Ingrid bauer life without a diaper audiobook. Growing interest in natural life

21.04.2019

Ingrid Bauer. Life without diapers. To this opus, very enthusiastic because of the first experiences of the first motherhood, I want to add "Total". I mean, now my son is four years old, and it's time to sum up my efforts to transfer yesterday's baby, which began at the age of 2.5 months.

Not to face such an adult man to walk under him!

Benefits of life without diapers

I have to admit that a couple of Ingrid Bauer's positive prophecies have come true.

Mutual understanding has been reached. Viktoralekseich, long before the year, began to groan meaningfully and look into my eyes, thereby demonstrating a growing desire to visit the restroom. There were fewer and fewer "misfires" in the form of puddles on the floor, and I can count on my fingers all the days when big children's surprises happened in my pants. He comes up and asks insistently and demandingly: they say, carry it, mother, there is no strength to endure! Viktoralekseich’s requests to take him to the toilet are so obvious to me that it sometimes becomes surprising why others don’t understand “what is he whining about”. But the daughter-in-law surrounding our child cannot be passed on in 20 years, so God would be with them. But, as Ingrid promised, mutual understanding with her son is more than enough. More than that, I clearly, to the minute intuitively even without Viktoralekseich’s signals (children can “play too hard and forget to ask”), that right now we need to lead. Sometimes it seems to me that ours, forgive the high style, bladders somehow communicate - so I I touch son's need for the toilet. Perhaps, however, many mothers feel the same way, and Ingrid Bauer with "her" planting has nothing to do with it. I can’t say this just because 95% of my moms I know completely prefer to solve baby hygiene issues with diapers. And God forbid me to condemn them for it. I just want to “check watches” with someone, and for some reason there are very few like-minded people in this matter. In summary, the sense of the necessity of timed planting develops to animality. BUT! Mom, like a child, can “play too much” - get carried away with household chores, chatting with a neighbor, or urgently writing a blog post that has matured in her head. And then misfires in a small way still happen, sinful. Without lyrics, every day I wash now from 0 to 2 "spoiled" children's panties per day.
“I don’t know, posons, I generally like it without panties!”
Timely refusal of diapers. Three weeks ago, we finally gave up diapers. At all. Let me remind you that I used them at night because of sleeping under the air conditioner and the fear of catching a wet baby in a few minutes. Complete elimination of cellulose helpers modern mom evoked fear in me: is it really necessary to get up many times at night to land. Is the child going to sleep wet, and all that. In fact, everything turned out to be just utterly impossible. I put a cloth-based diaper under the ass and, already sleeping, I equip the good old flannel diaper 27 * 27. I would never have thought that it would come in handy, but from the time of infancy, one accidentally lay around, surviving even from Thailand. Before going to bed, we certainly visit the toilet, and incidents happen extremely rarely - once every 3-4 nights. Even if they happen, I take off the diaper, remove the oilcloth from under the child, and until the morning the round-bottomed little one snores peacefully - dry and contented. It turns out that at the age of four, kids already go to the toilet at night, like healthy adults - no more than once, and then not every night. If I manage to hear Viktoralekseich's pre-toilet grumbling, I get up and carry him out. But at night we are not very good at this: a man is against going to the toilet, give him a breast immediately after waking up. And he protests loudly, and because of the peculiarities of our temporary in Sihanoukville, I am forced to protect the sleep of overly sensitive neighbors ...
"Madame! I promise without embarrassment, they taught me ... "

By the way, along with the rejection of diapers, I took another serious step - after a break of a year, Viktoralekseich sleeps separately from us. To do this, I had to improvise a little, because separate sleep on the GW can become tiring for. And we managed to avoid super efforts ... But there are a couple of neutral consequences for me personally natural hygiene newborns, but most will surely consider them flaws in the Ingrid Bauer system or my personal blunders. To which they have every right. But I don’t feel sorry - interpret my experience to the best of your worldview, and without objectivity and honesty, this entire blog would not be worth a hundred. Torn…

What Ingrid Bauer and I were silent about

In summary, now I am grateful to myself a year ago and unforgettable for having decided to try. The life of a mother is now becoming easier even without diapers, pampers, on her conscience - calmly in front of her son, and in family budget- minus $ 15 for a month, about the cost of a pack of Pampers in Sihanoukville.

