How to return the former love of my husband? Tips of psychologists about how to return the love of a husband to his wife and how to regret the former passion in a relationship with a man

01.06.2019

Before starting to return your man, think about yourself and answer a few questions:

why do I need it?
what will I do with the past when he will be with me again?
will I be able to forgive him mistakes and shortcomings so that we could be together again?
how are I ready to change for him?
what concessions I will go?

At first emotions it may seem that you are ready to forgive everything and change yourself to be unrecognizable to return your man. But better give yourself a little time, let emotions go. Understand, because of what the relationship collapsed? Is everything good?

... and the black strip began

There are periods in life when it seems that the whole world is against you, everything rolls out of the hands and nothing can do well. And, as if Cherry on the cake, at this moment you get news that your relationships stop. And immediately begin to torment the thoughts on how to return the love of the guy.

Unfortunately, to return a person or his feelings is impossible. You can start from the beginning, but even it is very difficult. If a man betrayed you in a difficult period of your life, then is it worthy of the second chance? Will he respect you after this? Or will you understand that you like a dog run behind him, and he will beat you with a boot in the face? And in response, only a pitiful bobbing.

And if the man went to another, then you need to remember my own pride. If you are ready to put up and then with betrayals, then return. Some even find a certain pleasure in this process. Olya and Savva got married when they were 20 years old. For the first six months, they passionately enjoyed each other, until once, Olya did not come all the originated to his girlfriend. Savva started his mistress! Olya considered himself a wise woman and, having enlisted the support of the girlfriend, decided to return her husband to the family.

The whole arsenal of the seduction of a man from a stocking in a mesh to a three-layer dinner was seduced. After two months, Savva threw a cunning ruffling, and the love between the spouses flashed with a new force. For more than 10 years, Savva has periodically appear girls on the side, and Olya heroically returns a prodigal husband in the family.

From the side it seems that they both enjoy this process. When passions calm down, Sava provokes Olya to active actions. Looks like they are really happy.

I made so much nonsense!

Not only are people are not perfect, so women are also irrational. Girlfriends on full seriously advise each other to roll the scandal to her beloved person, so that he would definitely feel the power and the power of the love of his girl. Scandal for the sake of love - is it logical?

Of the best motives, some girls make terrible nonsense. They are jealous, come rapidly, roll hysteries on trifles. For example, Anya began to live with bones 2 months after dating. And in order not to deal with the passion about life, Annie decided to immediately show what her good host. And on Sunday, they went with the bones for the products as the real family. Anya scored a whole cart of everything. It is good that the day before the bone had a salary, he left it almost all her at the shop in the store. And Anya has not yet taken into account that there are 3 bus stops to the store, and they have no cars. And here they are loaded with bags, in disgruntled silence got home.

Let's wonder this case. Anya wanted to show that she:

can conduct a household;
ready to take on the role of the hostess at home;
knows what is needed for home and buys products with the best price-quality ratio;
ready to take care of the coste, so that it eats tasty and healthy food.

From the side of Ani sounds good, right? And what does Kostya feel at this moment? Having come home and translating the Spirit, he understands that:

she is a trash, does not know how to count the budget. That's what they will live the remaining month?
she does not know how to plan, because parts of the shopping could be calmly taken on another day;
she hung on him the label "You're a man" and demands that he wore heavy packages, always pays everywhere;
it does not take into account his opinion and is not advised to him;
she invaded his territory and proceeds to establishing his orders.

And if at that moment Anya and Kostya will not discuss this situation over a cup of tea with fresh cookies, it will be the first drop of displeasure and the cup of their family happiness. And if you talk calmly, in the future they will not only learn to understand each other and think about the feeling of a partner, but also to understand how it is better to act in any situation.

Such examples can be brought by a million. Surely each couple there is a similar story. But someone remembers her with a smile, and she gives someone away from each other. And if the relationships stopped due to misunderstanding of a similar character, they should be tried to return them.

To understand how to return the love of a man, you must first remember why she suddenly ended. If you think that you did everything right, find out from him. Let him tell me what was wrong. At this moment you only listen and remember, you will discuss later. Do not rush to argue, even if you do not like heard or you do not agree with these statements.

