How to understand that you have to leave work. Work consumes you and your time. Girl: there is no more attraction

18.04.2019

In the life of a couple, a moment may come when, as if a veil falls from their eyes, and you understand - that's it, it can't go on like this. Relationships are at an impasse and you need to break them right now, because they poison your life and prevent you from moving forward.

But how to understand that you cannot be together? After all, it is common for us girls to drag a relationship with a dead weight due to pity, habit, or some other feeling. How can we say "Stop" to ourselves?

1. Lack of communication

At the dawn of your relationship, none of you could spend an hour without phone call to each other or SMS. This was the norm. Now you sometimes even think that he deliberately ignores your attempts to contact him.

2. No talk about the future

One of the most natural and delightful parts of any relationship is joint planning the future. Vacation plans, dreams of where you would like to build a house, coming up with possible names for future children - all this gives a feeling of security, the idea that you will always be together and together and grow old. Try to touch on this topic now - all you get is an indistinct nod. Neither of you wants to discuss any more where you want to go in the summer or where you want to go on the weekend.

3. Reluctance to make an effort

At first, you couldn't decide what to do for both of you: hiking or a picnic by the river, it was all equally delicious and romantic. Now you don't even want to make an effort and go to a restaurant or a movie to somehow support the passing passion. Your option now is to sit at home apathetically and watch TV. And it's good if they are together.

4. Quarrels with personal transition

Previously, you have had minor frivolous fights. Now this is a real war, where all means are fair. You know well each other's weaknesses and vulnerabilities and use them to simply "get" your partner.

5. Quarrels break out instantly, everything is annoying

Even the slightest hint that seemed annoying to you leads to the fact that you rush into a quarrel without additional warning. If so, then we can assume that you have deep grievances that poison the relationship. You will never look at your partner with the same eyes again.

6. Quarrels in public

If this happens, it means that you absolutely do not care whether anyone will find out about your problems, this is a sign that you have lost all respect for each other.

7. Striving for independence

At first, you aimed to spend every free minute together, starting with a shower together in the morning. Now all you want is to meet up with friends or even work overtime, just not to be together more than necessary.

8. Loss of trust

There are no comments here, because trust is the basis of any successful relationship.

9. Change in perception

Remember, once his button nose touched you, seemed charming? Or his short, weird laugh? How funny and affectionate he seemed! Today the same nose makes him look like a hog, and the idiotic laugh is completely annoying.

Not so long ago, there was an opinion that “they don’t look for good from good”: if the work is more or less decent, the salary is paid on time and it is enough for life, then you have to hold on to it and in no case try to find something better ... This kind of thinking is a direct legacy of the Soviet way of life, when they were hired to work according to distribution, and if you suddenly do not like the place where you were sent, be kind - be patient and fulfill your duty to the state.

Then came the not very simple nineties, when people themselves consciously held on to any job where at least something was paid. At that moment, many were not up to finding a more pleasant place of work, the task was only one - to feed themselves and their family.

After the 2000s, especially in metropolitan areas, and with the massive advent of the Internet - and in smaller cities, we became more and more focused on conscious choice work on which we spend most of our lives. Opportunities have appeared to choose exactly the direction of activity that we like, but still there are cases when people, by inertia, continue to remain in their usual position, in a familiar company. At the same time, often unconsciously, they understand that something is wrong, and, trying to figure it out, they turn to a psychologist for advice.

Here are five signs it's time to quit and look for something better for you.

1. You force yourself to go to work

Not only on Monday or after vacation. It's a daily routine for you to persuade yourself to go to work. There are some nuances here: it is important to determine exactly why you do not want to go to work.

In my practice, I came across such people for whom work was, in principle, a problem, they did not want to go there because they had to carry out other people's orders and instructions there, it seemed to them that this was contrary to their inner desires. And this story was repeated at each of their workplaces. That is, from a change in the employer and job duties nothing changed for them.

In this case, you should go to a psychologist and understand the reasons for such an attitude, change it. If you understand that you do not want to go to exactly the job that you have now, and do exactly what it suggests, this is serious reason think about finding a more suitable job for you.

2. You feel like you are degrading in this job.

You already know by heart what and how to do, the work seems to be routine for you, and you do not consider it necessary to work at full strength.

