Is there a happy marriage between Muslim and Christian? Is it worth a orthodox girl to marry Muslim

21.10.2019

Batyushka, I have a problem.

What is the case?

You see, I love one person very much, I just can not live without him.

Well, what is the question? Scheduled, marvel and live long and happily!

Well, you see, my beloved is a Muslim. He is not a fanatic. Eats pork, does not make namaz, but by origin he is a Muslim and therefore does not want to renounce the faith of ancestors. He believes in God, and we believe that God is alone, and if so, then there will be no sin in our wedding. What does church consider? After all, I am Orthodox, so I need to get a blessing for marriage.

Such a conversation is very often happening now in our temples. And it is not surprising. After the Soviet times there was a mixture of peoples. And the situation when the believers of two religions want to enter into marriage, it became very frequent. But how does God evaluate this matter? How to behave if such marriage is happening? How to behave the Orthodox spouse of an adherent of Islam? We will answer these questions in this work.

How does church refer to marriage with inners?

Contrary to the opinion of many, and the Word of God, and the decrees of the Church definitely condemn the marriages between Christians and Inovier. If we look at the Holy Scripture, we will see that almost throughout the Holy History, God warns from the mixing of people loyal to him with those who do not fulfill his will. Already at the dawn of the world, the greatest catastrophe of the World Flood occurred, caused by the fact that "the sons of God saw the daughters of human, that they were beautiful, and they took them their wife, which someone chose. And the Lord said to God: not forever my spirit to be neglected by the people of Simi; Because they are flesh "(life. 6, 2-3). Traditional interpretation says that the sons of God are descendants of Sif, the faithful to the Lord, and the daughters of human - Cainika, and the mixing of these two births led to the death of the ancient world. Remembering this terrible event, St. Abraham made his servant swear by God that he would not take Isaac Wife from the daughters of Canaan (Gen. 24, 3). Similarly, one of the reasons for the reasons of Isawa was that he took himself to his wife Hetteanka. "And it was in Isaac and Rebe," (Gen. 26, 35), so the latter said that she was "life is not happy because of the daughters of Hittie" (Gen. 27, 46).

The law of God recorded this norm: "Do not take your my wives from my daughters to your wives and your daughters in marriage, in order to my daughter, the scaretto following the gods of their own, did not introduce your sons into bloction after the gods of their own" (Ex. 34, 16 ). And "then the wrath of the Lord will ignite on you, and he will soon destroy you" (De. 7, 4).

And, indeed, this threat overtakes those who violated the covenant of the Lord. Starting from a terrible defeat in Waal-Feregr, when 24,000 people died, only the blow of the pillar of Phineles stopped punishment. (Numbers. 25) In continuation of the Board, Sumson Sudios dies due to the Philistines of Dalida (court. 16), and to the terrible fall of the wisest king Solomon, whose heart corrupted his wife. (3 kings. 11, 3). God immediately kallas those who violated his command.

Moreover, this commandment was in no way connected with the presentation of blood purity. Rahaw - Bludnica, Sepfor - Moses's wife, Ruth - Moavityanka, who refused to their false bodies, entered the people of God. Especially important, this commandment has become for the saints of ezriers and nehemices, fought with the mixture of the chosen people with the interempions (1 ec. 9-10; neem.13, 23-29).

The Word of God calls Mixed Marriages "Great Evil, Sin before God" (Neveim. 13, 27), "lawlessness, exceeding the head, and wine that grown to heaven" (1 Riding. 9, 6). Prick. Malachius proclaims: "Judas go treacherously, and the abomination is performed in Israel and in Jerusalem; For the Museum of the Lord was humiliated by Judas, and married the daughter of someone else's God. " "At the one who does this, destroys the Lord from the tents of Iakovlevnyy fighting on guard and responding and bringing the victim to the Lord Savaof" (Mal. 2, 11-12). Does not this curse of God's children in such criminals and criminals become goodwill, and often die?

When a new covenant came, the law of Moses was surpassed by the grace of the Gospel: nevertheless, this command of the Lord was left in force. The Apostolic Cathedral in Jerusalem commanded faithful from the pagans to refrain from Bluda (Acts 15, 29), from which interpreters are derived effectiveness of all marriage bans of the Old Testament and for Christians. Further, the apostle Paul, allowing his wife to marry the second time, adds "only in the Lord" (1 Cor. 7, 39).

For Christians, it was always obvious in impossibility to marry with the wrong, and it was strictly strictly, despite the fact that Christian communities were very small. So SVMC. Ignatius Godpher writes: "Tell my sisters, so that they love the Lord and were pleased with their husbands in the flesh and in spirit. Also, I also offer my brothers in the name of Jesus Christ "to love your wives as the Lord Jesus Christ loves the Church" ... Good to men and women marrying, to do this with the blessing of the bishop, so that marriage was in the Lord, and not like Lust. " Other holy fathers also thought. For example, holy. Amvrosi Mediolsky says: "If the most marriage should be consecrated by the cover and the blessing of the priesthood: the way there may be a marriage where there is no consent of faith."

This teaching is directly expressed by the Orthodox Church of the Fear of Ecumenical Councils. 14 Rule IV of the Universal Cathedral imposes a member of those readers and singers who marry with an innumerary or give their children such a marriage. In agreement with the interpretation of EP. Nicodemus (Milash) Punishment is low. Even more brightly and without the possibility of any interpretation sets out the attitude of the church to this issue in 72 rule VI of the Universal Cathedral. It says: "It is not the right to her husband with an Orthodox woman with a heretic marriage, nor Orthodox wife with her husband, with a heretic, combined. Incidentally, there will be something that that has been predicted by anyone: marriage to honor the unsurdious, and unlawful to dissolve. For it does not fit to mix the unsolvable, below scooply with the sheep of the wolf, and with part of the Hristovy sinners. In the same way, who we will have breakdown with us: let it be late. But some some, being still in disbelief, and not the birth of Orthodox, were combined between themselves by a legitimate marriage: then one of them, choosing a good, resorted to the light of the truth, and the other remained in the bonds of misconception, not wanting to the divine rays, And it's about the wrong wife who wants to cohabit my husband faithful, or in front of her husband with the wrong wife, I faithfully: then do not separate, according to the Divine Apostle: Boy Husband will be wrong about his wife, and his wife is wrong about her husband right (1 Cor. 7, 14) "

The same norm was also valid Russia before the revolution of 1917. According to the Russian law, "Russian citizens of Orthodox confession with non-Christians are not prohibited at all," and such a marriage pairing was not recognized "legitimate and valid." Children born in such a union were recognized as illegitimate, were not eligible for inheritance and title, and the connection itself was recognized as adultery. A Christian, in her who had entered, even at that time was supposed to 4 years of excommunication from the communion.

In the same case, when one of the innovative spouses addressed Christianity, with the one who remained outside the church immediately took the subscription that the children who would like them after that will be baptized in the Orthodox Church. The innerians will not bring any way to his faith, and his faithful half will not lose his unitigal cohabitation at all of her life, and will not force her to return to its former delusion. If the wrong spouse gave this subscription and followed her, then the marriage was recognized as legitimate; If the refusal or violation of these obligations was followed, then the marriage immediately terminated, and the recently had the right to a new marriage with Orthodox. The great dogmasters of the XIX century - for example, Mitre. Macarius (Bulgakov) - also considered the impossible marriage of faithful with an inner.

