Statuses about parents - we speak to our relatives about our feelings

Parents... So much love in one word. How much gratitude and devotion. For each person, these are the closest people who simply do not have enough words to express their feelings. The article offers statuses about parents - options for how you can beautifully say about your love.

Funny statuses about fathers and children

• it's easier to be when a great grandmother is around."
• "My parents think I'm sitting on their necks. And I just don't want to leave."
• "In the first grade, they ask if I've learned my lessons. In the eighth grade, if I've packed my bag. In the eleventh, if I'm going to school at all."
• "Most effective method quit smoking - tell your parents about it."
• "Only one person can tell on parents. And this is a grandmother."
• "Now parents, trying to talk with a child about where children come from, learn a lot of new things themselves."
• "Mom is not as ugly as in a first grader's sketchbook."
• "Nothing brings you back to life after a holiday with friends like a call from your mom."

Statuses about parents are also an option for beautiful wording that can be used in letters and other messages. After all, the most important things need to be said without waiting for a special occasion.

Ecology of knowledge. Psychology: why do parents expect their children to return some debt? Based on what? Why do parents have so many worries about this and children have feelings of guilt? Where has the error and injustice crept in? Who owes what and to whom? And should it?

This is true for many, I am asked about this all the time. What is there - I myself have long searched inside myself for the answer to this question. Or even questions:

• Why do parents often expect their children to repay some debt?
• Do children owe their parents something?
• And if so, what? How much and how to give?
• And if not, then what to do? Ignore these requests?

First of all, I would like to say about how we ourselves do not become like that (after all, you can’t change your parents and their position, and there’s no need to). Let's try to figure this out.

Why is this happening, why do parents expect their children to repay some debt? Based on what? Why do parents have so many worries about this and children have feelings of guilt? Where has the error and injustice crept in? Who owes what and to whom? And should it?

When someone owes something to someone, it means that the relationship is out of balance. That is, only one of them gave something, and only one took something.

Over time, debt accumulated, and the first person inside has a feeling that he was deceived and used - everything was taken away and nothing was given back. I will not consider the situation when the first gave the second many years disinterestedly. There is practically no selflessness in this world. Even in parent-child relationships.

Parents in their care of children keep in mind at least a glass of water, which the child still has to bring. They are waiting for care in weakness, and financial assistance, and that they will continue to obey, and that children will live the way their parents want, and reasons for pride and boasting, and attention. And a lot to look forward to. Even if they don't explicitly say so. But on what basis?

Parents really invest a lot in their children - time, nerves, money, health, strength. During years. They often have to push their desires into the background - for the sake of the child. Do what you don’t want to do - again for the sake of it. Give up something, sacrifice something - at least your own own sleep for several years. Who said being a parent is easy and simple?

Years pass, and suddenly - or not suddenly - the child hears transparent hints or direct instructions of what exactly and how he owes his parents. But how legitimate and justified is this? Does he really owe something? And where does this feeling of injustice come from?

Parents are worried because their parenthood seemed to them to be a huge unrequited victim. A one-way process that does not give any bonuses and joys. They suffered for twenty years and now they are waiting for this whole disgrace to be rewarded somehow. They gave a lot and got nothing. Nothing at all. There must be justice! But is it?

No. This world is always fair in everything. Children really give a lot to their parents. More precisely, even God gives us so many things through children! Can't even describe in words. Their hugs, declarations of love, funny words, first steps, dances and songs ... Even just the sight of a little sleeping angel - the Lord created them so sweet! For the first five years of life, so much happiness comes from a child that it attracts adults like a magnet. Further, there are also many different bonuses, albeit in a slightly lower concentration. That is, through children, God also gives parents a lot, moreover, such that you cannot buy for money and you will not find it on the road. And everything is honest, everything is compensated - parents work, the Lord rewards them. Immediately, at the same point. You did not sleep at night - and in the morning you will have a smile, cooing and new skills.

But in order to receive all these bonuses, you need to be with the children nearby. And to have the strength and desire to enjoy it - which is also important. To see all these gifts, to be grateful for them.

