Hundreds of books are devoted to the question of self-development. Thousands of articles have been created to help a person improve themselves. But the number of critical life beliefs is not so great. Here is a list of issues that are important for understanding by every conscious person.

Life is not a walk with fun. Not everything in life goes according to plan. What we have conceived often does not coincide with reality at all, which is often the cause of depression, self-doubt, depression. It is worth understanding that failure and unpredictable events are an integral part of life. Accept given fact and look for opportunities to learn from failure.

Justification is evil. Fill your life with excuses, and you will plunge into the abyss of suffering. Do not make excuses for your own stupidity or your own flaws. Work on them and don't let the situation repeat itself, then you won't have to make excuses again.

Doing more than thinking. Planning - useful activity... But constant planning without action is a road to nowhere. Don't waste time planning and rescheduling. If you are planning to do it, proceed to the implementation. If you don't start acting right away, doubts, fears and worries will get stronger and swallow you and your ability to act.

An assertive person will always reach the finish line. It is not for nothing that they say that success is a movement from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm. Keep moving towards your goal, even if not everything works out right away. Every success has a price, and if you are willing to pay the required price, then you will have it.

Change or fail. Persistence is only appropriate if you draw conclusions from previous failed attempts. After all, if you do the same thing many times in the same way, then you can hardly expect a different result. Life sometimes confronts us with solving the same problem until we learn to find the right way solutions. Sometimes it is worthwhile to first understand the problem, then the solution will become clear.

Cast out fear. Anyone who is afraid to fall out of the rut and try their hand at something else succumbs to fear. Fear is not acceptable in a life of truly successful and happy person... But we can overcome every fear, it is enough just to look fear in the eye. Afraid of heights - jump with a parachute. If you are afraid to ride a bike, borrow a bike from your neighbor and go down the hill. Afraid of dogs - get yourself a home St. Bernard.

Positivity is the mood of the favorites. Positive people look for opportunities in every endeavor and, surprisingly, they find them. A positive person does not regret the past; he enjoys what he has. He is not afraid of challenges, he is afraid that he will not try to do what he really wants. Do not live in the past, do not regret what you missed, be positive and infect others with positive.

Our reality today is what we want to see it. If a person really wants to live differently, he will certainly dare to change his life.

Today Muhammad Ali is recognized as the greatest boxer in history. However, at the very beginning of his career, long before he achieved success, Ali was just one of many young athletes striving to achieve world fame.

You may also remember the day when the headlines of all sports publications were graced with the bold statement: "I am the greatest boxer!"

These words were spoken by a young man named Cassius Clay before the first serious fight of his life. At first, the media ridiculed Clay's arrogance, but after the newcomer defeated Sonny Liston himself, all the journalists took their words back. Clay didn't just win, he predicted his victory.

Cassius Clay, later Ali, began his triumphant march around the world with the words "I am the greatest boxer of all time!" It should be noted that he learned not only to predict the outcome of the fight, but also to name the round in which he will win (as time has shown, his predictions most often came true).

How did he do it? Was he really blessed with foresight? Did he possess any secret knowledge or mystical power?

We confidently answer these questions in the affirmative. The mystical power possessed by Muhammad Ali is called the power of suggestion. This great power possess words in which a person sincerely believes, which make him believe in himself and subsequently become reality.

Influence of the power of suggestion

We would like to draw your attention to the fact that Muhammad Ali never said: "I am a great boxer", "I am one of the best" or "B next year I will become the greatest boxer in history. ”No, he always spoke very briefly and clearly:“ I am the greatest boxer! ”Saying this simple phrase, he simultaneously performed three major tasks.

First, he clearly defined the goal to achieve which his subconscious should strive. Considering the fact that on subconscious level a person is not able to perceive the past or future tense, he automatically forced himself to fully concentrate on the present. He cultivated a belief in the truth of his words and his own strength.

Secondly, making such a statement, he inspired his own subconsciousness that there was no turning back, he knew “that now he must only go forward and confirm his words with real actions.

Thirdly, he convinced others that he would certainly achieve his goal. He was aware of the impact of the power of suggestion. That is why, before the start of each fight, he tried to make sure that the future rival heard his statements. If Ali said that he would win in the third round, at the subconscious level his opponent was already preparing to leave the ring after the second. The power of Ali's suggestion was so great that it helped him to influence not only his own subconscious, but also the subconscious of everyone around him. In the end, his intentions always materialized.

