Happy children in a happy family. Difficulties of single-parent families. Children are not adults
In order for the family to have harmony, the spouses must have wisdom and good character traits, and a pleasant appearance is more suitable for entertainment.
Family is the rhythm of my heart. When everything is in order, it beats evenly, and in case of trouble it jumps out of the chest.
The basis of a happy marriage is a spouse who understands his wife without words ...
Happiness is when you do not need virtual communication on the network, because you have close people nearby.
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HAPPINESS is an interesting job in the morning and a beloved family in the evening.
When loved ones are next to you and you can hear them, touch, feel - this is true happiness.
Family happiness is an exact coincidence of two ideals.
Add frankness, responsiveness, respect to marriage - and he will get a chance to be called ideal ...
Happiness is when everyone in the family is healthy, there are no traitors among friends, and rats among partners.
There are people who are not adapted to family life, to whom the concept of "family" is alien.
Happiness is healthy strong children, and also a spouse is the best in the world!
The greatest happiness in life is the confidence that your family loves you, loves you because we are who we are, or despite the fact that we are who we are.
“Take care of those who are around. Appreciate someone who has forgotten their pride for you. Who forgave a lot and always waited ... God sends such people only once! ”
Happy is not the one who has a lot of good, but the one whose wife is faithful!
Getting married is a very serious step! When we quarrel with our parents, we do not think that we need to look for new ones! So the husband should become a dear little man! Alone and for life!
They lived happily ever after. But still more long than happy.
We are like Masha and the Bear. I am so small, impudent and clingy. And he is big, strong, protects all the time and, no matter what, does not let go
How terrible the world would be if children were not constantly born, carrying with them innocence and the possibility of all perfection!
I have a family. Me, a cat and a blanket. We even sleep together!
Happiness is when you have a large, friendly, caring, loving family in another country.
Happiness is when you see people dear to you every day
Good spouses have the same goals.
Happiness is when you don't have time to go to Odnoklassniki because you constantly spend time with your family.
For a woman, there is no greater joy than children.
Mom will cook breakfast, dad will bomb dinner, but I just have to keep track of the figure.
A young family (14 and 15 years old) is looking for a family friend with a passport to buy alcohol and cigarettes.
Homeland love begins with family.
If my pasta burns out, it means “crooked! You don’t know how to cook! ”And if dad’s, then -“ mm, with a fry ”
I love my husband and child. In general, I love my family
“Happiness is when everything is fine in a family! When the children are healthy and the relationship with the husband is good! ”
Many parents pack their trouble and send them to camp ...
All happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
Married life is a war every day and a truce every night ...
In family life, keeping your dignity, you must be able to yield to each other.
In the family, as in the state, the most dangerous thing is anarchy.
The family is the primary environment where a person must learn to do good.
The guarantee of family happiness is in kindness, frankness, responsiveness ...
Friends are a family that we choose ourselves
A happy marriage is a marriage in which the husband understands every word that the wife has not said ...
The husband is always right, but the wife is never wrong.
Being loved by your significant other is better than being rich. Because to be loved means to be happy, and happiness cannot be bought.
My family always comes first ..!
In a large family ... the refrigerator is empty.
Our mother is crying loudly that everyone in the apartment is pigs. Hush mommy don't cry, others have the same shit
If there is hazing in the family, then there is fatherlessness.
Dad, dad, who's that in the corner - shaggy, with red eyes, sitting all night? - Don't be afraid, daughter, this is our mother in VKontakte.
They lived happily until they began to find out who made whom happy.
A happy family is one in which the husband and wife forget that they are lovers during the day and that they are spouses at night.
A husband is a person who helps his wife overcome difficulties that she would not have known if she had not married him
My friends, family and love are non-negotiable! They are perfect period.
Do not give birth to children for the sake of family happiness - give birth to children in happy families.
And in the evenings they watched the radio with the whole family ...
A good woman, marrying, promises happiness, a bad woman awaits him
There is a family - patience, it relaxes to the point of loss of self-awareness, there is a family - a competition, it is unnerving and exhausting, but there is, you don’t believe it, a family, somewhere they compete merrily, sometimes they understand and forgive, it has everything, and everything is in harmony with time and circumstances.
The family is one of nature's masterpieces.
Family is the most important thing, that's what makes my heart beat.
Why did I marry him? Well, I think, since a man is drunk every day, it means that he earns decent money!
The only thing you have to worry about is your family, and let the rest worry!
Statuses about family and children - For a woman, there is no higher joy than children.
If the child is always visible, but not heard, this is the ideal child. But even he dreams of ideal parents, who are neither seen nor heard.