As before, I do not consider the disembarkation of babies a panacea, as before, I do not impose our lifestyle in matters of parenthood. But still, I wish every mother to experience the satisfaction that I feel from time to time in connection with the many months of natural hygiene of our baby. I worked hard right after birth, when I had much more strength than now, and now it’s very useful important question with the "toilets" is resolved thoroughly and, in my opinion, favorably. You can download Ingrid Bauer's book "Life Without Diapers" in PDF for free.

With the wishes of every mother and child the most at ease and natural parenting and childhood, sincerely yours, mother Marta.

Ingrid Bauer

Life without a diaper!

The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Hygiene for Babies

Dedications and thanks

To everyone who went with me all the way of discoveries, who gave me sparks of inspiration, I want to say a huge “thank you”! In particular, my heart wants to thank:

To all the mothers and fathers, grandparents who so generously shared their stories and photos with me. Thank you very much! There are so many of you, so I can't list all the names and surnames, but each of you helped me in one way or another to write this book about the natural hygiene of babies.

Everyone I quoted, especially Dr. Martin de Vries, Dr. Paul Fischer, Dr. Laura Nandil and Penny Genty.

My parents, Siegfried and Selinda Bauer. You always support me with your love and the warmth of your soul, no matter how unusual my lifestyle may seem to you.

My children. Noah, for his help, sense of humor and technical support in the computer field. Thank you for turning off your music while I was writing the book: you gave me focus. Thanks also to Aidan, for all our joint and fun discoveries. And thanks to my smallest daughter - for a new surge of inspiration.

My husband Jean - Claude Katri. You are the other half of my soul and the father of my children. You are like a rock that I can always lean on. Thank you for your patience, for understanding and for helping me raise my children, freeing up my time to write a book. You were affectionate, strong and friendly - simply because it is you. In my opinion, your presence is felt on every page of this book. It was you who helped me make my dream come true.

Cynthia Bennet, for her story that started my journey of research. Thank you for giving me a spark of inspiration.

Noel Scott, for strong arguments for my guesses. And her children, Bette and Olivia, for supporting our many hours of phone marathons.

Teresa Pitman, for sharing with me her profound experiences as a writer and mother, and for constructively discussing some of the chapters.

Leslie Sherman, for her professional, friendly collaboration, quick response and editing.

Sherry McDonald, for her great pictures of me and my baby on the beach.

To my designer, Jean Pierre of Perrier Design, for his professional typography, beautiful cover art, photo captions, and numerous edits at my request.

I am happy that all of you are in my life.

Introduction: The Gift of Gentle Wisdom

I was sitting in my backyard with my new girlfriend enjoying the sunset and the gentle warm air. The August sun dipped behind the trees. My friend and I met last week and immediately felt mutual sympathy. She agreed to come and visit me without hesitation. As we chatted, I admired the clear beauty of her pregnancy. Her rounded shapes definitely showed the expectation of the child; future mom beamed with a serene smile. We talked about the miracle of birth, about the creation of a new life.

As we chatted, my six-month-old son fidgeted in my arms. I stopped in the middle of a sentence. Intuition hinted to me that the baby wants my full attention.

I'm sorry, I'm just a minute - I said to my friend. - My son wants to pee.

I wanted to go into the house, but changed my mind and went to the nearby bushes. I took off the baby's pants, lifted him up and said "ps-ps". At the same moment the child peed. I put on his pants and returned to continue the conversation.

How did you guess? - she exclaimed. - But how is he ... That's funny!

Yes, it's funny, I agreed. - At the same time, it's as easy as feeding a baby when he's hungry.

I didn't even know it was possible, - said a friend, moving her chair closer. - Tell me more.

So, let's start our conversation about the most deep connection- connections between mother and child and about the Natural Hygiene of the Little ones.

Funny... but usually

People are surprised when they find out that my son stopped using diapers and nappies at 4 months old. It probably seems to them that now he pees and poops at any time in any place, and I wipe after him. It is hard for people to believe that he was aware of his need to "go away" from the very beginning and that we could understand each other on this issue before the child said his first word. Even those who saw with their own eyes how the newborn and I understood each other's signals only exclaimed, “This cannot be!” - and shrugged.

