Questionnaire for the style of parental upbringing behavior E.G. Eidemiller. Questionnaire Teenagers about their parents. L.I. Wasserman, E.E. Romitsyna

15.05.2019

Questionnaire "Teens about parents"

Description of the method

The questionnaire "Behavior of parents and adolescent attitudes towards them" studies the attitudes, behavior and methods of parenting as seen by their children in adolescence, and allows to describe the relationship with the parent according to the most common manifestations: benevolence, hostility, autonomy, directiveness and inconsistency of the parent.

The basis of this questionnaire is the technique that Schafer created in 1965; in Russia it was adapted by the staff of the Clinical Psychology Laboratory of the Institute. Bekhterev Wasserman L. I, Gorkova I. A., and began to be actively used under the name ADOR ("Teenagers about their parents"). This technique is based on Schafer's position that the educational impact of parents (as children describe it) can be characterized using three factor variables:

§ acceptance-emotional rejection;

§ psychological control-psychological autonomy;

§ hidden control - open control.

At the same time, acceptance here implies an unconditionally positive attitude towards the child, regardless of the original expectations of the parents. Emotional rejection is seen as a negative attitude towards the child, lack of love and respect for him, and sometimes just hostility. The concept of psychological control denotes both a certain pressure and deliberate guidance of children, and a degree of consistency in the implementation of educational principles.

Procedure for

Before the start of the experiment, the teenager is brought up to date on the goals and objectives of the study, after which he is presented with instructions.

Instructions

We ask you to evaluate, based on your own experience, which of these provisions are most typical for your parents. To do this, carefully read each statement, not missing any of them. If you think the statement is fully consistent with the parenting principles of your father (or mother), circle the number '2'. Circle '1' if you think this statement is partly appropriate for your father (or mother). If, in your opinion, the statement does not apply to your father (or mother), circle the number '0'.

Processing of results

After the teenager has filled out both forms (for the father and for the mother), all the data obtained are summarized in a "score sheet" separately for the mother and the father.

Key

Rooms statements	Accrual scores	Rooms statements	Accrual scores	Rooms statements	Accrual scores	Rooms statements	Accrual scores	Rooms statements	Accrual scores










Raw scores
Standard scores

Then, for each parameter, the arithmetic sum of raw points is calculated:

§ POZ- positive interest;

§ DIR- directiveness;

§ HOS- hostility;

§ AUT- autonomy;

§ NED- inconsistency.

If the parameter came out with 1-2 points, then we can say that it is weakly expressed, but if it is 4-5, then the measured quality is expressed quite clearly. Then, on a special form, assessment profiles of relationships to both the mother and the father are built.

Interpretation of results

Mother's son evaluation

Positive interest scale

First of all, adolescent boys see the psychological acceptance of the mother in a relatively critical approach to them. Adolescents often feel the need for help and support from their mother, in most cases they accept her opinion, tend to agree with her. The same forms of behavior as imperiousness, suspicion, tendency to leadership are denied. At the same time, sons do not expect excessive conformism from their mother, up to the tendency to "be led by". However, mere competent behavior, a friendly way of communication, and normal emotional contacts are not enough for the adolescent to argue that the mother has a positive interest in him. They strive for overprotection of a strong, adult and independent person.

Directiveness scale

The adolescents see the directiveness of the mother in relation to her son in the imposition of guilt on her in relation to her, her declarations and constant reminders that “the mother sacrifices everything for her son,” fully takes responsibility for everything that she did, does and will do child. The mother, as it were, affirms the initial dependence of her status and the assessment of those around her on her son's compliance with the “standard of a child,” excluding the possibility of other options for self-expression. Thus, the mother seeks in any way to exclude the son's misbehavior, so as not to "lose face". Simple forms of manifestation of responsiveness, manifestations of sympathy, causing positive emotional relationships, negatively correlate with the directive form of interaction between the mother and the adolescent.

Hostility scale

The hostility of the mother in relations with her teenage son is characterized by her aggressiveness and excessive severity in interpersonal relationships. The mother’s focus exclusively on herself, her self-esteem, excessive self-assertion, as a rule, exclude the adoption of the child. He is perceived, first of all, as a rival who must be suppressed in order to assert his significance. Thus, emotional coldness towards a teenager is masked and is often passed off as restraint, modesty, adherence to "etiquette" and even submission to him. At the same time, there may be a pronounced suspicion, a tendency to excessive criticism of the son and those around him, the purpose of which is to humiliate them in the eyes of others. Along with this, positive activity, responsibility for the fate of his son, is constantly demonstrated (mainly at the verbal level).

Autonomy scale

The mother's autonomy in relations with her son is understood by him as diktat, complete rapture with power, even a certain mania in this regard, which does not recognize any variations. At the same time, the mother does not perceive the child as a person, with her feelings, thoughts, ideas and motives, she is a “blind” force of power and ambition, to which everyone, no matter what, is obliged to obey. At the same time, the adaptive form of mother's authority, based on trust and respect, as well as acceptable forms of harshness and harshness (when they take into account the situation), turn out to be not typical for the autonomy of mothers in relations with adolescent sons. Also, according to the sons, neither emotional attachment nor a friendly style of communication can be associated with the isolation, non-involvement of the mother in the affairs of her son.

Inconsistency scale

The inconsistency of the mother's upbringing line is assessed by adolescents as a kind of alternation (depending on the degree of informative significance) of such psychological tendencies as the dominance of strength and ambition and humility (in adaptive forms), delicacy and super-altruism and distrustful suspicion. Moreover, they all have a tendency to extreme forms of manifestation (the amplitude of fluctuations is maximum).

Father's son evaluation

Positive interest scale

A positive interest in a relationship with a son is seen as the absence of brute force, the desire for undivided power in communicating with him. Adolescents talk about positive interest in cases where fathers seek to achieve their location and respect for the father's authority, without resorting to declarations of dogma. The psychological acceptance of a son by a father is based primarily on trust. In such relationships, it is common to find the truth in an argument, listening to different arguments and giving preference to the logic of common sense. Any kind of conformism is completely denied here.

