How to be happily married. She prepares your favorite meals. Spending time together brings you closer together, helps to get to know each other

One day my client came for a consultation and said that she wants to be happily married. She, her children and parents live in a big house, and she, like a loving daughter and mother, makes sure that everything is abundant and everyone is happy.

She works a lot, constantly finds new ways to earn more money, does not know what a vacation is, and spends rare weekends cleaning the house or working in the garden, she is very tired, but there is always not enough money.

All thoughts about how and where else to make money, these thoughts keep her in constant tension and do not give the opportunity to relax and rest.

She used to think that, having solved one financial problem, she would have time to rest, but now she has ceased to hope for it. Every day brings new problems, and there are more and more of them.

And no matter how she tried to please her loved ones, they constantly make claims to her and express dissatisfaction, the meaning of which boils down to one thing: "Just a little, give me more." As if the whole family had banded together against her.

And now one part of her with her last strength is trying to find a way to make a lot of money and solve all the problems, and the second has already given up and wants only one thing, to find a quiet place and hide from the whole world, problems, family. ?

It turned out that in an effort to make her loved ones happy, she completely forgot about herself.

I forgot about my desires, needs, forgot how to dream. She does not have time, effort, money for herself at all.

When you allow yourself to meet your girlfriends, guilt does not allow you to spend this time with pleasure. She feels unhappy, unloved and unnecessary.

And how you want to feel happy and loved! Wake up in the morning refreshed and vigorous, have breakfast and get dressed without haste, gently hug and kiss children and parents, hear wishes for a good day and good parting words, and leave the house in an uplifted, joyful mood.

Do business that brings pleasure and satisfaction, feeling the importance of your work. And in the evening to return home with the desire to be with my family. Feel the care, attention and gratitude from loved ones. Be sure your family is always on your side.

How can you turn from an unhappy, tired person into a happy, joyful and generous person?

The most important thing is to want it and realize that we can only give what we have. And if we have not learned to make ourselves happy, then we are unlikely to succeed in this with others. If we don't know how to take care of ourselves, then we don't really do it for others.

Start your journey to greater happiness with simple steps:

1. Find what you can do to make yourself happier, and be sure to do it.
2. Take time just for yourself.
3. Replace "this is not for me" with "how can I do it!"
4. Pamper yourself.
5. Ask for help from relatives and friends.

When you feel the desire and willingness to go further along this path, come to the training "Love and acceptance of yourself." Treat yourself to a world filled with love!

The author of the article: Svetlana Pochekutova

(Consultant psychologist, trainer GRC-Centers of Relations)

Greetings to the readers of the blog Family and Children! Surely you will agree, although marriage is the oldest institution of mankind, today an increasing number of people remain unhappy in it. Against the background of the decline of marriage relations, many are interested in how to be happy in marriage? Could he be happy, perfect for me? What tips or secrets to apply to create such a marriage? Probably, you are also worried about similar questions? Then you have come to the right place, because believe me, we have something to tell you.

Of course, there have been sad, terrible times of our marriage and there will be more, but I am sure we will overcome them successfully. Because we use reliable proven methods that help to make the marriage union strong and reliable. What helped, helps us? Read below and very carefully!

We always talk about the problem, resentment, hurt feelings.
Agree, it is better to discuss problems than to remain silent, pretending that nothing happened. Therefore, when problems arise, we try to understand what led to the misunderstanding, resentment, in order to avoid hurting each other's feelings in the future. We understand that at times each of us can be intemperate, so it is important to talk about the problem, and not rely on telepathy. Such a struggle for happiness in marriage is practical, useful and correct!

Saying good night as an act of reconciliation.
We never go to bed without the mutual wish of "good night" saying: "I love you." We made it a rule for ourselves: first to reconcile, resolve the insult, stop being mutually angry, then just go to bed.