It is in their childhood, while they are small, and from them all this happiness radiates just like that, every minute. The way they smell, laugh, swear, get offended, love, make friends, learn the world - all this cannot but rejoice loving heart parents. Happiness in our heart is the reward for our labors.

Then why do parents feel that someone owes them something? Because they were not near the children, and someone else received all these bonuses and joys - a grandmother, a nanny or a teacher in kindergarten(although the latter probably did not use it either). Parents had no time to breathe on the tops of their children and hug them in the middle of the night. We need to work, to be realized. You need to run somewhere, the children will not run away, just think, baby! You won’t talk to him, you won’t discuss the day, he doesn’t seem to understand anything, he doesn’t care who pumps and feeds him. Relationships with babies often do not fit into our understanding of relationships - what is there, just wash-feed-lay. There is no time for us to admire the sleeping children, the fatigue is so strong that you can only fall somewhere in another room. There is no time to study grasshoppers and flowers with him. There is no strength to draw, sculpt, sing together. All forces remain in the office.

But even if the mother does not work, most likely, she is also not up to these strange “bonuses” and trifles. This is some kind of nonsense, a waste of precious time (as well as on herself), but she needs to clean the house, cook food, take the child to the circle, go to the store. She can’t lie next to him and chat in his incomprehensible language, this is stupid. There is no strength and absolutely no time to just look into his eyes and exhale all the tension. And if we go on business, then we must go quickly, and not stop at every pebble. Although physically her mother is nearby, all these bonuses quickly fly past her. And often at idle mom there are even more complaints about children - she even sacrificed her self-realization for them, without working, so that the potential score will be even higher.

So sometimes you want to stop some mother running somewhere with a stone face! Stop, mom, the biggest miracle is near! And it can't wait!

It grows every minute and gives you so many miracles and happiness, and you skip it all by, not paying attention! As if sculpting a very important sand castle, you do not notice grains of gold in the sand.

I also often stop myself when I suddenly have more important things to do than read a book, play Lego with them, or just lie down next to a sleeping miracle. And where did I go? And why? Maybe it's better to let happiness enter my heart right now and melt it?

As a result of all this, we get such a situation that people worked for many years, worked hard enough (how can this be easy?), And their honestly earned wages were given out in another place, to some other people. Because they were exactly where they needed to be. For example, while mom and dad are working hard to pay off the mortgage on their huge house and pay for the services of the nanny, this nanny is happy, she enjoys life in this house with these children (I am such happy and filled nannies, go crazy with children and communication with them, I saw a lot when we lived in a village near St. Petersburg). Or it may be that no one received all these joys - no one needed them, and after many years the child himself already believed that there was nothing interesting and good in him.

At the same time, a person who worked hard and for a long time after twenty years still wants a salary - immediately for all these years! And he demands - from those for whom he suffered. And who else? But they don't. So there remains dissatisfaction, a feeling of deceit and betrayal ...

But whose problem is it if we ourselves do not come for our parents' "salary" every single day? Who is to blame that we forget that everything in the world will pass, and children will be small only once? Who is responsible for the fact that careers and accomplishments are more important for us than children's tops and conversations with them? Who pays for our decision when we are ready to give our children to kindergartens, nurseries, nannies, grandmothers for the sake of some achievements, losing contact with them and losing everything that the Lord so generously gives us through the kids?

It is useless to wait for the repayment of debt from adult children. They won't be able to give you what you want, because they have already given you so much, even though you haven't taken it all.

Children return the debt not to their parents, they give the same to their children, and this is the wisdom of life. And drinking juice from adult children means thereby depriving your own grandchildren, no matter how sad it may be.

"I'm sorry Mom, I can't help you right now. What I owe you, I will give to my children. I am ready to give you gratitude, respect, necessary care in case it is required. And that's it. There is nothing more I can do to help. Even if I really want to."

