A popular scarecrow, which parents often use: "If you don't obey, we'll send you to an orphanage," has come true for a teenager from Rostov-on-Don.

Shoved into a boarding school

Recently, the court made an unprecedented decision - to deprive parents of parental rights on on their own... Mom and Dad, by the way, both with higher education and having three older children, explained their act by the fact that the son skipped school, did not study well, ran away from home, dragged money. And although the child begged to forgive him and take him home, the parents remained adamant. According to their father, they no longer want to be responsible for the boy's actions ...

But much more often parents, who feel that they cannot cope with raising their own child, come up with another option - to send him to the army.

Sergei V., having become a student of a prestigious law university, did not burden himself with his studies. Parents paid tuition fees, so the guy was sure that the diploma was already in his pocket. However, due to absenteeism and tails. To take up his mind, the guy was sent to serve in the army for a year.

Can other people's uncles and aunts give a teenager more than their own parents?

“A situation of powerlessness is normal in any human contact,” says Pyotr Dmitrievsky, psychologist at Moscow State University of Psychology and Education... - This is possible not only between parents and children, but also between spouses, an employee and an employer. At close range, people are intolerable. In such cases, the parents feel a strong desire to get rid of the problem faster. The easiest way at such a moment seems to them to attract an external force, for example, in the form of a militarized structure: "They will make a man out of you there!" Since he refuses to obey them, let him obey other people's uncles. Yes, there are guys who are suitable for training in the cadet corps, serving in the army.

If a child has an interest in paramilitary games, a strict structure, clear tasks, the desire to be in a team, he will probably be fine in army establishments. But I am totally against it as educational measures in the case when the interests and characteristics of the child are not taken into account. If the parents, even in the deepest despair, push the child into the army structure, to the boarding school, this deprives the teenager of an important experience - learning to negotiate with a loved one.

Of course, in a crisis situation, an emergency, a child should be able to act without reasoning, obeying his elders. But, if the situation is not catastrophic, such an upbringing system only hurts. If parents feel despair, you need to find the strength to seek help from specialists. "

It's hard to love

“Alienation is very cruel punishment, - sure Kirill Khlomov, Head of the Center for Work with Adolescents "Perekrestok", Moscow State University of Psychology and Education, candidate of psychological sciences. - I'm not even talking about sending a son or daughter to a boarding school. Let's take the most common option - a boycott. In fact, it makes no difference whether to hit the child or not talk to him for three days. He loses confidence that he can be accepted as he is. This instills in him a reciprocal cruelty. Plus, he ceases to feel safe, to feel the reliability of relations with his parents. No child, not even one who tells his parents that he hates them, is born with the idea of ​​harming his family.

A teenager can harm his family when his needs go unnoticed, when violence, punishment, and pressure from adults become intolerable. The easiest way is to punish a child for some kind of offense than to find the strength to calmly understand, hear him, see what his needs really are. It's not about accepting any behavior. We can love a person, but at the same time not accept his behavior. The most important thing is not to treat a teenager like a cattle, which must be taught with the carrot and stick method, but trying to try - yes, it is difficult! - to negotiate and not to deviate from the agreements. Upbringing is not about punishing and rewarding, but about creating conditions in which the child would like to develop. The most important of them is the feeling of a sense of safety and security in relations with parents. "

In life, unfortunately, there are situations when the parents themselves do not have the opportunity to take care of their own child properly. However, not all of them want to abandon it. Temporary placement of children in residential institutions can be of help to such parents. We will tell you how to place a child in a boarding school without deprivation of parental rights.

Many parents find it difficult to imagine how you can voluntarily hand over your own baby to an orphanage or boarding school. However, for some it can be a real salvation. This is true for those persons who, for reasons of a valid nature, in this period time cannot fully fulfill their parenting responsibilities... They are given the opportunity to ask for the placement of their children in organizations for orphans, children left without parental supervision.

They cannot be deprived of parental rights for this.

However, this will help protect the interests of the child himself, whom the state will temporarily take care of.

