How men fall in love: signs and their behavior. Strives to improve the financial situation. Meeting behavior

13.07.2019

Everyone knows the banal truth that a woman loves with her ears. This is true. I'd love to hear compliments and words of love from the guy we liked! But men, unfortunately, are not always in a hurry to talk about their feelings. And we girls only have to guess what is going on there, inside, behind a wide and rock-solid chest.

Fortunately, there are several surefire ways to figure out if a guy is in love or not. Yes, a man may not speak directly about his experiences. But his eyes, voice, gestures and demeanor will tell many more words. And learning to read a man's soul is not so difficult.

A man's behavior is a mirror of his real motives. If a guy is not indifferent to you, he will definitely do the following things:

1. Make frequent calls

Of course, not all men behave the same. A confident guy is easier to call than someone who is very shy. But even a timid young man will find at least a couple of questions or topics for a telephone conversation. Even if he cannot say anything sensible into the phone, he will embarrassedly apologize for the concern.

2. Always make time for you

If you suddenly need help, your boyfriend will agree to come to the rescue. If he is in love, he will worry about your problems, delve into the difficult situation you are in, listen carefully, give advice and, of course, help.

If a guy is indifferent, he will find a thousand reasons why he is forced to leave you at a difficult moment (his mother suddenly fell ill, the boss called, the car broke down, etc.).

3. Admire you

Usually men do not notice what we are dressed in or how we do our hair. But a guy in love always thinks that you look amazing. He does not always manage to express his admiration in the form of compliments (after all, not all men know how to say them, plus some are hindered by embarrassment). But he will "devour" you with his eyes and in no case will he say that the dress does not suit you, and his lips are painted too brightly.

A guy who has true feelings will never hesitate to show you to his friends or family. On the contrary, he will be proud to present to the whole world the object of his sincere adoration.

The look of a guy in love

The eyes are a mirror of the soul. This truth can also serve as a weapon in secret women's intelligence. You can tell from a man's eyes whether he has an interest in you or not.

For example, a guy looks directly at you, without looking away or wandering around his face and body. Such direct visual contact "eye to eye" is interpreted in two ways: a man can see an enemy in you, or, on the contrary, is head over heels in love. In order not to be mistaken, look at his pupils: if they are narrowed, the guy is tense and prepares for protection, if slightly enlarged, he is very interested in you, but if they are greatly dilated, he experiences sexual desire.

An indifferent guy will look at the ceiling, at the front doors of the cafe, at the adjacent tables, etc., unable to hide his boredom.

But if a guy looks at the floor, occasionally deciding to raise his eyes at you, he may be very in love, but terribly embarrassed.

Another interesting feature of the male gaze: if a guy looks at you, but his gaze is constantly shifting from the face to the shoulders, neck, chest and other parts of the body, then he is most likely just experiencing a strong sexual attraction to you.

A guy in love usually can't take his eyes off your face. He seems to be trying to memorize every line, examine every eyelash and not miss the slightest movement of his lips. He intuitively looks for the answer in your face to his question: do you like him.

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Gestures and facial expressions

Many books have been written about non-verbal signs. Sign language speaks ten times more words about us to those who understand it. It is not for nothing that at an interview, an attentive recruiter not only listens to your confession about yourself, but observes how you sit, where you put your hands, do not fiddle with objects, etc. By these non-verbal signals, he will know whether you are fit for the position or no, even before you finish the monologue.

The same is on the front of love: a guy may try to hide his interest from you (for example, because of embarrassment or fear of rejection), but his body and face give him away. When a man is in love, he does not notice what his hands are doing:

fiddling with a tie or buttons;
smooth hair;
twist the ear;
scratching the cheek, etc.

Often a guy in love, looking into your face, involuntarily copies your facial expressions or gestures while you tell him something:

frowns if you are unhappy;
smiles if he sees a smile on your face (and not because you are telling a funny joke);
nods his head at the same time as you;
even waves his hand when you greet your acquaintances passing by, whom he sees for the first time.

