I'm an ugly guy and girls don't like me. Why girls don't like me

19.04.2019

Are you interested in this question - why don't girls like me? We can console you, you are not the only one. Many young people ask: "Why don't girls like me?" Very often, thinking like this, young people are very much mistaken. Girls tend to wait for attention to themselves, and how to express their feelings to a guy, they know even worse than young people. So, often both guys and girls are in the same position - in standby mode. And few people know how to attract attention or arouse.

One young man, sharing his feelings, said that he absolutely does not know how to behave with girls, because he does not know what they think, feel what they like and what not. Therefore, when talking with them, he becomes confused and constrained. Perhaps you also have such feelings. Do not be discouraged, you are not alone.

And the fact that you ask questions shows that you are a thinking person.

Young people are easy to understand. Indeed, the interests, experience, feelings, perception of the world, the social circle of girls can be very different from those of men. But that's good! We are just different, which is why we can complement each other wonderfully. Complement - not oppose each other! Remember this. Now read and remember what girls may not like about members of the opposite sex.

What girls don't like about boys (men)

Here we come to the first point about what girls (or women) may not like about men (or boys). This the first point - offensive generalizations about women. Flawed people constantly humiliate and insult others with bad language. Therefore, pay attention to how you speak about women (especially in their presence). Are there sayings like “a chicken is not a bird - a woman is not a person” or something about “you are all like that…” Do you hear unflattering reviews about yourself, girls are unlikely to be delighted with such communication, rather they will try to stay away from the sources of these statements ... Here we smoothly move on to the second point.

Point two - harsh speech ... Me and most of the fair sex are terribly cut off the ear by harsh statements using a rude mat and spitting (both physical and verbal). For every rude woman, they are "women" or "heifers" or something else, and they are all somehow bad. Narrow vocabulary- an indicator of intellectual narrowness, laziness and limitation. Rudeness is an indicator of bad manners and cruelty. In general, your speech says a lot about you and your content.

It is not for nothing to say that "women love with their ears." And this is so. The inability to express one's thoughts in an interesting and beautiful way quickly makes a person gray and boring. And a wide vocabulary, on the contrary. I am involuntarily drawn to communicate with people who know how to support, beautifully expressing their thoughts, knowing poems, aphorisms, biographies famous people and able to draw interesting conclusions. I would talk to such people for hours on end.

Point three - direct harassment. Here, I think, there is no need to explain much. Pay attention to how you behave, especially if it seems to you that you are irresistible, but for some reason you do not have success with girls. Perhaps, from the first meeting, you begin to behave as if you have a complete property right... There is this type of annoying men who, with their persona, try to outshine everyone and everything: they speak more (practically without stopping) and louder than anyone, are in the mood to argue, constantly giggle (they just giggle, because it is impossible to call it laughter), become impudent, thinking that everyone should be crazy about him and his suggestions.

The other type of clingy guy is not so cocky, but creepy and boring and clingy. You are already hinting to them politely and so and so, and you speak directly, but they interpret everything in their own way and again find reasons to accompany them somewhere ... They are from the category of hanging themselves, swallowing pills, cutting their veins, standing under the windows for days and at night writing tearful poetry and letters. In general, typical.

These victims will draw an image for themselves (like Pygmalion), fall in love with him, and themselves and others. Because of him, the girl must think from the very morning which road to choose so that he does not look for him around the corner. Or, what gait to move and where to look, so as not to give a reason for again cling, if you had to cross somewhere by chance.

Point four - unkempt. Note that this does not include natural beauty, but the way you look after yourself. A man does not have to be handsome in face and body. Although girls pay attention to this, but not in the first place. Therefore, the question: how to please a girl if you are ugly is not so important. Pay more attention to the questions: how to please a girl in general, how to please on the first date, what to do in order to (in principle) be liked, and what should not be done so as not to push her away. In general, in the article we cover these issues.

So, point four — appearance(personal care). To make everything very clear to you, I will just describe two guys, and you will turn on your imagination.

First : shiny hair, beautiful haircut, dressed stylishly and tastefully in clean clothes, a wide smile, an even posture, tripping, nice smell.

