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The cultivation of good feelings. Material on the topic: Report "The development of good feelings as a means of educating morality"

KINDNESS- this is responsiveness, sincere disposition towards people, the desire to do good. The upbringing of kindness is carried out, first of all, in the parental home. The warm, friendly atmosphere in the family, the respectful, caring attitude of its members to each other and to people in general, the purposefulness of the influence of parents contribute to the formation of a person who is ready to do good deeds and appreciate goodness.

Kindness is born and nourished by kindness. The kid strives for emotional and moral communication with adults, expects affection from them and willingly responds in kind. At the same time, parents need to be extremely attentive to the child, not to offend him with indifference, irritability. Kindness towards children should be combined with reasonable and consistent demands on them.

Particular attention should be paid to the development of love for nature in children: gardening, country walks, growing indoor plants, caring for animals stimulate the formation of a feeling of love for everything that needs human help and protection.

Kindness Education

Try to be at least a little kinder and you will see

that you will not be able to commit a bad deed.

Kindness is the thinnest and most powerful roots that nourish the tree of childish joy, the joy of a gentle touch on the living and beautiful. A small child should love all living things, because only kindness opens the child to the joy of mutual understanding.

Communication is the essence of human life. If we want to see our children kind, we must bring the child the joy of communicating with us - this is the joy of joint knowledge, joint work, joint play, joint rest.

Kindness begins with love for people (primarily for those closest to us), for nature. We will develop in children a sense of love for others.

Teach children to hate evil and indifference. As much love for the child as possible, as much exactingness to him as possible.

Teaching kindness in children begins in the family. The desire for kindness is born from mutual respect, care, awareness of the value of good.

Kindness appears only out of kindness and without kindness does not exist. The relationship between the child and the parent is built on an emotional and moral plane, the child lives in anticipation of a kind word and with pleasure does good in return. When a child shows his best spiritual qualities, adults should treat him with close attention, avoiding indifference and harsh words. However, you should not go too far with affection either, constant lisping and permissiveness makes the child capricious, and most importantly, he ceases to understand the value of kindness. Kindness, combined with prudent exactingness, contributes to the child's awareness of the importance of a good relationship.

The desire to bring good to people must be cultivated in every possible way in a child, because this makes him a humane person. Kindness is born in activity, true humanism lies in the ability to carry good, and not use human kindness. In the mind of a growing child, the image of a kind person who empathizes and stands on the side of good as opposed to evil should be clearly formed. Children understand kindness as an expression of absolute generosity. Encouraging a child's desire for kindness is the task of parents.

Love for nature and living beings also develops the best qualities in a child: kindness, responsiveness, generosity. From this point of view, it is important to involve the child in growing plants (at home and outside the city), walking in nature, caring for our smaller brothers. Acquaintance of a child with the world of art contributes to the development of personality, forms the concept of good and evil, humanism.

It is not easy to develop the ability to empathize in a child. It develops gradually and does not immediately manifest itself completely. An adult teaches the kindness of a child, doing it unobtrusively, but constantly, drawing the attention of his baby, first of all, to the personality of another child, to his state of mind: “Do not offend others”, “If you see that someone is crying, come and calm down. Do you feel better when you are comforted?” etc. There are many such lessons. And they need to start very early, not missing those life situations that can move the child to an effective response to the emotional discomfort of a friend. The first and basic rule is that kindness can only be brought up with kindness, while relying on the good that has already been formed in the character of the child or is just beginning to take shape.

Kindness makes a person educated.

The child is naturally kind. Childish cruelty, which we sometimes observe in children, is not a typical phenomenon, but most likely a pathology, or a child’s misunderstanding of what hurts. How often children break branches just like that, inflicting “pain” on a tree, and do not think at the same time that they are hurting it. How often children throw stones into a pond, river and no one stops them. They pollute the water, and after all, many different living creatures live in the reservoir.

Yes, goodness must be taught.

The upbringing of kindness is connected with the awakening of compassion in a child, empathy in grief, trouble and the ability to rejoice and empathize with the success of another as if it were one's own.

The child should come to this not through censure or fear of punishment, but through strengthening, as he grows up, self-esteem. An effective, sincere manifestation of an adult's love for a child encourages him to show good feelings in communication with others - this is an important condition for cultivating kindness.