However, it is possible. I can confirm this. Around the world, people in many cultures have never used diapers or diapers. Instead, they relied on the natural rapport between mother and baby—the rapport that makes it possible to raise a child well-groomed and happy, and to keep the house clean. However, few of our contemporaries realize that in our time the same thing can be done - significantly reduce the number of diapers used, or even completely abandon them.

Looking for a natural alternative to diapers, I found that newborns are aware of their need to pee or poop from birth! It's amazing, but they are able to signal to their mother - and they actually ask for their needs - and also respond to the responses of their parents. Listening to your baby's pleas for help peeing or pooping is as natural as breastfeeding him when he's hungry. It also strengthens the bond between mother and baby.

Growing interest in natural life

I wrote this book in response to requests from many, many people who asked me to speak in detail about my experiences. They needed information and support to learn what I call "The Natural Hygiene Method for Little Ones."

Recently I read this book, I found a lot of useful things in it for myself and my child, I was surprised to find that I came to much of what Ingrid writes about more than six months ago. In general, if someone is interested, then under the cut you can read the summary I compiled for the book "Life without a diaper".

P.S. Ingrid Bauer lives in Canada with her husband and three children; writes articles about children, parents and natural lifestyles, and speaks at conferences. Her work has appeared in magazines in Canada, the US, Europe and Australia.

What is Natural Toddler Hygiene?

The Toddler Natural Hygiene Method is a gentle and sensitive way to drop off babies. It is very practical, environmentally friendly and economical. The Natural Hygiene Method can be applied from birth, from the very first days. The method is based on the fact that every newborn child is aware of his need to "do the job". All children understand their needs from birth, give “signals” to adults and are able to control the corresponding muscles if they feel a response from an adult.

Everything happens simply. When the mother sees that the child needs to “do the job”, she takes off his pants and drops him in a comfortable position in a suitable place for this. Instead of potty training a child, adults listen to their child's body language. This makes you more sensitive and responsive, creates a strong inseparable bond adults and baby. Many parents notice that their intuition has increased. To understand your child, to go towards its rhythms is an interesting and tender occupation.

With natural planting, babies do not need diapers. This - ancient practice that has come down to us through the ages. The Natural Hygiene of the Tiny Ones is just part of a natural parenting approach that also includes carrying up to six months, co-sleeping, quick and sensitive response to screaming or crying, and also breastfeeding.

What is the best age to start?

Ideal - in the first days or weeks after birth. In countries with an "outdated" culture, mothers begin to plant babies between birth and three months, in different cultures differently. I advise “modern” parents to start as early as possible. Best to start before the baby is 5 or 6 months old, because then the child will lose control of his secretions due to diapers or diapers.

It is possible to start successfully with older children, but it will take more time, effort and attention. A more subtle approach is needed here.

At what age is it too late to start the natural hygiene method?

There is no definite answer to this question. It depends on the various factors: from the age of the baby, the employment of the mother, from the mutual understanding between the child and the parents. It is also important whether the baby is in the "manual period" (always in the arms of the mother) or is already crawling or walking. Think about how quickly you can change your baby if necessary. Success also depends on whether the child has previously had the experience of “freedom without a diaper”.

Practice suggests that after five or six months it becomes more difficult to start - although everything is possible with a certain perseverance. I still suggest starting early, as early as possible. It is best to start right after birth. With older toddlers, it is important to start softly and progress gradually.

What "signals" does the child give when he wants to go to the toilet?

At all small newborn"signals" are:

wriggling, bending of the body,
facial expressions,
gaze of "inner concentration",
pause or freeze in the middle of activity
or, conversely, an unexpected burst of activity,
persistent gaze directed at an adult,
awakening from sleep.

An older child will “signal” as follows: he will approach (creep) to his mother, lead her to the place of the “toilet”, wriggle in his arms, try to get out of the sling or “kangaroo”, get off the bed. Will insistently draw attention to itself, make a “hinting sound”, hold on to the genital area, or sit on your hands in the usual position for the toilet. If the child is naked, you can see the movement of the corresponding muscles “below”.

In some children, the signals are more pronounced, in others they are less noticeable. The signals also change as the child grows. However, careful observation of the baby will tell you how to recognize the right moment.