It's a common story when, after a certain period of time in the same position, we start to work worse and worse (justifying this various reasons: starting from "and so it will do" to "how much they pay, so I work") and at work we get more and more bored.

The natural result of such work: unconsciously you are dissatisfied with yourself, your work, your lot, there is a feeling of wasted time, which will certainly affect all aspects of your life. The best way out is to grope for your development zone and boldly go into it.

3. Work consumes you and your time

If you work late, take work home with you, often when you are outside the office, think about some work matters, often feel tired and exhausted, then it's time to take a sober look at your workaholism. V good option no one should be a workaholic, excessive enthusiasm and commitment to work, most likely, cover up some kind of inner gap, being an escape from some life problems.

Answer yourself to simple questions:

Do I like the process of work itself?
What is more important to me: family and loved ones or work?
Has my life turned into an endless attempt to achieve something or get approval from someone?
Does the job itself bring me as much pleasure as I spend on it?

4. You stopped dreaming

Numerous studies clearly show that monetary motivation is by no means the strongest. If you come to work only to serve the allotted time and receive your salary at the end of the month, then this is a serious reason to think about changing your place of work.

We spend most of our time within the working walls. Beginning as a simple indifference to what we do as part of the work, this boredom and lack of dreams and desires spread throughout our lives. First, we stop dreaming about something within the framework of a career, and then in our whole life we do not need anything except what we already have.

In other words, we transfer professional stagnation to the private part of our life. And it seems like not bad to be content with small things, but sooner or later a crisis of missed opportunities overtakes: the moment when we look back and begin to regret very much that we once allowed ourselves to give up dreams and move forward.

5. New opportunities are calling you

You already imagine where you want to move on, but you just don't make up your mind. A clear sign that it's time to move forward. Many of us are afraid to quit our jobs even when we’ve found a new job.

The fear of the unknown, the new seems to be very strong, on the one hand. But on the other - we, realizing that it is time to act, and not wait, drive ourselves into anxiety. As a result, both staying and leaving, we in any case experience anxiety. Ask yourself the question: which is better - worry and mark time or worry, but at the same time move where you want?

If you have matched at least one of the five signs, then this is a reason to think about changing jobs. For many, this is undoubtedly a difficult decision, but it fully justifies itself with the new opportunities that are opening up.

I hope that the article was useful to you, and I wish to do only the work that you love and that you enjoy.

From the editorial board

Workaholism not only poisons life psychologically, but also has a very real effect on physical health person. And, alas, not at all positive. Why it is dangerous to be a workaholic, explains psychologist, doctor Natalia Tereshchenko: .

There is hardly a person who would dream of becoming a workaholic when he grows up. How we ourselves bring ourselves to a life of constant stress, explains the psychologist Alexander Banarescu: .

On the other hand, the reluctance to work effectively can sometimes be associated not with the place of work itself, but with self-sabotage. Why we are "at war" against ourselves, read in the article by a psychologist and business consultant Olga Yurkovskaya: .

If you are reading this, you may not be the type to give up without a fight. You are ambitious, professional, and keep moving forward regardless of the obstacles in your path. This is what makes you successful. But the secret is that sometimes it's wiser to turn around and walk away. Undoubtedly, admitting defeat is painful. But often it the only way maintain your sanity in a situation where you cannot be a winner.

One of the lessons I learned Brian de Haaf having worked in Silicon Valley for over 15 years, quit- this is normal. In many cases, it is even beneficial to health.

Sometimes the problems of a company or a product are so hopeless and the leaders are so crazy that it’s impossible to continue working with them. It makes more sense to move on and channel your energy towards something that is more satisfying or valuable to a wider circle of people.

In his own career, Brian happened several times when he was faced with extremely challenging task and after a heroic struggle for a year, he decided that it was better to retreat. And each time, he says, his life got better, and he continued to bring more happiness to himself and others. “The main thing is that I discovered the problem, clearly articulated it with those who could help me in solving, and when it was obvious that they would not help, I decided to quit this venture and do something else,” he says.

In such circumstances, refusal means the need to look for a new job. If you are in a hostile environment for a long time, continuing to do the same work, and get involved in the same nonsense as before, it becomes disastrous for you and those who depend on you.

