If you want to educate, buy a dog. This is how to love a woman (on behalf of a man). Don't try to degrade her personality
The separation of such two is death during life
Love for a woman is an acquired kinship.
I speak on behalf of a man, but the opposite works exactly the same.
In fact, it is supernatural, it is a miracle: two people who are not related by blood become family. More dear than the closest relatives.
Love for a woman is a serious choice, one of the main ones in fate. It's as if you were allowed to choose your own mother. A person with whom you will become of the same blood, as Mowgli whispered, swearing allegiance to the jungle.
Nowadays they hardly know how to love like that.
They don’t know how, because they have to be able to do it. Because love is not an emanation, not a reflex, not salivation. Love is a skill, a mastery, perhaps the most important thing in life.
Now everything is becoming plastic, disposable.
Disposable feelings for disposable lives.
Girlfriend. Boyfriend. The great English language, which never makes a mistake in what it names. Girl friend. Boy friend. Friend, buddy - this, of course, is also serious, but never fateful. No oath, no homeland, no Siamese twins. For example, friends do not have to be together on the scaffold, where lovers rise one after another.
One of my friends is used to jokingly repeating when his wife publicly complains about their lack of intimate relationships (also a joke, as it were): “Katka (his wife’s name) is my friend, but I don’t sleep with friends.”
In fact, exactly the opposite, just the opposite. Girlfriend is a friend in a skirt with whom you can sleep. That is, a purely functionally more advanced friend than a male friend with whom he only drinks beer. But with friends, we are not required to answer for kinship. You never know who we have been friends with in our lives. Let's remember in kindergarten, where are they, all these infernal kindergarten friends of ours?
The wife is another matter. Completely different. In the same great English - wife. Some kind of simplest entity that cannot be broken down into phonemes.
A wife is when your love says to a woman: you are my homeland. This homeland may have rickety fences, sometimes impassable roads, often a roof that has completely fallen off and a drinking relative, Uncle Kolya, across the house, but still - rickety, impassable, moved out, with drinking relatives, you are my homeland.
Someone may be wondering why I don’t call my wife by name in my miniatures. I think it's unnecessary. For me, wife is already a proper name.
Therefore, always, if we talk about love that deserves kinship, the separation of such two is death during life. The death of your second, dearest, loved one. A loss that is doubly irreplaceable because the other one is alive.
Unfortunately, no less than death. Never less.
To understand how to make a woman happy, you need to imagine her as a deposit account in a bank - the more you invest in a woman, the more she will give you in the future! Often a man loves not even the woman herself, but the feelings that he experiences when he is next to his woman. But women are different, they want to feel necessary, important, one might say, the main thing in the life of their beloved man. Yes, we almost forgot, to feel like the only one in your man’s life!!!
It is important for a woman to feel with every fiber of her soul that she is to her other half like water in hot weather, like air, like the meaning of life. Every moment she wants to feel that a man loves and appreciates her, sometimes it looks intrusive, but this is the nature of most women on Earth.
Almost any woman will be inspired and filled with energy and new strength by these simple and uncomplicated phrases spoken by a man:
It seems like simple words, but what incredible power they are endowed with! After a woman hears this addressed to her, she simply blossoms and remains in a great mood for a long time.
Now we will try to talk about simple but very important tips, by adopting which a man will be able to better understand a woman’s needs, will be able to avoid negativity in a relationship, and painlessly smooth out any rough edges in a couple and how to make a woman truly happy.
How should you love your woman?
What does it mean to love your woman correctly? Can one man love his chosen one differently? Are there different types of love from one man to the same woman? Love is, in some way, a science and a trade; having mastered it, you yourself will become happier, and you will make your woman happy - build a strong union and a good family!
First of all, it is important to show concern for her mood, well-being, and state of mind. After all, it is obvious that if your companion is happy, then you, as her chosen one, will receive this warmth and light, care and love.
A successful man is doubly successful if he understands and realizes how much his success in life depends on his wife or girlfriend who is next to him, how happy and positive she is. And this means only one thing: the other half should be protected from negative emotions, and, if possible, even from unpleasant thoughts, although this is still a task.
Imagine for a moment that your woman is the bank where you deposited your money into a savings account. And the more you “deposit into this bank”, the more effort you put in, the more the woman will return to you, and with “interest” too! It's right to love a woman- this is to desire her, and do everything possible to get to know her inner world better, try to get closer to her in soul, habits, hobbies, make her happy and cheerful. If you manage to prevent a woman from getting upset and in a bad mood because of life’s troubles, then you will literally “hit the real jackpot,” because a happy woman is a huge wealth for a man.
