Female homosexuality: a social danger or not? Male and female homosexuality

Clinical forms of homosexuality

Since the end of the 19th century, it has been customary to distinguish between active and passive forms of male homosexuality on the basis that one of the homosexuals during sexual relations plays a male (active) second - a female (passive) role. This division of roles comes out clearly in cases of pederasty.

With mutual masturbation, oral-genital contact, and intercourse between the thighs, it was difficult to establish whether a given homosexual was playing a male or female role. In addition, wanting to please each other, partners sometimes could change roles.

No distinction was made between the forms of female homosexuality at all, since, apparently, it was assumed that, unlike men, both women play the same role in the homosexual act.

The author, together with his colleague E. M. Derevinsky, examined 96 homosexual women. Most of them were serving sentences for a criminal offense. Of those examined, 9 were younger than 30 years old, 70 were from 30 to 40 years old, and 17 were over 40 years old. The observations made showed that, by analogy with male homosexuality, two forms of female homosexuality can be distinguished - active and passive. As a criterion for the distinction, one should take the sexual self-identification of a homosexual - the presence or absence of sexual disorders, the feeling of belonging to one sex or another - a subjective gender. At the same time, homosexuals who feel like a man should be referred to the active form, while those who feel that they belong to the female sex should be classified as passive. The active form of homosexuality was noted in 57, the passive form - in 39 examined.

An active form of female homosexuality. Active homosexual women are characterized by the fact that both in sexual and non-sexual relationships they tend to imitate the behavior of a man, sometimes in an exaggerated form. They note that they feel like men, that they are, as it were, born men and experience sexual attraction only to women. Men do not cause them sexual arousal and are perceived only as comrades. Even the very thought of a man's caresses, not to mention sexual intimacy, is unpleasant for them.

In the external appearance of 60% of active homosexuals, one or another masculine features appeared - highly developed muscles, a narrow pelvis, coarse facial features, broad shoulders, a man's gait, angular movements, a low rough voice, male-type pubic hair. At the same time, their mammary glands were normally developed. The majority of active homosexual women from adolescence wore a man's hairstyle - short hair. Almost half were transvestites, that is, they wore men's clothes. Many active homosexual women had a negative attitude towards women's jewelry - rings, earrings, bracelets, brooches. Only one wore a medallion with a portrait of her partner on her chest. About 40% of active homosexual women in their physique and appearance did not differ in any way from heterosexual women.

Masculine features stand out distinctly in the photo of an active homosexual taken by the author (Fig. 2). It must be said that masculine somatic and mental traits are sometimes observed in healthy heterosexual women, so that in themselves they cannot serve as a basis for diagnosing homosexuality, although they are more common in active homosexual women than in heterosexual women.

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The majority of active homosexual women (35 out of 57) noted that already from childhood they discovered the interests inherent in boys - they climbed trees, shot from a slingshot, threw stones, played football, hockey, Cossack robbers, war, knew how to fight, at that At the same time, they never liked to play with dolls, wear pigtails, bows. Showed interest in menswear. In 2/3 of active homosexual women, sexual feeling manifested itself early - before the onset of puberty. It was found in the form of falling in love with a girl or woman. There was a vague attraction to intimacy with her, a desire to hug and kiss her. They declared their love, wrote letters. Childhood or youthful love for boys was extremely rare.

Menstruation began at the age of 12-15 years in 41%, at 16 years old - in 12%, at 17 years old and later - in 47% of the active homosexuals examined by us. Thus, in more than half of them, the time of the appearance of menstruation was normal. Most of them arrived late. In almost half of the surveyed, they were relatively poor. Many of the active homosexual women noted that menstruation was perceived by them as something alien, noted that they were embarrassed by the development of their mammary glands.

More than half of active homosexual women masturbated at puberty or during puberty. Some of them slept in bed with older girls who taught them how to masturbate to each other. Homosexual activity began in most cases after prolonged masturbation or after the girls learned about the intimate side of sexual life. They directed their sexual activity more often to younger girls or women, less often to women of their own age. At the same time, sexual interest was initially hidden. They behaved like devoted, attentive friends: they tried to help in everything, often made gifts. Gradually, having won trust and sympathy, they began to show more and more tenderness. They sought permission to caress, kiss, after which they proceeded to sexual activities. Only a few of them began to show homosexual activity without much preparation. They sought at any cost to cause the experience of orgasm in their partner, while at the same time they showed considerable skill. Many of them first sought to evoke a psychoerotic mood in their partner, then moved on to general caresses of the body, trying to identify erogenous zones. Subsequently, depending on the particular location of these zones, in relation to some women, stimulation of the clitoris by hand or mouth was used, in relation to others, manual stimulation of the vagina. The latter was generally used relatively rarely. Sexual intercourse with a partner often dragged on for up to 20–30 minutes or longer and, depending on her temperament, was repeated many times, until the partner experienced a state of prostration. Simultaneously with irritation of the sexual organs, the partner made frictions of their genitals on her thighs and thus simultaneously reached orgasm with her. Less often, they allowed their partner to cause an orgasm in themselves by manipulating the genitals. The majority of active homosexual women had a single peaked orgasm 1-3 times during the night.

Active homosexuals often showed sadistic inclinations to one degree or another. In general, sexual relations with a partner were characterized by their unevenness. In non-sexual relationships with partners, when forming a homosexual "family", most active homosexual women also tried to imitate the behavior of the male head of the family. They demanded obedience to their will, disposed of money. The work that is considered traditionally female (cooking, washing, sewing) was not performed, laying it entirely on their "wives". Traditionally, men's work was done with pleasure, sometimes they found high skill in it. Almost all active homosexuals liked it when their partners wore jewelry, wore low-cut dresses, and looked feminine. Many of them were very jealous, and they were jealous of their partner for both women and men.

In addition to the influence of upbringing, innate codes and programs matter for sexual behavior. One of them is the desire for rapprochement, for mastering the opposite sex, the instinct of sexual aggression. This instinct is leading in the formation of sexual behavior in animals, but it can also play a role in the emergence of drives in humans. Unlike heterosexual women, active homosexuals are characterized by high sexual aggressiveness. With great perseverance and perseverance, they pursue the woman they like, sometimes not stopping even before threats and direct aggression.

So, G., 34 years old, a former police lieutenant, fell in love in a therapeutic hospital with her attending physician S. - a woman of 26 years old who had a husband and two children. After her discharge from the hospital, she began to stalk her, waiting daily at home despite her protests, seeing her off to work, sending her flowers and perfume, threatening to commit suicide or stab her husband if she did not agree to “meet” her. Having received a categorical refusal, she came to her house. The husband (a healthy man, 1 m 85 cm tall) refused to call his wife, G., pushing him away, burst into the room and began to insist on a “talk”, begged S. to be with her, threatened her and her husband. It took the intervention of the authorities to protect the family from persecution.

Another homosexual, having entered into the confidence of a girl she liked and stayed with her to spend the night, overcame her resistance and manually deprived her of her virginity; the third achieved sexual rapprochement under the threat of a knife.

However, in most cases, active homosexual women found partners without resorting to violence.

By nature, 60% of the homosexuals we examined were sthenic, resolute, persistent, enterprising, 40% were at the same time fearless, 14% were deceitful, selfish, 20% were kind, sociable.

Although all active homosexual women reported that they had never had a sexual attraction to men, most of them had ever had sexual intercourse with a man. At the same time, 3/4 of the respondents noted that in their heterosexual life they did not experience sexual satisfaction and sexual intercourse was unpleasant. None of them began sexual activity as a result of rape. We present a typical observation.

Patient V., 47 years old. The father suffered from chronic alcoholism, the mother is a quiet, modest woman. My paternal aunt was masculine, often wore men's clothes, and was not married.

She grew up as a healthy girl. She graduated from the 4th grade, she did not want to study further. She worked as a shoemaker. Served a sentence for theft. As a child, she loved to play only with boys in their games, she knew how to fight well, throw stones; climb trees. At the age of 13, she got herself men's clothes and from that time on she stopped wearing women's dresses, she felt like a man. Menstruation from the age of 14, moderate, painless, for 3-4 days. I learned about sex life from my friends early. She notes that she never experienced the slightest attraction to the male sex, but only attracted her to women. At the age of 14–15, she fell in love with her friends, with one of them mutual manual stimulation was allowed. At the age of 19, she had an accidental sexual relationship with a man, but apart from unpleasant sensations, she experienced nothing.

From the age of 20 homosexual relations with women. Duration of relationship with one partner is up to 4 years. One girl violated her virginity with her hand. Claims that the thought of sexual intimacy with a man is disgusting. She is rude and demanding with her partners. He does not do homework, leaving it entirely to his “wife”. Once she beat her partner for disobedience. By nature, bold, quick-tempered, explosive, vindictive, decisive. Efficiency is high.

The physique is masculine. The posture and gait are male, the movements are angular. The mammary glands, external and internal genital organs are developed normally, from the side of neurology - without features. He refuses to be treated for homosexuality, as he considers his condition natural.

