Negative and positive affirmations. Creation of your own reality. Open Your Heart Meditation
An internal dialogue is constantly taking place in our minds. We talk to ourselves about what is happening in this moment, what happened in the past, and what may happen in the future. Internal dialogue affects our mood, perception and attitude in general.
But if the internal dialogue is negative, it can lead to undesirable consequences because our thoughts and feelings influence our actions. First of all, define the nature of your conversations with yourself. Then you can start building positive self-talk that will improve your life.
Let's say you find yourself in a traffic jam on your way to work. Is your first reaction to this anger? Something like, “Are you all crazy? Have you bought the rights? Look, what a fine fellow - he writes SMS while driving! ... Hey, you almost killed us all! Why does this happen all the time when I'm late? How it makes me angry! I'll be late again ... Hey, friend, do you, in general, know what a turn signal is?! ... "- and so on, until the blood begins to boil in my veins.
Negativity can feed itself. And with this mood you then go to work! You can be sure that others will pick up on your anger and irritation. This will affect the quality of your work and your productivity, because energetically and emotionally you are still in traffic and not at work ...
Here are some examples of how to replace negative thoughts to positive ones, with comments and correction options:
- “Perhaps I will not miss the event. I know I won't be having fun there. "
How can you know? After all, this event has not yet happened! Replace the phrase with “This is going to be fun,” and your mindset will change dramatically. - When you are praised for a job you have done, you say, "Oh, no big deal."
If you are praised, obviously your work is appreciated. So why don't you appreciate it yourself ?! Better just say, "Thank you!" - "I can never lose those last 5 kg!"
When you focus on something, you materialize and attract it into your life. Change this negative statement to "My weight is ideal." And focus on what you want to attract into your life, not what you don’t want. - "This is unfair!"
Life doesn't always fit your ideal idea of what it should be. Relax and accept it as it is. Change what you can change and accept what you cannot change. - "The main thing is victory"
All-or-nothing thinking prevents you from enjoying the moment and living your life to the fullest. - "He annoys me!"
No. He does something that you prefer to react to with anger. No one can tell you how to feel or how to react! - "I am very angry!"
No. You are a person with negative emotions. You are not your senses. And you are not an evil person. - "I can't stand it if she leaves me!"
Breaking up is hard, but you can get over it. What's more, breaking up can be good for you. Don't exaggerate the scale of the tragedy. Better imagine the ups and downs that could follow this temporary drop. - "I am unable to study well"
Such generalizations are unhealthy. By making such statements, you are essentially limiting yourself! See your real and perceived shortcomings as opportunities for growth: "I am gaining skills in the field of ..." - “Oh my God, the soup was too salty! The whole lunch is ruined! "
Seriously? What about the rest of the dishes? Was the whole dinner a culinary disaster, or was it just a soup problem? - “I cannot have normal relationship because I was abused as a child "
You exaggerate the significance of the past. It was a long time ago. Yes, it affected you, but you are no longer in this situation, and healing the trauma of the past is a matter of your choice. - "The fact that my children are not doing well at school is completely my fault."
No, it’s not like that. But what about their responsibility for their actions? As a parent, you must guide, discipline, and help your children acquire necessary skills, but the main responsibility for their academic success and any other activity lies with themselves. - "Nobody will ever love me"
Never? Another false generalization directed against oneself! - "I'm so stupid!"
Are you really stupid? Is always? Are you absolutely stupid in all walks of life? Of course not! Do not forget about your strengths! You might say, “It was unwise of me. Next time I will act differently! " Learn from mistakes! - "I wish I was as beautiful as ..."
There is nothing wrong with admiring and adopting other people. positive traits but you are you. By comparing yourself to others in a negative context, you are belittling your true worth. After all, you are a unique, valuable and interesting person in your own way.
In some of these examples, you might recognize yourself. The problem is that such statements sound plausible and convincing, but in fact they only reflect the way in which you preferred to react to a given situation.
Be conscious and pay attention to negativity in your internal dialogue. Every time you notice a negative statement, question it. Where is the evidence that this is exactly the case? Is this always true? Remember: your words have incredible strength!
Eliminate these words from your vocabulary:
- Always: it never happens. Everything flows, everything changes!
- Never: it never happens! (see above)
- I can't: maybe not now, but if you want something, you will find a way to achieve it.
- I will not: the same principle is true for these words as for “I cannot”.