So God and His Church categorically prohibit engage in Christians to the Union with non-Christians. And it is not surprising. After all, in marriage, two become one flesh, and how he can be happy if one of the spouses believes in the Triune God of Love, and the other is afraid of a distant lonely ruler who does not give me to meet with me? How can those who wear a cross on his chest can be peacefully seated, and the one who believes seems to be not painted? What fortress of the family can we talk when the husband has the right on the basis of his faith to make his mistresses, whom he will call new wives or concubines?

What happens to the one that will marry Muslim.

But all these arguments, unfortunately, often do not act on those who are in love. They say: "I still will only be happy with him, and therefore I don't care what God and the Church say." Talking so can not, of course, be considered an Orthodox Christian. But she and we have something to say. After all, on baptism, she still belongs to the church, and until the death of secret ties connect it with the body of Christ. This is honored, and responsible. The one who has already entered the covenant with God, albeit in childhood, can never become such as those who initially alien to the Creator. The prodigal son is still a son. God says: "Yes, there will be no such man between you, who, having heard the words of the curse of this, would have praised in his heart, saying:" I will be happy, despite the fact that I will walk on the arbitrariness of my heart "... I will not forgive the Lord Such, But the wrath of the Lord and the rage of him on such a person will immediately marry, and all the curse of the Testament of this will fall on him, and the Lord will tell him the name from the Middle Kingdom; And Separate His Lord for Die "(Dev. 29, 20-21).

But in terms of practical, such a marriage for a person brought up in a Christian tradition will definitely be unhappy. After all, the relationship to the woman in Islam is unbearably unbearable for those who are brought in ideas about love between husband and wife as a norm of married life. For those who do not believe, the IT student will bring the Islamic norms of attitudes towards his wife who will have to perform that unhappy in the event that she wishes to break the word of God. So, from the point of view of Islam, "a woman is obliged to take his spouse and assign him a complete obedience, except in cases where he requires Islam forbidden." Woman comes to her husband's family. Without his permission, she cannot be removed from the house, as well as to engage in professional activities.

The spouse has the right to visit his parents and close relatives, although her husband can ban she to meet with her children from the past marriage. In some Muslim countries, the husband can reduce their wife's meetings with their parents to one week later. The wife has the right to abandon married relations with her husband only if he has not made the proportion of dowry in the marriage contract, or during the post. An unreasonable refusal of his wife will lead to its "removal", i.e. divorce. This will end for it and the use of contraceptives. The Holy Book of Muslims Koran encourages husbands to punish a wives in case of their disobedience, disagreement or simply in order to improve the nature. In the Qur'an it is said that "God raised men by their essence over women, and besides the husbands pay the marriage dowry .... Marry them, intimidate when they do not obey ... - Bates them. If the wives are obedient, then be consolidated to them "(Koran 4.38; 4, 34). The Muslim Theologian Al-Gazali calls the marriage "a variety of slavery for a woman. Her life becomes a complete obedience to her husband in everything, if he does not break the laws of Islam. " Education of children is the exceptional right of her husband. Even if the wife belongs to one of the "religions of the Revelation", that is, if it is a jew or a Christian. Education of children in an obseria is prohibited by Muslim law. "

We will add more about the attitude towards women in Islam. "According to the common Hadis, the prophet is the pretext of the" Prophet "- most women will be in hell. If you believe Ibn-Umar, "the Prophet said: About the meeting of women! Suppose alms, more pleasant about forgiveness, for I saw that most of the inhabitants of the fire are you. And one woman from their number asked: why most of the inhabitants of fire are we? He said: You curse a lot and ungrateful to my husbands. I did not see someone from those who have a mind would be more flaws in faith and mind than you "(Muslim, 1879). According to another Hadis, "the Prophet said: I did not leave after myself the temptation of more malicious for men than women" (al-Bukhari and Muslim)

According to Sharia, "Certificate of two women in court is equal to the testimony of one man. Women also forbidden to follow the funeral procession. Muslim man has the right to marry an innovka, but Muslim can not marry an innerity. "

But here it is still worth noting that, having married Muslim, the wife should not wait for his marital loyalty from him. After all, he has the right to have up to four wives, and also conclude the so-called. "Temporary marriages" for a period of 1 hour before a year (this is often justified by prostitution). If the state laws of Russia and prohibit the polygamy, then in practice it existed and exists.

So, expensive ladies, entering into an Islamic marriage, you should be prepared and to the fact that you will be treated as animals, and to treason, which are not even considered as such, and to beatings from the husband, authorized by the Quran. (And for Muslim-husbands, even in Europe, Islamic theologians produce special books about the right ways of beating wives so that it is not too much to extend your body so that they can continue to use and not get under the secular court). If you like all this - please! Just do not say that my beloved will never do so, because he is good. In addition to your roommate (my husband does not allow him to call him the Word of God), there is also his family, which he himself is obliged to obey, he wants it or not. A little later we will give a testimony of what is waiting for a woman in reality, if she falls into a modern Islamic family. But first, let's just say that you do not need to count on a long and happy life in a strong family. After all, according to the rules of Islam, the husband can easily divorce his wife. This may be the right divorce (Mildo) at the request of a husband with the explanation of the reasons, or a joint decision of her husband and wife, and maybe just a divorce at the request of a husband without explaining the reasons in a simplified form (Talak), after saying it from one of the established phrases: "You're excommunicated" or "connect with the genus".

In the case of a divorce, the husband must allocate his wife the necessary property "according to custom". A divorced woman for three months remains in the house of the ex-husband to determine whether it is pregnant. In the case of the birth of a child, he must be left in the house of the Father. The wife can only demand a divorce only through the court, referring only to strictly outlined grounds: if the husband has physical disadvantages, does not fulfill marital duties, it brutally drawn his wife or does not allocate funds for its content.

At the same time, if the spouses suddenly want to reunite again, then in Islam there is a monstrous decision that for this wife must first go to another man, divorce him, and only after that return to the same: "If he gave a divorce to her, then She is allowed to him after, until she comes out for another husband, and if he gave her a divorce, then there is no sin on them that they will return "(Quran 2.230).

Christian in Islam. Description of reality.

But now it is worth leading examples of how these norms are being implemented in the stories of our contemporaries. To begin with, we present an excerpt from the study of the ethnographers, which studied the state of affairs in Central Asia in 1980-1990.

"European women who live in marriage with representatives of indigenous nationalities, in the overwhelming majority of their non-local natives. The story of their appearance in Central Asia is almost always the same: the young guy was in the army or at study, at work, met a girl, married, brought with him. Several times I met as a Muslim spouse woman from the local Russian village. But exceptions did not happen: it was always that she was not from old-timers, but came to the republic shortly before marriage. Basically, these were those who were evacuated from Central Russia during the war years.

Most often, Russian women agree to Muslim marriage, having a very vague and far from reality an idea of \u200b\u200bwhat is waiting for them. Many go to Central Asia for considerations of material well-being and brutally repent already in place. ("There is, in Russia, he, the groom, that is, in Europe, is dressed, he says that he has three houses here. And here come here - what is she in the clay house?"). Often, a young daughter-in-law of her husband's relatives do not accept, and to live separately from them do not allow circumstances. Sometimes young people try to dilute, because without the consent of the groom he was already watching the bride from the local. Between mother-in-law and in Russian "freedom-loving" daughter-in-law begins quarrels. Therefore, many marriages disintegrate at the very beginning of living together. Most wives in such cases leave back.