It is also important that Ali used various techniques suggestions. He demonstrated faith in himself not only with words, but also with body movements and facial expressions. So, even during the breaks between rounds, he never sat in the corner of the ring and tried not to lose eye contact with a rival. Such actions, of course, were methods of suggestion - they helped him to believe in his own invulnerability and made others believe in it.

In conclusion, we would like to emphasize that Muhammad Ali actually had a unique boxing talent, but he was also endowed with amazing psychological abilities. Long before entering the ring, Ali won great victories one after another in his mind.

Impact of negative statements

By instilling in himself a certain opinion, a person thereby protects his subconscious mind from the beliefs of others. The fact is that our subconscious is ready to accept any thought on faith, thus providing an opportunity for other people to influence our mood, worldview and views. So, if you hear a negative statement (for example, that you lack self-confidence, ability, luck, and so on), you subconsciously tune in to negative perceptions, which, in turn, will affect your actions. Remember: negative statements always generate negative results.

An excellent example of the existence of such a relationship is the case of the talented athlete Mary Decker on Olympic Games 1984 year. Outstanding runner Mary Decker was America's real star and great hope in athletics... However, in almost all interviews that Mary gave even before the start of the Olympics, we heard the same phrase: "I feel like I was jinxed! I was jinxed ... I was jinxed ..."

We are sure that Mary did not think about the consequences while uttering these words. At that moment, she was under tremendous pressure and was not aware of her own actions, but her subconscious mind immediately reacted to negative statements and the results were not long in coming. At the 1984 Olympics, Mary Dekker really acted as if she was jinxed ...

Negative perception makes a person's subconscious mind tune in worst result - this is the unshakable law of causation. The main problem is that too many of us focus solely on the result, while cause and effect are one. We never think about what led us to failure, error, or failure. We do not realize that we find ourselves in certain life circumstances for some certain reason... We do not notice that we have deliberately directed our internal energy to achieve a negative result.

Only faith in yourself will help you achieve your goal in any circumstances.

In support of the above, we would like to tell you a parable about a young monk, which we usually use in our seminars. So, the young novice came to the monastery, crossing the threshold of which all monks, according to the established custom, must vow of silence. Just once a year, each of them is given the opportunity to contact the abbot of the monastery and say a phrase consisting of no more than three words.

A year passed, and the abbot asked the young monk:

Is there anything you want to tell me?

The bed is too hard, - answered the young man. The abbot nodded his head in understanding and told him to go back.

Another year passed, and the abbot again turned to the young monk with the same question. This time the young man said:

The food is too scarce.

The abbot nodded his head in understanding and told him to go back.

At the end of the third year, the young monk appeared before the abbot and said, without waiting for the question:

That's it I'm leaving!

The abbot just shook his head and said:

It is not surprising that you no longer have the strength, because all this time you only did what you complained ...

The reason for any failure lies in the negative perception of the world around him and his own personality, which makes a person unconsciously strive for negative result, and vice versa - if a person has positive attitude, the subconscious leads him the shortest path to best result... Everything is very simple. Try it and you can see it for yourself.

We are able to achieve everything that our mind can comprehend and what it can believe.

(Napoleon Hill)

If you really want to achieve your goal, the first thing you need to do is believe that you can do it. It's not enough to just dream and hope that your dreams will come true by themselves. Remember: any action is based on faith and in order to achieve desired result, you have to believe in yourself. The more you believe in success, the greater the result will be.

The key to success in any endeavor is the conscious confidence that you are able to achieve your goal. We mentioned in previous chapters that the first thing you should do is write down your goal on paper. Next, you need to resort to visualization techniques, and then turn to the power of suggestion. It is the power of suggestion that will show you the way to the world of fulfilled desires.

Writer and actor Will Rogers once remarked, "I only know what I read about in today's newspaper." Perhaps we do not know for certain what he meant, but we know for sure that it is really easier for a person to perceive information presented in writing.

Another truth is that we are all susceptible to suggestion. Recall that repeated statements give us confidence. Every time you loudly utter a positively charged phrase, you can be sure that you have at least one listener - your own subconscious. It immediately reacts to your words and makes you believe in their justice. So, if you lack self-confidence, but, despite this, you are trying to gain faith in success, the subconscious mind will definitely support you, asking: "Why not? Perhaps you will succeed ..."

However, even more pressure on his subconscious is exerted by a person who makes a statement in front of a large audience. For example, if in a circle of acquaintances you claim that you will certainly achieve your goal, you literally force the subconscious mind to tell you the following: “Well, now you have only one way out - to succeed! You must confirm your words with actions, otherwise everything these people will consider you a fool or just a chatterbox. I think it's time for me to get to work - I can't leave you alone in such a situation. "

The power of suggestion helps a person get rid of doubts and inner fears. She makes him believe in his own strength at the subconscious level.

