To make your life better, to transform the world around you, you need to learn how to manage thoughts and emotions. They are our main enemies or best friends.

Our brain is like a computer. Its only difference from a real electronic machine is its mind. Our brain can control itself, but it takes time to master this skill.

Managing emotions

In the beginning, you need to learn to examine your mind and thoughts. The point is that thoughts and emotions are driven by knowledge and faith. If you stop believing in something, then this thought is destroyed, and something else is accepted as truth.

Learn to think logically, be calm and balanced, avoiding unnecessary emotions. Emotions are the main enemy of logic. In difficult and stressful situations, never turn off your head or let your emotions blind you. Of course, there is no need to turn into a soulless robot: we are talking precisely about those circumstances in which it is simply necessary to control what is happening, and not go with the flow.

We inherited the emotional perception of the world from our ancestors, so it is not always quick and effective to deprive ourselves of this or tame feelings. And you don't have to do it 100 percent. To be the master of your emotions, you need to learn how to do three things: distribute, focus, and switch emotions.

Distribution means the need for a person to know the world. The more information we have, the more rationally we can distribute our emotions.

Concentration is concentration. In order to concentrate on something, avoiding emotional outbursts that interfere with work or some process, you need to learn to put yourself in some new conditions that do not allow you to succumb to feelings.

Switching is the replacement of real emotions with other, less dangerous ones. This method is good if you need to get rid of fear, anger or rage. You just switch thoughts.

Thought control

As experts say, if you learn to control thoughts, you will learn to control emotions, and control over what is happening in your head will be within your power. Scientists and psychologists advise learning how to cope with negative emotions in order to bring your inner world to complete harmony. Thoughts about other people's successes, envy of those who turned out to be luckier - without all that, you can do just fine. And what's more, you will succeed yourself.

It's simple - calmness brings thoughts in complete order. In turn, the right thoughts will never lead you into a state of anger, rage or fear. This is a fine line that you need to learn to feel in order not to burn out emotionally, but also not to become insensitive in the eyes of others.

Remember that nature loves balance. There are those emotions that make us stronger, and those thoughts that make us move forward. But if you yourself feel like a certain obsession erodes you from the inside - it's time to get rid of it. Identify from what emotions it flows, forbid yourself to think about it, because you already have a lot of things to do on the way to accomplishments.

We wish you success and control over your mind. The psychology of relationships with oneself is learned by trial and error, so failures should not be regarded as a purely negative fact, because they teach us something new. Stop worrying about every occasion, because everything that happens to us is a wonderful experience called life. Life is a series of right and wrong actions, controlled by emotions and thoughts. Be happy and remember to press the buttons and

Our brain is the focus of our senses. He defines behavior and creates our world. It is the brain that perceives and feels. It all starts in the brain and ends in the brain. How our brain works determines the very quality of our life: how happy we are, how we communicate with others, how successful we will be in our profession.

“To lead a soul to Jesus, it is necessary to know human nature and to examine the human mind” STs 4-67.

The brain determines how close we are or, conversely, far from God. Our brains contain what kind of spouse we will become, how we will learn in school, whether we will be annoyed with our children, whether we will be consistent in achieving our goals. If our brain works correctly, then, as a rule, we manage to achieve what we want. When the behavior becomes abnormal, it often turns out that there was some kind of malfunction in the work of our "computer" - the brain. The Lord revealed to us the secret of the safety of our brain in the Holy Scriptures: "Keep your heart most of all that is kept, for from it are the sources of life." ... Proverbs 4:23. God here does not mean, of course, the heart muscle, but our brain, as the focus, the source of thoughts, intentions and our behavior.

The limbic system of the brain

"The one who created the mind and knows its capabilities, conditioned the development of man in accordance with his talents." P. 41. “The Holy Scriptures contain the true principles of psychology. Under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, the mind, which is completely dedicated to God, develops harmoniously and receives new strength to achieve and fulfill God's commands. He becomes more discerning, his judgments become more balanced. "

Ministers of the Gospel P.285.

1. The deep limbic system is located at the very center of the brain. The size of a walnut, this system is endowed with a myriad of functions, each of which is critical to human behavior. This part of the brain is responsible for the emotional alignment of the body. When the activity of this system is lowered, we tend to be in a positive, optimistic frame of mind. If this area is "overheated" or hyperactive, the person's emotional state deteriorates. Inflammation in the deep limbic system results in painful emotionality. This is confirmed by new results of studies of depression in other laboratories around the world.
2. The emotional coloration that our limbic system gives us is a kind of filter through which we perceive all the events that take place. These events acquire emotional coloring depending on the state of the limbic system. (EXAMPLE: you are having a neutral or positive conversation with a person whose limbic system is hyperactive at this point. Your interlocutor will interpret everything said in a negative way).
3. The deep limbic system of the brain is also responsible for motivation and aspiration. It helps us to "turn on" in the morning, to action throughout the working day.
4. Deep limbic formations are closely related to a person's ability to form attachments and communicate. She is responsible for the mechanism that enables us to communicate with others.
5. The limbic system is directly related to the sense of smell. Of the five senses, the olfactory system is the only one in which the sense organ is directly connected to the brain center. Information from other senses (vision, touch, hearing, taste) is first sent to the "transit point" and from there to the destination, that is, to different areas of the brain. This is why smells can have such a powerful effect on our emotional state.
6. Research confirms that the deep limbic system is larger in women than in men. This gives women a number of advantages, on the one hand, and makes them more vulnerable, on the other. Women are more driven by emotions and express them better than men. It is easier for them to communicate and form attachments. Therefore, women are more involved in raising children. There is not a single society on earth where it would be the other way around. For the same reason (larger sizes of FPP), a woman is more susceptible to depression. In women, suicide attempts are noted three times more often.