In a relaxed atmosphere, analyze the heard. Try to look at your relationship with your eyes. Maybe he is right in his own way?

Then decide that you will change in yourself. For example, as in the case of Anne and Bones, you will discuss large spending. You are ready to highlight a certain amount on the purchase that will not require discussions, that is, you will discuss only those cases when you spend more than the specified amount.

Do not trust your memory, write down all your thoughts on items. Otherwise, then in a conversation with a man you can not remember everything that was going to say, because of the surging emotions.

Analyze your feelings for it. It hurts you, because, throwing you, he hurt your pride or broke the heart? If rather the first option, then you do not need to return it. After a while you will be easier, you will feel free from these relationships. And why do you need a person you don't like?

And if your feelings are listed, you should talk about your man about them. But only after its plan for self-improvement. During the conversation, admit it to the right, tell us about your alleged actions and explain that you are ready for it, because you love.

Anya from the bones broke up in a couple of days after a hike in the store. They were lucky, during a quarrel Kostya expressed everything that he thought. Anya did not find his strength to the conversation, but wrote a short letter: "Kostik, I thought about everything you said. And, first, I want to apologize. True, I absolutely did not think about many things. I promise, it will not happen again. Secondly, we will be able to plan our budget, we will buy something on the way home from work so that you do not have to drag Baula on yourself through the whole city. And, thirdly, I love you. You are very dear to me. I am sad to fall asleep without you. Give me a second chance? I invite you on a date in our cafe today at 20:00! "

The heart of the bone fluttered, he came to the meeting. He also loved Any. Since then, they began to talk to each other and discuss everything they did. And it really helps them to avoid quarrels.

Is it possible to be a man?

If a man does not go to a conversation or does not accept any arguments, it seems that the only remaining means is a spell. But not for nothing they say that forcibly MIL will not be. Even if it turns out to be a man, these relationships will be flawed.

First, they are built on deception. After all, he did not agree voluntarily on the spell? Typically spells are read at night, and the potion or powder is required to secretly be at a meal or drink.

Secondly, here the driving power of relations is not love, but a sense of property or pride. How did he dare to throw me? I am so beautiful. He will still be with me, you never know what he wants!

Thirdly, when someone interferes with his destiny, he violates the balance. That is, if a woman is destined to disperse, to then meet their halves and live happily with them, now this path is closed for them. It is likely that the characters of men and women will change. And it is likely that one day she realizes that she does not need this person, she no longer appreciates and does not respect. And he will not take a step away from her. Then to do the lapse?

Make a spell or not, solves a woman. But before you dare to such a desperate step, you should weigh up at least 100 times and think about all the circumstances. And maybe it is better to conquer fate. It is likely that it will soon turn around so that a woman will meet their second half. And now with this man she will become a truly happy woman.

How to return love in relationship? How to save feelings for a person for a long time and not lose them? And how to return the tenderness of passion and other important qualities in your relationship. It is about this that we will talk. After all, actually fall in love easier than keeping your love.

First you need to understand what love is.

Love is strong good feelings for a person who make you stronger and for the sake of you are ready to do almost everything. Love resembles a fire. And in order to burn the bonfire you need from time to time to throw on the railway. It is forgetting about it that, we begin to ask this question: how to return the old love?

In fact, love in the relationship can be returned. It is now that we look at the methods how to do it:

Respect for the second half - Start with respect to treat each other.

After all, respect it is that the feeling and quality you must lay in the foundation building your love. After all, respect really causes pleasant feelings. It's nice when you respect. Start with yourself. Try to start respecting yourself. This will help you. And raising it, you will raise your interest in your second half.

To begin to admire your partner - in fact, over time, we lack caress, tenderness and even an elementary good word.

Again, start with yourself. Start in your beloved person to notice good qualities. And also to praise it for the very good deeds. Thus you will inspire him for new feats. And in return, you will get new and sometimes even unexpected pleasant surprises. And this will also bring interest in your relationship. And love will come for interest.

Return romance in a relationship - after all, without romance, love is hard for himself.

It takes from time to time to remember the candidate bakery period. And do something unexpected and gentle your half. Do not be obsessive and annoying. Make each other small gifts. Give your partner flowers, candy and other pleasant gifts. From time to time, take your favorite half and go out into people. This will actually bring a lot of positive emotions.