The dream of every woman is to find a man who will be in love with her with all his heart, and who will show these feelings to her and show how valuable the chosen one is to him. It happens in life that a man seems to have provided his other half with everything: wealth no worse than others, a house, the opportunity to go on vacation, but the woman is again not satisfied with everything, she is irritated and capricious. But a woman lacks only one thing - love and signs of attention. She wishes constantly feel that she is loved, and for her this is the most important thing.
Of course, a man can love his lady, but only one thing is important in this - a woman must feel this love, and in the head of each lady there are her own criteria for male love, which very often differ from what a man thinks about love. Most women tell their men about this, but it is important for a man to simply listen carefully. How often can you find married couples where the spouses constantly show interest in each other’s affairs? The wife asks her husband how he is doing, and he is interested in her feelings and emotions? That's the same!
Important: Show interest in your wife or girlfriend's feelings. Treat her like a defenseless little girl. Pamper her with flowers and nice little things. Expensive gifts are not always necessary; you can give small surprises every day, since attention to detail is important for a woman. Let it be a chocolate bar or a cute keychain - it’s important for a woman that you thought about her and took care to please her. Every lady loves surprises, and this is a great way to show love. Movie tickets, a sudden invitation to a concert or theater, a trip to a cafe, a walk in a beautiful place, show that it is important for you to please your woman.
Be generous to get more than you give!
Be generous with money, gifts, tender words, and expressions of emotions. Greedy, petty and stingy men rarely achieve success with women, and even if by chance such a stingy man managed to get a woman’s heart, then certainly not for a long time.
They say: “The more a person gives, the more he will receive.” Money can be considered a means of solving material problems, but it can also be considered a kind of energy and resources for building a family. If a man is not stingy, and gives from the bottom of his heart, without being greedy and without calculating in his mind what he should spend on and what he should spend on, the more the woman will give him love. And with this feeling, self-confidence always comes to a man, and, as a rule, success - he achieves his goals. Although a reasonable measure is needed here, not all women nowadays can resist the numerous temptations to spend money, especially if it is on a credit card, and there are several shopping centers nearby
A woman who experiences difficulties in material income, who constantly lacks the love of a man, is very often a deeply unhappy woman. Many men mistakenly believe that their main task is to ensure material wealth in the family and that’s where their functions end. They don’t understand that it’s impossible to make your partner with money alone, that their woman needs care, warmth, tender expression of feelings and time to be given to her, although it seems like we already told you this a little higher.
Loving a woman = caring about her state of mind
Men ask how to take care of the internal state of their chosen one? You should clearly understand the common truth: women differ from men in that they mostly live by emotions, feelings, sensations, and they always prevail over reason and logical thinking. Of course, intelligence is not alien to a woman, and there are plenty of examples where a lady “outdoes” any representative of the stronger sex with her intelligence and logic. But, nevertheless, female nature is emotional, and it is pointless to argue with this.
The man's task is to help the woman manage her emotions as a couple. It is important what a man does at the moment when a woman ceases to control the emotions that overwhelm her, be it justified excitement or sudden causeless anxiety. A loving man must find out what vulnerabilities and weaknesses his chosen one has, and this should be done not in order to “press on sore spots,” but in order to protect and take care of her. Yes, a man will have to learn to deal with irrational behavior, but the game is worth the candle!
Ideally, you should not bring your wife to such situations when she no longer “sees the edges” and, like raging water, breaks through the dam, but what if the cause of the explosion is not you, you just happened to be nearby at the time of the storm?
Here you are next to a woman, she is in confusion, does not control her emotions, and instead of “quenching her storm,” you unwittingly “pour salt into her wound” - reasoning strictly logically, not understanding that you need to work with emotion here. Many men often cannot even realize when they need to stop appealing to rationality, but understand how painful and bad she is and begin to extinguish the fire in her soul.
As a result, the woman experiences even greater anger and fiercely resists the situation for one reason: she is in pain, and she, like a wounded tigress, begins to protect herself from her own pain, and to attack, including the man, as an external irritant.
How to give love if the answer is silence?
You know that a man can be frightened not only by strong female emotions and hysterics, but a woman’s silence and withdrawal into herself also often do not bode well for anything pleasant for a man. Sometimes when a woman is silent, it may mean that she does not want to let off the “steam” that has accumulated inside her. Here, too, you need to keep your eyes open! In this state, a woman needs emotional release, let her spend her emotions.