FPP functions:

• Determines our emotional state;
• Determines which events are intrinsically significant;
• They keep an emotional memory of bright events;
• Regulates motivation;
• Control appetite and sleep-wake cycles;
• Manages the formation of attachments;
• Directly controls the sense of smell.

The failure of the FPP is caused by external circumstances that destroy the already existing attachments between people. The three most common are:

Death, divorce, empty nest syndrome.

Death

Many grief survivors recall experiencing severe physical pain. This is not a figment of the imagination. Grief often activates pain centers in the brain close to the FPP. It is interesting to note that people who had a good relationship with the deceased during his lifetime often overcome grief faster than those who had a relationship with them with trouble and bitterness. This is because a good relationship leaves behind good emotional memories, which in turn heal better the pain of loss. The memories of grief and injustice, quarrels and the inability to agree are superimposed on the feeling of guilt and the inability to fix something. This does not contribute to the healing of mental wounds and emotional disorders, contrary to common sense, are deeper. (Common sense is that, in theory, a person should feel relief: the source of his troubles is gone!)

Divorce

Divorce can cause some of the most stressful experiences a person can experience. Sometimes it is harder to lose a spouse through divorce than through death. A strong bond is formed between people connected at the “limbic level”. It is this factor that most often becomes the reason for a woman's inability to leave her abusive husband. An attempt to break this connection can lead to serious violations and the woman will literally feel inferior, as if, having lost this man, she has lost part of herself. In fact, there is rarely more violence in a relationship between two people than that of those going through a divorce. They lose all sense of justice and do everything to inflict the sharpest possible pain on the other. That is why God so directly and rather sharply defines his attitude to divorce: "I hate divorce!" Small. 2: 14-16. (Ukr. Transl.)

Empty nest syndrome

No matter how difficult adolescence is for both children and their parents, there is still a strong bond between them, and its destruction leads to severe stress. Many spouses, having lived together for some time after the children leave for independent "swimming", begin to notice that they have nothing to talk about, there is no need to communicate, a feeling of loneliness, devastation, depression comes. They begin to accuse each other of minor miscalculations, mistakes and misdeeds. This leads to a strong negative mental climate in the family. Breaking up with children sometimes leads to divorce.

We think about the good. Correction of violations.

“Finally, my brothers, what is only true, what is honest, what is just, what is pure, what is kind, what is glorious, what is only virtue and praise, think about that” Philip. 4: 8.

Our consciousness has a certain general attitude, which is largely determined by what kind of thoughts visit us. When the FPP is hyperactive, the filters of our consciousness work in a "negative" mode. For those who are depressed, thoughts constantly, one after another, come into their heads, from which the mood spoils even more. About the past - only with regret, about the present - with despondency, and look into the future with anxiety. Due to internal stress, a person can behave in a repulsive manner. This, in turn, further isolates him from the outside world. On the contrary, a person with a positive mindset and mood exudes a sense of well-being and confidence, it is easier to communicate with such a person. Thinking positively helps you become more successful in life. What is constantly happening in our head is reflected in our behavior, it can be destructive or give us an additional advantage.

To correct violations of FPP, you should constantly monitor your own thinking. Unfortunately, there is no place where they teach science how to think correctly, how to analyze the thoughts that come to our minds. Most people are unaware of the important role our thoughts play and are oblivious to the thinking habits they form.

Did you know that every thought that comes to your mind sends an electrical impulse to your brain. Thoughts actually have physical properties. They are real! They have a powerful effect on every cell in our body. When our mind is burdened with a large number of negative thoughts, it badly affects the state of the FPP and leads to corresponding disorders, which are manifested by irritability, bad mood, depression, etc. One of the most effective ways to feel better is to learn to control your own thoughts.

"You have to deal with thinking problems that require exercising your best intellectual abilities." (R&D).

A few steps to help you train yourself to control your thoughts

STEP 1

Realize that your thoughts are real.

• You have a thought.
• Your brain releases chemical compounds.
• An electrical impulse is sent to the brain.
• You become aware of WHAT you are thinking.
• Thought really affects how you feel.

STEP 2

Pay attention to how a negative thought affects your body.

Every time an evil thought, an unkind thought, a sad thought, a capricious thought comes to your mind, your brain releases chemical compounds from which your body begins to feel bad, and the FPP is activated. Remember the last time you got angry? How did your body behave? For most people, when they are angry, their muscles tense, their heart rate increases, their palms begin to sweat, sometimes their head starts spinning, and their blood pressure rises. Your body, your body reacts to every negative thought.

There is another reason for the emergence of spontaneous negative thoughts.