Directiveness scale

The father manifests directivity in relations with his son in the form of a tendency towards leadership, by gaining authority based on actual achievements and a dominant style of communication. His power over his son is expressed mainly in the management and timely correction of the child's behavior, excluding ambitious despotism. At the same time, he very clearly makes it clear to the child that for the sake of his well-being he sacrifices some part of his power; that this is not just patronage, but the desire to resolve everything peacefully, regardless of the degree of irritation.

Hostility scale

Abusive fathers always agree with conventional wisdom, stick to conventions too much, seek to satisfy others' demands to be a “good” father, and to maintain positive relationships. While raising, they try to educate their son in accordance with the idea of what an ideal child should be like in a given society and in a given culture. Fathers strive to give their sons a broader education, to develop various abilities, which often leads to an unbearable burden on the youthful body. Along with this, there is a complete dependence on the opinions of others, fear and helplessness, the inability to resist them. At the same time, in relation to his son, the father is harsh and pedantic. A teenager is constantly in a state of anxious expectation of a low assessment of his activities and punishment by parental rejection according to the formula: "How dare you not correspond to what is expected of you, because I sacrifice everything to make a person out of you." There is also a constant discontent, skepticism about the achievements of his son, which inevitably reduces the motivation of his activities.

Autonomy scale

The autonomy of a father in relations with his son is manifested in a formal attitude to upbringing, in excessive impartiality in the process of communication. Interaction is based on attitudes of strength and despotism. The father "notices" his son only in cases when he has done something, and even to analyze what happened, as a rule, there is "not enough time." The father is too busy with himself to delve into the life and problems of his son. He learns about them only from his requests for help or advice on a particular issue, not particularly overworking himself with explanations. He is not interested in his son's hobbies, his circle of acquaintances, studying at school, he only pretends that it bothers him. Often it just annoys him when his son turns to him. In his opinion, the son "should know everything himself."

Inconsistency scale

The latter see the inconsistency of the educational measures applied by the father in relation to his teenage sons in the unpredictability, the inability to foresee how their father will react to this or that situation, an event: whether he will subject his son to severe punishment for minor offenses or slightly scold him for something significant, simply by accepting the latter's assurances that this will not happen again; such a father will either “wash the bones” for a long time and meticulously, or will take on faith the assurances of his son of innocence, etc.

When comparing the practices of mothers and fathers in adolescent boys, the following characteristic differences are revealed. In the psychological acceptance of the son by the parents, the absence of a tendency towards leadership dominates in the fathers compared to the mothers, since they strive to achieve favor and respect for their authority without resorting to force, unlike mothers who, in exceptional cases, allow themselves authoritarianism in interpersonal relations “for the good "Child. At the same time, among mothers, boys note a critical approach to them and overprotectiveness as a positive interest, while fathers have more pronounced independence and firmness of positions. On the directivity scale, mothers tend to favor patronage as compared to fathers, since mothers are more inclined to influence their children with inductive techniques. Also, mothers are willing to compromise in order to achieve their goal, while fathers prefer authority to force. The hostility of mothers differs from the analogous characteristic of fathers in that in mothers it manifests itself as a result of the struggle for their independence, while in fathers it is rather a tendency towards conformity in relation to others.

The autonomy of mothers and fathers is based on a despotic "blind" power that does not tolerate indulgence, however, mothers notice an emphasis on the absence of prohibitions against adolescents, and fathers - fenced off. And both of them lack even a tendency to patronage, although fathers, as an exception, can break away from business and heed the requests of a teenager.

Inconsistency in the conduct of the line of upbringing in both parents is equally assessed by adolescents as a tendency towards extremely contradictory forms of manifestation with a maximum amplitude of expression. Moreover, for mothers, the opposite of strength and mistrust is compliance and hyperprojectivity, and for fathers - trustfulness and conformism.

Mother's daughter's assessment

Positive interest scale

Such mothers often approve of seeking help from their daughters in cases of quarrels or any difficulties, on the one hand, and limiting independence, on the other. Along with this, girls note the factor of indulgence, when the mother is, as it were, "running errands" and seeks to satisfy any desire of her daughter.

Directiveness scale

Describing the directivity of their mothers, adolescent girls noted tight control on their part, a tendency to easily exercise their power, based on ambition and not welcoming the expression of their daughter's own opinion. Such mothers rely more on the severity of punishment, stubbornly believing that they are "always right, and the children are still too young to judge it."

Hostility scale

The hostility of mothers to their teenage daughters is described as suspicion of the family environment and distance towards its members (in particular, children). Suspicious behavior and rejection of social norms lead them, as a rule, to fence off and elevate themselves above others.

Autonomy scale

The autonomy of mothers excludes any dependence on the child, his condition, requirements. Any form of care and guardianship in relation to daughters is also denied. Such mothers are rated by adolescents as condescending, undemanding. They practically do not encourage children, relatively rarely and sluggishly make comments, do not pay attention to upbringing.

Inconsistency scale

Under the inconsistency of educational practice on the part of the mother, girls understand a sharp change in style, techniques that represent a transition from very strict to liberal and, conversely, a transition from psychological acceptance of her daughter to emotional rejection of her.

Father's daughter's assessment

Positive interest scale

The daughters describe the father's positive interest as paternal self-confidence, the belief that not the notorious paternal strictness, but attention to the teenager, the warmth and openness of the relationship between the father and the teenage daughter are a manifestation of sincere interest. Psychological acceptance of the daughter is characterized by the absence of sharp changes from permissiveness to severe punishments, that is, warm friendly relations with a clear awareness of the boundaries of what is allowed and what is not prevail.

In this case, paternal prohibitions operate only against the background of paternal love.

Directiveness scale

Teenage girls present their father's directiveness as an image of a “firm male hand,” ready to either clench into a fist or indicate its place in society and, in particular, in the family. The directive father, as it were, directs the growing girl on the true path, forcing her to obey the norms and rules of behavior adopted in society and a certain culture, putting the commandments of morality into her soul.

Hostility scale

In this case, we are talking about such an unfavorable type of paternal attitude towards his daughter, as a combination of over-demanding, focused on the standard of the “ideal child” and corresponding too harsh dependence, on the one hand, and an emotionally cold, rejecting attitude, on the other. All this leads to disturbances in the relationship between a father and a teenage daughter, which in turn leads to an increased level of tension, nervousness and instability in the teenager.

