Why are there still no new generation batteries? Why don't you still have a boyfriend

13.10.2019

A lot of people, when asked why they still do not have the car they dream of, or a new apartment, or a European-style renovation or something else ... many of them will give the same answer: lack of finance - money.

This answer is so obvious (and "worn out") that we simply stopped looking for the true reasons for the lack of something we wanted. After all, the answer is always at hand - the reason is that there is no money.

The failure, however, is that when a situation arises in life that simply requires us to make some material investments or other actions, then everything is found ... TIME, MONEY, MOTIVATION.

Means, the lack of money is just a very convenient excuse that we are so used to using. What, then, is the real reason why we cannot afford something?

You have what you really need

You have probably noticed that the number of articles on my blog coming out over the month has decreased. This is due to the fact that at the moment I am doing renovations in my new apartment (renovation from scratch). In this regard, I spend a lot of my free time among gray walls, smeared up to the elbows with putty, tile glue, etc.

And here's the situation. I am absolutely sure that the new apartment should have a bathroom, which means that it is necessary to lay a pipeline, make an eyeliner to the mixer, lay out the walls, install the bathroom itself and other plumbing fixtures. All this takes money, time and a lot of effort.

BUT, and this very important note since I am not a drop do not doubt the need the presence of a bathroom in the apartment, then only the question is raised: "HOW?".

Does necessity (or in other words need) pose very proactive questions for us?

How can the pipeline be laid?
What materials (metal-plastic, polypropylene, copper)?
Hire craftsmen or do it yourself?
Where can I get equipment and tools?

And the answers to the questions are found, plans are being made, funds are found, plans are being translated into reality. Here it is the law of attraction in action - at first I imagine what the bathroom should be (colors), then I select the tiles, then some time passes and now ... what was only planned recently, now exists in reality (polypropylene pipes are divorced, the mixer is connected, plumbing is purchased, one wall is already practically tiled) ...

Why? Why is everything being realized in this particular case?

Because I believe without the slightest shadow of inner doubt that IT IS NECESSARY.

Now let's think for a second ... do you have the same inner conviction about your other desires? Having a new luxury car is a good desire, but do you feel like it is absolutely necessary for you?

While many people WANT to have a car like this, very few really NEED it! Even just having a car itself is not necessarily a necessity for a person who commits two daily trips - to work and home. This person may dream of a car, but it will not appear before him before it becomes a necessity.

The universe is ruled by entropy... Those. any system has the minimum level of energy it needs (not a drop more, not a drop less). “Man - the world” is also a kind of system, and the energy in this system can be measured by the amount of financial resources, or simply by money.

If you have big plans, if you are completely convinced of the need for you to have this or that object (write in the one you need), then be sure that you will have this object of the material world (but what am I talking about, you yourself understand that).

But if you want something, but this is still not, then ...

False necessity

There is one false factor with low energy motivation - desire to prove something to someone, the desire to assert itself. This false factor, however, consumes a lot of psychic energy. After all, you are going to prove something to someone else, not yourself. So YOU really DO NOT NEED it, do you?

If necessary?

I will not convince you of anything, why should I? Indeed, there are people who simply need a laptop, and not an ordinary computer (I am one of them, in view of the temporary need to move from one apartment to another), there are people who are vitally important for a sports car (they do not see themselves without it).

If something requires significant investments or efforts from you, then you will decide on it only if it is NECESSARY, no other illusory incentives inspired by advertising will motivate you to do this. Entropy is the law of the universe.

Conclusions: The next time you feel unhappy about missing something “much needed”. Ask yourself the question: "Do I really do not have this, because I do not have the money, time, etc. for this?"

P. S. Suddenly I remembered another good example. Many people are trying to get slimmer and fitter. Some people succeed in this, others give up one diet after another, their trips to the gym are irregular. What is the reason? Most likely, the point is that for the latter, a toned body is not something so necessary.

Think and act. Good luck.