I realized that my mother can be proud of my upbringing, when, catching his heel on a step and flying half a ladder, I yelled: `oh-oh-oh!`
Happiness is when he, who will not even be woken up by alarm clocks, wakes up from the fact that I have stopped hugging him.
The main reasons for most stress and depression in a person's life are: family, money and family without money.
Today in our family in the morning complete harmony reigns: the baby took "Vrednolin", mom - "Stervozol", and dad - "Papazol". Everyone is happy
Honesty is the soul of conjugal consent.
Judging by how everyone is actively adding each other to relatives, our city is one big friendly family.
The family is the place to find love!
HAPPINESS is my child, in whose eyes you look and understand why God created you !!!
Each kiss of the spouses is an acknowledgment of gratitude, each insult is a cry of disappointment.
My family is strange: dad talks to his car, mom with flowers, sister with cats, I'm the only one normal - with a computer and a phone
The hands of mothers are woven of tenderness - children sleep on them with a restful sleep.
A considerable benefit for the family is the expulsion of the villain from it.
I understood that my childhood was over when my parents started hiding cognac from me at home!
If family members do not love each other, if fellow villagers and townspeople do not respect each other, such a family is not good, neither the village nor the city.
Happiness exists only when there is someone to share it with.
The family is having lunch at the table. The son reluctantly picks at the plate with a fork. Father: - Eat, eat, otherwise the pussy will not grow. Wife: - what are you teaching a child? It would be better if he ate himself!
I don't want a rich husband with a Mercedes ... but I just want a happy family and many children! ... that's all.
Mom, dad, why do you think that the elderly people in the village are a good company for a child in the summer?
It is easier to win peace in a family by concluding a truce in it in time.
Happiness is when they straighten your blanket at night and kiss you on the cheek thinking that you are sleeping.
On the day of family, love and fidelity. I wish you happiness, Take care of your family, After all, she is the only one!
Happiness is to be needed by the one you need
You must always be the youngest child in the family.
Enjoy your family, this is the most beautiful thing on earth ...
Even the strongest family is no stronger than a house of cards.
Normal family. In the intervals between quarrels and fights, the couple gave birth and raised three normal children.
All happy families are alike, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
Statuses about family and happiness - Happy is the one who is happy at home.
I know the password, I see the ATM, I believe my dad is an oil tycoon
Equality in the family means that the husband is equal and the wife is equal. And the wife is especially distinguished by this.
My family is my castle.
Statuses about a family - Smack - we are a couple, chpok - family, tryn - you are dad, I am mom.
Probably everyone, entering into marriage, hopes that they will live happily ever after with their soul mate, as they say in fairy tales. Why is it often, even without a collision with terrible vices, alcoholism or drug addiction, without betrayal and betrayal, "the love boat crashes against everyday life"? The questions of the magazine "Grapes" are answered priest Pavel Gumerov .
We solve all problems before the registry office
- As a priest, before every wedding in our church, I have a conversation with the newlyweds. And I must admit that it can be difficult to guess in advance which marriage will be long and happy, and which will not last even six months. It depends on many reasons. Sometimes you can tell right away by how many people have unresolved issues at the time of marriage, that in six months these two will take turns to come to me to complain about each other and that their expectations were not met.
All your psychological, spiritual, material and other problems, including problems in relationships with your future spouse, if they initially exist, for example, if you are annoyed by the fact that he smokes, it is better to solve before the wedding. Because when people are already living as a family, there is a high probability that the problems will only accumulate and not be solved. The so-called "candy-bouquet period" is most suitable for establishing relationships. During courtship of his future wife, a man behaves like a knight, makes gifts. Likewise, his lady tries to behave kindly, not to show her displeasure. People strive to please each other more, to meet halfway in controversial issues. If they already have irreconcilable disputes at this time, a difference in character appears that they do not want to fight, this is a serious reason to think about whether they should enter into. To believe that after a wedding or after a wedding everything will suddenly magically change is an illusion. If it does change, it is most likely for the worse, because after a while after marriage, people get tired of constantly restraining themselves, and they show each other their true colors. Tolerance and condescension to each other after the honeymoon also, as a rule, does not increase. Learning to endure, humble yourself, you need to meet halfway long before the wedding. It would be good for those who are going to go to the crown to understand that the only purpose of marriage is love for their future soul mate, the desire to always be there. And if each meeting between the groom and the bride ends in a quarrel, then one can imagine what will happen when they find themselves face to face 24 hours a day.
As a rule, a lot of psychological and other problems in relationships arise in people who decide to get married at a fairly late age, for whom this is not their first love experience, so it is better to arrange your family life on time, before thirty. At this age, a person is more plastic, it is easier for him to get rid of selfish habits.
