What else to do in the new year. Lonely holiday. What to do if there is no one to celebrate the New Year and Christmas with? What to do on holidays alone

16.10.2019

It is generally accepted that the New Year is a family holiday. And you should meet him, if not with your family, then at least in a cheerful company. But what about those who will celebrate the New Year alone? How to entertain yourself?

According to studies, 5% of Russians annually celebrate the New Year alone. There are several reasons for this - some people quarrel or part with their loved ones on the eve of the holiday, others move to a new place of residence, others just haven’t found their loved one yet, and others feel so tired that they don’t want to go anywhere at all and see no one. How to celebrate the New Year in such situations?

If you chose the “society” option, ask yourself another question: “Am I really alone?” It is likely that you can only feel lonely because you had a fight with a young man, and close friends went abroad to celebrate and you did not have time to join them.

Your sadness is understandable. But in the circle of your communication there will always be people who will be glad to see you. It can be parents, friends, neighbors, colleagues, virtual acquaintances, after all. And where society is, there is fun, in which case all of the methods listed below will suit you.

All options are in no way ready-made recipes, but only serve as a starting point for your creativity.

A holiday by its own rules for those who want to be alone

If you are alone on New Year's Eve, it does not mean that you are a loser. Appreciate solitude. Believe me, there are many people who would like to be alone with themselves for at least a few hours. So enjoy the opportunity, do whatever you want! We invite you to listen to some of our ideas:

Definitely, just the way you always wanted! Don't skimp on yourself.
Cook your favorite or unusual dishes, or order a meal at a restaurant. What you can cook for the New Year with your own hands, you can find out.
Stock up and watch them on New Year's Eve. Yes, and do not forget about the children's New Year's fairy tales: "Frost", "New Year's Adventures of Masha and Vitya", "Three Nuts for Cinderella", "The Snow Queen", "Twelve Months", and you will remember the simple truth - good always triumphs over evil.
Make a wish when the clock strikes midnight. Write a letter with the best wishes to yourself, your beloved. Write about what you want to achieve in the new year, what to learn and what impressions to get, wish yourself everything that you really want for a long time, seal it and put it in a secret place, for example, in a box with the rest. And a year later, taking out toys, you will stumble upon a message from the past and check which of your dreams have come true.
Take some goodies with you, a glass of champagne, turn on Skype and chat with friends through the general chat. You can even meet the New Year on Skype, making toasts and raising glasses.
By the way, the New Year is a great opportunity to communicate with those with whom you are little acquainted, or for some reason have ceased to contact. Go to and you will be surprised how many people celebrate the New Year just like you. Perhaps some of them are lonely now and are looking for communication on the Internet. Congratulate each other, find out who celebrates the main holiday of the year and how, talk about dreams and plans. You may want to meet.
Lie down to sleep. Why not? It is not at all necessary to wait for the New Year, stay up late, heroically forcing yourself to watch New Year's programs. If you feel sleepy, lie down and sleep as much as you like.

A holiday for those who need society

So, if you honestly admitted to yourself that you still want to spend the holiday in the company, but were left alone on New Year's Eve, we can recommend the following ideas to you:

One for the New Year: how to meet?

You can get out into the light. If you feel good in the company of strangers, but find yourself alone, go to a restaurant, a nightclub, the main square, or attend another mass event. Naturally, you need to take care of all this in advance - find out about interesting places and their program for New Year's Eve, if necessary - purchase tickets and pick up an outfit. Do not be afraid to communicate with people, on such a holiday they are more good-natured and open. Feel free to ask for help to set fire to sparklers, uncork champagne, take a picture of you against the backdrop of a sparkling Christmas tree, and so on. Have fun, dance, invite to dance - universal joy unites hearts!
Create a topic on the forum: “I celebrate the New Year alone, who will keep the company?” The method is suitable for sociable, proactive, non-boring, easy-going people, because you may have to come up with and implement a holiday plan or agree to the conditions of others.
Arrange a holiday of good deeds. Buy candies, cookies, chocolates, holiday favors and go outside with congratulations. Give New Year's presents to everyone in a row - children, familiar and unfamiliar adults. We think no one will refuse them. By the way, this is a good way to meet your destiny. Spotted a handsome man? Approach him with an open box of chocolates and offer to treat him. Let him just try not to invite you later on a date!
On New Year's Eve, go to a grocery store - for example, one that you often visit - and congratulate all the staff. Give your workers cards and small souvenirs. We guarantee that you will be remembered for a long time.
Prepare, sign postcards in advance and throw them in the mailboxes of your neighbors. You can even give them in person.
If you have a dog, buy her a Santa Claus costume, and dress up as a Snow Maiden yourself and go for a walk in a good mood. The attention of passers-by is guaranteed to you. Grab more sweets, lollipops and small souvenirs - you will probably have to congratulate the audience.
Or dress up the dog as Santa Claus, and the cat as the Snow Maiden and arrange a photo shoot for them. Take care of the decorations and safety!