Regulated this question the provisions of Art. 155.1 Family Code(Investigative Committee of the Russian Federation), as well as Government Decree of May 24, 2014 No. 481. It is devoted to the organization of the placement of children left without parental care, v special institutions... The specified document spells out the procedure and conditions for placing such children in boarding schools and other similar institutions.

What is the order

If life circumstances force the child to be sent to a boarding school, then you need to know in what order this is done. Such issues are resolved by the local guardianship and guardianship authority (PLO). To register a child in a specialized institution, you need to write an application, attaching a number of documents to it.

In addition, if the child is already ten years old, then you need to ask his opinion on this matter.

Further, the PLO considers the submitted documents and makes its decision. If there are grounds for placement in a boarding school, then an agreement is concluded between the parent (s) of the PLO and the institution itself. In that tripartite agreement the following points are discussed:

• the period of the child's stay in the boarding school;
• the order of meetings with parents;
• responsibilities of parents and institution in relation to the child;
• measures of social, psychological and other assistance to this family;
• responsibility for non-compliance with the terms of the agreement.

Parents are expected to abide by the terms of this agreement. In such cases, the deprivation of parental rights does not occur. And after the period for which the agreement was concluded, the child can be taken back.

You can place your children in the care of state institutions for a period of three months to one year.

If, after its expiration, they did not return for the child, then the question of depriving them of their rights and placing the child in this institution for a further time is already being raised. If necessary, you can ask for an extension this period.

Required documents

In addition to the OOP statement itself, you will need to submit a whole package of various documentation. First of all, these are documents for the child himself. These include:

• birth certificate, passport (after 14 years);
• a medical record, a conclusion about his state of health, the results of examinations (analyzes);
• for children with disabilities ( disabilities) you need a separate conclusion of the medical (psychological and pedagogical) commission;
• for disabled people - a program for their rehabilitation (if any).

Parents will be required to provide documents proving their identity, as well as information about the child's close relatives. In addition, the OOP will conduct a survey of the child's living conditions. Additional papers may be required. This issue should be clarified in the PLO of your city.

Other ways to arrange a child

In difficult life circumstances, it is not necessary to hand over the child exactly in Orphanage... After all, this can be a serious test for him. You can consider other options that many simply do not think about.

Toddlers kindergarten age can be added to a group of five-day (overnight) stay. They function in many gardens today. There, your child can be taken care of at night. This option may be suitable for those who work in shifts or work late. In such groups, children do not need to be left overnight, just pick up after the usual six hours.

For older children, sports boarding schools or cadet schools are suitable. Of course, in order to get into them, you need to pass the selection, pass certain standards and exams. However, once they get there, they will be able to study, live and eat there for free.

In the meantime, parents will have time to solve existing problems. At the same time, the child will not think that his parents have left him.

Instructions

To begin with, soberly assess and carefully examine those things that you want to give to the orphanage. As a rule, the capital's orphanages have already stopped accepting used clothes from, since most often people carry very shabby and old, and sometimes unwashed things... Therefore, if you have collected a bag with normal clothes, which you would gladly and not be ashamed to give to your sister, your child, and they would wear it with no less pleasure, then you are halfway to the title of a worthy benefactor. Children will be very happy with a good and modern clothes... In children houses willingly accept sportswear and quality shoes.

All clothing should be clean, well washed, dry, preferably ironed. Inspect for torn items, with diverging seams, musty, and stains that cannot be washed. Clothes should not be stretched, with fluffy edges. Badly flawed things, even if they were once very expensive and beautiful, it is better to throw it away. If you are at a loss as to which clothes should be left and which should not, consult with the administration of the orphanage or, in extreme cases, when transferring things, warn them that you have not sorted them.

If you are going to transfer to an orphanage household appliances, books or something else, also inspect everything for external and hidden defects: are there missing pages in books, are electronics working, etc. Better if the transmitted things will have the original packaging and instructions for use.