Some of the young spouse are withstanding the described tests, and then happens, as a rule, the following. Women gradually argue with their role in the patriarchal family, assimilate the norms of behavior adopted from the locals, learn the language and, ultimately, as informants said, are completely "curled" or "othadji". To, going in this way, to keep marriage, Russian wife needs great patience. Then she is starting to be considered their own and well to treat it - however, only if it comes to Islam and will observe the customs.

Women in such cases occur striking changes. Their behavior, clothing, conversation, lifestyle are sometimes indistinguishable from local residents. It happens that the woman almost does not remember the native language. Here are some short, but characteristic stories: "One girl from Russia Tajik brought after the army. The first time, as he lived here, cried, came to complain, and now - do not distinguish from the Tajik: in the language, by clothes (harshs we carry them), five children gave birth and externally became similar to " "It was married to Uzbek, curled, her husband fell her head ..."; "One brought from Vladimir, very young. Craisted. In Russian almost does not speak at all. I ask her in Uzbek: - Why did it become? - I do not know…".

And now we will give a memoiler from Islam, describing from the inside all the "charms" of the Islamic family for those who left Christ to Magomet:

"From fifteen years I live with my parents in Germany. I was nineteen years old when I met Fatih. He turned out to be the only young man who really shared my views on this world, on God. I was Orthodox. He is a Muslim. When we met, my faith was cooling. I saw only hypocrisy and a hypocrite in the temples. I did not hear God in my soul. Such a person, as I, without this it was impossible. When I do not feel God in my life, I have a feeling that I do not live, but gradually dying that life does not make sense. Fatih was just a good friend. He was sixteen years old, but he looked older, and according to his behavior and thinking, I would give him at least twenty. He deceived me, saying that he was 17. When I noticed that he gradually began to appear for me some feelings, I said that we should not meet anymore, since relations between us are impossible. For half a year we have not seen. My depression from the church continued ...

About Fatika I remembered all this time, and I lacked him. Once six months later we met on the street, but did not say hello. And then they still phoned and decided to meet. Having met him, I realized that a more native person (not counting Mom, of course) never met on this earth. I learned that he was very sick, so he was hard to save the doctors. I presented with horror that this man who seems to be completely native to me, I could no longer see. I did not want any close relationship with him, because I did not perceive it caring (even on the contrary, I was strange to imagine that there could be something between us). But he said he could not treat me adequately, and I agreed to meet him. And the next day he fell into the hospital, as she resumed the disease, and for two weeks I came to him every day, as a result of which I met all his relatives. It was from his side, probably not planned, as he did not know how his family would attract such a phenomenon as a foreign and an innovative girlfriend. In general, I liked it, because I was shy and did not know what to say, and therefore was more and more silent in their presence. When we had learned about our relationship, a quiet panic rose. Orthodox our people tried to help me, but even pushed me to Islam ...

In Christianity, I can't achieve anything, I can't hear God, I can not reach him. And Fatih guarantees me that Islam is also the right religion (I almost did not doubt it). On the street, I constantly saw Muslimians, and their faces seemed to me that clean (internally), and Hijab (Muslim clothing) I also liked it very much, I really wanted to dress the same way.

I read a lot about Islam and decided that it was worth trying to get to God through another end. I pushed the idea of \u200b\u200bChrist as God in the distant corner of the heart and said Shakhada, after which I made full ablution and began to make a pre-learning by heart Namaz. I also immediately put a handkerchief and changed the name ...

Soon we married the Muslim rite. Islam did not give me the expected. I did not feel anything. I tried to reach Godhead, but he did not answer me in any way, nor even some sign. Only in the Bible, sometimes opening it in a random place, I suddenly read the answers to my questions. Make Namaz was very hard. Five times a day, repeat the same suras from the Koran in Arabic, - What is the point of this meaning? Is it a prayer? I have not seen any point. It had nothing to do with a Christian prayer, where you can pray and mentally, and with all my heart, according to already written prayers or in your own words. In Islam, there are only Dua - prayers that can be pronounced in their native language. I often asked God to tell me the true path. What is the point of fasting to Ramadan, if in the evening you eat so much that you are sick, and during the day you are so weak that you can not do anything? And the women also need to prepare food to talk.

For me, it was painful and the fact that no nobody, and to break away from the community - a huge sin. And how could I join the society in which everyone spoke exclusively in Turkish? It's not just that, I just got used to independence since childhood. Fatiha family was not very believer. This family is generally very problematic. Father player, mother mentally ill, so all family problems have always had to swallow. After all, sorry from the hut is also a sin. (If you have a husband or mother-in-law beats you, you like a Muslim should not tell anyone about it). And she had to be very hard in the family of her husband, since her husband's parents did not love her, and he broke her husband. What I broke, beat truly. For 15 years of life in Germany, she never learned to speak German. She has 7 classes education. Many European women are surprised: why Turkans do not leave the husbands who beat them. Due to the fact that the system of society community, they simply do not know how to live without their family. Better let the bad, but family. Their individuality is almost at the zero level. They all depend on society, from the opinion of this society and from his decision. The latter was unbearable for me. If everyone was going to go to nature, and you do not want - you have to go. Otherwise you just do not respect. If everyone is sitting and eaten, and you are not - you are expensive. Fatiha has another older brother (Mehmet), younger (Ilker) and the younger sister (Negriz). The elder brother is a pet, Fatih is less likely, because not the firstborn, Ilker was with an early youth painfully Tolstoy, the necgiz is very shy, the fat and humpback girl who for some reason for 12 years also began to wear a handkerchief. This, as if even more rejected himself from the world, and through it from the normal development of individuality. She has no girlfriends, after school, she sits in the living room and looks at Turkish television.

I was annoyed so unusual for me hierarchy: when I came to visit, (it was before the transition to Islam, because after I was already "my own" with all the duties), Fatih asked if I want mineral water. If I replied "yes" he spoke to this ILKER, Ilker sent ungiz. Also also parents. If they ask for something to make Fatiha, he asked Ilker, and he asked for Norgiz (rather ordered, and did not ask, since they did not have the words "please" in the lexicon). As a result, the guys grew lazy. When I appeared, then a lot had to do to me, since my language did not turn to convey a request to the poor thing. Nergiz. It should notice that in general our relationship with Fatih was not so smooth.

After I switched to Islam, I began to often fall in your hysterics, while scratching my face and hands, trying to soak the physical pain. Where was the pain? Probably from the abyss that formed between me and God. Fatih tried to control me completely simply from fear that something would happen to me, to lose me out of fear. He forced me to do things, which in his eyes corresponded to my new status. I had to come to my home several times a week and help his mother, with which we had no common language. She spoke only in Turkish. I had to walk in my madrasa, where I was unbearably boring, as women were engaged only by the economy, sweating in scarves and long-sleeved sweaters. There were no extraneous men, but so taught everyone the head of the family. They even slept in scarves.