In the above case, manifestations of homosexuality developed in a psychopathic personality from the excitable group. In the family, apparently, there was a hereditary burden of homosexuality on the father's side. Attention is drawn to the presence from childhood of some characterological features characteristic of boys, as well as masculine physique and motor skills. The orientation of sexual attraction to persons of the same sex began to manifest itself in early adolescence. Casual sexual intercourse with a man was not accompanied by sexual satisfaction and did not lead to a weakening of the homosexual orientation of sexual desire, but rather contributed to its consolidation. A sectarian attitude towards society and its moral requirements gradually developed. In the genesis of the emergence of an active form of female homosexuality and transvestism in this case, the main role was apparently played by a congenital anomaly in the direction of sexual desire, while situational factors were only of secondary importance, although they contributed to fixing the inversion.

Fig 3. Active homosexual transvestist. The passport is listed as a man. There is a mark of a registered marriage with a woman.

The phenomena of homosexuality can also occur in women who do not show psychopathic character traits. Thus, a female doctor, active, energetic, kind, balanced by nature, maintained homosexual relations with her partner for two decades. She did not like to use cosmetics, did not wear women's jewelry, but she did not find masculine features in appearance and manners.

Sometimes active homosexual transvestists try to hide their female gender and impersonate a man.

Patient A., aged 35, was referred to a psychiatric clinic of a medical institute for a consultation about mild irritability, excitability, fatigue, and insomnia. Upon admission, she pretended to be a man, demanded that she be placed in the men's department. Dressed in a men's suit (Fig. 3).

She lost her father early. He notes that he was angry, rude, suffered from chronic alcoholism. Mother is a kind, sociable woman. The patient grew and developed normally. I went to school for 8 years, graduated from the 4th grade. During her school years, she loved to play only with boys, fought, and always defended girls. She loved only men's work, she was a loader, and recently she has been working as a security guard.

She has been smoking since the age of 17, and has been abusing alcohol for the last 5 years. By nature, fearless, proactive, decisive.

She claims that she never wore women's dresses, “as a child, she only went in panties, panties, then she began to walk in trousers.” Menstruation from the age of 16, moderate, painless, for 3-4 days, during menstruation the mood is lowered ("I despised myself").

There was an accidental sexual relationship with a man, he is reluctant to talk about it. She never felt attracted to people of the opposite sex, did not experience pleasure from intimacy with a man. In relation to women, she felt like a man, pretended to be a man and illegally obtained a passport in a man's name. Registered a marriage with a woman. In sexual relations, he plays a male role.

In non-sexual life, he does not perform women's work, he is engaged only in male labor (chopping wood, repairing shoes, performing joinery and carpentry work). Demands attention, but with the "wife" is affectionate, gentle, pitying her. He often gives her gifts. The children of the “wife” from the first marriage are warmly, condescendingly, they call her “dad”, they consider her a man.

At one time she was in love with another woman, began to look after her, and stayed overnight with her. The first "wife" was jealous of her. Both "wives" fought because of her. She stayed with the second "wife" for several months, after which she returned to the first.

In the department, she is calm, sociable, embarrassed to undress in the presence of other patients. Looks at young women, compliments them. Claims that she is now unable to fall in love with others, as she is insanely attached to her "wife". Keeps at ease, in behavior there is a lot of deliberateness, prone to panache.

The patient is of average height, athletic build. Adipose tissue and mammary glands are well developed. On the part of the internal organs without features. From the side of neurology, no symptoms of focal brain damage are detected. Intelligence corresponds to the received education.

Due to the resistance of the patient, a gynecological examination was performed under amytal-sodium anesthesia. According to the conclusion of the gynecologist, the labia minora and labia majora are underdeveloped. The entrance to the vagina is free, the mucous membrane is moistened with whites in a moderate amount. The cervix is ​​formed, cylindrical in shape, the pharynx is punctate, closed. The uterus is small, mobile, with a smooth surface, the appendages are not defined.

Soon her “wife” came to the clinic to see the patient. She refused to give any information. The patient with the "wife" was very tender, hugged, kissed her. She categorically refused treatment for homosexuality. Discharged home.

In this case, A., being a woman, always felt like a man, for many years she was in a registered marriage with a woman, that is, a homosexual family was formed. Both in sexual behavior and in family life A. played the role of a husband. Men considered her (both colleagues and others) a man. She herself in her appearance, clothes, a number of characterological features, professional activities (loader, security guard) looked like a man. In contrast, her partner (“wife”) in her appearance, manner of dressing, and behavior did not differ from ordinary women; active homosexuals often have separate character traits that are more characteristic of passive ones.

“I read your book “Female Sexopathology” (1st ed. - A.S.), writes M., 26 years old, and classified myself as an active form, although not everything is so straightforward. As a child, I loved boyish games: hockey, football , war, but for some reason I began to play with dolls in the first grade. I think that the concept of male and female activities in our time is very arbitrary. If I had a same-sex "family", I would not care: wash the dishes or knock with a hammer , if only she liked it. My profession is mostly female, although I don’t like it. I almost always use cosmetics, wear long hairstyles, wear women’s clothes more often, I don’t feel much love for trousers. I really like women’s jewelry (especially Czech). As a child, she had dreams of clearly erotic content, where she acted as a man.

Menstruation from the age of 10, flow normally. Masturbation since the age of 13. There was no particular remorse in this regard. Somewhere at the age of 15, I began to meet with an interesting young man of 18 years old. Walks, movies, cafes. He spoke passionately to me about love, but I met him only because most of my peers were also friends with someone. Somewhere I even felt sorry for him and that's why I allowed him petting. I experienced an orgasm, but there was no question of delight, the merging of souls. It was like I was doing my duty. We broke up.

For as long as I can remember, I have always fallen in love with women and girls. I fell in love passionately, suffered, suffered. At school, she was always a leader, and she hid her homosexual orientation in every possible way. Once she fell in love with a new teacher, but, having learned that she loves her husband and he loves her, she hid her feelings.

During homosexual contacts, I often acted as a husband. Now about once a year I meet with one woman. She is bisexual and married. I really like her and I can talk to her all night without noticing how time flies. I don't even know how she treats me. It suits her that there is a husband and me. She leaves and again longing and loneliness. And I need to know that after work they are waiting for you at home, that you can take daily care of your loved one. I like to give women compliments, gifts, I appreciate femininity, defenselessness, subtlety of the soul. And if my girlfriend would play an active role, even if there would be something masculine in her, but under all this a sensitive female soul glimmered and there was a desire to create a same-sex “family”, I could well play a passive role. So where can you find it? After all, we do not have such clubs as in Sweden and Denmark, where people find a kindred spirit, and then a sexual partner. Maybe homosexuality is not natural, but since nature has played such a cruel joke, then so be it! I don’t want to change my gender or get treated and I won’t.”

The inversion of sexual desire does not exclude the high development of intelligence, rich emotionality. Among homosexuals there were brilliant artists, musicians, outstanding writers and scientists.

Passive form of female homosexuality characterized by the fact that with her homosexuals, not only in sexual, but also in non-sexual relations, play a female role. They identify with the woman. In appearance, they are no different from the women of their circle. Facial features are soft, feminine. Secondary sexual characteristics are well developed. Many of them had long braided hair and a fashionable hairstyle. All 39 passive homosexuals examined by us dressed only in women's clothes (there were no cases of transvestism) and, unlike the active ones, they liked to wear rings, earrings, bracelets, brooches, painted their lips, let them down. eyebrows, etc. More than half were sociable, soft, calm, easily subject to someone else's influence, easily suggestible. In 8 out of 39, such features as theatricality and demonstrativeness were prominent. Almost all passive homosexuals had women's professions (seamstress, secretary-typist, nurse) or neutral ones.

Passive homosexuals developed as girls. They loved dolls, needlework, tried on dresses and outfits, played with girls, often experienced childhood or youthful love for boys. Their menstruation came on time (24 out of 39 - at the age of 12-15 years and only 5 - at 17 years and later, i.e., with a delay). Of the 39 homosexual women, 36 had ever had a heterosexual sex life in the past, and half of them were married, some had children, but none had a happy marriage. Most of them did not receive sexual satisfaction during their heterosexual life. Few have ever experienced pleasant sexual sensations. Only a few have ever masturbated (unlike active homosexuals).

They all started homosexual relationships at a time when they were not living a heterosexual sexual life, or when they were not satisfied with the existing family relationships. Many of them experienced a feeling of loneliness, a need for tenderness, affection and a close friend. Almost all of them initially saw in their future homosexual partner an attentive, affectionate, devoted and loving girlfriend, sometimes strong man on which you can rely. Soon, however, erotic love became more and more prominent in the relationship, and the initial manifestations of tenderness and affection developed into homosexual acts. Most passive homosexual women experienced a strong orgasm for the first time in their life under the influence of homosexual influence, many - an orgasm, much stronger than before during sexual intercourse with men. They had a feeling of falling in love with their partner, which developed into sexual affection. A homosexual couple was formed, in which one of the partners played the role of the husband (leader), the second - the role of the wife. There were very rare cases when, during sexual intimacy, a periodically passive homosexual woman took on an active (“male”) role for some time, but the “leadership” in the family still remained with the active homosexual. Homosexual couples sometimes maintained their relationship over the years, masking it as a friendship. Breaking up with a partner was sometimes extremely painful.