Praise, apology is an essential relationship tool. .
Mutually praise, hug, apologize and thank you is the key to a happy marriage. In our marriage, we adhere to the principle: even when angry, beware of yelling or swearing at your marriage partner. Compliance with this principle is good for our health, keeps our stress levels normal.

We practice showing gratitude every day.
For example, we thank each other for what we have, remembering that the simple word “thank you” inspires. Is it hard to say thank you to each other? No! And how much this word can do. In a way, this is the grounding of our marriage, so that it is not killed by the current of selfishness and ingratitude.

A happy, successful marriage involves giving a lot and taking a little.
We like to give each other more time, attention and energy! It helps, gives strength to consciously work on oneself, on one's ego, so that the marriage partner is good, comfortable in the marriage union (the key words here are “convenient, good”).

We enjoy each other's company.
Another secret that helps to be happy in any marriage is to be able to put your gadgets aside while enjoying each other's company. For example, hugging each other to watch a movie or chat. Take time to learn listen and hear what the marriage partner says.

Sometimes you can just fool around, for example, having a pillow fight. The ability to defuse a dangerous atmosphere by fooling around is a great opportunity to maintain a good relationship in a marriage. Believe me, enjoying the company with your life partner is cool!

We have a great life developing a realistic view of each other.
My wife and I strive to develop it in the things that we do without expecting perfection from imperfect people. We are sure the earth will continue to rotate on its axis, if they managed to do only half the battle. If my wife didn’t have time to clean, the food for dinner is burnt, or I am delaying the renovation, this is not fatal.

We realized that the family will be happy when we learn to bring out the best qualities of each other. Therefore, we focus our attention not on mutual shortcomings, but on strengths that are not ideal, but are always ideal for us. (Read it by the way).

We are not trying to forcefully change each other.
We help one another to change for the better. What used to annoy us mutually now causes a smile, even bewilderment, “how could you get annoyed with such trifles”? Because we know that there are more important things in life - mutual understanding, love, personal preferences, respect. Now our relations have acquired a new level - higher quality, deeper.

We work together.
My wife and I have learned one truth - working together brings us closer. When we work together, learning to see the quality and result of the work done, our love and marriage are not covered with a layer of dust.

A happy marriage takes an effort to become friends.
We build our relationships with trust, perseverance and hard work. Therefore, my wife and I are working together to improve the quality of our relationship. We are constantly learning to value each other's company. We always say that we would not like to attend funeral speech of a deceased marriage... When friends will say how they appreciated our family, but it's a pity that it broke up.

Marriage will not be able to hear eulogies from the grave (divorce). He will gradually die if he loses mutual trust, ceasing to stubbornly "plow" over his strengthening.

We appreciate and respect each other's work and interests.
Our taste in music, food and many other areas is different. Nevertheless, we enjoy the diversity, celebrating our achievements and talents. In the future, we were able to find a lot in common in interests, outlook on life. It helped us use our differences for unity and happiness.

We develop a correct outlook on life.
Life is full of pitfalls, bumps, hidden holes. Taking this fact, we continue to move on. We understand, no matter how hard you try, there will be “falls”, but you will succeed in making your marriage happy when you learn to rise after the falls.

Learned to appreciate the little things.
A freshly cleaned bathroom floor, a new bedspread, a favorite cake - it seems like a small thing, but a lasting relationship is built with the little things. Therefore, we learn to notice, appreciate such little things, not taking them for granted. Life is a crazy cycle that makes it difficult to pay attention to the little things, but it's worth learning. Then believe me, some deeds done by a husband / wife become not just a duty, but a manifestation of attention, care for each other.

We refrain from mutual accusations, we do not keep track of offenses.
Why count who first offended whom and how many times? It's lousy lichen for a marriage to do that. It doesn't matter who the initiator was. It is important to learn how to stop in a timely manner. Our motto is "WE", not "YOU".