The problem is that by continuing to persist, you are in survival mode and you are saving your own personal hell. You just don't think about the quality of your work and the results anymore. Just go to the nearest post office or vehicle registration point - you will understand what is meant.

Now let's admit that it is easier for someone to leave, for someone it is more difficult. Your composure depends on your career and financial status - there is no point in ignoring that. However, it can be assumed that regardless of your particular situation, you have the strength to choose a different course, which with very likely will lead you to a new job and improve your life.

Let's see how you know it's time to leave. First of all, let's start with what creates a happy working environment and gives the joy of work. Brian believes job satisfaction is based on four types of balance. The more you work harmoniously in each of the four areas, the happier you are.

Here are the signals to be found in each of the four realms. They will tell you to leave. However, you need to keep in mind that if you have not come to balance, this does not mean that it is not achievable for you in this job. It is important to consider how long you have been trying to come to harmony. Perhaps you will be there soon.

If you've struggled for a year in any of these areas, it might be time to try a different direction.

Equilibrium in ambition

Does the role you play in the company bring you closer to your goal? This is a basic question to ask yourself, but unfortunately most people never do it. Without a goal in front of you, it is impossible to understand whether you are moving in the right direction or not. The goal is important in business planning, but it is equally important when you think about your personal development. If you've never thought about writing down where you would like to be in three, five, ten years, now is the time to do it.

Equilibriumvskills

The most enjoyable work always fully utilizes all our skills and forces us to master new ones. Are you a master in your field in your current job or on the road to excellence? If the answer is yes, you are most likely quite satisfied with the work you are doing. If your answer is no, chances are your confidence has been under attack and you are used to looking around fearfully. Now if you feel uncomfortable, good boss or training can neutralize any suffering and help you regain your charisma.

Equilibrium in expected reward

There are two types of rewards and they are equally important. Internal reward is based on personal satisfaction from a job well done. External satisfaction includes salary and other material bonuses that you receive from your employer. The expected reward should correspond to reality as closely as possible, only then you will be satisfied. If the gap lasts too long, frustration builds up and you will make the job worse. And then you find yourself unable to pay rent or mortgage.

Balance with the boss

Nowadays it is in vogue to propose to people, instead of leaving work, to leave their boss. But as you've already read, there are many other reasons for leaving that are not related to your boss. Nonetheless, Brian agrees that an unpleasant boss is at the top of the list of reasons for the public to migrate and update their résumé. Brian parted ways with three types of executives: those who harass employees in the office, forbid communication with other managers, or threaten retaliation if someone quits. Does your boss think about your interests?

If you have a bias in any of these areas, admit it to yourself first. Then try talking to a boss or someone in the company whom you trust and who you think will be able to help you.

“My point is that it is your responsibility to try to overcome this challenge and your duty to the organization you work for and to yourself to get through this,” writes Brian. "But if you can, looking at yourself in the mirror, calmly say that you tried, but you need a plan" B ", if you do not see a way out and plunge more and more into the abyss of adversity, then admitting defeat and leaving is normal."

Do you agree? When will you realize that leaving is not only more correct, but also healthier?

Irina Silacheva , specially for Executive.ru

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Knowing when to quit and when to move on is key to emotional survival.

Until we are 200% sure that the relationship is over, we continue to believe in it. This is understandable, because in a few years (or months) we become so attached to a person, we can say “grow into” him, that it is very painful to part. It is clear that you are trying to preserve the relationship: there is always hope that they will change for the better.

Not everyone has the courage to ruin a relationship the moment it actually ends. Here are 21 signs that "finita la comedy", if it has not yet arrived, is already very, very close. If at least four points out of all you say: "This is about us," - think about parting more seriously than usual.

1. Resentment

You constantly resent your partner, but don't say anything. You think that this is how you preserve your relationship, but in reality you only delay that unpleasant moment when all the accumulated negative will break out and your connection will end in a painful break.

Resentment does not go anywhere, especially if the factors that cause it do not disappear. If it does not spill out, it means that it accumulates inside, and this causes stress and illness. And, of course, it destroys the relationship - slowly but surely.

2. Disrespect

If you and your partner have reached the point where you show mutual disrespect, it's time to destroy your illusions. There is nothing easier than to stop feeling affection for someone who disrespects you.