I had to spend as much time as possible in a family circle. At the same time, Fatih talked with them in Turkish, and I sat like a penetchek, not understanding anything and bored, because I was not used to occupying my brains with anything useful, at least a book. He did not allow me almost nothing but the books of Said Nursi (the founder of this direction Islam) and except the Koran, but only in Arabic. But I'm used to reading a lot from childhood, and very rare it was harmful to the heart of the book. I did not read detectives and novels, but Fatih banned me and psychology, and general consumer literature, and classics. I had no right to go somewhere without his knowledge. In itself, it is not as scary if he even sometimes allowed something. Almost everything I asked him, he forbidden me. That is, I have already started doing things with secret, simply because the prohibitions prevailed. So, I secretly dealt with Russian, read the classics. Turkish was not very bad for me, but because of the terrible soul non-equilibrium and permanent fears before the anger Fatiha, I just did not find the strength to engage in Turkish systematically. In his family, I still remained somehow, since I did not know the language and could not understand the culture itself. How often can I sit and throw a little and throw a language, without doing anything?

I was struck by the underdevelopment of individual thinking and generally thinking as such. As a rule, a male company was separated from feminine, and then I didn't even have the opportunity to ask Fatiha what a conversation. Fatih was scary afraid of my hysterics and sometimes just did not know what to do with me. As it turned out, he, he, too, constantly lived in fear that he would bring me out of himself. And he, possessing good intuition, felt that I was not quite sincerely with him and I didn't really trust him. He often dreamed of nightmares that I remove the scarf and I live. And so our relations were full of fear and offense. Before the entry (imams of nikov), everything was also very painful, since we needed to know what we go and learn more about our rights and obligations in marriage. That's, everything started. He tried to convince me that I, as a woman, is obliged to be a led man (especially in a spiritual aspect) that it is impossible to otherwise, that I have no right to make decisions. He said that a man and a woman are not equal, while he constantly said that a woman is not worse than a man. I replied that he draws me like a small child. I can't accept a single solution. Everything is solved for me. I argued that for my spiritual development, I need to try to walk and stuff the bumps.

We took a book about Muslim marriage and found out interesting things. It turns out that he has the right to beat me slightly in case of disobedience. I didn't have the right to divorce either, for some exceptions (his sexual impotence, deposit from faith or if he takes himself a second wife). At that time, Christ stood at the doors and pounded in my heart, which, feeling it, began to break. Open Christ or leave the door closed so that Fati does not escape? And on the day of our collapse, I, all in some doubts, took out my mother from the shelf a brochure of a Christian woman. After reading it, I was fulfilled such happiness that I am a woman! A Christian woman, what a high title, what a high role is her! After all, Christ was embodied in the Virgin Mary. The woman came to the world through a woman! Oh, that's how it really is. I saw submission to the chapter of the family completely in a different light. Because in Christianity there is a concept of humility ... Reading this book gave me courage, after all, to marry with Fatih. The engagement was modest. My parents were not. By the way, about them. Mom patiently tolerated all this time my suffering, and dad lost my daughter in me. Only when I returned to Christ again, he said that the feeling was that I was not here for several years, and then I returned. He worried very much. After the engagement, nothing has changed. We did not live together, I do not even know why. So it happened. However, I started reading Christian books again, including this site (Orthodoxy and Islam). I began to rethink something.

Then I suggested Fatih to move to me. We lived about a month together. This time was very heavy. I sat at my mother, (she lives alongside) and was afraid of the arrival of Fatiha home, as he wanted me to sit at home. Fatih, in turn, was afraid to come home to this atmosphere of fear and anxiety. I talked to the priest. He advised to start gradually to convey to Fatiha that I could not be Muslim. I started from afar. Soon Fatih went to Turkey for 2 months. While he was not, I bumbled freedom and realized that I could not. We communicated over the Internet, and I all said to say that, maybe Islam is not my way. He persuaded me to come to Turkey. There we often quarreled, and I understood more and more that it could not go further. Fatih accused me of many shortcomings, and I agreed with him. I really saw all my viciousness and sinfulness, egoism and pride, and much more. But how could I fix it? After all, in Islam there were no answers to it! In Islam says how you have to do, but it is not said what to do if it does not work. And Christ came to Earth and took upon all our sins. And if only we turn to him and pray to him about the eradication of sins, and send His Holy Blood and the Prech Body, then the transformation will be gradually.

What I feel if I tell "do" or "do not". I'm weak. And so, after another quarrel, I told Fatih that I did not see another way out, how to become a Christian. I can't change for the better in Islam, and after all he wants me to change for the better. Since then, we never cease to part. At first he gave me a deadline for thinking whether it really was what I want. I flew to Germany, after a few days he arrived. He arrived not to me, but to his parents, and began to live with them. And in the meantime, I put an icon in the apartment and brought a couple of Orthodox books. When he came to me, he asked what I decided. He saw the answer in the form of an icon. He immediately left. He said that things will take it later. A few days later I went to the church, for the holiday of cross-shift. He called me on a mobile and said that I was now at home, as he wants to pick up things. I said I can't, as today is a big holiday. Then he just came to church. In such an annoyance, I have never seen it, he made me ride with him. He told me about the following: "I dressed with knowledgeable people, it turns out, I have no right to be married to you if you are a Christian, it is forbidden to be for a ball (me in mind my verogrant). Marry Muslim, or we will break up forever. And now your life does not mean anything, every Muslim is allowed to kill you. "

That evening and several times I succumbed to persuasion. I tried to convince Fatiha that I am not a Christian and not Muslim, as I do not know already, what to believe. I seemed to be between two religions. Of course, all this was only a continuation of betrayal towards Christ. Fatih could not part with me forever, and we quarreled, then weathered. He accused me all, he scolded me for bringing him a sacrifice impossible (his faith). Every time he parted with me forever and returned every time. And I, meanwhile, more and more harvested, confessed and commited. What about the fact that on the ball he has no right to be married to me, he said that it turned out to be unreliable information, and he looked at me further, as his wife. I by that time calmed down completely. The hysterics stopped immediately after I decided to leave Islam, although the situation was very relaxing to the spiritual non-unquestion. Our relationship was in a dead end, and we knew about it. But they did not find the strength to part. We celebrated the third anniversary of our relations and soon learned that our marriage is invalid, as it is automatically canceled by unloading from the faith of one of the spouses. And already once again we parted. Previously, it was only Fatih, and now I decided to help him, since I suddenly realized that it was egoistic - to keep it with him, since our relationship for him is sin. And I tried to part with him. But it did not work. All this is very hard, he feels something in me, from what can you forget me. Even if we do not see a week, it is unbearable for him.

And how many times did the Lord responded to my prayers about him by the words of the Gospel: "And if you ask my father in my name, I will do it, and my father will be glorified in the Son" (John 14:13) and "Everything that is neither asking for With faith, get "(Matt. 21:22). I know that the Lord loves him, and if he loves, then, of course, wishes him a salvation. Since I began to pray for him, he suffers, it seems even more. He constantly steal dear things or he loses them (including mobile and motorcycle), he asks me to pray for him. And I pray and believe in the mercy of God, as well as in Fatikov intuition. Sooner or later, he must feel, and then understand where the truth, and where is a lie. Where the mercy of God and grace, and where the cold of Sharia laws and the black and white vision of the world.