Autonomy scale

Teenage girls describe the autonomy of their fathers as a claim to leadership, and leadership is inaccessible, inaccessible to interact with him. He seems to be a person fenced off from family problems as if by an invisible wall that exists in parallel with the rest of the family. The father does not care what is happening around him; his actions are often not consistent with the needs and demands of those close to him, whose interests are completely ignored.

Inconsistency scale

Here the father appears to be a completely unpredictable person. With a fairly high degree of probability, psychological tendencies, completely contradicting each other, can appear in his behavior, and the amplitude of fluctuations is maximum.

Thus, the characteristic differences in the assessments of the educational practices of mothers and fathers by adolescent girls are as follows. With positive interest and psychological acceptance among mothers, unlike fathers, trust and obedience come to the fore. Fathers, on the other hand, are dominated by self-confidence and lack of rigidity, authoritarianism in relations with their daughter, which excludes upbringing through forceful pressure. The directiveness of mothers is based solely on ambitious claims to power and strict control over the behavior of their daughter, and the directiveness of fathers, along with this, is also expressed depending on the opinions of others and narcissism. With hostility, emotional rejection in mothers, stubborn conformism and weak-willed dependence on the opinions of others are revealed, which comes from the father's claims to leading positions. For fathers, with a hostile educational practice in relation to their teenage daughter, cruelty and self-affirmation by power and strength come to the fore. Autonomy on the part of mothers is characterized by the absence of good human relations and isolation from the problems and interests of the daughter, while the father's autonomy is expressed in his unconditional leadership in the family and in the inaccessibility of communication with him for his daughter. With inconsistent educational practice in the context of contradictory manifestations, the characteristics of fathers and mothers appear to be the same.

The only difference is in tendencies such as self-sufficing self-assertion with hostile intransigence in fathers and subordination and distrust in mothers.

Stimulus material

Full Name__________________

	My father (my mother)		Partially
	He smiles at me very often

	Has a lack of patience with me
	When I leave, he decides for himself when I should return
	Always quickly forgets what he says or orders
	When I'm in a bad mood, advises me to calm down or have fun.
	Believes that I should have many rules that I must follow
	Constantly complains to someone about me
	Gives me as much freedom as I need
	For the same thing, he punishes once and forgives the other.
	Loves to do something together
	If he assigns any work, he thinks that I should only do it until I finish
	Begins to get angry and resentful about every little thing I've done
	Doesn't require me to ask him for permission to go wherever I want
	Refuses many of his affairs depending on my mood
	Tries to cheer and cheer me up when I'm sad
	Always insists that for all my wrongs I must be punished
	Little interested in what excites me and what I want
	Allows that I could go wherever I want every night
	Has certain rules, but sometimes follows them, sometimes not
	Always listens with understanding to my views and opinions
	Makes sure that I always do what I am told
	Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm disgusted with him
	Practically lets me do whatever I like
	My father (my mother) changes his decisions the way he (she) is comfortable
	Often praises me for something
	Always wants to know exactly what I am doing and where I am
	Wish I was different, changed
	Allows me to choose my own business
	Sometimes he forgives me very easily, and sometimes he doesn't.
	He tries to openly show that he loves me
	Always monitors what I do on the street or at school
	If I do something wrong, he constantly and everywhere talks about it
	It gives me a lot of freedom. Rarely says "must" or "must not"
	Unpredictable in my actions if I do something good or bad
	Believes that I should have my own opinion on every issue
	Always carefully monitors what kind of friends I have
	Will not talk to me until I start myself, if before that I hurt him with something or offend
	Always forgives me easily
	Praises and punishes very inconsistently: sometimes too much and sometimes too little
	Always makes time for me when I need it
	Constantly tells me how to behave
	It is possible that, in essence, he hates me
	I plan vacations of my own free will
	Sometimes it can offend, and sometimes it is kind and grateful.
	Will always answer frankly any question that I would not ask
	Often checks if I cleaned everything up as he ordered
	Neglect me as it seems to me
	Doesn't interfere with whether or not I clean my room (or corner) - this is my fortress
	Very vague in his desires and directions

Literature

1. Workshop on developmental psychology: Textbook. allowance / Ed. ,. - SPb.: Rech, 2002. - P.640-652.

2., Romitsina adolescents about their parents. - M. - SPb .: Folium, 1995.

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Diagnostics of parent-child relationships helps to find out what exactly the child feels while in his own home, what experiences, excitements torment him every day. With the help of special tests, we can understand what kind of situation prevails in the family and how this affects the fragile personality of the child.

Test "Teens About Parents"

Description:

The Parental Behavior and Adolescent Attitude Questionnaire (ADOR - adolescent about parents for short) examines the attitudes, behaviors and methods of parenting as seen by their children in adolescence.

The basis is the questionnaire that Schafer created in 1965. This technique is based on Schafer's position that the educational influence of parents (as children describe it) can be characterized using three factor variables: acceptance-emotional rejection, psychological control-psychological autonomy , hidden control is open control. At the same time, acceptance here implies an unconditionally positive attitude towards the child, regardless of the original expectations of the parents.

Emotional rejection is seen as a negative attitude towards the child, lack of love and respect for him, and sometimes just hostility. The concept of psychological control denotes both a certain pressure and deliberate guidance of children, and a degree of consistency in the implementation of educational principles.

The use of the questionnaire in Czechoslovakia on a sample of young people showed the need for its revision and adaptation to socio-cultural conditions. A modified version of the questionnaire was proposed by Z. Mateichik and P. Richan in 1983.

In the course of international scientific cooperation of the laboratory of clinical psychology of the Institute. VM Bekhterev with the Institute of Psychodiagnostics (Bratislava, Slovakia), this technique was tested on adolescents 13-18 years old in Russia, as provided by the authors of the modification.

Instructions:

Before starting the experiment, the teenager is brought up to date on the goals and objectives of the study, after which he is presented with the following instructions:

"2" "1" "0" ".