Don't run away from women's emotions - discuss the problem together
If you can’t shake the feeling that your other half is crossing boundaries, that her control and pressure on the man are increasing, and she begins to fill almost all of your space with her presence, figure out what the reason for this behavior is. You are probably not giving her the attention she expects and wants from you. Think about the fact that perhaps it is her fears that are disturbing her soul and knocking with continuous hammers. Help her fight her fears and help her overcome them together.
Try to discuss problems that arise together. Keep in mind that if a lady begins to control you more and demand more, then the reason lies in one thing: her attachment to you grows stronger, which means her fears that you will leave her and betray her intensify. She's simply afraid of losing you. This is normal female behavior. What to do in this case:
- Be sensitive to her fears. It’s clear that no one requires you to bore her with calls 20 times a day, even if she doesn’t mind. If it's important to her, you can call a couple of times a day.
- If you defend your boundaries with a wolfish grip, pushing her away and getting irritated, then her demands and suspicion will grow.
- In a calm voice, explain to her that there is a lot of work and you are busy, that you cannot be with her 24 hours a day, that she should learn to share you with work or other activities that are important to you.
Let a woman live her life to the fullest - don’t limit herself to everyday life
To love correctly does not mean that a woman should become only a source of satisfying men’s desires and needs. It is a mistake to think that a woman’s main task is to take care of everyday life, to be a wife and mother. Women in the modern world do not want to limit themselves to such roles - this is not enough for them. They want to go to work, build a career, study, have hobbies, enjoy life outside the home and kitchen. Find out what your woman would like to do in life, and help her self-realize in this area, help her find her place in life and work for the soul.
You shouldn’t limit her freedom and “tie” her to the house, convincing her that this is her main task in the family, because you definitely won’t be able to make a woman happy. Give us the opportunity to do your favorite job or hobby, communicate with colleagues and friends. It is very important for women to relieve emotional stress, and gatherings with friends or going to the gym will help her with this. And you, as a man, will only benefit from this, since excess energy will not be splashed out on you.
Many men are annoyed that their wife spends hours talking on the phone with relatives and friends, but here you have a choice. Either let her talk on the phone or be patient with listening to her stories and thoughts for several hours. If you want to spend the evening alone with the TV or computer after work, then give her the opportunity to hang out on the phone with her friends. Well, if you are ready to constantly be with your wife, then you can “remove” her girlfriends from your communication, are you sure you want this?
- Do not narrow your woman’s life only around your loved one, give her the opportunity to spend time without you and do interesting things;
- Do not make your lady your property, because after a while you yourself will not be happy that there is too much of her in your space, and she suffocates you with her own love.
A man should keep his own emotions in check
Loving your lady correctly also means not letting your emotional state prevail over your mind. A man's strength lies in his will and mind. If your relationship with your other half doesn’t work out, you don’t need to immediately blame the woman for all your troubles.
A man should not stoop to swearing and screaming, unreasonable reproaches and humiliation! If you do not control yourself and your emotions, then this is the end of the relationship. You will instantly lose the respect of a woman, and will be identified with a brawler and a doormat. In any situation, do not allow yourself to break down; you need to keep your emotions under control.
Forget about profanity, derogatory words and insults altogether, because you are a man, you are a support, not a bedding. And even if your woman has crossed the boundaries of what is permitted, you should not stoop to the level of a market hack. If you cannot resolve a conflict situation with words, then it is better to retreat peacefully, give both yourself and her time to cool down, but under no circumstances try to mock or torment a woman in a stressful situation. Know how to show respect to a woman even just for her gender, because you were also born by a woman.
Know how to communicate and tell a woman about your feelings
If you knew how many couples and even families have broken up for only one reason - the man did not tell the woman about his feelings and needs. The man is silent, withdraws into himself, and the woman can only guess what is in his soul and what he feels for her, what does not suit him about his chosen one.
A married couple once came for a consultation with a psychologist, and while working, the husband chose a picture where a boy covers his face with his hands from... a crow! He later explained that this is exactly what he feels when his wife breaks into a scream when communicating with him. This caused incredible surprise to the wife, and she said that in her life she would never have thought that her scream would have such an effect on her husband. She was always sure that he didn’t care that “water off a duck’s back” was her raised tone.
Don't be afraid to talk to your woman! Tell her what you would like from her, from relationships, from life in general, share with her what you feel.
Consistency is the key to a strong couple relationship
To love correctly also means that a man, despite quarrels, insults and “showdowns,” is constant. He continues to take care of the family, do what is necessary, bring home money and fulfill the responsibilities assigned to him and do everything to make his woman happy.