Transfer everything you have collected to any social center. The addresses of the centers in Moscow can be found on the website: http://fadm.gov.ru/regionmain/region77/suborg/cspsid.php or http://www.dsmp.mos.ru/institutions-of-department/... Regional centers addresses social assistance children can be found at the reception of your city administration.

Orphans in hospitals are also in dire need of ordinary, but quality things and items such as personal care products, soap, Toothpaste, powder, creams, dusts, baby oils, shampoos, diapers. These hygiene products should not be printed. And, of course, sick babies are doubly pleased to receive new toy, book, coloring book, etc. To assist hospitals, contact the reception Federal Service for supervision in the field of health care in your city or directly in medical institution, which deals with the treatment of orphans.

If you want to provide targeted assistance to a specific orphanage, you can take things independently, but in work time and having previously warned the administration about your arrival. Another option is to send things by post by ordinary parcel. Addresses and telephones for children in Moscow: http://www.allo499.ru/tel/allomsk/16/631/.

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• clothes orphanage

Barely closing wardrobes, clogged balcony and garage, overflowing shelves - all this sure sign that it's time to arrange the analysis of old things. But what to do with the resulting mountains unnecessary clothes?

Instructions

Discard unnecessary

Take a close look at old things. Some of them may be overly worn out. Torn, full of holes, moth-eaten is not needed not only by you, but by anyone in general. Feel free to send it to the trash. The rest of the things can still serve someone, and sometimes bring profit.

Advertise

City newspapers often have headings for advertisements from individuals. If you decide to sell clothes, this is the place for you. Briefly describe the item, size, color and name your price. The downside is that you have to leave yours for communication and meet with potential buyers who do not always make the planned deal.

Drop off clothes at nursing homes / nursing homes / comprehensive social service centers

This option is suitable for those who are ready to old things free of charge. Many children's institutions need help (there are few exceptions, most of which are Moscow orphanages). Call orphanages in your area or region and find out if they need clothes, check the size. Usually such institutions do not refuse help. There are two ways to convey things. Send the parcel from the post office or deliver them yourself. If the second option is convenient for you, do not be lazy and ask your friends if someone else will want to help the children. Addresses and can be found on the Internet, for example, at http://www.detskiedomiki.ru/">http://www.detskiedomiki.ru.

Talk to . There are many where you can give / sell unnecessary things

For example, the blogging site http://www.livejournal.com/http://www.livejournal.com has a special section "Give it for free", where you can find and give away absolutely any thing or object.

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Respect the people you donate clothes to. Do not be lazy to wash, or even better to iron things. Check out little things like missing buttons.

From time to time, a lot of unnecessary things accumulate on the shelves of cabinets. Among them may be souvenirs, read uninteresting books or unsuitable clothes bought in a hurry. Most of these items are unlikely to be used someday, so it's best to get rid of them as soon as possible.

What are the best things to throw away

Unnecessary more clothes and shoes can always be attached somewhere. However, it is better to just throw torn and heavily worn things into the trash bin, since it will be extremely difficult to please even the poorest person with such products. However, it is better to throw them away wrapped in a bag, because there are many people who have to look for their clothes in the trash cans. So your battered jacket or torn boots may still be useful to someone else.

You also need to throw away the used underwear even if it is in good condition, since it is not accepted to sell or give away such things.

Where can old things be

All other things are better still to give to other people, since today there are a lot of needy or just poor adults and children who will be happy unexpected gift... It will take you quite a bit of time, but you can do a good deed.

Children's and teenage clothes, unnecessary souvenirs, shoes, as well as toys and books are best given to boarding schools, baby homes and orphanages. Even in the largest cities, these institutions sometimes lack basic things, not to mention an extra pair beautiful boots... There you can also attach furniture you no longer need, an old, but working TV or computer.

Things for adults can be taken to the temple - right at the entrance there are often advertisements for those who need something. If there is no such announcement, you can simply give the box with the things to the employees, who will distribute your clothes and shoes to the poor parishioners. Many churches also send things to orphanages and pre-trial detention centers. Old things can be attributed to various charity organisations that help those in need.

Before giving old clothes, be sure to wash it, iron it and fold it neatly.