Communication with nature awakens in a child kindness, responsiveness, a sense of responsibility for another life, for example, for the life of animals and plants.

The ABC of kindness is comprehended by a child every day through his thoughts, feelings, deeds and deeds.

With the help of the natural environment, adults have the opportunity to comprehensively develop the child: expanding his horizons, showing relationships in nature, involving children in joint activities, giving feasible assignments, encouraging the child to sympathy, empathy, raising the desire to help with deeds.

We learn from nature a sense of beauty, a sense of proportion, goodness, justice.

But how to attach the child to the native nature? How to develop in him a cognitive interest in her, to cultivate love and respect?

First of all, it is necessary to confront the child with the wonders of wildlife, to give the opportunity to admire the tree and the bush, the cat and the jackdaw ... Meeting with nature should be a holiday for the child, which we, adults, must prepare.

A sensitive childish soul, which from childhood has known the feeling of enjoying the beauty of nature, will certainly touch the most necessary strings of the human character. After all, it is difficult to live in the world without three things: art, love and memories.

Practical advice for parents

· By your own example, show the children how you respect your grandparents. There is no need to hide your feelings in front of your parents, remind your parents every day about how dear they are to you and take an interest in their health. Then after many years you will be delighted when your child is interested in your mood and health. Joint pastimes with parents, with grandparents should be deposited in the memory of the child with pleasant memories, and therefore respect for the elders.

· Teach children from a young age to empathize and show kindness to elders. In addition to a personal example, encouragement is of great importance in the upbringing of these qualities in a child. Any manifestations of politeness and kindness by a child should not go unnoticed by parents. If the child gave up his seat on the bus to his grandmother or you, then tell him: “Your act made me very happy, you set an example for the rest of the children.”

· Never cross the student's desire to help you with the words: "You can't carry weights, I'll carry it myself." It is better in this case to say: “I like your desire to help me, but it will be difficult for you to lift it alone, come on, we will divide the products into two parts and carry them together.” You can not try to redo all the household chores yourself, believing that the child is still small. Only by helping parents and grandparents do children learn to take care of their elders and respect them. If the parents work all day long, and the child does nothing but go to school and prepare lessons, then he will expect the same attitude towards himself as a future adult.

Fairy tales have long been considered an excellent assistant in cultivating respect for elders and kindness in children. They teach kids kindness and respect for elders. When watching TV or movies in cinemas, you should also try to pay more attention to films and cartoons that contribute to the development of these qualities in a child.

Dear parents!

· No matter how much we have conversations, conversations with children about nature, about caring for it, we will not achieve the desired result until we take the child out into nature, until we ourselves show an example of a careful and caring attitude towards it.

· Let's do good, good deeds, children learn kindness from us.

Presentation at parent meeting.

Topic: "Education of good feelings in children"

Goals: 1. Prevent manifestations of selfishness in children.

2. Raise kindness in children.

3. Teach children to deal with manifestations of evil in life.

Often a father or mother asks themselves the question: why do their children grow up selfish. They do not even suspect that with their blind love they themselves make children like that.

If a child is used to only taking and not giving anything to others, he will grow up as an inattentive, rude, and sometimes cruel person.

Psychologists warn parents about this danger in education.

“Here you have one apple,” says the psychologist, “only one, and you know perfectly well that the growing child’s body needs it more than you do. And yet - do not give the child the whole apple. Do not create privileges for him. Remember that your child, in addition to the body, also has a psyche, there is an emerging character. And in such a case, together with a vitamin for the child’s health, you introduce a terrible virus into his soul. The virus of immorality.

From early childhood, it is necessary to teach children to share with comrades, and when they give sweets, teach them to treat all family members, comrades.

The girl was presented with a bar of chocolate for her birthday. Adults say: “This is for you, Lenochka, eat.” Lenochka steps aside and begins to eat, not paying attention to those present. Thus, selfishness is brought up.