Ask a psychologist

Hello! I am 20 years old. I have never had a long serious relationship. The longest 2 months. I am not showing off in any way) I will list my positive and negative qualities: I am beautiful, I look after and take care of myself, I look quite nice and decent , (guys always paid attention, compliments are all things ... but! never ran straight, did not suffer, NEVER) moderately sociable, very kind, calm, flexible, do not have bad habits! not walking. Negative: very lazy, nothing I am fond of almost, not well-read, there are really no goals in life, irresponsible. I have listed ALL my good and bad qualities. I can’t find a guy for myself, he simply doesn’t. We went for a walk with three different guys (like a first date), not one for the second I understand perfectly well that I will repel all my bad qualities, but damn it on my forehead it is not written at the 1st meeting how lazy I am, etc. Help! I can't understand what's the matter, why I pushed them away so

Psychologists' Answers

Hello Elvina. All your troubles, of course, are not from negative qualities, since a man may not know about them on the first day of acquaintance ... The whole trouble is in not being able to communicate correctly with a man, in the ability to interest him in himself and show himself in a favorable light .. .. In a nutshell, in a short conversation this topic is unlikely to reveal, if you are interested or have any questions or ambiguities, you can contact, for example, on Skype and we will continue the conversation.

Respectfully yours, Yuri Alekseevich.

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Elvina, good time!

There is no law that everyone by the age of 20 must have a couple and a long-term relationship leading to marriage.

For you to raise self-esteem do you need guys to run after you and suffer? Are you comparing yourself to someone not in your favor?

Actually appearance important, and outwardly CHOOSED for communication and you confirm this - they give compliments, invited to the first date. But this is not enough to continue communication! And it's not a matter of good and bad qualities at all, they will manifest themselves later, already in life together.

What do you need? Be sincerely interested in another person, listen to him, ask questions about him, or be so interesting to him that he wants to communicate further.

Young girls are too fixated on their appearance, plus they are shackled because of the complexes instilled by their parents. There is a lack of simplicity, spontaneity, naturalness. It is written on my forehead - I am looking for a guy (it is implied - otherwise I am somehow not correct).

Happiness in all its forms, and in relationships, too, is like a butterfly.
If you chase after her, then she flies away, but if you stop and sit quietly, the butterfly will fly up and sit on your shoulder.

Good luck to you!

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When a girl grows up and sees that her friends have boyfriends, she involuntarily wonders why she is alone. The absence of a boyfriend can damage a girl's self-esteem, make her doubt her own attractiveness. In fact, having a relationship, or not having a relationship, is not an indicator of a girl's attractiveness. And women's loneliness has many underlying causes. From this article, you can find out why there is no boyfriend, what to do with it, and how to prepare yourself for a relationship with a boyfriend.

As a rule, at the age of 13-14, a girl dreams of meeting her love, thinks about relationships with men. But here you need to understand whether she is ready to enter into a relationship. At this age, love has the character of an owner - a young lady wants to have a guy as property, so that he would give flowers to his lady of the heart, admire her and give gifts. Young people subconsciously feel that a girl wants relationships for the sake of relationships, and not specifically them.

It looks something like this- “Let's date, I'm so good, beautiful and talented. You will accompany me home and take me to the cinema. " This, alas, is not a relationship. With this attitude, a girl aged 13-14 will never find a boyfriend. In order to enter into a relationship at this age, you need to understand that boys mature more slowly than girls, and when building relationships with a peer, you need to understand that he needs, first of all, a girl - a friend who shares his interests, life views, shares his hobbies.

A good move would be: go to the karate, volleyball or karting section, be keenly interested in these activities, read special literature and be able to maintain a conversation on "male" topics. After a while of such communication, the guys around will pay attention to a pretty, smart girl who has common hobbies with them. And then there is little to do - to show your strengths. For example, treat him to a cake made by himself, or surprise him with a non-standard act. For example, take part in karting competitions or take part in a school physics Olympiad.

At this age, a girl shouldn't get hung up on a relationship. You should start developing yourself, finding a hobby, studying, and self-education. It is worth remembering that love is not an end in itself, but only a means to achieve spiritual harmony. Life for every woman has prepared a fateful meeting that can happen at any age.