People can continue to live together without respect and awareness of the value of each other, which leads to an absolute indifference about the needs and desires of a partner. Well, what kind of continuation can we talk about?

3. Contempt

It doesn't matter what motives sparked contempt, whether it's a failed career, a change in appearance, or something else. Partners should support each other in any situation, because is it not this warmth that we need so much under any circumstances, and especially during some personal problems.

If you began to treat each other with contempt, no longer get warmth from the relationship and live not with a friend who understands, but with a cold being who condemns you, why continue?

4. Lies

I'm talking about that lies when you say to a person: "I love you" without feeling any feelings. You are afraid of hurting him, but you are not really protecting him, but only making it worse. The truth will come out: you cannot lie all your life and at the same time not ruin it for yourself and your partner.

Well, if you say to yourself: “We are happy, I am happy, everything is fine with us,” when you feel that everything is over for you, this is also an escape from reality.

5. Mistrust

If you don't trust your partner, then there is a reason for this. If they are so serious that trust cannot be restored, why stay with this person? All your life to check, worry and waste your nerves?

6. Swearing in public

All the good things you can say about your partner can be said in public. And all the bad things are better left for private conversations. To scold a person in public means to achieve only a negative response or a hidden resentment.

In addition, if you scold your partner in public or even just allow yourself unpleasant jokes about him, it means that dissatisfaction is growing inside, which has already begun to splash out.

7. Distance

You have already severed the emotional connection with your partner and thus "gently" let him know that it's over. Maybe it’s better to do it right away, and not create suffering and doubt?

8. Demanding proof of love

"If you love me, you ..." It is very tempting to manage a person's life in this way, and if you occasionally hear this phrase, then something went wrong.

The only person who can change his feelings is himself, and some of your actions have nothing to do with it.

Well, if you yourself say so, think about whether you really need this person, will he become loved if he does something? And can you manipulate someone you really love?

9. Public humiliation

If your partner humiliates you in society once, it is more likely that he will do it over and over again. It doesn't matter that he drank a lot that evening or was in a bad mood.

Public humiliation of a partner speaks only of deep self-loathing, and no matter how much love you give to this person, it will not fix the situation without his firm desire to change and work with his self-esteem. And this is difficult not only to fix, but even to admit.

10. Obsession with another person

If your partner is obsessed with another person - it doesn't matter if he is friends with him or hopes for a closer relationship - sooner or later this will lead to a breakup.

Of course, this does not mean that partners should completely immerse themselves in each other and give all their energy to only one person, but being obsessed with someone else is fraught with suspicion, jealousy and resentment.

Yes, your partner is clearly missing something in your relationship if he is so drawn to another person, but you can hardly give it to him. And you certainly shouldn't cheat on yourself for the sake of another person.

11. Obsession with pornography

There is nothing strange or wrong with partners watching porn together. Some semblance of voyeurism helps to get aroused and find something new to try later in bed with a partner.

But if one of the partners is obsessed with pornography, complete satisfaction will always elude him: in pursuit of the Grail multiple orgasms, he may end up on the path of perversion.

So, if you are not satisfied with such alignments, think about the root cause of this obsession, and about the possible consequences.

12. Emotional infidelity

Some people believe that monogamy is the only thing possible variant relationships, for others it is difficult and almost impossible.

If you change for the sake of a variety of sexual experiences, the relationship can still be preserved, but if there is emotional attachment to the person with whom you had an intimate relationship, it's time to end the relationship.

The first question people ask when they find out about their partner's infidelity is, "Do you love him / her?" Because it is emotional, not physical connection is the core of the relationship, and if it is gone, then you have nothing else to do here.

13. Inability to end the conflict

It starts as an endless struggle without reaching a consensus, which gradually develops into "as you want", when the partners no longer care about the results of their struggle.

There is a rule: never go to bed offended at each other. And there is definitely something in him.

If none of the partners can pacify their pride and desire to always be the winner in an argument, cannot go to a truce without achieving their goal, this relationship has no continuation.

14. Subconscious

If you unknowingly do things that harm your relationship, your psyche tells you what you really need.

You can think whatever you want, but your actions speak of real desires better than all your assurances and hopes.