Second : oily, sticky hair; jeans stretched over the knees, a greasy sweatshirt or T-shirt; the back is stooped and walks on bent ones, as if he had put it in his pants; the clothes smell of tobacco, food and sweat, and the mouth is no better, from above all this is still strong "flavored" with perfume. Although, so that a decent girl shies away from you, and one of the listed smells is enough.

Please note that the image described above becomes PLEASANT or UNPLEASANT, it does NOT depend on height, figure, face and other things that are either very difficult or impossible to influence. Everything described is quite achievable with a certain EFFORT. You need to strain a little to: walk clean, combed, in neat (clean, not worn out) clothes and watch your smells, teeth (so you can smile broadly), and so on.

The fifth point is self-doubt. This uncertainty shows through in everything: in the absence of one's convictions, opinions, life goals, unwillingness to take responsibility; in a shuffling gait, stooped back; baggy clothes; confused expression on your face ... Take a closer look at your reflection in the mirror. Ask someone you can trust which person you are more like: insecure, self-confident, or level-headed and confident. Ask them to be honest with you and do not be afraid if it turns out that not everything is as good as you thought. After all, you are still young and everything can be fixed. It is the shortcomings (lack of something) that often induce people to work so hard on themselves that then others begin to envy their successes and experience.

Good day, dear readers. Today we will talk about this delicate matter like "girls don't like me, why is this happening." You will find out what features of appearance, character, can repel the representatives of the opposite sex. You will know what you need to change in yourself in order to become attractive in the eyes of girls.

Why a guy might not like

A beautiful young lady will clearly be scared off by a young man who behaves rudely, in particular, towards girls.
You may not like a guy who is too shy, overly sensitive.
Young people who are too taciturn and withdrawn are not attracted. Girls prefer cheerful guys who can talk on any topic, cheer up, amuse.
The boor will definitely not like it - a person who is trying to humiliate others, throw mud at them.
A young man who constantly criticizes everyone, sees everything in a black light will not arouse interest.
Girls don't like whiners. They want to see a strong man next to them.
Boring guys are not appreciated. This can be said about a guy who, apart from studying and at home, knows nothing and does not see, who does not have any hobbies, does not play sports. It's not even interesting to talk to such a person.
Pushed away by a guy who is not able to take care of himself, he has bad smell mouth, uncut nails, unwashed hair, unclean shoes. Such a person is unlikely to be able to please at least someone.
Girls do not like overly self-confident guys who build some kind of deity out of themselves. It doesn't matter how handsome a guy is if he has inflated self-esteem.
A young man who teaches everyone around, tells how to live correctly, what to dress in, what to do, will definitely alienate any girl.
It is unlikely that someone can like a guy who constantly behaves imperceptibly, quietly, almost no one knows about his existence.
The girl will not date a person who is known as a liar.
A young man who compares all girls, for example, with his mother.
It is unlikely that anyone will like an irresponsible guy who does not know how to keep his word.
Repulsed by young people who treat themselves badly. As they say, first of all, you need to love yourself, then everyone around you will be drawn to you. Whatever you are. V this case you need to make every effort to change your attitude, go in for sports, put yourself in order.
Passive people who do not think about the fact that you need to make any efforts to win a girl, to interest her in yourself are not popular. They believe that everything will come by itself.

Signs of an attractive partner

Let's take a look at what kind of guys girls like in appearance.

Clean face, no acne.
Light unshaven or clean-shaven face. If there is a beard, then it should be well-groomed and neat.
With a well-groomed hairstyle, washed hair, an interesting haircut.
Necessarily clean, neatly trimmed nails
From a man should come pleasant aroma perfume, fresh breath.
Polished shoes.
Clean clothes, ironed, always matched for the occasion and the weather, and the right size. Also great importance It has correct taste in the choice of items of clothing.

In short, girls are attracted to neat, tidy and well-groomed young people.

Let's look at what kind of guys girls like by nature:

caring;
attentive;
generous;
with good feeling humor;
purposeful;
self-confident;
romance.