This behavior may seem distracted, but in fact, it is a strong sign that the guy is very in love.

If we talk about facial expressions, then a guy in love raises his eyebrows and keeps his eyes wide open. When talking to you, it is difficult for him to control his emotions enough to carelessly squint and wink, as heroes from films do.

The voice also serves as a kind of detector. Usually a man who is interested in you "sits down": very low overtones appear or becomes hoarse, as if the guy's mouth was dry. In addition, the voice becomes muffled, sometimes turning into an intimate, intriguing half-whisper.

How to check if a guy is in love

There are a few more female tricks on how to unobtrusively find out if a guy is serious about you:

1. Check it out for generosity

Any girl likes to be presented with gifts. It's always nice. Even if this is not a Chanel bag for a fabulous price, but just a small chocolate bar that "accidentally" ended up in his coat pocket.

You can specifically check the guy's generosity by walking past the counter where you liked some cute little thing and show interest in it. If your boyfriend is in love, he will rush to acquire the item of your attention and give it to you.

2. Check it for loyalty

In the cafe where you settled down to have a cup of coffee, draw his attention to any pretty girl in the hall. Say she has nice shoes or hair. And see how long the guy stares at the stranger (and if he turns his head at all).

If your companion is in love with you, he will either show no interest in the other at all, or glance at her with an absent-minded glance, hurrying to return to communication with you.

3. Check for willingness to help

A man interested in you will surround you with care. He will be only too happy when you ask him to carry a heavy bag or paint a door. Even if he is very busy, he will take time to show you that he is serious.

Signs of a guy in love

So, let's summarize the signs that will indicate to us the true feelings of the guy:

He will always find time to call, meet, help and just listen.
He does not hide you from his friends and family.
He can't take his eyes off your face. At the same time, his eyes shine, and his pupils are slightly dilated.
His facial expressions and gestures sometimes reflect your own. Thus, he empathizes with your emotions. Or the guy just listens to you with a slightly open mouth and wide eyes.
His voice, when he speaks to you, becomes low and muffled.
He only looks at you. He is not interested in the beauties passing by.
He is generous and helpful to you.

Find out what other signals that a guy is in love with from the video.

Everything that concerns feelings, love, falling in love, sympathy is so fragile and tender that it seems - one movement, and it will disappear. When everything is just beginning, the heart sinks at the sight of the object of its admiration, the head is foggy from euphoria - how to understand if your feelings are mutual? Moreover, no one flaunts them, does not shout about them at every corner, but on the contrary, tries to hide them as carefully as possible. One moment - it seemed that the guy was still in love. A minute passed - no, probably it really just seemed to be ... It is possible to guess fortune-telling on coffee grounds, chamomile, whether he likes or dislikes the stars for a very, very long time. And this is unlikely to give a satisfying, unambiguous answer. But to become more attentive, to take a closer look at the guy, his behavior and understand whether he is in love is quite possible.

Our feelings, even the most hidden, can be recognized if desired. If we change from the inside, then changes also occur outside - in behavior, appearance, speech, gait, facial expressions.

How to understand that a guy is in love?

10 signs that a guy is clearly not indifferent to you.

1. You can suspect that a guy is in love with you if in your presence he began to behave somewhat strange... It is not a fact that you will like the changes; rather, on the contrary, you will be surprised. The quiet one can start behaving defiantly, arrogantly, rudely, so that no one will notice that he is ashamed of you, and the soul of the company will suddenly lose all its charm and enthusiasm, because it feels uncomfortable in your presence and constantly thinks that you are there.

2. You constantly feel his gaze on you.... Sometimes you manage to catch him, but he quickly averts his eyes to the side. Ask your friends to watch how often the guy looks in your direction. The main thing is that he himself does not notice that he is being watched. Try to check this version yourself: when you feel that the guy is looking at you, take out a mirror to supposedly fix your hair or makeup. In the reflection, you will see where the guy's gaze is directed, you can also turn sharply in his direction and if he was looking, then you are definitely interested in him.