Patient N., 28 years old, complained of a neurasthenic nature, “in addition, she noted a feeling of melancholy and loneliness. These phenomena came, as it turned out, shortly after a break with a close friend, with whom they had lived together for 3 years. No one in the family suffered from neuropsychiatric diseases. The mother is domineering, selfish. The father is sociable and kind. She grew and developed normally. As a child, she loved to play with dolls and other games for girls. She was interested in women's toilets, jewelry, was flirtatious. Fell in love with boys, went on dates. The character is soft, sociable, easily suggestible.

Menstruation from the age of 12, 3-4 days, a cycle of 28 days. Sexual life from the age of 18. Before marriage - three short-term sexual relations with young people. Married since 22, for love. During sexual life with men, she never experienced orgasm, although the sexual intercourse took place for quite a long time. There was only painful sexual arousal, gradually sexual intimacy became disgusting, tried to avoid it in every possible way. The husband turned out to be a rude, inattentive person, he often drank. Relations deteriorated. They separated after 4 years.

The patient moved to a new job, felt lonely. At this time, she met G., a leading engineer, 10 years older, an intelligent, energetic woman, who began to pay much attention to her, invited her to the cinema and theater. G. lived alone in an apartment and was unmarried. N. began to stay with her for a long time in the evenings, and soon stayed overnight. Under pressure, G. entered into sexual intercourse with her. For the first time in my life I experienced a strong orgasm. In fact, she moved to G. and began to live with her. G. had daily sexual intercourse with her, caused repeated, multiple orgasms, mainly by manual stimulation of the clitoris (intravaginal stimulation did not cause erotic arousal and was rejected). Gradually, a sexual attachment to G developed. Interest in men faded. At home, G. behaved like a man, she did not perform "women's" work, she was entrusted to N. G. looked somewhat masculine, did not like women's toilets, jewelry. Recently, she has become rude, inattentive, picky. There were frequent quarrels. It turned out that G. had another partner. This was the reason for their breakup.

N. correct physique, feminine. Long hair is tied in a knot. Lips and eyebrows are tinted. Wears women's clothes, jewelry. During psychotherapy, the patient was pointed out the peculiarities of her sexual constitution (clitoral type of excitability) and explained why she had not yet experienced sexual satisfaction with men. Instilled installation on heterosexual life. Six months later, she entered into a close relationship with a man who, by additional stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse, caused her an orgasm. A feeling of attachment arose to him, interest in G. disappeared.

Throughout her life, N. always felt like a woman.

In the case cited, the young woman in her childhood and adolescence developed normally sexually and showed a heterosexual orientation of a rather strong sexual desire. I have always felt like a woman. However, during sexual life with men before marriage and with her husband during marriage, she did not receive adequate sexual stimulation (there was a clitoral type of sexual excitability), she remained in a state of frustration, sexual dissatisfaction. As a result, there was a negative attitude towards sexual life. There was no attachment to her husband and as a friend due to his rudeness and drunkenness. The marriage ended in divorce. She experienced a feeling of loneliness. At this time, she became the object of claims from an active homosexual who showed warmth and attention to her. During sexual intimacy with her for the first time began to experience a strong orgasm. Gradually a sexual attraction developed. A homosexual couple was formed, in which N. played the role of a wife, that is, she revealed the phenomena of a passive form of homosexuality. The heterosexual orientation of sexual desire was replaced by a homosexual attitude. The break with the partner caused severe feelings, neurotic depression. Under the influence of psychotherapy and explaining the reasons for the failure of her sexual life with men, she managed to redirect her sexual desire into a heterosexual channel. Sexual life with a man who managed to satisfy her sexually led to the consolidation of this orientation. Thus, the passive form of homosexuality in this case was completely situationally determined and turned out to be reversible.

Sometimes, under the influence of the individual's active desire to overcome homosexuality, a transition to a normal heterosexual life is possible.

Patient V., 38 years old, with masculine somatic and psychic features, which were detected since childhood, at the age of 18–23 years, maintained active homosexual relationships with three partners in turn. Then, under the influence of the conviction of relatives and psychotherapeutic influence, she began a heterosexual sexual life and got married. Sexual intimacy with her husband initially did not cause sexual satisfaction, despite his good sexual abilities. She became a leader in the family. In sexual relations, she seized the initiative, imagined that her husband was her partner, and began to experience an orgasm. Has a 6 year old son. Family relations are good. Within three weeks there was a recurrence of a homosexual relationship during the departure of her husband, after which a normal sexual life resumed.

The phenomena of an active (congenital) form of female homosexuality, which were found even in adolescence, may disappear under the influence of the beneficial effects of the external environment and the active orientation of the individual to overcome them. The following observation is typical.

Patient R., 16 years old, a student of the 9th grade of a boarding school, was admitted to a psychiatric clinic after a suicide attempt. Two months ago, I fell in love with a young teacher, began to write love letters to her, give her flowers, accompany her home, stand by her window for hours. Jealous of her other students. Soon the teacher began to avoid her, recently she allegedly began to treat her badly, forbade her to show any signs of attention. In a state of desperation, R. tried to poison herself with sulfur from match heads.

R. lost her father early and was brought up by her mother and stepfather. The latter treated her well and good, friendly relations developed between them. Mother by nature is a calm, sociable woman. The patient grew and developed normally. I went to school for 8 years, studied well. She lived in a village remote from the school, so from the age of 8 she began to study at a boarding school. Co-education with boys. She was a leader in the class, she had good relations with students.

R. is a beautiful blue-eyed brown-haired woman, of medium height, well built, athletic figure. Secondary sexual characteristics are expressed normally. Menses from the age of 15, regular, profuse, painless. She did not have a sexual life. The boys were successful. They repeatedly offered her friendship, but she reacted negatively to their proposals. The boys were never interested. At the age of 15 I fell in love with a friend. She hugged and passionately kissed her, often saw her in a dream. It was a dream that they were kissing, caressing each other, while sometimes an orgasm arose. I fell in love with the teacher soon after my friend left.

In the psychiatric clinic, at first I really missed the teacher, often saw her in a dream, and waited for her to come. Then she calmed down, began to show more and more interest in the attending physician M. (a young girl), began to show erotic attachment to her. Shortly after discharge, M. began to send love letters to M., and was worried when she did not receive a response.

2 months after discharge, she was again taken to a psychiatric clinic in connection with a suicide attempt (at a school evening she “got upset and drank mercury from two thermometers”). In the emergency room of the clinic, she was interested in the doctor M., who had previously treated her.

The doctor on duty, who knew about her special attitude towards M., consulted with her senior comrades and placed her in the regional psychiatric hospital, where M. does not work. The patient asked to be left in the clinic or to call M. During the conversation, she said that she loved M. and missed her, that she had not received letters from M. for 2 months and then decided to go to the clinic again at all costs to see her. To this end, she staged a suicide attempt.

At the hospital, she was handed over to a young male doctor. She did not pay attention to him, all her feelings switched to another doctor - a young woman.

Psychotherapeutic conversations were held with the patient, during which it was explained to her that falling in love with a friend, teacher, doctor is a natural reaction in adolescence. However, true happiness can only be achieved in a real family. It was suggested that when she gets older, she will be able to choose a worthy life partner, marry him, and experience the joys of love and motherhood.

A follow-up after 6 years showed that a successful marriage led to the normalization of the direction of sexual desire.

In this case, a girl during puberty showed a pronounced orientation of sexual desire to persons of the same sex. It arose without any external cause or adverse effects of the external environment. Instilling in the patient the ideals of family happiness based on heterosexual love and setting a normal sex life led to the suppression of homosexual tendencies and marriage.

Thus, we can conclude that the homosexual attitude of passive homosexual women is less stable than that of active ones. When they get into a favorable situation, they often experience a transition to a heterosexual life, especially if they have a preserved sense of motherhood. If the husband turns out to be able to give her sexual satisfaction (by stimulating the corresponding erogenous zones), then the transition to a normal sexual life may turn out to be stable. frigid natures do not show homosexual activity.Attempts of homosexual seduction are usually unsuccessful if from childhood or from adolescence a person has formed an attitude towards a heterosexual life and has ethical and moral ideas about the inadmissibility of sexual relations between persons of the same sex, and a feeling of motherhood is also expressed. .

R., aged 28, at the age of 18, in a state of alcoholic intoxication, was rudely deflowered by a young man who accompanied her from a party. She was having a hard time with this. Subsequently, there were two more short-term relationships with young people, in which she did not experience sexual satisfaction, remained in a state of frustration. Soon, sexual intercourse became generally unpleasant. I once slept in bed with a young woman whom I sympathized with. This woman at night, by caressing the genital area, caused her for the first time in her life a strong orgasm. Then she began to pursue, seeking intimacy with her. R. categorically rejected the rapprochement on moral grounds, but from that time on she began to masturbate occasionally. After 2 years I met a man whom I fell in love with. She married him. Has two children. She is very attached to her husband and considers her marriage a happy one.