We develop the right attitude towards relatives.
Some time after getting married, we realized that marriage is a union between two people, not two families. We love our families: relatives, parents, brothers, sisters, but we will not allow them to influence our relations in the family. We like to spend time in the family circle with relatives, but only when we have time and desire.

This helped us avoid common family conflicts about relatives. We have set ourselves " taboo" to blame and compare each other with their relatives. For example: “you are like your mother; you look like your daddy. "

Our sense of humor.
This is an important detail, so I saved it for the final. Regardless of the difficulties that fall on our marriage, we are not discouraged. We translate many problems into jokes. Even if one of us has "burst out" - this is a reason for mutual jokes, good-natured teasing. Both my wife and I know this is a joke! Therefore, life in our marriage does not seem boring and sad to us.

Is there a formula for a perfect marriage

Are you looking for the perfect marriage formula? I think that in reality such a formula does not exist. But there are tips on what a couple can do to make their marriage perfect for them.

Defining the ideal marriage

A marriage that has all the necessary qualities for a couple to meet each other's needs as well as possible is considered ideal. And any marriage union can become such.

Needless to say, it takes a lot more than choosing the right spouse, age, education, or well-being. You need not only love, but also similar goals, life values, the ability to communicate, resolve conflicts, be an honest, sensitive and loyal person. It takes desire, hard work, effort and tremendous patience. Only then is it possible to create the perfect marriage.

Conclusion

Many books, online pages and many films have been written about happy, ideal marriages. People with affection are ready to watch, read, dream of such a relationship, while continuing to remain unhappy in marriage. But there is another option - not to become obsessed with finding a formula for how to be happy in marriage, but to focus on what you can do to become happy. Knowing what to work on, having a good example in front of you, making a focused effort to achieve a happy relationship, any marriage can be happy.

Best regards, Andronic Oleg, Anna!

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All love movies end with a perfect picture of how "they lived happily ever after." Real life shows that happiness in marriage is not at all a self-evident consequence of marriage. The question of how to become happy in marriage is relevant for many women who do not feel satisfied with family life next to their partner.

What is the reason for the difference in attitude "before" and "after" marriage? According to statistics, more than 70% of women admit to unjustified expectations after marriage. Where do disappointments, resentments, dissatisfaction and the feeling that you have been deceived come from?

Bride at any cost

First you need to figure out why women want to get married. Everyone, of course, wants a big and bright love, but the fact of marriage is just important for many.

1. Stereotypes. If you do not get married before a certain age, then the “old maid” is pressured by the parents, the relatives are bothering you with questions.
2. Herd instinct. All my friends are married - I need it too.
3. The child must have a father. A full-fledged family at any cost, even if there is an inner understanding that what is happening is a mistake, just a coincidence.
4. It's easier for two. Pulling the strap of life together is twice as easy, duties and costs are halved, but it will be more difficult to be next to a person by calculation every day.

Now it is worth honestly answering the question of why you married this particular person. If according to one of the above, then perhaps this is simply not your person, because it turns out that in his place could be anyone.

Another question, if the choice was still deliberate, you wanted to connect your life with this particular man, but at some point something went wrong. In this case, you can rephrase the question a little and understand how to continue to be happy in your marriage every day.