And still there is no man relatively him, we understand each other without words, despite everything. Now, when I was choking, as I could, when I was knowing the newly love of Christ, even to death, to me, the last traitor, I understood a lot in Islam. I now know that in the visible cleanliness of the empty Muslim Muslims. Once, reading the book by Said Nursi "Wonders of Mohammed," I drew attention to some kind of confusion of these wonders. I remember, for example, as the Prophet had to go to the toilet and for the sake of this nature thus lined up that as if he had contrived him from people. And the fact that many of the miracles were created during the war against the wrong, shook me. Is only miracles important? The Prophet did some miracles and at the same time killed the wrong misfortune, without sparing the lives of people who holy! And with the first sermons of the apostle Peter, about 3,000 people appealed, without any violence, with a weapon alone - the word performed by the Holy Spirit. If the Christian martyrs testified to the faith of their own, then Muslims - killing others. Is the Spirit of God, is there grace? If it says in the Qur'an: "And the adulteress and adultery - each of them sek hundreds of weaves. Let it not cover you a pity for them in the name of the Faith of Allah, if you believe in Allah and on the day. And when they punish them, let the witnesses be a certain number of believers "(24: 2), then in the gospel as opposed to the opposite: when the woman led to him, taken in adultery ... He ... said to them: Which of you without sin, let the first throw in She is a stone ... And when, being submitted by the conscience, everyone went away, he said: I do not condemn you; Go continue not sin "(in. 8, 3-11). Many such can be found if you read the Quran and the Gospel. Thank God for his mercy to sinners. So I am from them, and I feel love to me every day. God forbid you all the joy perfect! "

How does church refer to marriage with inners?

For Christians, it was always obvious in impossibility to marry with the wrong, and it was strictly strictly, despite the fact that Christian communities were very small. So SVMC. Ignatius Godpher writes: "Tell my sisters, so that they love the Lord and were pleased with their husbands in the flesh and in spirit. I also offer my brothers in the name of Jesus Christ "to love your wives as the Lord Jesus Christ loves the church" ... good to men and women marrying, to do this with blessing of the bishop, so that marriage was in the Lord, and not like lust " Other holy fathers also thought. For example, holy. Amvrosi Mediolsky says: "If the most marriage should be consecrated by the cover and the blessing of the priesthood: the way there may be a marriage where there is no consent of faith."

What happens to the one that marries Muslim

But all these arguments, unfortunately, often do not act on those who are in love. They say: "I still will only be happy with him, and therefore I don't care what God and the Church say." Talking so can not, of course, be considered an Orthodox Christian. But she and we have something to say. After all, on baptism, she still belongs to the church, and until the death of secret ties connect it with the body of Christ. This is honored, and responsible. The one who has already entered the covenant with God, albeit in childhood, can never become such as those who initially alien to the Creator. The prodigal son is still a son. God says: "Yes, there will be no such man between you, who, having heard the words of the curse of this, would boast in his heart, saying:" I will be happy, despite the fact that I will walk on my heart of my "... I will not forgive the Lord Such, but immediately the anger of the Lord and the rage of him on such a person will be ruined, and all the curse of the covenant of this will fall on him, and the Lord will tell him from the Middle Kingdom; And Separate His Lord for Die "(Dev. 29, 20-21).

But in terms of practical, such a marriage for a person brought up in a Christian tradition will definitely be unhappy. After all, the relationship to the woman in Islam is unbearably unbearable for those who are raised on the ideas between her husband and wife as a norm of married life. For those who do not believe, it is worth leading the Islamic norms of attitudes towards his wife who will have to perform that unhappy in the event that she wishes to break the word of God. So, from the point of view of Islam, "a woman is obliged to take his spouse and assign him a complete obedience, except in cases where he requires Islam forbidden." Woman comes to her husband's family. Without his permission, she cannot be removed from the house, as well as to engage in professional activities.

The spouse has the right to visit his parents and close relatives, although her husband can ban she to meet with her children from the past marriage. In some Muslim countries, the husband can reduce their wife's meetings with their parents to one week later. The wife has the right to abandon married relations with her husband only if he has not made the proportion of dowry in the marriage contract, or during the post. An unreasonable refusal of his wife will lead to its "removal", i.e. divorce. This will end for it and the use of contraceptives. The Holy Book of Muslims Koran encourages husbands to punish a wives in case of their disobedience, disagreement or simply in order to improve the nature. In the Qur'an it says that "God raised men by their essence over women, and besides the husbands pay the marriage dowry ... Burn them, intimidate when they do not listen ... - Bates them. If the wives are obedient, then be consolidated to them "(Koran 4.38; 4, 34). The Muslim Theologian Al-Gazali calls the marriage "a variety of slavery for a woman. Her life becomes a complete obedience to her husband in everything, if he does not break the laws of Islam. " Education of children is the exceptional right of her husband. Even if the wife belongs to one of the "religions of the Revelation", that is, if it is a jew or a Christian. Education of children in an obseria is prohibited by Muslim law. "

Christian in Islam. Description of reality

And now we will give a memoiler from Islam, describing from the inside all the "charms" of the Islamic family for those who left Christ to Magomet:

Then I suggested Fatih to move to me. We lived about a month together. This time was very heavy. I sat at my mother, (she lives alongside) and was afraid of the arrival of Fatiha home, as he wanted me to sit at home. Fatih, in turn, was afraid to come home to this atmosphere of fear and anxiety. I talked to the priest. He advised to start gradually to convey to Fatiha that I could not be Muslim. I started from afar. Soon Fatih went to Turkey for 2 months. While he was not, I bumbled freedom and realized that I could not. We communicated over the Internet, and I all said to say that, maybe Islam is not my way. He persuaded me to come to Turkey. There we often quarreled, and I understood more and more that it could not go further. Fatih accused me of many shortcomings, and I agreed with him. I really saw all my viciousness and sinfulness, egoism and pride, and much more. But how could I fix it? After all, in Islam there were no answers to it! In Islam says how you have to do, but it is not said what to do if it does not work. And Christ came to Earth and took upon all our sins. And if we turn to Him and pray to him to eliminate sins, and commitory it cleansing blood and a pre-body, then a transformation will be gradually.

What I feel if I tell "do" or "do not". I'm weak. And so, after another quarrel, I told Fatih that I did not see another way out, how to become a Christian. I can't change for the better in Islam, and after all he wants me to change for the better. Since then, we never cease to part. At first he gave me a deadline for reflection, is it really what I want. I flew to Germany, after a few days he arrived. He arrived not to me, but to his parents, and began to live with them. And in the meantime, I put an icon in the apartment and brought a couple of Orthodox books. When he came to me, he asked what I decided. He saw the answer in the form of an icon. He immediately left. He said that things will take it later. A few days later I went to the church, for the holiday of cross-shift. He called me on a mobile and said that I was now at home, as he wants to pick up things. I said I can't, as today is a big holiday. Then he just came to church. In such an annoyance, I have never seen it, he made me ride with him. He told me about the following: "I dressed with knowledgeable people, it turns out, I have no right to be married to you if you are a Christian, it is forbidden to be for a ball (me in mind my verogrant). Marry Muslim, or we will break up forever. And now your life does not mean anything, every Muslim is allowed to kill you. "

And still there is no man relatively him, we understand each other without words, despite everything. Now, when I was choking, as I could, when I was knowing the newly love of Christ, even to death, to me, the last traitor, I understood a lot in Islam. I now know that in the visible cleanliness of the empty Muslim Muslims. Once, reading the book by Said Nursi "Wonders of Mohammed," I drew attention to some kind of confusion of these wonders. I remember, for example, as the Prophet had to go to the toilet and for the sake of this nature thus lined up that as if he had contrived him from people. And the fact that many of the miracles were created during the war against the wrong, shook me. Is only miracles important? The Prophet did some miracles and at the same time killed the wrong misfortune, without sparing the lives of people who holy! And with the first sermons of the apostle Peter, about 3,000 people appealed, without any violence, with a weapon alone - the word performed by the Holy Spirit. If Christian-martyrs testified to the faith of their death, then Muslims - killing others. Is the Spirit of God, is there grace? If it says in the Qur'an: "And the adulteress and adultery - each of them sek hundreds of weaves. Let it not cover you a pity for them in the name of the Faith of Allah, if you believe in Allah and on the day. And when they punish them, let the witnesses be a certain number of believers "(24: 2), then in the gospel as opposed to the opposite: when" led to him a woman taken in adultery ... He ... said to them: which of you without sin, Let the first throw a stone in me ... And when, being implanted with conscience, everyone went away, he said: I do not condemn you; Go continue not sin "(in. 8, 3-11). Many such can be found if you read the Quran and the Gospel. Thank God for his mercy to sinners. So I am from them, and I feel love to me every day. God forbid you all the joy perfect! "

AND WHAT ABOUT LOVE?