At 13 or 14 years old, the girl is no longer small, but sometimes she is not yet ready for a relationship psychologically. She wants love - adoration, not love - cooperation.

No guy at 15-16 years old, how to answer the question?

At the age of 15 - 16, every second girl experiences a feeling of first love. It is at this age that the first love relationships appear. But, unfortunately, first love rarely develops into real feelings. Dating a boy at this age is the norm. But why is there no boyfriend at 15, 16 years old? Young people at this age have already gone through a period when a girl should be a friend and like-minded person. Here they choose primarily based on external features, that is, the brighter the plumage of a bird, the faster they will notice it.

Psychologists interviewed 100 young people between the ages of 15 and 16 and found out which girl they would not like to date.

So boys don't like:

Unkempt girls, dirty clothes, sloppy.
Capricious, whiny and annoying.
Smoking, drinking.
Angry, envious and bilious.
Indiscriminate in relationships with the opposite sex.

So, in order to understand why there is no boyfriend at the age of 15 - 16, you need to delve into yourself a little, if 2 - 3 years ago young people needed an intelligent girlfriend, now they need a beautiful picture. If a girl realizes that she really looks bad, then hard work on herself is required here. Even if at this age it is not possible to find a guy, then with a good figure and well-groomed appearance it will be easier to do it in the future.

So, when going to meet a guy, every girl would do well:

Get rid of extra pounds, if any.
Visit the dentist, get your teeth healed and achieve a flawless smile.
Visit a hairdresser - stylist and choose a hairstyle that emphasizes the girl's dignity.
Look through fashion magazines, get acquainted with fashion trends. If possible, visit a stylist.
Understand that bad habits do not adorn a girl. You shouldn't even start smoking or drinking. Better to do sports - aerobics, sports dancing or jogging. These activities will have a beneficial effect on the figure, and on health and well-being.

Thus, by the age of 15 or 16, a girl, having worked on her appearance, has a better chance of finding a boyfriend. But do not forget about the "content". A stupid beauty is less likely to find a boyfriend than a smart girl with an average appearance.

You also need to understand that the reason for the absence of a guy is hidden not only in the girl herself, many young people of this age are simply afraid to start a relationship.

Even if relations with the opposite sex do not develop, you should not despair, at any age you can meet your love. The most important thing is to learn to understand what we expect from the relationship, and why they are needed.

Why can't there be a boyfriend at the age of 17-18, but the girlfriends do?

It's a shame when your seventeen-year-old girlfriends go on dates and you don't. Well-groomed, pretty, well-read, fluent in a foreign language, and all alone. But Masha from the technical school meets a handsome man. Does the situation sound familiar? Yes, then read on.

If most girlfriends date boys, then they've found someone to complement them. So, each person seeks to build a relationship with a person who is as similar to himself as possible. Therefore, at the age of 17 - 18 it is worth looking for someone close to you by interests. If you learn French, sign up for public lectures at the French cultural center; if you love football, go to the stadium more often and attend the matches of your favorite team.

At this age, guys are also looking for a like-minded girl. It doesn't matter to them how she looks, how long her legs are. But the interesting inner world of the girl, light character and cheerful disposition will be much more significant.

A girl of any age should know that angry and envious men scare men away. If you want to date a guy, become a kind darling. All in your hands.

Also, guys 17 - 18 years old pay attention to girls who are passionate, find something to do - a passion to which you are ready to give your time. Be it: volunteering, animal protection, study, painting or collecting. If at 13 - 14 years old guys were looking for a friend, at 15 - 16 years old they have a beautiful appearance, at 17 - 18 years old they need a girl - a comrade-in-arms.

But you need to understand what kind of companion a young man needs - if the circle of his interests is beer and discos, then decide for yourself, you are ready to become his ally. It is better to look for a guy where there are promising and socially adapted young people - a university, sports clubs, language clubs, volunteer organizations, communities of one hobby.

There is no beloved boyfriend at the age of 19-20, what is wrong with me?

When a girl wonders what is wrong with me, there really is a problem. Here you need a consultation with a psychologist, he will help you understand yourself.