In general, when people are ready to meet each other halfway, at any age they have every chance to create a happy family. In this regard, there is no predetermination, fortunately or unfortunately. - this is creativity, and joint. The Lord gives all people the same conditions, but some will use them, and some will not. It often happens that a couple is selected, where both he and she were brought up in complete families, both retained virginity before marriage, it seems that they have every chance to create a strong family too, but you see, they fled in a year, because often people do not they know how to appreciate what they get without much difficulty.
A very important issue that young people need to try to resolve among themselves before marriage is the issue of faith. If she is a church person, but he is not, then she needs to try first to bring him to God, and then go down the aisle with him.
Small Church
- There is the 72nd rule of the Sixth Ecumenical Council, which says: "It is not worthy for an Orthodox husband with a heretical marriage to mate, nor for an Orthodox wife to combine with a heretic husband." This rule may be relevant in our days, given that we can easily attribute atheists to heretics. In Russia, this rule has been observed since ancient times. Although under Peter I, when the number of foreigners in the country increased sharply, they began to allow marriages with representatives of other Christian confessions, provided that the children from these marriages would be brought up in the Orthodox faith.
Why is the issue of unity of faith among spouses so important? For a believer, everything is obvious: my faith is what makes up the meaning of my life and a very large part of my soul. I am building my life according to my faith. If my spouse or my wife is indifferent to issues of spiritual life or are not Orthodox, how will we understand each other, how will we become one in marriage?
The problem of raising children is directly related to the attitude to faith. For example, the husband believes that the child does not need to be taken to church and receive communion, and the wife - that it is not worth taking him to the bowling club or swimming pool - this is the reason for permanent conflict. There will be problems with general leisure. After all, those days when we, Orthodox, go to church, that is, days off, the spouses want to spend together. And if one half does not go to church (most often the husband), he will be annoyed that she spends the weekend in the church, and not at home with her husband - jealousy will appear.
Therefore, if, for example, a man does not want to go to church before marriage, then I would not advise a church-going girl to marry him until her chosen one starts at least a little to church. It is another matter when one of the spouses comes to faith while already being married. There is no need to dissolve such a marriage, because, as he says: “Why do you know, wife, will you save your husband? Or you, husband, why do you know if you will save your wife? " (Cor. 7:16) Is it worth influencing an unbelieving spouse and how? Of course, this does not mean that you need to constantly pester your husband about the church. It is better to start praying hard for him, and there are many cases where such a prayer has borne fruit. In addition, the very life of a woman, her behavior can testify more to Christ than her sermons. “Wives, obey your husbands,” says the Apostle Peter, “so that those of them who do not obey the word may be acquired by the life of their wives without a word when they see your pure, God-fearing life” (1 Peter 3: 1–2). Don't think that such a change in your husband can happen overnight. In support of my words, I can tell you a story that happened before the revolution. One Orthodox woman had a Protestant husband. They lived together for more than one year, and one day he tells her: "I want to become Orthodox." The wife was surprised, because she had never asked her husband for anything like that. Then he said to her: "I noticed that when you return from church, you seem to be shining all over, and then I realized that there you have something that we do not have in our churches." If a wife goes to church, but her husband is not yet, she needs to do everything so that when she comes from the service, the husband is surrounded by special care, attention and affection from her side. Then he will see the real fruits of our faith.
Shared faith also helps spouses resolve many controversial issues. It is easier for believers to understand and forgive each other. For believers, nothing happens by accident in life. If any disaster strikes, we need to try to understand why we are being sent it and use it to improve our married life. It happens that some such serious misfortune (illness of children, financial difficulties, loss of loved ones, family crises, etc.) literally rebuilds the family - spouses learn to love each other, to behave correctly. If they are willing to change, then unhappiness contributes to the healing of their relationship, which has become a habit.
Three whales of family happiness
- In one of my books, which is called “Three Whales of Family Happiness,” I am just talking about three important components of a happy marriage. Firstly, it is the love of the spouses for each other, secondly, it is the correct understanding of the goals and objectives of the family, and finally, it is the correct family hierarchy. Hierarchy in the family is a thing established by God, although today, due to the lack of strong men, many would argue with me. Nevertheless, it is like subordination in the army: if you do not accept it, you will not be able to hold out there for a long time. And in the Church the same: hierarchy and subordination. The rector obeys the dean, the dean obeys the bishop, the bishop obeys the Patriarch. It is impossible to serve in the Church without reverence for the authorities and obedience to them. And the family is the Small Church, let's not forget that.