How to use the power of suggestion?

Now that we know what role suggestion plays in building the future, achieving success, and making dreams come true, we need to figure out how to use this power properly.

Like all listeners of our seminars, we invite you to use the self-hypnosis technique given below. Most likely, at first it will not be very convenient for you to perform this exercise in the presence of others, but there is nothing wrong with that. Take your time - remember that the main thing is not speed, but quality.

1. First of all, stand up. As you know, a person's ability to concentrate directly depends on the position of the body. We always advise people to use this technique in a wide variety of life situations... Suppose, for example, that you need to do an extremely important phone call... We assure you that if you talk while standing, the results will surprise not only you, but also your interlocutor. You will literally feel how the whole body is filled with strength and a powerful wave emanates from you. positive energy, enthusiasm and self-confidence.

2. During the suggestion process, pinch yourself lightly - this will allow you to maintain a sense of reality. Don't forget that forefinger is the most sensitive organ of touch. By opening the door to consciousness, he allows a person to "see" everything he touches. In this context, the main function thumb is to give more greater strength index. Thus, by pinching yourself with these two fingers, you force your mind to fully focus on the process and gain determination.

3. Finally, in conclusion, utter the suggested statement loudly and clearly. Make sure your voice does not tremble and sounds confident. Feel like you are serious!

If you happen to watch another episode " Star Wars"titled" The Empire Strikes Back ", you can easily remember the restless Yoda. This graduate of the Jedi pedagogical institute tried to explain to Luke Skywalker the meaning of the power of suggestion - the greatest power in the universe. He told his student: "Remember, Luke, there is no such thing as" try ", so never say" I will try ... ", say" I can! "The great power of suggestion gives a person an amazing ability to predict the future and turn words into real events.

It is in these simple words and the truth is contained. A person is able to inspire himself or others with almost any thought. The main thing is to remember that doubts and fears creep into our consciousness in the same way as belief in success. We sincerely advise you to avoid phrases such as "I will try to be the best", "I will try to be beautiful" or "I will try to win." Is it worth wasting your precious energy to force yourself to doubt your own abilities?

The suggested phrase should not be too long, pretentious or well-known (you should not use fixed expressions, as this phrase should not matter to anyone else but you). The key to success is brevity, so be clear about the essence. In addition, do not forget that the subconscious of a person is not able to perceive the past or future tense, which means that you need to adhere to the framework of the present.

You must pronounce the suggested phrase as convincingly as possible. When you feel yourself starting to stutter and get confused, start over. If you cannot pronounce the cherished phrase, shout it (in some cases, a lot depends on the volume). Get rid of shyness and doubts, push the boundaries and convey your message to the very depths of the subconscious!

The more often the better

Please note that the process of suggestion must be constant. The more often you perform the corresponding exercise, the faster your consciousness will be included in the work and the sooner you will achieve your goal. Control your mind - don't let it control you.

Stand in front of the mirror and say loudly: "I am genius and unique! I have many talents in me, and I skillfully use them in my life."

According to Indian philosophy, a phrase uttered ten thousand times automatically becomes a mantra, that is, a constantly repeated thought, responsible for shaping the future and capable of changing a person's destiny. By regularly applying the technique of self-hypnosis, you will discover the opportunity to plunge into the most hidden corners of the subconscious and lift the veil of your future.

Once we began to instill in ourselves the idea that with the help of today's popular network marketing we will sell more than one and a half million copies of the book. " Chicken soup for the soul "(" Chicken Soup for the Soul "). Today we can confidently declare that we have coped with the task.

The area of \u200b\u200byour subconscious responsible for doing this work will certainly answer you. Sooner or later yours inner voice will begin to mirror the phrase you repeatedly uttered, and you will hear: "You are genius and unique!" Gradually, the suggested affirmation will drive out all negative and destructive thoughts from your consciousness, opening the way for you to harmony, happiness and success.

What ideas should we instill in ourselves.

We have already examined the technique of suggestion and found that the success of its application depends on the frequency of the exercises, but another logical question arises: what ideas should we inspire ourselves?

Of course, this question is purely individual, and each person should look for the answer in himself. It will not be difficult for you to do this if you have set a clear goal for yourself. We advise you to define one main (that is, constant) and several auxiliary statements that will change depending on life circumstances.