"He does not order a heart" - many answers, listening to all these arguments. And here you have to say two things.

First, if you say so, then, in fact, your love for a potential spouse is simply very weak. How can we talk about the love that comes to the fact that the beloved after death will forever become inaccessible for a loving person? After all, width in such a marriage is the beginning of the energic separation. Whatever the relationships were before, you will not meet with your loved ones in everyday eternity. After all, the one who died in Islam, he did not adopt baptism, was not born from the water and the Spirit and does not inherit the kingdom of God (John 3, 5). Muslim does not believe in the Son of God, and therefore will not see life, but God's wrath is on him (John 3, 36). After his death, his soul comes into hell, aggravated by the load as the initial adam's badge and its own, not forgiven by God, sins. Many saints with sorrow saw Magomet and his followers tormented in fiery abyss.

As one of the visions describing the Muslim Father's Illumination, I will give the memory of Squimonha Nikolai Confessor (in the world Yusuf Abdul Oglas 1820-1893), former Muslim, recorded pre. Warsanophyhem Optina:

"I saw a great and immeasurable abyss, filled with darkness, but this darkness did not prevent me to see in her terrible depth of the prince of darkness in the form, as he is depicted in church paintings; In his arms, he was sitting Judas, who kept her lobs in his hands. Near the prince of Darkness stood a false prophet Muhammed in Ryasla green and the same color of Chalme. Around Satan, which was like the center of the reproach, on all the impossible space, I saw a lot of people of any state, gender and age, but I did not notice any of the familiar between them. From the abyss came to me cries of despair and the strange horror, which it is impossible to convey words. "

Can a loving heart come to accept such terrible fate who is preparing for himself? Can it allow this? It is impossible to talk about love when you know that your husband, a wife, children (whom will be forced to accept Islam under the threat of divorce) will be forever to suffer.

They say often that let it be better in flour, but with his beloved, than without him, but in paradise. But it is nonsense and not true. In the hell there is no place for love or to communicate. Hell - the place is inhuman. Once, the reverend Macarius went through the desert and saw the skull, which was spoken by the power of God. He belonged to the Idolian priest. This ID thanked Makaria for his prayers and said that the inhabitants of hell receive great relief.

What is it? - asked the Rev..

We are standing back to each other surrounded by the pillar of the flame, the backs of each other, - answered the priest. - And when you pray, the flame goes a little. We see the face of the other and get a great consolation from this.

So hell is the place of eternal loneliness, and all the hopes for the meeting there are empty. Especially the meeting is not possible when one escaped, and the other died.

So, if you love a person - turn him to Christ to the Savior, let him be baptized, and then marry, and live happily. God to help you! Your marriage can get an eternal continuation in the heavenly kingdom, where you will no longer husband and wife, but an eternal brother and sister before the shining face of a loving father.

The second thing that can be said about the "order of the heart" is what consistently conducted, this principle completely denies any marriage. If we only need to obey hearts, not guided by the mind, nor faithful, nor the Word of God, then there is nothing to join treason. After all, you will not order the heart! And if so - why, ask, and to enter into marriage?

In fact, the mistake here is that under the word "love" often understand the special state of feelings, and this is not the case. Feelings are only a consequence of such a state of will, which comes from God. Just because love and may be the commandment of the Lord. After all, it would be absurd to demand from a person to create in themselves the feelings over which he is not obviously dominated!

According to the "Orthodox confession", "love accommodates divine decades." Catechism (a summary of the Orthodox faith) argues that "True love naturally manifests itself through good deeds."

Prep. John Distrownik says that "Love in quality to his own way is to like to God, how many of the time people can achieve; According to its own way, it is the ecstasy of the soul; And according to the property - the source of faith, the abyss of long-suffering, the sea of \u200b\u200bhumility. Love, Actually, there is a deposition of any nasty thinking, for Luba does not think evil. Love, impassivity and cunning (adoption of God) differ among themselves among only names "Thus, for Christians, it is obvious that true love is impossible without Orthodox faith. For, as the same reverend writes, "in my mind, faith is like a beam, hope - light, and love - the Sun Circle. Yet they constitute one radiance and one lightness. "

For us, it seems completely unthinkable the possibility of true love where the beloved does not believe in God or believes in him completely wrong. All these feelings, referred to as love, are, according to the leverbox, the so-called. "Natural love", inherent, among other things, and animals. This condition is not fertile, and therefore "the forbus mixes to her, as sometimes we see in the pigeon-lousy lice." In this sense, it is impossible to build, of course, the Christian family, and it does not lead a person to holiness.

From the book: Priest Daniel Sysoev. "Muslim marriage."

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Legislation on the possibility of marriage between Orthodox Citizens of the Russian Federation and citizens of another religion

Fat relations, their official consolidation of documents are regulated by the Family Code of the Russian Federation, if the marriage is in the territory of the Russian Federation or one of the pair has Russian citizenship.

In art. 156 of the RF IC, as well as in other legislation, no item It mentions the religion of citizens and does not impose any restrictions on due to the belonging of people to a particular religious group.

The Russian Federation is a multinational country, with various confessions existing in parallel.

In large cities there are orthodox temples, synagogues, and mosques, and the Catholic churches. The very citizenship of any of the countries does not define a person as a person being confessed by some particular religion, religion comes from the depths of family traditions.

Another issue of compatibility and adoption of laws adopted in various confessional groups. Orthodoxy, for example, does not impose such a rigid framework for the behavior and life of a woman like Islam. In countries where Muslim is dominated, there are serious differences from the life rules on which the relations of Orthodox Christians are building.

Features of marriage registration

It would seem what the difference where to register relationships is in the homeland of the spouse or in his own country.

But it turns out that the difference is there, and significant.

The wedding, passing on religious laws - in the Church, Temple, Mosque, Synagogue - does not make a union official, that is, legally not fixed documented, only the record of civil status acts provides rights inherent in spouses, including property.

In Russian federation

Legislation in the face of paragraph 2 of Art. 156 of the RF CK suggests that the laws of the country that this person is, but regarding only consent to the union, marriage, restrictions, is applied for each of the people of the country in the territory of the Russian Federation.

This legislative act indicates that if one of the future family has citizenship of the Russian Federation, all laws of the Russian Federation are applicable to this marriage, and if the second half is represented, for example, the citizenship of Germany, the norms of law can be applied to this candidate Only German legislation.

At the same time, it does not matter, which faith eats each of the pair.