“For millennia, Satan has experimented with the human mind, and he has studied it quite well. In these last days, with his cunning tricks, he connects the human mind with his own, instilling his thoughts in a person. He does this so cunningly that a person falling under his influence does not even realize that these thoughts are inspired by Satan at his will. The great deceiver expects to so confuse the minds of men and women that no voice other than his own will be heard. " MS, p. 111.

STEP 3

Pay attention to how positive thoughts affect the body.

Whenever you have a happy thought, a kind thought, a pleasant thought that inspires hope, your brain releases chemicals that make your body feel good. For most people, when they are happy, their muscles are relaxed, their heart beats calmly, palms are dry, breathing is slower and smoother, and there is a smile on their face, even if it is not visible in the dark.

“We need a constant sense of the ennobling power of pure thoughts. The only security for every soul is to think right. “As the thoughts in his soul are, so is he” (Proverbs 23: 7). RHL.

STEP 4

Consider bad thoughts to pollute your thinking.

Thoughts are powerful. They can make your body and mind feel good or bad. Every cell in your body is influenced by your every thought. That is why, when people are experiencing a strong emotional upset, they often develop purely physical disorders - headache, bowel upset, etc. (Example: Unpleasant conversations while eating can lead to vomiting, diarrhea).

Doctors believe that people with negative thinking are more susceptible to cancer. If you can think more about the good, your well-being will improve. Negative thoughts pollute your mind, your body and FPP in the same way that pollution of the natural environment in the vicinity of a big city pollutes your breath, trees, fruits in gardens and vegetable gardens.

STEP 5

Realize that your negative spontaneous thoughts may not always tell you the truth.

If you do not think about how you think, then thoughts come to you automatically and they are not necessarily correct. Your thoughts don't always tell you the truth, and sometimes even lie to you. You should not believe every thought that comes to your mind. It is very important to keep track of whether they are helping or hindering you. Unfortunately, if you never examine your thoughts, you just start to believe them as if they were all true.

STEP 6

Argue with negative spontaneous thoughts

You can train your mindset to work positively and give you hope, or you can let it stay negative and upset you. This is your choice. One way to change your thinking is to catch yourself thinking negatively again and responding to those thoughts. When you remove, correct, or stop thoughts of bad, you take away their power over you.

“The power of self-restraint is increased by constant exercise, and as a result, what at first seems difficult to do, thanks to constant repetition, it will become easier to do until the right thoughts and actions become a habit. If we wish, we can turn away from everything unworthy and low, rise to the highest standard, become respected people and beloved of God. " The Ministry of Healing, p. 491.

STEP 7

Correct the routes of your thoughts

Imagine that your brain is a large railroad with many routes along which freight trains travel in different directions. They have already been worked out, docked, approved by us and work perfectly according to their schedules. Each such composition is a NEGATIVE SPONTANEOUS THOUGHT (NSM). They rumble, do not give rest, sometimes fly by without stopping, and sometimes they stay at our station for a long time. If this is one such rumbling composition, that it can still be sustained. And if there are 10, 20 or 30 of them? It becomes unbearable. How long have these "trains" been rumbling in our head? We allow them to do this, it has become our habit, and this way of thinking will bring us to destruction.

“And do not flatter yourself with the hope that the sins you have cherished for some time can be easily forsaken. This is not true. Every sin nurtured steadily weakens character and reinforces addictions. The result is physical, mental and moral decay. You can repent of your wrong actions and return to the right path, but your mindset, which has been formed in long contact with sin, will make it difficult to clearly distinguish between good and evil. And the bad habits you have formed will be used by Satan to attack you again and again. " Object Lessons, p. 281.

It is necessary to put in order the work of the "station" of your brain. One way to deal with rumbling carriages is to record these thoughts and respond to them. For example: "My husband never listens to me." Write it down. Then write a reasonable answer next to it: “He is not listening to me now because he has no time or is distracted by something. He usually listens to me. " By writing down negative thoughts and responding to them, you deprive them of their power, and you will greatly improve your well-being.

Ways to control thoughts

There are nine ways your thoughts can make you think things are worse than they really are. Think of these as nine "Commodity Trains" rushing through your head.

ROUTE No. 1. Thoughts from the category "ETERNAL or NEVER".

Let's say your husband is annoyed, upset, and raises his voice. The thought immediately occurs to you: “He is always yelling at me!”, Even if he does not raise his voice so often. However, the thought of "he always yells at me" is so unpleasant that it upsets you in and of itself. Thus, it upsets your limbic system. Do not use all-or-nothing words. (For example: forever, always, never, nobody, everyone, all the time). Very popular expressions are created from these words: “He always substitutes me”, “Everyone uses me”, “Everything is wrong with me”, etc. our mentally "railroad". Once you catch yourself in these "absolute" categories, stop this rumbling line-up and force yourself to recall incidents that would refute these claims.

ROUTE # 2. Focus on the bad.

In this case, your thoughts reflect only the negative side of the situation and ignore any positive. If several people gave you a positive assessment of your event, you are satisfied and grateful. But then two more came up and told you that not everything was so beautiful, which statements will make a stronger impression? Of course those two. Why? We focused our attention on the negative. It looks like a "fly in the ointment". Negativity spoils our well-being if we focus on it. It doesn't matter that a noisy train rumbled and broke the peace and quiet. Let's remember a way to distract attention from negativity and write a thought on a piece of paper. In contrast, write something positive about the topic.