R. is feminine, by nature soft, sociable, emotionally labile.

In the above case, homosexual attraction (passive form) did not arise, despite the fact that sexual activity with a man began with a mental trauma and was not accompanied by sexual satisfaction. Orgasm was first caused by a woman, but the high ethical and moral ideas that existed prevented the establishment of homosexual relationships and all development went along the path of a normal sexual life.

In conclusion, it should be emphasized that the study of the etiology, pathogenesis, clinic and therapy of homosexuality in both women and men was previously usually carried out without taking into account clinical forms. For example, it was indicated that homosexual men had impotence, but it was not indicated whether it was characteristic of active or passive ones, although it is obvious that active homosexual pederasts could not perform their acts with a weak potency. When describing heredity, physique, and the development of secondary sexual characteristics, forms of male homosexuality were not taken into account.

When examining male homosexuals, we adopted sexual self-identification as a criterion for classifying them as active or passive. It turned out that active homosexuals do not differ in their physique, characterological features, interests and general behavior from healthy heterosexual men. Effeminate features in body structure and behavior, as well as the desire to wear clothes of the opposite sex, are characteristic only of passive homosexuals (Svyadoshch A.M., Antonov V.V., 1972).

All of the above indicates that the genesis of the active and passive forms of both female and male homosexuality is different. The basis of the active form of female and passive forms of male homosexuality in most cases is an innate inversion of the orientation of sexual desire. This is supported by the frequency of somatic and mental traits of the opposite sex, which are found in these groups of patients already from childhood. Such forms of inversion, in all likelihood, can be caused both genetically and exogenously caused by disorders in the differentiation of the reproductive centers of the fetus in the critical period and the production of sex hormones in the mother or fetus, the administration of sex hormones to the mother during pregnancy, and also be the result of pathological secretion of gonadotropins. or sex hormones by the placenta, with hereditary or acquired reduced sensitivity of the fetal hypothalamus to hormonal influences (Dorner G., 1972). It is interesting to note that, according to A. A. Ehrhardt and J. Money (1968), in girls whose mothers received male sex hormones during pregnancy to preserve it, “boyish” behavior was surprisingly often observed, i.e., the above characterological features which we have seen in many active homosexual women. Very rare is an inversion acquired as a result of organic brain damage, endocrine and other disorders suffered in adulthood. Situational factors do not play a decisive role in the emergence of an active form of female and a passive form of male homosexuality.

In the genesis of the passive form of female homosexuality, on the contrary, congenital features of sexual desire, as well as cerebral or endocrine disorders, do not play a role. It is based on the formation of a strong conditioned reflex connection between the experience of orgasm and the woman who caused this experience. At the same time, the establishment of regular homosexual relationships is facilitated by the desire to overcome loneliness, to acquire a friend, etc. As indicated, in many healthy women, the attraction to sexual intercourse with a man arises only after they begin to experience an orgasm. In this regard, a woman's sexual life with a man, not accompanied by sexual satisfaction, may favor the fixation of sexual desire on a woman who has managed to arouse her satisfaction. This can also be facilitated by an increased tendency to form very strong conditioned reflex connections.

Thus, we can say that active homosexuals are usually born (more precisely, they are born only with a penchant for an active form of homosexuality), and they become passive. An analogue of the passive form of female homosexuality is the active form of male homosexuality. However, the genesis of this form is more complex. And at its basis, just as at the basis of the passive form of female homosexuality, lies the fixation of the first strong sexual experiences on the person of the same sex that caused these experiences. Two more factors can contribute to this (Svyadoshch A. M., Antonov V. V., 1972).

1. The presence of many boys or young men from 7–8 to 15–16 years of a period of undifferentiated orientation of sexual desire (the period of youthful hypersexuality, according to A. Moll, 1908). At this time, sexual arousal often arises under the influence of a variety of influences, for example, during muscle tension while fighting with a friend, while riding in a car, train, when experiencing pain, fear, etc. At this age, sexual games are also often observed. both heterosexual and homosexual in nature, consisting in the palpation of other people's genitals, their mutual excitation, etc. Since at this age the orientation of sexual desire is not yet strictly heterosexual in nature, its homosexual orientation can easily arise and be fixed.

2. The absence of a congenital reaction of sexual arousal characteristic of men upon contact with naked female genitalia. We have often observed these phenomena in male homosexuals, both active and passive.

So, the congenital form of homosexuality (active in women and passive in men) is characterized by the following triad of symptoms:

1. The feeling of belonging to the sex (violation of the sexual self-identification of the gender role) and, in connection with this, the desire to figure as a person of the opposite sex and wear his clothes (transvestism).

2. The presence from childhood of certain somatic and characterological features of the opposite sex.

For a reactive (situationally) conditioned form of homosexuality (active in men and passive in women), the presence of only the third member of the triad without the first two is characteristic.

Transvestism (from the Greek vestis - clothes) - the desire to wear clothes and appear in the role of a person of the opposite sex. Transvestism has long been condemned by society. So, in the Jewish religion (5th book of Moses, 22.5) it was declared a sin for a man to wear a woman's dress and for a woman to wear a man's dress. Among other accusations of Joan of Arc was the accusation that she wore a man's suit.

At the heart of transvestism is a violation of sexual self-identification - a sense of belonging to the opposite sex. Hence - the desire to wear clothes and figure in the role of a person of the opposite sex. It is most often combined with an inversion of the direction of sexual desire and is then considered within the framework of homosexuality. Along with this, transvestism can act on its own, being observed in persons who are not homosexuals and live a normal sexual life. However, even in these cases, one or another characterological features of the opposite sex are usually noted from childhood, which we cited when describing congenital forms of homosexuality.

Rice. 4 a, b. The man is a passive homosexual transvestist. Works as a cleaner. He calls himself Vasilisa Andreevna (according to his passport - Vasily Andreevich)

A 46-year-old patient was under our supervision. He was married for 24 years. Lived a normal sexual life, had two adult children. The physique featured effeminate features (wide hips), however, the male genital organs were well developed, without any signs of hermaphroditism (Fig. 4 a, b).

Since childhood, he loved women's activities. He liked to try on women's dresses and jewelry. I felt like I belonged to the female sex. In adolescence, this feeling intensified and more and more often there was a desire to wear women's clothes and impersonate a woman. I never experienced sexual attraction to men, but girls caused sexual attraction. Particularly exciting was the sight of a naked female body and touching it. Sexual life began at the age of 17 with a girl 3 years older. After graduation, he was drafted into the army. Successfully advanced in the service. At every opportunity, hiding it from others, he put on a woman's dress. After demobilization from the army, he wore it at home almost constantly. The son's wife began to protest against the fact that he walks in a woman's dress, embroiders, sweeps the floor, cooks dinner. Then he submitted an application to the police with a request to officially recognize him as a woman so that he could freely walk in women's clothes. He showed no signs of mental illness.

We believe that such cases of transvestism are a congenital condition. In their basis, as well as in the basis of congenital forms of homosexuality, lie, in all likelihood, violations of the differentiation of the sexual centers in the diencephalic region. These violations may be less pronounced than in congenital forms of homosexuality, and therefore the orientation of sexual attraction to persons of the opposite sex remains.

In women, transvestism is less common than in men, and is usually combined with a homosexual orientation of sexual desire.

Causes of homosexuality (lesbianism)