Situations in which it is convenient to gradually start planting:

— since morning;

- after daytime sleep;

- immediately after feeding or during feeding;

- after a walk

- in the evening;

- just before bedtime;

- when mom is calm;

- when you feel special closeness to your baby;

- when you can lean on the help of another adult.

There are several ways to negotiate with a baby who is not talking yet:

1) Observation of patterns of behavior of the child at the moment when he pees, poops or just asks.

2) "Baby signals or body language".

3) Intuition.

4) "suggestive sound".

You are wrong if:

You think you understand your child, but you are trying to get him to pee, because. you think it's time.
You are upset or annoyed if the child does not want to “walk”.
Do not take into account the signals of the baby, saying unambiguously: "Not now."

In all of the above cases, you do NOT understand your child.

Relax and try a softer approach. intuitive strong connection with a child (as with an adult) never arises by force. Under the influence of rudeness, it only collapses. Everything goes much better when a person relaxes in his inner center and lets go of the desire to control anything.

When is it reasonable to use diapers?

- At first, when you are just studying;

- at night, if the baby does not like to land in the middle of the night;

- during stress and illness of the baby;

- in a situation where you do not have the opportunity to drop off the child for a long time;

- if you are seriously tired.

Ways to increase intuition and strengthen internal connection:

Visualize, feel the connection between you and the baby. Remember that this connection exists, it was originally given to all people by nature. You have it. We do not notice it only because we do not try to realize it.
Create yourself visual image(it helps a lot). Mentally imagine between you a strong invisible thread, a bright ray of light or a gentle cloud that envelops your entire family.
Strengthen your inner connection with other techniques natural care for the child, in addition to disembarkation. It is breastfeeding on demand, gentle carrying, co-sleeping in the family bed, and sensitive response to all the needs of the child. Each of these facets fills your life with a special beauty and enhances your inner intimacy with a newborn.
Feel the whole moment when you experience a sincere and lasting spiritual intimacy with a child. Memorize it in every detail and try to repeat it over and over again. Ideally, this should become your constant feeling.
Feel your child "here and now." Understand that the child and you are unique, and that your family has its own unique value.
Do not be distracted by all sorts of little things that are so rich modern life. You are now responsible for the child; don't waste your time on unnecessary things. People around you need to understand.
Contemplate the stars and flowers, try to relax completely. Try meditation, yoga, or special gymnastics like tai chi. Even 5 minutes will help you relax and enter your inner balance.
Spend a lot of time in nature, contemplate the beautiful together with your baby. Show your child the sun, stars and moon. Invite dad for company, as well as a brother or sister.
Well develop intuition music and drawing. draw your dear little one. Hug your child and dance with him to your favorite music. Sing for an appreciative listener.
Try to stop from time to time, stop any activity and close your eyes. WITH eyes closed just try feel what's going on around.
Sometimes you seem to hear different voices judging you inside yourself. This is not yours inner voice, in no case. This is not intuition. These are cruel memories that you have accumulated from a long time ago. Ignore them and let them fade into nothingness.
Be aware of everything that happens around you without trying to "always be right." Look at the world and don't try to control it or define everything.
Be in the present moment. Be where your hands are.
Treat yourself gently, with kindness, respect, and love.
If you find yourself overly obsessed with "he's out of a diaper!" worry, laugh at yourself with gentle humor.
Very important: trust yourself, your instincts and your child. Make it a habit.
Remember that it will take a long time to remember and rediscover what generations have forgotten.

About parent-child contact:

- as soon as we begin to show empathy for children, we begin to treat ourselves more carefully;

- all children are social by nature;

- when we listen to what our heart says, we are on the right path;

- the gift of being good parent is embedded in each of us;

- if the matter is urgent, it must be solved immediately, if not urgent - then a little later (the needs of the child always come first);

- intuition is not fear, it is something opposite to fear - it is deep wisdom;

- (about skin-to-skin contact) imagine that you are holding the hand of a person close to you, dear to you - someone you truly love. Imagine that you are touching each other with your palms - and now imagine that you are both wearing gloves. That's the difference.