Our FPP can learn a lot from Eleanor Porter's book "Polianne". Focusing on the bad in any situation will make you feel bad. I do not call to look at the world through rose-colored glasses. I suggest actively looking for the good in order to balance with positive and optimism the world in which you so often experience negativity.

ROUTE NO. 3. "CLARITY" and "THOUGHT READING".

This refers to cases when, thinking about future events, a person chooses the most unfavorable from several options for the development of the situation. Imagine that you are driving home from work and paint yourself this picture: the apartment is destroyed, and no one is waiting for you. By the time you drive up to the house, you are already in the mood for a scandal. And as soon as you see that some thing does not lie in its place or that your family does not rush to meet you with all their might, you explode and thereby spoil the whole evening. The Thundering Composition Fortuneteller made you feel very nasty. These kinds of predictions are extremely harmful, because by expecting the unpleasant, you are literally forcing this unpleasant to happen.

It’s even worse if we think we know what other people are thinking. "She is angry with me!" It must be remembered that if suddenly a person looks at you differently, this does not mean that he has a claim to you. A glance may be associated with a person's problem and his well-being (headache or constipation). You cannot read other people's minds. You cannot know what others are really thinking until they tell you this. This even applies to people who are very close to you. If you don't understand something, ask the person to explain. One should get rid of such a "rumbling, harmful composition" in the head as soon as possible.

ROUTE No. 4. THINKING WITH FEELINGS.

This happens when you recklessly trust your negative feelings. You say to yourself: "I feel that it is not so, so it is so." Meanwhile, feelings are a complex phenomenon, they are often based on vivid experience from the past. Feelings are often deceiving, but many trust their feelings, their feelings, despite the fact that they have no confirmation that these feelings are correct. When such a freight train is moving, its locomotive is the first thought: “I FEEL ...” And it begins: “I feel that they will not believe me”, “I feel that you don’t love me”, “I feel like a failure”, etc. e. As soon as a strong negative feeling comes to you, drop it. Check what it is supported by. Are there any real reasons to think so? Or are your feelings based on past events? Separate reality from sensation.

ROUTE No. 5. GUILT.

Feelings of guilt do not help us live. This is especially true of the deep limbic system. In fact, guilt often leads us to act against our will. This manifests itself when we begin to think in the expressions "Obliged", "Should", "We have to". “I have to do it”, “I am obliged to devote time to children”, “It is imperative to clean up the office”.

The peculiarity of our psyche is such that as soon as we think that we owe something, we automatically begin not to want it. It would be necessary to use other formulations: "I want to do this", "It is in our interests if we spend more time with the children", "I want to please my husband and clean the office." Etc. Feelings of guilt are not productive in some cases. It is good only if there is really guilt and it is necessary to get rid of sin.

ROUTE No. 6. LABELS.

As soon as you "cling" a negative label to yourself or to someone else, you are deprived of the opportunity to look at the situation objectively. Examples of negative labels are “stupid,” “I don’t understand this,” “he’s irresponsible,” “boorish,” “arrogant," etc. Negative labels are extremely harmful because whenever you use one of them in relation to to yourself or to others, you subconsciously unite this person or yourself with all the "boors" or "irresponsible" you have met before. Thus, you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to communicate with him as a separate person. Stay away from negative labels.

ROUTE No. 7. SEARCH FOR THE GUILT.

Finding the culprit is extremely harmful. By blaming something or someone for your own problems, you yourself become a passive victim of circumstances and make it extremely difficult to change this situation. Firstly, you lose the person walking next to you, blaming him for the reasons for the difficulties, and secondly, you will never solve the problem like that. A constructive approach in such situations is to abolish the “product mix” that interferes with building normal thinking. When we blame others for our problems, we are unable to change our lives. This questionable "blame game" hinders our ability to influence what is happening. Refrain from accusatory thoughts. We must take personal responsibility for our own difficulties before we begin to resolve them.

Not such an easy thing - CHANGE YOUR THINKING... This is a lot of work. But if we try to do it ourselves, then we will not get to the ultimate goal of thought control. In each such situation, one must remember that every day is a struggle for our souls, for our minds. The Spirit of Prophecy gives us universal advice when we notice that our thoughts are discouraging us and we are not coping with them.

“Every morning, dedicate yourself, your soul, body, and spirit to God. Make your dedication habitual and trust your Savior more and more. Tell Him in the morning at the beginning of the day, “I only own one day. And on this day I will do my best. I will use my talent for speech to be a blessing to others. I will show patience, kindness, indulgence, so that today the Christian virtues will develop in me ”.

"We need the transforming grace of God to use our thinking powers properly." RHL, p. 779.

I remember in my childhood I was repeatedly asked such a comic problem: "Try not to think about the white monkey." And if I took this task seriously, then it was very difficult to get rid of thoughts about it. She crawled out in the form of a color, then in the form of an image, or simply in the words of the task that I set myself, "not to think about the monkey." Thank God, now this task does not present any special problems for me. I just don’t think about something if I don’t need it.