Holiday with parents

One for the New Year: how to meet?

Let's tell you a story on this topic:

20-year-old Tanya was firmly convinced that celebrating the New Year with her parents was childish. For several years now, she has been celebrating the holiday with her boyfriend and his friends. Despite the fact that her relationship with her partner was in distress, she insisted that she should spend another New Year with him. The holiday did not bring anything good - they once again quarreled.

When the next morning, offended, weeping and hungry, Tanya returned home, she saw her parents sniffing sweetly, a refrigerator full of New Year's dishes and gifts folded for her under the tree ... The girl realized that you need to celebrate the holiday with those who really need you.

If you can't refuse home gatherings, at least diversify the table with treats that you have never tried. Let there not be a single familiar dish and drink on your table. Taste the cuisine of another country, ask your friends for recipes for delicious dishes and make your own cocktails - alcoholic or not.

There is still a lot of time before the New Year, so you will have time to make an unusual menu.

By the way, if you decide to cook traditional dishes of other nations, why not celebrate the holiday in the style of the country whose cuisine you have chosen?

2. Join the traditions of another country

This is another way to celebrate the New Year with relatives and friends, but make it unusual and memorable. Decorate your home in the style of another country. For example, Japanese kadomatsu or Chinese lanterns and pictures with wishes.

Give each other special gifts, such as homemade candles in Sweden, dogwood sticks in Bulgaria, paired items like cups or candles in China.

10. Celebrate the New Year on a plane

As a rule, plane tickets become more expensive on the eve of the holidays, as people tend to celebrate the New Year already on the spot. And on the dates of the holidays themselves, on the contrary, tickets become much cheaper.

If you take tickets for December 31, you will kill two birds with one stone: save on the road and get an unusual experience of celebrating the New Year a few kilometers above the ground.

The more interesting you spend this day, the more chances you have for a New Year's miracle.

And how did you celebrate your brightest and most memorable New Year? Share your experience in the comments.

Alas, we are losing weight - we are losing weight, we are already seeing a positive result, but the New Year holidays are approaching. At this time, temptation is everywhere - from vases of sweets on the table of colleagues - to a giant New Year's dinner. How not to let your diet down the drain and at the same time not ruin the festive celebration?

These tips will help you stay on track and celebrate the New Year without denying yourself anything.

How to make low-calorie New Year's snacks

One of the best ways to keep yourself on track is to make healthy New Year's Eve snacks. To do this, you can make low-calorie New Year's dishes and invite guests to your place. Most likely they will be grateful to you.

What menu to make for the New Year in order to move away from the usual scheme of New Year's Eve, but the next day not to suffer from overeating and stay in a wonderful mood all the holidays.

Meat. If you do not want to give up meat, then, of course, you should not cook lean dishes from it for a couple, but it is better to choose the golden mean and stew the meat, bake it in foil or in a baking sleeve. It turns out a great alternative to fried meat. In such dishes, all the juices lost during frying are preserved, and the taste will become even better. You can cook boiled jellied meat, which is ceremonial, and also very tasty.

Delicacies. New Year's table is not complete without caviar. Caviar is a useful product, but it does not combine well with fatty and smoked foods.

Fruits. But there should be a lot of fruits on the New Year's table.

What to do if you are on a diet and you are invited to visit. There are many high-calorie, but very mouth-watering dishes on the table, and you want to try each of them.

How to avoid overeating? Here is such an original advice: take a large plate and put a little of everything on it. That way you eat a lot less.

Attention! It is undesirable to mix fish and meat dishes.

Try to avoid fatty foods: sausage, cakes.