3. You should be alerted that there are too many chance encounters... If a guy is in love, then he wants to see you as often as possible, to be as close to you as possible. Consciously or not, he will seek contact and therefore can literally “get tangled” under his feet all day. To meet you in the morning at the entrance, be next to the wardrobe, then in the dining room, during a break, just walk by, ask something trivial, contact your interlocutor. Do not be surprised if you meet him in an unusual place - near your house, in a store, a movie, where you went with your friends. This can only mean one thing - his intelligence is working well and he is in love with you.

4. This point is a bit controversial, and the guys themselves are against it. The fact is that a guy in love betrays his gallantry and care... But the male representatives are protesting - supposedly they are always like this, and not only when Cupid struck their heart. But we girls know that sometimes it is not so easy to get them to act as chivalrous, especially not in emergency moments, when honor and dignity are at stake, but on ordinary everyday life. So that suddenly arising concern, an offer of help, an unusual concern about your well-being, mood, can inform you that someone has fallen in love.

5. By their nature, men are very inattentive. Rather, they only pay attention to what is very, very interesting to them. The rest of the information instantly disappears from their heads. Girls do not understand this, we often remember even what should have been forgotten, something that was accidentally told and entrusted to us. A guy's good memory about the little things in your life speaks volumes.... He remembered what date is your birthday, and not "like autumn?" He's definitely in love with you.

6. He changed his plans for you... No not like this. HE CHANGED HIS PLANS FOR YOU! Only a man in love is capable of such an act. Just be careful, you need to understand that it was you who became the cause. Perhaps you let slip that you are still going to come to this boring clean-up day, stay after work to help decorate the premises for the holiday. And, upon hearing this, the guy postponed his affairs, although he was previously going to ignore these events. And if you directly asked for his help, knowing that he was busy, but did not receive a refusal - congratulations, this is love!

7. A guy in love will try to talk to you about topics that interest you.... The reason may be a phrase you accidentally dropped about your love for dogs - in a couple of days he will decide to discuss with you the intricacies of caring for toy terriers, tell you about his pet, and invite you to a thematic exhibition.

8. You notice that the guy looks better... If earlier he calmly walked in some jeans all week, and now he clearly began to smarten up, it means that someone's opinion is important to him. He can ask your advice if this shirt suits him or if you like his perfume (oh, this is an excuse to hug you). But you'd better be the first to notice the changes that have occurred and compliment him. Getting praise from the one you're in love with - what could be better? He will not be able to hide his joy and his contented appearance and red cheeks will give out feelings.

9. For his beloved, a guy will try to become better.... We unconsciously begin to behave a little differently next to the object of love, we try to look better, smarter, more experienced, more interesting. Even notorious hooligans in front of their lady of the heart try to control themselves, "to be good." This behavior can only say one thing - the guy fell in love and really wants to make a positive impression.

10. Do you know guys who like women's whims? They annoy, anger, piss off - in a word, they do not cause affection. Except when a guy is in love with a girl. In this case her whims seem to him a manifestation of weakness and insecurity... And he has a heroic feeling to save his beloved from adversity, satisfying all her whims.

Falling in love is a pleasant feeling that every person wants to experience. But what can a person, whom it overtakes, feel? It is about how to understand that you have fallen in love with a girl that I want to talk about now.

About the very concept

First of all, I would like to understand the concepts themselves. What does the word "falling in love" mean? So, do not confuse it with the word "love", because it is far from the same thing. Falling in love is the first feeling that a person has. This is growing into something more sympathy. Further, over time, love either passes or is transformed into love. It is worth saying that a person cannot be in a state of love for a long time. The average time (according to scientists) allotted for a given feeling is 9 months.