Test:

My father (my mother)	Yes	Partially	No
He smiles at me very often





































Always forgives me easily

Raw data processing:

After the teenager has filled out both forms (for the father and for the mother), all the data obtained are summarized in a "score sheet" separately for the mother and the father. Then, for each parameter, the arithmetic sum of raw points is calculated.

The scale of positive interest includes questions 1, 6, 11, 16, 21, 26, 31, 36, 41, 46.

To the directivity scale - 2, 7, 12, 17, 22, 27, 32, 37, 42, 47.

To the scale of hostility - 3, 8, 13, 18, 23, 28, 33, 38, 43, 48.

To the scale of autonomy - 4, 9, 14, 19, 24, 29, 34, 39, 44, 49.

The inconsistency scale is 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50.

Standardized data range from 1 to 5 and the average value is the norm, ie 3. If the parameter is 1-2 points, then we can say that it is poorly expressed, but if 4-5, then the measured quality is expressed quite clearly.

Then, assessment profiles of relationships to both the mother and the father are built on a special form.

Interpretation of scales:

1. Evaluation of the mother by the son.

Scale of positive interest.

First of all, adolescent boys see the psychological acceptance of the mother in a relatively critical approach to them. Adolescents often feel the need for help and support from their mother, in most cases they accept her opinion, tend to agree with her. The same forms of behavior as imperiousness, suspicion, tendency to leadership are denied. At the same time, sons do not expect excessive conformism from their mother, up to the tendency to "be led by". However, mere competent behavior, a friendly way of communication, and normal emotional contacts are not enough for the adolescent to argue that the mother has a positive interest in him. They strive for the extra care of a strong, adult and independent person.

Directiveness scale.

Hostility scale.

The hostility of the mother in relations with her teenage son is characterized by her aggressiveness and excessive severity in interpersonal relationships. The mother’s focus exclusively on herself, her self-esteem, excessive self-assertion, as a rule, exclude the adoption of the child. He is perceived, first of all, as a rival who must be suppressed in order to assert his significance. Thus, emotional coldness towards a teenager is masked and is often passed off as restraint, modesty, adherence to "etiquette" and even submission to him. At the same time, there may be a pronounced suspicion, a tendency to excessive criticism of the son and others, the purpose of which is the desire to humiliate them in the eyes of others. Along with this, positive activity, responsibility for the fate of his son, is constantly demonstrated (mainly at the verbal level).

Autonomy scale.

Inconsistency scale.

2. Evaluation of the father by the son.

Scale of positive interest.

Directiveness scale.

Hostility scale.

Autonomy scale.

Inconsistency scale.

When comparing the practices of mothers and fathers in adolescent boys, the following characteristic differences are revealed. In the psychological acceptance of the son by the parents, the absence of a tendency towards leadership dominates in the fathers compared to the mothers, since they strive to achieve favor and respect for their authority without resorting to force, unlike mothers who, in exceptional cases, allow themselves authoritarianism in interpersonal relations “for the good "Child. At the same time, among mothers, boys note a critical approach to them and overprotection as a positive interest, while fathers have more pronounced independence and firmness of positions. On the directivity scale, mothers tend to favor patronage as compared to fathers, since mothers are more inclined to influence their children with inductive techniques. Also, mothers are willing to compromise in order to achieve their goal, while fathers prefer authority to force. The hostility of mothers differs from a similar characteristic of fathers in that in mothers it manifests itself as a result of the struggle for their independence, while in fathers it is rather a tendency towards comfort in relation to others.

The autonomy of mothers and fathers is based on despotic "blind" power that does not tolerate indulgence, however, mothers have noticed an emphasis on the absence of prohibitions against adolescents, and fathers - fenced off. And both of them lack even a tendency to patronage, although fathers, as an exception, can break away from business and heed the requests of a teenager.

3. Evaluation of the mother by the daughter.

Scale of positive interest.

A positive attitude towards a daughter on the part of a mother, based on psychological acceptance, is described by adolescent girls as an attitude towards a small child who constantly requires attention, care, help, who in itself can do little. Such mothers often approve of seeking help from their daughters in cases of quarrels or any difficulties, on the one hand, and limiting independence, on the other. Along with this, girls note the factor of indulgence, when the mother is, as it were, "running errands" and seeks to satisfy any desire of her daughter.

Directiveness scale.

Hostility scale.

Autonomy scale.

Inconsistency scale.

4. Assessment of the father by the daughter.

Scale of positive interest.

In this case, paternal prohibitions operate only against the background of paternal love.

Directiveness scale.

Hostility scale.

In this case, we are talking about such an unfavorable type of paternal attitude towards his daughter, as a combination of over-exactingness, focused on the standard of the "ideal child" and corresponding too harsh dependence, on the one hand, and an emotionally cold, rejecting attitude, on the other. All this leads to disturbances in the relationship between a father and a teenage daughter, which in turn leads to an increased level of tension, nervousness and instability in the teenager.

Autonomy scale.

Inconsistency scale.

The only difference is in tendencies such as self-sufficing self-assertion with hostile intransigence in fathers and subordination and distrust in mothers.

Application

instruction:

“We ask you to evaluate, based on your own experience, which of these provisions are most typical for your parents. To do this, carefully read each statement, not missing any of them. If you think the statement is fully consistent with the parenting principles of your father (or mother), circle the number"2" ... Circle the number if you think this statement partially applies to your father (or mother)"1" ... If, in your opinion, the statement does not apply to your father (or mother), circle the number"0" ».