Torn books and magazines can be returned to waste paper collection points. A fiction and modern journalism in good condition is best taken to a home for the elderly or disabled, because people living there often really need interesting book or a magazine. Books can also be added to libraries.

To give away old furniture or interior items, place an ad about it on free sites on the Internet: avito.ru, otdamdarom.ru and others. And in order to help you to put things in order at home appeared faster, take a picture of the items that you are offering as a gift. Thanks to this method, you can get rid of many things in a matter of days, because there are a lot of people in need today. In addition, many old furniture today it is used by designers to create interesting interiors. And they are looking for such furniture at flea markets or on the Internet.

Tip 4: Orphanage - a shelter for abandoned children or a prison?

Children deprived of their parents are usually branded with an orphanage. This means that in society such people are looked at with pity and apprehension, not believing that they can really achieve something in life. No joke - according to statistics, about 40% (!) Of graduates of orphanages in Russia embark on a criminal path. On the other hand, everyone knows some orphanages in which they try to surround babies with almost maternal affection and care.

Mom, what am I going to do?

There can be a great many reasons why a child ends up in an orphanage. For some, their parents died, for the majority, they were deprived of parental rights for or cruel treatment, some were simply abandoned. The task of the state with which it copes with varying degrees success is the constant support, socialization and upbringing of these children.

Children's homes, like kindergartens and schools, can be different. Some of them really resemble a prison - it already depends on the teaching staff. For the most part, nannies, educators, teachers of orphanages really do their best to give these children love and affection, but if a human heart can easily accommodate 30, 50, 100 children, then there is simply not enough time for everyone. And for this reason, raising children turns into a conveyor belt.

Psychologists say that any child abandoned by their parents, no matter how small they are, is a victim of severe psychological trauma that cannot be healed.

It turns out like this: up to 4 years old, the baby is in the Baby House, where he already has friends, where he gets used to the nannies and educators. Then he is transferred to an orphanage - and he has to get to know the children again, get used to the local order and the new teaching staff. Often after that, at the age of 7, the child enters a boarding school, where an additional division into older and junior classes... Of course, any child goes through approximately the same stages of socialization, but the fact is that after kindergarten, school, college, he comes home to his mother in the evening. And these children have nowhere to go - and every time they young age you have to start all over again. But that's just one problem.

Mom, how will I live?

Another is that children from orphanages live in a confined space. In this regard, the truth is similar to a prison - there are their own laws, there is a special life, and then, when the guys grow up and end up in " Big world", They simply do not know how they should behave. In addition, according to the law, orphanage workers have no right to force children to work, including, say, helping in the kitchen. And then the graduate orphanage having received his lawful apartment, he will not know how to clean it and himself lunch. Few will know how to make a living. Hence the huge percentage of criminals.

10% of graduates of orphanages receive higher education and find a worthy place in life.

That is why in all institutions where children without parents are brought up, it is believed that a child is always better in a family - native, foster, foster - than in an orphanage. The orphanage is not a prison. But he never makes anyone happy either.

A baby house is an institution where children from 0 to 4 years old are brought up. It is financed from the state budget, therefore, children often do not have enough funds even for the most necessary, but all possible help can be provided.

There are people who care about orphans. Children living in the baby house are especially in need of help. Anyone can provide it, you just need to set a goal, and there are many ways to do this.

Regular visits

To help the baby's home, you can contact the senior educator or manager by phone and find out what the institution urgently needs. Its employees will happily dictate a list of what the kids need. After that, you can go to the store and purchase items and things from the list at your discretion. If possible, you should help regularly. For example, once a month to take things there, medicines, toys, personal hygiene items. But you can provide help from time to time, they will also be very grateful for it. So, for example, you can buy gifts for children for the holidays, arrange tea parties for them with contests and prizes. The best thing, of course, is to find like-minded people, dump every month and buy something for the little ones. As a result, such a contribution will not make a hole in the family budget, but the help will be more tangible.