15. Obsession

If your partner has an obsession with, for example, alcohol or substances, he / she is a shopaholic, gambler, workaholic, or obsessed with sex, you will always be in second or even in fifth place and will not get that emotional connection that I would like.

If you don't have an obsession, your partner's addiction can ruin not only his life, but yours as well. Not a very pleasant prospect.

16. Painful attachment to ex

If your partner still has more than a close relationship with former passion or husband / wife, it destroys the relationship.

Former partners need to be respected, especially if you have common children, but the first role is still assigned to the current partner. If it doesn't, it’s easy to feel secondary and unnecessary, and this is a direct path to rupture.

17. Threats and emotional blackmail

it clear sign unhealthy relationships. Emotional blackmail is often touted as strong love but in reality it is control. And control, in turn, is an abuse of the senses. You have to run from this as far as you can see.

18. Constant comparison and ratings

Is your partner comparing you to someone who looks more attractive, makes more money, is smarter and more interesting than you? This is a form of humiliation. If someone thinks that the grass is greener in someone else's yard, let them go there.

People are unique creatures, although in many respects they are similar. You shouldn't compare yourself, let alone listen to it from your partner.

19. Indifference

Why stay together if you don't care about each other?

20. Loss of attachment

There is nothing wrong with wanting a roommate, but if you want more out of a relationship, don't stay with a partner who isn't your only partner. Don't just stay because you're comfortable.

21. Physical abuse

There are no excuses, no explanations, no circumstances or promises matter. You just have to leave.

In general, conflict in relationships is a way to get rid of pain, but the reasons for them can vary. It can be a way to open up an abscess of dissatisfaction and resentment that has arisen in a relationship, in order to clean out the wound, remove what is in the way, and save the relationship.

But it also happens in a different way, when conflicts are a way to break off relations, inform the other person that they are over, that it is no longer worth tormenting each other.

And it is better to learn to distinguish some conflicts from others, otherwise it will be painful and bad for both partners.

Scientists claim that every person thinks about getting laid off on a daily basis. This happens on subconscious level... It is very difficult to consciously decide to fire. Especially if this place of work is associated with a large segment of time worked and good team... Layoff plans are hatched for months. The process of weighing all the pros and cons can take a very long time. long period... it main mistake the one who is going to leave the familiar place of work.

Don't put off making a decision until tomorrow

Why is it hard to quit

Most of the people are unable to make a decision about dismissal in an instant. This is influenced by the person's inner beliefs, which are based on emotions and mentality. There are certain categories of workers who find it monstrously difficult to decide to change jobs:

Employees who grew up in the company. When a person comes to work immediately after educational institution, he is accepted into an established team, trained, through certain time he begins to consider himself obliged to this enterprise for his professional growth... Dismissal from such a job is tantamount to leaving the family. All the most profitable offer pale in comparison with the beloved and dear collective.
Successful employees. Anyone who has achieved certain results has some kind of psychological connection with their workplace. Here he successfully implemented several projects, achieved an increase in sales, expanded the retail network. In such conditions, a change of place of work is based on the feeling that your brainchild will have to be abandoned to the mercy of fate.
Uncommunicative people. It will always be difficult for such workers to decide on a change. Anything new can bring discomfort to a long-established and measured working life.

Psychologists advise making a decision to dismiss, despite the severity of such an event. If a trip to work has turned into a trip to hard labor, then it urgently needs to be changed. The daily work torture will bring even more discomfort to usual life, how emotional condition employee from accepting a break in emotional attachments.

Work is not fun - it's time to leave

How it all starts

Taking and quitting is sometimes more difficult than accepting a new job offer. These are the features of our inner peace when it is several times easier for us to start something new than to finish something existing.

According to statistics, more than 75% of workers start and end their day with the thought of dismissal. And very few people can come to their boss and announce their intention to part with the company without lengthy and thorough preparation. For the desire to forever close the doors of this company, to escape from the hated collective, the bosses, a long string of thoughts immediately appears that do not allow you to take this step.

Such excuses in our eyes seem to be reasonable arguments in favor of staying and enduring a little more. But no one admits that this is self-deception that covers up simple human indecision.