Stand in front of the mirror and say out loud: "I have a unique talent and I am using it successfully in practice!"

When formulating an individual suggested statement, remember the main components - positive charge, brevity, accuracy, constructiveness and ease of perception. This phrase should be imprinted in your subconscious, just as, after repeated listening, you memorize the words when you wake up and when you go to bed. Morning impressions play especially important role in the life of every person. Disheveled hair, sleepy eyes complete absence makeup or piercing stubble - that's what we see in the mirror in the morning. A completely natural reaction in this situation is a feeling of dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction with yourself (of course, if you are not a rare exception to the rule). We let out a sad sigh, and the new day loses its charm in our eyes - we find ourselves at the mercy of negative perception.

What a person experiences at the moment when he surrenders to power negative thoughts? Doesn't he thus send a negative signal to his subconscious? Doesn't he make himself think that he doesn't look good enough every morning when he looks in the mirror? How will such negative perceptions affect his mood? How will he feel during the day? Perhaps he will be overwhelmed by feelings of anxiety, not allowing him to focus on the work? Will he be able to succeed? Will his subconscious mind strive with all its might to achieve the set goal or, on the contrary, will it do everything to prevent this?

Stand in front of the mirror and say loudly: "I have a great dream, and now I am making it a reality!"

However, everything can be completely different if, waking up in the morning and looking at your reflection in the mirror, you smile and say to yourself: "You know, and you look very good," or even "You're just handsome!" Try it and you will see that it is not difficult at all.

Try to stop reading this book right now and smile at yourself. Take a deep, slow breath and just smile. Feel like simple smile completely changes your mood and worldview. Don't wait for something or someone who will make you happy - become happy right now! You can fill your body vitality, energy and joy without anyone's help - the choice is yours. Remember: a smile is the easiest and reliable way change a negative attitude to a positive one.

Start your day with a smile. Look at yourself with love and every morning, looking in the mirror, say to yourself: "Hello. I love you very much, today you and I will have another wonderful day."

Live your every day with love and faith in success. Walk through life with the knowledge that you are capable of achieving everything that you dream of.

We all need to answer the following question: "What do I think and say about myself?" Do you choose to love or hate, inspire or disappoint, help or harm yourself? Do not forget that the first person to whom you must produce good impressionbefore you leave the house in the morning - it's you! You, not anyone else, must believe in yourself. If you can love and appreciate yourself, the whole world will love and appreciate you.

Multimillionaire W. Clement Stone, owner of Aeon Corporation in Chicago, reminds his employees every morning to address themselves with the words: "I feel amazing. I am healthy. I am beautiful." He taught hundreds of thousands of his subordinates to use this technique suggestions to help them achieve personal and financial success.

Other great opportunity tune in to positive mood is taking a shower or bath. It's no secret that many of us sometimes even sing in the shower. So why not talk to yourself at this point about what a wonderful person you are? Why don't you hug yourself and say something nice? It should be noted that the technique of self-hypnosis allows a person not only to raise their spirits, but also to improve their own body. Address yourself with the words: "I have a unique mental ability. My brain is full of amazing ideas that can be easily implemented and bring success." No one will hear you - no one, except your subconscious mind, will know about this conversation. You will be able to keep everything said in secret. Take a look at your hair, run your hand over it and say: "What amazing hair! "Touch your face and say clearly:" My face is beautiful. "Believe me, after that you will leave the shower and wonderful mood and you will feel infinitely happy just from what you are in the world.

Does it really work?

Of course it works! Dr. Wayne Dyer, author of the bestselling book Live to Live, once told his colleagues at the university, "I will certainly become a famous writer." This statement made others laugh - this happened long before his first book was printed and published. To date, this talented man has sold over fifty-eight million copies of his books.

Stand in front of the mirror and say out loud: "I see, feel and believe in my success. I am moving in the right direction and doing everything to achieve my goal."

A great coach who strives to lead his team to success always calls his athletes champions - this technique is used all over the world. Why do these people turn to their wards only as "Hello, champion!" Are they all really champions already? Of course not. It's just that a good coach knows that on a subconscious level, a person performs tasks that are perceived by his subconscious. Outstanding coach Lou Holtz never spends more than two years transforming a losing team into a champion team.

Stand in front of the mirror and say loudly: "I am the winner and I am out of reach!"

Believe in your dream come true

The power of suggestion can not only change a person's perception and make him believe in himself, it also allows him to fulfill his dreams. Take Wayne Gretzky, who rose to fame as an outstanding athlete at the age of seventeen. He was faced with a choice - hockey or football. He liked to play hockey more.