This is the only thing that an adult child can answer to his parents demanding the repayment of a debt. Of course, he can try to throw all his strength into it, all his life, giving up his future, investing not in his children, but in his parents. But none of the parties will be satisfied with this.

We don't owe anything to our parents directly. We owe all this to our children. That is our duty. Become parents and pass it all on. Give all the power of the family forward, leaving nothing behind. Similarly, our children do not owe us anything. They don't even have to live the way we want and be happy the way we see it.

Our only payment for everything is respect and gratitude. For everything that was done for us, how it was done, to what extent. Respect, no matter how parents behave, no matter what feelings they evoke in us. Respect for those through whom our souls came into this world, who cared for us in the days of our greatest helplessness and vulnerability, who loved us as best they could and as best they could - with all their mental strength(Just not everyone has a lot of strength).

Of course, we are responsible for last years our parents' lives when they can no longer take care of themselves. It's not even a duty, it's just human. To do everything possible to help parents recover, to ease their life and days of illness. If we cannot sit next to a sick parent, hire a good nurse, find a good hospital where proper care will be provided, as far as possible - visit, pay attention. It would also be good to help them "leave this body properly." That is to help them prepare for this transition by reading books. Talking about it with spiritual people. But this is not a debt. This goes without saying, if we have retained something human in ourselves.

The children don't owe us anything else. And we don't owe our parents. Only respect and gratitude - directly. And the transfer of the most valuable further. To give our children as much as we ourselves received. And it is better to give even more, especially love, acceptance and tenderness.

Therefore, in order not to stand with an outstretched hand near their house in old age, demanding payments, learn to enjoy today what is so generously given to you from above.

Hug them, play with them, laugh together, sniff their tops, chat about anything, take your time, lie in bed, sing, dance, discover this world together - there are many different opportunities to experience happiness together with children!

And then the difficulties do not seem so difficult. And the work of the mother is so ungrateful and burdensome. Just think of a sleepless night, you hug the little delicious-smelling body of an angel, he will lay his plump hand on you - and life is immediately easier. At least a little. Or not even a bit. published

I thank my Family and parents for giving me life, for dedicating their time, health and strength to me. I thank my parents for their care, affection, attention, upbringing, worldview, patience and forgiveness. I thank my Rod for giving me a place and the opportunity to incarnate in it. I thank my ancestors for the fact that I have a life and programs for this life. For my life I have everything and that's enough. Everything else I create with God's help. The Supreme Family, I ask You to cancel all programs of poverty and poverty, both accumulated in my family and created by me personally, both now and in past lives. I pray now for the transformation of such programs into the energy of abundance and wealth for the prosperity of my family. Rod Almighty, I ask You, by Your Strength and grace, to neutralize all the negative experiences of mine, my ancestors and people close to me in life. Please neutralize their consequences with your Strength and Light. Through my thoughts and righteous deeds, I fill my kind with the energy of love and creation with the Power of the Gods of my Relatives. The Supreme Family, I ask You to remove from the women of my Family the programs of destruction of love, narrowness, struggle for power, destruction masculine. I ask you to remove the programs from the men of the Kin, aimed at the destruction of love and feminine. I fill my life and the life of all men and women of my Family with love and harmony. Rod Almighty, I pray that my actions and the actions of my descendants will restore harmonious relationship between men and women of my kind, which will serve the good of the human race. Kin Almighty, I pray that all representatives of my Kin possess good health, allowed themselves to be rich, successful, sociable, cheerful people, and in all spheres of life they followed Your Will. I ask You by Your Power, Your Great Love and Goodness, to cancel everything negative programs, which are transmitted as a repetition of fate through their parents and ancestors. I pray to You that my integrity and my Family be restored, so that everyone takes their rightful place. I pray that all people on Earth live righteously and consciously. Let the energies that are released be directed to the purification of my karma, the karma of my Family and the purification of the karma of the Human Family, so that the consciousness expands and Goodness comes to the whole world around and the Earthly Family. May it be so! And so it is!