Let you surpass your boss in intellectual, creative, moral qualities, but you must understand that this is your boss, who must be treated with respect simply because he is superior to you in position. The head of the family is not at all the one who surpasses you in any way. This is a man sent by God to be your boss. In addition, in marriage, you still choose it yourself. But, having made your choice, already be kind, treat him like the head of the family. If you do not respect a man, constantly criticize him, then he will never make any decisions. And the woman herself only at first likes to command, and then it becomes terribly annoying. In a normal family, maintaining hierarchy serves to strengthen relationships. This allows a man to show some of his best masculine qualities, and a woman - feminine. Everything in the family should be hierarchical, as in the Church. A family can be compared to a parish, where the husband is the priest, the wife is the deacon, and the children are the parishioners. Then the purpose of creating a family becomes obvious - this is the salvation of its members, its children.
Nearest
- Are children a guarantee of family happiness or are it destroyers?
- can strongly unite the family, fill its life with new content, give new happiness. After all, a family is created, among other things, for the sake of having children. It is the love for children that should be the main motive for their birth, and not the continuation of the family, filling up leisure time or gaining the experience of motherhood. We often treat children not as God-given creatures, but as our unrealized projects, arguing: I did not receive something in childhood, let my children receive it. But the first task of parents is to bring their children to God, and not to realize their ambitions. And the Lord Himself, through our prayer, will help the children to discover in themselves what is in them, and this may not be music or drawing at all, which we are trying to put into the child. Yes, you need to comprehensively develop children, but always look at what talents and inclinations God has put in them.
In order to raise a child in faith, in order to lay Christian values \u200b\u200bin him, a family is needed. Especially now, when the state is practically not engaged in the upbringing of children, in contrast to Soviet times, when schools still had some moral principles, educational programs.
But children can become a stumbling block for the family. This situation, for example, is well described by Tolstoy in The Kreutzer Sonata. There, a husband and wife, already on the verge of divorce, manipulate the children, using them to annoy each other as much as possible. When spouses turn their children against each other, they thereby ruin their children, putting the wrong things in them, which then remain with them for life.
It happens that the birth of a child, if one of the parties is not ready for this, becomes an unconscious cause of jealousy. And the reason is not in the child, but in the wrong relationship between man and woman in this marriage.
To prevent children from becoming a cause for strife, it is necessary to educate them in love and faith. If we want us to always maintain good contact with the child, especially at a transitional age, we must include the child in our life, so that he does something with us. It is important that the life of a family is not limited to moral teachings and nutrition. Instead of constantly pressing the child with criticism that he is listening to the wrong music, watching the wrong films, we need to spend more time with him, involve him in some common affairs. As a rule, children leave the family and seek understanding among their peers only when they feel that their parents are not interested in them.
We live for joy
- No matter how hard it is in life, it is always important to remember that you created a family for joy, happiness, love, and not in order to find out who is right, who is to blame, who owes what to whom, or how best to earn money. All this is secondary. The main thing is love, your relationship. You need to take care of them and protect each other from mutual grievances, reproaches, hostility. After all, it is with daily barbs, discontent, claims that major conflicts and quarrels begin. When it's hard, always remember how good it was in the beginning. After creating a family, people want the happiness of their period of falling in love, courtship to always remain.
Marriage is a bad way out of the crisis!
Family is not the solution to your problems. You can't start a family because you feel bad. Many people get married to overcome loneliness, material support and are disappointed when they do not get what they expect. The motive for creating a family should be love for your soul mate, a desire to be together. And the meaning of family life should be serving one's neighbor, striving to make another happy. Life is a difficult thing, and we should bring more joy to the family: good, pleasant words, actions, smiles, small signs of attention.
Talk to me ...
Many families break down on a lack of communication. People spend very little time with each other, they discuss their affairs very little. And as a result, after some time, nothing remains in common between them, except for living space, children, property. In communication, it is very important to discuss some pressing problems, to consult. Even in "Domostroy" it is said that the spouse should consult with his wife. Without this, your best intentions will not bring you and your neighbors anything but grief. For example, you decided to buy a vacation ticket without discussing with your wife, but it turns out that she cannot be under the tropical sun. But you have already decided everything for everyone, and instead of a surprise came a disservice. The family is WE. Not me, you children. And we are all together. Therefore, you should always discuss, consult, look for something in common. When necessary, compromise. Since the family is one whole, one team, you need to be able to provide assistance and mutual assistance.
Mutual help also consists in prayer - “pray for one another ...” (James 5:16) - says the apostle James.
There are no ideal husbands and wives!
Family life should never be idealized. In any person and in any family there are always good sides and serious flaws. It is important to be able to see this good and try not to notice the bad. Do not try to remake, re-educate your soul mate. To be able to see the good, bright sides of your loved ones and your family life. If you want to change your family life for the better, you need to start with yourself. You can only influence another person in a positive direction with love and good attitude. Do we want our loved ones to treat us well, respect us, listen to our words? Let us ourselves be the first to give them an example of such an attitude.