One of the ways to educate children in good feelings is to educate a caring attitude towards nature. If a child tortures animals and adults do not stop him, he gets used to such cruel amusements, becomes cruel to people. Usually children love animals. This love should be encouraged. Unfortunately many families do not keep animals, so they are of little interest to children, they do not touch them. There are many examples when the appearance of animals in the house brought great joy to children and positively influenced their behavior.

When a child takes care of animals: he cleans the house, feeds him, takes him for a walk, he involuntarily begins to love a living being.

It is necessary to strive to nurture active kindness in a child. So, for example, students answer the question: who do they consider the kindest? The answer is usually the same. They consider excellent students to be kind. Why? They study well, do not fight, exemplary in behavior. there is a lot of evil in life. Children must distinguish between the sides of evil: selfishness, cruelty, indifference, injustice, disrespect.

It is important that children understand that a person should direct strength to protect the weak. Do not pass by if someone is offended.

From an early age, children should be taught to please people. An atmosphere of mutual attention and care for each other should be created in the family.

Parents have returned from work. Children know that they are tired. Even before their parents arrive, they try to clean the room and set the table.

Parents should be interested in how the child's relationship develops with his peers, neighbors and teachers.

There is no need to convince you of the importance of the problem: everyone understands that kindness has become the most scarce phenomenon in the world. Kindness is the basis of the moral integrity of the individual, and this concept is quite capacious. How do they imagine good man- who loves to help others, who knows how to sympathize, empathize, who will always share the last piece of bread, etc. A kind person loves the whole world around him.

In the system of methods and means of educating good feelings, fairy tales play an important role, and for many reasons: children love heroes, they become relatives and friends to them, which means they can and should become role models. It is only important to tactfully direct the thoughts and feelings of the kids in the right direction. In each case, the plot of the tale draws attention to individual components from a whole range of good feelings: either selflessness, or devotion, or empathy. In this regard, the child's attention should be paid to morally significant moments.

For this you need:

✓ teach children to compare, contrast;

✓ form the habit of proving that this is one way or another;

✓ put the child in the place of a positive or negative hero, thereby giving the child the opportunity to choose his own position;

✓ to exercise children in synchronous expression of feelings and body movements, providing a much deeper empathy for the actions and deeds of the characters. For example:

▪ "Prove that Alenka is the best."

▪ "Who do you feel sorry for in this fairy tale?"

▪ "What would you do on the spot..."

▪ "How to praise a cockerel with movements."

You can use triz game“Good - bad”, the essence of which is to separate good and bad deeds and phenomena with the child. So, to take one more step in the formation of kindness, albeit at the level of ideas for now.

From time to time, you, parents, can show your child your attitude towards this or that hero, thereby forming a more conscious attitude towards good and evil: “I don’t really like Ivasik-Telesik. Guess why?" That is, the specific retention of each fairy tale can tell you your own ways of cultivating good feelings. It is important not to forget about them.

Consider now the next of the seven sections - " Cultivating good feelings". There is no need to convince us of the importance of the problem: we all understand that kindness has become the most scarce phenomenon in the world around us. But remember that this concept is quite capacious. How do we imagine a kind person - helpful, loving to help others, able to sympathize, empathize, etc. Fairy tales play an important role in the whole system of methods and means of cultivating good feelings. For many reasons: children love heroes, they become close and dear to them, which means they can and should become role models. It is only important to tactfully direct the thoughts and feelings of the kids in the right direction.

Before giving specific advice, I would like to quote statements about the kindness of the outstanding teacher of our time, Sh. A. Amonashvili: “ There is another important personal quality that carries both a national and a universal property. It is a feeling of kindness. There is no need to split up the content of education. Now we rush to the education of friendship and comradeship, then - to the education of respect for elders. The personality is whole.
The feeling of kindness, in my opinion, is the basis of the moral integrity of the individual. Kindness has a national connotation, but it is universal. “Hurry to do good” - in this Latin call, it is precisely the universal humanity of the feeling of kindness that is preserved ...
A kind person cannot help but love deeper. Compassion, sympathy cannot but arise in a kind person. A kind person cannot but show the generosity of the soul. A kind person cannot but respect people. He cannot be envious, rude, boorish. He cannot but be decent, caring. A kind person can show courage, selflessness ... In general, the feeling of kindness is the root of all noble qualities».