If a man deliberately withdraws from business after a scandal and does not speak, then this has a detrimental effect on the woman. She thinks that she has lost her man and stops relying on him and his support. The worst thing will happen when a woman stops believing in your reliability and loses her sense of stability. A woman must know and feel that there is a man in her life.
Take care of your child as usual, fix something around the house, help with housework, ask your wife how her day was. Of course, this is not an easy job and it is easier to come home, relax, lie down on the sofa in front of the TV and escape from worries and problems. But by choosing this path, you will not build a happy family and you will feel a lack of something. You don’t always need to wait for the initiative from a woman, you need to take it into your own hands, since the weaker sex also very much expects that you want to build a strong relationship, full of harmony and love.
It is very important for a woman to know and feel that a man sincerely wants to be with her, that he is happy and feels good. If you move away from a woman, she will feel abandoned and will simply begin to wither and dry up, like a flower without water.
Listen to a woman and do not ignore her requests
Choose time to listen to your other half, and, if possible, fulfill her requests. Many men will be surprised by one truth: a woman almost always says what she wants, you just need to learn to listen to her. If a woman is naturally modest and does not know how to openly say what she wants, then she will still try to express herself through hints. You need to understand the subtle language of communication and hear between the lines. Offer help yourself, and do not wait for the moment when the woman asks you.
Maintaining a man's dignity
A man should not allow his significant other to cross the boundaries of what is permitted and humiliate himself. Promiscuity and emotionality have never led to good, and if time after time, a woman is allowed more and more, love and relationships can be thrown into the trash. Never and under no circumstances should you forget that you are a man and you must be able to stop a woman if she has crossed the line and forgotten about the limits of respect. We love people through ourselves next to them, and through our feelings of ourselves.
When a woman is in harmony with you, she is calm and peaceful, she will love not only you, but also herself. If she is angry and anxious, you caused it and you allow her to remain in this state, then she ceases to feel love not only for herself, but also for you. Your task is to stop the woman and how you do it is up to you to decide. Maybe you need to raise your voice a little so that she understands that the situation is heating up, or maybe you need to hug and kiss her to calm her down. Maybe she will stop arguing when you speak to her in a confident and calm tone - you know best what “works” with your woman. But never humiliate her, don’t insult her, don’t scream so that the veins bulge on your face, don’t leave, slamming the door in your hearts, showing that you don’t care about her experiences and feelings.
For most representatives of the fair sex, the worst thing is when, in an emotional outburst, they are ignored and rejected, without accepting this state and not considering it something important. A woman wants to feel that you are listening to her, understand her condition and sympathize with her. Let her talk.
Gratitude is the path to happiness and well-being in marriage
Learn to sincerely thank a woman for what she does and appreciate her deeds. Often a man does not notice how much women’s work is invested in home comfort, a delicious dinner and in the achievements of your children. Sometimes a woman spends many hours cleaning her apartment, but the result of her work will not be very noticeable.
Many women, when tidying up their apartment, enjoy the process. They can sort through cute trinkets, photo frames, delving into pleasant memories. A woman can rearrange things all day, creating comfort, and you need to know that she worked and did not lie on the sofa. And if your wife earns money on the same basis as you, then household responsibilities should be divided between household members. And a woman is not obliged to carry the entire burden of household chores on her fragile shoulders.
Without romance, love is weak - hugs, kisses and tenderness
To love correctly is to have an idea of what love language your woman recognizes and what is important to her. This could be help with housework, gentle hugs and kisses, kind words, care, sweet surprises or organization of leisure time.
Study your other half to know what will please her and make her happy. The right way to love your chosen one is to notice all the details: a new hairstyle, a beautiful dress, her mood. Every man knows that women react very sharply to the fact that a man does not notice a change in her appearance. A new blouse or haircut that suits you so well. Men by nature are designed in such a way that they do not notice little things, but for women, on the contrary, little things are very important.
To build good relationships, you need to learn to notice all the little things. Gradually build your relationship, brick by brick, building your love space. First you need to reach mutual understanding about all your problems and desires. And the most important thing is to hear what worries each other, without pushing away from the problems.
Try to always be in a good mood and remain calm. Don't allow yourself to show your dissatisfaction every day and don't indulge in petty things. You are a man who must not only provide your family with a good financial situation, but also keep it in your hands. A favorable and healthy spirit in the family is a task, the implementation of which largely depends on the strong shoulder of a man. If you adhere to a healthy lifestyle, are always cheerful and calm, everyone in your household will follow your example.