What to do to please

It is very important to show good manners.
Don't forget about compliments. The young lady will be pleased to hear pleasant words regarding her appearance, sense of humor, intelligence.
If she talks about some plans, about her aspirations, support her.
It is necessary that the guy's attention is focused on only one chosen one, so that he is not distracted by the girls passing by.
Stay calm around the girl, do not be nervous, do not bend your arms, do not twist your hair, behave confidently.
Practice good personal hygiene. It is important for a girl how the guy looks, how he smells.
Learn to be good conversationalist... It is important for a girl that the guy knows how to keep the conversation going.
Be sure to be responsible. If you are not studying now, try to find a job, do not sit around your parents' neck.
The main thing is to always be yourself, in any situations, circumstances. There is no need to delude yourself, to fake, to try, to seem better than you really are.
If you know about your shortcomings, then you should start getting rid of them, no matter how hard it is, no matter how much time is spent.
Always treat people of the opposite sex with respect.
If you feel insecure next to a girl, you are more often in a female company in order to adapt and not experience such problems in the future.
If you are a boor, finally get busy with your manners. If necessary, attend special trainings.
If you think that girls do not like them because of their appearance, then you need to realize that not everyone pays attention to the color of the eyes, the shape of the nose, protruding ears. For many, what's inside is much more important. In addition, your appearance can be improved by visiting the gym, going to the hairdresser, if your face is covered with acne - you can fight this with the help of cosmetics.

I have a familiar guy who, despite overweight(there are 20 extra kilograms in it) and short stature, is very popular with girls. In addition, I can say that he is a notorious womanizer, and for many years. He is confident enough in himself, loves himself the way he is, never pretends, shows concern, is an excellent conversationalist, has a good sense of humor. This is an example of how advantages can hide disadvantages.

How not to behave

It's bad when a guy who wants to improve his self-esteem, to become popular among girls, starts flirting with everyone he meets. You need to understand that everyone around will know about this feature. What girl would want to communicate, in fact, with a womanizer?
Being overly persistent, reacting to women's rejections as a call to action.
It is unacceptable to chase girls, it will not only scare away, but also scare.
You do not need to use the method according to the principle that if you love someone less, then you fall in love with yourself more. This method works only on girls who have very low self-esteem.

Now you know which guys girls like best. You know how you need to behave, what you need to do to change. Remember, the end justifies the means. If you want to get attention from outside beautiful lady, you will have to work hard on yourself. All in your hands.

It is not so easy for a girl to like it, especially in our time when women have become self-sufficient individuals who need men less and less.
But still, there are guys who can get any girl and there are young people who do not understand what needs to be done to attract the attention of a young beauty. "What is the problem,?", They ask themselves and do not find an answer. And everything is very simple, you just need to change something in yourself and know the little secrets that will allow you to bathe in female attention.
So, below we give the main reasons why women may not like a man and naturally a solution to the problem.

One of the most simple solutions: Observe successful guys who are popular with girls and themselves. Ask yourself the question: how my behavior differs from their behavior, what do they do what I don’t do, and then you will understand why girls do not like you very distinctly and clearly.

Why girls don't like a guy

1. Unkempt appearance

Unkempt man just can't please normal woman... Dirt under your nails, unwashed hair, bad breath and unclean shoes are the path to loneliness.
Solution: go to the hairdresser, where the stylist will find you stylish hairstyle that can highlight the dignity of your face. After all, it is known that the haircut plays a very important role in a masculine image.

Pick up a trendy and stylish clothes... Every man's wardrobe must have at least two shirts. different shades and a couple of different sweaters. Wear the obsession that you yourself like and in which you are comfortable, then it will sit on you just fine. Manicure and pedicure is not only a woman's privilege, a man should be well-groomed and smell good.

2. Figure.
Girls like smart men who have strength in their hands. If your belly enters the door first, and then you, then this is clearly not a man's dignity, but a big drawback.
Solution: going to the gym and doing sports these are integral parts of the modern macho image. If you have a beer belly it is better to remove it, and thin guys are better off pumping up muscles.