Homosexuality (from the Greek "homos" - the same and Latin
"sexus" - gender; other names - pederasty, sodomy, uranism -
men; lesbianism, lesbian love, safism, tribadia - in women) -
sexual attraction to people of the same sex. Synonym in both sexes - inversion
sexy. The prevalence of homosexuality among men is from 1 to 4%,
in women - from 1 to 3%.
It is believed that in the occurrence of this sexual disorder, in addition to
personality traits and mental illness, the following play a role
factors: violations of psychosexual development, transformation of gender role
behavior, puberty disorders, improper sex education,
excessive guardianship of the daughter's parents, not allowing her to communicate with children
of the opposite sex, seduction in childhood, social isolation with
same-sex composition (orphanages, boarding schools, colonies for minors
criminals).
Predisposing causes may be: pathology of pregnancy
mothers, attempts to terminate pregnancy, radiation exposure to the body
pregnant woman or her taking hormonal or certain medications
drugs (especially at 4-6 months of pregnancy).
Homosexuals themselves believe that their sexual orientation, directed
to one's own sex, is due to biological laws that are beyond the control of
mind control.
In 1952, the works of Callaman were published, where the connection is proved
homosexuality with genetics, but studies by other scientists have not confirmed
Callaman's results, and from the genetic theory of origin
homosexuality is now abandoned.
In some homosexuals, a different ratio of male and female was found.
female sex hormones than heterosexual people
(that is, those whose sexual attraction is directed to persons of the opposite
gender).
Based on this, a theory has been put forward that
predisposition to homosexuality is explained by hormonal factors.
However, it was not confirmed by practice, since some homosexuals
normal levels of sex hormones were found, and adult treatment
homosexual sex hormones does not affect their sexual
orientation.
Currently put forward a theory about the influence of their own hormones
fetus in the intrauterine period of development on its mental development in
aspect of creating a predisposition to certain types of sexual
behavior in adulthood.
Freud believed that all people are predisposed to bisexuality. At
normal psychosexual development of the child, his sexual orientation
goes on a heterosexual path. However, under certain conditions, for example,
if the Oedipus complex is not properly resolved, it can be distorted and
there is an attraction to members of the same sex. .
Oedipus complex is a complex of childhood experiences, consisting of
attraction of the boy to his mother with simultaneous jealousy and
hostility towards the father, the Electra complex is a special
attachment of the daughter to the father and the orientation of sexual attraction to him.
At an older age, this complex is forced into the sphere of the unconscious.
and determines many aspects of sexuality and susceptibility to neuroses.
At the same time, normal psychosexual development is suspended for
immature stage, and in the future is transformed into homosexuality.
A new direction in the study of homosexuality and its causes is connected
with behavioral psychology. Proponents of this theory believe that
sexual orientation of a person is formed depending on the general
psychological mood, as well as under the influence of punishing children for
manifestations of sexuality. In their opinion, the fact that relations with
persons of the same sex are pleasant, conducive to communication and spiritual intimacy, and
contacts with the opposite sex are frightening and unpleasant. Between these
relationships create a contrast, and a person chooses what is more
Nice.
The transformation of gender-role behavior is also considered as
predisposing factor for the development of homosexuality. These girls grow up
like a "daredevil" - lively, decisive, masculinized (that is,
have "masculine" character traits), and boys are brought up pampered,
timid, afraid of difficulties and decision-making, feminized (then
are, have "feminine" character traits). According to scientists, of these children
Most often and grow homosexuals.
There is an opinion in society that all homosexuals are the same. Many
believe that a homosexual can be distinguished from other people by appearance -
cutesy, effeminate men and coarse, masculine women with a short
hairstyle, as well as by profession, by character, by style of behavior.
For example, an unmarried person under 30 or an unmarried woman is suspected of
homosexuality, and if they prefer to communicate with representatives of their
sex or live together - then even more so.
But this is not always true. Only a very small number
homosexual men behave effeminately, this is approximately 15% of their total
numbers. But there are such feminized men among heterosexuals.
For example, gender-transforming men who love
perform "women's" duties, can acquire "women's" professions, with
enjoy doing housework, sewing, embroidering, educating
children are typical heterosexuals, they experience sexual attraction
only to women.
The same is true for women. In the chapter on women with "male"
character, clinical examples of masculine women who do not have
no homosexuality.
Change in the stereotype of gender-role behavior and the acquisition of traits
inherent in the other sex, may be with a delay in psychosexual development and
during the transformation of gender-role behavior. In the nature of such women there is
"masculine" traits, behavior also resembles men's, they choose professions
those who are considered purely "masculine", they like to be in the company of men
and keep with them on an equal footing, but at the same time they do not like and avoid women and
find no common interests with them.
Both the delay in psychosexual development and the transformation of the gender role
behaviors predispose to the development of homosexuality, but may
be so that a person, whether male or female, has
heterosexual orientation, but in general, his sexual desire
so reduced that he or she shows no interest in
the opposite sex. But for his (or her) attraction to his gender, too
No.
That is, despite the prevailing opinion that a homosexual can immediately
distinguish by any external signs, erroneously.
Only a very small proportion of homosexuals behave in such a way that they
homosexuality is visible to the naked eye. The rest can behave
as people of heterosexual orientation, and for a long time none of
others may not be aware of their homosexuality.
Moreover, contrary to another erroneous, but very
popular belief is that homosexuals "do not throw themselves" at anyone
representative of your gender. Most of them communicate very selectively.
They "like" some of the representatives of their sex, while others "do not like".
Criteria for choosing an object of sympathy and attraction in different homosexuals
different. For some, looks matter, for others, personality.
qualities, for the third - spiritual intimacy, for the fourth - reciprocity
feelings.
People of heterosexual orientation do not attract many homosexuals.
They prefer to choose their partners among "their own". Perhaps they
afraid of being rejected or ridiculed. Perhaps they must
it is required that the object of their sympathies necessarily reciprocate them.
But there are times when homosexuals fall in love with a person
heterosexual orientation if, in his opinion, this person is responsible
his ideals. In such cases, they behave differently. Some are assertive and
immediately demonstrate their sympathy, try to court and harass the object
love. Heterosexuals most often strongly reject them. Others hide their
true feelings and pretend that they experience only friendly feelings and
sympathy for a member of the same sex who has a heterosexual
orientation. Still others try to win his sympathy in an implicit form and
patiently waiting in the wings when the object of love will experience
affection or gratitude when favorable
circumstances and only then reveal the true background of their
relations. This option is reflected further in the clinical examples. And some
"love" a heterosexual with unrequited love and never open up
completely, while having homosexual relationships with other partners, although
don't love them.
That is, all homosexuals are different, and their feelings and behavior are manifested
differently. Therefore, the opinion that all homosexuals only dream of
to have sexual contact with any member of the same sex, and
the choice of a partner for homosexual relations is indifferent to them - absolutely
wrong.
Among them there are mentally ill people who behave in accordance with
patterns of their underlying disease, and homosexuality is
a consequence of mental illness, or rather, its expression in the form of sexual
perversion, and in addition, they have other signs of this disease.
Others for uninitiated people are no different from mentally healthy,
and only a psychiatrist can detect psychopathy in them, accentuation of character
or any mental disorder.
Some homosexuals say they were conscious of their attraction to
persons of the same sex from early childhood, as early as 5-7 years. This statement
doubtful, since it is unlikely that at this age a child can have a clear
idea of ​​their sexual orientation. Some are aware of their
homosexuality already as adults, having experience of heterosexual relationships
True homosexuality manifests itself from the moment the awakening of the sexual
attraction in adolescence. To peers of the opposite sex and to
older people do not experience sexual attraction. All sexy
fantasies in adolescence, erotic dreams are associated only with
with their gender.
Since adolescence, homosexuals have been looking for places and situations where
you can see naked, and especially the genitals, representatives of your
floors (showers, baths, locker room toilets, etc.), and then look for sexual
contacts with them.
In lesbian women, depending on the age of the object of sexual
preferences may be attraction to girls, girls, women and old women.
Bisexuality - the presence of sexual attraction to persons of both sexes.
Bisexuals are 5% of the population. Bisexual most of the time
still prefers representatives of any one sex.
The reasons for bisexuality may be the search for new, spicy or "spicy"
sensations, curiosity, experimentation, the desire to diversify one’s
sexual life, but they give preference to heterosexual contacts.
For other bisexuals, sexual contact with both sexes -
it is a conscious choice that allows you to take part in any form
sexual activity without any restrictions. Some bisexuals
do not choose partners, entering into sexual contact depending on
circumstances and the presence of a partner of either sex, others choose partners
purposefully, using their own selection criteria - appearance,
age, personality traits, etc.
Some homosexuals, who are clearly aware of their perverted attraction and
giving a clear preference for people of the same sex, there may be short-term
or relatively long sexual relations with representatives
opposite sex. It can be a forced relationship, for example,
the desire to hide their homosexual inclinations or to have children, while
In this case, homosexuals do not experience sexual attraction to a partner, but
some may have a sexual attraction to the object of the opposite
sex, and then homosexuality approaches bisexuality.
At different times, one type of sexual preference may
prevail, while the other weakens.
During the life of homosexuals, they may initially have
heterosexual contacts, when the homosexual is not yet aware of his
attraction or is aware, but tries to overcome it and "treats" himself with
through heterosexual contact. Then, tired of fighting with his
homosexual attraction or realizing it, he has only homosexual
connections. During his life, he can be carried away by a person of the opposite sex and
engages only in heterosexual intercourse for some time, or
retains both, that is, homo - and heterosexual. Then he
can return only to homosexual relationships or keep
bisexuality.
Ambisexualism is an absolute indifference to the gender of one's partners.
It is a type of bisexuality. Such people support sexual
relationships and have frequent sexual contact with members of both sexes, not
giving preference to none of them, close, committed relationships are not
support neither men nor women. Any sexual
they accept or reject relationships depending on their personal
needs. At the same time, the reciprocal feelings of the partner, the reciprocity of feelings, his
physical attractiveness and personal qualities have very little
influence.
There may be a combination of homosexuality with other sexual perversions -
transvestism, masochism, sadism and others.
There are special places where homosexuals gather. In the west there
special cafes for homosexuals, there are also world-famous resorts,
which are visited mainly by homosexuals from all over the world.
Sexual contacts of homosexuals can be varied. More often
all these are mutual courtship, caresses, kisses, hugs and mutual
masturbation, oral-genital contact, and imitation of sexual intercourse, and
also petting (rubbing the genitals on various parts of the body
sexual partner).
Horace described these caresses - women alternately caressed the clitoris and
each other's vulvas, and then, before the onset of orgasm, caresses were replaced
tribadia - one woman lay down on another, and simulating sexual intercourse, rubbed
organ on organ. At the same time, they often had voluptuousness at the same time.
and ecstasy. After that, they continued to caress each other.
With lesbian sexual intercourse, sexual intercourse in the generally accepted
sense, of course, does not occur. Orgasm is achieved by rubbing organ against organ
(tribadia) and caresses on the clitoris. Lesbians can carry out these caresses
sequentially or simultaneously. Sometimes only one of them caresses her partner
lesbian, performing an active, male role. It happens that she is able
it is enough to imitate sexual intercourse, and this is regarded as very valuable
quality.
M. Kinessa cites such a case. One lesbian woman got married
but along with sexual relations with her husband, she continued to live with her
girlfriend. After a while, her friend became pregnant, as she is married
a woman on her genitals transferred her husband's sperm, as if "rubbed"
seminal fluid in the vagina of a friend.
The origin of lesbianism is deeply rooted in ancient times.
Oral erotica (licking each other's genitals) originated in
ancient Greece. Even in the days of ancient Greece, it was believed that doing
lesbian caresses are more pleasant and noble than having sex
woman with a man.
According to one of the legends, the ancient Greek god Zeus punished the island
Lesbos, leaving only women on him, since one of them refused to become
his mistress. He removed his spell only after 4 decades. When
the ships landed on the island, the sailors saw only women. They lived
with each other and gave each other caresses, which became known as
lesbian.
The poet Sappho, a resident of the island of Lesvos, sang in her poems
lesbian caresses, so this version of same-sex love is also called
safism (or sapphism).
In this era, these ways of satisfying the sexual instincts are not
condemned. The god of love, Eros, was served a certain cult for the opportunity
mutual satisfaction with persons of the same sex. Literature and visual
art depicted homosexual acts between two women or two
men. Homosexual relationships were not considered sinful or vicious.
In the Roman Empire, homosexuality was also not condemned, and homosexual
behavior was considered quite natural. In high society were accepted and
marriages between two men or women were considered legal.
But ancient Jewish traditions condemned homosexuality. in the bible
says: "If a man lies with a man as with a woman, they both
abomination; let them be put to death, their blood upon them." Christianity from the very
began prohibiting and persecuting homosexuality. In the Middle Ages, the Inquisition
severely punished for homosexual relationships, tortured to obtain a confession from
of their victims, homosexuals were considered heretics and traitors.
Pathological homosexual attraction began to be considered only with
half of the nineteenth century. There was an opinion that homosexuality is
disease with which a person is born. Scientific discussions on the topic of causes
The development of homosexuality is still ongoing, but in general, attitudes towards
this form of sexual perversion became more tolerable.
In the 20th century, sexual minorities achieved certain rights. in the USA and
in many other countries homosexuality is seen as perfectly acceptable
phenomenon. There are even social movements and organizations of sexual
minorities.
Despite the fact that nowadays same-sex love is no longer
prosecuted by law, from the point of view of psychiatry, it is considered a pathology.
And even if society eventually completely changes its views on this
problem, and the so-called sexual minorities will achieve official
recognition of their same-sex "marriages" - the very fact of the perversion of sexual
attraction from the position of a doctor - a psychiatrist is unlikely to change its value.
False homosexuality is a combination of homosexual and
heterosexual ways to satisfy sexual desire. Most often he
sometimes forced - with prolonged isolation from representatives
of the opposite sex (in places of detention, inmates of orphanages and
boarding schools). Homosexual and heterosexual fantasies and dreams
alternate. When returning to normal living conditions, preference is possible
heterosexual contacts, but there may be a combination of homo - and
heterosexual relationships.
Only a few true homosexuals suffer from their sexual
preferences and would like to become normal heterosexuals, but most
and does not present itself in a different role, wishing only that society would leave them
at ease, giving them the right to freedom of choice of sexual partner.
Homosexuals are divided into active (that is, playing a male role)
and passive (playing a female role).
For the same person, his sexual role (activity or
passivity) can easily change, but in most cases there is
persistent preference for a particular role.
Mental factors play a role in the development of active homosexuality.
deviations and adverse external influences (lack of education,
adverse circumstances during puberty), and in
the emergence of passive homosexuality may be of importance mental and
hormonal disorders.
Passive lesbians are feminine and helpless in everyday matters. IN
homosexual lesbian "marriage", the active lesbian usually plays the role
"husband", it is she who earns a living, decides all the important everyday
problems and takes care of his partner, and she may not work.
And many active lesbians have masculine mannerisms and behavior, they love
command, wear short hairstyles, trousers, shirts, jackets, prefer
men's professions and occupations.
But this does not always happen. Sometimes an active lesbian looks like
an ordinary woman acts like a woman and dresses accordingly,
uses ordinary women's cosmetics and perfumes. Some do it
for the sake of disguise. so that they are not suspected of homosexual inclinations,
others were previously in a heterosexual marriage, always had a regular female
appearance and retained it in a homosexual "marriage".
Some women become lesbians as if forced, by virtue of
circumstances where, for whatever reason, they are unable to
sexual relations with men.
I'll tell you about the fate of two lesbians. She is one of them, Marina, became a lesbian
precisely because of the tragedy in her life, and before she was heterosexual,
the other, Tamara, is a true active lesbian.