Family is continuous creativity, family happiness is not given to anyone for free. You need to work on it constantly and hard - together.
Single-parent families are a modern trend. Unfortunately, many simply do not register the relationship, and when a child appears, a new single-parent family appears according to statistics. Someone leaves the family for unreasonable reasons and a complete family turns into an incomplete family. Someone's spouse dies and the lonely side decides not to mess with anyone else for different reasons.
Someone does not regret raising a child alone, while someone would like to have a complete family, but not everyone succeeds in finding love again, already with a child, and not as quickly as they would like. Basically, such single parents are completely immersed in caring for a child and do not think about their personal life.
Many of these families face many challenges, although not all. Someone has a decent income, alimony and lives quite coping with their situation. Some have support in the form of grandparents. Someone is helped by former mother-in-law or mother-in-law as a sign of love for the child. However, only the parent himself knows most of the problems.
Difficulties of single-parent families.
Emotional experiences.
Those who want to create a new family because they do not want the child to live in an incomplete family are faced with many emotions. Some blame themselves that their marriage has broken up and the child will grow up with a step parent. Someone cannot find a new spouse and from this they feel unworthy of love. They think that no one will ever love them anymore.
Someone who has loved their ex-spouse may become discouraged and not believe that this has happened in their life.
Many are worried about the future of their children - will they be able to give the children everything they need for one salary. Likewise, upbringing by one parent often affects the child, giving him a more one-sided understanding of what is happening. If the girl is raised by her mother, then the girl gets used to the fact that the mother-woman is always ahead and decides everything herself, so in her family she can start doing the same and problems may arise. Likewise, with a boy who sees that everything is decided by his mother - a woman in her family can not take leadership and rely on a wife following the example of her mother.
Therefore, it is not for nothing that they say that single parents have to be both mom and dad at the same time.
Material difficulties.
Living on the same salary as a child is not easy. Prices are rising, the needs of the child are also growing, and fees for medical care and further education add to the list. It costs a lot of money to get a child to school or dress for the winter. And if there are several children, then the costs are multiplied.
Often a single parent is looking for a second job or living with parents who help financially. This, of course, is again not easy and you have to place roles between parent and grandparents.
Of course, all families, both complete and incomplete, have many difficulties and not all live the same materially. Someone is more emotionally resistant to problems, someone is experiencing more and more. However, every family wants to minimize their worries and think more about something more important.
Housework.
A woman without a husband often needs masculine power around the house. Of course, she can nail a nail herself, but there are other difficult things. For example, repairing a house or a car requires physical strength, which is greater for a man. A man also just clutches his head when he has to do all the female household chores. He himself must go shopping for food, then be able to cook something from them and then clean up the kitchen. As well as daily cleaning and washing, payments for utilities, etc. Often, therefore, a man simply starts the order in the room, because he just really does not have time for everything.
1.1. Get rid of the unnecessary.
For women. If you are not versed in car repair and you do not really need a car, that is, there are other means of transportation in your city, can you refuse it? Of course, you can argue that the car is more convenient, but this is when it drives properly, but when it breaks down, then you are constantly forced to pay for repairs or ask a private person for help. A stranger's husband, even if he is a relative, for example, the husband of your own sister, is also not obliged to help you all the time - this is a fact. If you can, then learn how to do simple car and home repairs on the Internet or some tutorial.
This also applies to other points - repairing household appliances, for example. If you do not have the skills to work properly with some kind of household appliances, do you need them? Is it possible to do without a microwave, which constantly began to break down and you have to think about repairing it? If you need something, try first to figure it out yourself in books or on the Internet finding the necessary information. However, if you see that you can live without something, it will make your life easier.
For men. For you, the advice is more in the direction of organization and proper organization of household chores. If you are accustomed to the fact that everything was done by a wife who is not now, then rebuild and set your own temporary rules and follow them. To give up unnecessary for the ace can mean give up some hobby that takes a long time, give up watching TV, a computer in the evenings, and it is better to do homework with the children or cook lunch for tomorrow. If a man cooks only when his and his children already have a stomach ache, this will affect his health. Remember, your mom doesn't have to be a wife either. Organize the order of cleaning the apartment, for example, every weekend you thoroughly wash everything (stove, bath, toilet) and do not think about that next week
Organization is also needed by women. A woman can now work more time, so it is important not to forget to communicate and continue to raise children without shifting this responsibility onto grandparents. Therefore, do not be for them only a mom for "5 minutes", but spend time with them sufficient for their emotional well-being, as much as possible.