But, as a rule, the only reason (which is highlighted by all experts) why there is no young man at the age of 19 - 20 is the girl's exaggerated demands on her chosen one.

The Cinderella complex may appear here, which, in fact, is nothing, but is waiting for the prince. And he refuses good relationships, but ordinary guys, not astronauts, not football players and not world-famous actors.

A young woman in search of a guy from 19 to 20 years old should reconsider her attitude towards the opposite sex, understand that there is no ideal and highlight male qualities that are important and secondary. This requires two pieces of paper, a pen or marker. Then on one piece of paper is written "yes", and on the other "no". And on them it is written what can be accepted in a man and what not. If there is more “no”, then a thorough analysis is needed as to why this is so. For example, if a girl does not agree to put up with the betrayal of her beloved or drug addiction, then this is normal, but if she is annoyed by the presence of brothers or blue eyes, then one thing needs to be understood here - little things in appearance and lifestyle are not so important. By narrowing the scope of the search for a boyfriend, the girl herself scares off potential suitors.

I’m beautiful, but the guy isn’t around, so I’m Scary?

Am I not worthy of Love?

Beautiful does not mean happy. A girl may be unsympathetic, but at the same time she is happy in a relationship. Every woman is worthy of love, but for this it is necessary to acquire adequate self-esteem, to know your strengths and weaknesses and to understand that every woman is worthy of love.

There is one psychological exercise for self-acceptance - it is tough, but effective. To be loved by others, you need to learn to love yourself. Every day for 20 days, it is necessary to do exercises to increase women's self-esteem and understanding of the aspect that any woman is worthy of love.

This requires:

Every morning, in front of the mirror, make 3 compliments to yourself, from the heart. Not just "I am cute", "I have beautiful expressive eyes", "I am an interesting conversationalist", "I am worthy of the love of a wealthy man." Praise yourself and wish yourself to meet a good man.
Write your main virtues on a piece of paper, then re-read them, and after each repeat "I am worthy of love." For example, "I have a chess category, I am worthy of love", "I quit smoking last month, I am worthy of love."
Practice "mirror smile" regularly - take out a pocket mirror every two hours and sincerely smile at your image.

20 days of this training works wonders, more than 80% of women who passed it were able to let love into their lives and find a man.

A simple test for a girl in psychology

"Am I ready for a relationship?"

To understand whether a girl needs a young man right now, American psychologists have created a simple test "Am I ready for a relationship." By answering 5 simple questions and calculating the points, the girl will be able to understand whether he is ready to meet the guy, or until the time has come yet.

Test:

Do you agree with the statement "Without love, life is meaningless"?

B) Partly

Where can you meet the man of your dreams?

A) On the Internet

B) At a disco, in a night club

C) Almost everywhere

What attracts men most of all?

A) Appearance

B) Material well-being

C) His personality and lifestyle

Imagine your first date, what it will be:

A) Going to a cafe or restaurant

B) Meeting in the city, visiting the entertainment center

C) I don’t know, we’ll come to an agreement ourselves. (I'll leave the choice to the man)

Why do you need a relationship with a man?

A) We all have .., this is the norm

B) Alone is boring, no one to walk with?

C) It's time to build a serious relationship and start a family.

So, for each answer (A) 1 point is awarded, for the answer (B) 2 points, and for the answer (C) 3 points.

If you scored 5 to 7 points:

You do not have a clear idea of why you need a relationship, you are not yet ready for a mature relationship of cooperation and love. If you want to meet a man, it’s only because of the example of friends and relatives. Take your time, your time to fall in love has not come yet. Don't worry, you have everything ahead of you.

7 to 10 points:

For you, having a relationship is status, prestige. You should not consider a man as property and protection from all adversity. In a harmonious relationship, there should be both support and care from a woman. Your selfishness gets in the way of building lasting relationships. Chances are, you are dating men, but the relationship is too short-lived. Learn not only to take, but also to give.

10 to 15 points:

Not married yet? It's strange, usually women with this attitude in life are completely ready for a relationship and happy in marriage or in a long-term relationship. If you are still alone, do not despair, you are completely ready for a relationship.

