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The dependence of a person on the opinion of society. What is a normal reaction

"Loyalty and treason"








110. Can a dream be changed?


"Indifference and responsiveness"









210. Why is indifference dangerous?

"Goals and Means"











"Courage and cowardice"











"Human and society"











Central Federal District, Southern Federal District, Northwestern Federal District, Volga Federal District, North Caucasian Federal District, Crimean Federal District

111. When can betrayal be forgiven?
201. What actions of a person speak of his responsiveness?
305. Is happiness built on the misfortune of others possible?
403. How does courage differ from recklessness?
508. Is public opinion wrong?

Volga Federal District

Udmurt Republic, Samara region

113. Can there be an excuse for treason?
209. When is indifference ostentatious?
311. Do you agree with the statement of B.L. Pasternak: "We must set ourselves tasks above our strength"?
405. What role can a cowardly act play in the fate of a person?
511. Conflict of generations as a social problem.

Northwestern Federal District

Kaliningrad region

106. Values ​​to which you can be faithful all your life ...
211. Do you agree with the statement that indifference impoverishes a person's life?
308. What can be sacrificed for the sake of achieving a great goal?
411. What helps a person to overcome fear?
513. What kind of person can be called an established personality?

Ural federal district

108. What does it mean to be faithful to duty?
204. Can a responsive person be lonely?
310. What kind of person is called purposeful?
402. Do you agree with the opinion that courage is the ability to overcome fear?
507. What can be the sources of disharmony between the individual and the society?

Siberian Federal District

Altai region, Novosibirsk region, Republic of Altai, Tomsk region, Krasnoyarsk region, Republic of Tyva, Republic of Khakassia, Kemerovo region

109. As you understand the phrase from the novel by M.A. Bulgakov's "White Guard": "But not a single person should break the word of honor, because it will be impossible to live in the world"?
202. What person is called responsive?
313. What is the difference between a goal and a dream?
412. In what life situations do you need to be ready for bold actions?
503. When can a person feel lonely in society?

Omsk region

101. When a person is faced with a choice between loyalty and betrayal?
205. Do you agree that your own suffering and difficulties make a person more responsive?
304. What goals in life can be considered the main ones?
409. How are cowardice and weakness connected?
504. Can one person resist the surrounding society?

Irkutsk region

110. Can a dream be changed?
206. How are responsiveness and unselfishness related to each other?
309. What helps people to achieve their goals?
407. Why can a person be afraid to express his position?
510. Do you agree with the proverb “One is not a warrior in the field”?

Zabaykalsky Krai

102. How and why do they become traitors?
208. Is indifference a man's fault or his misfortune?
303. Does it make sense to set unattainable goals for yourself?
413. Do you agree with the statement of N.М. Karamzin: "Courage is a great property of the soul"?
512. What does it mean to be an authoritative person in society?

Far Eastern Federal District

Magadan Region

107. When can we say about a person that he is true to himself?
203. Do you consider the concepts "responsiveness" and "mercy" synonymous?
312. How do you understand the words of the philosopher I. Kant: "A person should always be a goal and never a means"?
406. Is the principle good: “whatever happens ...”?
502. What role can a strong personality play in the life of society?

Jewish Autonomous Region, Primorsky Territory, Khabarovsk Territory

112. What reasons can lead a person to betrayal?
210. Why is indifference dangerous?
306. Is the striving for an unattainable ideal justified?
404. Is courage given by nature or is it brought up in a person?
506. Can a person put himself above society?

Kamchatka Territory, Chukotka Autonomous District

104. Who can be called a true friend?
213. Do you agree with the statement of the writer K. Lewis: “ Main enemy love - indifference, not hatred "?
307. What should be guided in the choice of life goals?
401. What helps a person to become courageous?
505. Is it possible to be independent from public opinion?

What the task looks like:

My colleague married for work. And I would be happy for her, if not for one "but" ... She got married for the sake of public opinion. At that time she was 29 years old. She often complained that tactless people they just don't give her a pass: "Are you still not married? You are already an old maid! Another year, and no one will take you!" "Hurry up, you need to give birth to a child, we want grandchildren. Yes, and people are ashamed, they gossip about you that you are abnormal," the parents pressed. So she married the first one who offered to calm her parents down and raise people's opinion of themselves. How much do we depend on public opinion? Can and should we fight this? Do we benefit from what people think of us?