On life without diapers:

- Thousands of people are raising children without diapers, it's just that this fact is not covered on TV;

- in the Digo tribe there were kids who were not yet fully trained at the age of 5 months: these are 2 little twin girls and one child with a stomachache (all the rest successfully landed);

- teaching a child at the age of 18 months is even more inconvenient, because the necessary natural reflexes are firmly forgotten;

- we expect from the child that by the age of 2 he already knows how to run fast, talk, know the basics of social etiquette. It is strange that we believe that such a child is not able to control a pair of sphincter muscles;

- as a rule, in different cultures, the average time to start planting is from two weeks to three months;

- American "star" Jane Fonda tells a funny story. Once she traveled in Vietnam with a child who was 2 years old; her son was still in diapers. In Vietnam, a local doctor drew attention to the child. It seemed strange to the female doctor that at that age the boy was still wearing a diaper. She resolutely took off the disposable and dropped the baby off, using a whistling “hint sound”—the same one usually used with newborns. The child "went down", and for two weeks the woman regularly planted him. According to Jane Fonda, they succeeded "9 times out of 10". After that, Jane returned home with her son, and they never resorted to diapers again;

- one American ethnographer once joked that this book would become a bestseller, but only in the USA and some European countries. In other countries of the world, he assured, mothers will not find anything new in it;

- a wise teacher once told the author: “Obstacles are what we see when we look away from the goal.

In case of temporary failures:

- If the baby missed - it's no more scary than if you yourself accidentally broke the plate. Anger, shame, anger are absolutely inappropriate here - you create an atmosphere of your future trust for life;

- remember: the child does not resist YOU PERSONALLY. He (a) only shows that something is going wrong. They use this situation to explain something to you. The child does not have many ways to do something, but he can express his feelings by NOT doing something;

- typical reasons for regression: stress, illness, life changes, the beginning of a new stage in development, excessive excitement of the mother;

Keep a light, cordial atmosphere. Try to drop the child in a different position, give something interesting to the pen;

- sometimes it is easier to bring the potty to the child than to carry the child to the potty.

Basic fundamental law of the method of natural hygiene — “First of all, a sensitive response to the needs of the child is important.”

When you are just beginning to learn the Natural Baby Hygiene Method, it is hard for you to imagine that it will ever end. But then came that beautiful day. Your baby has become completely independent! And now he (she) goes to the toilet or potty by himself. You do not need to follow his signals, offer your help, make a “hinting sound”, clean, hold or whistle ... Yes, now you don’t even know when this happens! And for some reason you feel sad. And, perhaps, you will look with nostalgia at the sweet old times, when you and your child were on the same wavelength and so tenderly held him in your arms ... You will remember your mistakes, I assure you, only with humor. Learning to understand your child, you have become unusually close to each other. Now you may think: how to maintain this close and tender trust? How not to destroy soul connection? Now for you there is nothing more precious than this love, affection and understanding.

The basic principles remain unchanged.

Respond quickly to your child's requests
Learn to live together, collectively, and achieve goals together.
Appreciate the beauty of the moment, "here and now." Don't get distracted by the little things.
Keep intimacy, warmth and trust.
Gentle touches work wonders.
Appreciate friendship, relationship. Be sensitive and responsible.
Be above the little things. Don't get stuck if you fail.
Trust your children and yourself.
Strive for mutual respect mutual understanding and communication.
Keep in touch with the rhythms of nature.
Trust in your intuition. Try to look for answers in yourself, do not rush to the "experts".
No product can replace the warmth of a mother's soul.
Respect human body. Understand it and love it. Achieve self-understanding.
Trust your child's abilities. Believe in its possibilities.
Live sustainable quiet life. Do not try to buy everything, leave time for the main thing.
And keep the courage to do what you intuitively think is right, even if logic says otherwise.

Books referenced

Jean Ledloff "How to Raise a Happy Child"

Mary Ann Kerwin "The Art of Breastfeeding"

Ashley Montague "Touch: The Meaning of Skin-to-Skin Contact"

Vries "Potty training: an ancient tradition approach"

Meredith Small "Us and Our Children"

John Morris "Life with the Lepcha Tribe"

Ludington and Goland "The Kangaroo Method"

Gavin de Becker "The Gift of Unconscious Signals"

Joseph Garcia "Speak with Signs to a Child"

Paul Spinrad "Studying excretory functions body"