1. Rose-colored glasses don't fit. It is better to remove them even before the wedding vows are pronounced. There are no ideal people, and if you agree to the proposal of this particular man, it means that you are ready to accept him with all the advantages and disadvantages, and there will probably be quite a few of them later. If you hope to re-educate and change a person for yourself, then this is a completely vain work that will bring nothing but disappointment and resentment.
2. Compromise... You will have to go to it all the time in order to maintain a healthy climate in the family. Infinitely adjusting and giving in is just as impossible as constantly insisting on your own, expecting understanding from your partner. Constant dialogue, understanding and a desire to avoid disputes over trifles, as well as making joint decisions on key issues, make spouses partners who are important and need each other.
3. If you want to live happily, live in secret. And this is one of the most valuable tips. Do not put on public display the problems that arise in the family, do not allow strangers (even if they are close relatives) to interfere in your family life, do not ask your friends for advice, describing the controversial situation in all colors. Everything that happens between two people should remain between them.
4. Skeletons in the closet. Everyone has a past life, each of the spouses. So this past life should remain there, there is no need to arrange an inquiry and to elicit from the spouse the details of his past adventures, and it is also not worth expanding on this topic itself. This frankness carries nothing but unfounded suspicions and creeping doubts.
5. Disagreements happen to everyone, it is important to be able to make them short films, and not turn them into a multi-part series with the prospect of development over several seasons. At the time of a dispute, you should not begin to sort things out by getting personal, remembering past grievances, or remembering old disagreements. If a dispute has arisen, argue on a specific topic, which will be settled on this.
6. The best medicine is laughter. Including for relationships. If you stop laughing together, then the matter is really wrong. A sense of humor, the ability to look at a situation from the other side, a decrease in the importance of what is happening is a guarantee that the number of controversial situations will be much less, and the emerging ones will be resolved faster and more painlessly.
7. Interest. Keep your desire to surprise and delight your spouse. Remember how it was in the candy-bouquet period, when surprises were completely commonplace, when you wanted to do things for the other half for no reason. Feeling your diligence and interest, the partner will surely answer you with the same coin, in this case, do not forget to show gratitude, say compliments and how to be surprised and admired for the first time.
8. Remember the most damaging things that are out of the question in a happy marriage:
   • Contempt - all the partner's undertakings are met with disdain, with some superiority and even disgust; from such an attitude, any person, even if he is very interested in you, will lose the desire to do something;
   • Defense - forcing the spouse to constantly make excuses, inventing non-existent claims;
   • Criticism - to think that the partner's actions are doomed to failure, motivating by the fact that "you know better", will lead to the fact that the person gives up and stops even trying to perform actions;
   • The opposition is to assume in advance that the spouse is wrong, without even trying to understand the situation.

Of course, there is no definite recipe for solving family problems that arise. Constant work on yourself and relationships with your partner is the only answer to the question of how you can become happy in marriage. Marital happiness depends on how willing the spouses are to be together.

Being together means accepting and understanding each other in different life situations. At the same time, it is important not to dissolve in a partner without a trace, to remain yourself, not to lose your own “I”. Only in this case you will always remain a mystery for your husband, which you will want to solve your whole life together.

It is worth saying that men often have a question about how to make a woman happy. Guys really don't know how to make it happen. When the mood she radiates joy, happiness, which she bestows on loved ones. If a man wants his beloved to give him love and affection, he must try and make her happy.

Attention to your beloved wife

Now we will give advice to men on how to make a woman happy.

It should be said that the girl needs attention. If she does not receive it, then she begins to think that the man does not love her. And when a guy treats his beloved with attention, he receives kindness, care and tenderness in return. The desires of a woman should not be ignored.

Her emotional background is so unstable that the slightest neglect can ignite a storm of negative experiences in her. When a woman is not given enough attention, she begins to think that this man does not need her. As a result, she is in a bad mood. So how do you make a woman happy? The answer is simple enough. Pay more attention to her.

Gifts are necessary for a woman

Some men forget about gifts, but women need them. This is not about giving presents every day. But it is necessary to pamper your woman with gifts. She will be just happy if the beloved man will do her some kind of pleasure. Instead of thinking about how to make a woman happy, it’s better to go and choose a gift for her.

Love works wonders

For a woman to be happy, you need to love her. When a man is internally and externally disposed to his lady, she will feel this and become happy. As a man treats a woman, so she will treat him. You should prove your love to her every day, and not neglect the relationship.

You need to know your spouse's wishes!

How can a man make a woman happy? You should find out about the desires of a woman. Each has its own dreams. Do not think that they concern only material goods. If you cannot make a woman happy, do not bother those who can do it. The girl also has spiritual desires.