A convenient thing, it’s a pity in my time they haven’t come up with such yet - a clutch in order to carry a stroller. And it's easy to make your own:

It was bought: jacket fabric (raincoat fabric), synthetic winterizer 400, artificial fur.
All 30 cm.
Diagram dimensions: 62cm width and 30cm height. Arch on the handle for the stroller 8x6 cm.
First, I made a pattern from raincoat fabric, and I already put it on fur and synthetic winterizer and immediately cut it out with scissors
A few words about the synthetic winterizer, or rather its thickness, which is measured in numbers. 400 - from about Matchbox. You can take 200, only, respectively, 2 lengths and add. But 100 will not work - too thin and will not warm much.
Now add up front sides inside fur and raincoat fabric; put on a padding polyester, a newspaper from below (for sewing convenience) and stitch
On top of me, the fur stretched a little and I boldly put it in folds
After we asked, we remove the newspaper, we get such a blank. They need 2 pieces.
Then we sew the blanks, folding the raincoat fabric face to face together with a layer of padding polyester (the photo shows that I didn’t even remove the internal threads, I just tied the knots). We turn everything out, we get this detail:
The inner seam was sewn by hand. Then I outlined the location of the buttons (I stitched through, like sewing on a button) and put the buttons. It turned out such a clutch
Peculiarities:
on the original sleeve, which I saw, there is an elastic band along the arch, but I just measured approximately the depth and it suited me. Some of the aspen advises to lay folds, but everything is fine with me. The wind is not blowing.
I have side buttons fur to fur, but here I saw the option “fur on raincoat fabric” for girls, like a cuff by the sleeve - I think it’s more convenient option. Only then, when cutting, it is necessary to lay a small margin in the width of the coupling.
The width of the coupling of 62 cm for me consists of the width of the stroller handle (46 cm) plus 6 cm for the arches. A handle with a button in the center (retractable), but the depth of the coupling 30cm is enough.
and the most important thing:
Choose correct buttons!!! I did not take into account that with synthetic winterizer and fur, the thickness of the product is large and a couple of buttons are unbuttoned, I had to reinforce it with pins.
If you put in the studio, they know what you need for such a thickness.

Let me tell you right now that these are not my thoughts. While reading the book, I came across this reflection on the topic of parents and children. And something hooked me ... My attitude towards this text I will not voice, but I will read the opinions with interest.
So, the text itself. Please do not read diagonally, and before expressing an opinion, it makes sense to think ...

"... By having children, you doom yourself to eternal responsibility before them. "Honor your father and mother, for they brought you into the world"; nonsense.
- If they did not give birth to you, - explained ..., - you would not get better or worse. You wouldn't exist. You simply would not gain life, you would not lose it. In this sense, an unfamiliar fellow traveler who saved you from the attack of robbers deserves much more gratitude: he did not let you lose the life you had already received. lose what you already appreciated.
your birth there is only indulgence in your parents' wishes to procreate, and to feel obligated for such a thing is stupid.
- Cynic.
- Realist. They brought you into a world of filth, malice, disease, war and death, in the end, simply because they wanted to; and all this would not have happened if you had not appeared in their existence. And if that's the case, it's their duty to at least a little smooth over what they did to you. The argument "we fed you" is in fact the minimum, which is their sacred duty.
Gratitude is only worthy of what is beyond this: they simply have to protect you from all the dirty tricks that accompany their existence.
- And teach me to protect myself from everything hostile.
- Of course, I didn’t argue ..., - however, when your son of ten years old pulls the stallion’s tail and gets a hoof in the forehead - he himself is to blame - you told him that this should not be done. but if he is kidnapped in order to bargain something from you, you are to blame. No one would touch him if he weren't your son.
- This is the fault of the criminals.
- Undoubtedly. First of all. And you - in the second ...

P.S. Opinions based on faith, religion, the Bible are of no interest. Sorry.

Poll completed.

Parents owe their children.

14 (26%)

Children owe their parents.

7 (13%)

Depends on the situation.

4 (8%)

Both.

28 (53%)

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