Participate in all competitions and do not sit all night at the table.

If competitions are not expected, become the master of ceremonies yourself and announce some kind of mobile competition. Fun and dancing will keep you from overeating.

And after the holiday, you must definitely arrange a fasting day to cleanse the body.

“That New Year's Eve, my friend and I decided to arrange our personal lives. I was planning an affair with Andrei, and she had long wanted to meet his handsome friend. On December 31, I sent my parents to relatives, my friend and I dressed up, did our hair and cut a mountain of salads. Then everything was like in the famous quote “It’s almost midnight, but Herman is still gone.” Our princes did not come even after 12 and did not even deign to call. The New Year was hopelessly ruined.”

Where?
In a club, in a cafe, in a restaurant after midnight.
What to do?
After 12 almost all establishments have free admission. You no longer need a table, but there is always a place on the dance floor.
Dress code:
white or pink tutu skirt.
What to bring?
Good mood, sparklers and a golden crown to raise self-esteem.
fallback:
if the club gets bored, call your friends and invite a noisy company to your house.
Do not even think …
mourn a failed party in an embrace with a friend and a phone.

For those who are uncomfortable

“On New Year's Eve, all my girlfriends from the hostel went home, and on January 2 I had to retake the OBJ test. I didn’t want to hang around on New Year’s Eve alone, and I began to sort through all my friends. I accidentally remembered Julia. So I ended up at the Siamese Twins party. There were exactly eight guests, not counting me. They all sat, stood and lay exclusively in pairs. After the second bottle of champagne, the plexus of hands turned into a plexus of lips. And I was forced to escape from these doves with short dashes from room to room.

Where?
On a holiday in an unfamiliar company.
What to do?
Show organizational skills. Perhaps the guests simply lack a skilled entertainer.
Dress code:
choose things in casual style - in a revealing outfit you will feel awkward.
What to bring?
Games that everyone can play together, such as Dixit. Candles and firecrackers will also come in handy (to quietly sneak up on a sweet couple and shoot just above the ear: you need to somehow remind them of your existence).
fallback:
get the whole company outside, set off fireworks and go sledding.
Do not even think …
write tearful sms to the former, closing in the bathroom.

Who did not arrive

“We planned to celebrate the New Year at a friend’s dacha. We left the city late in the evening: six people in one car with a trunk full of food, champagne and fireworks. They were going to celebrate in a big way. About 30 kilometers before the village, the car stalled. There was not a soul on the road, a forest to the right and left, and half an hour later it was midnight. In anticipation of help, they decided to celebrate the New Year in the forest. There were enough Christmas trees around, it’s a pity, there was nothing to decorate them with. I had to make a fire to somehow warm up, and dance to the songs of Rihanna, which were found on someone's phone. Under the spruce, our saviors found us. However, it happened the very next year.

Where?
In the forest, in a traffic jam, in a field, on the side of the road.
What to do?
Looking for a tree! Everyone should meet the New Year in nature at least once. The main thing is to dress warmly and at least prepare a little. Impromptu at -15 is not always successful.
Dress code:
ugg boots, down jacket, earflap hat and elasticated mittens.
What to bring?
Mulled wine in a thermos, more food, matches to make a fire, "rain" and a couple of toys for the Christmas tree.
fallback:
arrange all the same, but closer to the dacha, so that there is somewhere to warm up after the New Year's round dance.
Do not even think

…walk through the forest without knowing the exact path.

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For those who are still uncomfortable

“The evening promised to be languid - me, a friend and two sexual friends. We looked appropriate to the situation: I was wearing a burgundy dress with a slit from the thigh, black lace stockings with a wide elastic band. A surprise awaited us on the threshold - for some reason the parents of the host of the party stayed at home, and even invited friends to their place - my boss and his wife. The boss, who until that evening saw me only in the form of a “gray office mouse”, was completely delighted and clicked the shutter of the camera like a real paparazzi. I shamefacedly covered my thigh and covered my neckline with a scarf.

Where?
At a party where you unexpectedly meet colleagues or boss.
What to do?
Turn on karaoke! A couple of hits performed by the chef and recorded by you on video will make you friends forever and ever.
Dress code:
little black dress.
What to bring?
Bag of predictions.
fallback:
just after 12 to disappear somewhere under a plausible pretext and continue the celebration in a more relaxed atmosphere.
Do not even think …
all evening talking about work or asking for a raise.