Make compliments - people not only love good actions, but also good words.

If you are a woman, do it. If you are a man do beautiful. Praise each other at least for what you have each other.

Good memories - sit together and watch shared videos or photos.

After all, the light of love is in fact always burning in you. But over time, if he does not follow him, he begins to fuck. The same actions will help to see this light and ignite it.

In order to return to the former love, tenderness and passion in relationship advise to take advantage of the methods described above. This will help restore the love that you had. And in fact she did not go anywhere. Just with time in everyday problems you stopped noticing it. So notice it, placing it in your hearts and keep it.

Couples parted by the most different reasons. Sometimes the gap occurs spontaneously and hagging, which later may regret both sides. In some situations, one of the partners feels a lack of attention, and the other does not notice anything. If you parted, but you want to be together again, then learn how to behave correctly after breaking and change your attitude to come together with a partner.

Steps

Part 1

How to behave after breaking

Do not hurry. You need time to think, enhance self-esteem and confidence, and also understand why you want to return the former partner. Do not rush to renew the relationship immediately, otherwise you risk repeating old errors.

Hold the time for self-analysis. The better you will understand the reasons for your gap, the easier it will come together again. What did you do wrong? What is your role in the completion of relationships? The partner led weighty arguments to break or explained nothing? It is important to realize that it went wrong in your relationship.

Try to define the main problems of relationships. First, think about your own role in the gap, and then determine the problems in relations that did not depend on you at all. Sometimes we love a person, but circumstances do not contribute to the development of relations. It is important to understand and consider external problems that could affect the relationship:

Problems at work;
Place or distance between you;
Emotional or physical problems;
Financial difficulties;
Sexual problems.

Work on yourself. Do everything you need to gain self-confidence. If you behave confidently, the former partner will understand that you have no doubt about your desires and goals. Confidence will confirm your ability to change and show you are ready to become an excellent partner.
- Do not hurry to talk with a former partner if you have a pitiful look and still depressed by a break. Do not attempt to convince the partner to return to you for the reason you are suppressed. You must convince your loved one in the fact that you are the desired partner.
Get ready for important changes. Why the partner return to you if your relationship did not work out? Start changing and gradually become another person to show, for what a partner will renew the relationship with you. Determine which aspects of the personality need to be changed to become better. NOT BACK!
- If you need to pay attention to health or stop leading a rampant lifestyle, then throw away all cigarettes and sign up into the gym. By the time of your meeting with a partner, it is necessary to make the first steps to change, and not give the next promises.
Contact your partner if you have changed. If, after reflection over the problems and its role in the break of relationships, you came to the idea that you better be together again, then contact a former partner and offer to talk. Call or write a message to arrange a personal meeting.
- If you are not sure that a person answers a call, then send a short message, a note or an email with the words: "I think a lot about you. We need to talk. Not against if I call?".
- If you have not changed after parting, it is possible that the relationship is better not to renew at all. Do not try to return the person just because you are sad. New relationships with old problems will come to a similar completion, so you are worthy of yourself and release a partner.
- If the partner does not want to communicate with you, the relationship is the end. Point. You can wait a couple of months and try to talk again, but a positive outcome is unlikely. Machine and move on.
Part 2
How to discuss the situation
1. Choose a neutral ledge for conversation. Agree to meet in the park or even at the entertainment center, where you will not feel in a trap, but at the same time you can talk without foreign ears.
  - The conversation should not be like a date. Do not negotiate to meet at lunch or coffee and do not discuss the situation in the bedroom if you lived together. Such circumstances may awaken good and bad memories that do not contribute to a fruitful conversation.
2. To pay attention appearance. Before meeting, it is important to put yourself in order. It is advisable to look so that the partner wants to be with you. Choose a pleasant clothes, make a new hairstyle, and also do not forget about personal hygiene. A good appearance will give you confidence and improve the mood before the conversation.
  - If you take care of the external form, then representatives of the opposite sex will start to pay attention to you. The partner will also be surprised by change and try to understand their causes.
3. Brings only sincere apologies. If your treason has become the cause of the rupture or other unacceptable actions, then your first and last words should be: "Forgive me." Ask forgiveness from your loved one for your mistakes. It is important to recognize and apologize for your misconduct to get a new chance of a partner.
  