Someone thinks that you just need to wait until it gets better. Others attach importance to themselves, making the excuse that they cannot quit what they have started. Some are afraid that the employment record of the dismissal will play a bad joke on them in the future.

You can come up with an infinite number of excuses. The result of this will be regret that the decision to leave the hated job was not made much earlier.

Do not wait suitable occasion because it will never come.

Main reasons

A clearly formulated list of reasons will help to give confidence in the correctness of the decision. First you need to write ten reasons for dismissal on a piece of paper. This list should be re-read periodically. Arrange the reasons you have collected in descending order of importance. Among them are the following:

You hate work.
Sunday evening is ruined by the thought of going to work.
In the morning, you watch the minute hand on your watch, hoping to bring the end of your day closer.
You have no desire to communicate with team members in an informal setting.
The results from doing the work are not satisfying.
Often there is a desire to evade assignments.
You started looking for vacancies in other companies.

Determine for yourself that you need to find two new reasons to quit each week. Here, a number of reasons will work to bolster your intentions to quit.

How more reasons for dismissal, the easier it is to do it

Why don't they quit

Psychologists pay attention to the fact that there are situations when you should not quit:

If the reason for leaving is a bad leader for you. According to experts, the bosses are not happy with anyone.
If you don't like the team. In a new place of work, colleagues can find it even harder.
If you are overwhelmed by a spontaneous decision to open your own business. To do this, you first need to create capital, monitor the market for the relevance of your undertaking.
When the other half began to earn significantly more. This can be a fickle factor and you have to go back to your old job.

Stay in the same place

Another list is worth writing. This will be a list of reasons that keep you in this job. On this leaflet, the number of points should decrease weekly by one or two reasons.

For each factor that prevents you from leaving your employer, come up with Alternative option... The fewer items remain on this list, the easier it will be to leave the company.

Consider even minor flaws

When making such lists, do not forget the slightest annoyances that create uncomfortable working conditions.

Ideas of the ideal job

Psychologists advise to sit down at the table and write a list, which should consist of one hundred points. These are the main points that characterize the vision of the ideal job.

Every morning the thought of work should bring a smile.

The list can be either typed in any text editor or handwritten. The second option is preferable. In this case, the process of creation slows down, but becomes more conscious and balanced.

When compiling such a list, it is worth using some rules:

The list must be made in one go. You can not be distracted by doing other things.
You cannot check what is written.
All items must be unique.
It is necessary to list everything. The list should include both global moments and trifles.

Analyzing this list, in the first 30 points you can see the reflection of daily thoughts about the need to change jobs. The next 40 numbers are transitional moments from everyday life to real ideas. The last 30 theses reflect the real goals and desires of the employee.

After rereading the carefully compiled list, mark the items that are present at the place of work. Your present to absent ratio will help you know when it's time to quit.

Prioritization

Another way to figure out whether to quit is to prioritize yourself. Today work provides a stable income, sometimes even bonuses. The enterprise is working, does not plan to close. This is what stops most people from writing their resignation letter.

In contrast to these points, one can put the absence career growth, general dissatisfaction with work. Such moments minimize all attempts to live a fulfilling life.

You cannot justify yourself by waiting for a suitable opportunity. Such a case will never come. You need to correctly build a chain of priorities. If the work has ceased to be an outlet, does not bring satisfaction, then feel free to write a letter of resignation.

When work is not the first place in your priorities, you need to leave

Overcome fears

Despite the insanely annoying team, the tyrant boss, low salaries, you are still afraid of being fired. Various fears can prevent you from making a decision to change jobs:

The fear of being unemployed or finding a new job is even worse than today.
Fear of not being significant.
Fear of what people will say.
The possibility of obtaining less wages.

To stop being afraid of being out of work, you need to raise your self-esteem. Otherwise, there will be no opportunity to change jobs. She herself will not come. To build confidence, read the affirmations daily morning and evening:

Every employee has the right to be noticed and appreciated. When applying for a new job, any person needs to start anew to achieve the respect of the team, the recognition of their professionalism. Do not forget that absolutely all employees employed in a particular enterprise are of equal importance in the production process performed.

If work is no longer a comfort zone, then you shouldn't feel guilty before the company for wanting to work in better conditions.