Test:

	My father	Yes	Partially	No
He smiles at me very often

Has a lack of patience with me
When I leave, he decides for himself when I should return
Always quickly forgets what he says or orders
When I'm in a bad mood, advises me to calm down or have fun.
Believes that I should have many rules that I must follow
Constantly complains to someone about me
Gives me as much freedom as I need
For the same thing, he punishes once and forgives the other.
Loves to do something together
If he assigns any work, he thinks that I should only do it until I finish
Begins to get angry and resentful about every little thing I've done
Doesn't require me to ask him for permission to go wherever I want
Refuses many of his affairs depending on my mood
Tries to cheer and cheer me up when I'm sad
Always insists that for all my wrongs I must be punished
Little interested in what excites me and what I want
Allows that I could go wherever I want every night
Has certain rules, but sometimes follows them, sometimes not
Always listens with understanding to my views and opinions
Makes sure that I always do what I am told
Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm disgusted with him
Practically lets me do whatever I like
My father (my mother) changes his decisions the way he (she) is comfortable
Often praises me for something
Always wants to know exactly what I am doing and where I am
Wish I was different, changed
Allows me to choose my own business
Sometimes he forgives me very easily, and sometimes he doesn't.
He tries to openly show that he loves me
Always monitors what I do on the street or at school
If I do something wrong, he constantly and everywhere talks about it
It gives me a lot of freedom. Rarely says "must" or "must not"
Unpredictable in my actions if I do something good or bad
Believes that I should have my own opinion on every issue
Always carefully monitors what kind of friends I have
Will not talk to me until I start myself, if before that I hurt him with something or offend
Always forgives me easily
Praises and punishes very inconsistently: sometimes too much and sometimes too little
Always makes time for me when I need it
Constantly tells me how to behave
It is possible that, in essence, he hates me
I plan vacations of my own free will
Sometimes it can offend, and sometimes it is kind and grateful.
Will always answer frankly any question that I would not ask
Often checks if I cleaned everything up as he ordered
Neglect me as it seems to me
Doesn't interfere with whether or not I clean my room (or corner) - this is my fortress
Very vague in his desires and directions

Test:

My mother	Yes	Partially	No
He smiles at me very often

Has a lack of patience with me
When I leave, he decides for himself when I should return
Always quickly forgets what he says or orders
When I'm in a bad mood, advises me to calm down or have fun.
Believes that I should have many rules that I must follow
Constantly complains to someone about me
Gives me as much freedom as I need
For the same thing, he punishes once and forgives the other.
Loves to do something together
If he assigns any work, he thinks that I should only do it until I finish
Begins to get angry and resentful about every little thing I've done
Doesn't require me to ask him for permission to go wherever I want
Refuses many of his affairs depending on my mood
Tries to cheer and cheer me up when I'm sad
Always insists that for all my wrongs I must be punished
Little interested in what excites me and what I want
Allows that I could go wherever I want every night
Has certain rules, but sometimes follows them, sometimes not
Always listens with understanding to my views and opinions
Makes sure that I always do what I am told
Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm disgusted with him
Practically lets me do whatever I like
My father (my mother) changes his decisions the way he (she) is comfortable
Often praises me for something
Always wants to know exactly what I am doing and where I am
Wish I was different, changed
Allows me to choose my own business
Sometimes he forgives me very easily, and sometimes he doesn't.
He tries to openly show that he loves me
Always monitors what I do on the street or at school
If I do something wrong, he constantly and everywhere talks about it
It gives me a lot of freedom. Rarely says "must" or "must not"
Unpredictable in my actions if I do something good or bad
Believes that I should have my own opinion on every issue
Always carefully monitors what kind of friends I have
Will not talk to me until I start myself, if before that I hurt him with something or offend
Always forgives me easily
Praises and punishes very inconsistently: sometimes too much and sometimes too little
Always makes time for me when I need it
Constantly tells me how to behave
It is possible that, in essence, he hates me
I plan vacations of my own free will
Sometimes it can offend, and sometimes it is kind and grateful.
Will always answer frankly any question that I would not ask
Often checks if I cleaned everything up as he ordered
Neglect me as it seems to me
Doesn't interfere with whether or not I clean my room (or corner) - this is my fortress
Very vague in his desires and directions

Instructions:

Before starting the experiment, the teenager is brought up to date on the goals and objectives of the study, after which he is presented with the following instructions:

A teenager, based on his own experience, which of these provisions are most typical for parents. If he believes that the statement is fully consistent with the educational principles of the father (or mother), circle the number "2". Circle '1' if you think the statement is partly appropriate for the father (or mother). If, in the opinion, the statement does not refer to the father (or mother), circle the number "0". "

Then the teenager is given a registration form to fill out separately for each of the parents. There is no fundamental difference between the wording of the statements: in relation to the mother, all statements are presented in the feminine gender, and in relation to the father, in the masculine. Moreover, the forms are filled out separately, first, for example, they fill out a form that reflects the educational principles for the mother, then this form is handed over to the experimenter, and only after that a similar form is issued, where these provisions should be assessed by the teenager already in application to the father. After the teenager has filled out both forms (for the father and for the mother), all the data obtained are summarized in a "score sheet" separately for the mother and the father. Then, for each parameter, the arithmetic sum of raw points is calculated. Further, the raw scores are translated standardized in accordance with the tables. Standardized data range from 1 to 5 and the average value is the norm, ie 3. If the parameter is 1-2 points, then we can say that it is poorly expressed, but if 4-5, then the measured quality is expressed quite clearly.

Then, assessment profiles of relationships to both the mother and the father are built on a special form.

Psychodiagnostics of general and special abilities of the personality of adolescence and adolescence.

Abilities are individual psychological characteristics that distinguish one person from another, are a condition for the successful performance of one or another productive activity, are not limited to knowledge, skills, skills, but determine the speed of their acquisition. Ability diagnostics methods directly depend on the types of abilities. Types of abilities a) naturally conditioned and socially conditioned Naturally conditioned abilities are based on inclinations, i.e. congenital anatomical and physiological prerequisites for abilities. The inclinations include the type of higher nervous activity, the characteristics of metabolism, the special structure of individual parts of the body, etc. For example, in those sports that require cyclical movements (tennis, swimming, rowing, skiing), success is 80% dependent on the inclinations.Social abilities are abilities, the formation and development of which depends on training and education. Communication and organizational abilities are socially conditioned. B) actual and potential The abilities that are recognized by others are called actual. Potential are those abilities that are not recognized by others. (American scientists analyzed the biographies of 400 prominent people and found that 60% of them had problems during schooling.) : motor and mental. General mental abilities are called intelligence. Special abilities are abilities that are not found in all people, determine success in special activities (while in other activities a person may be unsuccessful).