Returning to the fairy tale, he noted that in each specific case, its plot draws attention only to individual components from a whole range of good feelings: either selflessness, or sharing, or empathy. In this regard, one should pay attention to morally significant moments, namely, that:

  • teaches children to compare, contrast;
  • forms the habit of proving that it is one way or another;
  • puts the child in the place of a positive or negative hero, thereby giving the baby the opportunity to choose his own position;
  • trains children in the synchronous expression of feelings and body movements, providing a much deeper empathy for the actions and deeds of the characters.
For example:
  • "Prove that Alenka is the best";
  • "Who do you feel sorry for in this tale";
  • “What would you do on the spot…”;
  • "How to praise a cockerel with movements."

Often, the Trizian game "Good - bad" is used here. Separating good and bad deeds and phenomena aside means taking another step in the formation of kindness, albeit at the level of ideas for now.

From time to time, the author, as it were, shows the child his attitude towards this or that hero, thereby forming a more conscious attitude towards good and evil: “I don’t really like Ivasik - Telesik. Guess why?" That is, the specific content of each fairy tale can prompt parents and their own ways of cultivating good feelings. It is important not to forget about them.

“Kindness is the sun that warms the human soul. All good things in nature come from the sun, and all the best things in life come from man.” (M. Prishvin). Kindness is a quality valued in all eras. The more difficult the times, the more dear for people the kindness and sympathy of others. But what should be a good person? What is kindness? How and when does it develop in children?

Kindness- this is a manifestation of sincere, good feelings towards someone or something. Kindness makes us responsive and tolerant, able to give others care and love. Kindness- this is a manifestation of sincere feelings that are useful to others, and do not require remuneration.

To instill kindness in children, it is important to teach them to understand other people. Today this misunderstanding is widely expressed in indifference and selfishness, and worse in hatred, envy, malice. Our children do not understand the meaning of life and the essence of the soul, as a result of which the constant background of life is fear and anxiety for their lives, and worse, cowardice and meanness, licentiousness, laziness.

For the first time, a child learns from fairy tales that there is some other life around him, based on the interaction of two components: good, which is always rewarded for positive deeds and actions, and evil, which by all means is punished by the end of the fairy tale. So they learn to be kind and condescending to relatives, friends and acquaintances, to live in the world around them, to do good, to help those who need help. It is fairy tales that instill love for beauty, responsibility, purposefulness, responsiveness. The significance of fairy tales for a small child is great: from ordinary words and stories of parents, children are not yet able to absorb the necessary knowledge, and with the help of vivid images and plots of fairy tales, in which each child seeks himself, it is easier to learn life values ​​and acquire the necessary skills.

We started our work with V.I. Dahl's dictionaries. and Kona I.S. they considered the concept of "kindness".

Kind - doing good to others, sympathetic, and also expressing these qualities. Kind soul. Kind eyes.

Kind- bringing goodness, goodness, well-being. Good news. Good relations.

Kind - good, moral. Good deeds.

Kind - friendly, dear.

Kind - benevolent, sympathetic, ready to help people.

Kind - willingly sharing his means, property, etc. with others; generous.

Kind - characteristic of a benevolent, sympathetic person.

Kind - expressing location, sympathy.

Kind - based on the desire for good to people; necessary, useful. Kind - good, virtuous, valiant, good-natured, complacent, (kindly) warm-hearted, humane, humane, sincere, compassionate, sympathetic, sensitive, (faith) tolerant, merciful, affectionate; good-natured, good-natured, soul-man, heart of gold, good Samaritan, man of rare soul, angel in the flesh, inexplicable kindness; brave, good; philanthropic, good, big-hearted, kind, kind, moral, close, sugary, standing, big, kind, good, thorough, glorious, sensible, simple-hearted, kind, kind-hearted, enviable, first class, sympathetic, important, affable, not bad, anywhere, healthy, impeccable, great, charitable, merciful, decent, okay, fair, excellent, good-natured, meek, soft-hearted.

The upbringing of kindness is one of the essential aspects of raising a child. This is due to the awakening in the child of compassion, empathy in grief, trouble and the ability to rejoice and empathize with the success of another as if it were your own. The child should come to this not through censure or fear of punishment, but through strengthening, as he grows up, self-esteem. An effective, sincere manifestation of an adult's love for a child encourages him to show good feelings in communication with others - this is an important condition for the education of kindness.