- But: an argument with which you can severely limit yourself!
- Try: Just do it! “Do or don’t. Don't try "(Master Yoda, Star Wars).
- Should: don't adjust to the expectations of other people or give negative connotations to what is actually good for you (instead of “I should lose weight,” say “I want to lose weight.” When you “want”, it gives more motivation than when you "must").
Use the Silva reprogramming exercises to change the negative "logic" inherent in your self-talk into new ways of thinking that empower you. Write down negative statements that you are accustomed to using in speech, indicating the corresponding alternative statements. Replace negative statements with positive ones until the latter become a habit.
When you change the nature of your internal dialogue, you will change your life!
To a large extent, awareness of our personality is not built on positive statements about who we are. By saying “I like sports” or “I believe Jesus is Lord,” we define who we are through positive affirmations. We are athletes or fans and Christians.
We have seen how God shows who He is and who He is not. Just as He outlines His personal boundaries with negative statements, so do we. By saying, "I hate injustice," I am declaring what I do not accept, and this is a very important statement. If I say, "I do not like science," I am making a statement as important as if I had said, "I love philosophy."
Many people are not in touch with the experience of their "not-self". The boy, who did not have any talent for medicine, did not very firmly state this to his parents - that the gift of Aesculapius was not part of his "I". He had to scream "I hate medicine" until someone heard him. But negative statements show up in different forms... Poor academic performance and complete failure in practice are the forms in which this boy's negative statements were manifested. Negative statements are reality. Just as we must accept responsibility for what lies within our personal boundaries, we must admit to ourselves what lies outside our boundaries.
A great example of a negative statement is found in the story Jesus told about two sons who worked for their father:
"One man had two sons; and he, going up to the first, said: Son! Go, work in my vineyard today. But he answered:" I do not want to "; and afterwards, repenting, he went. And he went up to another, he said the same. This one answered: "I am coming, sir," and did not go. Which of the two did the will of his father? They say to Him: First. Jesus saith to them: Truly I say to you that the tax collectors and harlots are going ahead of you into the Kingdom of God "(Matt. 21: 28-31).
The second son did not know who he really was. He didn’t want to work in the vineyard, but he couldn’t say, "I will not go." Thus, he had no contact with himself. The first, because he was able to say "no", was in contact with himself, and that was enough to later say "yes". People of this type know how to say "no", and then their "yes" means a lot. We have to be in touch with our no and control it, otherwise it will control us later. The second son did not own his no, and it took possession of him. "No" always manifests itself in some form or manner of behavior. In this case, "no" manifested itself in deliberate delay.
Some negative statements might be: “No, I don’t like performing in front of a large audience,” “No, I don’t like it when you tease me in front of other people,” “No, I won’t work for that pay,” “No, I do not allow swearing in my house "," No, I do not like cocaine "," No, I do not want you to touch me "," No, I do not agree with your opinion "," No, I do not like this movie, restaurant "etc.
By being in contact with our “not-self” experience, we can truly separate ourselves from the world around us. If we cannot say who we are not, we have no hope of sanctification because we cannot hate evil and separate ourselves from it. People with fuzzy boundaries cannot reject what does not apply to them. If we cannot say what “not-me” is at the level of our body, feelings, attitudes, actions, thoughts, abilities, decisions, desires and boundaries, we will not be able to protect the soul from harmful influence... We will accept that which does not belong to our self; these may be good things, but they are not truly ours, and bad things that should not belong to anyone at all. In any case, it is not-me.
For Sandy, the “not-me” statement would be: “Mom, I love you, but I don’t want to spend Thanksgiving at home. I want to spend it with my friends.” If her mother was angry, Sandy might argue, "I'm sorry you're mad at me, but you'll have to come to terms with it. You will have to change your plans for Thanksgiving because I'm not coming."
It may sound harsh, but straightforward statements are necessary for people who like to control others without admitting responsibility for their own disappointments. In fact, this statement would help Sandy more than her mother. This would help her understand who is responsible for what. If her mother is so controlling that she blames her daughter for her grief, she still won't hear the truth.
It is extremely important to be able to make negative statements. We must be able to say what not-self is in order to find our self. What we like won't matter until we know what we don't like. Our yes doesn't matter if we never say no. The profession I have chosen will not bring pleasure if I think that “anyone can do it”. Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there is nothing to oppose them.