An example of a methodology for the study of intelligence: Cattell's Culturally Free Intelligence Test: tests an innate component of intelligence that is independent of learning. The test includes 2 forms of test books. Each has 4 graphic subtests for 8-14 tasks. "Wechsler Intelligence Measurement Scales": 11 subtests (6 verbal and 5 non-verbal)

Psychology of adulthood Ilyin Evgeniy Pavlovich

Test "Teens About Parents"

The Adolescent Parenting Behavior and Attitude Survey (ADOR) examines the attitudes, behaviors, and parenting practices of parents as seen by their children in adolescence.

The basis for this test is the questionnaire that Schafer created in 1965. This technique is based on Schafer's position that the educational influence of parents (as children describe it) can be characterized using three factor variables: acceptance - emotional rejection, psychological control - psychological autonomy, hidden control - open control. At the same time, acceptance here implies an unconditionally positive attitude towards the child, regardless of the original expectations of the parents.

In the course of international scientific cooperation of the laboratory of clinical psychology of the Institute. VM Bekhterev with the Institute of Psychodiagnostics (Bratislava, Slovakia), this technique was tested on adolescents 13–18 years old in Russia, as provided by the authors of the modification.

Research procedure

Before the start of the experiment, the teenager is brought up to date on the goals and objectives of the study, after which he is presented with instructions. Then the teenager is given a registration form to fill out separately for each of the parents. There is no fundamental difference between the wording of the statements: in relation to the mother, all statements are presented in the feminine gender, and in relation to the father, in the masculine. Moreover, the forms are filled out separately, first, for example, they fill out a form that reflects the educational principles of the mother, then this form is handed over to the experimenter, and only after that a similar form is issued, where these provisions should be assessed by the adolescent already as applied to the father.

Instructions

We ask you to evaluate, based on your own experience, which of these provisions are most typical for your parents. To do this, carefully read each statement, not missing any of them. If you think the statement is fully consistent with the parenting principles of your father (or mother), circle the number '2'. Circle '1' if you think this statement partially works for your father (or mother). If you think the statement does not apply to your father (or mother), circle the number '0'.

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The Parenting Behavior and Adolescent Attitudes (ADOR) questionnaire examines the attitudes, behaviors and methods of parenting as seen by adolescent children. The methodology was based on the "Children" s Report of Parental Behavior Inventory "questionnaire, created by

E. Shafer in 1965 and consisting of 28 scales with 10 tasks in each. The questionnaire was based on the proposition that the educational impact of parents (as children describe it) can be characterized using three factorial variables:

acceptance - emotional rejection;
psychological control - psychological autonomy;
hidden control - open control.

Adoption implies a positive attitude towards the child, regardless of the parent's original expectations. Emotional rejection viewed as a negative attitude towards the child, lack of love and respect for him, and sometimes just hostility. Concept psychological control denotes both a certain pressure and deliberate guidance of children, and a degree of consistency in the implementation of educational principles.

In 1983 3. Mateichik and P. Richan proposed a modified version of the questionnaire. Taking into account socio-cultural differences, Czech psychologists have revised the methodology. First of all, it turned out to be important to reduce the number of scales, since factor analysis on the Czech sample identified three significant factors:

positive interest is hostility;
directivity - autonomy;
inconsistency.

The entrance of the international scientific cooperation of the laboratory of clinical psychology of the Institute. VM Bekhterev with the Institute of Psychodiagnostics (Bratislava, Slovakia), this technique was tested on adolescents 13-18 years old in Russia. It turned out to be very useful for reflecting the factors of family upbringing, hidden both from doctors and psychologists (teachers) and from the parents themselves.

RESEARCH PROCEDURE

Before the start of the examination, the adolescent is introduced to the course of affairs regarding the goals and objectives of the study, after which he is presented with instructions. Then the subject is given a registration form to fill out separately for each of the parents. There is no fundamental difference between the wording of the statements: in relation to the mother, all statements are presented in the feminine gender, and in relation to the father, in the masculine. Forms are filled out separately. For example, first, a form is filled out, which reflects the educational principles of the mother, then the subject hands it over to the experimenter and only after that receives a similar form, where these provisions should be assessed by the adolescent when applied to the father.

INSTRUCTIONS

We ask you to evaluate, based on your own experience, which of these provisions are most typical for your parents. To do this, carefully read each statement, not missing any of them. If you think the statement is fully consistent with your father's (or mother's) parenting principles, circle '2'. Circle '1' if you think this statement is partly appropriate for your father (or mother). If, in your opinion, the statement does not apply to your father (or mother), circle the number "O".

TEST MATERIAL

	My father (my mother)		Partially
	He smiles at me very often

	Has a lack of patience with me
	When I leave, he decides for himself when I should return
	He always forgets that quickly. what he says or orders
	When I'm in a bad mood, advises me to calm down or have fun.
	Believes that I should have many rules that I must follow
	Constantly complains to someone about me
	Gives me as much freedom as I need
	For the same thing, he punishes once and forgives the other.
	Loves to do something together
	If he assigns any work, he thinks that I should only do it until I finish
	Begins to get angry and resentful about every little thing I've done
	Doesn't require me to ask him for permission to go wherever I want
	Refuses many of his affairs depending on my mood
	Tries to cheer and cheer me up when I'm sad
	Always insists that for all my wrongs I must be punished
	Little interested in what excites me and what I want
	Allows that I can go wherever I want every night
	Has certain rules, sometimes follows them, and sometimes not
	Always listens with understanding to my views and opinions
	Makes sure that I always do what I am told
	Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm disgusted with him
	Practically lets me do whatever I like
	Changes his / her decisions the way he (she) is comfortable
	Often praises me for something
	Always wants to know exactly what I am doing and where I am
	Wish I was different, changed
	Allows me to choose my own business
	Sometimes he forgives me very easily, and sometimes he doesn't.
	He tries to openly show that he loves me
	Always monitors what I do on the street or at school
	If I do something wrong, he constantly and everywhere talks about it
	Gives me a lot of freedom, rarely says "must" or "must not"
	Unpredictable in my actions if I do something good or bad
	Believes that I should have my own opinion on every issue
	Always carefully monitors what kind of friends I have
	Will not talk to me until I start myself, if before that I hurt him with something or offend
	Always forgives me easily
	Praises and punishes very inconsistently: sometimes too much and sometimes too little
	Always makes time for me when I need it
	Constantly tells me how to behave
	It is possible that, in essence, he hates me
	I plan vacations of my own free will
	Sometimes it can offend, and sometimes it is kind and grateful.
	He will always openly answer any question, no matter what I ask
	Often checks if I cleaned everything up as he ordered
	Neglect me as it seems to me
	Doesn't interfere with whether or not I clean my room (or corner) - this is my fortress
	Very vague in his desires and directions