Clinical example.
Marina Z. 33 years old. Translator by profession.
Born in the Moscow region, in a family of employees, the eldest of two children.
She suffered from childhood infections, colds. Early development
timely.
Since childhood, subordinate by nature, she always needed to be around
someone stronger in character, either gender. If there was a girlfriend, then
imitated her to everyone - she dressed the same, spoke with the same intonations and those
the same expressions. When she was married, she obeyed her husband in everything.
After school, she entered the Institute of Foreign Languages ​​in Moscow. After
after graduation, she worked as a translator. Outwardly very pretty, tall, with
slender figure, always fashionably dressed, with moderate makeup.
Sexual life from the age of 18, defloration suffered almost
painless, there was almost no blood, so her lover even doubted
in her virginity. But I didn’t experience an orgasm with him, he was in a hurry,
inexperienced, did not care about her sexual satisfaction, the meetings were then on
student party, when they could enter the room, then in her room in
hostel when she made arrangements with neighbors, and a room for a certain
time was at her disposal. Met with my for a while
classmate, but then parted, because he was tired of her, he called her
"cold", and he got himself another girlfriend.
At the age of 20, she met the brother of her classmate and immediately fell in love.
She married him six months later. We lived together in my husband's apartment.
He was 12 years older than her, at first he loved her and was much more experienced than her.
first sexual partner, and from the very first time she experienced with him
orgasm. And in the future, she always experienced an orgasm with him. In her words, because
this "attached to him like a cat." Had multiple pregnancies
her husband did not want children, and at his request she had an abortion.
The husband was from an artistic environment, led a bohemian lifestyle, drank, cheated
her, although every time after the next "spree" he came with a bouquet of flowers and
gift, and she forgave him.
But in the fifth year of marriage, one day the husband disappeared for a month, and then said,
that "love has passed like smoke" and he is filing for divorce, as he has a new
"passion". A month later, they filed for divorce, although she cried and begged her husband,
even agreed that he would have a mistress, but he was adamant. At
divorce, the husband did not waste time on trifles, was generous, gave her "compensation for the used
youth ", exchanged his apartment, and she got her own room in
communal 2-room apartment.
For three years she lived alone, had many lovers, including
among foreigners. Every time I hoped to marry another lover
married, but she was not offered. Dreamed of family and children.
At the age of 28 she became pregnant and when she was given an abortion before
Wasserman's reaction, it turned out to be positive, and she was hospitalized in
venereal hospital. Korolenko. She had secondary syphilis
that is, she had caught it a long time ago, but she did not know from whom exactly.
She had to name all her lovers, her ex-husband, and all
examined. All her friends and acquaintances were alarmed because of this, since
many had sexual relations with her, and then her lovers had others
sexual partners, and everyone was busy calculating who was with whom and when
sexual contacts, and it turned out that all her friends had them among themselves,
friends and girlfriends, and a very tight tangle of mutual reproaches ensued and
clarification of relations due to mutual betrayals. All the friends and girlfriends in
secretly from each other and from their husbands and wives did the Wasserman reaction and
consulted with venereologists.
Because of this, all friends and even relatives turned away from Marina, and in
no one visited her at the venereal hospital, except for Tamara, a work colleague,
who was an active lesbian and was always partial to Marina.
Tamara and Marina are the same age. Tamara was also married, but already divorced
a year later, no children. As she herself says, "she ran away to marry for conspiracy
and to earn an apartment", but she never loved her husband.
From adolescence, Tamara always liked only girls, she had
close friends with whom they went "embracing", but their homosexuality
then she was not yet aware, and it did not come to sexual contacts.
Tamara liked combing her friends, touching them, rubbing against
cheek. Changing clothes in the pool, she always found a flawless look in her eyes.
female figure and watched with pleasure how the woman changed clothes.
Before marriage, Tamara had two unsuccessful sexual encounters with men.
But there was no desire, no sexual arousal, no orgasm. But also her
partners did not care about her satisfaction, and sexual intercourse was limited
classic pose and a few minutes.
He says that for the first time he just "wanted to try what
sex", but did not experience any pleasant sensations, "it was painful and disgusting."
Another time, she simply yielded to her boss, who "didn't let her
passage" and "dissolved his hands." Silently undressed, lay down on the sofa in his office
and, in her words, "just a few minutes looked at the ceiling and that's all
ended."
The next time her boss hinted at intimacy again, she
coldly said that for this he had his own secretary, and she
is not going to be his concubine, because she is "fed up with sex with him"
throat." After that, she had to leave work, and she chose this
team, where there were only women.
Since then, Tamara has stopped any attempts at courting men, although
many tried to look after her, she is a brunette with a rather bright appearance,
beautiful figure and posture, in her appearance there is nothing from an active
lesbians.
With men she was arrogant, ironic, caustic, could so witty and
to accurately assess the male abilities of another fan, which he quickly
I lost all desire to take care of her.
Had several lesbian contacts with women. For the first time she
was on vacation, resting in a boarding house, and a lesbian sat down at her table.
Tamara immediately understood everything, silently got up and went to the room to her first
girlfriend. She was so gentle and affectionate, so experienced, that Tamara had
multiple orgasms per night. She was grateful to her new friend for
the experience of caresses and the pleasure experienced.
Men had not interested her at all for a long time, but how do they find their
lesbian friends and how to behave, she did not know, but she was sure that it was too early
or later "you can't get away from fate."
With a new girlfriend, they spent the whole vacation together, for the night Tamara
came to her room, sometimes they locked themselves in her room during the day, but
their relationship was purely sexual. Marina liked all the sensations very much,
she asked in detail about everything a new friend, who turned out to be
lesbian "with seniority and extensive experience."
A friend constantly found new partners for herself, did not like constancy,
was looking for novelty sensations, and especially she liked such "virgins" in
homosexual attitude, like Tamara.
She taught her how to recognize "her own", and henceforth Tamara knew how to
one look thrown at her by a woman unmistakably recognizes a lesbian.
Sometimes she herself "seduced the virgin" if she herself wanted it. But everything
sexual contacts were short-lived. Tamara believes that the spiritual
intimacy, feelings and relationships for lesbians are much more important than "naked
sex".
That she got married and "thrown this nonsense out of her head", started
a normal family, children and lived like all women, Tamara's mother insisted,
who knew about her addiction, since Tamara brought several friends
home if there was nowhere else to be alone. Mother so "sawed and itched" that
Tamara decided to give in to her and get married.
She already knew in advance that this was not for long and decided for herself that "if
already sold, then expensive. "She really wanted to have a separate apartment,
to get rid of her mother's guardianship, and she chose a "rich husband" for a long time. AND
found one who had a large apartment and was quite
wealthy person.
In front of her husband, before the wedding, Tamara played herself a "virgin", so
how she did not like him at all, she knew for sure that this was a marriage
calculated, and she had no desire to go to bed with him. Except
In addition, she had a "romance" with another friend who is quite her
satisfied.
For sexual relations with her husband, Tamara experienced an irresistible
disgust. On the wedding night, seeing his thin hairy legs,
a small belly, a far from flawless figure and a flaccid penis, she
ran to the bathroom, locked herself there, and although her husband knocked on the door for a long time and tried
find out what happened, but she did not open the door for him and sat there all
night.
Although she was no longer a young girl, and she herself admits that she led
yourself stupid, and if you already decided to marry an elderly person, then you had to
"to go to the end", but she could not overcome herself and it turned out that
she behaved like a real virgin, frightened by the upcoming
intimacy with a man.
Tamara avoided sexual relations with her husband for quite some time, then
excused herself by saying that she was scared, then she allegedly started menstruating, then
headache, then she stayed overnight with her mother, telling her husband that she allegedly
sick and in need of care. He waited for some time, believing that she
really a virgin, but sooner or later insisted on his own.
Tamara said that before sexual intercourse she insisted that her husband
completely turned off the lights and drew the curtains, just so as not to see him, and
"Clutching her teeth," she obeyed her husband, but "lay like a log."
The husband turned out to be far from a "sexual giant", the erection was sluggish, and
nothing worked for him. In addition, Tamara did not help him in any way, she lay
completely indifferent, and during another unsuccessful attempt, even
lit a cigarette, and his flaccid erection immediately disappeared. He whined and complained, and she
quietly smoked. Obviously, he believed that the young wife would return him to his former
sexual agility. When she was tired of all this, Tamara turned to the wall and
pretended to be asleep.
For a while he left her alone, but later
tried several times, but could not master it. He
asked Tamara to "caress" him or have oral sex, but from one
Thought at the same time, Tamara jumped up and ran away to sleep in another room. And then
insisted that they sleep in different rooms, citing the fact that he was in a dream
snores, throws his leg over her, and she cannot sleep with him.
But one day he began to masturbate in front of her eyes and achieved quite
sufficient erection to insert the penis into the vagina. From the view
puffing masturbating husband Tamara simply hated him and with difficulty
waited for it to be over. And without that, not a very high opinion of
sexual abilities of men in comparison with their affectionate lesbian
partners, she finally became disillusioned with men.
Upon learning that she was deceiving him, Tamara's husband was furious, he cursed
dirty words, stamped his feet, brandished his fists in front of her face, but he
He was an intelligent man, and the matter did not come to assault.
Most of all, he was outraged not by the very fact that Tamara did not
a virgin, but the fact that she "led him by the nose" for almost a year, as he himself
put it. To which Tamara coolly stated that he "knew what he was buying"
and there is nothing to pretend, but she has already "worked out" everything, at least by the fact that
accompanied him to all social events and helped maintain the image
a sexually strong man who has a wife who is fit for his daughter.
They argued and bickered for a long time, Tamara suggested a divorce, but he did not
wanted, although she immediately declared that she would no longer allow him to her
touch. For a while they still lived together, but then filed for a divorce,
and Tamara insisted that he buy her a one-room apartment or exchange
her own, threatening that otherwise she would tell everyone she knew that he was impotent.
Almost immediately after