However, when he wanted to start playing this sport professionally, he was told: "Young man, you weigh only sixty-nine kilograms - you are too light. The average weight of a hockey player is ninety kilograms. You cannot play - you will simply be trampled on the ice."

Stand in front of the mirror and say out loud, "I feel perfectly healthy!"

Gretzky said with confidence: "Since I am the lightest, then it will be easier for me than others to get to the puck."

He sincerely believed that he would achieve great success in sports - and Wayne Gretzky became a star, concluding multimillion-dollar contracts. Seven times in a row, he was named the best player in the NHL. Thanks to his unshakable faith in himself, he became a real champion, an unattainable winner in his favorite sport.

Help others to believe in themselves

Helping the other person believe in themselves increases their self-esteem and improves their mood. He, in turn, will certainly reciprocate you - thus, this simple technique will help you please not only others, but also yourself. In addition, it represents great way impact on others. However, remember that hypocrisy is irrelevant here - sincerity is the key to success. It should be noted that there are three types of compliments - admiration for physical perfection, admiration for mental abilities and, finally, admiration mental qualities person. Traditionally, compliments related to the first of these types serve as a way for the male half of the population to express sympathy female half... The second type of compliments, as a rule, is heard by the "great minds" of our world, that is, people who have achieved success in science or business at the expense of their mental abilities.

Agree that these types of compliments are not applicable to everyone. This is not surprising, because not all of us possess outstanding mind or eye-popping appeal. That is why the most common is the third type of compliments, which allows to mark the personal qualities, achievements and actions of a person.

We are all individuals, and each of us has our own character, which has certain qualities (for example, sincerity, courage, discipline, perseverance, sociability, loyalty, openness, sensitivity, and so on). Someone is distinguished by high moral and ethical principles, spirituality and honesty. Someone demonstrates courage, perseverance and courage. Someone is showing sincere love to children or animals. Every person has positive traits, emphasizing which you have an impact on his subconscious. This kind compliments is the most effective way expressing deep admiration for another person.

Did your friend get the job done successfully? Has the child learned to ride a bike? An acquaintance talks about his successes in alpine skiing? Praise everyone around you. Perhaps someone in this world is missing your approval and admiration right now. Help others to gain faith in themselves.

Compliment more often. Don't be afraid to say good, sincere, and kind words to people. Fill the lives of those around you with joy. Remember the "boomerang rule" - every thing you say kind word sooner or later, it will definitely come back to you, and perhaps it will happen at the moment when you most need it.

Stand in front of the mirror and say loudly: "I know that I do not live in vain, and I am happy!"

Results.

So, each of us can achieve outstanding results using the power of suggestion and visualization techniques, as well as formulating all our desires, goals and dreams in writing. The success and scale of our achievements depend only on us! What can we become? What can we convince ourselves of right now? We bring to your attention just a few examples:

"I am prosperous." "I'm happy". "I'm completely healthy." "I love, and my love is mutual." "I am handsome." "I'm cheerful." "Harmony reigns in my soul." "I'm rich". "I'm confident in myself."

"I am friendly towards others."

The formulation of a life credo, along with other techniques of personal transformation, which we talked about above, can completely change your attitude towards the most important person in your life -. to myself. You have the ability to tap into each of the eighteen billion brain cells and direct them joint work to make your dreams come true. Provided that the goal is clearly defined, the subconscious mind will help you change and become the person you have always dreamed of being. The process of personal transformation is invisible to the eye. It happens quickly and imperceptibly. It just happens one day.

Stand in front of the mirror and say loudly: "I wonderful person!"

Once you become familiar with the process of personal transformation and its basic conditions, you will have the opportunity to apply the knowledge gained in practice. You can do it with ease psychological exercise as often as you like.

Suppose in this moment you think you are missing external attractiveness and the ability to meet new people. Do you think that others dislike you? We offer you the following scheme of actions.

1. The process of personal transformation should begin with setting a specific goal. In this situation, your goal is to get love, recognition and support from others, or, perhaps, find your other half. After that, be sure to write down your goal on paper, while not forgetting that the wording should be as clear and understandable as possible.