3. Education and culture.
A man who does not know how to behave in society, women bypass the tenth road. If you do not know how to drink and after 200 grams of cognac are able to fall under the table in a restaurant, then it is better to deny yourself large doses of alcohol. Abusive expressions in a conversation and addressing the waiter "Hey, you, bring me more beer and faster", will make the girl run away from you without looking back.
Solution: Be polite. Read a book on etiquette before asking your girlfriend out on a date. Believe me, cultured, gallant able to slay on the spot even the most independent woman.

4. Greed
All the girls are carefully getting ready for the first date. They put on best dresses and the most uncomfortable but damn beautiful shoes with high heels. Even if it's fierce winter outside, autumn cold boots and the thinnest tights are used. And all this is for you men. And what is her surprise when the gentleman takes her to the pub, where she is in evening dress looks like a white crow, and then offers to walk home, although the girl lives an hour away. After such a date, the woman will not even answer your calls, let alone meet with you again.

There is really another extreme, when girls are deliberately taken to expensive restaurants and filled up expensive gifts... The most optimal, if short, is golden mean... You should have money for a cup of coffee in a good cafe and taxi, but you should not order an expensive table with exquisite delicacies, especially at 1, 2, 3 date

Solution: Ask the girl where she would like to go. If it's cold outside, be sure to take a taxi. Take care of the woman and remember that machos win a woman with close attention to her. Warmth and care will melt the heart of any woman, but here it is also very important not to overdo it.

5. Speech
Monologue No. 1 “Life has failed, I am absolutely unable to do anything. Today I was fired from my job, and I have almost no money left. I don’t know how to live ”
Monologue # 2 “Yes, life doesn't always spoil me, but I can handle it, I'm a man. If something does not work out, I will never despair. Life is beautiful, and you have to take all the best from it ”.

Do you see the difference? Two people may look at the same problem differently. The girl will run away from the first, without waiting for the end of the date. She will stay with the second one and will call herself the next day.
Solution: be optimistic.

Call the girl by her name. For example, the words "What are you going to drink?" replace with "Lena, what are you going to drink?"

Do not be silent, take an interest in her life, but do not meddle in the soul.
Don't ask about former relationship, this can ruin the girl's mood, because what to say about them if she is with you now.
Talk about hobbies, travel, friends, pets.
In an hour or two, you can already talk about life priorities and goals.
The conversation should be diluted with funny stories. I'll clarify: not vulgar and stupid anecdotes, but fascinating everyday stories, of which every person has a full arsenal.

Just observe yourself and the events that happen around you for a month, you can even at the beginning everything interesting moments write down. And very soon you yourself will be surprised how many interesting things you can tell a girl on a date.

Hello, dear friend!

In this article, you will learn about why a girl might not like you and how to fix this state of affairs.

Why don't any of the girls like me?

To begin with, you should understand the following points:

First, people are creatures who like to exaggerate everything, so most likely you do it too. In order to determine whether women like you or not, you need to start actively communicating with them, getting acquainted and inviting them to "romantics". However, knowing the essence of the male sex, it can be assumed that you also had no more than three unsuccessful dates, after which you lost the desire to communicate with the opposite sex at all. And another reason may be that you spread rot on yourself like: "Why don't the girls who like me like me?" You get hung up on it, even though it may often not be so.

If you are one of those guys who think that women themselves should climb and throw themselves at you, then you are deeply mistaken. Most likely, from such a worldview, you could have only one conclusion: if they themselves do not hang on you, then no one likes you. Here you need to understand that decent girls in rare cases, they themselves take the initiative in relationships and, in general, in acquaintances. This happens, but extremely rarely.

Secondly, you should ask yourself the following questions: What statistics do you have in general? How many times, for example, last month did you go up to the girls, get to know each other and invite them on a date? By what principle did you determine that you like or dislike this or that person? After fully analyzing the state of affairs, you will probably find that it's not that the girls don't like you yourself, here, most likely, the point is that you are simply inactive.