Positive addiction: a sense of collectivity

We all live in society... Whether we like it or not, we depend on other people. We are surrounded by colleagues, friends, or just acquaintances. Each of us is an independent person with our own character, habits, lifestyle. But as soon as we unite in a group, the opinion of others becomes significant for everyone. Do you know the phrase "for the company"? It is entirely possible to do something that you do not like, just out of a sense of solidarity and collectivism.

I, for example, recently with a cheerful company Had a great time at the rink, although I don't skate myself at all, and it doesn't give me any pleasure. But in the company I was completely sincerely happy and agreed that the skating rink was wonderful. Of course, we are influenced by the "crowd", otherwise there would not have been revolutions on earth, television would not have affected us, and pop artists would not have had such success.

Probably it is quite fine to be a part of society, to feel like belonging to something big, to exchange energy with hundreds and millions of their own kind. In addition, public opinion allows us to improve and grow. Why is it prestigious to study in a good institution of higher education? Because then we will be able to claim a high step in society, and people will respect us. It seems to be ordinary public opinion, but we are pleased with it, it satisfies our ambitions, increases self-esteem.

Child with childhood teach what is decent and what is indecent in society, and thus instill good manners and culture of behavior. All the same, the opinion of people cannot be indifferent to us, and the benefits of it are obvious. After all, we all want to be surrounded by people, and be pleasant to them. But sometimes our dependence on public opinion goes beyond all reasonable boundaries ...


Negative addiction: the ugly duckling syndrome

Everyone individual... Each of us has our own habits, our own character, and our own. For some, these tastes coincide, they are united in interest groups. And for some reason you stand out from the crowd, and have the audacity to disagree with them, defend your point of view. Like the ugly duckling from Andersen's tale. Of course they don't like you. Dissent has been persecuted at all times. By the way, the case with my colleague and her marriage is far from an isolated one.

If in society, in which You rotate, it is customary to be married and unhappy, then you will be misunderstood if you dare to be happy and unmarried. This is not normal, it is not in accordance with the principles of society. And, of course, you are worried that you are not accepted, that you restrain your best qualities, "kill" talents in yourself, and in the end, you agree with the opinion of the majority. You are adjusting your life to the frame of public opinion. Imagine that a person chooses his own destiny. Choose: either you will do what the environment prescribes for you, or you will be able to resist it, and in two years all your desires will come true. It is your desires, and not your parents, or colleagues who are so persistently trying to condemn your dissimilarity to them. What will you choose then? Maybe you should always keep your own beacon in sight, and go to your desired happiness your own way, and not rely on the opinion of the majority? After all, people need to talk about something. They will always discuss events and other people, and believe me, they will not discuss anything boring and banal. Since they talk about you, it means that you are interesting!

History with by marriage my colleague happened five years ago. Since then, she managed to divorce her husband, lose her specialist qualifications, and the granddaughter, whom her grandparents wanted so much, turned out to be an ordinary child with whims, illnesses and a bunch of needs. But now people do not say anything about her. She is like everyone else. She became uninteresting to them. Listen to public opinion, but don't break yourself. They will forget, and you have to live with it. By the way, each person is much more concerned with what society thinks about himself. Therefore, do not take public opinion seriously that condemns your values, but rather use a healthy sense of teamwork for joy and pleasure.

In this article, I want to touch on a very important topic which, in my opinion, is a very serious problem for modern society, this is - public opinion... The thought that public opinion is something important, it is a trend, it is an indicator of people's mood, it is something that should be listened to and followed, is firmly in the minds of many people.

There are even special institutions, foundations that conduct public opinion research, the results of these studies are published in the media, they are studied by analysts, millions, tens of millions of people are guided by them only within one country.

But this is not yet the most important thing. There are also special organizations, the main task which - the formation of public opinion. Through the media, the Internet, people are made to believe in certain thoughts and ideas, to form stereotypes, to induce certain actions... The authorities always need the “necessary” public opinion, because people with the “necessary” opinion are easier to manage, and business representatives also need it in order to form them in people.

And, as practice shows, it is not so difficult to form public opinion if you have sufficient financial resources for this, have controlled media, etc. First, it gets into the minds of the most dependent and influenced people, and then it is transmitted between people to each other. In general, it is quite simple to form the necessary public opinion, in view of the low literacy of modern society, the inability of most people to think critically.

There is one more interesting moment... Public opinion on many issues is passed down from generation to generation and thus may lose its relevance. This is perfectly demonstrated, for example, by the fact that on the territory post-Soviet space many people, even more than 25 years after the collapse of the USSR, continue to think in Soviet, socialist-communist categories, which have long lost their relevance, and have been replaced by capitalist ones.