2. Now visualize your goal using the seven steps we told you about in the previous chapter. Your main task is to see yourself as a new person. In your imagination, you can imagine anything you want! Perhaps you dream of seeing yourself in the role of your favorite actor or actress, or mentally being on a paradise island in your arms. loved one... In this new world, you are the soul of the company - everything is crazy about you. Moreover, you are surrounded by such a number of friends that you simply do not have enough time for everyone - everyone wants to talk to you. People look at you with admiration, ask questions and freeze in anticipation of your wise advice... For greater effect, we suggest that you increase the number of those present - let you have as many friends as possible.

Listen to words, voices, sounds. If you are on an island (for example, in Hawaii), listen to the measured roar of the ocean. Enjoy the atmosphere of fun, dance and music. Now imagine that all this is happening in reality, and not in your imagination. What do you feel? Let these delicious sensations fill every cell of your body. Isn't it beautiful?

3. Finally, it is time to formulate your life credo, which you will use as a suggestion. You can create a whole series short phrasesthat you will repeat every night before bed. For example: "I am outgoing and charming." "I am extremely sweet and interesting in communication with others." "I'm level-headed and self-confident." "I am always surrounded by people who enjoy my company." "My vital energy contagious. "

Repeat these phrases daily before bed for at least a month. Let them lull you to sleep, as if you were falling asleep under the gentle whisper of waves running on the shore. Over time, each of the suggested statements will take its place and will automatically sound in your mind, like the words of your favorite song or poem. They will all live within you.

Once you feel that this has happened, you can be sure that you are close to achieving your goal. Rest assured, the subconscious has already received the signal and is making every effort to help you become a new person. The ongoing personal transformation will be reflected in your every word and gesture - without noticing it, you will begin to evoke a positive reaction from those around you. People will see in you something that they have not noticed before, and you will feel that your dream has come true!

The power of suggestion is limitless. It was she who helped Muhammad Ali rise to the pinnacle of success and become the greatest boxer of all time. She has changed the lives of millions of people. This method is indeed extremely effective, and, most likely, Yoda was right in arguing that suggestion is greatest power in the Universe. This power is ready to help you at any time and touch your dream.

The question is often asked: why is it necessary to focus on the negative and not on the positive in therapy?
Many people who believe in the law of attraction (in fact simple level it can be explained as follows: what you focus on is aggravated), worried that repeating a "negative" reminder phrase will only exacerbate the problem. But the point is that negative thoughts, experiences, attitudes and symptoms exist whether you consciously refer to them or not, they still affect you. Denying their existence will not make them disappear. But if you take the time and accept them, bring them out into the light and convince yourself that they are not dangerous, you can get rid of them once and for all.
When weeds appear in your garden, there is no point in repeating, "I have no weeds, no weeds, no weeds." There is no point in pretending they are not there. It doesn't matter how much you concentrate on the beautiful plants that grow in your garden. The weeds aren't going anywhere until you pick them up.
Take the time to pull out the weeds to keep your garden filled with only beautiful, healthy plants. This is what happens to your psyche. When you get rid of the weeds of the past, you become healthy, full of life human.
Other important thingthat you need to know about is that it does not erase memory, does not erase emotions. We are working on them. This is very important detail... After elaboration, we are still learning from our experience. But if we just bury our past experience, we try to erase it without elaboration, it hardens and remains where it is.
Often, when we work through anger, it gradually turns into sadness. Then we work through the sadness, and a sense of loss arises. We work with this feeling, and in the end it can turn into gratitude for the experience and the lesson. When the anger goes away, more positive feelings emerge.

This is not a one-minute miracle, work!

It's amazing how quickly it delivers real, lasting results. It can take months and years of conventional therapy to get them.
The so-called one minute miracle happens when you least expect it. But this is not the norm. We all have deep emotional types behaviors that are very hard to break, and our brains resist change. Therefore, it often takes constant work to get radical changes.
For especially deep emotions - these are the deepest roots of yours - your work on the method can take an unexpected turn. If what you are trying to free yourself from, usually emotions, becomes stronger during therapy, rest assured that you are the right way... When you start to open up your emotions, a large number of repressed experiences comes to the surface. Don't give up: this is how your body tells you how much emotional energy has been collected around a specific problem. If you continue to work in the method, you will be free from it. The results you can achieve in these cases in minutes, hours or weeks can truly change your life.

Can you do it!

I know the method looks a little confusing and strange at first. But if you learn the points and understand the process, you can get quick results.