Volunteer movements

Not everyone can help the baby's house financially, but if there is free time and desire, then you can join volunteer movements and go to work in this institution on a free basis. Of course, no one forces you to spend the whole day there, you can agree to do a certain job, spending only a few hours on it. You can also negotiate with the manager yourself. However, babysitting the babies will not be allowed, since for this you will need to have a sanitary book, a health certificate, and medical education... But you can, for example, clean rooms, wash clothes, wash dishes. Such help will also be welcome, and if possible, it should be offered. If there is Teacher Education, then you can conduct classes with educational games, contests and tasks.

Remittance

When there is no time to travel to the baby's home, then you can help this institution financially. In this case, you will need to find out the current account of the baby's home in your city and transfer a certain amount of money to it. To make the help more tangible, you can create a group in the popular social network... Its members will be discounted as much as they can, and the owner of the community will subsequently transfer the funds raised to the account of the baby's home.

Not all families are able to fully support their children, giving them everything they need for their existence and complex development. At the same time, they have a desire to preserve parental rights. The only viable option in this case would be the temporary placement of children in a boarding school. But before performing this procedure, it is imperative that you familiarize yourself with its features.

Boarding system

Within the territory of Russian Federation is functioning great amount boarding schools where you can send your children. Before deciding on such a step, you need to think about whether it is really worth doing it. Indeed, in some cases, the transfer of a son or daughter for a long period can provoke Negative consequences in the form of deprivation of parental rights. And no one guarantees that they can be restored in the future.

The domestic boarding system allows you to transfer children to certain time to a closed boarding school. True, before sending a child to a boarding school without deprivation of parental rights, it is strongly recommended to read about your own rights and obligations.

Reasons for the need for placement in a boarding school

There are many reasons why parents decide to place their own children in a boarding school.

1. Lack of sufficient material support for the full support of the whole family.
2. The constant occurrence of problems on a psychological basis.
3. Transfer to a boarding school as one of the methods of punishment for very serious misconduct - for example, for stealing money from family budget, very poor academic performance and constant absenteeism, alcohol abuse (when children are influenced by bad companies).

Before transferring your child to a boarding school, you must remember that his consent will not be required if the age does not exceed ten years. If you have turned exactly 10 years old, from that moment on, the employees of the guardianship and guardianship authorities must definitely clarify his opinion. If he refuses, the requirements of the parents will automatically be considered canceled. Accordingly, it will be possible to send the little man to a boarding school subject to the simultaneous deprivation of parental rights.

Period of stay

When a toddler enters territory children's boarding school, parents must agree on the timing of its location. In accordance with the requirements of domestic legislation, it is established by general agreement parents and the head of the institution. The issue of determining the period of stay in the boarding school can also be agreed by its legal representatives.

After the term is agreed orally, the agreement is confirmed in writing. For this, a corresponding order of the director is drawn up. Groups of stay (residence), as a rule, are on the territory of the boarding school for five days. During this time, they will regularly receive five meals a day. Pupils primary grades as well as children with mental disorders, physical abnormalities, are always sent for a nap.

How to send a child to a boarding school without deprivation of parental rights

Many people ask the following question - is it possible to place a child in a boarding school without losing parental rights. In fact, such a possibility is indeed allowed. In total, the procedure is as follows.

1. holding individual conversation with the baby, his psychological preparation for the upcoming events;
2. contacting specialized state bodies;
3. collection of all necessary documents;
4. transfer of the collected package of papers for verification;
5. obtaining a decision;
6. individual consultation with the director of the boarding school to agree on general and additional conditions.

Where to go

There are two institutions that you will have to visit in mandatory- This is a representative office of the guardianship and trusteeship body in your city and a boarding school. To register your son or daughter in an institution, you must first write an application and attach to it Required documents... They will be considered first by representatives of the PLO.

If they are convinced of the advisability of placing their children in a boarding school, then the parents should go to its director. All conditions are agreed upon in a tripartite manner - between the parents, the director and the staff of the PLO. The result of the negotiations is the drafting of a tripartite agreement.