For those who are waiting

“My husband has only one drawback - his work. Especially night shifts, which sometimes fall on holidays, for example, on New Year's Eve. This time I had to stay at home. Beloved said that he would be offended if I danced in a noisy company of friends while he was bored at work. I had to miss the two of us at a distance.

Where?
At home at the computer, if the boyfriend is working.
What to do?
Turn on Skype! Collect holiday food for your loved one, hand over a usb Chinese tree, and put a note in your jacket pocket with wishes for both of you for the coming year. And after midnight, give him a New Year's "light" online and light it so that in the morning he rushes home from work at a gallop.
Dress code:
sexy lingerie and a translucent dress.
What to bring?
Strawberries, cream, champagne and a couple of erotic soundtracks.
Fallback:
accept the invitation of relatives and spend the family New Year.
Do not even think …
go to work with your loved one, hiding in the trunk.

For those who are mother

“We were waiting for our Aliska on January 15th. But she clearly disagreed with the doctors' forecast. On the evening of the 31st, I was already setting the table, my husband was cooking his signature chicken in the oven, and my daughter was not sitting in her stomach. In general, twenty minutes later, without waiting for the chiming clock, we were already rushing to the hospital in an ambulance. And at 23:23 Alice was born. We celebrated the New Year already in the status of young parents. The husband and other newly-made dads staged a real cannonade under the windows of the maternity hospital.

Where?
In the maternity home.
What to do?
Breathe deeper! On New Year's Eve, doctors are no less attentive and responsible than on other days and nights.
Dress code:
comfortable dress or skirt.
What to bring?
A pre-assembled bag with everything you need.
fallback:
There is no fallback option, but you can run around a bit and shout “AAAA!”. Well, to have fun for everyone, not just you.
Do not even think …
panic. You will meet the next New Year as an experienced mother!

For those who cut their hair

“Every year on the 31st I go to the hairdresser. At least that was the case until last year, when I suffered at the hands of my beloved master. I don’t know what happened to her that day, whether the pre-holiday jitters or the New Year’s rehearsal was too stormy, but my geometric bangs didn’t work out. Something torn and slanted, slicked on its side, made me run out of the hairdresser in tears. The idea to save the New Year's party came suddenly - we will arrange a carnival night!

Where?
At home with a bad haircut.
What to do?
Try on the neon wig now! Don't forget to look for funny wigs for the rest of the guests too - the image of Cher, Elvis Presley and afro curls will be in great demand.
Dress code:
sequin dress, silver leggings, platform boots.
What to bring?
Shiny hats, crackers and firecrackers.
fallback:
celebrate the New Year with a very short haircut.
Do not even think …
cancel the party and sob in front of the mirror.

For those who are all alone

“My boyfriend and I had a fight the day before the New Year. Plans for a joint holiday were covered with a copper basin. I did not want to go to friends and relatives, so as not to overshadow someone else's fun with my mood. In the end, I decided to stay at home and celebrate the New Year in proud and beautiful solitude.

Where?
At home.
What to do?
Enjoy it! December 31 is just an ordinary day, and its significance is sometimes greatly exaggerated.
Dress code:
bear pajamas.
What to bring?
A collection of favorite films and a kilo of tangerines.
fallback:
throw a pajama party for your friends.
Do not even think …
to drown a bad mood in liters of bad champagne.

For those who are ex

“In the company where my friends invited me, there were four of my exes at once. Two were with the girls, and one caught moments to be alone with me and promise that we would still have everything. The situation was further complicated by the fact that they were unaware of their ‘common’ past.”

Where?
At a party where your ex-boyfriend happened to be.
What to do?
Smile! The more calm and natural you behave, the more likely you are to avoid scandals, intrigues and investigations.
Dress code:
the dress you feel most confident in.
H then take it with you?
Carnival mask.
fallback:
strike all the former on the spot, turning the head of a new victim.
Do not even think …
arrange an evening of public confessions and revelations.