If you are one of those who believe that the young ladies should strive for you themselves and want to make an acquaintance with you, then you are wrong. This simply does not happen, unless, of course, you are Sergey Lazarev. But everything can be turned differently. Women will begin to react positively to you if you yourself approach them, make acquaintances and invite them on dates.

Women are by nature so arranged that they want to see next to them best male... Therefore, the more beautiful and smarter girl, the greater the demands she has on her chosen one. For this reason, you are unlikely to be helped by lamentations about why girls do not like you. The best time to spend this time is to improve yourself. Yes, the process of changing your personality into better side- this business is not easy and not fast. First you need to step out of your comfort zone and take action!

How to start to like girls?

Look at those men who are successful with women. Look at the stars, athletes and celebrities. Why are they so popular with women? Appearance is far from the most important thing here, because women first of all want to see you as a man, not a boy. Therefore, even if you have a cute appearance, but there is no male core, then it is unlikely that more girls will appear in your life.

A man can be disliked for many reasons, and most often he is disliked precisely because he invented it for himself. Well, who will like an insecure, insecure boy? Among the other points, one can single out: appearance, not the ability to communicate, there is no purpose in life, does not arouse any interest. But this is all fixable!

These are just problems, and problems can be fixed and resolved. For this reason, instead of complaining about life, you should think about how to change yourself for the better... Here's what you need to develop in yourself:

Body. Of course, it is not at all necessary to become a jock, but it is necessary to keep your body in shape.

Mind. You need to develop your personality, read more books, take various courses and trainings that will broaden your horizons and save you from complexes. I highly recommend you a public speaking or acting course!

Purse. Set goals, learn to earn more money... Try to do your business with minimal cost... Money is not particularly needed to attract women, but it will boost your self-esteem and give you confidence.

Appearance. Change your look. Hairstyle, clothing style. Always be neat and well-groomed.

If you do not develop yourself, then you can find yourself the same girl. Unlikely. But you can get a stupid, fat and grumpy woman.

There are many men in the world who do not differ in excellent appearance, but who enjoy great success with women. This is only because they develop their personality, they are constantly improving. And you should do this too, and then you won't even have a reason to think about such topics. Throw away the thoughts of why good guys girls do not like it, because they are not, dare and success to you!

I regularly get questions that guys usually address to the universe, but since Feedback he often bugs with him, Vintovkina will do too: "Why doesn't anyone love me?" and any variations on the theme ("Why does everyone have girls, but I don't?", "Why don't they pay attention to me?", "Why can't I start a relationship with anyone?", etc.) since it's hard for me, it's hard for me to find the right words, on the one hand, to cheer up the questioner (because sometimes you really just need to wait). On the other hand, to make him look at the objective reasons / habits / characteristics that prevent him from establishing an intergender dialogue.

In order to save myself, and at the same time, them, from torment, I decided to collect the most common answers in one post:

1. Because you are too soft

I don’t think being sensitive, shy, tactful, forward-looking, or obedient is bad. But this is what young maidens usually think. And what less years the girl, as a rule, more value it gives the textbook attributes of masculinity (decisiveness bordering on impudence, commanding intonations in the voice, a steely gaze, a strong-willed chin, and further down the list). To look - and immediately understand: in front of you is not just a male creature, but a male, and clearly dominant. And the qualities that are at the opposite pole are often interpreted *, on the contrary, as a sign of weakness and self-doubt. And such quivering, not quite (or not at all) male gentlemen usually turn out to be suitable as girlfriends with whom you can go to the movies and get worn out, but you don't want to look at them without panties, thank you, somehow.

* Of course, such an approach from the point of view of humanism (and an adult woman like me) - cruel, superficial, even stupid. But young girls often just such - superficial, stereotypically thinking and, frankly, heartless creatures.