Perhaps she wants to visit holy places or develop culturally. How to make a woman happy in marriage? If a man tries, finds out what his girlfriend wants, and helps to translate it into reality, then in return he will receive what he wants. A woman will definitely thank her beloved. You shouldn't tell the girl: "If I do this, I want this in return." It is necessary to build a sincere and kind relationship that will be based on love and mutual support. A man should make a woman happy! He should study the girl, find out her desires and dreams, help her achieve what she wants, or personally translate her ideas into reality.

Thanks for the work done

Do not forget to say words of gratitude to your beloved girlfriend or woman. You need to appreciate what she does around the house. A word of gratitude should be said for the prepared lunch or dinner.

You can also note that the house has been cleaned, things ironed, and so on. If a woman hears words of gratitude for her work, then she will try and do household chores with pleasure. A smart man will appreciate and thank his wife for her care for loved ones.

How to make a woman happy? Relationship psychology

Change your attitude towards a woman. A man needs to change his attitude towards a girl. You should learn to appreciate the positive aspects of your chosen one. There is a special exercise to be done every day. It consists in writing down the positive qualities of your girlfriend. Their number should be up to ten. After a certain amount of time, a man's opinion about his chosen one will change for the better. And he will begin to see in his woman these beautiful features that have been written down. The bottom line is that you need to learn to see only the good in another person. If you start treating your partner in this way, then she will become what a man sees her. Because a person who is treated very well cannot behave badly if he is emotionally stable. Of course, there are cases of mental instability. In this situation, it is recommended to seek professional help from a specialist.

Spending time together brings you closer together, helps to get to know each other

How to make your beloved woman happy? In order for a woman to feel great, it is recommended to spend as much time with her as possible. And not just sit at home on the couch, but come up with leisure activities. Go to events together, visit cultural places, play sports, travel and so on. Spending time together brings people together very much. It is very good when people have common interests. Men need to understand that they should not postpone plans to visit any place indefinitely. It is necessary to concretize, namely, draw up a plan. In it, indicate when and where they will go or will go with their wife.

In parallel with this, ask the woman to compose her own. Then you need to do a comparative analysis of the two lists. And it will become clear whether there are common interests or not. If there are common points in these lists, then you should not delay their implementation. If there are no common interests, then you can alternate items from one list with another. That is, first go or go where the wife wants, and then go where the husband wants. Thus, the interests of both partners will be satisfied. If people spend time not only at home, but travel somewhere or organize some kind of events, then their life will be more fulfilling. Then scandals will become a rarity in their home.

Travel has a good effect on relationships. A change of environment always has a beneficial effect on relationships between people. Since new impressions imbue them with positive emotions. And the adventures they lived together will bring them closer together. After the trip, people have pleasant memories.

Remove pride, think about the relationship with your partner

If there is a discord in the relationship, then you should think about new possibilities for resolving it. It so happens that each of the partners insists on their righteousness. Nobody wants to give in. Therefore, it is not possible to improve relations. In order to find a way of reconciliation, you should remove pride and think that you are not on the level to sort things out. You need to be above quarrels and trials. Then the partner will reach out to you, and peace will come. Here we are not talking about the fact that a man should constantly obey all women's whims. He should be wiser and not stoop to the level of squabbles and proceedings. It is worth considering and making a decision that will help resolve the situation.

Compliments will help make the lady of the heart happy

Compliments play a big role in women's lives. Therefore, a man should not be lazy. He needs to talk to a woman as often as possible about her merits, about how beautiful she looks, what excellent makeup she has, and so on. You can use the list of feminine virtues that was recommended for a man. But you don't need to say too many compliments, know when to stop.

It is better for a man to say one compliment a day than he will give compliments one after another once a month. You should also make sure that the compliment emphasizes the woman's dignity, and does not look like flattery. Compliments have a positive effect on a girl. She will appreciate this behavior of a man. Then she will be grateful to him for it. If you praise a woman, then she will begin to give her love to a man and take care of him with even greater tenderness.