Show yourself enough love and take 15 minutes to try it right now. When you feel the result - perhaps a slight improvement or a real change - you will find the method worth exploring and appearing in your life.
And just imagine ... If this tool is really what others are saying about it, if you can feel the results that a lot of other people have experienced, what could your life be like?
How does it feel to get rid of the physical pain you are feeling?
How does it feel to let go of old wounds, trauma and sad stories?
What can you create, what to achieve, what to influence if you eventually free yourself from limiting attitudes - the baggage that pulls you back?
It all starts from the first steps -

To a large extent, awareness of our personality is not built on positive statements about who we are. By saying “I like sports” or “I believe Jesus is Lord,” we define who we are through positive affirmations. We are athletes or fans and Christians.

We have seen how God shows who He is and who He is not. Just as He outlines His personal boundaries with negative statements, so do we. By saying, "I hate injustice," I am declaring what I do not accept, and this is a very important statement. If I say, "I do not like science," I am making a statement as important as if I had said, "I love philosophy."

Many people are not in touch with the experience of their "not-self". The boy, who did not have any talent for medicine, did not state this very firmly to his parents - that the gift of Aesculapius was not part of his "I". He had to scream "I hate medicine" until someone heard him. But negative statements show up in different forms... Poor academic performance and complete failure in practice are the forms in which this boy's negative statements were manifested. Negative statements are reality. Just as we must accept responsibility for what lies within our personal boundaries, we must admit to ourselves what lies outside our boundaries.

An excellent example of a negative statement is found in the story Jesus told about two sons who worked for their father:

"One man had two sons; and he, coming up to the first, said: Son, go, work in my vineyard today. But he answered:" I do not want to, "and afterwards, repenting, he went. And he went up to another, he said the same. This one answered: "I am coming, sir," and did not go. Which of the two did the will of his father? They say to Him: First. Jesus saith to them: Truly I say to you that the tax collectors and harlots are going ahead of you into the Kingdom of God "(Matt. 21: 28-31).

The second son did not know who he really was. He didn’t want to work in the vineyard, but he couldn’t say, "I will not go." Thus, he had no contact with himself. The first, because he was able to say "no", was in contact with himself, and that was enough to later say "yes". People of this type know how to say "no", and then their "yes" means a lot. We have to be in touch with our no and control it, otherwise it will control us later. The second son did not own his no, and it took possession of it. "No" always manifests itself in some form or manner of behavior. In this case, "no" manifested itself in deliberate delay.

Some negative statements might be: “No, I don’t like performing in front of a large audience,” “No, I don’t like it when you tease me in front of other people,” “No, I won’t work for that pay,” “No, I do not allow swearing in my house "," No, I do not like cocaine "," No, I do not want you to touch me "," No, I do not agree with your opinion "," No, I do not like this movie, restaurant, etc.

By being in contact with our "not-self" experience, we can truly separate ourselves from the world around us. If we cannot say who we are not, we have no hope of sanctification, because we cannot hate evil and separate ourselves from it. People with fuzzy boundaries cannot reject what does not apply to them. If we cannot say what “not-me” is at the level of our body, feelings, attitudes, actions, thoughts, abilities, decisions, desires and boundaries, we will not be able to protect the soul from harmful influence... We will accept that which does not belong to our self; these may be good things, but they are not truly ours, and bad things that should not belong to anyone at all. In any case, it is not-me.

For Sandy, the “not-me” statement would be: “Mom, I love you, but I don’t want to spend Thanksgiving at home. I want to spend it with my friends.” If her mother was angry, Sandy might retort, "I'm sorry you're mad at me, but you'll have to come to terms with it. You will have to change your plans for Thanksgiving because I won't be coming."

It may sound harsh, but straightforward statements are necessary for people who like to control others without admitting responsibility for their own disappointments. In fact, this statement would have helped Sandy more than her mother. This would help her understand who is responsible for what. If her mother is so controlling that she blames her daughter for her grief, she still won't hear the truth.

It is extremely important to be able to make negative statements. We must be able to say what not-self is in order to find our self. What we like won't matter until we know what we don't like. Our yes doesn't matter if we never say no. The profession I have chosen will not bring pleasure if I think that “anyone can do it”. Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there is nothing to oppose them.

An internal dialogue is constantly taking place in our minds. We talk to ourselves about what is happening at the moment, what has happened in the past, and what may happen in the future. Internal dialogue affects our mood, perception and attitude in general.

But if the internal dialogue is negative, it can lead to undesirable consequencesbecause our thoughts and feelings influence our actions. First of all, determine the nature of your conversations with yourself. Then you can start building positive self-talk that will improve your life.