For those who are lost

“My friends and I celebrated the New Year in Berlin, booked a hotel, bought tickets and set off on an adventure. On New Year's Eve at the Brandenburg Gate, I stared at the fireworks, and when I looked back, my friends were gone. It turned out that my Russian SIM card did not work, and I remember the name of the hotel approximately. My new friend Nils saved me - like from a fairy tale about geese! - offered his company and help in finding missing friends.

Where?
On the street in an unfamiliar city.
What to do?
Ask for help - on holidays people are responsive; don't go into the crowd. The rule for those who celebrate the New Year on the street is to come last, leave first.
Dress code:
comfortable shoes.
What to bring?
A working phone, a piece of paper with the address of the hotel and cash.
fallback:
arrange a meeting point in advance if someone from the company gets lost.
Do not even think …
cry, looking enviously at the merry strangers.

For those who are on their own holiday

“A couple of years ago, my best friend and I celebrated the New Year in the costumes of Santa Claus and the Snow Maiden. There was no money for the holiday, but I wanted to arrange something like that. There were a lot of announcements about the recruitment of applicants, we fit perfectly in external parameters, and the diploma of a pedagogical university became a decisive factor. The employer only warned me to keep an eye on Grandfather, because hospitable hosts can get him drunk. The holiday was a success. After 11 we went to the square and handed out the candies we earned to everyone.

Where?
At a children's party in the costume of the Snow Maiden.
What to do?
Grab your scythe! Happiness is contagious: the more children and adults smile at you on New Year's Eve, the more successful the coming year will be for you.
Dress code:
Christmas costumes.
What to bring?
Good mood and a shiny staff.
fallback:
rent costumes and amuse your friends with your performance.
Do not even think …
flirt with Santa Claus in front of an astonished juvenile audience.

For those on the train

“Last New Year, my boyfriend and I met on the train. Both worked on December 31, and their parents had already been promised to come for the weekend. The result was one of the best holidays in our life together. Exactly at midnight, we drove past some fields and steppes, it was possible to determine the onset of the New Year only by the clock, but for us it was no longer so important.

Where?
On the train.
What to do?
Buy the whole coupe! Two unknown fellow travelers are unlikely to add to your fun, and by dividing the compartment for two, you can do whatever you want.
Dress code:
comfortable dress made of fabric that does not wrinkle.
What to bring?
A laptop loaded with Irony of Fate, champagne and red caviar sandwiches.
Fallback:
celebrate the holiday in the subway with a big company.
Do not even think…
get out of the car at the stations to shoot firecrackers: there is a risk of falling behind the train.

For those who are tired

“On December 31, my boyfriend and I were like two squeezed lemons. Both were tired, they just wanted to fall and fall asleep until the next year. Deadlines and reports left no room for celebration. We didn’t want to go anywhere, so we just spent the evening at home and never regretted it.”

Where?
At home with boyfriend.
What to do?
Stay in bed! Erotic massage to help you. New Year together with your loved one is a luxurious gift for each other.
Dress code:
favorite spirits.
What to bring?
Silk linen, scented candles, massage oil, champagne.
fallback:
book a hotel room in advance.
Do not even think …
despite being tired, cook complex dishes and bake a multi-tiered cake.

For those on the ad

“It so happened that we had absolutely no one to celebrate the New Year with. Friends have gone in all directions, only my friend and I are left. We didn’t want to spend a tete-a-tete holiday, so we posted an ad on social networks that two blondes were looking for a company for New Year’s Eve at the city ice rink. About thirty people responded, less than half of them came, but the evening was still a success.

Where?
At the rink with random acquaintances.
What to do?
Lace up your skates and practice your sheepskin coats. Maybe not triple.
Dress code:
warm leggings and comfortable woolen dresses.
What to bring?
Thermos with tea or mulled wine, crackers, serpentine, Santa hats.
fallback:
go to the skating rink alone without any announcements - in any case, there will be a company.
Do not even think …
demonstrate a triple sheepskin coat if you are only mentally ready for this.

The celebration of the New Year usually looks like this: we meet in the circle of loved ones, sum up the results of the outgoing year, make bright plans, have fun noisily, rejoice and believe in a miracle.

And where to go for those who fall out of this scenario and are not happy about the upcoming holidays? The psychologist helped us figure out why the New Year may not be a joy and what to do about it.