Why control your thoughts at all? What does it do? Well, firstly, clarity of thinking and the absence of garbage in the head.

You begin to see the environment more clearly, see your motives, goals and desires, see the motives, goals and desires of the people around you. And, accordingly, to see whether the goals and objectives of the people around you and the situations in which you are located, your goals and objectives. You become more effective for yourself and your life, move faster towards your goals and more easily avoid people and circumstances that hinder you in this.

Secondly, uncontrollable, spontaneous thoughts often trigger unpleasant, destructive emotions, such as guilt, envy or fear, which destroy you from the inside, poisoning your existence, depriving you of joy, peace of mind, and take away your time that you could use for something. useful or pleasant.

And finally, by controlling your thinking, you simply begin to find yourself. There is clarity about who you are, what you want and where you are going in your life. Self-confidence appears and unnecessary doubts disappear, which means that the possibility of manipulation by other people also disappears. After all, the main levers that manipulators use to control you are fears, doubts and self-doubt.

The main reason why disorder and chaos is formed in thoughts is a negative assessment of the environment, ambiguity in understanding one's goals and desires, as well as fear associated with the past and fear of a possible future. I will share some of the ways I have used, or still use, to figure out what is going on in your head.

- Try to always say "I". “I want”, “I know”, “I think”, “I think”, “I like it”. Avoid ambiguities, generalities, or vague definitions. Not "My friends and I went ...", but "I went with friends ..." do not like". This is not selfishness, in order to be selfish it is not necessary to say "I". This is the recognition that you are, and your desires are, and you acknowledge this, first of all, in front of yourself. This is a statement to others about your existence, a requirement that your existence be at least reckoned with. Those. often people cannot defend their opinion and purposefully go to the result, not because they do not have enough strength, courage or skill, but because they are not at all sure of what they are and what their desires are, and what are they. With the help of this method, you gradually become the center of your own universe, returning to yourself the state of yourself that you once had in childhood. You gradually become clear about who you are, what you want and what are your goals in this life.

- Avoid "false telepathy". When communicating with other people, people often think something like "He looked at me askance (grunted, did not react to my words, etc., etc.), which means he thought ...". Remember that you cannot read other people's thoughts, even the thoughts of those closest to you. You never know why the person did something or reacted somehow in your presence. Maybe he has problems at work and is focused on how to solve them. Try to always rely on reality, and not on your fantasies and assumptions. Instead of thinking, "He just looked askance at me," just describe what is happening, "He just narrowed his eyes, and I took it as a negative assessment of myself." If this continues to bother you, then just ask him what is the matter, what he thinks about. Don't think of yourself as the center of the universe. Remember that everyone around you, just like you, is mostly focused on yourself and your problems. The people around you think about you as much as you think about them.

- Remember that you do not owe anything to anyone and do not owe anything to anyone. Everything in your life is the result of your actions and your choices, and if you don’t like something, you don’t have to do it. Change in your words and thoughts the expressions “I have to”, “I have to”, “I have to” to the expressions “I want”, “in my interests” or even to “it is beneficial for me”. This will relieve you of the burden of other people's desires and the responsibility of others, and you will begin to become more clearly aware of your own desires, interests and your consciously accepted obligations, which bring you this or that benefit, and in other words, lead you to your specific goal ...

- Remember, there are no problems. Often times, people fill their heads with thoughts of unsolved problems. They consider them, then on the one hand, then on the other, thinking how to get out of the situation most effectively. And in fact they sit without doing anything, torturing themselves with heavy thoughts and experiences, and others, with their oppressive mood. Remember how often you think about a problem when doing something to solve it? In my experience, not very often, because there is a specific task that needs to be completed, and there is a clear sequence of actions, performing which, one by one, you come to a specific result. So there are no problems, there are situations to change which you can do something at the moment, and you do it without bothering yourself with useless thinking. And there are situations for changing which you cannot do anything (at least at this moment), which means that it is completely pointless to bother yourself about them, because it will not change anything. So do not fill your head with things that you are not able to influence. Do something more constructive. Or enjoyable.

- If heavy thoughts continue to overwhelm you, you can try another method. Most of our fears and doubts are associated either with the past, which we experience over and over again, unable to get out of the influence of what happened to us, or with the future, when we replay the possible development of events and shudder from possible unpleasant variants of these events. In these moments, try to remember who you are and where you are. Look around. Listen to yourself, to your feelings. Most often, when doubts and fears torment us, in reality nothing threatening happens. There may even be a very comfortable environment around you. There is no threat. There is nothing around you that hurts or scares you. There is nothing around you that you need to urgently react to and take immediate action. All this has either already happened or is still to come (which is also not a fact). Right now, in this moment, there is no threat. Right now, at this moment, everything is good and safe. Realize this.

- Feel your body. Another way to get out of the now is to shift your attention away from your thoughts to your physical sensations. By shifting attention to sensations, you intensify the flow of information coming from the body and this information displaces unnecessary processes that take away valuable energy in your head. Useless thoughts in the first place. You can also intensify the sensations by starting to dance, or by doing some physical exercise, or simply by starting to move, straining these or those included muscles to the maximum, trying to "feel" to them. The latter is good to do, for example, while walking. Others will not notice what you are doing, and at the same time you will begin to acquire better posture and smooth movements.