Such incorrect, irrelevant public opinion exerts its own Negative influence not only directly to people who adhere to it, but also to those who are nearby and have a different point of view. Simply because many are psychologically afraid to act in opposition to public opinion, they are afraid of condemnation, they are afraid of “what people will say”. And it is to this problem that I want to devote this article.

People's dependence on other people's public opinion is a real scourge of modern society. Such dependence is very often a powerful brake on development, prevents a person from being what he wants, to do what he likes, and prevents him from finding his own happiness in life. Due to their dependence on public opinion, many people do not transform their own, respectively, do not realize them, do not use their potential in anything. The fear of condemnation makes life boring, monotonous, monotonous, makes it compulsory to follow some generally accepted standards, even if they are alien to a person, even if he experiences negative feelings from this. I think that it is largely due to this problem that we see around so many gloomy and dissatisfied people with their lives.

Let's look at some examples of public opinion that can negatively affect individuals:

  1. After school, a person must go to college.
  2. You need to study well, for high marks.
  3. After graduation, a person must get a job.
  4. The main indicator of success is career advancement.
  5. V a certain age a person must have a family and children, who have not - something is wrong with him.
  6. Certain areas of earnings are a scam (, etc.).
  7. If a person has a “normal” job, he is a fine fellow; if not, he is a loser.
  8. The success of a person is evidenced by his external accessories(how he dresses, where he rests, what he drives, etc.).
  9. Money should be kept “under the pillow,” any investment is a divorce.
  10. It is necessary to observe the traditions in the work collective: to give each other gifts and celebrate joint holidays, to work overtime because it is “so customary”, and so on.
  11. It is necessary to throw off gifts for teachers, supervisors, inspectors, etc.
  12. If a person has “too much” money - he is a thief and a swindler: it is impossible to earn money honestly.
  13. You need to be “like everyone else” - no one likes upstarts.

These are just a few examples, I took mainly those related to the site's theme: money, work, earnings, success. In fact, there are many more such examples, and they relate to absolutely all areas of life. The main conclusion that I want to draw in this article is the following:

  • No money - you are a rogue, nothing;
  • Little money (like everyone else) - you are a gray mass, hopeless, not capable of anything;
  • A lot of money - you are a snickering bourgeois, a thief, you cause contempt.

Well, to make it completely clear, I will give personal example... Many already know, but for others - I will say again that first, after graduation, I long time worked in a bank, last years- in a managerial position: he headed a branch of a large bank in his small town. This job was considered prestigious and highly paid (my salary was 5-6 times higher than the average in the city). I wrote about this in more detail in a separate article: if you are interested, read it. And at one point I quit my job.

Of course, public opinion could not positively assess this act. Then I did not meet a single person who would say: “Well, right, there is nothing to do there!”. On the contrary, everyone expressed some kind of sympathy, anxiety, even disapproval: "Well, now what next?" And then I didn't even really try to look new job(public opinion was surprised by this), did nothing for a while, lived on passive income.

Then he began to study, in which he quickly reached his previous level of active income and even exceeded it, while spending much less labor, time and responsibility than previous work in the bank. When my former banking acquaintances asked me what I was doing, I said that I write articles for sale, they perceived it with the following air: “Well, yes, at least something, it's hard for everyone now…”.

Then I transferred the main forces to work on this site, refusing to cooperate with many other Internet projects, and later with all of them. At first, the site did not bring any income at all, and public opinion (some people who knew about it) also took it without much positive: “Why give up what you have, for the sake of something that you do not understand, which promises a lot foggy prospects? ”.

As a result, many, when they see the current results of my activity, understand that they were wrong. And someone still does not understand: "what to fish here?" - Well, okay.

In general, you understand ... Here's how to focus on public opinion?

Once again, I am clearly showing you that public opinion is nonsense: live as you see fit, do what you think is necessary, strive for what you think is necessary, and achieve it! It will be better for you that way!

I hope that after reading this article, public opinion will start to worry you at least a little less. And you will begin to more independently draw conclusions in various life situations and make decisions based on your own, and not someone's, judgments. In my opinion, this is more correct. Well, dependence on someone else's opinion is always bad.

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Good day to you, dear readers Of a wonderful world! Today the article is not easy - about the dependence of public opinion, and by the way, I noticed this problem is present in absolutely all my acquaintances, like me. Let's figure out what kind of attack it is.