The human mentality is such that they will condemn all the same: you write a statement for the calculation or remain faithful to your enterprise.

The amount of salary is a strong argument to stay in the same place of work. In conditions of discomfort, it is worth reassessing your value system. If there is no time to spend the money you receive, free time have to be used for recovery mental strength, then the cost of these pieces of paper drops sharply.

Deal with your rhinestones before quitting your job. This will help free life from an unloved occupation and from a heavy burden of negative emotions.

Skills and abilities

When you have decided on all the reasons for leaving and dealt with your fears, you need to decide what you want to do next. Make a list of your abilities, skills that can help you realize your favorite job.

Mentally tune yourself to the fact that the new place of work will become a comfort zone. The assignments that will have to be carried out will be interesting. You will easily join new team... The responsibilities entrusted to you will not become a burden.

With such thoughts, the list of the most best skills compiled without difficulty. Confidence and determination will come with it.

A list of abilities or skills will give firmness to your decision.

Support for loved ones

It is difficult for a person to decide on a change in his life. This applies to any event. Therefore, it is very important that relatives or friends end up in the Allied camp and approve of their intentions.

Without support and under the pressure of fears, a person makes a weak decision

In order not to be left alone with possible problems from dismissal, it is advisable to enlist the support of like-minded people. To do this, you need to explain to your loved ones that the decision to quit is important to you. In the camp of like-minded people it is worth taking those people who think not in stereotypes, but on the basis of life's realities. When giving advice, they should be motivated by a desire to help accept correct solution and survive the consequences of its implementation.

Such a step before changing jobs is important even because people can help with advice, assess the situation from the outside. It may be that you change your mind about quitting. But in most cases, family support can help you overcome your fears, making you more confident and stronger.

Potential financial difficulties

It will be much easier for any person to quit if he is sure that during the search new job will not be shy. If you are thinking of quitting, you should take care of a certain supply of funds.

In order not to feel offended, it is advisable to have the amount of funds based on the six-month budget. One of the options for accumulation necessary funds is the postponement of part of the wages. It is worth considering other options for ensuring your life needs. It can be a part-time job, a combination of positions.

Save some money from each paycheck in a piggy bank

The more confident a person is in tomorrow, the easier it will be for him to write an application for calculation.

Action plan

Before leaving your usual place of work, draw up a kind of action plan for the first time after leaving. In this regard, there should be absolutely everything that you plan to do.

This even applies to the period of idleness. This is how it should be reflected in your plan: a two-week vacation. During this period of time, it is necessary to put your thoughts and deeds in order.

An action plan should be drawn up for each day. In it you need to pay attention to the smallest details. This is necessary so that in the first time after dismissal a person does not lose the ability to work.

The plan should contain descriptions of the goal, the means and skills that you have to achieve it. If you decide to find a job on the Internet, to become a freelancer, then the action plan may include the following points:

I want to find a job as a call center operator remotely within one month.
To do this kind of work, I have a well-posed speech, I am quite sociable.
I have all the necessary technical means to do this job.
I want to become a call center operator to realize my capabilities.

A plan like this can be a great incentive to get fired from a boring job. When drawing up a plan, it is better to play it safe and prepare three versions of such a document: the best, the worst and the realistic. Life can throw all kinds of surprises, and best plan won't work. And you will be ready for any development of the situation.

Payment

The last step in changing jobs is communicating your decision to management. Here, a collision with difficulties is inevitable. The dismissal process can be delayed. In most cases, management is reluctant to part with subordinates. Bosses find more and more reasons to leave a person in the same place.

This is not a reason to despair. Mentally repeat to yourself that you are parting with your unloved work, you will be doing what you love, ready for change. Write a letter of resignation, give it to management and do not regret what you did.

There are many new and interesting things ahead. On the day of dismissal from an unloved job labor activity does not end. New achievements and interesting people await ahead.

Many people are not ready to write a letter of resignation. This is how our world works.

We are ready to endure injustice towards ourselves in fear of letting the "tit" out of our hands, rarely thinking that the "pie" in the sky can do more good to us.

If a difficult atmosphere develops at the workplace, dissatisfaction with oneself as a specialist grows, do not linger in this "swamp". Write a statement, pay off. Your life will acquire different colors and sparkle in a new way.