- If you find yourself in a situation where someone says something that you do not really want to listen to, the brain starts to explode from the interlocutor's speech and you start to get irritated, and there is no way to interrupt communication for some reason, then you can use this way. Try to listen attentively not to the meaning of words and the logic of speech, but to the sound of the interlocutor's voice. You don't get annoyed when birds sing outside the window, do you? Here and here, imagine that in front of you is such a big, your personal bird, which personally sings its song for you. Listen to the rhythm, melody, energy, expression and tonality. Find aesthetics in it and enjoy it.

- Master the art of positive thinking. I'm not talking about escaping reality, but about the ability to maintain balance. Negative thinking is the norm in our world. Unfortunately. Almost everyone, without exception, has a tendency to fall into the negative and do not compensate for this in any way. Positive thinking will be just that kind of compensation, and at the same time, it will be a way to get out of the pit of negative perception if you really fail there. Look for good sides, positive traits in everything. Be prepared for the unexpected, but assume the best. Be objective! There is nothing in the world that would carry exclusively negative qualities (well, maybe except for the Dark Lord 🙂). Remember that anything is possible in life. Even the most positive and magical for you.

Perhaps a medium-sized book could be written on this topic. Although there are a lot of them. But I hope that these few ways I’ve told you about it will help you think more clearly, clearly, constructively and purposefully, and help you come to your happier and more fulfilled life.

How important is it to be able to manage thoughts? Negative emotions caused by hard thoughts cause significant harm to the human psyche and body. The ability to suppress them has a positive effect on well-being in general. How to control your thoughts? Can you learn to do this?

Why do bad thoughts arise?

There are several factors that influence negative thinking propensity:

1. The habit of criticism. If a person is used to criticizing others and himself, he constantly accumulates negative emotions.
2. Low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and self-confidence.
3. Inability to develop and achieve their goals.
4. Lack of support. When a person in a difficult moment cannot rely on a loved one, problems begin to completely absorb him, it is much more difficult to cope with them.

It is important to identify what exactly is causing bad thoughts and negative emotions, and try to eliminate it.

What does the ability to control thoughts give?

Happiness. Often the smallest and frivolous troubles, constantly scrolling through the head, give rise to negative emotions, upset and even lead to depression, do not allow a person to become fully happy. The ability to free yourself, get away from heavy thoughts helps to maintain a positive attitude.

Freedom. People who have mastered this skill are less dependent on the opinions of others. They are more open and confident. On the contrary, too frequent occurrence of bad thoughts gives rise to a kind of dependence - a person becomes a slave to his feelings, fails. Only by breaking this circle, ceasing to attach too much importance to other people's opinions, can you become truly free.

Calmness. When a person is absorbed in negative thoughts, immersed in negative emotions, he loses the ability to think carefully, so he can commit rash acts that he will later regret. To act rationally, you must gain control of your mind.

Success. When a person is possessed by emotions, it is very difficult to go towards achieving their goals - excessive fervor interferes, makes him deviate from the intended course. Curbing your feelings helps to see tasks more clearly and develop the most effective plans for their implementation.

Finding yourself. A person who succumbs to negative reflections sees not only the world as distorted, but also himself - he cannot always understand exactly what he needs for happiness and harmonious existence. By controlling his thoughts, it is easier for a person to understand himself, because nothing distracts him.

How do you manage your thoughts?

It is more correct and relevant to first ask the question “ what prevents you from managing thoughts?“And many different things interfere, but all of them can be called with one phrase - mental rubbish. What is mental garbage? It:

• fears, jealousy, anxiety, resentment, etc.
• complexes
• limiting beliefs and perceptions
• dependencies
• and much more

Mental trash consumes a lot of your precious energy, and in return brings only illness, suffering and takes away the ability to control your thoughts, and therefore your life... The Turbo-Gopher system (official site) can help free your mind from the mental burden. The system is easy to use and has several advantages:

• it removes the roots of problems, rather than disguises them - and therefore removes them forever
• she uses the hidden capabilities of the subconscious, which explains the high speed of getting rid of problems

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It is also worth understanding some things that will help on the path to controlling your thoughts.

Accepting your imperfection

First of all, a person must come to terms with the fact that he is not perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, fails. Self-criticism, the constant experience of one's own mistakes leads to depression. If a person perceives their failures as something inevitable, life becomes much easier.

Understanding that thought is real

If a person perceives his own thoughts as something abstract, then he does not pay due attention to them, allows them to appear one after another. You can even drown in a stream of uncontrolled thoughts.

It is important to understand that thoughts are real - they force the brain to secrete various chemical compounds, cause all kinds of emotions, have a noticeable effect on a person's mood and self-awareness, on his attitude to life.

Belief in your abilities

You need to understand that a person is free to choose what to think about. A variety of thoughts can arise by themselves, but only a person decides whether to develop them. You should stop bad feelings and dwell on positive ones.

Concentration

The next stage is to develop the ability to transfer and hold attention on something specific - an object or form. For example, at the moment when negative thoughts overwhelm, focus on the first thing that catches your eye - a book, a picture, a reflection in a mirror, a view from a window. At this time, no extraneous thoughts should arise, it is necessary to learn how to fully immerse yourself in what is being looked at.