The following points are indicated here:

• length of stay;
• the order in which parents will meet with their children;
• responsibilities of the institution and parents;
• the peculiarities of providing psychological, social and other assistance to the family in case of such a need;
• measures of responsibility for failure to comply with the requirements specified in the agreement.

Required documents

In addition to the application to the representative office of the guardianship and trusteeship body, additional documents for registration of a child in a boarding school. This list includes the following:

• birth certificate (if age exceeds 14 - passport);
• medical card with complete list test results confirming the absence acute problems with health;
• separate opinion from employees medical commission in case the baby or teenager suffers from mental and physical disabilities;
• rehabilitation program for the disabled (if any).

Psychological trauma and other consequences

Remember that transferring a child to a boarding school can result in serious psychological consequences... Children are very attached to their parents, regardless of how the latter treat them. That's why long separation can negatively affect their state of mind.

On the other hand, adolescents in need of reeducation simply have to go through this step. The accumulated experience will allow them to understand what can happen if they do not change something in their lives. Therefore, before going to a boarding school, be sure to weigh the pros and cons of such a decision.

Other ways to arrange a child

For parents or legal representatives, the boarding school is not the only way out of the situation. Exists alternative ways devices. For example, babies can be accommodated in groups for a five-day night stay if, due to their age, they go to kindergarten... You don't have to worry about taking care of every baby.

Older children can be offered cadet schools or a sports boarding school. Naturally, to get there, you will have to pass the selection, passing exams and standards. On the other hand, it provides good nutrition, tuition and accommodation without any payment.

Legislative regulation

The procedure for regulating this issue is explained in detail in:

• Art. 155.1 of the Family Code (SK RF) "Arrangement of children left without parental care in an organization for orphans and children left without parental care";
• Government Decree No. 481 of May 24, 2014 "On the activities of organizations for orphans and children left without parental care, and on the placement of children without parental care in them."

Children are the meaning of the life of many parents, their pride, joy, heirs family values and surnames. Therefore, there must be some serious life situations so that mom, dad and other relatives can refuse the baby. It is even difficult to imagine what could happen in a family for parents to start figuring out whether it is possible to send a child to an orphanage.

The legislation does not prohibit this action, because with the parents, the child can live in unbearable conditions. Moreover, it may become a decision of the guardianship authorities. This article will discuss whether it is possible to send a child to an orphanage, how to do this, what documents are needed.

Reasons for abandoning children

If mother and father have addictions(alcohol or drug addiction), and are also able to raise a hand on their child, then in this case, the orphanage for the child becomes salvation. From such families, the children are taken away by the guardianship authorities.

Parents for whom alcohol and drugs are most important do not think about how to send their child to an orphanage. Why should they think about it, if they rarely remember their children?

What are the reasons prompting prosperous families to abandon children? There are no such parents who, by all criteria, would be ideal. Children are often unhappy with their ancestors, because they constantly tell them what to do, how to live correctly. Parents are also often unhappy with the behavior own child that becomes unbearable.

But in most cases, all the quarrels between fathers and children end happily, the family remains the same, no one has any thoughts to look for an answer to the question of how to send a child to an orphanage.

They can abandon their own child due to serious conflicts (parents divorced, everyone decided to live for themselves, and the baby became an obstacle in personal happiness).

Society often condemns such adults, but this is wrong, because real reasons people do not know such an act. Very often the child is left with the mother, who is unable to support him. Therefore, for the good of the baby (so that he is well-fed, shod, dressed), she decides to send him to an orphanage.

In the event of a serious illness of the parents or one of them, close relatives (aunts, uncles, grandmothers, grandfathers) are not always ready to shelter the child. So that he does not see how the people most dear to him die, he is sent to an orphanage.

If in a prosperous family an accident has occurred, in connection with which the adults are no longer alive, then the guardianship authorities assign the children to an orphanage.

Parents leave to work

It also happens that a mother, who is raising a child alone, has made a decision to go to work, but she cannot take the baby with her. Then she thinks about how to place the child in an orphanage for a while. However, this does not happen, because the orphanage is not a toy, but a serious state institution that completely takes over the maintenance and upbringing of the child.