Let's say you find yourself in a traffic jam on your way to work. Is your first reaction to this anger? Something like, “Are you all crazy? Have you bought the rights? Look, what a fine fellow - he writes SMS while driving! ... Hey, you almost killed us all! Why does this happen all the time when I'm late? How it makes me angry! Again I will be late ... Hey, friend, do you, in general, know what a turn signal is?! ... "- and so on, until the blood begins to boil in my veins.

Negativity can feed itself. And with this mood you then go to work! You can be sure that others will pick up on your anger and irritation. This will affect the quality of your work and your productivity, because energetically and emotionally you are still in traffic and not at work ...

Here are some examples of how to replace negative thoughts with positive ones, with comments and options for correction:

1. “Perhaps I will not miss the event. I know I won't have fun there. "
   How can you know? After all, this event has not yet happened! Replace the phrase with “This is going to be fun,” and your mindset will change dramatically.
2. When you are praised for a job you have done, you say, "Oh, nothing."
   If you are praised, obviously your work is appreciated. So why don't you appreciate it yourself ?! Better just say, "Thank you!"
3. "I can never lose those last 5 kg!"
   When you focus on something, you materialize and attract it into your life. Change this negative statement to "My weight is ideal." And focus on what you want to attract into your life, not what you don’t want.
4. "This is unfair!"
   Life doesn't always fit your ideal idea of \u200b\u200bwhat it should be. Relax and accept it as it is. Change what you can change and accept what you cannot change.
5. "The main thing is victory"
   All-or-nothing thinking prevents you from enjoying the moment and living your life to the fullest.
6. "He annoys me!"
   Not. He does something that you prefer to react to with anger. No one can tell you how to feel or how to react!
7. "I am very angry!"
   Not. You are a person with negative emotions. You are not your senses. And you are not an evil person.
8. "I can't stand it if she leaves me!"
   Breaking up is hard, but you can get over it. What's more, breaking up can be good for you. Don't exaggerate the scale of the tragedy. Better imagine the ups and downs that could follow this temporary drop.
9. "I am unable to study well"
   Such generalizations are unhealthy. By making such statements, you are essentially limiting yourself! See your real and perceived shortcomings as opportunities for growth: "I am gaining skills in the field ..."
10. “Oh my God, the soup was too salty! The whole lunch is ruined! "
    Seriously? What about the rest of the dishes? Was the whole dinner a culinary disaster, or was it just a soup problem?
11. “I cannot have normal relationshipbecause I was abused as a child "
    You exaggerate the significance of the past. It was a long time ago. Yes, it affected you, but you are no longer in this situation, and healing the trauma of the past is a matter of your choice.
12. "The fact that my children are not doing well at school is completely my fault"
    No, it’s not like that. But what about their responsibility for their actions? As a parent, you must guide, discipline, and help your children acquire necessary skills, but the main responsibility for their academic success and any other activity lies with themselves.
13. "Nobody will ever love me"
    Never? Another false generalization directed against oneself!
14. "I'm so stupid!"
    Are you really stupid? Is always? Are you absolutely stupid in all walks of life? Of course not! Don't forget about your strengths! You might say, “It was unwise of me. Next time I will act differently! " Learn from mistakes!
15. "I wish I was as beautiful as ..."
    There is nothing wrong with admiring other people and adopting their positive qualities, but you are you. By comparing yourself to others in a negative context, you are belittling your true worth. After all, you are a unique, valuable and interesting person in your own way.

In some of these examples, you might recognize yourself. The problem is that such statements sound plausible and convincing, but in fact they only reflect the way in which you preferred to react to a given situation.

Be conscious and pay attention to negativity in your internal dialogue. Every time you notice a negative statement, question it. Where is the evidence that this is exactly the case? Is this always true? Remember: your words have incredible strength!

Eliminate these words from your vocabulary:

• Always: it never happens. Everything flows, everything changes!
• Never: it never happens! (see above)
• I can't: maybe not now, but if you want something, you will find a way to achieve it.
• I will not: the same principle is true for these words as for “I cannot”.
• But: an argument with which you can severely limit yourself!
• Try: Just do it! “Do or don’t. Don't try "(Master Yoda, Star Wars).
• Should: don't adjust to the expectations of other people or give negative connotations to what is actually good for you (instead of “I should lose weight,” say “I want to lose weight.” When you “want”, it gives more motivation than when you "should").

Use the Silva reprogramming exercises to change the negative "logic" inherent in your self-talk into new ways of thinking that empower you. Write down the negative statements that you are accustomed to using in speech, indicating the corresponding alternative statements. Replace negative statements with positive ones until the latter become a habit.

When you change the nature of your inner dialogue, you will change your life!