Never had a boyfriend, how to find him?

How to find a guy? Search - create a profile on a dating site, go on dates, visit crowded places where men "congregate": stadiums, fitness centers, cafes, cinemas. You can ask your friends to introduce you to your brothers and friends. This method is very effective and simple.

You can turn to a potential matchmaker. In search of a guy, the most important thing is action, you can't wait for fate to knock on the door itself.

How old is it already difficult to find a boyfriend or a man?

Girls, if you are asking this question, then understand that even at 70 you can find a man. The main thing is to understand that you are worthy of love, you are able to give your love to a man, you want to be happy and make a man happy with yourself.

There is a misconception that after 35 it is almost impossible to find a man, but look how many women are around who have found a couple after 35, even after 50 and 60 years.

Age is not a criterion... It's important to understand what a relationship is for and what you can bring to it. If a woman is always ready to support, inspire and love a man, then at any age it is not a problem for her to build harmonious relationships.

Ok Google! Why don't I have a boyfriend yet?

Low self-esteem

No, you don't have to inaugurate yourself as the president of beauty and wit by kissing with the reflection in the mirror. But loving yourself is a must-do homework.

Low self-esteem of a person speaks of his underestimation of his qualities and strongly affects how he is perceived in society. Simply put, your lack of self-confidence is visible to other people.

A man does not need to be a subtle psychologist to understand that you are unhappy with yourself. This is where the quest begins according to your mind: "what's wrong with her?", "Why doesn't she do anything about it", etc.

In addition, it is obvious that insecurity is bad for the ability to hone the skill of flirting, and open up to someone by talking about your feelings.

How do we fix this?

The main task is to learn to identify your strengths and present yourself correctly. Focus on what seems to you the most successful in your appearance and character and feel free to focus on it.

Excessive requirements

Complete antonym of the previous problem. It's not like that for you: this one is too short, another smoker, the third has one gym on his mind, and the fourth laughs too loudly with flat jokes in the theaters. And where is the ideal one?

Get ready, now it will be unpleasant.

There are no ideal ones. There are only yours and not yours. And fate is unlikely to throw you with manners and intelligence. We'll have to look for the best in Seryozha from the office center opposite or in Ruslan from Tinder. Don't even search, but tune in and see.

How do we fix this?

Let's open our eyes a little wider and come to terms with the fact that we are also imperfect. Cool, of course, but imperfect. And let's finally give someone a chance to fall in love with us.

You are very busy

Camon! Now this is completely a lie. "One of my friends" is very fond of the story of an 18-hour working day to kick off everyone who is not interested in her. But this is all nonsense.

There is a legend that we can always find time for special people. Of course, I haven't tested it on myself yet, since I work 20 hours a day, but when a friend calls and calls for aperol, the working day ends. Suddenly. The same story with mom, who calls for coffee. So maybe it's enough to say that in between work you only eat and sleep?

How do we fix this?

Next time, try to give an affirmative answer to the sounded invitation. What if he turns out to be "the same"?

You do not meet

One of the most severe cases. There is a category of people who are alien to any "new" people. You can turn off a drunken denser in a bar without any regrets and not leave a number to that ugly neighbor, but if you shy away from everyone in the world, that's a problem.

There is nothing wrong with what you choose. But choice is not ignorance. Remember this.

How do we fix this?

You have what you really need

False necessity

Ask a psychologist

Psychologists' Answers

No guy at 15-16 years old, how to answer the question?

Why can't there be a boyfriend at the age of 17-18, but the girlfriends do?

There is no beloved boyfriend at the age of 19-20, what is wrong with me?

I’m beautiful, but the guy isn’t around, so I’m Scary?

Am I not worthy of Love?

A simple test for a girl in psychology

"Am I ready for a relationship?"

Never had a boyfriend, how to find him?

How old is it already difficult to find a boyfriend or a man?

Ok Google! Why don't I have a boyfriend yet?

Top Answers

Low self-esteem

Excessive requirements

You are very busy

You do not meet