We have developed a set of activities that gives the initial idea of ​​kindness. The work was carried out in stages. At each stage, the following tasks were solved:

  • to form in children the idea of ​​kindness;
  • create a motive to be kind;
  • cultivate a positive attitude towards kindness;
  • develop skills and habits to be kind;
  • to form actions and behavior to be kind.

To form ideas about kindness, we used a large doll in a beautiful dress Snow White. Read the fairy tale of the Brothers Grimm "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs" to the children. "Snow White" was in the group throughout the entire period of work with children and played the role of a character personifying kindness for children.

We played the game "In search of kind words." (Children needed to insert a kind word, complete the story.)

1) Olya was drawing a present for her mother. The brother ran, the drawing fell to the floor. Olya was ready to cry, but her brother said the magic word. Which? Olya smiled and said to her brother...

2) Grandmother sewed a dress for Katyusha's doll, but it turned out to be small. Katyusha was upset, and her grandmother asked to bring her a doll and said .... The granddaughter was glad. She is...

3) Vanya was building a garage for a car. Misha asked: "And I will build with you." How would you ask a friend about it?

Also at this stage, we used: reading the fairy tale “The Fox and the Crane” to children, talking about its content. “As it comes around, it will respond,” is the idea of ​​this fairy tale. We offered the children to change the end of the fairy tale, to correct the situation. Think and decide how to make the fox and the crane remain good friends?

The children were asked questions: Why do you think the crane could not eat the porridge from the fox? Why couldn't the fox eat the okroshka from the crane? What would you do in the place of these heroes? They offered to beat the fairy tale, change its end. The result of our work at the first stage was the child's understanding of the meaning of the words "kind", "kindness".

At the second stage, we tried to form the motive “to be kind” in children. We tried to notice every good deed done by the child, marked it on the panel “Our good deeds”.

We used the reading of A. Barto's poem "Vovka is a kind soul." We tried to arouse in children the desire to be kind, to do good deeds.

We divided the children into groups. Each group was given pictures of different situations. Children had to characterize these situations, choose actions that can be described as kind.

We used creative tasks from the Science of Kindness series. So the children were offered to take part in helping the birds in winter. Previously, they showed that the birds have nothing to eat in winter, they are starving. Children responded and willingly participated in the manufacture of bird feeders.

In the third stage, we tried to instill in children a positive attitude towards the manifestation of kindness. They led the children to the idea that everyone can show kindness. We talked about people of different professions. How does a person in this profession show kindness.

We used G. Akulov's poem "Kindness". Suggested to speculate: "Why is it necessary to be kind?".

We looked at images of Snow White, the Gray Wolf, Little Red Riding Hood, Cinderella, Karabas-Barabas with the children and offered to name only good fairy-tale characters, to tell why they decided so. In the game "Hospital" the children tried to imitate the good doctor Aibolit, treated their toys.

We have taught children to be kind. They worked in a corner of nature, where children looked after plants. Children independently determined the objects of nature that need to be looked after. Such a task contributed to the formation of not only a kind, but also a careful attitude towards nature.

Kindness is helping people and animals. A kind person will pity the unfortunate animal, find words to comfort, help someone in trouble, keep someone from making a mistake. They talked with the children, offered to tell about their good deeds. Why are good deeds necessary? How can you make people kinder?

We constantly stimulated the child's desire to be kind. In the group, a "Bureau of Good Deeds" was opened. We designed a stand with photos of the kindest children. Each child aspired to have his photo on this stand too. We invited the children to draw on the theme: "I am kind." Organized a drawing competition on the theme "Good deeds". They handed out emblems and diplomas "The kindest child in the group."

There are many people around us who constantly need help. The desire to bring good to people must be cultivated in every possible way in a child, because this makes him a humane person. Kindness is born in activity, real humanism lies in the ability to do good. In the mind of a growing child, the image of a kind person who empathizes and stands on the side of good as opposed to evil should be clearly formed. To encourage a child's desire for kindness is the task of adults.

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