  Listen. Bring apologies, and then watch and listen to the partner. It is important not only to inform your point of view, but also listen to someone else's opinion. Listen very carefully and try to understand his feelings. Perceive the interlocutor not as a former partner, but rather as a person with whom it is possible or impossible to build relationships.
  - Listen even if you assume the course of the partner's thoughts or expect to hear accusations and negative thoughts. Try to understand. You may need to hear it.
  - Evaluate the situation objectively. A person needs what you are not able to give him? Can he be happy with you? If the answer is negative, then do not try to resume relationships.
4. Discuss specific joint action plans. If your relationship threatens serious problems, it is important to find compromises or to come to mutual agreements to resist troubles together. Try to voice concrete concerns and your feelings to each other, and then discuss joint steps.
Part 3.
How to strengthen relations
1. Watch the future and do not dwell on the past. Any relationship is sometimes encountered on obstacles. If you want to be with a partner again, you do not bring old resentment to new relationships. It is important to abandon the idea to constantly return to situations from the past in order to "get the advantage" during a quarrel or to force the partner to realize the former mistakes. If you decide to go back again, then look only forward and do not twist the past.
  - Plan a regular business regularly. Relations are built on joint plans that need to be implemented. We regularly go on dates and put much more significant goals that will help strengthen the relationship.
2. Build unconditional relationships. Do not do anything for a partner just because you are waiting for a response service or want to avoid quarrels. Learn to just please the partner and find joy for yourself. The more often you will come for reasons of kindness and mercy, the stronger will be your relationship.
3. It is important to be kind, generous and gambling partner. Relationship Consultant and Sexologist Dan Sevyzh advise this simple formula to all people who have faced problems in relationships. Try to be "kind, generous and gambling" in all aspects of relationships with a partner.
  - Be kind to act in the interests of the partner. Love should push on the right actions.
  - To be generous means to go for victims for the sake of the partner's happiness, if he is ready to go for victims for the sake of you.
  - Life rarely provides us with a second chance, so try not to spoil the relationship.
  - If both partners agree to resume relationships and resolve old problems, then you can seek help from a family psychologist.
  - Do not try to return the relationship only because you are bad without a partner. Sometimes we confuse love with the fear of loneliness. Do not join new relationships until you change yourself.

Tips from a psychologist, how to return love. We find the cause of loss and eliminate them.

Recently, queries have become frequent: how to return the man how to win a man again, etc., which, honestly, annoy.

Well, why return a man if he threw you without a visible reason?

Yes, wish him a passing wind and turn around that he finally dumped.

I am quite different I treat requests how to return love, because more important than this feeling there is nothing in life.

Priority task for those who decide to return love

In general, I will tell you: you aim at fulfilling a very difficult job.

After all, love is such a powerful feeling - this is not a thing in the store you bought, then, having decided that she was too expensive for you, returned back, and then, once again, thinking well, they decided to pick up.

If you met your own, then it is impossible to relate to your relationship.

Its love needs to be holly and cherished, like a beautiful flower so that he grow and disgrace.

If you made a mistake and lost your beloved person, without which you can not imagine your life, then first you should decide whether you are ready to start the process of returning it.

It will be difficult, it is very difficult and not the fact that the end of your fairy tale will be happy.

Is it possible to return love at all?

You know, in some questions (for example, in matters of love) I am an idealist.

So it seems to me that relations with their second half should develop quite naturally: they met, fell in love, lived for a long time and happily.

Of course, it is necessary to work on relationships, but the phrase "Return Love" caused Skepticism 2 years ago.

And then my worldview slightly changed my girlfriend's husband.

Tanya and Sergei got married with rather young and, although they were associated with strong feelings, we all adhered to the opinions that they were not worth a hurry to hurry with the wedding, and at least since the year it was necessary to test their feelings.

The problems have begun on the first year of life: Seryozha drank a lot, lost his job and could not get a normal, providing a gorgeous opportunity to pull everything on himself, constantly ran somewhere, did not pay attention to my girlfriend, did not want to do the work on the house.