Any person is part of the whole society. And without his influence, a person cannot develop. It is through interaction with society that a person acquires a set of social skills necessary for life. But if society or its opinion on an individual person is influenced excessively, then this can lead to adverse consequences.

Public opinion is the opinion of those who are not asked.

There are quite a few people for whom public opinion matters too much. And if they have to choose between by their own desires and aspirations and public opinion, they will most likely be guided precisely by the latter.

Public opinion and family

For example, a specific married couple lived in legal marriage more than a dozen years. But over time, people realized that not everything is going well in their relationship and they would like to get a divorce. However, such an impulse will shackle dependence on public opinion. It is very important for people what others or just acquaintances can think or say about them. What might people think?

Almost everyone who is highly dependent on the opinion of society asks this question. However, psychologists are inclined to believe that such an addiction for the person himself is absolutely not an ounce of benefit. From her there is no practical help... On the contrary, such dependence often puts people in strictly limited frames in their behavior.

As a result, you can live your whole life completely guided only by the opinion of someone else, and push your true aspirations into the background. But let's think together, who is more capable of influencing the thoughts and even actions of people so dependent on the opinion of society? After all, society as a whole cannot influence a person, since it is only an abstract category. Therefore, a specific person will also be influenced by specific individuals. And among them, parents should be singled out separately.

Children at a certain age tend to move away emotionally at a certain distance from the people around whom they spent their entire childhood. At the same time, if the parents raised the child correctly, then it is completely normal if in the future he will go on an independent "voyage" through life.

However, there are a considerable number of already matured children who not only continue to live in their parents' house, but are guided in their actions by their attitudes. In this regard, ordinary laziness is perhaps the key determining factor. But the numerous complexes existing in a person play an equally important role.

A person can be influenced by public opinion, the tone of which is also set by so-called authoritative personalities. Their role can be successfully played by friends or some unfamiliar but respected people. Often, such an authoritative person for a person becomes his immediate boss, one of the employees, or persons in charge of the country. The latter can influence specific people using the media for this.

Estimated dependence

Dependence on public opinion can wear different character... Some people just panic if someone comments on their clothes. Others are guided by public opinion even when making vital decisions. Excessive dependence can eventually transform into different shapes and types. Thus, some people literally worship their authorities and completely trust them to determine the course of their lives.

Particular cases of such blind dependence are, for example, unconditional adherence fashion trends, desire to always avoid possible conflicts v in public places, striving for everyone to be good. Often, a person dependent on the surrounding opinion trusts his parents or someone close to him to decide for himself what educational institution it is better for him to enter and which of the professions to choose for subsequent work.

Where does the dependence on public opinion come from?

Dependence on public opinion does not appear in a person by accident. There are quite understandable and analyzable reasons for this. However, most often these reasons determine addiction in their totality. Their source is various childhood fears, teenage complexes, the habits of choosing someone else's plan for themselves as the basis for life.

As a result, a person becomes incapable of doing conscious, reasonable, and most importantly, independent choice... So gradually anxiety becomes familiar to him. A person does not have the opportunity to live his own life. He takes only a passive part in it. Constant discomfort and pessimistic mood settles in the soul.

The pressure of public opinion on a person can be so strong that some are afraid to even make an unnecessary movement or step. They are driven only by the fear of encountering condemnation from other people and their sidelong glances. It is not uncommon for children whose parents have taught them that it is indecent to do certain things in the presence of others, or it is impossible to behave in public in any particular way, that children become dependent on the opinions of others.

Of course, it is important to teach the child the elementary rules of politeness, tact, and so on. useful things... However, for everything else, he must form his own opinion. Otherwise, the child will live in a state of constraint with numerous fears, complexes and other prejudices.

How to get rid of public influence?

A person can get rid of the influence of public opinion. To do this, first of all, you need to understand that other strangers to you, in fact, are indifferent to your own life and the actions that you perform. Therefore, it is absolutely pointless to be afraid of condemnation on their part.

Moreover, many people are also extremely reticent in their behavior in the same way that you are. And they are also very scared to come across condemnation or rejection of their actions by society. And even if someone begins to condemn the way you look, behave, or say something, then after a few minutes, others will simply forget about this expression of opinion.

Of course, in this case, we are not talking about such acts or even crimes that, according to general rules are beyond the bounds of reason. However, you have the right to boldly and without fear to carry out the whole set of other actions, aspirations and words based on your personal desires. Public pressure is often just a thing you make up.