The question is often asked: why is it necessary to focus on the negative and not on the positive in therapy?
Many people who believe in the law of attraction (in fact simple level it can be explained as follows: what you focus on is exacerbated), worry that repeating a "negative" reminder phrase will only exacerbate the problem. But the fact is that negative thoughts, experiences, attitudes and symptoms exist, whether you consciously refer to them or not, they still affect you. Denying their existence will not make them disappear. But if you take the time to accept them, bring them into the light and convince yourself that they are not dangerous, you can get rid of them once and for all.
When weeds appear in your garden, there is no point in repeating, "I have no weeds, no weeds, no weeds." There's no point in pretending they're not there. It doesn't matter how much you concentrate on the beautiful plants that grow in your garden. The weeds aren't going anywhere until you pick them up.
Take the time to pull out the weeds to keep your garden filled with only beautiful, healthy plants. This is what happens to your psyche. When you get rid of the weeds of the past, you become healthy, full of life human.
Other important thing that you need to know about is that it does not erase memory, does not erase emotions. We are working on them. This is very important detail... After elaboration, we are still learning from our experience. But if we just bury our past experience, we try to erase it without elaboration, it hardens and remains where it is.
Often, when we work through anger, it gradually turns into sadness. Then we work through the sadness, and a sense of loss arises. We work with this feeling, and in the end it can turn into gratitude for the experience and the lesson. When the anger goes away, more positive feelings emerge.
This is not a one-minute miracle, work!
It's amazing how quickly real, long-lasting results are obtained. It can take months and years of conventional therapy to get them.
The so-called one minute miracle happens when you least expect it. But this is not the norm. We all have deep emotional types behaviors that are very hard to break, and our brains resist change. Therefore, it often takes constant work to get radical changes.
For especially deep emotions - these are the deepest roots of yours - your work on the method can take an unexpected turn. If what you are trying to free yourself from, usually emotions, becomes stronger during therapy, rest assured that you are the right way... When you start to open up your emotions, a large number of repressed experiences comes to the surface. Don't give up: this is how your body tells you how much emotional energy has been collected around a specific problem. If you continue to work in the method, you will be free from it. The results you can achieve in these cases in minutes, hours or weeks can truly change your life.
Can you do this!
I know the method looks a little confusing and strange at first. But if you learn the points and understand the process, you can get quick results.
Show yourself enough love and take 15 minutes to try it right now. When you feel the result - perhaps a slight improvement or a real change - you will find the method worth learning and introducing into your life.
And just imagine ... If this tool is really what others are saying about it, if you can feel the results that a lot of other people have experienced, what could your life be like?
How does it feel to get rid of the physical pain you are feeling?
How does it feel to let go of old wounds, trauma and sad stories?
What can you create, what to achieve, what to influence if you eventually free yourself from limiting attitudes - the baggage that pulls you back?
It all starts from the first steps -
The outside world is a reflection of our inner peace... Every single thought, every action we do, every feeling determines who we become. And any desire that we keep in mind sooner or later finds expression in new opportunities that open up.
From all this it follows that with the help of daily affirmations, you can program your brain, body and spirit for success.
Affirmation is the expression of your thoughts and desires using words and repeating them several times a day.
1. I am great
Believing that you are great is one of the strongest inner convictions. Now you may not think of yourself as a great person, but the constant repetition of this affirmation will one day make you believe it. Science has long proven that talking to oneself leads to inevitable changes in the brain.
A prime example of how this affirmation works is the legendary boxer. Check out the tapes of his interview and you will notice how often he used this phrase. Ultimately he became great.
2. Today I am overwhelmed with energy and a positive attitude.
Positiveness arises inside a person, but is not created external factors and circumstances. And our mood is formed at the very moment when we wake up. Therefore, repeat this affirmation immediately upon awakening.
And remember: no one and nothing can ruin your mood until you do it yourself.
3. I love myself the way I am
It is believed that self-love is the purest and higher form love. If a person does not like who he is, then this negatively affects all areas of his life. And this fact pulls a person down.
If you see that these lines are about you, and you cannot come to terms with some of your shortcomings, constantly blame yourself, then my advice to you is: repeat this affirmation as often as possible.
4. I have a healthy body, brilliant mind, calm spirit
A healthy body starts with a healthy mind and mind. If cats scratch their souls, then this negativity will adversely affect both the mind and the body. That is, if one of these three elements is damaged, the entire mechanism will no longer work properly.