You can develop this skill by exercising regularly. It is best to choose specific hours for your practice (for example, 8, 16 and 20 hours), and exercise daily. You should choose an object and completely focus on it. Extraneous thoughts that come to mind must be ignored, driven away. At first, it may not work, but over time, attempts will increasingly be crowned with success.

Positive thinking

Now you need to learn to think positively. How does the body react when a person thinks about something bad? Often his heart rate increases, muscles tense, palms begin to sweat, sometimes even blood pressure rises. When people think good things, the brain releases chemicals that improve the condition. At this time, the mood rises, breathing evens out and slows down, the body relaxes.

This simple visual example helps you understand how destructive negative emotions are and how positive thinking can be beneficial.

You should give yourself the installation: “I am closed to all kinds of negative influences. I accept and give only positive impulses. " The further task is to follow this decision, not to doubt their own strengths, in the ability to adhere to the promise given to oneself.

Employment

The brain should not be idle, it should be constantly loaded. In the absence of study, bad thoughts and feelings are born of their own accord. It is important to constantly monitor that the head is working, to give the mind tasks.

Ability to enjoy the little things

Even small joys and successes should bring positive emotions. You need to learn to notice them, experience them fully, feel every moment of life.

Indulgences

Man is not a robot. If on the way to the intended goals there are difficulties, forced deviations from the course, you should accept them calmly, without anger and irritation with yourself. It's important to learn to forgive yourself for mistakes and praise your successes. Don't get hung up on the bad.

Philosophical attitude to life

If something went wrong, it didn't work out, it means that the time has not come yet. You need to take it calmly. Not everything in the world is logical and a person cannot control the events that are taking place. The ability to cope with setbacks and negative events calmly is the key to longevity and psychological health.

Switching attention

When bad thoughts and emotions appear, mood worsens, you need to be able to shift attention to something good: remember pleasant moments from the past or dream about future successes.

By learning how to learn how to control your thoughts, you can significantly improve your life, find happiness, harmony and tranquility.

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The mind lives its own life and constantly slips us what, in its opinion, needs to be pondered, coated or chewed during the day (the same mental gum when thinking is not productive and does not lead to either getting answers or solving problems).

The first thing to start with is to understand that we are mistakenly separating our minds from ourselves. As if in a news feed in social networks, we see a constant update of content. But, if there we have the opportunity to choose: unsubscribe, subscribe, complain about the content, click “dislike”, then for some reason this does not work with the brain. We cannot say to ourselves: "This, of course, is not a bad idea, but I will not think about it, at least for now." Or, when you need to focus on a specific issue, and instead spam content comes into your head and crawls out of vain thoughts about nothing and everything at once. So can you even run hell in your head?

The answer is yes, you can. And that's good news. You can learn to control your thoughts!

Learning from children

At first glance, it may seem that this is an overwhelming task. Some specific conditions are needed, for example, to be born a monk in the mountains of Tibet or to leave for Goa. But no, the task is feasible and, apart from having yourself, nothing else is required.

Look at the little ones. How they learn to control their bodies. They move funny, walk awkwardly, constantly fall, but thanks to their perseverance to learn how to control themselves, they eventually master the movements by the age of 11. But then they are overtaken by a new surprise from the body - the reproductive system begins to mature. As a result, they have to learn to manage it too for several years. And only at the age of 18-20 people are fully formed, they control themselves. But, not all of them, unfortunately. During this time of maturation and formation, we were not so diligent in managing our thoughts and emotions.

We didn't really understand why we needed it, but by the age of 25-30 the need was realized quite sharply. And here, our age is both a plus and a minus. Let's start with the minus.

For 20-30 years or more, we have learned to react and think not quite effectively, and retraining is always more difficult - this is how to get rid of a bad habit. You are actually scared to lose her, because she has become a part of you (so it seems). And you just do not understand how to fill the void, what will replace it. But, fortunately, that the habit of "not controlling your mind", we will immediately replace it with the opposite one. This is the plus of our age - we know how to learn, we have the experience of taming our bodies. All that is required of us is discipline and regularity, which, again, is easier to achieve from us than from a three-year-old child or teenager.

Mental computer

Our brains are often compared to computers in terms of coolness and functionality. Agree, it would be strange if we were not able to turn off our computer or laptop at any time. Or, if he himself turned on when he wanted to, open programs, applications, say: “Look how important and interesting it is or sad, and we need to be sad”.

If we support the "brain-computer" analogy, then, in theory, we could stop the flow of thoughts, choose what and when to think. To live in such a way that the brain, without our knowledge, performs only internal working functions: it controls the body and basic instincts, and the active mind is completely under our control. Then we could think about the pleasant most of the time, imagine the beautiful, enjoy life. And for the third day, they wouldn’t be playing that incident with a neighbor who didn’t like the way you looked at her. Or that idiot who flooded you at the bus stop from head to toe. It seems to me that the prospect is quite tempting for itself, in order to at least devote time to it and practice.

Exercises for every day

Let's start small.

