed, where he committed sexual violence against them in turn.

The mother didn't seem to notice.

“Then we learned,” the investigator says, “that when this family ran out of money, the pedophile sent the children to beg at the bus station. Everything that they brought, he took away, and they drank all the money with Natasha.

Then Natasha got a job as a cleaner at one of the enterprises, and the children were left alone with the pedophile.

“They were very closed,” recalls the teacher of the school where the children studied. They were reluctant to talk about themselves, about their family. Often came to school without enough sleep, and fell asleep during the lessons. They were constantly hungry.

The school bus took them to and from school, but often after school the children ran away or hid in school because they didn't want to go home.

There was no explanation for their behavior. Only then did Sveta somehow manage to talk.

She said they were often late for school because he (their mother's roommate) wouldn't let them go to school, "wouldn't let them sleep and sleep with them." This happened around March 2010.

“At about the same time, Maxim complained to his mother that his butt hurt,” the investigator continues. - He said that his stepfather had been raping them for several years. The grown-up children by that time understood that their mother's husband was doing them wrong, but they were very afraid of him.

Natasha treated her son's anus with potassium permanganate and brilliant green. I talked to Sergei, but he denied everything.

- At the beginning of June 2010, - says Natasha's friend, Vasilina, - as usual, drunk, she came to work with me. She began to say that her roommate Sergei pestered her children and had sex with them.

I didn't believe it. But Natasha said that she herself saw damage to Maxim's anus. She said that this is why she often takes the boy to her work.

Then I told my friend about it, our children studied together.

“At the end of June 2010,” the teacher continues, “I got a call from the parent of one of the students who was in the same class as Sveta.

She told about what was going on in this family, and we immediately went to the police."

The investigation lasted almost a year. During this time, Natasha was deprived of maternal rights.

The pedophile fully admitted his guilt. By a court verdict for sexual violence against young children and beatings, Sergei was sentenced to 20 years in a strict regime colony.

- He did not agree with this decision and appealed against it in the manner prescribed by law, - says one of the employees of the prosecutor's office of the Nizhny Novgorod region.

“I was punished too severely,” he writes in the appeal, “I have an elderly mother, she has a sick heart, and she is visually impaired. I also have a small child. And although his mother has been deprived of parental rights, she is now restoring them. My son will need my help and care."

In 2011, the regional court dismissed his complaint and upheld his sentence.

Mikhail SLAVIN "Prospect" 2012