RAW DATA PROCESSING MECHANISM

After the teenager has filled out both forms (for the father and for the mother), all the data obtained are summarized in a score sheet separately for the mother and for the father. Then, for each parameter, the arithmetic sum of raw points is calculated (POZ - positive interest, DIR - directive, HOS - hostility, AUT - autonomy, and NED - inconsistency). Further, the raw scores are converted to standardized values in accordance with the tables.

Standardized data range from 1 to 5, with an average of 3 being the norm.

If 1-2 points came out on the parameter, then we can say that it is weakly expressed, if 4-5 points - then the measured quality is expressed quite clearly. Then, on a special form, the assessment profiles of the adolescent's attitude to both the mother and the father are built.

KEY

Positive Interest Scale - Questions 1.6, II, 16, 21, 26, 31, 36, 41.46.

Directiveness scale - questions 2, 7, 12, 17, 22, 27, 32, 37, 42, 47. Hostility scale - questions 3, 8, 13, 18, 23, 28, 33, 38, 43, 48. Autonomy scale - questions 4, 9, 14, 19, 24, 29, 34, 39, 44,49. Inconsistency scale - questions 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50.

Interpretation of scales I. Assessment of mother by son

Positive interest scale

Adolescent boys see the psychological acceptance of mothers primarily in a relatively critical approach to them. Adolescents often feel the need for help and support from their mother, in most cases they accept her opinion, tend to agree with her. Such forms of behavior as imperiousness, suspicion, tendency to leadership are denied. At the same time, sons do not expect excessive conformism from their mother, even to the extent of a tendency to follow the lead. However, simply competent behavior, a friendly way of communication and normal emotional contacts are not enough for the adolescent to argue that the mother has a positive interest in him. They strive for overprotection of a strong, adult and independent person.

Directiveness scale

The adolescents see the directiveness of the mother in relation to her son in imposing guilt on her in relation to her, in her declarations and constant reminders that the mother sacrifices everything for her son, fully takes responsibility for everything that the child has done, does and will do ... The mother, as it were, asserts the initial dependence of her status and the assessment of those around her on her son's compliance with the child's "standard", excluding the possibility of other options for self-expression. Thus, the mother seeks in any way to exclude the son's misbehavior, so as not to lose face. Simple forms of manifestation of responsiveness, sympathy, causing positive emotional relationships, negatively correlate with the directive form of interaction between mother and adolescent.

Hostility scale

The hostility of the mother in relations with her teenage son is characterized by her aggressiveness and excessive severity in interpersonal relationships. The mother’s focus exclusively on herself, her self-esteem, excessive self-assertion, as a rule, exclude the adoption of the child. He is perceived primarily as a rival who must be suppressed in order to assert his significance. So, emotional coldness towards a teenager is masked and is often passed off as restraint, modesty, adherence to etiquette and even submission to him. At the same time, there may be a pronounced suspicion, a tendency to excessive criticism of the son, the purpose of which is to humiliate him in the eyes of others. Along with this, positive activity, responsibility for the fate of his son, is constantly demonstrated (mainly at the verbal level).

Autonomy scale

The mother's autonomy in relations with her son is understood by him as diktat, complete rapture with power, even a certain mania in this regard, which does not recognize any variations. The mother does not perceive the child as a person, with her feelings, thoughts, ideas and motives, she is a blind force of power and ambition, to which everyone, no matter what, must obey. At the same time, the adaptive form of mother's authority, based on trust and respect, as well as acceptable forms of harshness and harshness (when they take into account the situation), turn out to be not typical for the autonomy of mothers in relations with adolescent sons. In addition, according to the sons, neither emotional attachment nor a friendly style of communication can be associated with the isolation, non-involvement of the mother in the affairs of her son.

Inconsistency scale

II. Father's son evaluation

Positive interest scale

Directiveness scale

The father manifests directivity in relations with his son in the form of a tendency towards leadership, by gaining authority based on actual achievements and a dominant style of communication. His power over his son is expressed mainly in the management and timely correction of the child's behavior, excluding ambitious despotism. At the same time, the father very clearly makes it clear to the child that for the sake of his well-being he sacrifices some of his power; that this is not just patronage, but the desire to resolve everything peacefully, regardless of the degree of irritation.

Hostility scale

Abusive fathers always agree with conventional wisdom, stick to conventions too much, and seek to satisfy others' demands for being a good father and for maintaining positive relationships. While raising, they try to educate their son in accordance with the idea of what an ideal child should be like in a given society and in a given culture.

Fathers strive to give their sons a broader education, to develop various abilities, which often leads to an unbearable burden on the youthful body. Along with this, there is a complete dependence on the opinions of others, fear and helplessness, the inability to resist them. At the same time, in relation to his son, the father is harsh and pedantic. A teenager is constantly in a state of anxious expectation of a low assessment of his activities and punishment by parental rejection according to the formula: "How dare you not correspond to what is expected of you, because I sacrifice everything to make a person out of you." There is also a constant discontent, skepticism about the achievements of his son, which inevitably reduces the motivation of his activities.

Autonomy scale

The autonomy of a father in relations with his son is manifested in a formal attitude to education, excessive impartiality in the process of communication. Interaction is based on attitudes of strength and despotism. The father "notices" his son only in cases when he has done something, and even to analyze what happened, as a rule, there is not enough time. The father is too busy with himself to delve into the life and problems of his son. He learns about them only from his requests for help or advice on a particular issue, not particularly overworking himself with explanations. The father is not interested in his son's hobbies, his circle of acquaintances, studying at school, he only pretends that it bothers him. Often he is simply annoyed when his son turns to him, because he believes that the son should know everything himself.