Female homosexuality is an ancient phenomenon and since ancient times it has undergone significant changes. Sexual attraction to the representatives of the same sex in women has a completely different motivation, causes and even forms of manifestation.

Causes of lesbianism in the 21st century

According to V.V. Saltykov: "If earlier lesbian relationships were caused by the absence of men, now their presence." (2003).

But in fact, this phenomenon has a lot of different causes:

1. Biological, or congenital - chromosomal disorders - about 10% of cases.

2. Psychological - violations of sexual-role identification, difficulties in early childhood, unfavorable family conditions (divorces, early deaths, frigidity of parents, narcissistic tendencies are seen in almost all families from which homosexuals came) - about 90% of cases.

3. Popularization of homosexuality. Homosexuals occupy a prominent place in modern life, mainly associated with people of bohemia and creativity (Verlaine, Rimbaud, Tchaikovsky, Jean Marais, Versace, Luchino Visconti, many pop stars.). (A.N. Mokhovikov, 2002).

Analyzing these data, it is easy to understand that most often female homosexuality is not an innate erotic preference for one's own sex, but a pathology that has been caused by various psychological problems, difficulties or traumas. From the words of the author, we can conclude that non-traditional sexual orientation can be caused by such reasons as:

· Antagonism to the parent of the opposite sex (authoritarian father of the daughter, fear of the father).

· Frequent violent quarrels between parents, provoking aversion to heterosexual relationships, which is reinforced by good relationships with same-sex peers.

Deprivation of the company of children of the opposite sex (orphanage, same-sex boarding school).

· A distinct preference for the significant parent of the opposite sex ("if you were a boy").

Character traits (excessive isolation, shyness, leading to difficulties in contacts with the opposite sex). (A.N. Mokhovikov, 2002)

According to another author, the causes of female homosexuality are: fear of men, emotional attachment to mother, identification with a man, masculine absolutization, developmental delay at the stage of narcissism due to an authoritarian mother, experience of incest or violence, seduction by lesbians, and only 10% - biological deviation. (D.Davis, 2001)

Sex guru Osho (Bhagwan Shri Rajneesh) believes that: “The very phenomenon of homosexuality is the result of improper upbringing. Homosexuality will disappear from the world the day we allow men and women to date.” (Osho, 2007)

It can happen to any of us. A feeling, vague, like the memory of yesterday's dream, light, like the touch of a butterfly's wing, almost unconscious, unnamed, fearful and timid. Not quite love, not quite attraction, more than just friendship. Something that would have the right to exist if its object were not a woman.

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Photo gallery: Female homosexuality, love for a woman

A close friend or an image on the silver screen - one way or another, sometimes many of us are attracted to a woman, and we need to admit it before we talk about it. Female homosexuality, love for a woman and sexual attraction has always attracted prying eyes.