In short, Tanya lived in disadvantage.

She lasted 5 years, trying to save the family all the time.

Talking, tears, explanations, the clarification of relationships helped only for a while, then Seryozha again began to lead the life of a married bachelor.

After the next sleeper booze, Tanya did not stand and put her husband home and put her husband.

And here he woke up, I realized how much Tanya did the road and think about how to return love.

Honestly, we all did not believe in what they reunite, and Tanya herself was very strongly determined, convincing that Seryozha destroyed all the feelings in it, but he managed to save the family.

Yesterday, a nickdy's husband threw a drink (in general!), I finally settled on a normal work and began the process of conquering my wife.

It was not easy, all this stretched for three months, but now they are really happy.

Seryozha of all of us really surprised, sowing to become a completely different person.

In which cases you can not return love?

Of course, such stories with Happy Endom, which I told you, much less than sad fairy tales about broken hearts.

Sometimes you do not do, return love is simply impossible and there are very objective reasons for it:

Your object of passion does not have any warm feelings towards you, only - hatred, dislike, irritation, indifference.

Love is not left, there is nothing to return.

Your second half really fell in love with another / Other, not just fascinated or decided to experiment - and it was done on the ears.

You caused too much evil to another person, and rented love.

On such basics, it is not worth building relationships, because even if you glide a breakdown to the cup, then it will be impossible to drink from it, because important pieces are lost and it doesn't look like more.

If you learned your situation, it will be wiser, even if you suffer from love.

Just wish him happiness, heal your heart and go to search for your Happy End with another person.

How to return love: find the cause of her loss

After you firmly removed to return love and thought that it would be quite able to do this, it should be disassembled with the reasons that led to her loss.

Once you find out why your relationship collapsed, you will understand how to act:

Cause in another man / other woman? - You must prove that it is better.
Is it all about your bad behavior? - Change for the better.
You could not make your soul mate happy / -th? - It's time to look for ways how to fix it.

How to return love: again to become one man who fell in love sometime

One of the reasons why my girlfriend Tanya kicked her husband Serious was that he had changed very much over the years of their family life for the worse.

Maybe he was always like that, but did not show his bad inclinations to the future wife - not the essence.

Tanya married another person: a caring, who wants to spend all the time with her, quite successful in the profession, moderately relative to alcohol, etc.

Think, you can have the same situation.

If so, then you also need to get rid of vices and resurrect the qualities for which you once fell in love.

How to return love: to become an indispensable in a person's life

We are afraid to lose something, without which we will not be able to live normally.

If you are an absolutely useless creature, from which there is no sense, then you do not have a single chance to return love.

For example, if you disappear from the life of your beloved person, then it will not change for the worse, and after all - should.

Your task is to really become indispensable.

Your second half must understand: if she lost you, then emptiness is formed in her life, which will be filled with nothing.

How to return love: resurrect the candidate bakery period

Life kills love.

Of course, in family life, without it, it is not necessary, but if you allow everybody with your head to salt you, it will run away, breaking his head.

If family life collapsed precisely because of the fact that romance and passion left it, then it's time to return them back:

let your husband / his wife again be a young / -th and welcome / one;
surprise the candidate bakery period;
diverse your who has become boring intimate life;
break on the purchase of meat grinders or shook wallpapers in the corridor and spend better this money on a trip for two (let both budget) and romantic dates;
start back to care for your second half: give small gifts, flowers (the husband gives his wife flowers, although - you can and vice versa 🙂), arrange romantic surprises, admit to love, etc.

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How to return love: Lay your Formula of Happiness

Love, breaking his head, escaped from your life is not just so, but because she is tired of feeling unhappy.

You have a very difficult task: to figure out why you and your second half were not happy and what you need to change everything.

In this case, give general advice - an empty case, because each situation is individual.

If you are sure that you cannot find your formula for happiness yourself and return love, go to a family psychologist.

Specialist will surely help you.

And yet: so that it does not have to invent ways to invent how to return love, Try simply not to lose it.

If the firefly flew into your window, then you do not have sticks to drive it out of the house, and then pour the crocodile tears about the terrible loss.

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