Reason number one, which determines whether a person is healthy or sick, is the person himself. If you have convinced yourself that you are healthy in body, soul, mind, then it will be so. And if you believe that you are susceptible to illness, then it will definitely hook you.
5. I believe I can do anything
This is exactly what you need to put into your head (and your children, grandchildren and loved ones) in any way. This is what a person should believe in, so that later he will not be ashamed of his mediocre years.
6. Everything that happens in my life is only for the better
The danger is not the circumstances themselves or the negative moments that take place in our life, but our attitude towards them.
Man is not given to know what the Universe has in store for him in the future. Perhaps what seems awful today (like layoffs at work) is preparation for something better.
We cannot look into the future, but we can control our attitude to the present. And this affirmation will help you.
7. I build my life myself
You are able to conquer any heights, if only you plan your actions and success in advance. And yes, it is a planned action and rarely an accident.
Every new day gives us new opportunity... And you can fill it with exactly what has the most for you great importance... After all, you yourself build your life, and life is not happening to you, is it?
Start your day positively thinking that you are in complete control of every aspect of your life, and you will soon see amazing things happening to you.
8. I forgive those who have hurt me in the past and peacefully distance myself from them.
That doesn't mean you forgot what they did, but it doesn't bother you anymore. Lesson learned and conclusions drawn.
Your ability to forgive is what allows you to move forward rather than dwelling on past grievances. And your reaction to certain circumstances does not depend on the opinions of the people around you.
You are so strong that you are able to forgive a thousand people, even if none of them forgive you.
Repeat this affirmation whenever you hit.
9. I am happy to meet challenges, and my potential to cope with them is limitless.
You do not have any restrictions, only those that live within you.
What kind of life do you want? What's stopping you? What barriers have you built in front of yourself?
This affirmation will allow you to push your boundaries.
10. Today I give up my old habits and embrace new ones.
Each of our individual thoughts, each of our actions determines who we become and what our life will be like. And our thoughts and actions shape ours. We are what we do all the time.
As soon as we change our habits, it will entail changes in all areas of life. And this affirmation, which is recommended at the beginning of the day, is intended to remind you that today is the time to change everything.
Hundreds of books are devoted to the question of self-development. Thousands of articles have been created to help a person improve themselves. But the number of critical beliefs in life is not so great. Here is a list of issues that are important for understanding by every conscious person.
Life is not a walk with fun. Not everything in life goes according to plan. What we have conceived often does not coincide with reality at all, which is often the cause of depression, self-doubt, depression. It is worth understanding that failure and unpredictable events are an integral part of life. Accept given fact and look for opportunities to learn from failure.
Justification is evil. Fill your life with excuses, and you will plunge into the abyss of suffering. Do not make excuses for your own stupidity or your own flaws. Work on them and don't let the situation repeat itself, then you don't have to make excuses again.
Doing more than reflecting. Planning - useful activity... But constant planning without action is the road to nowhere. Don't waste time planning and rescheduling. If you are planning to do it, proceed to implementation. If you don't start to act right away, then doubts, fears and worries will get stronger and swallow you and your ability to act.
An assertive person will always reach the finish line. It is not for nothing that they say that success is a movement from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm. Keep moving towards your goal, even if not everything works out right away. Every success has a price, and if you are willing to pay the required price, then you will have it.
Change or fail. Persistence is only appropriate if you draw conclusions from previous failed attempts. After all, if you do the same thing many times in the same way, then you can hardly expect a different result. Life sometimes confronts us with solving the same problem until we learn to find The right way solutions. Sometimes it is worthwhile to first understand the problem, then the solution will become clear.
Cast out fear. Anyone who is afraid to fall out of the rut and try their hand at something else succumbs to fear. Fear is not acceptable in a life of truly successful and happy person... But every fear is overcome, it is enough just to look fear in the eye. Afraid of heights - jump with a parachute. If you are afraid to ride a bike, borrow a bike from your neighbor and go down the hill. Afraid of dogs - get yourself a home St. Bernard.
Positivity is the mood of the favorites. People with positive attitude looking for opportunities in every business, and surprisingly, they find them. Positive person does not regret the past, he enjoys what he has. He is not afraid of challenges, he is afraid that he will not try to do what he really wants. Do not live in the past, do not regret what you missed, be positive and infect others with positive.