I'm crazy - I need her

On the women's forums on the Web, no, no, and you will meet a panicky confession: “I fell in love with a woman, what should I do ?!” And often these are adults, married, with children, quite happy in family life and realized in the profession. “I am 29 years old, I have a five-year-old child and a husband, we have been married for 7 years. And so I became very attached to a woman, a work colleague. I think about her very often, about female homosexuality, love for a woman, I want to communicate with her all the time, I want her affection, love ... "

“I think I fell in love with a woman. We met on the Internet, we talked for a long time on the Internet. We live at a distance of half a planet from each other. Now she has arrived, and we managed to meet in real life. I am deeply impressed by this meeting. And tonight something happened that completely puzzled me: during intimacy with my husband, I suddenly realized that instead of my husband I imagine - her! Or even like this: “The female boss at work constantly showed signs of attention to me, flirted, touched, undressed with her eyes ... Recently I realized that I fell in love with her - and I feel such feelings and such sexual attraction that I had never known before .. ."

The unknown is always scary
And in oneself, it is doubly frightening: in such a familiar, lived-in and comfortable soul, a dark closet with something unlawful was suddenly discovered, how can one not be frightened? Therefore, we often hesitate to call this complex and subtle feeling for a representative of our sex female homosexuality, love for a woman. We decompose it into components, look for friendly warmth in it, admiration for someone else's beauty and strength of character, vague unaddressed tenderness, and finally, just a personal "fool" and a seasonal lack of warmth ... Someone, having checked harmony with algebra, female homosexuality, love for woman, breaks up with a frightening confession "I fell in love with a woman" forever. Someone pushes the feeling to the very bottom of the soul, where it trembles like a fish at each new meeting with the object of a strange passion. And someone decides to go to the end - and this ends with sexual contact, more often single, less often developing into a long-term relationship.

According to various statistics, female homosexuality, love for a woman and sexual intercourse, at least once in their lives, only 1 - 2 percent of men and women had. However, statistics on intimate matters are very unreliable: people are most often simply not inclined to admit that they would prefer to forget due to their upbringing and social attitudes. But the information that can be found suggests that two categories of the fairer sex are more likely to be in bed with a woman.

Firstly, these are young girls, often students. They are driven by curiosity and a thirst for experimentation, and often cramped living conditions (hostels, rented apartments for several people) also contribute to rapprochement, female homosexuality, love for a woman. In addition, for them, this is a way to gain sensory experience when it comes to a connection with a more mature woman: remember how in Dangerous Liaisons, the Marquise de Merteuil “mentors” the young Cecile de Volange, not embarrassed to move from theory to practice.

Secondly, these are mature women - they often become aware of same-sex attraction in their thirties or forties. There is a famous story of actress Cynthia Nixon (Miranda from Sex and the City), who, after a divorce from her husband, started an affair with a woman, Christina Marinoni, and is now very happy. It doesn’t matter whether such a connection took place or remained in the imagination - it is these sudden feelings that excite us the most. Of course, to follow the dictates of the heart and rewrite the book of your life from a blank page is extremely courageous and worthy of respect. But what if you don’t want to reconsider your sexual preferences, destroy your family and start a new life from scratch, which seems seductive, but hopeless? My friend, who had an affair with a girl in her early youth, once admitted that the most depressing thing in such relationships is their futility. And it’s not even about the attitude of our by no means tolerant society towards same-sex unions, rather, about understanding that such a relationship is something other than an affair with a man, and you need to build a new unusual love story in a completely different way. And if you look, female homosexuality, is it love for a woman? Where do these, by no means sisterly feelings for a friend come from?

Happiness is when you are understood

If we think speculatively, we are more likely to fall in love with a woman than with a man. It so happened that almost all the canons of beauty are associated with the female body: it was most readily depicted by artists, poets sang, photographers captured it. Remember the old cinema: in most cases, actresses were required to be stunning beauties, and it was enough for male actors to look a little more beautiful than a monkey. Now this ratio has changed, but if you do not look specifically, then you can find more images of beautiful women on any arbitrary day than chic men. How to resist such an abundance of beauty? And then - you can confuse admiration with female homosexuality, love for a woman.

But it's not just about aesthetic feelings. Women's sexuality is very different from men's, and we invest more in the concept of satisfaction than the number of orgasms per unit of time. Female sexual satisfaction consists of actual physical pleasure and the so-called satisfaction, that is, satisfaction with relationships, receiving a sufficient amount of affection and attention from a partner. A woman can be happy in marriage, even if physically unsatisfied, if she has enough satisfaction. And if there is neither one nor the other, she tries to satisfy the need for attention on the side.

Where are we heading if we don’t get enough attention from a partner, if we don’t have the opportunity to communicate with him, discuss business, cry in a vest? That's right - to a friend. In the absence of a culture of referring to a psychologist, a friend becomes the first and main therapist. And receiving from her much-needed attention and understanding, we relax and decide that we cannot find a more sensitive person in life. Trust - the basis of intimacy - in the relationship of two close friends is developed as never before. The expression of this trust is usually touch, which is already quite a lot in the relationship between us. In women's culture, hugs, kisses, touches are considered more acceptable than in men's - this is how girls are already preparing for the roles of mothers from their youth, who need to be able to maintain tactile contact with the child.

And where there is tactile contact, there is sexual arousal. The human body does not recognize whose touch it is - male or female. Even in a massage parlor, under the hands of a specialist, one can feel excitement, not to mention tenderness for a close friend whom we trust. Awakened waking up sexuality tries to figure out who to direct lust to - and discovers a beautiful and affectionate woman nearby, whose touches, it turns out, excite us. And we strive to connect this pointless, in fact, desire with attraction to a specific person, although in reality this is not entirely true, the body simply relaxed and reacted to the caress.

Basically, love is a feeling., complex and complex, has no gender. You can fall in love not only with a person, but also with a thing, a business, a city or a country... Another question is that not all varieties of this feeling are socially acceptable. The decision to connect our lives with a new person automatically transfers our connection to the level of society, whether we like it or not. Relationships, no matter how secret, are joint plans for the future, constant consideration of the partner’s interests, and the allocation of a considerable amount of time for him ... If you are not ready for this, it doesn’t matter here what kind of relationship we are talking about, with a man with a woman, then, perhaps, the only way out will be to make your feeling a jewel that will be stored in the farthest drawer of your heart. Women in this respect are richer than men: it is easier for us to experience novels only in our imagination, and we distinguish much more shades of feeling. Or maybe this unknown feeling is just a “bell” that you want to change something in your life, to find your true path? Only you need to look for it, of course, not in bed.

In any case, the relationship two women can move to a new level only if one of the friends turns out to be more decisive and liberated - due, for example, to her having the appropriate experience. It should be noted that open lesbians, unlike most men, usually build a courtship ritual exactly according to the “friendly” scheme “trust - bodily contact - sexual connection”, and they feel quite well which woman needs support right now. And they really can be good friends - just not hiding their true intentions.

The sweetness of the forbidden fruit

Touching on such a sensitive topic, one cannot but recall the peculiar attitude of completely heterosexual men and women towards the culture of sexual minorities. It's no secret that some gentlemen are excited by porn films with lesbian scenes, in addition, they sometimes do not consider a partner's betrayal as such if she committed it with a woman. Well, the ladies, in turn, are often interested in gay culture, read relevant magazines, watch movies. There is even a whole layer of online literature under the general name slash - these are texts about homosexual relationships with a considerable number of intimate scenes, with the participation of characters invented by the author or already known. It is written and read in the overwhelming majority of cases by women, again often mature, with families and children. What is the attraction for us of homosexual relations of the opposite sex?

The attraction of lesbian scenes for the stronger sex is about the same kind as their excitement when watching female masturbation. Such scenes are a kind of female sacrament of female homosexuality, love for a woman, to which men are usually not allowed. Spying on them, openly or covertly, a man experiences excitement, which we always associate with something forbidden. A man has practically no chance of being admitted into the scene of love between two women, and nothing turns these hunters and conquerors on like the unattainability of the goal.

But for ladies who love books and films about gays, the motivation is completely different. There are many women who are dissatisfied with themselves, with their bodies. Therefore, love scenes involving attractive women cause them displeasure. The relationship of two handsome men, in which there is love, and romance, and erotic attraction, gives them everything they used to get from reading books and watching movies about love - only without the participation of a potential rival. I will add that when watching gay porn, women often imagine themselves in the place of each of the men, which gives them the opportunity to try on both “passive” and “active” roles – this is not always possible in heterosexual porn.

An interesting conclusion emerges: our tendency to admire the beauty of another woman, to feel tenderness and admiration for her indicates that we are satisfied with ourselves, our appearance and attractiveness to the same extent, we do not need to feel envy and desire to get rid of a rival. Unless, of course, attraction to women is associated with disappointment in men, as is the case with many bisexual women and lesbians. On the whole, a woman who loves herself also feels something like love for others, especially beautiful representatives of her sex, about the same that she gives to life in general. Women's beauty is an integral part of the beauty of the world. So why not relax and just admire it - without any ulterior motive?