Inconsistency scale

The inconsistency of the educational measures used by the father, adolescent sons see in the unpredictability, the inability to foresee how their father will react to this or that situation, an event: whether he will subject his son to severe punishment for minor offenses or will slightly scold him for something significant, accepting the latter's assurances that that it won't happen again. Such a father will either “wash the bones” for a long time and meticulously, or he will take on faith the assurances of his son in his innocence.

When comparing the assessments of mothers and fathers by adolescent boys, the following characteristic differences are revealed.

1. With the psychological acceptance of the son by the parents, the absence of a tendency towards leadership dominates in the fathers compared to the mothers, since they strive to achieve favor and respect for their authority without resorting to force, unlike mothers who, in exceptional cases, allow themselves authoritarianism in interpersonal relations for the sake of the good of the child. At the same time, among mothers, boys note a critical approach to them and overprotectiveness as a positive interest, while fathers have more pronounced independence and firmness of positions.
2. On the scale of directivity among mothers, in comparison with fathers, the tendency towards patronage comes to the fore, since mothers are more inclined to influence children with inductive techniques. Also, mothers are willing to compromise in order to achieve their goal, while fathers prefer authority to force.
3. The hostility of mothers manifests itself as a result of the struggle for their independence. A similar characteristic in fathers is rather a tendency towards conformity in relation to others.
4. The autonomy of mothers and fathers is based on a despotic "blind" power that does not tolerate indulgence, however, mothers have noticed an emphasis on the absence of requirements-prohibitions in relation to adolescents, and among fathers - on fencing off. And both of them lack even a tendency to patronage, although fathers can, as an exception, come off the department and heed the requests of their teenage son.
5. Inconsistency in the conduct of the line of upbringing in both parents is equally assessed by adolescents as a tendency towards extremely contradictory forms of manifestation with a maximum amplitude of expression. Moreover, for mothers, the opposite of strength and mistrust is compliance and hyperprotection, and for fathers - trustfulness and conformism.

III. Mother's daughter's assessment

Positive interest scale

A positive attitude towards a daughter on the part of a mother, based on psychological acceptance, is described by adolescent girls as an attitude towards a small child who constantly requires attention, care, help, who in itself can do little. Such mothers often approve of their daughters asking for help in cases of quarrels or any difficulties, on the one hand, and limiting independence, on the other. In addition, girls note the factor of indulgence, when the mother is, as it were, "running errands" and seeks to satisfy any desire of her daughter.

Directiveness scale

Describing the directivity of their mothers, adolescent girls note their tight control, a tendency to easily exercise their power based on ambition, while not welcoming the expression of their daughter's own opinions. Such mothers rely more on the severity of punishment, stubbornly believing that they are always right, and the children are still too young to judge this.

Hostility scale

The hostility of mothers to their teenage daughters is described as suspicion of the family environment and distance towards its members (in particular, children). Suspicious behavior and abandonment of social norms drive them. as a rule, to fencing off and raising oneself above others.

Autonomy scale

Inconsistency scale

Under the inconsistency of educational practice on the part of the mother, girls understand a sharp change in style, techniques that represent a transition from a very strict upbringing to a liberal one and, conversely, a transition from psychological acceptance of a daughter to her emotional rejection.

IV. Father's daughter's assessment

Positive interest scale

The daughters describe the father's positive interest as paternal self-confidence, the belief that not the notorious paternal strictness, but attention to the teenager, the warmth and openness of the relationship between the father and the teenage daughter are a manifestation of sincere interest. The daughter's psychological acceptance is characterized by the absence of sharp changes from permissiveness to harsh punishments, i.e. dominated by warm friendly relations with a clear awareness of the boundaries of what is allowed and what is not. In this case, paternal prohibitions operate only against the background of paternal love.

Directiveness scale

Teenage girls represent the directivity of the father as an image of a "firm" male hand, ready to either clench into a fist or indicate to the daughter her place in society in general and in the family in particular. The directive father, as it were, directs the growing girl on the true path, forcing her to obey the norms and rules of behavior adopted in society and a certain culture, putting the commandments of morality into her soul.

Hostility scale

In this case, we are talking about such an unfavorable type of paternal attitude towards his daughter, as a combination of over-demanding, focused on the standard of an ideal child and corresponding too harsh dependence, on the one hand, and an emotionally cold, rejecting attitude, on the other. All this leads to disruptions in the relationship between a father and a teenage daughter, which, in turn, leads to an increased level of tension, nervousness and instability in the teenager.

Autonomy scale

Teenage girls describe the autonomy of their fathers as a claim to leadership, and leadership is inaccessible, inaccessible to interact with him. He seems to be a person fenced off from family problems as if by an invisible wall and existing in parallel with the rest of the family. The father does not care what is happening around him; his actions are often not consistent with the needs and demands of those close to him, whose interests are completely ignored.

Inconsistency scale

Typical differences in the assessments of the educational practices of mothers and fathers by adolescent girls are as follows.

1. With positive interest and psychological acceptance among mothers, trust and obedience come to the fore. Fathers, on the other hand, are dominated by self-confidence and lack of rigidity, authoritarianism in relations with their daughter, which excludes upbringing through forceful pressure.
2. Directiveness of mothers is based solely on ambitious claims to power and strict control over the behavior of their daughter, and directiveness of fathers, along with this, is also expressed depending on the opinions of others and narcissism.
3. With hostility, emotional rejection in mothers, stubborn conformism and weak-willed dependence on the opinions of others are revealed, which comes from the father's claims to leading positions. For fathers, with hostile educational practices towards their teenage daughters, cruelty and self-affirmation through power and strength come to the fore.
4. Autonomy on the part of mothers is characterized by the absence of good human relations and isolation from the problems and interests of the daughter. The father's autonomy is expressed in his unconditional leadership in the family and in the inaccessibility of communication with him for his daughter.
5. With inconsistent educational practice in the context of contradictory manifestations, the characteristics of fathers and mothers appear to be the same. The difference lies only in such tendencies as self-assertion with hostile intransigence in fathers and subordination with distrust in mothers.