Celebrate with no one

"Who are you going to celebrate the New Year with?" - a painful question for single girls. No one wants to feel like Chandler in that episode of Friends where he's desperately trying to find someone to kiss him for good luck as the clock counts down the last seconds of the old year. On New Year's Eve it seems that all the girlfriends are "in pairs" and only I am alone, like that same pine tree in the wild north. And then there are all these holiday films, where each Boyarskaya on New Year's Day falls on Khabensky.

The psychologist suggests switching and thinking: there is no one to celebrate with, but where. At home, in the center near the city tree, in a restaurant, in a country club, visiting friends. This will help you realize your own possibilities and freedom of choice. And then ask yourself the question: "What's wrong with celebrating the New Year alone?" Try to name at least two serious consequences for your health and peace of mind. Is there any fundamental difference between being alone on New Year's Day and being alone on Bastille Day?

Many are accustomed to believing that loneliness is the absence of a beloved man. No, loneliness is, as they say in one optimistic joke, is when there is no one to take your body from the morgue. As long as you are surrounded by family and friends, loneliness will not reach you.

Nothing to celebrate

On the Internet you can find a lot of tips from the series "How to make a million salads and Napoleon cake out of nothing." You can make gifts with your own hands, play New Year's performances for children yourself, decorate the Christmas tree with homemade garlands. All these exciting activities do not solve the main problem: if financial difficulties are overcome on New Year's Eve, it is not easy to get rid of the thought that you are a loser. Others at this age become directors of large corporations and run their own successful startups.

You need to start by comparing yourself not with the heroes from social networks and from the pages of Forbes, but with real people around, then the feeling of your own value will noticeably change.

To cheer yourself up, use the New Year for its intended purpose - make plans.

Ask yourself a global question: how can I earn more? How can I advance my career?

List the tasks from complex to simple, and take the very first step right now, without waiting for the New Year. It could be an updated resume or your own social media profile that represents you as a professional.

Celebrate no strength

Buy gifts, do a general cleaning, sign up for a manicure, submit reports, congratulate all clients on the holiday, learn from the boss the good news that on the third day you will have to go to the office for half a day - this is what December looks like for many. By the end of the month, the fighting fuse fades completely, and you still need to find the strength to chop a bucket of lettuce and portray fun on this most important night of the year. But in fact, I want to crawl headlong under the covers and not get out of there until spring.

Remember Cinderella. Not in the sense that you need to run barefoot up the stairs, but in the sense that you need to learn how to delegate authority. Otherwise, she would not have been able to sort through seven bags of beans, weed the beds, whiten the kitchens, and what else? So you won’t be able to hold out until midnight if you don’t tell your relatives: do you want to see me and the Napoleon cake on New Year’s? Help me do this and that and that!

Nothing to celebrate

We are used to the fact that the New Year is a time to take stock. And then it turns out that the year did not go at all as you planned - there was no promotion at work, the beloved man has not yet made an offer, the renovation in the apartment has not been completed, English has not been able to be brought up to the upper-intermediate level. It turns out that the main failure of the year overshadows all other pleasant events.

To get out of this trap of unfulfilled expectations, shift your focus to achievements and pleasant surprises. You can, for example, draw up a “calendar of events” and write down by months what good, good, or even wonderful things have happened to you this year. And it can also be useful not to be afraid of your longing, but, on the contrary, to allow yourself to feel sad, grieve over those things that did not happen or did not happen as expected.

If you do not try to disguise sadness with false optimism, but experience this feeling to the fullest, until it lets go, you can say goodbye to this sadness and approach the New Year as a much calmer person.

There is no need to celebrate

And this is already like in that joke: “Take away your defective Christmas decorations!” - "What's wrong with them?" - “They don’t make me happy ...” When there is no obvious reason for longing, but you still can’t enjoy the holiday, try to forget about yourself for a while. Think of someone else and give them a holiday. Sign up for a group of volunteers who deliver gifts to nursing homes, transfer money to a fund to help orphans, call a shelter for homeless animals and ask how a person who has a car and a few free hours a week can help.

Why go far - take your mother to the theater, arrange a grand celebration for your niece with the Snow Maiden with a hunt for gifts. Other people's joy is contagious. You won’t have time to look back, as the magic of the holiday will cover you with your head, because now you yourself are a bit of a sorceress.

Source: Lady mail ru

Psychologist Margarita Kuznetsova