Charge your soul mate with positive energy

A man needs to energetically charge his beloved woman, share his positive energy with her. In no case should you throw negative on her. Because in return you can get the same thing.

If a man respects a woman, then this attitude will return to him in greater volume. And if he begins to neglect her or conduct "showdowns", then in return, of course, he will receive the same.

Start the change with yourself

A man should become a happy and successful person himself. Then there will be a happy woman next to him. Any changes should start with yourself. It's worth doing something with yourself first. Then the world around you will begin to change.

Long-term relationships between partners are possible if they treat each other with respect, understand, and support each other. There are cases when a person cannot overpower himself and establish relations with his partner. A man is by nature stronger than a woman. Therefore, he can take responsibility for the preservation of the family, everything is in his power. If a couple has a crisis time, then it is necessary to think about how to overcome it. At such moments, you need to think not only about yourself and your ego, you must not forget about your woman and the motives of her behavior.

A little conclusion

Now you know how to make a woman happy. As you can see, everything is quite simple and feasible. We hope that these recommendations will help you!

Harmony in family relationships is a worthy reason to work, first of all, on yourself. There is no perfect relationship. There are couples who have learned to come to an agreement.

Who should be in charge of the family?

A marriage in which a woman is the head always at least looks flawed. It is up to the man to make decisions in the family. Not because he is physically stronger or wiser in the first place. It's just that men are less prone to emotions. In situations when it is necessary to make a decision quickly, it is logical and not to be mistaken with a choice, it is much easier for a man to "turn off" anger, irritation, fear, resentment and impartially consider the facts.

If the last word in the family belongs to the woman, then global decisions are sometimes dictated by emotions. This does not mean that women are more stupid than men. On the contrary, only the wisest are ready to accept and give up the palm (the value of which is simply far-fetched). Only to such representatives of the fair sex comes true female happiness. Those women who do not want to accept and give up even the edge of their positions are doomed.

An important point: to maintain a normal relationship, it is important that there is someone in charge. If a couple declares that they have "democracy", then everyone is trying to take the lead over themselves. It is impossible for both spouses to be leaders. There are no identical people with identical opinions on all issues. In some ways they differ. And then there comes a moment of truth for such couples.

Respect and a willingness to listen to the opinion of his wife, no one has yet canceled. The head of the family, if he really understands all the responsibility that lies with him, will never oppress his charges (be it children, wife or lap dog). It is necessary to distinguish between tyranny and leadership. Asking your wife for advice, listening, drawing conclusions, finding a middle ground - these are actions worthy of a loving husband.

Feelings in a relationship

Work on oneself in marriage consists primarily of shortening one's EGO. Concentrating only on your emotions is simply not acceptable. For a happy marriage, listening to your partner's feelings is essential.

Let's imagine that two people are vessels filled with water. At different moments of life, they are filled in different ways. If the jug is full, then there is no need to try to pour more into it. This applies primarily to emotions. If one of the spouses is overwhelmed with emotions, then the task of the other is to wait until he pours them out. Support, listen, encourage. No need to try at this moment to prove anything, to convey your feelings. The spouse will definitely listen to you when he is ready for this. When his vessel is not overfilled.

What to do when he wants halva and I want gingerbread?

Happiness is available only to those who know how to find a compromise. If one spouse wants to paint the walls green and the other pink, look for a compromise. Let the walls be yellow, but no one will be offended. And so in everything. Of course, there are situations when one has to give in. And this someone, more often than not, is a woman. These are the normal costs of marriage.

Nobody is right 100% of the time. If someone made the right decisions at least 51% of the time, then he could not work, but simply place bets in the casino and win, earning.

Alas, there are no such people. So, if you knowingly know that the decision made by your spouse is false and there is no way to convince him or her, then accept it as a natural disaster. Believe me, in the eyes of your chosen one or chosen one, you sometimes look no less a dunce.