2. Because you are withdrawn

There is no greater torture than a date with a guy who cannot connect two words, looks at you sideways and sullenly, as if you made a stuffed animal out of his favorite dachshund, and answers any question as if each of his "Emmm ..." will certainly be used against him. First, because a girl usually tunes in to what it is her will entertain and captivate. And when, in the end, she herself is forced to pull the whole conversation on herself and act as an animator, this is, frankly, a bummer. Secondly, the society of the silent is always a great test for female self-esteem... With her head, she may understand that the problem is not in her, but in you (and the fact that, hanging for days / weeks / months on some social network, you simply lost the habit - or maybe never knew how - to communicate in real life). But somewhere deep inside, a worm of doubt is still tossing and turning: what if, in fact, you are charming and eloquent, and you behave this way with her, because you simply don’t like her enough? And women, whatever one may say, prefer the company of the one who is crazy about them. And he does not hide it.

3. Because you are rude

Including and especially in relation to girls. You are being rude to them, insolent, teasing and just trying to humiliate them at every opportunity. The testicles would be ripped off by someone who convinced you that women love when they are mixed with dirt. Take my word for it: they don't. Maybe for some of my gender sisters at first it seems charmingly eccentric and even exciting. But then the realization that you are behaving this way not because of an excess of strength, but, on the contrary, because of powerlessness, certainly comes.

4. Because you criticize

The ability to find a spoonful of something foul-smelling and inedible in everything ("Pretty? So, probably a fool or a slut", "Salary increased by 10%? life skill. It is well known: the less you wait, the less you will be disappointed in the end. But this skill is good only for its owner. Everyone else (including girls) in the society of such negativists sooner or later becomes uncomfortable. As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And to give a chance to a guy who clearly has problems with "vision", there are no willing ones.

5. Because you are complaining

Nobody likes whiners. And even the mothers of whiners who are supposed to comfort them, stroke their curls and whisper "everything will be fine", doing all this, they think to themselves, damn it, how much can you do, but get yourself together, in the end! If you are so unbearable and you certainly need to pour out your suffering somewhere, get yourself a little book and write down all your misfortunes and misfortunes in it. And the girls do not want to hear about the fact that the weather is rubbish, the neighbors got it with their repairs, the ancestors were out of their minds, the last season of Game of Thrones is boring and so on, in the same minor key. And if you count on the fact that the girl will rush to convince you and prove that life is really beautiful and amazing, then in vain. Rather, she will rush into the arms of someone who is not so painful about the imperfections of this world.

6. Because you are passive

In the most primitive, absolutely heterosexual sense. Men who live according to the principle “They will come and offer everything themselves” usually naively believe that this rule applies to women as well. And if beautiful virgins, ready for anything, still do not hug its threshold, then this is a temporary phenomenon. You just need to get comfortable on the couch, make sure the doorbell works, and wait. Alas, this is not the case. Women, like a hundred years ago, wait, hope and believe that they will be conquered. And even in our harsh metrosexual age for one like you, there are a dozen hereditary "earners".

7. Because you're boring

Let's take an objective look at the situation. What, besides study / work, TV series and social networks, is your life filled with? Are you really good at anything? Are you able to talk about something with burning eyes for more than 15 minutes? Yes, even about the etymology of Russian mat or the difference between Romanian and Belgian porn. How often, when communicating with you, people say: "Oh, cool!", "Nichose!" etc. Women have always reached out - and will continue to do so - to those who know, can, have seen more than they themselves. And the fact that they do not see such a person in you is only to blame for you and the meager range of your interests.

8. Because you don't love yourself

If you consider yourself insignificant, then why on earth would anyone perceive you differently? If we have to choose between extremes, then girls are more sympathetic to slightly narcissistic natures (the key word is "slightly"). With them we, although on the sidelines, are always in the epicenter of attention and events. The main thing is that the self-esteem of the gentleman was based not only on the fact that his mother told him in childhood: "Baby, you are the best!", But on something a little more substantial and tangible.

9. Because you are sure that everyone owes you

The state - smooth roads and polite doctors, friends - to meet at the airport at three o'clock in the morning, girls - to hand over their phone numbers, you should look at them for more than three seconds. Such types, firstly, usually turn out to be terry bore and selfish, who only repeat about their needs, for the most part unmet. And secondly, they themselves often do not know how and do not have what to give to those who are nearby. And a relationship is, whatever one may say, paired view sports.