You can send your child to a boarding school for the time of earnings (watch, unsettled life, and so on), where they will look after him around the clock while the parents solve their financial problems.

Back to the orphanage

Very often a situation arises when they take them from the orphanage and then return them back. Needless to say about psychological trauma which is inflicted on children by similar behavior of adults. Therefore, you need to think a hundred times and weigh everything, and only then take a new member into your family.

Can the child be returned to the orphanage? Children are usually adopted by those couples who cannot or do not want to have their own. Taking a baby from a shelter, it is impossible to know what character traits he inherited from his blood parents. In addition, the child may develop a psychological illness that is initially impossible to notice. Responsible people trying to correct negative behavior adopted child, who in fact has already become a family, to treat all his diseases. The unconscious are taking him back to the orphanage.

If the spouses already have children of their own, then adopted child can negatively affect them or use physical violence against them. In this case, the health of the blood child turns out to be more expensive, and the adopted son or daughter is sent back to the orphanage. It also happens that native children scoff at the adopted one, because they consider him a stranger.

Of course, if you have any problems with adopted child parents are obliged to find their solution: to conduct conversations, try to make peace with their children, seek help from specialists. There are many useful recommendations concerning the establishment of a normal healthy atmosphere in a family with adopted children. Before adoption, potential parents should study them and clearly understand whether they can become truly relatives to someone else's baby. Then you don't have to figure out how to send your child to an orphanage.

Lack of understanding as a reason for abandoning a child

Not all parents have the skills and experience to cope with whims and bad behavior own children. Why the child began to behave in an inappropriate way, it is impossible to answer unequivocally, since there can be a lot of reasons. But the main one is the loss of the parents' authority. Many dads and moms in similar situations begin to wonder how to place a child in an orphanage for educational purposes.

Usually aggressive behavior starts at adolescence... The child becomes uncontrollable: runs away from home, skips school, comes in bruises, is rude and snarls, may start stealing valuables or selling something from his own. Sometimes threats from such a child can pour towards the ancestors. Some parents do not think that they made a mistake in upbringing when their child was still very young, do not look for other ways to fix the situation. They see the only way out in one thing - to shift responsibility for their offspring onto the shoulders of others (in in this case state).

Under such circumstances, the parents have an alternative - to send the child not to an orphanage, but to a boarding school for re-education. They will be able to take him home for holidays or holidays, support with their child close connection while specialists will deal with it.

Documents for registration of a child in an orphanage

Parents should clearly understand that it is possible to send a child to an orphanage only if parental rights are deprived. If the baby has both a mother and a father, they must both abandon him. If such a baby has other relatives, whose age and state of health does not prevent them from obtaining guardianship, but they do not want to do this, then the child is recognized as an orphan. The state takes care of it.

Regardless of the age of the child, he is a full citizen of the country in which he lives. Therefore, when registering it in orphanage you must provide a package of documents.

To know full list necessary papers it is possible in the guardianship and trusteeship authorities at the place of residence. They will also be able to answer any questions that arise regarding the abandonment procedure.

The registration takes some time, because the parent's decision alone is not enough. You will also need the approval of local authorities and state organizations, as well as a court decision on deprivation of parental rights. The main documents that will be needed in this case:

1. Child's passport, if he already has one. In case of absence, a birth certificate will do.
2. If there is none of the above documents, then a medical certificate, which should indicate the age of the child, the state of his health.
3. Conclusion on living conditions baby if taken from a dysfunctional family.
4. If children school age, then you must provide a certificate of education.
5. Information about the parents or one of them, if the other is missing.
6. which belongs to the child personally.

Other documents may be required. It all depends on the specific case.

We send to an orphanage without return

How to send a child to an orphanage forever? If the parents cannot provide their own child with everything necessary, then the staff of the orphanage will take care of this. In this case, the baby will stay there forever or until the moment of adoption by other people.