It is important that the marriage is recognized in the homeland to be recognized, so you need to comply with the rules of entry into the union of another country. For example, there is a big scatter in the age so that the union is valid: non-compliance can lead to the homeland of the spouse.

If between the Russian Federation and the country, a citizen of which is the second of the pair, there is a special agreement, that is, the ability to register this union in the consulate, while the citizenship of the Russian Federation will remain for our person.

In a Muslim country

In other Muslim countries, like Iraq, Iran, Saudi Arabia, etc., the polygamy of the norm of life is still recognized and the stringent rules that infiltrate the rights of women are still recognized.

Marriage in the Muslim state does not require any registration, this procedure Simple and simple: a proposal is made, which is accepted or rejected. The marriage contract is a man with each of his spouse separately. Rights in such a family, as well as responsibilities, completely different for the spouse and his wives.

Property rights are recognized for representatives of four separately each.

In the Muslim country, marriage must pass the procedure under the laws of this state - on Muslim custom, otherwise the Union will not be recognized. A citizen of the Russian Federation (any religion) must take care that the Union is also legitimate in returning to his homeland, therefore, it should be applied to the consulate of the Russian Federation on the territory of the Muslim country, to appear at the reception hours along with the second half, with documents. It is necessary that the union, what the document will be issued after recording in a special book.

The passport of a citizen of the Russian Federation should not have marks on the presence of an active marriage, but in any case they will make a request and find out this, since the lack of official relations is one of the main conditions for the registration of the marriage.

What you need to know Christians who have entered into Muslims marriage

Before binding ourselves to the moods with Muslims, Christians are important to understand some circumstances arising after the execution of this step.

Men

The Christian, who became Muslims, will have to prepare for the fact that there will be increased demands on the material support of the family, because according to the laws of Sharia, the contents of his wife and children - the duty of a man exclusively, and if she deems his efforts not to be fruitful, it may seek divorce.

Having received a Muslim man in his wife, a male Christian becomes the owner of obedient, reliable, worker and not prone to face girlfriend in life. In the presence of a good material base, such an alliance has a favorable forecast for many years, mostly Muslim women are true, restrained and patient.

Woman

A Christian woman needs to weigh a hundred times before creating a family with Muslim.

Even if it is a modern man who has a higher education, he with Mother's milk gets used to dominance over a weak floor. You should not be sure that in a few years he will have only one Christian in his wives, on the contrary - it can be assumed that it can be completely legally to have up to four wives.

A man who is a commitment to such a denomination is accustomed from childhood to obedience to women, to their conversation. There is no hint of equality, the husband is dominant in everything, behind him all rights. He should only pronounce the words about the unwillingness to be in this union - and everything, marriage for his wife is finished.

Children born in such marriages remain in the Muslim families of their fathers, the struggle in courts is practically unpromising, and children will never be able to go home to the mother's homeland. Do not have the right to vote, a direct look, raised by the head - to this, get used to this after the Christian perception of the equal, is unrealistic difficult.

Number of records: 28

Good day! I am married with Muslim. Moreover, we passed the Muslim rite of nicknames. Before deciding on this, I spoke to Imam personally. He assured me in the fact that Islam take me not necessarily. What, in fact, I did not. Just attended when making a rite, nothing repeated. Is it a terrible sin, and what needs to be done to be cleaned? And one more question. We really want kids. What prayer need to read, so that everything happens? Very waiting for your help! Thank you!

Yulia

Hello Julia. Why are you worried now, when everyone decided to themselves and their decision themselves? Big is sin or not, you will see for yourself when you try to fulfill your faith in life. As long as you just consider yourself a Christian, it's one thing, but when you try to live in Christian, then you will see that it really is a marriage with an inner. You should know that under the name "Nicky" most often masked the prodigal cohabitation. In the event that the state registration of marriage was not implemented, this is not a marriage, but the cohabitation, whatever the rite is not so worked. And there are no legal rights in this case.

ieria Alexander Beloslud

Hello! Help me. I am Russian. Muslim bridegroom. Can I thormer in our church and put candles? Thank you.

tatyana

Hello Tatiana. In the notes of unresolved, you should not write, and you yourself can pray and put candles with prayer. Help you God.

ieria Sergiy Osipov

Igumen Nikona. Bless. My husband and I live with your parents, everything is fine. Of course, there are disagreements, I used to be very angry when they drank and convened guests, but now, by the grace of God, we live in different homes in the same yard, so easily. Of course, they help us very much, save their Lord. My husband has a sister, she is married to Uzbek, they have two children. It so happened that her husband is constantly drawn into all sorts of stories for parents. Then the relatives came to him (here we yourself are to blame, the parents such a feast rid that they did not leave us with poor, and now they think that we are rich, and our mildes are in general), then they went there 2 times went there for our score. The most interesting thing before he married, and did not think there to ride 10 years. Then he again drove away, got on the money, and they sissed and sister. He again poured, began to live with a woman, and she took her a huge amount of money, opened the store, almost a touch. And now, the sister returned to him, not knowing anything, her son gave birth to him, and here that woman took everything, threatening with violence and our family too. I have worked there when everything happened. By the grace of God, with them and parents opened their own business, they took money on credit and began to work, giving his debts for 2 years. Now he forgot everything, demanded them an apartment, repair. The apartment was taken under the mortgage on my husband, this is Mom (mother-in-law) everything decides, and, of course, all financial issues. And they ride in the summer again rest. My husband and I have never been anywhere, and so many debts, we have 3 children, and at least that. When I say something, immediately "cats of darkeys", they also work there by sellers, my husband supplies, I am an accountant, the mother-in-law distributes. Children are constantly sent to us. I say: hire the seller, so I need a revision there, they are lazy, and children with snot and temperature - to us, and I have your own more. Nothing understands, of course, and the mother-in-law allows them. I really want us to be financially independent, but the husband is silent. And so, the father, I became so unbearable, angry with children, and the worst, condemn. What do i do? Sorry for the verbose.

Yulia

Julia, not easy to have a situation, but not very complicated. It is not necessary to despair. This node start unraveling from your husband: he needs to explain everything again, to present the situation clearly, so that he can "wake up" and take a firm position, and not to go for everyone. The most important thing for him is the benefit of your family and children. It must be emphasized again. As soon as the husband comprehends what is happening, everything else will be solved to you much easier. God bless you!

igumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello! Answer: My brother wants to baptize the daughter, and wants the godfather to be my husband, but he is a Muslim. Is it possible to baptize the child?

Irina

Hello Irina. Of course not. Is it possible to give birth to a horse? Even Christians who wish to become a godfather should not be simply formally baptized, but incense with Orthodox Christians, leading life in the commandments of Christ. Before the baptism of the child, you will definitely need to undergo catechism, where everyone will tell.

ieria Alexander Beloslud

Hello, father! I am a Christian, my boyfriend Muslim, are going to get married, he persuaded on Nicky. I would like to know if you make nicknames, children will appear in the future, they want to baptize them, as the baptized itself, can I visit the church as before? Is it a sin to me nickname?

Anna

Hello Anna. You can visit the temple, but you will not allow the sacraments until you register a lawful marriage in the registry office and do not bring repentance in what participated in an innovative rite. Nickname is made by Mullah or Imam. Mandatory condition is the affiliation of the bride and groom to Islam. If there is no speech about this, then you are simply inclined to the past.

ieria Alexander Beloslud

Hello, father! I am an Orthodox Christian, Muslim Husband. Daughter 4 months. The husband wants to put it in the mosque, I want and think that it is necessary to baptize. How to proceed? Save me, God!