Can I ask the children to help you with the housework? Some parents do not ask their children for anything, thinking that it is so hard for them in an incomplete family. But this is not the case. On the contrary, children really want to cooperate with you and be as long as possible. The best communication is easy communication, it is during some business, when the hands are working, and the language is free. If children even have household chores, such as taking out the trash, this will help them develop organization and self-discipline. Of course, children are not your spouse, that is, a son cannot fulfill the duties of a husband and a daughter cannot be a mistress instead of a wife. But children may have household chores, because, for example, the order of the house is the responsibility of everyone, not just one family member.
Children are not adults.
Of course, carrying the load alone is not easy. Because of this, in many families a situation arises when a boy, for example, the eldest son, almost fulfills the duties of a father. The boy is told that he is now for dad. And girls, especially when they are already teenagers, have responsibilities like a wife - to cook, wash and clean. Of course, teaching a child to be industrious and responsible is very important, but one should not confuse roles and forget who is the parent and who is the child. This causes stress in the child and begins to form a negative attitude towards responsibilities, because they are so overwhelmed by them.
So, advice to single parents - reassure your children of love and show that you are an adult, and they are your children and that you will take care of them and not vice versa.
A woman cannot talk with her daughter about her female problems as well as with an adult friend, and a boy should not carry the burden of an adult man.
If you need someone to listen to you, then talk to a good friend, do not pour out your heart to the child. The child should have his own worries and when he grows up he will carry his burden for his adult actions. Therefore, do not make your child your personal psychologist.
Don't talk badly about your spouse all the time., if you broke up with him even because of a divorce. The child perceives the parents as something sacred and dear. He may form a misconception about some things, based on your bitter experience, and this may hinder him in the future. For example, do not say such words “you have the same character as your father! You're just as sloppy! " or “you are as disorganized as your mother! That's who you are! " How do you think this will affect the psyche of your child? Even if your child knows that that parent is to blame for the divorce, he still remains his parent who gave him life. Such negative comparisons can even make your relationship worse.
Provide financially.
It is more difficult for a single parent to do this than when two salaries are brought into the house. However, many eventually found a suitable job with a normal income according to their needs.
Assess your capabilities in terms of time and effort.
If you are at work all the time and the children will not see you and communicate, then you will miss the time that the future lays in them. If you are going to any job interview, explain the situation and you may be able to agree on your schedule so that you can keep up with your parenting responsibilities.
If you also understand that you will not have enough strength for some kind of physical activity, then try looking for a sedentary job. Moreover, physical labor is poorly paid. Try to find a job that will not exhaust you so much that there will be no energy left for the children.
For example, manicure and pedicure and hairdressing are gaining popularity now. This job does not require active walking movements. You can even take courses to learn this. Although you will pay the tuition fees first, then you will be able to work in a place convenient for you.
Consider working from home. If he knows how to cut, do manicure and pedicure, then you can invite clients to your house. If, all the more, you have a separate, more or less free room, then you can make it out of it as a study. Of course, before you start working like this, you need to find out the rules about taxes and, in general, the possibilities of such activities in your region.
You can also be a nanny at home, if all the more children can be brought to your home so that you can be with them.
Think about the possibilities and you will see that if you understand exactly what you can now and what you need now, then you can find something suitable.
Also of course it will require hard work on your part. If you are not used to working outside the home, then this is also stressful for you, but pull yourself together and gradually tune in to this wave. Of course, it's good if you are always at home with your child, but you need to somehow provide for yourself and him, so you will have to look for work.
Education.
If you are a single parent, it is more difficult for you to fulfill the role of both father and mother. Usually, the father's words are taken more seriously, but the mother's words may be taken with disdain by the children. 
However, do not let things go by themselves. If you miss the first time and focus on your problems, then children will quickly wean themselves from obedience and then it will be difficult for you to get them back on track. Therefore, do not override the rules that you have always had. For example, if the child had a responsibility to wash dishes or take out the trash, then let him continue to do so. If your children always went to bed at 22:00, then now they should do the same, and not think that they are now free from parental control. Again, parenting and talking can be done while doing day to day activities. Children in a relaxed environment are better at accepting instruction and more willing to obey. Therefore, do not miss the opportunity to communicate with children while cleaning the apartment or preparing food. Try to keep abreast of their events at school. Be their friend, which is what they expect of you.
If earlier the other parent, and not you, was more involved in children, then pull yourself together and do not give in to your responsibilities.
Loneliness.
Yes, it can be very exhausting emotionally when there is no loved one around who could support and regret. When you were alone, you both laughed and cried together, but now you are alone and cannot fully satisfy your emotional needs.
But you are really not alone. You have children and parents who love you, who only think how to help you. Your children really need you!
Remember, an incomplete family does not mean an incomplete family and be happy!