• Stop from time to time and revise your thoughts. Notice what the thought is and let it go. There is no need to go deep: you are an outside observer and do not participate in the process of thinking about something. Imagine opening your work email and seeing a lot of incoming messages. Mark each of them in turn as read, but do not open the letter itself.

Do this for 2-3 days 5-7 times a day, about 1 time per hour during the working day. Everything about everything will take a minute. That is, 5-7 minutes a day for 2-3 days will be enough for you to master the principle. In my opinion, not such a difficult task - a maximum of 21 minutes in 3 days.

• After the principle is learned, in the next 7 days, start noting: this is a good idea - we leave it in the inbox. This is bad - we put it in the spam folder.
• Then, learn to group your incoming thoughts by topic: pleasant, sad, joyful, anxious, unwanted, annoying, and place them in your mental folders. This will take you 5-7 days.
• When you are already good at shifting the focus of attention from thought to thought, quickly and accurately determine whether you like it or not, pack them into folders, start sending negative thoughts immediately to “junk mail” or “spam”. Serious, disturbing, important thoughts, put off until later if this is not the right time to think about them (for example, you go to bed or decide to spend time with friends). Positive, joyful, invigorating thoughts, learn to call from the appropriate folders at any time and immerse yourself in them - at last you can open the letter, read it, perhaps several times. Enjoy the beauty of the syllable, pictures, follow the links to even more pleasant thoughts.

This may take you 7 to 10 days. If you are comfortable, then increase the training time, bring the skill to automatism.

• Try to control your thoughts in the most uncomfortable situation. For example, the boss yells at you, instead of getting annoyed, yelling back or embarrassingly defending yourself, you open a folder with pleasant memories, take off somewhere on the Cote d'Azur, listen to the sound of the surf. And when the boss calms down, inform you that you will come next time.
• Your next task will be to learn how to deal with spam, that is, with the flow of incoming thoughts. Oh yes, if you still haven't guessed, then you are the one who produces them. It is not they who climb into your head, but your own mind is playing chess with you, giving you check and checkmate. But, now you take control of the situation and just learn to reduce the flow of incoming thoughts. This will allow you to focus as much as possible on the current task, easily catch the state of the flow and increase efficiency - since you are not distracted by neural chatter, but do business using 100% of the time of your mind.

And what will happen when I stop the flow of thoughts?

Will there be emptiness? Sounds scary. It's like you go to social media. network, and there is not a single message in the news feed. First thought: something's broken! Evil of a universal scale has happened. But no, do not worry, most likely, if you do not belong to those Tibetan monks, do not live daily meditation, and the state of nirvana is generally a dark forest for you, then you are reliably protected from this, but to decide what to think about, which filmstrips scroll in your head, you can 100%.

Visualizations and the inner voice

Most likely, as soon as you start focusing on what's going on with your brain, you will find that one thought is inseparable from another. Moreover, they represent some kind of mess: I’ve just thought that it’s time to start preparing the child for school, as I’m already thinking about which day of the week it is better to pass the inspection. And, if you listen, then in parallel with all this, I remembered that I had not sent an important letter at work and, in general, I am fat.

I would compare it to a radio that is constantly losing wave. In order to highlight a specific thought, turn the program search knob. Do you feel that it is becoming clearer, less and less interference? Of course, it will not work the first time, but daily training will give its results.

How do we usually perceive what we think about? - this is an inner voice that we seem to hear and visual images that we seem to see.

What can we do with sound?

We can turn it off, turn it down or turn it up. We can change the speed of speech, tone of voice and intonation. If you hear the mother's dissatisfied voice, then it is in your power to replace it with an affectionate or approving, supportive one.

What can we do with visuals?

Send a mental signal to change it. For example, add paints, colors, dynamics, add missing elements or remove unnecessary ones; completely change. We can make it movable or static. Just experiment and manipulate what you see and hear within you. Exercise briefly, but regularly. And later on, you will feel that you can tune your brain to the right job pretty quickly.

Why learn to control your thoughts?

This is a very important skill, in principle for any person, and is especially relevant for those who embark on the path of self-love. Over the years, we have become accustomed to offending, humiliating, blaming and reprimanding ourselves. We do it instantly, without hesitation. It is these thoughts that we need to track and filter out, in the first place. Send them to the spam folder. And in their place, evoke praise, approval, acceptance and forgiveness.

Can you do it the first time? - Unlikely.

Will you be able to completely get rid of negative and “unnecessary” thoughts? - I do not think.

But what you will definitely learn is to focus on those thoughts that are necessary and useful for you.

Our thoughts cause our states. We drive ourselves into despondency, fatigue, depression. And in the same way, we can evoke calmness, joy, delight in ourselves. It may seem that sadness has piled by itself - nothing foreshadowed trouble, and in general, nothing bad happened, but! uncontrollable thoughts and memories in that very stupid mess, at some point sent a signal to our emotional brain and body that we should be sad, and we responded to this.

When we pay attention to our active mind and note what is happening in it at the moment. When we consciously shift the focus of attention from thought to thought, then all other thoughts seem to lose weight. They are, they hang out there by themselves, restless, but our brain, emotions, feelings and body are busy with signals that have more intensity of impact, and it increases due to our conscious deliberation.

Finally become a king in your head. Train your brain. Be more efficient and more joyful. Train every day for amazing results.

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