Primary signs

How to understand that you have fallen in love with a girl? If so, the following primary signs will be present:

The desire to see your object of sighing as often and as much as possible. Those. a person will try to meet as often as possible with a girl he likes (with or without him).
The guy's thoughts and conversations will revolve around only one person - the girl (this is because at this time the world of a lover revolves around only one person).
Collection of information. This is also one of the signs of falling in love. This means that a person wants to know as much interesting as possible about the girl in order to be as close to her as possible.

Intangible aspects

How else to understand that you have fallen in love with a girl? It is worth saying that from a psychological point of view, a person will experience certain changes.

Dreaminess. A guy who has fallen in love can often "disappear" in his dreams. And even in spite of the time and place.
Problems. As a consequence of the first point, a person in love may have certain problems at work or school. After all, the concentration of attention from working moments passes to the object of sighing. Relationships with others, especially relatives and friends, can also go wrong, which will take more time for themselves.
A person becomes softer, more tender not only in relation to the object of sighing, but also to everyone around him.
A shine appears in the eyes of a person. A lover can always be noticed in a crowd by just one expression on his face - happy.
A feeling of complete happiness. And most importantly, people in love are happy with everything, even that which could have caused indignation before.

The material side of the issue

How to understand that you have fallen in love with a girl? Just pay attention to your waste. More often than not, people who are in love become very generous. And not only to the object of his sighing, but to everyone around him. They want to give joy, share it with everyone. Often this desire is expressed in gratuitous gifts to relatives, friends and relatives.

The main signs of falling in love

If a guy saw a girl and fell in love, it is also worthwhile to trace the presence of the main signs of falling in love. If they are present (not even all, but at least some, the guy can be congratulated):

The past is forgotten. Falling in love erases old feelings and memories. If a guy falls in love, he will no longer need his ex or any other girlfriend.
Plans for the future. Immediately, a person in love begins to make plans for the future with the person they like.
All matters fade into the background. If you can run out of steam, the guy will not go to school. And so - all hobbies and hobbies are still postponed, there is a desire to devote all free time either to the girl or to thoughts about her.
Willingness to sacrifice. A person in love is ready to yield to the object of sighing in everything. Even something that I would never have agreed to before.
A person in love sees exclusively positive aspects of the one with whom he is in love. Negative character traits at this stage cause only affection.

In the presence of an object of adoration

The guy fell in love with the girl. "What to do?" - such a question may arise. So, first of all, I would like to suggest that a man's behavior may change somewhat at the sight of an object of adoration. What can happen?

Shiver. If a guy sees the girl with whom he is in love, there may be tremors in the body, sweating of the hands.
Shyness. At the sight of an object of adoration, a guy can get lost, hesitant, avert his eyes. Often all thoughts and words fly out of my head, a man may not find what to say. It so happens that blatant nonsense is spoken out. It's not scary, all lovers behave this way. After all, it is not the mind that speaks, but the feelings.
Tongue-tied. Often people in love simply cannot express themselves normally. They forget words, go astray.

These are common behavioral indicators of love. But this is not a complete list of them, because each person experiences love individually.

Actions

If a guy fell in love with a girl, what to do, how to behave correctly? I must say that you should not delay with your feelings. Our society is still patriarchal, so it is the man who should take the first steps. If there is a certain fear of rejection, you can first "test the waters." What can be done here:

If there are common acquaintances, it is better - female representatives, you can ask them what the girl thinks about the guy.
If there are no mutual acquaintances, you need to try for some time to come across the girl's field of vision as often as possible. Let her get used to seeing the guy close to her.
Next, you need to get acquainted. This can be done on purpose (just walk up and say "Hello") or unintentionally (ask what time it is, talk in a public place).

What's next

If a guy falls in love with an unfamiliar girl, after the acquaintance stage, certain conclusions can be drawn about the lady's mood. However, if she is still cold, you should not quit, you need to move on.