Ah, he is not perfect!

Are you ready to part with a person forever just because he doesn't close the tube of toothpaste in the morning? A similar dilemma is faced by many people. And they prefer to part, and find a person who does it. But, alas, they come across the one who picks his nose. Parting again. The new partner closes the tube, doesn't pick his nose, but snores terribly. And so on to infinity ...

There are no perfect people. And your partner will never be your harmonious addition or what you have created in your dreams. One evening, after two or three years of marriage, the spouses discover that the husband or wife is a living person, and not a figment of their fantasies. It is not easy to come to terms with this, but the one who finds the strength to endure some of the partner's shortcomings lives happily.

Faithfulness in marriage

Once married, you need to be honest and not cheat. What a stupid rule, you might say. If I share the bed on the same night with another person, this will not fade my feelings in the least.

This is an erroneous assumption. By concentrating on other people, spouses have a lot to lose. First of all, the orientation inward, in the family, immediately falls. And this entails a refusal to develop. The vector of thought, the application of forces is shifting. Looking for momentary pleasures in other people's beds, a person ceases to deprive himself of the joy of growth, deliberately scattering attention, concentration on the partner and his feelings.

When cheating, mistrust, guilt, jealousy emerge.... Agree, not the most wonderful emotions. Here we must also remember the children. Their normal upbringing is possible only in conditions of morality and loyalty. Do you want your children to copy (unconsciously) build their family on falsehood? Such a foundation will crack sooner or later.

Family needs

We all need attention, affection. Marriage is not a one-time act. This is a job. Nobody hired you, but there is the minimum you need every day. Kisses, heart-to-heart talk, hugs. They say a child needs 7 hugs a day for normal development. An adult needs them too!

A harmonious life together is impossible if there is no time together. You are sharing time not only for yourself, but also for your spouse. If all the time there is no time, then just ask yourself the question: Do I want my marriage to be happy? If so, what am I willing to do for this? Can I carve out an hour a day for this?

To be happy in marriage or not to be is solely our choice.... Difficult, daily, but a choice. By taking a marriage vow, we assure everyone that every day, every hour of our life, we will choose a happy marriage for ourselves.

Making decisions

Once married, people must make decisions together. This applies to both small things and large deeds, accomplishments, plans. Moreover, complete unity of opinion is required. For this, the spouse must be focused not on proving the correctness of his opinion, but on coming to a compromise. Women and men have an equal right to speak your opinion. It is important that everyone has it. The situation when one makes decisions, and the other simply agrees, is unacceptable. Truth is born only in the moral work of two people.

You can use artistry, diplomacy, humor, but not physical strength or threat. And when something was born in torture that satisfies both - you won the battle for your happy marriage! True, such victories should happen regularly ...

When discussing, arguing, be sure to "sift" each step through three sieves:

1. Unanimity.
2. Equal rights.
3. Respect for the senses.

Finance

When matters concerning money and maintenance, be extremely honest with each other. Also, match your expectations with real life. The financial issue is a special topic that causes emotional tension in families. Discussion of the distribution of money exposes, tests the strength of the trust of the spouses, their needs and ultimate possibilities.

There are three options for managing the family budget:

1. Separate (every man for himself)
2. General (all earnings - into the general cauldron)
3. Equity (everyone allocates a certain amount of earnings to the general piggy bank).

The last option is the most acceptable, since the first two have disadvantages: when separated, there is no way to support the spouse at the time of illness, decree, etc. And in general, there are many opportunities for quarrels and there is no place for gifts "just like that, from oneself."

Working on relationships is a daily job. To be happy in marriage or not to be is solely our choice. By taking a marriage vow, we assure everyone that every day, every hour of our life, we will choose a happy marriage for ourselves.

A marriage of convenience turns out to be a blessing only if there is hope of turning it into a marriage of love.