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Greetings to you, dear reader. Today we will consider such a topic as Happy family. Probably every man and every woman wants to have a happy family, to be a part of this very happy family. Of course, if they want and are ready to create this very family.
I also have a family, in general, the blog on which you and your spouse are, and it is not for nothing that we write about family relationships, because we ourselves want to be happy and not just want, but we are happy and want to share our little secrets with everyone.
Before I write further, I want to point out that the desire to be a Happy family is not enough. We need to work on this. You need to give all your best 100%. Of course, there are happy families for whom everything goes smoothly from the beginning, they do everything well, as it were by itself. There are many factors that play a role, but they also work to be happy. It's just that they have it on the machine and does not oppress either the spouse or the spouse.
Whatever happens in the family, in any case, you can become a happy family, you can start from scratch. But to do this, both spouses need to make an effort and everything will work out. First, I advise you to read a couple of articles about the psychology of women and men, this will allow you to better understand each other:,.
Now let's look at several aspects that unite all happy families, it will be interesting not only for those who just want to create their own family or change, but also for those who already have their own family and all is well with them, God bless you 😀
By the way, every family is happy in its own way, just like every family is unhappy in its own way. Therefore, nowhere and never will you find the exact recipe for how to become a happy family. All matters are in yourself, how you relate to each other, how you communicate, what you do, and the like. Below you will see the basis, what unites all happy families, and you must draw the conclusions yourself.
Love in the family
It may sound trivial, but love is the basis happy relationship. After all, love and tied you together. In general, love is a separate and huge topic, and very important. If you love each other, then everything will work out for you. Always remind yourself that you love your family. It is important. And you need to understand that your family members love you too.
Be patient when, for example, the husband does not notice the new haircut, or the wife does not want to watch hockey with you, or the child broke something, or maybe the parent is not allowed to go outside. Love is caring for each other. A happy family cares and understands each other in everything.
You need to understand that love is either there or not. I don't like to say that at all, but if there are conflicts in the family, think about it well (think very well, but do not jump to conclusions).
Communicating with each other
A happy family is constant communication. I think this is a very important aspect. But I mean, communication is not superficial, for example, discussion of everyday problems, a movie watched, news from work, and so on. Communication should be deep and high quality.
You need to talk not only a lot, but also qualitatively. Moreover, if you are communicating, and at this time your spouse is preparing dinner, and you are watching the news, then this is not the case. Even if you just sit alone with each other and you are constantly distracted by something, like calls, then this is also not the case. You need to communicate deeply and to the point, with understanding, with trust. You can discuss not only problems, there are a lot of topics for conversation.
family communication Many people say, they say there is no time, you need to do this and that. These are all "excuses", take the time, this is the only way you can really solve many problems. Even communicating with children in this way will bring parents and children closer together. With the help of deep and high-quality communication, understanding and trust in the family will appear.
Respect each other, listen without interrupting, explain calmly, they say so and so, do not keep anything inside, do not hide, smile, joke and so on. In the end, communication becomes pleasant, and with the help of such communication, emotional tension is relieved. Even after a hard day at work, it becomes easy and pleasant.
Talk about everything, not just problems. Communication turns into a very good family time.
Appreciate each other
A happy family always appreciates each other. There is a constant feeling that you need each other, this is a very important thing in the family. All family members must understand that they are appreciated, loved and respected. Remember to say thank you to each other. In happy families, this becomes commonplace. Simple words of gratitude make families stronger and happier.
Kisses and hugs also play a huge role in the family. Especially children should understand that their parents love them and can protect them at any moment. I immediately remember how my little son, a few months old, sometimes started crying in his bed at night, and when he came up to me or my wife, hearing our voice, he fell asleep again. So children understand that their parents are there and protect them, then the feeling of anxiety disappears in the child and he falls asleep again.
Everyone in the family should understand that you value, love and protect each other.
Learn new together
When the family learns something new together, there is an even greater rapprochement. The question arises, what to learn? What to learn?
musical family It's simple, learn to skate or ski together, learn to dance or paint. Even learn new languages \u200b\u200bwith your children. Thus, you spend more time together, communicate more and at the same time it is very interesting. After all, ice skating is very interesting and fun)))
Even if someone in the family already knows or can do something, let them teach everyone. And the kids are very interested in teaching their parents, explaining and telling them what they don't know. All this strengthens family relationships.
Have fun and laugh together
This follows mainly from the previous one. But not only. There are so many things you can do together: watch a movie, play bowling, play board games, tell each other interesting funny stories.
They say that laughter prolongs life, and thus a happy family becomes stronger and happier.