You need to appear with a woman in common companies as often as possible. In a crowd, it is easier to establish an invisible and unobtrusive contact.
If possible, after collective meetings, you need to be alone. There can be many reasons: to accompany the lady home (darkness, danger in the streets, etc.), take an interesting book from her, ask about the place where she was resting, etc.
It's also good to give your girl little cute gifts for no reason. It can be a plucked flower or a small stuffed toy. It's always nice.
It is necessary to find common points of contact, i.e. something that may be interesting to two.

How to force yourself

If a guy sets a goal: "I want to fall in love with a girl," it will be quite difficult to achieve it. The thing is that falling in love, like love itself, is an action that takes place on a subconscious level, i.e. regardless of the wishes of the person. This is a complex of hormones that causes pleasant sensations in the body. You can, of course, inspire yourself with a feeling of being in love, but these will not be the feelings that a truly in love person experiences.

The most important thing

Well, and the most important thing to do if a guy meets a girl and falls in love: you need to tell her about it. And come what may. Refusal is okay, this is not the end of the world. By the way, it is better to get a refusal earlier than when falling in love begins to develop into one-sided love. If the girl feels the same way, great: you can enjoy each other's company without any problems.

If you don't need it at all

What advice can you give to a man who says: “I fell in love with a young girl, but I don't need it at all!”? Dealing with your feelings won't be easy. However, there are several ways to force yourself to forget about the object of sighing:

Work. You need to go headlong into work (study). The guy shouldn't have time to think about something. You need to download yourself, as they say, to the fullest.
Fight fire with fire. If an adult man falls in love with a young girl, he just needs to switch to a lady of his own age, take care of her (even if this does not lead to the development of any events).
Fewer contacts. To forget a person, you need to stop seeing him. The fewer contacts, the better.
New. Well, it's also good to get carried away with something new. This can be a new hobby that can capture a person no less than falling in love itself.

Very often in adulthood, people suddenly find out that someone - a good and kind person - was in love with him in his youth. But it didn't work out. Why?

Yes, because, elementarily, falling in love has passed unnoticed. But guess about other people's feelings earlier, everything could have turned out differently, perhaps much more successful. But how to understand that a guy is in love with you when you are not dating him yet? Of course, there are no exact recipes here, but several general provisions can be deduced.

1. A person in love has a dramatic change in behavior. The shackled and shy person can suddenly become cheeky and cocky, and the cocky and cynical, on the contrary, turn into a shy and insecure person. Moreover, the behavior of a guy in love differs from the usual only in the presence of the subject of his sighs. When his beloved girl is not around, he behaves in the most usual way for him.

2. A guy in love often looks furtively at the object of his dreams, and when he meets him, he quickly looks away. Sometimes he can even blush at this moment, as if he was caught at the scene of a crime. Since it is quite easy to understand that a guy is in love at this moment, a girl should look guys in the eyes more often.

3. A guy who is secretly in love with a girl tries to meet her as often as possible, so he constantly gets in her way, it turns out, as if by accident, in those places where there is a charming girl dear to his heart.

From time immemorial, it was believed that the first step to a relationship should be made by a boy. However, practice proves otherwise. Representatives of the stronger sex are most often lost when the first feeling comes to them. That is why the girl should help the lover a little to overcome this psychological barrier.

Nobody says that a girl should come up and get to know each other herself, make a date or propose friendship. But she is quite capable of creating a situation where it is appropriate to take the first step towards rapprochement. And it is this first step that will allow the girl to draw the right conclusions about the true feelings of the young man.

So how do you know if a guy is in love? A girl sometimes has a wrong opinion about the feelings experienced by young men. It seems to her that he avoids her, even sometimes is unreasonably rude, demonstrates his superiority. But, at the same time, she sees that he is completely different with others. So, you need to conduct an experiment.

You can turn to him with any request: to fix the computer, to lead him through the yard in the evening, to explain difficult educational material. The main thing here is that there should be no witnesses during the conversation.