Getting up early, taking a contrast shower, playing sports together, hiking and walking in the park are the key to vigor and well-being for the whole family. Try to get rid of bad habits, set a good example for your children, and never forget that you are the head of the family. And this means a lot, and you have a huge responsibility for your wife and children.
Do not forget about your territory, hobbies and male self-development. By discovering masculine qualities in yourself, you will strengthen your inner core - your woman will always admire you and give you love, women love smart, self-confident, purposeful men. No rudeness, raised tone, softness or weakness. Take the initiative into your strong hands, make important decisions - this is the only way you can make a woman happy here and now!
There is no woman more attractive than the one who feels loved, whose eyes exude fountains of light and warmth. It’s hard to remain indifferent next to someone like that; with her mere presence, she changes your inner sense of self and brings a holiday to your world. But not all men are able to give a woman a feeling of love and security, which is why the relationship only loses. We decided not to wait for distress signals and provide tips that will tell you how to love a woman correctly.
10 tips for men on how to love a woman?
1. Be interested in her inner state
A woman is your investment, the more you invest in her, the more return you will get. Money, flowers and trips to the sea are wonderful, but most of all she needs love and spiritual care. Therefore, do not forget to be interested in her mood and feelings, hug her more often, talk over a mug of tea and protect her from bad thoughts. She doesn’t have to think too much, that’s your prerogative!
2. Speak her body language
How well do you know your loved one? Don’t be lazy and study her habits, each person has their own love language. Someone feels needed when they are physically contacted through sex, massage and hugs. Someone perceives love auditorily - through praise and verbal expression of feelings. And there are women who cannot imagine life without little surprises in the form of chocolate or an unplanned trip to the park. What gives her pleasure?
3. Don't be afraid to put a lady in her place
Sometimes a woman goes beyond the bounds and begins to climb into traditionally male territory, breaking boundaries, wanting to command a parade that is not her own. Don’t be afraid to show the lady in her place in a calm tone; she shouldn’t forget that she’s dealing with a man, not a henpecked man. Defend your rights and views, to do this you will have to get rid of immaturity and laziness.
4. Be amazingly generous
Stingy men are repulsive because they live in scarcity and expect to receive more than they give. Be generous, do not skimp on emotions for your partner, devote time to her, give gifts. Remember what kind of vibrations you emit, this is the attitude you receive in return.
5. Respect her fears
We are all afraid of something, try not to manipulate it, but treat it with care. The biggest fear of many women is to be left alone, to be betrayed by a loved one. That’s why she’s so demanding, so oppressive and suffocating with her control, she’s afraid of losing you. Instead of getting annoyed, try to understand her and pay a little attention.
6. Help control emotions
A woman is emotional by nature, and therefore can easily lose control of herself by doing something or saying too much. There is no need to be afraid of her hysterics, in this state she is even her own enemy! Do not respond with words, try to calm the raging ocean of her feelings, providing a feeling of security. Show her that she can rely on you, calm her nerves with your composure and confidence.
7. Be consistent in principles
There is nothing worse than a man who is easily offended and betrays his principles. It should be a support, an island of stability and constancy, and not a stem that sways freely in the wind. Try to remain true to yourself, despite quarrels and troubles, do not stop being there and taking care of your partner. There is no need to move away at the first opportunity, to seek solace in the arms of another. She should feel that you want to be there and that you can be trusted.
8. Don't try to demean her personality.
Insults, unfounded criticism of her appearance and abilities, shots at self-esteem - all this negatively affects her attitude towards you. Don't make your other half feel unwanted, unattractive or rejected, it will come back like a boomerang at the most inopportune moment. Hysterical? Let her speak out, shut her up with a kiss or gently put her down, without mockery or jokes. Do not ignore her experiences, a woman should feel that you are on her side.
9. Don't limit freedom
A woman is not a bird in a cage who should please your ears and fulfill your desires. She is a person just like you, who has the right to develop her interests and self-realize professionally. Do not limit her freedom of choice, do not forbid her to communicate, do not tie all her free time to home and child. Help her search for herself, develop skills, and expand her worldview.
10. Stay grateful
Don’t stop appreciating everything that she does for you - emotional support, household care, the birth of heirs and just the feeling of comfort next to you. A woman’s work is largely invisible, but we assure you that you will acutely feel its absence. Therefore, do not forget to thank her for all the little things that she does every day.
Don't be lazy to be an example in relationships. You are in charge, therefore your lifestyle, your style of thinking should serve as a model for others! Don’t soften under a woman’s wing, take the initiative more often, develop spiritually, make independent decisions. Good relationships are built through joint efforts.