Have dinner together
Of course, this cannot be forced, but it is desirable that the whole family get together for dinner, at the same table. At the same time, no TV, tablet, computer, and so on! It is important. At dinner, the family discusses some issues, shares their impressions of how the day or week went.
Surprise each other
A happy family always wants to please each other. One option is to surprise. And I do not mean to go to the store and buy something expensive. This is also possible, and not necessarily expensive))). You can just take and do something pleasant to each other, which will cost almost nothing.
surprise to parents For example, children draw postcards for mothers or fathers, then give them - very nice for both parents and children. Adults can also do this, well, for example: the wife wanted more shelves in the closet, while the crossbar for hangers is not particularly needed. I took it, removed this crossbar, cut out the shelves from the chipboard, installed it. My wife came, and I opened the closet for her and said, they say, that's how much space has become.
It was pleasant not only to my wife, but also to me. So you need not just make gifts, but make surprises. It's fun and enjoyable.
Take time for yourself
A happy family is not only about being together all the time. Each family member should have their own passions. And you need to do this not with your family. Well, for example, a wife needs to read a good novel. Or the spouse needs to go fishing. Unfortunately, for many wives, fishing is not associated with fish at all.
You need to respect and understand each other. Everyone in the family is fond of something and you also need to find time for this and be alone. Being alone with yourself is very important, you need to understand this.
Family tradition
It is very good when a happy family has its own tradition. For example, once a year, go to your favorite place near the shore of the lake and fry kebabs. At the same time, it is good to have a rest, play interesting games, go fishing with your family, swim, and so on.
family tradition Of course this is not necessary, but this is necessary. Family tradition also brings the family very close, makes it happy. In addition, family tradition is a great opportunity to bring friends and family together. After all, a family is not only a spouse and children, but also their parents and uncles with aunts, and grandparents and so on. Communication with relatives is helpful.
Travel together
A happy family always travels together. This is not only a good time of passing. It's more than that. After all, you are together, you learn something new, you relax together, communicate and enjoy together. Seeing and visiting new places, experiencing emotions - brings the family very close.
family vacation in a tent while traveling Traveling can be not only big, like going to the sea or abroad. You can do small trips more often, such as driving to neighboring cities or visiting interesting places in your area. In my opinion, even visiting a zoo for the first time is also a small journey.
It is advisable for every family to make it a rule - to travel together.
On this I think everything, now you know how a happy family differs from a not happy one, use this and good for everyone. Leave comments, share new information.
Happy family: basic rules for a happy family updated: September 11, 2017 by: Pavel Subbotin
In modern society, the family plays an important role in the education of a healthy person. With the birth of a child, the relationship between husband and wife moves to another level of relationship, now they are responsible for the daughter or son, and not only live their own life, learn and develop together with the children. Loving and caring for each other helps you get through difficult times in life. It is important to be ready for change and believe in the best.
What is a friendly family?
This is a family in which understanding, solidarity, and a benevolent atmosphere reign.
Many parents, despite their busy schedule, read fairy tales to children and from childhood they dream of being princes and princesses, queens and kings. Emotional participation of a child in the plots of books helps them to be kinder and happier, to learn to understand good and evil, if the literature is selected correctly.
A family with a love of reading, intelligent and ready for new experiences. Good books promote the development of basic qualities in life: kindness, empathy, politeness, competition. Most fairy tales contain the wisdom of peoples and children, getting to know it with their parents, learn to understand good and evil, good and good deeds, to empathize with heroes.
Family happiness depends on good relations with each other and mutual understanding, assistance in solving difficult cases. Parents' experiences are often formed from childhood memories of how their parents raised them and from the ideas they have about the family from personal experience.
For happiness, a family must adhere to several rules:
- Love each other and accept, as they are.
- Live a full and fulfilling life with the whole family: traveling on vacation, participating in events, gaining new experiences or knowledge.
- Communication is the best way to come to an understanding, to maintain good relations in the family.
- Reading informative and interesting literature makes it possible for children to develop correctly.
- Acquiring new skills and abilities with them gives an impetus to the disclosure of abilities and talents in every family member.
It is important to pass on the lessons learned to children. Talk about your actions and desires from childhood. In some life situations, parents can become role models.
Family happiness - this is the unity of interests and trust in each other. All actions or actions of parents when raising children should be based on love, patience and mutual respect.
A child in a family should feel that he is loved and trusted, then he will share his experiences, emotions, impressions with his parents. Friendship unites all family members and helps to understand how best to develop relationships and where to move on in life.
Each family is individual, but it contains values \u200b\u200band traditions that bring it together and make it stronger. In a friendly and happy family, the first place is not money, but the family, but material resources are an additional incentive for an interesting family life.
For a child, a happy and friendly family is a family where love and understanding reign.