Lyudmila

Hello, Lyudmila! Since you have decided to marry Muslim, it was necessary to specify such an important question in advance. Of course, it is better that the child is baptized so that you can always pray to God for your daughter, drive it into the temple, to approach the holy body and blood of Christ.

ieria Vladimir Shllykov

Good day. Tell me, please, how to properly pray for your daughter, ask for her help? The fact is that coming out married, she moved into another faith. I myself am Orthodox. Thanks in advance for the answer.

Elena

In something, probably, you underwent that for the daughter of Orthodoxy did not become the most expensive treasure in life. Pray for her, asking for the inspection, with the words: the blinded dashing of my Light of your knowledge of the Cathedral of the Church of the Cathedral of the Church of the Cathedral of the Church of the Cathedral of the Church of the Cathedral of the Church.

archpriest Andrei Efanov

Hello, good people! I want to thank the speakers for your site to which you can resort to the question! And thank you very much for your attention to us and help in our problems. I have a question. The fact is that I loved the man of another faith (Ilam), although I myself baptized and Orthodox! What should I do? Will I have a sin for accommodation with this man? We want to make a marriage before God, but our Orthodox, from Muslims is distinguished by the rite of marriage conclusion before God! The question is whether I can make marriage, being baptized in Orthodox faith, with Muslim? Does it allow the Lord? After all, as I think, as for me, we are all the same before God!

Lena, on our site there is a tag - "Marriage with Muslim". Please pay attention to this, click on it, and read everything. Many interesting is written. But you must understand the following: civil marriage (I mean registration in the registry office), of course, it is possible, but no religious rite can be! First, we are crowned only by Orthodox. Secondly, participation in marriage in the Muslim rite is a bet of its Orthodox faith. You are clearly in love with this person, discourage you, I think it is pointless, but it is necessary to warn. If he is a faithful, practitioner Muslim, then you will have to take first customs (clothes, complete obedience to your husband (do not leave the house without permission, for example), kitchen, corporal punishment of wives, etc., and after, you look, not only by Chadra We dress, but faith accept them. Come on. Think!

archpriest Maxim Hiji.

I am Orthodox, can I marry Muslim, I will not change faith, but I want to be with this person.

Akilin

You can register your marriage in the registry office. Church marriage, of course, is impossible. The church does not regulate civil relations. But we warn that Muslims are different. There are those who will require the transition from you to Islam, to fulfill its laws (for example, complete humility of her husband) will not let baptize children, etc. Think well before you decide on such a step.

archpriest Maxim Hiji.

Hello, dear clergymen of the Russian Orthodox Church. I would like to know very much how the Orthodox Church refers to the marriages of people of different religions? In particular, I am an Orthodox Christian, and my spouse Muslim. Many people really censure us very categorically. Is this a violation of the canons of the Orthodox faith? Thank you in advance and from the bottom of my heart.

Anna

Dear Ann! These questions had to ask themselves before marriage. Priests warn everyone who concludes mixed (in religious terms) marriages, the possible serious consequences of this step. First, who will be your children? How will you decide on the religious education of your chad? Secondly, personal relationships depend on the traditions that the family adheres to. If you are a Christian, how will you celebrate the Muslim holidays of your husband? It is unacceptable for believers. One thing from politeness to congratulate the neighbor, and another thing to participate in the feast of sacrifice with your husband. The family ethics of Islam and Orthodoxy is very different. In Islam - the complete humility of his wife, clothes for clothing, sexual standards not taken by Christianity. Very often, Muslims and Christians live in marriage peacefully, when they themselves are insane, any believers. Other than one of them, more often a woman, go to her husband's faith. Change Christ ... I would not want your family to collapse. Perhaps your strong feeling, married love, will help you find a way out, which can arrange God to care for you. But "Buchet Yako is dangerous." Learn your faith, live in the church.

archpriest Maxim Hiji.

Hello, tell me how to be, a loved one made me a sentence, he Muslim, persuaded me to accept Islam, and just threw in front of Nicky, now I am not a Muslim, because accepted Islam for his sake, and in the soul I remained a Christian, how can I be in such a situation, help

victoria

Dear Victoria, you feel like a Christian, and therefore you need to repent of confession to the sin of God-step-mindedness and to the future more seriously treat your spiritual life. We regularly attend the temple, participate in the sacraments of the church, pray at home, read the spiritual literature and strive to live a godly. It will protect you from the actions leading to the death of the soul. God bless you!

archpriest Andrei Efanov

Hello! I am married to Muslim, I have two children, my daughter is baptized, and my son is no ... Son is soon the most important exam, tell me if I pray for help him?

Tatyana

Hello Tatiana! Pray for the son in home prayer.

ieria Vladimir Shllykov

Hello, help, please advice. I am married to Muslim, he and his relatives are categorically against baptism. I want the child to be an angel and defense, and I say that there is nothing wrong with that. He says: go to the mosque, let them read a prayer there. I want to baptize the child while away from the departure, is it not considered a sin?

Yulia

Hello Julia. Sin is everything that harms a person, and the soul, and the body, and in this life, and in the future. If you can follow the Gospel yourself, execute the commandments of Christ, to be the faithful daughter of the Orthodox Church and give Christian education to the child, then your desire to baptize it. And if you bring up a child to a Muslim, then why baptize? No "protection" he will not receive. Moreover, if you baptize the child, and he will grow up a Muslim, then the sin of the versictation will not be on it, but for you. For everything you need to pay. You have made your choice, coming out married an inner. In such a marriage can not be unnecessary. What remains? Pray to save your soul. God is merciful.

ieria Alexander Beloslud

Good afternoon. My name is Constantine. My mother was driving. I was baptized in childhood. But then I married Muslim and committed rites. But from faith I did not move back, I go to church, I read prayers. With my wife I have not lived for a long time. Do I need to rebuild it again?

Konstantin

You have already retreated from faith, dear Konstantin. You do not need to re-crush, yes it is impossible, but you need to repent in this sin. If your Mama-Knevka was from the uninterpreters, it is enough to repent of confession in this sin. If she baptized you in any split, then in order to become Orthodox, you need to accept worldware. God bless you!

archpriest Andrei Efanov

Is it possible to order a prayer (forty) for her husband, Muslim? He really believes in it, I can not convince him.

Elena

Elena, Sorokoust can not be ordered, but just prayer - you can. But it would be very desirable that you would be warned by the father that Muslim will be among the names of prayers, and at least briefly described the reason why, ask him to pray for your husband. Then he will not perceive it as a mistake, and will pray for your husband consciously.

igumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello, Batyushka. I am such a question. My son is married to the girl of Muslim faith. He himself is baptized in the Orthodox faith, and his son too. The son is 8 months old, we take it periodically to the church to the communion, and my husband and I are choking. In the family of my son constantly there is holy water, and they often apply it. They sing her baby, wash it, he gets calmer from this, sleeps better. In the last 2 months, 2 times the holy water they got green. On your site I found an answer, why it turns out, and I myself understand that the reason in their spiritual life. But they continue to ask me to bring them again holy water, and I cannot convince them that they need to change their lives. I have this question: if the Lord burns, so that the Holy Water they take such a look at the edification of them, will there be keen on my part to continue to give them holy water? How do you think? Thank you.