Adults who have placed their children in an orphanage can ask for an opportunity to see them if the child agrees. However, this is permissible only until the moment when the baby is not adopted by other people. In this case, all meetings with him will be prohibited. Actually blood parents lose it forever.

This is a big difference from placing a child in a boarding school. At the same time, the father and mother are not deprived of parental rights, and no one has the right to adopt the baby.

In the orphanage, the child is fully protected by the state. material support... The child cannot stay in this institution forever, because he will soon reach adulthood. Matured children can work and provide for themselves, as well as think about creating their own family.

The procedure for putting a baby in a boarding school

When a decision is made to send children to a boarding school for their own good, then you need to know what will have to be done for this. To register a child, you will need to write an application to the relevant authorities and provide them with a package of documents.

In the event that the children have reached the age of more than 10 years, then it is necessary to ask their opinion on this matter. Final decision on registration of a child in a boarding school, it is accepted by the guardianship authorities. If there is good reason then a written agreement is concluded between the PLO, the parents and the boarding school.

V this document the following data must be indicated:

1. How long will the child stay in the institution.
2. The possibility of visits and their order.
3. Duties of the parties.
4. Which psychological support needed by the child or parents.
5. Responsibility of the parties.

If the adults do not violate the agreement, then the child will be able to return to the family. This method can be used to correct the behavior of children, as well as in the event that it becomes necessary to send the child to a boarding school for a while.

To the orphanage for a while

This is also theoretically possible, but this procedure incredibly difficult. How to send a child to an orphanage for prophylaxis for a while?

As mentioned above, a formal child abandonment will be required. When a decision is made on this issue, in fact, the parents of the baby are no longer such. They can visit him, give him toys and things, buy sweets and so on. But at any moment there may be people who want to take this child into their family.

Blood parents in this situation will not be able to do anything. If it so happened that nobody liked their baby, and they themselves have already solved all their questions, they can take the child back from the orphanage, but only after their parental rights are restored.

This procedure is even more complicated than refusal. Parents will be required to provide information about their financial situation, living conditions, health status, psychological atmosphere in the family, and so on.

How to place a 12-year-old child in an orphanage?

Boarding schools and orphanages accept only minor children (under 18). Therefore 12- year old child you can take it. In this case, the opinion of the child himself will be taken into account. It is important to note that the shelter accepts children from any age. Babies, as a rule, are assigned to the baby's home, where they live up to 3 years. Then they are transferred to an orphanage. As a rule, schoolchildren are admitted to boarding schools.

How to send your child to an orphanage in Russia?

In the Russian Federation, children who are left without parents or without their support can get into an orphanage. Children who have been abandoned by their guardians and close relatives are also accepted. The admission of the child is carried out by decision of the guardianship authorities. To hand over children to such an institution in Russia, the following procedure is provided:

1. An application must be written to register the child in an orphanage.
2. A document on deprivation of parental rights.
3. Copies of children's birth certificates and passport (for 14-year-olds) are provided.
4. Copies of personal documents of parents or guardians.
5. Information about the children and their relatives.
6. Act on the housing conditions where the child was.
7. Help about psychological state baby.
8. Rehabilitation program (for disabled children).

The decision on admitting a child to a state institution is issued after examining the current situation, the documents provided and the conclusion of the guardianship authorities.

How is this issue resolved in Belarus?

How to send a child to an orphanage in Belarus? Reception is carried out on the basis of the following data:

1. Registration is carried out based on the direction medical organizations in which there were children in need of constant help and having physical abnormalities.
2. By decision of the guardianship authorities or the juvenile committee.
3. At the request of the parents or guardians of a disabled child to provide him medical care.
4. In the direction of the guardianship authorities related to the deprivation of parental rights of spouses.
5. Children from dysfunctional families living in poor conditions.
6. A child who has lost both parents, abandoned by relatives.

Conclusion

It is worth remembering that the decision to place children in an orphanage must be deliberate and made by both parents. It is better for a baby to live in a prosperous family. If the child cannot fully develop with his parents, he does not receive enough food, warmth and care, it is better for him to live in an orphanage.