However, work with personal fears, as well as with complexes, you must carry out on your own. After all, no one knows them better than you yourself. If you yourself cannot cope with them, then it is permissible and even desirable to turn to a psychologist for help. It is for him that it is easiest and easiest to help you in your difficulties. It is extremely important for you only to admit to yourself that you still have some problems.

Set yourself up to fight this negative addiction. Those people who depend on the opinion of someone else are actually most afraid of the disapproval of others. Exactly this factor scares the person the most. As a result, a person is exposed to constant moralizing. But even that is not scary. The scary thing is that it seems to a person that these moral teachings are fair and fully justified in relation to him.

Psychologists recommend saying the essence of your fears out loud. It will be much easier to deal with them this way. Getting rid of any addiction should be gradual. It is important for you to tune yourself to such deliverance, then public opinion will no longer dictate its will to you, and you will find freedom and harmony of your soul.

Man is a social creature who, from childhood, is in close contact with society. Thanks to those around us, we grow and develop, absorbing the experience of communication. Too much strong influence society on the person can cause a lot of complexes and fears. This must not be allowed. Each of us knows the basic rules of conduct in public places, and we adhere to them.

Dependence on public opinion

There are individuals who do not care what people think of them. The third category is very afraid of public opinion and builds their lives so as not to arouse public interest. This is a direct dependence on public opinion, the excess of which negatively affects Everyday life.

Possible reasons

It is no coincidence that people become dependent on the opinions of others. The reasons may vary.

  1. Childhood is the main source of addiction. Complexes for children and adolescence serve as the basis for the formation of dependence on public opinion.
  2. Often addiction is because we choose someone else's life as the basis for ours. Sooner or later, others will find out about this and begin to criticize our choice.

As a result of these reasons, the personality becomes closed. She is not able to take after this independent decisions if you are not sure that they will be accepted by the society. A feeling of anxiety gradually overcomes. A person loses the opportunity to live the way he would like him, and not those around him. He accepts the role of a performer in his life, not noticing that he is led by society, like a puppet. A constant discomfort settles in the soul, which haunts.

The pressure from the outside is so strong that sometimes we are afraid to take an extra step towards achieving our dreams. Often, dependence on public opinion is formed by the same dependent parents. The child should be taught the rules of etiquette, but his life should never be overwhelmed.

Personal and public

The couple has been married for many decades, but relationship problems arise that force people to divorce. If people are dependent on public opinion, they will never do this, because they will be afraid of condemnation from the outside. They will suffer, but continue to pretend that everything is fine in the family, so as not to become a topic for conversation of neighbors, friends and acquaintances.

Experienced psychologists are convinced that craving for public opinion does not do any good. She simply drives into the framework that interferes with life. Therefore, people live with the unloved only in order not to arouse the suspicion of others.

The whole essence of public opinion

Signs of addiction

Experts have identified several signs of dependence on public opinion. Among these should be highlighted:

  • it is difficult for a person to independently decide when buying basic things (clothes, equipment and even food);
  • in the making controversial issue such an individual tries to consult with the one whom he considers best;
  • the person loves praise and regularly expects it;
  • addicted people are afraid to express their opinion, as they are afraid to be ridiculed;
  • lack of confidence in yourself and your strengths;
  • a person is afraid to change something in his life, therefore he never brings what he started to the end;
  • such people adapt to others and fulfill the whims of stronger and more independent people;
  • individual in social networks demonstrates every event: holidays, going to the cinema, to a concert, etc., so that others can watch and understand what a busy life he has.

And this is not the whole list of signs that a person is dependent on someone else's opinion, but most often these symptoms appear.

Getting rid of the disorder

What is the name of a person dependent on the opinions of others and how you can get rid of it: in psychology there is no definite term for this phenomenon, but experts were able to develop a plan for diagnosing and treating the problem. You can get rid of addiction in different ways:

  • help of a psychologist;
  • support of loved ones;
  • self-confidence and the ability to ignore the opinions of others.

The patient is obliged to understand that the people around him do not really need the way you live. Some actions can cause discussion, but after a few days any event is forgotten, and other news replaces it. it normal process to come to terms with. The success of this therapy is entirely up to you. If you become more confident in yourself, stop thinking about others, then success in overcoming the problem is 100% guaranteed. In order to get rid of addiction as quickly as possible, you should seek the help of a professional psychologist.

The influence of public opinion is complex psychological problem that interferes with our daily life. If you want to get rid of it heavy load, take the advice of a specialist who will tell you what exercises will help in overcoming your fears.