It is far from the fact that the young man immediately after the request will “melt” and rush to fulfill the request, although it also happens. But sometimes, even in private, a guy will refuse the one that he really likes. Maybe even laugh or be rude. But it must be remembered that for a girl, it is not the help itself that is important, but another thing - understanding the situation. A truly attentive person will unravel the soul of a person in love with her.

So how do you know if a guy is in love by asking him for help? One should very carefully observe his reaction at the moment of pronouncing the words of the request. It will cost a young man in love to keep himself free and at ease at this time. Reddened ears and cheeks, not knowing where to put your hands, marking time - this is not a complete list of signs of excitement and, as a conclusion, his love.

There is another way to understand that a guy is in love. True, for this it is necessary to play a small performance. It is necessary to artificially create to twist the leg, “lose” the keys to the apartment, or imagine something else, but such that it would be impossible to refuse to help the young man, and there would be too little time for reflection. Usually a lover at this moment acts as his heart tells him, instantly rushing to help.

Perhaps then he will turn his impulse into something ordinary, trivial, perhaps he will talk about this case with irony. But the very fact that the young man immediately rushed to help, save, speaks volumes.

It is very important to know if a young man is in love or if his plans include elementary flirting. Knowing how to understand what a guy wants, a girl will be able to draw the right conclusions, make the right decision, and not break her destiny.

Many girls at least once in their lives asked the question "Is he in love with me?" They went over in memory all the words that he said during the day and racked their brains in vain over the cherished question. There are several main signs that a guy is in love with you, and now we will consider them.

1. He always wants to be your partner

If there is some kind of joint assignment, be it a paired test at school or college or a joint assignment at work, he always wants to do it with you. You think that this is because you are an excellent student or in good standing with the boss, but not at all. He just wants to be closer!

2. Asks for a walk

This does not mean that every guy who tells you to take a walk is in love with you. No, but if he often offers to take a walk (go together to the dining room, to the smoking room, to the library), referring to the fact that it is boring and there is nothing to do. And if this point coincides with other signs, then you can safely conclude that he is in love with you.

3. Constantly teases you

In this case, men can be divided into two groups:

those who will be silent and afraid to say an extra word when in love;
those who will constantly pin up and joke with you

Therefore, if a guy constantly jokes with you, this is one of the signs that means that he is in love with you. He is interested in your reaction to his sense of humor. And he slowly but surely studies what and how you react.

4. He looks all the time

Have you noticed his gaze on you more than once? But when caught, he averted his eyes. This is his play, a modest flirtation directed at you. Such a look can only mean one thing, this guy is in love with you and is very interested in your special one. No one will just waste time contemplating what he does not like - remember this!

5. As close as possible

If you are in the same room with him, then he always tries to take a place near you or not far. Or when you are at the same table, he will sit next to you. If you ask him something, he tries to come close when explaining. His magnet is drawn to feel close to you. And, as it becomes clear, this is no accident! The desire for maximum intimacy is another sign that a guy is in love with you.

6. Asks you for help

He constantly asks for your advice, even on issues in which you do not specialize. He may even ask for relationship advice, even though he is not dating anyone. This is a very significant sign, as it is very difficult for men to ask for help or advice. But if, nevertheless, he appeals to you, then it is not just that.

7. He listens and remembers

If he accurately remember the date of your birthday or the stories that you tell. And also remembers some preferences in food or something else. Or maybe he can tell at all what you said last week. Then you know, this guy is really in love with you!

8. He makes you laugh

There is nothing more pleasant than a smile and a happy laugh from a loved one. So, if the guy you are interested in makes you laugh all the time. Trying to bring a smile to your face when you're sad is the surest sign that this guy is in love with you.

There is such a funny saying "If you stand for a long time and look at a girl, you can see how she gets married" (c). It may be that the guy you are interested in is very shy and timid.